Hello, my friend is in an abusive relationship and i am afraid i do not have enough information to help her! She believes she is the problem and she just needs to try harder and it is all her fault. She also believes that she is ment for a relationship with obvious abuse and she feels she is over reacting. Is there something i can have her read or any other resources i could use to help show her what i dont have to words to do?
Hello and welcome to Chat Doctor. Thanks for your query. I appreciate your concern for your friend. Some people can have dependent personality traits which could be making it difficult to stand up for themselves, and so, have a tendency to keep accepting and tolerating abuse in a relationship.  Sometimes, a chronic depression (dysthymia) can also result in negative thoughts and low self-esteem. I think that your friend needs professional help.  I would advise you to take her to a psychiatrist or a psychologist for a detailed psychological assessment and further management. There are effective counselling and psychological techniques which can help her overcome her difficulties. Wish you all the best.