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Tell Me About It
Friday, December 22, 2006; 12:00 PM
Carolyn takes your questions and comments about her current advice column and any other questions you might have about the strange train we call life. Her answers may appear online or in an upcoming column.
Appearing every Wednesday and Friday in The Washington Post Style section and in Sunday Source, Tell Me About It offers readers advice based on the experiences of someone who's been there -- really recently. Carolyn Hax is an ex-repatriated New Englander with a liberal arts degree and a lot of opinions and that's about it, really, when you get right down to it. Oh, and the shoes. A lot of shoes.
Washington, D.C.: Carolyn,
A month ago I met an amazing woman and since then we've been spending a lot of time together. Soon after we met, she got an offer for her "dream job" on the other side of the country. She leaves town in a month. Any advice on how to proceed and possibly make a bi-coastal relationship work?
Thank you.
Carolyn Hax: You're going to think I've taken one too many blows to the forehead, but my advice is: Don't try. The odds are overwhelming anyway that something so new won't survive the long-distance leap, but they'll become impossible if you try to force it based on a notion that you have to hang onto this or else. Let the amazingness drive it wherever it's going to go.
Is anyone actuually working?: I have ONE THING I need to accomplish, and then I can leave the office.
Instead, I am playing with the bendy monkeys that my assistant got me. They have tiny magnets in their paws, so they stick to my desk and each other.
I'm 32 and the director of a big team. Thank heaven most people are out today, or they would see me playing with my bendy monkeys and I'd never live it down.
Can I just go home?
Carolyn Hax: I think your assistant earned the rest of the day off, if s/he's still there with you.
Family Bed - Online Only Please: Hi Carolyn,
If anyone had told me while I was pregnant that I would want a "family bed" after my baby was born, I would have told them they were nuts. I furnished and decorated a wonderful nursery for my baby but can't seem to want to put him in there. It's been four months now and the family bed seems wonderful for me and baby. He is so excited to go to sleep each night and nursing (especially since I had a C-section and couldn't get up out of bed easily) has been so easy. He sleeps through the night and I have not had any sleep deprivation which so many new parents suffer from. My problem is that my husband wants the baby to stop sleeping with us. I know his reasons are valid but I just can't help feeling that I don't want this yet. He's still so little and I love having him with us. Is four months too long to have baby in bed with us? Our sex life has definitely suffered a little because of this. How long is too long to have baby in bed with us?
Carolyn Hax: When your sex life suffers for it.
I'm going to say outright that I'm not going to touch the debate over the family bed--to summarize, it's either Nature's Way or it's a grave risk to small babies, depending on whom you consult (our pediatrician advised strongly against it)--and address only the relationship question here, since I'm not qualified to take on any other aspects of it. To that end, please don't flood me with glowing opinions or horror stories about the practice, thanks.
So--either start your baby's transition to the crib, or start making other accommodations to keep your marriage happy through the family-bed stage. A strong marriage, and the happy home that comes with it, is one of the greatest, if not the greatest, gifts parents can give their kid(s), and I'm not sure how you can have one without both you and your husband showing each other that you're listening and taking each other's wellbeing into account with every decision. That means you hear him out regardless, and ask him to hear you out, and come to a compromise decision together.
Just Curious...:
May I put this out there? I am just curious. If a woman could choose between a handsome guy with lots of money but with a lousy personality who may not treat her kindly or a less-than-average looking guy who does not have much money but has a great personality and would treat her kindly, which would she choose?
You would think this would be a no-brainer but I asked recently on a list-serv and half the responses actually chose the rich guy! I was stunned!
Carolyn Hax: Which is why "you can't please everyone" is one of the top 5 cliches to live by. Roughly half the people you meet will probably horrify you on some level.
Not Trying: Actually, I think that advice applies to more than the bi-coastal relationship. Not to say you shouldn't put thought and caring and love into your relationship, but the idea of "trying" to make something work is antithetical, in some ways, to the growth of relationship. It smacks too much of control - necessary for driving a car, not so great when you end up trying to "drive" a relationship.
Okay, maybe I'm just in a Zen mood today.
Carolyn Hax: Blame the Bendy Monkeys.
