When meeting or dating new people, one should look out for these 14 common red flags:

Isolation: They only want to be with you, and while that might sound flattering, they also encourage you to cut ties with friends and family.

Smothering: They constantly put you or others down, even if they mistakenly believe they’re just kidding.

All work all the time: Their job takes precedence over your time together, and they don’t hesitate to cancel dates or leave you early to attend to what’s more important to them.

Affection-Taking: They withhold affection or punish you by withholding affection.

Selfish: The plans you make with them only involve what they want to do, and they always get their way.

Avoiding: There are important subjects that they refuse to discuss.

All-consuming: They say they love you right away, and even if you’re not there yet, it only matters that you satisfy their needs.

Ever-changing: You’re never good enough, and they’re always trying to change you.

Rudeness: They are dismissive or mean to your closest friends and family.

Snooping: They check your private texts or emails or demand to do so.

Unimportant: They aren’t proud of your accomplishments and don’t share in your successes.

Next-level: They don’t know how to fight fair—they’re physically or emotionally dominating you.

Subservience: You stay silent and shoulder their lousy behavior because dealing with their outbursts is too exhausting—you may even feel afraid to leave.

Controlling Behavior: It can be painfully difficult to break up with someone you like (or may even think you love), but controlling behavior that’s left unchecked can escalate into verbal or physical 
abuse. 

In case you need real help or feel like you’re a victim? Don’t be afraid to reach out:

United States
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network): 1-800-656-4673
National Resource Center on Domestic Violence: 1-800-537-2238

United Kingdom
National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247
Men's Advice Line: 0808 801 0327
Women's Aid: 0808 2000 247

Canada
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-363-9010
Assaulted Women’s Helpline: 1-866-863-0511
ShelterSafe: a website that provides a directory of shelters and transition houses across Canada

Australia
National Sexual Assault, Family & Domestic Violence Counselling Line: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732)
Men's Referral Service: 1300 766 491
Domestic Violence Resource Centre Victoria: (03) 8346 5200

India
National Commission for Women: 011-26942369, 26944754
Domestic Violence Helpline: 181
National Legal Services Authority: 0120-2549465, 0120-2532636

South Africa
Gender-Based Violence Command Centre: 0800 428 428
Stop Gender Violence Helpline: 0800 150 150
Rape Crisis Cape Town Trust: 021 447 9762

It's worth noting that these are just a few resources available in each country, and there may be additional local and regional resources available as well.
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