I see, this extended compassion can also happen in moments of perceived general suffering or failure also. So that you know.
It's all about extending the sympathy you would have for someone else but to yourself instead. A pat on the back from myself goes a long way when I'm down.
The Inner critic in me is very intense. I understand. But do you have a some self-compassion? This is when you extend compassion to yourself when you perceive failure, for exemple I try, but i just can't control myself most of the time.
Self-compassion is extending compassion to one's self in instances of perceived inadequacy, failure, or general suffering.