hi doctor, at times I get to lose my temper and starts shouting at my boy friend he irritates me a lot. I get frustrated about this. I get anger to the extreme and could not control myself from it. it looses my peace. how can I control my anger.
Hi Surya, It depends on where you are in terms of the professional help you can get. Doing yoga may help you to calm yourself so that you are not so sensitive/emotional to events that are disturbing you (like your friend's affecting you) Mindfulness sessions help by changing the way you think/react emotionally to events/people/relations/happenings in the world. Anger management or Aggression control courses help you to change your behaviour in many ways for ex channelling your emotions constructively etc CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy) can help you by making you think about your thoughts, feelings, actions an their interrelationships Hobbies like music or physical exercises like cycling help you feel happy in yourselves there by diverting your anger Breathing techniques help you by stopping you from acting on the intensse surge of emotion/anger that you feel when faced with events, thus stopping you from "behaving" or acting on emotions at their height and giving you time to think clearly. Try and choose depending on what helps you or what is available. Good Luck