[Suzanne Malveaux, Cnn Anchor:] In South Africa, Oscar Pistorius' family says he's going to hold a private memorial service today for his girlfriend, Reeva Steenkamp.
[Michael Holmes, Cnn Anchor:] Yes. Pistorius, of course, is free on bail on murder charges after he shot and killed Steenkamp at his home. He has, of course, been arguing he thought she was an intruder.
[Malveaux:] In South Africa, the murder charges against him for the shooting death of his girlfriend, it is not the first such case. Actually, Nic Robertson reports there was a tragedy back in 2004 that is very similar to this shooting.
[Holmes:] Yes, it brought back some horrible memories for a prominent South African sportsman and his family.
[Frieda Visagie, Shooting Victim's Mother:] That is when the evening before
[Nic Robertson, Cnn Correspondent:] That's the last picture you have?
[F. Visagie:] The last picture.
[Robertson:] Marley was 19. Just out of high school. Her mother Frieda, so proud.
[F. Visagie:] She was pretty. Even
[Robertson:] Oh, she's beautiful. She's beautiful.
[F. Visagie:] Even she's my daughter but she was pretty.
[Robertson:] Frieda and her husband, Rudi Visagie, a former international rugby star, remember every detail of the night in 2004.
[F. Visagie:] Sunday morning, 23rd of May, about 5:00 in the morning, a sound, a noise woke me up.
[Robertson:] Frieda thought Marley's car was being stolen and woke Rudy.
[Rudi Visagie, Shooting Victim's Father:] I jumped up and I saw it. And I took out the pistol.
[Robertson:] Rudy was afraid. Two of their neighbors had been killed the week before. He broke the bedroom window and shot at the thief.
[F. Visagie:] I heard Rudy growling. And I wondered, what's happening now? And then he told me, but it's Marley in the car.
[Robertson:] In that instant, their lives changed forever.
[R. Visagie:] So that that one shot out of a million, went right went right through the door, penetrated my daughter through the neck. And she was actually dead on the site.
[Robertson:] Visagie was not prosecuted. The court decided he had suffered enough, saying we feel he has learned a hard lesson and the courts cannot achieve more than that.
[F. Visagie:] I wish she could be with me. And I see daughters with their little children. You know, I wish I had these little children.
[Robertson:] And they feel the pain of Oscar Pistorius, "the blade runner," who shot and killed his glamour model girlfriend, Reeva Steenkamp, he says fearing a thief was in his house.
[R. Visagie:] Nic, I can tell him, I feel with you.
[F. Visagie:] I couldn't forgive myself because I woke Rudi up. So I can sort of feel what he feels. Why did I do this? What if, you know, all those questions that goes through his head.
[Robertson:] Today, both say their faith in God saved them. That Marley's death was part of God's plan.
[Unidentified Male:] Women are being abused. Women are being raped. People are being oppressed.
[Robertson:] At their evangelical church, they've become leaders, often sent all over the country to counsel trauma victims.
[R. Visagie:] I just want to encourage him to say, listen, there's a lot of people praying for you and know they feel for you for what you're going through now.
[Robertson:] Both say, if he calls, they are ready to help. Nic Robertson, CNN, Nelstrate, South Africa.