Ask HN: How should an old guy with a messed up life go about righting the ship?
All my problems are of my own making. I&#x27;m in my mid-30s and by way of background:<p>* Teenage father, married the mother as a teen, two kids in total<p>* Jail a few times, never finished school<p>* Saving grace: technology -&gt; went from making $50K to $300K in my own tech consulting biz by mid 20s<p>* Could not imagine being married to this person forever so I filed for divorce after business went south and she was completely not supportive<p>* Jail (again) - apparently common during divorce and easy to do because I had a history.<p>* Business never recovered as things moved on and I was fighting a criminal case and a divorce case. Totally wiped me out financially.<p>* Finally found a great job 3 years after divorce... self sabotaged my way out of that one<p>* Had the kids full-time, now they both hate me. I don&#x27;t blame them, they had no choice.<p>* 5 years later, still going to court for family law issues. This is exhausting.<p>* No real support system: at my parent&#x27;s home for 2 weeks and my father has tried to get my car towed. They have asked me to leave by the end of the month.<p>I can&#x27;t see where to go next. I&#x27;m completely clueless about the latest technologies and I&#x27;m trying to remember exactly what gave me the impetus to earn $300K in my mid-20s without any education. It was a mixture of &quot;fake it till you make it&quot;, energy and curiosity. I still have the curiosity and energy. But I have grey hair now. I receive great feedback from tech phone screens, online testing but as soon as I go into a job interview, I can see the reaction: this guy is too old and will never be able to learn. I&#x27;ve almost literally been told this. I&#x27;m also not in great shape and I&#x27;m very sure this is a large factor.<p>So here is my plan:<p><pre><code>  * Get my own place
  * Fix the things that can be fixed (teeth, weight)
  * Accept the fact that I will be going to family court for the rest of my life
  * Get into therapy
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Anyone else ever come back from a situation like this?