my 12 year old daughter kept me awake untill 1oclock this morning by saying she was not tired, she eventually fell asleep, i woke her at 6.30 this morning for school,she said she wasnt going ,i asked her why and she said because i dont want to ,when i threatened to phone the school she started to scream and shout and punch herself in the head about 6 times so bad she had lumps on her head ,she has done this before and on one occasion blacked her eye,she also said she dosent care about anything and said she wanted to kill herself,what can i do ,
Hi Janine west, Forum, I can understand as a parent how u must be feeling after going through history written by you. There can be chances that1)She might be having school phobia - where she might be afraid of going to school, might have anxiety after going to school - so there is avoidance behavior. If forced to go to school she might become aggressive.(this possibility can be there if such behavior is persistent only related to going to school)2) Another possibility that of personality problem (can only label after a8 yr age completion) which can be manifested by stubborn, threatening,attention seeking behavior, demanding,head banging behavior.(happening not only for time of going to school but also other time. ) Both kind of problem can be treated by medication and child-parent psychotherapy. This will help to improve her academic performance and if personality problem then improve as person being-build her life in positive manner. So first take her toward general practitioner for Lump on head treatment. Then take her to the nearest good psychiatrist who can assess in person and definitely help to resolve this problem. Hope it helps. Best regards.