 Eric and Leslie Ludy met when Eric was 21 and Leslie was 16 . They pursued a friendship for several months before starting to court , and married in December 1994 , the same month that Eric turned 24 . In When God Writes Your Love Story , the Ludys advise single people not to be physically or emotionally intimate with others , but to wait for the life partner that God has planned for them ; the Ludys suggest that one should marry this person rather than independently choosing a mate . Also focusing on premarital physical and emotional purity , the authors do not discuss the physical processes of sexual activity . Like many other Christian books about premarital romantic relationships , the Ludys ' book explicitly does not present a set of rules to follow or a strategy for romantic success , but rather gives readers a framework for pursuing Christian romantic relationships ; the book is intended to be a tool in the creation of the reader 's unique romantic relationship rather than as a blueprint explaining what all Christian romantic relationships are supposed to look like . 
