<story><title>Divorce does funny things</title><url>https://www.theparisreview.org/blog/2021/11/09/divorce-does-funny-things/</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>vecinu</author><text>As a recently (&amp;lt;1 month) divorced man without kids, I have to admit it really shakes you to your core. Especially after being more than a decade with a person you thought you could trust and go to the grave with, to have them end it all in 1 week because &amp;quot;I no longer have feelings for you&amp;quot; is devastating on many levels.&lt;p&gt;Obviously therapy is a good first resource and then working on yourself going forward is a good strategy but man, I can totally understand how some men are obliterated when children are involved and the other spouse is out for blood. I consider myself lucky that it happened before I got too old, had children and who knows what other things could have happened but damn, it still hurts.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>toyg</author><text>4 years ago last month, for me. In some ways it gets better - you don&amp;#x27;t have to answer to anybody but yourself, again. In others, it doesn&amp;#x27;t - society now sees you a bit differently, and will continue to do so until you somehow get back &amp;quot;on the rails&amp;quot; with a new partner.&lt;p&gt;&lt;i&gt;&amp;gt; I can totally understand how some men are obliterated when children are involved and the other spouse is out for blood&lt;/i&gt;&lt;p&gt;Happened to a friend of mine and I thank my lucky star every day that we kept things civil. Men in particular have a lot to lose.</text></comment>
<story><title>Divorce does funny things</title><url>https://www.theparisreview.org/blog/2021/11/09/divorce-does-funny-things/</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>vecinu</author><text>As a recently (&amp;lt;1 month) divorced man without kids, I have to admit it really shakes you to your core. Especially after being more than a decade with a person you thought you could trust and go to the grave with, to have them end it all in 1 week because &amp;quot;I no longer have feelings for you&amp;quot; is devastating on many levels.&lt;p&gt;Obviously therapy is a good first resource and then working on yourself going forward is a good strategy but man, I can totally understand how some men are obliterated when children are involved and the other spouse is out for blood. I consider myself lucky that it happened before I got too old, had children and who knows what other things could have happened but damn, it still hurts.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>3pt14159</author><text>I&amp;#x27;m so sorry that that happened to you. I hope you&amp;#x27;ve got a solid support system of friends and family around you.</text></comment>