Ask HN: How do you turn off your problem solving brain with people you love?
This evening I a flaming argument with my father. The context isn’t totally relevant, but the jist is that he has a medical condition and was having a very bad time at the “default” pharmacy the doctors use.<p>As engineers we like to solve problems. After hearing him talking to this I naturally slipped into problem solving mode and tried to offer advice - the simple solution being to just change the pharmacy that his medicine is delivered to.<p>This didn’t go down well and I initially put this down to his personality. But after some reflection this is also to do with my problem solving instinct kicking in when it wasn’t really required.<p>I want to help the people I love, and if that person is struggling then I want to try and find a solution they might not be able to see. This isn’t always what they want, but I struggle with not trying to help them in some way.<p>Does anyone else struggle with this?