Ask HN: How to Have a Good Marriage?
My parents got divorced and both were horrible human beings. I (M) am in my twenties now and thinking about starting a family. I&#x27;d also like to have kids.<p>Possibility of divorce didn&#x27;t bother me much because I am much better than my parents and won&#x27;t make the same mistakes, but recently I discovered a few youtube channels where people (mostly male) talk about the divorce and how tough it is. How hard they tried to keep their family and then connection with their children, but because the kids are with their ex during the divorce, they sooner or later lose all connections.<p>This was tough to watch, but not as tough as reading the comments. I found exactly zero happy-ending stories, even though I&#x27;ve been reading through them for a couple of days. I only found one success story for a man, but in that case the wife was mentally ill and it took him many years to get the primary child custody.<p>I am full of fear that I will be a part of those people. Divorce rate for people with divorced parents is notably higher (15%, AFAIK) than those who had non-divorced parents, so it doesn&#x27;t help me either.<p>How do you keep your family? How do you start a healthy family? Is being honest, supportive and ready to solve arised problems with your partner not enough? If you have something to share, please do. I am sure many people will be interested to know. Thanks!