Buck up: I could use a little buck up message. I'm not seeing anyone, although I've been going out on dates, but there is someone whom I am actually smitten with (you know it's the only word that fits). I've known her for two years, there has never been anything romantic between us, but more and more I find that I miss her before we even part. There are some possible reasons not to do this, age difference (don't worry we're both adults, well at least by age), no clear sign of reciprocity, but I'm feeling as though I've got to say that I'd like to date her, if only to finally know for sure that she's not interested. Still, it seems like such a loaded moment that I have to admit its daunting. It's much easier to flirt with someone you don't know or that you already know and are comfortable not being with. Ugh, and of course I wouldn't want to ruin her holidays by making her feel awkward. THere see, I'm rationalizing. Can you help me stop spinning.
Carolyn Hax: Most people are in a full spin then they ask- or get asked out, so why fight it? Try and, if you must, fail. If you;re gracious about it then chances are she'll be. That is, if you even need to be. Good luck. Report back.
The 'Burgh: After 2.5 painful years of divorce court hell, I receive the Decree today. At what point in tonight's celebration should I worry that I've gone over-the-top?
Carolyn Hax: When you're in Vegas saying "I do."
Bring a friend whom you trust to have good judgment, drink a glass of water after every drink-drink, and make fun plans for tomorrow morning so you have incentive not to ruin them tonight. Why celebrate pain relief with more pain?
Vacation for Two: (Online only please)
Hi Carolyn,
Thank you for your chats - Love them.
We're newlyweds and don't have much money to spend on vacations. Every year, once or twice, we go away with my inlaws and the whole family - and they pick up the tab. The places we travel to are wonderful, and I cannot complain because they are such generous people. But when is enough enough? How do I hint to my husband that I would like to save my vacation time for the two of us(we go on extended vacations with them that burn right through my total vacation/ personal time for the year)...I'm not saying we have to go to Paris, but something small and intimate would be nice just for the two of us. I feel that when I mention the topic he gets offended. I feel like I'm not grateful - please help.
Carolyn Hax: This has nothing to do with gratitude, and when he lays that on you, you need to say explicitly: "This has nothing to do with gratitude." It's about a married couple spending some vacation time alone, together.
If he won't or can't see this, then, sure, we can introduce the gratitude issue--in a form he might not appreciate. You are grateful for the money they lavish on you--it is indeed generous--but you are not grateful for the control this vacation precedent has come to exert on your time and your marriage. And I do mean control; if you don't want it and can't refuse it, it stops being a gift.
You want a modest vacation alone. He married you, not his family. Your marriage is about the happiness of both parties (you and he, not you and his family--in case there's a need to clarify). You have more than accommodated him.
If he throws it in your face that your going to Paris is hardly suffering on his behalf, then I think there's a sympathy breach large enough to warrant marriage counseling.
Of course, I'm presenting it to you this way, but you might not want your dukes up this high (unless it occurs naturally).
Re: "family bed": Might it be a risk that the husband starts resenting the baby (consciously or sub-) if the baby shares the bed much longer? Potential for messy psychological stuff here.
Carolyn Hax: yes. She could also start resenting him for taking her baby away. This is why it has to be a decision they both come to, and it has to be for the good of the marriage, not for the individual good of either of them.
Silver Spring, Md.: HI Carolyn:
What do you think? Going out west to ski for Christmas with Mom and Dad. Boyfriend subtly not-invited by mom. When she realizes that he's by himself for Christmas and feels bad and says he should have come with us... Do I call him and tell him to come join the fun (not an impossible thing for him to do given he's in the travel business) or just suck-it-up and shut-up about her change of heart (and have the decency to respect that he will not (nor should he) change his plans at the drop of her hat)?
Carolyn Hax: Please just talk to your mom. "[Boyfriend] could actually join us if that's what you really want--I'd love to have him along but not if you see him as an imposition. As long as it's honest, either answer, yea or nay, is okay." Good luck.
Re: vacation: Something is going on if she has to "hint" to her husband she'd like to go on a vacation with just the two of them. Why is this such a delicate matter? Does his family come first, before the marriage?
