 Hedren gave Spoto an account of the director as a sexual predator for his 1983 book , The Dark Side of a Genius ( 1983 ) . Spoto wrote that Hitchcock made " an overt sexual proposition that she could neither ignore nor answer casually . " Hedren alleged in Spoto 's 2009 book , Spellbound by Beauty : Alfred Hitchcock and His Leading Ladies , that Hitchcock actually asked her to " make myself sexually available and accessible to him – however and whenever and wherever he wanted . " Spoto was the first person Hedren told her story to . She said : " It was embarrassing and insulting — there were a lot of reasons why I didn ’ t want to tell the story . I didn ’ t want it to be taken advantage of , twisted , turned and made into an even uglier situation than it was . It wasn ’ t until years later that I told Donald the story . ( ... ) He is absolutely true and honest in this book . " She previously said , in 1973 , while Hitchcock was still alive , that a major life @-@ style difference caused a split in their relationship . " He was too possessive and too demanding . I cannot be possessed by anyone . But , then , that 's my own <unk> . " 
