 Kesha was inspired to write the song after continual rejection from the protagonist in the song , Stephen , who refused to call the singer . She told MTV " I wrote [ it ] about this guy that I 've been stalking since I was , like , 15 , but he 's a total loser , so I don 't want to glorify him in any way , but I 'm really excited for the song . " In February 2010 , after the release of the song , Stephen attended one of the singer 's concerts . Speaking to Total Access on 96.4FM The Wave , the singer recalled the experience saying " he came to see my show at this huge gay bar in New York and it was totally off the chain . He gets up on stage , takes all his clothes off except his underwear and starts making out with a tranny . I was like , ' Wait a minute , have I been barking up the wrong genre of tree ? ' " 
