 Sotomayor said of the years following her divorce , that " I have found it difficult to maintain a relationship while I 've pursued my career . " She has talked of herself as " emotionally withdrawn " and lacking " genuine happiness " when living by herself ; after becoming a judge , she said she would not date lawyers . In 1997 , she was engaged to New York construction contractor Peter White , but the relationship had ended by 2000 . 