Carolyn Hax: That's what it sounds like to me. It's hard to see how parents who would take along their son and daughter-in-law on multiple vacations a year don't have some boundary blindness. Leave them room to breathe, no? And they're crossing that line with their son's permission. Danger, danger.
Philadelphia, Pa.: Bendy Monkeys!!!! Had I but known. I bought dog butt leash/coat hooks for everyone.
Carolyn Hax: There's always next year, as every Christmas-resenter knows.
Round Rock, Tex.: My friends and I are having an ongoing debate about blogging, specifically about writing very personal thoughts in our online journals. On one end of the spectrum, some of them use it to keep friends up to date on interesting day-to-day activities. On the other end are people who pour their hearts out, revealing very private issues about relationships, jobs, medical conditions, etc.
Do you believe that the latter group have issues with personal boundaries? Should a person feel free to write whatever they want in their personal journal? I think it's unhealthy to look for acceptance and validation through a journal, but for some people, it's the only way they feel comfortable expressing themselves. What do you think?
Carolyn Hax: I think they, and you, had best not write anything down that they don't want their future mates, grown children, prospective employers and background-checkers reading.
Family bed: Maybe the answer is, have both. Get the baby in the habit of being put down on a regular schedule in his/her own bed. Then when baby wakes in the middle of the night, bring him/her back to your bed. If you have the energy to return the baby back to its own bed, fine, if not, that;s fine too. Pretty soon the kid will sleep longer and it will become less & less of an issue.
Carolyn Hax: Thanky.
Go for less money and great personality...: First husband: wealthier, my salary was play money, left because he didn't respect me or my contributions to anything. Second husband: solid living, comfortable if smaller house, and wonderfully supportive of me and my activities. But yes, when I commented to friends that I moved out at the tail end of $50,000 kitchen and bathroom renovation with first husband, some said I was nuts.
Happy holidays!
Carolyn Hax: To channel Weingarten here, there is only one right answer to that question, and everyone who picks wrong should be embarrassed.
Alexandria, Va.: Girlfriend asked for space a month before I was about to propose because she said she was confused with her life and did not know who she was or wanted. I gave her the space she asked for after a week of conversations that resulted in no answers. Since then there has been no contact. I told her that she would have to make the first move to reconnect.
I have done everything right according to everyone I speak with or read. I have made sure I took medication for the depression and anxiety as well as see a therapist. I did not allow myself to withdrawal from the world. Instead I have made new friends and stayed close to old ones. Lost 30 pounds though diet and exercise and let myself try new things that have been a lot of fun. I have even started dating someone new which has been much more enjoyable then I ever thought possible. (Don't worry I am taking things slow)
However as Christmas approaches I can't help but wish I had made the break up long and drawn out and as messy as possible. Cause then at least she might still be in my life.
Its not even as if I believe our relationship was perfect. She had a lot of serious issues that I pray she is working out for hr on good. Not mine. Even so I miss the space it filled.
It is almost as if I have a craving for food court Chinese food instead of good Chinese food.
I guess I just need affirmation that I have handled this correctly and that the life I am building now will be different but just as good if not better then the last one.
Carolyn Hax: You have handled this correctly and that the life you are building now will be different but just as good if not better then the last one.
Dragging anything out diminishes not only the people involved, but also the happiness of the memories. And those are rarely considered in a breakup, but they deserve to be handled with care. Even unhappy relationships that got sucked into a Cuisinart had some good moments, or there wouldn't have been a relationship.
And it's not only okay, but important to give them their due credit: "Yes, it ended badly and we're not in touch, but there were some good times that I feel lucky we were able to share." Not something you hear often, at least I don't, but it can really help when it comes time to make peace with things.
Happy Holidays: So my mother-in-law loves me. Loooooves me. To the extend that last holiday, she hugged me without letting go for about 5 minutes, kissed me repeatedly on the cheek, told me several times that I didn't understand how much she looooooved me (and to say she was close talking here would be an understatement) and then turned and walked out the door without saying goodbye to her -actual- daughter or sons. The general consensus in the room afterward that a firm "stop!" would've resulted in another lecture about how I don't understand what love is and how much she looooves me. And more sloppy hugs and kisses.
