 In January 1994 , Farrar asked Green for a divorce . Although she believed Farrar was having affairs outside the marriage , she later claimed to have been taken by surprise by his desire to end the marriage and responded to his asking for a divorce explosively , shouting and throwing things . Farrar moved out of the family home , though the two remained in contact and informally shared custody of the children . With the pressure of living together removed , they attempted reconciliation , and decided that a larger house would ease some of the disorganization that had affected their marriage . In May , after four months of separation , they put in a bid on a six @-@ bedroom home in Prairie Village , Kansas , but backed out before the sale went through . Farrar later said that he had " backed down " in the face of his ongoing worries about the state of his marriage and the couple 's debt load . 
