Well, Why do you feel you don't have the capacity to put yoursell in another person's position?
Empathy and in general understanding others is very difficult, but it is a muscle that has to be worked to get better
The Inner critic in me is very intense. I understand. But do you have a some self-compassion? This is when you extend compassion to yourself when you perceive failure, for exemple I try, but i just can't control myself most of the time. I see, this extended compassion can also happen in moments of perceived general suffering or failure also. So that you know. My lack of sympathy is my biggest problem. I can only imagine. Speaking of sympathy, did you know that it comes from Greek words? "Syn" means together and "pathos" means feeling I did know that. I feel like I don't have empathy as well
Empathy is the capacity to understand or feel what another person is experiencing from within the other person's frame of reference, i.e., the capacity to place oneself in another's position.