Doctor I am engaged to a man that gets no errection after all he had 2 major back operations before.  He told me about not getting any errection at all when we started dating and I thought then it is fine and that it is not important.  But as I am now in my 40s I realise that I have this sexual desire and it is getting more.  I do not want it to be a problem for us as I love him very much.  But for me this desire is sometimes getting out of hand(control)  And I do not want to loose him.  What can I do to help him?  As he will not go to a doctor to speak about it?
Hi thanks for contacting Chat Doctor.... You can give advice to your partner to consult surgeon for that... There are lots of medication also available. His case needs to be investigated with detail examination and accordingly investigation... He might have lower spinal cord injury operation as by history . So problem in erection... Also rule out diabetes, hypertension and obesity that can lead ED. Smoking and alcohol habit also a lead erectile dysfunction... Advise him also not to take stress For erection dysfunction sildenafil like Chat Doctor. . Self injection of alprostadil delivered through pellet option also there. Healthy diet taken. More fruits... Regular exercise.Foreplay done more. With keeping my answer in mind consult psychiatrist.