I Resent My Cofounder
I've written and deleted this post more than once, and I've worked very hard to not be judgmental and make invalid assumptions, but today I just couldn't stop writing, and I think it's finally time to sit on the therapy couch that is HN.<p>I've been working with my co-founder for a number of years. We're great friends, and we have a lot in common. We both have passion for what we do and for our road ahead. I don't think I'd be where I am today without her, but at the same time, I'm starting to see we're not the same people we used to be.<p>I put in around 60-70 hours/week on our startup. She puts in maybe 60-70% of that.<p>I obsess over it 24/7. She seems content to let me do that.<p>When we have new ideas, they are always mine. There are many times I've thought about holding them back in order to build them on my own. That alone tells me I need to do something about it.<p>I have to constantly pull, nag, and guilt my cf into putting in more time and effort, and it's wearing me down. I don't like being a bitch. At our current pace it will take years of this pace in order to achieve our goals. I don't have years to drag someone along, and my family is already tired of watching it happen.<p>My gut says I need to increase my salary and reduce hers, cutting back equity at the same time. Maybe even find someone else to bring on that can contribute equal to the cuts I make. But I'm worried that it would damage our relationship to a point of no coming back.<p>I feel like this startup is my best chance for making it, and I absolutely refuse to let it go in order to move on. So the question is, do I just deal with the resentment and be grateful for what I have, make some sort of monetary change, or fire them all together and rebuild the team?<p>Surely this resentment will boil into something even more negative, and I want to act before it gets to that point.