Hello doctor, I am married it has been one and a half year of my marriage. It was an arranged marriage, so we took the time to understand each other before making love we took five months, and we did not do it. But after five months period, he tried for one year and could not make it. He can only ejaculate for some seconds. Is this because after marriage we took five months and so he is not able to make it now?
Hello. It is not because of the five-month gap. He might be suffering from premature ejaculation disorder. Why did you wait for five months? Does your husband have any bad previous sexual experience? If he had a failed sexual intercourse, he will try to avoid it, because he thinks it is going to be a failure again. And he woulod be afraid of getting humiliated infront of you. So he thinks it is better not to have sex. On management part, first try to relax him, and make him understand that you love him even without sex. Now start working on a treatment. 1. SSRI (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor) antidepressants and Clomipramine. 2. Anesthetic spray on glans penis before sex (only a few studies support it). 3. Weak pelvic floor muscles sometimes contribute to it. Kegel exercises may help strengthen them. Wear a condom as it may desensitize him. Some men find that masturbating a few hours before sex helps them stay in control during intercourse.