Hello doctor, I am a 57-year-old male. Happily married since the last 26 years to a very loving and caring lady. We have an equally loving daughter. We are a religious family, well settled, financially, socially and professionally, and by the grace of God, have no significant issues in life. My wife and I enjoy normal sexual activity, with the usual ups and downs, due to age and mood. I can confidently say that I am a one women man, and till date have not had any extra marital encounters. I am heterosexual and do not have any sexual deviations. Personality wise, I am an introvert and have a minor speech defect. I am well respected at my workplace, where I interact with female coworkers. I do occasionally indulge in sexually explicit clips, which I receive on social media, but I am not overly obsessed with them. However, lately, I have noticed a propensity towards sexual (mis)adventures, outside marriage, which is a cause of concern for my wife, who is also aware of this and we are very upset. I am very much aware and realize the devastating effect this can have on my life, and especially on my family, which I treasure more than anything in this world. Hence I am taking all possible measures to understand and counter this urge. My question is, whether this is progressive? Is this a manifestation of male menopause? I also feel, that, being an introvert, I have this huge desire to become an extrovert, and hence end up doing something illogical. I gave smoking three years ago, do not drink. But sometimes I drink, because, I feel, it helps me become an extrovert. In your expert opinion, what remedial measures should I take to control these urges? And do I need medications, to help me control these urges?
Hello. I can understand your concern about your symptoms. It is not the male menopause, you are suffering from boredom (the state of feeling bored). you have everything in you. Everything seems normal in your life. You should have had your hard hassle in your earlier life, now your brain is in need of adventure in life. Two things you need to do. 1. You need an adventure in life, take a trip, soul searching, yoga, meditation, fulfill your mental craving. 2. The other option is sexing up your life. Talk to your partner about your feeling. There are like other things in life two people can do rather than just normal sex. You can try role-playing, introduce sex toys, try different sex position, try difficult sex position, and so on. I Hope I have answered your query. If you have further doubts, I would be happy to help you.