Im 34 and dating a 51 year old man.  We began the relationship with vigorous sexual activity which at the time he informed me was not the norm.  Weve been dating now for 6 months and instead of 4x were down to 1 or if Im lucky 2x.  Everytime I ask about the decrease in activity he always explains that its not me but I cant help but wonder.  He is completely healthy and worksout 5x a week for 2 hours.  He also plays raquestball on a regular basis.  I dont want to push if its a health thing but if not  . . .
Hi, Thanks for writing in. His refractory period might be slightly longer and also the fact that he is in his 50s. The refractory period refers to that duration of time between ejaculations at orgasm. In the early 20s it is around 2 - 5 minutes and this leads to ejaculation at every intercourse withing minutes. The same refractory period is 15 - 30 minutes in the late 20s. At 30s it is 2 - 3 hours, at 40s this becomes 3 - 4 hours and at 50s it is 10 - 12 hours. In the elderly it can be 12 - 24 hours. Please communicate to him in the best way so that both of you can have a healthy relationship.