 The song is basically about a group of women 's strict " no sex " rule similar to a part of the film 's plot where Lilly ( played by Beyoncé ) does not want to start a sexual relationship with her boyfriend Darrin played by ( Cuba Gooding Jr . ) right away . However , in the film she assures him that they might start one in the near future but in the song , the women do not specify when they will be ready . 
