 Although Bird asserts that before her marriage , Ella knew nothing of Grainger 's sado @-@ masochistic interests , in a letter dated 23 April 1928 ( four months before the wedding ) Grainger writes to her : " As far as my taste goes , blows [ with the whip ] are most thrilling on breasts , bottom , inner thighs , sexparts " . He later adds , " I shall thoroly thoroly [ sic ] understand if you cannot in any way see yr way to follow up this hot wish of mine " . The couple were married on 9 August 1928 at the Hollywood Bowl , at the end of a concert which , in honour of the bride , had included the first performance of Grainger 's bridal song " To a Nordic Princess " . 
