I m in a relationship from 2 years...my partner is abusive...he blames me for small things...worst part is I love him too much..thats why I keep ending calling and taking him back..for some moments he is like an angel but for rest he hurt me so badly...also we have been physical up to a limit..i feel physically exploited too...please help me...hence i m having suicidal thoughts...help me please...
Hi and thanks for the query, It might be necessary to make a few persons intervene. First you might need to identify the situations under which he blames you about. This could help you avoid them. Learning ti know him and avoid these circumstances could be very useful. Getting close to his friends and family members to whom he is too close to could be very useful. They could be an intermediary, but you need to manage this with tact not to make him feel his family secrets are exposed. Suggesting a vacation and may be understanding whether he is under some stress or not. You might just learn to under react under certain circumstances. These could make him actually change. Thanks and hope this helps. Luchuo, MD.