Given that we're spending Christmas weekend with the in-laws and she is likely to consume several bottles of wine over the course of the weekend, (the maulings pretty much only occur under the influence), what can I do?? It's lovely that she likes me. But I don't need any more face-licking.
Merry Christmas!
Carolyn Hax: Actually, it sounds like she's beating her kids over the head, and you're the club. not to take anything away from your lovability or anything. If you can find a way to be somewhere else for the second and subsequent cork-poppings, please avail yourself of it.
Midwest: I don't know if you'll get to this - but my husband has been treated for clinical depression for a year, and it's getting worse. He's medicated and has started therapy again, but he's so mean and then sad and I just don't know how to deal with it. His counselor has now suggested he see a psychiatrist (rather than his family doctor medicating him). What's the difference?
And if you have any words of wisdom about dealing with a person whose moods are wildly fluctuating at Christmas time, I would appreciate.
Carolyn Hax: Please please take the advice and get him to a psychiatrist. Misdiagnosis is rampant in mental health care and can often lead to the prescribing of incorrect, and therefore ineffective or even harmful, medications. There can be a huge difference.
This can help you deal with the fluctuations, too--remind yourself his moods will fluctuate, but he hasn't come close to exhausting his medical options yet.
Bethesda, Md.: I am uncomfortable with being photographed. It's not because I look like a dork in photos (which I do), I'm not vain in the least and I don't care how the photo itself turns out. I find the act of being photographed very intrusive -- particularly if the person taking the photo fiddles with the camera endlessly, or comes up with a bunch of instructions (Move to your left! Put your arm around Bob!).
So, two questions, 1. Am I weird? 2. How do I get people to either photograph me quickly, or to not photograph me at all?
Carolyn Hax: Cooperate. Fighting only makes the pictures worse and the attempts more numerous to catch a good one.
Washington, D.C.: My husband is interviewing for a new job. He has a very good job right now and I was just accepted in a masters degree program that I have wanted for a while. We are both presented with great opportunities. The problem is, if he were to be offered a job, we would have to move. None of the jobs are in the area. I -could- transfer to a new school, but like the program I am in and want to stay. He once promised this would not be an issue. now he seems to think if he were offered a job and I suggested staying in the area to wrap up my schooling, I would be unfairly punishing him. In addition, we stand to have to sell our house at a loss, putting us in a horrible financial situation, especially due to the potential that I would not have a job in the new area. I'm very stressed about this and realize nothing has actually happened yet except for the interviews, but how do I prepare myself for a job being offered to my husband? It seems I will be dealt the short end of the stick if he gets an offer.
Carolyn Hax: It seems like you will be angry regardless, since you feel he reneged on his promise that remaining in your program would not be an issue. Please talk to him about it--squarely, firmly, nicely. He seems to have changed his position, and you feel scared about his job hunt, unhappy about the idea of leaving your program, and angry at being put in this position. Air it now before it festers.
Denver, Colo.: I am loveable and capable.
Carolyn Hax: Wait--you were schoolchild in the 70s? You're wearing your IALAC tag?
For Midwest: Somewhere under the fluctuating moods is your husband, the man you love and married. These moods are not him -- they are his illness. Tough to deal with, I know, but they are not -him.- He's in there somewhere, and eventually, with a good doctor and the right meds, will emerge, but in the meantime, it might help to keep in mind that the sadness and the meanness are NOT him but are his illness instead.
Carolyn Hax: not only on point, but also comprehensible to those born before and after the 1960s. Thanks.
Bethesda, Md.: Carolyn,
I love your chats and columns, and often try to speak in your voice when giving advice. I have a problem that I keep trying to solve the way you might tell me to: I'm engaged, I love my boyfriend very much, and yet I have also grown close to a male friend and I think I might love him too. I think your advice would be to consider if there are fundamental problems in my relationship (there aren't) and then distance myself from my friend. But I am finding this very difficult. I haven't crossed any lines but I'm worried I will if things stay the same.
Carolyn Hax: Thank you--that's a nice compliment, even though I've failed you.
