What exacty ts detachment? For example, I Am a 46yr old mother of 3 adult children. My kids no longer live at home, they all are married, have their own families, life,and are doing wonderful. I am a very proud mother. Ok, I have had the same counselor for four and a half years. I just recently started opening up to her about past events. Horrible things. I have never talked about myself in our sessions until a couple weeks ago. One reason of many, she says I totally detach myself from everything. Although, I have no idea that I am doing that. So, could you explain that type of detachment to me?
Hi, In your case your counselor probably means it as a type of mental assertiveness that allows you to maintain your boundaries and psychic integrity especially when you are faced with emotional dilemmas or demands of persons close to you. You may have trouble experiencing emotions or expressing them. It is quite a loosely used term. The other meaning is a defense mechanism that is called blocking or repression where the person tends to remove an anxiety provoking idea or thought from the conscious mind in order to avoid handling it. This is known or believed to cause neurotic illnesses if used often. Hope this helps, Chat Doctor.  Ran