My 10-y-o son was masturbating (or exploring...I did not ask specifics) with shampoo and Vaseline Total Moisture Conditioning lotion (which has a long list of ingredients including petroleum, sunflower seed oil, and a bunch of ingredients of which I am unfamiliar. I was concerned since I was told to use only water-based lubricants so I bought him a Rite Aid water -based lubricating liquid. Was this the right thing to do? Is the hand lotion bad for him to use? My ex-husband and son s therapist are giving me grief about it. But my son was spending inordinate amounts of time in the bathroom and the hand lotion and shampoos were disappearing more quickly than normal.
Hello! Welcome to Chat Doctor !  Instead of imagining things first communicate with the child. Make it a regular habit to sit with him and share days things and others with him. Let him know how to keep his genitals clean and Chat Doctor.  Let him understand that It's ok to speak with you about anything. He is growing, so changes will occur, and it seems you are alone to handle the situation. At this age they receive a lot, mostly crap from friends. To top it all, internet is there. Unless you try and keep communication open, he may not be willing to ask for help. Also, he might be thinking this is men thing, and you are not aware of this. You have to be patient. Be around to help. Don't be too controlling or lenient. Take care