Hi doctor, I have lots of stress and I want to curtail my stress. I got married and lived happily. After four months of love life, I got pregnant. Since that day my mother-in-law changed her behavior with me as well as due to family members instruction my husband started giving space to me. He started watching porn clips at the night time. I almost felt like suffocation to spend my whole day in all household work and the rest of my time in temple with my mother-in-law as per her wish. One day in frustration he told me that he is neither interested in me nor my baby. His words hurt me a lot. But, still I tried to convince myself. But within a few days, when his mother told me that I have to get up early in the morning at 5 to wash the clothes; I did not cooperate. Then, my husband told me that I have to find the solution and they were unable to cope with me. I felt like no one is thinking about my pregnancy as well as my health. So, I decided to go to my parent’s home and left my husband without any information.When I reached my home, I realized that my mother is unwell. Within just two or three days when we visited a doctor we came to know that it was cancer. I was unable to discuss my feelings with her. Meanwhile my husband and mother-in-law tried a lot for my come back. But, I never gave response to them, not even a phone call. After one month, we met a cancer specialist and he told us he could only pray about results as it was third stage. We were in huge tension. My husband came there and told me to come back. However, the next day after a long phone conversation he said either come back or give divorce. This hurt me a lot as I was 5 months pregnant. Then, till my delivery no one from my husband’s family contacted me. I gave birth to a baby boy, but due to some complications doctor made it a Cesarean operation. Immediately they shifted my baby to NICU. I was not able to breastfeed him, but sent my milk to him for five days. On the seventh day he got serious as he had suffocation problem and done ECG. Then I informed the issue to my husband, but unfortunately we lost our baby the same day. Since that day he messaged me to come back, but I was not in a state to reply. Nearly after seven months, I met and got to know he too frustrated, weak and thought he is also suffering from emotional turmoil. Since that day I am trying to convince him for reunion, but he is denying.Then we met in court for mutual divorce. As he did not clarify the reason for divorce we were advised to meet counselor. Counselor said we have only communication problem and suffering from baby’s thoughts. Due to my mom’s health, I did not meet him again. Sadly, I lost my mom before six months. Now, I came to know that my mother-in-law too passed away before five months. Now, his father asked me for divorce as he wishes to see his son’s second marriage, but my husband denied this. I want to continue this relationship as I love my husband. He always submits me the same answer that whenever he sees me he remembers all the painful memories and so he is unable to live with me. Recently, he said that he does not wish to have our baby back and do not want any relationship with me. Since that day I am suffering a lot through emotional turmoil. I am missing my baby, my mother and my husband. It is very hard for me to handle my mood swing. I never had any quarrel with my in-laws or with husband. Though I am facing this situation and it hurts. Today, I am suffering so much and I had some milk like nipple discharge. Please guide me.
Hi. I am really sorry for what happened in your life. I sympathize with you. But at the same time, I also feel you do not want my sympathies. Sympathy is easy to give, but seldom solves the problem. You were in such turmoil. You faced problems with your husband, at his home, mother, child, bereavement, etc., within a short span. Even the most courageous person will not be able to solve these issues, but here you are. In spite of all those turmoil, standing tall. I bow my head. For further information consult a psychiatrist online -->