My dear friend has 4th stage cancer of the liver, bone, and lung, and she is very afraid, and as I am a believer in God and she is not, she is not happy to have a relationship with me at this point.  I do not think she will be able to beat the disease that is spreading, but I love her very much.  What can I do that is realistic and kind as well as loving?
Hi, Thanks for writing in. Cancer is a difficult condition to treat if it is in later stages. Your friend unfortunately has stage 4 cancer, and it has spread to liver, bone and lung. Fear is a natural response in any person who is fighting cancer and under physical pain and mental stress. It is difficult to put oneself in her shoes and not to be afraid of the course of disease and pain. You can silently make a stronger bond with her and make her forget the disease and preoccupy her mind with other thoughts. Right now she requires love and care apart from pain relief. Please accept her emotional disagreements and try and do something which will make her feel valued and happy. Even in late disease she can have a survival of up to two years. Please follow up with her doctors regularly. Please do not worry.