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It's a good news/bad news situation for parents of young kids.The good news? Everyone wants to spend time with the kids! Grandparents, aunts and uncles, friends. They all want a relationship and lots of special moments with the little ones.The bad news? One phrase: "When are you bringing them over?"Parents have been frustrated by the expectations of orchestrating stressful visits for generations — loading the kids in a car or on an airplane only to spend hours chasing them around in an un-baby-proofed environment and watching routines go to hell.Now they're sounding off on social media and airing their grievances.Why visiting grandparents and other relatives is so challenging for parentsA mom recently took to Reddit to vent about everyone in her life wanting her to "bring the kids to them.""My parents live 30 mins away and always bug me about not coming to visit them," she writes. They constantly ask, "Why don't you bring our granddaughter to come see us?"The fascinating discussion highlights a few things that make arranging visits with young kids a potential nightmare for parents.Grandparents' houses are rarely childproofedGrandparents love their breakable decor! Ceramic doo-dads, glass vases everywhere. They can't get enough. And while they should be able to decorate their house however they see fit (they've earned the right!) that doesn't make it a good environment for toddlers and babies.The breakable decor found in every grandparents' houseozalee.fr/Flickr"Last week was the last straw, I took my daughter to my parents and of course she went EVERYWHERE! flooded their toilet, broke a vase, and tried multiple times to climb their furniture," the Reddit mom writes.Parents in a foreign environment are on constant safety duty and can rarely sit downLet's be honest. Sometimes these "visits" are hardly worth the effort. After all, it's hard to get much catch up time when you're dutifully chasing your kid around."They don’t understand that my 3 yo ... is absolutely wild," writes another user in the thread. "She has no self preservation and nothing we do works. She doesn’t listen, she throws, she bites, she refuses to use the potty. It’s exhausting and then ... they expect us to entertain them, when I’m trying to just keep my kid from jumping off the stairs and into an ER visit."Even just putting the kids in the car for a 20-minute drive is more work than it seemsTaking the kids out of the house requires packing a bag, bringing extra clothes, loading up on snacks, etc.It seems easy to "pop over" but it actually absorbs the majority of the day between prep, visit, and aftermath.Naps and routines go to hellParents with babies and toddlers know all too well — there is a price to pay for taking the kids out of the house for too long.Chances are, the baby won't nap in a strange environment and then you're stuck with a cranky kid the rest of the night.Kids with special needs require even more consistencyKids with autism or ADHD can really struggle outside of their zone of safety. They might become severely dysregulated, have meltdowns, or engage in dangerous behaviors.Explaining and mediating the generational divide
            Photo by Tim Kilby on UnsplashWhy is this a conflict almost all parents can relate to?Is this a Boomer vs Millennials thing?Some experts think that generational values and traditions might play a role."Many Boomers were accustomed to more traditional, hierarchical family dynamics, where visiting grandparents was a way for the younger generation to show respect," says Caitlin Slavens, a family psychologist.But that's not to say this is a new problem. I can remember my own parents driving me and my brothers over an hour to visit my grandparents seemingly every other weekend, but very few occasions where they came to visit us. It must have driven my parents nuts back then!Plus, it's easy to forget that it's hard for older people to travel, too. They may have their own issues and discomforts when it comes to being away from their home."But for today’s parents, balancing careers, kids’ routines, and the demands of modern parenting is a much bigger undertaking. Grandparents might not always see how childproofing their space or making the trip themselves could make a huge difference, especially considering how travel and disruption can impact younger kids' moods and routines," Slavens says. "So yes, this divide often comes down to different expectations and life experiences, with older generations potentially not seeing the daily demands modern families face."Is there any hope for parents and grandparents coming to a better understanding, or a compromise?"First, open conversations help bridge the divide—explain how much of a difference it makes when the kids stay in a familiar space, especially when they’re very young," suggests Slavens."Share practical details about the challenges, like childproofing concerns or travel expenses, to help grandparents see it from a parent’s perspective. You might even work together to figure out solutions, like making adjustments to create a more child-friendly space in their home or agreeing on a shared travel plan."Ultimately, it's a good thing when grandparents, friends, and other relatives want to see the kids. We all have the same goal."It’s helpful to approach the topic with empathy, focusing on everyone’s goal: more quality time together that’s enjoyable and low-stress for everyone involved. For parents, it’s about setting boundaries that work, and for grandparents, it’s about recognizing that flexibility can really show the parents that you are ... willing to make adjustments for their children and grandchildren."Enjoyable, low-stress quality time — that's something everyone can get behind.From Your Site ArticlesAdults surprising their grandparents with sleepovers is the most wholesome trend of 2024 ›Grandparents should absolutely spoil their grandkids, but with a few important boundaries ›Mom claims the biggest 'parenting flex' is having grandparents who are 'voluntarily involved' ›