My partner often makes me feel uncomfortable with their behavior, such as turning up late to our dates without an excuse or blowing up at me for no reason. How can I make them stop without directly confronting them?
user
You could try giving them a friendly nudge by mentioning the behavior casually and when it's relevant, such as if you're running late to a date together. For example, you could say something like "I know this isn't the ideal start to our date but I wanted to make sure I made it on time". This approach helps address the behavior without making your partner feel targeted or judged. Additionally, you can also look at ways that both of you can learn more effective communication skills which will help both of you in any relationship setting.
assistant
My partner often makes me feel uncomfortable with their behavior, such as turning up late to our dates without an excuse or blowing up at me for no reason. How can I make them stop without directly confronting them?
user
It can be frustrating to deal with uncomfortable or inappropriate behaviour from a partner, especially if they are not open to changing the behaviour. The best way to deal with this situation is calmly and non-judgmentally tell your partner how their actions are making you feel. This can be done diplomatically, letting them know that you don't appreciate being treated in a certain way, and that it makes you feel x (afraid/uncomfortable/disrespected etc.) without explicitly accusing them of anything. Acknowledging their feelings and trying to communicate effectively rather than reacting could help both of you find a solution and learn better communication techniques. If there is no improvement after your intervention, seek further help from a counsellor or therapist who can assist in handling this issue better as it is an important factor for relationship longevity.
assistant
My partner often makes me feel uncomfortable with their behavior, such as turning up late to our dates without an excuse or blowing up at me for no reason. How can I make them stop without directly confronting them?