Hello doctor, I am in love with a girl who alredy got married four years back. She was in my relation, so, we have some common realtives and nowadays we are meeting frequenty and I am feeling the same thing about her in my heart which was there 4 years back.
Hi, Welocme to icliniq.com.  First of all, we need to understand that this not something which is is unusual. We all come across with past experiences and associate with them on certain occasions. If those past experiences were pleasurable one that there is innate wish to re-experience them and same is applicable for you. It can be said that this is normal to have fantasy to love and loved by someone who was very close to you. However, we need to keep track of society and changes that took place over the last four years. Since she is married it will be completely wrong for her to get associated with you in any romantic relationship. Since you love her, there is a good chance you will not push her in trouble. In case you push her in some different way that too create problems for her as well as you. At this stage it is important to do following.  1. Minimise the interaction with her through common friends and relatives. If possible avoid meeting her completely.  2. Engage yourself with productive work. Do not allow your brain to wander here and there.  3. Get married or in relationship if still single. This is most important part as other romantic relationship will distract you to the core needs of life and will also allow you to understand her situation.  4. Acknowledge that this is common emotion and you will try your level best to overcome it.  5. Discuss with your best friends about the situation and moral dilemmas, if possible.