Hello doctor, I know it is too common a topic for you all, but I am not able to come out of this. I was in love with a girl very sincerely and deeply and she cheated on me. Being a boy, I cannot cry or breakdown in public or in front of anyone, but in the end, I am a human being. It has been two years, but I cannot recover from it. I have kept myself away from drug abuse completely but I need calmness in my life. I feel depressed and cannot accept the fact that she cheated on me. Please help me.
Hello. Firstly, it may be common for all of us to listen to such issues what you are going through, but each one of us can realize the pain only when we personally face such a situation. The fact that the girl cheated on you, does not make you responsible for her betrayal. You as an individual, did all possible things to maintain a pure relationship. So, it is her loss in the end. Also, I usually suggest not to try and stop thoughts about her. People might say 'stop thinking about her'. But, I will not suggest the same. Instead, let us follow a simple technique called 'Time Out'. Whenever you decide, during your day, spend a specific amount of time thinking about your memories with her. But, it has to be timed. Let us say, for 20 minutes. Then, keep a timer and when the alarm rings, stop there. Remember, it is hard to fight yourself, but surely it is not impossible. You will require at least a week, to master this time out technique. Some additional questions: If you answer me, I shall be able to help you out more. Have a great blessed life ahead. Take care. For further queries consult a psychiatrist online -->