A reader wrote, “I try to stay positive and think of things I can do when faced with a challenge. I’m finding that negativity is contagious and a select few can really bring me down, making it hard for me to stay positive. Do you have any suggestions for how to deal with the naysayers at school?”
As you indicated, NEGATIVITY IS CONTAGIOUS. Combat it by being proactive. This is done by the simple truth that THE PERSON WHO ASKS THE QUESTION CONTROLS THE CONVERSATION.
Ask questions such as, “How is this conversation enhancing the enjoyment of our day?” “Is there anything else we could talk about so that we will leave feeling good rather than negative?”
Persevere! It can take but one person to redirect the negative talk. Also, if the negativity occurs at school, suggest to the principal—since the principal is interested in a positive school climate—to put the situation up to the faculty. The staff may suggest some procedure or other idea to redirect such negative conversations.
By taking the initiative, you will be helping yourself and making a positive impact on your relationships with others.
Msomaji mmoja aliandika hivi, <unk>Ninajaribu kuwa na mtazamo mzuri na kufikiria mambo ninayoweza kufanya ninapokabili tatizo. Mimi ni kupata kwamba hasi ni kuambukiza na wachache waliochaguliwa inaweza kweli kuleta mimi chini, kufanya ni vigumu kwa ajili yangu kubaki chanya. Je, una mapendekezo yoyote ya jinsi ya kushughulika na naysayers katika shule? <unk> Kama ulivyoonyesha, NEGATIVITY NI CONTAGIOUS. Pambana nayo kwa kuwa mwenye kujihusisha. Hii hufanywa kwa ukweli rahisi kwamba KIBADA ambaye anauliza swali husimamia mazungumzo. "Tunaweza kuuliza maswali kama vile, ""Je, mazungumzo haya yanaongezaje furaha ya siku yetu?"" au ""Je, kuna jambo lingine tunaloweza kuzungumzia ili tuondoke tukiwa na hisia nzuri badala ya hasi?""" Inaweza kuchukua mtu mmoja tu kuelekeza mazungumzo yasiyofaa. Pia, kama hasi hutokea katika shule, kupendekeza kwa mkuu - tangu mkuu ni nia ya hali nzuri ya shule - kuweka hali hadi kitivo. Wafanyakazi wanaweza kupendekeza utaratibu fulani au wazo jingine la kuelekeza mazungumzo hayo yasiyofaa. Kwa kuchukua hatua, utajipa msaada na kuwa na uvutano mzuri juu ya mahusiano yako na wengine.