Hi doctor, I am a 29-year-old male, working in IT firm. From my childhood, I am very soft and gentle. When I was 12, I fell in love with a girl. But, she changed schools. So, when I was 15, I started having sex with boys. After she left, I felt love towards boys and was sexually attracted to boys. I do not feel anything even if I see a girl in nude. I used to masturbate twice a week, by thinking about males. If I see a girl's nude picture I am not feeling anything. I am not a smoker or drinker. So, I think I am gay, but I do not want to be a gay. I want a straight man's life. I wanna be a manly man. I should feel sexually attracted to girls. Help me take a good path in life.
Hello. I completely understand that you feel concerned about your altered sexual preferences. It is generally due to past negative experiences in life as you mentioned about the early sexual interactions with the same gender partners. Since your first early interactions were with the same gender, it usually becomes a habit or the sexual preference/ orientation. Are you currently engaged in homosexual activities? It becomes difficult to alter your sexual preference if you are engaged in sexual activities with the same sex. Since you are highly motivated to make changes in your sexual preferences, it is the first step towards betterment. Intentionally involve yourself in activities which would help you find interest in opposite gender. For example, Intentionally avoid sexual interaction with the same gender so that your sexual needs find satisfaction with the opposite gender. You may feel disturbed as you do it. Learn to deal with your emotions and state of mind. Suggest positive affirmations for you at the time of disturbance such as I am doing it because I want a straight man's life, I choose to be sexually attracted towards girls, and I like to be a heterosexual (opposite sex) partner. These are instances from what you have already mentioned. Find more positive affirmations for you which will help you become what you want. Make these affirmations a routine in your self-talk. Practicing it daily will gradually make it automatic in your mind, and your brain will start working on the way you want it to be. I hope this is helpful for you. Best Regards. For more information consult a psychologist counsellor online -->