 Manson later explained , " It 's not , as you might think , to do with being gay , but tolerance . My granny has the expression ' Or 's queer , except thee and me , and sometimes even thee 's queer ' , that is that you think you are normal and the rest of the world is freaky , but we 're all equally to blame " . Garbage did not write the song to particularly appeal to the gay community , however Erikson stated : " As musicians , we 're totally open to [ the song 's gay appeal ] . There 's been enough exposure to gay issues in the mainstream media that people are finally ready to deal with it . Even if it 's something controversial , people are still beginning to open up " . Erikson added : " The song isn 't about sex at all , it 's about the loss of innocence " . 