Try not framing it as "fundamental problems," but instead as not getting from your fiance something essential to you, maybe something you never really thought about before, that you get from the male friend.
It's not always so easy as, X relationship is broken, but Y relationship is great.
Sometimes X relationship seems okay but it's starving you slowly of something, and you don't realize it until you get it in some other form. (I don't necessarily mean in the form of another person, either--it can be in the form of anything people find fulfilling.)
Never thought I would be...: Is is okay to be a teensy bit jealous over a gorgeous diamond ring (not engagement) a friend just got for Christmas? I love jewelry to look at, don't wear what I have, let alone need anything new; and if my husband came home with the same ring for me I'd be thinking, "but, we really need to remodel the bathroom".
Yet, I'm a little jealous! What gives?
Carolyn Hax: Because you want your husband to surprise you with a fairy tale gift (that princess residue from little girlhood is tougher than calcium deposits), and still remodel the bathroom?
Midwest: What about also advising Midwest to get counseling herself? Might help.
Carolyn Hax: Sure! It's Chirstmas.
Carolyn Hax: A little-known holiday celebrated by atheists with poor typing skills.
Urbana, Ill.: I'm 27 years old and have been "talking" to this guy for about a month.
A few nights ago, we had our first minor argument. When I called the next day to apologize for my behavior, he told me that I got all "girled-out" on him and that he was ready to not see me anymore.
Do you think it's worth trying one more time with him or should I just move on?
Things were going fine up until this point and now I'm beating myself up over not behaving "appropriately"... but I don't think he handled it very well, either.
What are your thoughts?
Carolyn Hax: You send me "all 'girled-out,'" and you still need an answer?
St. Paul, Minn.: Hi Carolyn,
My dad gave my mom divorce papers for Christmas. It's going to be messy, and he's still not admitted and apologized for his infidelity (which I had discovered and called him out on).
Mom and Sis aren't talking to my dad and have completely cut him out of their lives. Bro and I are trying to stay out of it for the sake of our own sanity, but get accused of siding with the "other" parent. It hasn't been easy.
I've exchanged gifts with Mom and Dad like always (through the mail this year), because I don't want to be spiteful to either parent. But how do I handle the inevitable fallout from giving and recieving a gift with my Dad? Am I completely out of line to do either one?
Carolyn Hax: No no no, you are not. At the risk of wading too deeply in to muck I don't understand:
1. You are trusting your conscience. There is no other way. You can revisit your conscience as new facts come in, and even chage course as a result, but you can't ignore your conscience and live with yourself. Even in response to wounded maternal pressure.
2. If your mother is punishing you for trusting your conscience, then she is out of line. The innocent don't send others on guilt trips.
3. If your mother in fact sees herself vs. your dad as Innocent vs. Guilty, and is trying to use it (and you and your brother) against your dad, then I can guarantee there is a more complicated story within their marriage than that. Not to condone his lying or adultery, just to acknowledge that there's usually a lot of right and wrong to go around in all battles, and even lying and adultery don't change that.
4. Recap: No one who deserves your loyalty will pressure you to take sides. Hang in there.
Maryland: Agg. Was just told by my mom that she does not want my fiance (who she and my dad both dislike for stupid reasons, like him being Jewish and not having a four-year degree) to be in the house my parents own and my aunt lives in for ANY amount of time tomorrow before a party (at most we'd be there an hour). Because I was guilted by the "you aren't considerate of our feelings" trip, I agreed. Fiance is wonderful and won't bat an eye if I ask him to just meet me at the house where the party is, but now I'm berating myself for caving to parental pressure (who, by the way, will not even be in town!).
Where can I get the bendy monkeys?
Carolyn Hax: Look down. You are one.
Call your mom back and say, no, you've changed your mind, your conscience won't allow you to treat your fiance this way. Come on.
Washington, D.C.: is it too late to find out where to get the bendy monkeys?
washingtonpost.com: Would a Pirate Bendy do?
Carolyn Hax: What wouldn't a Pirate Bendy do, that is the question.
Much demand for bendy Monkeys, no supply that I can see.
What was I thinking, sending the assistant home.
Anonymous: What gives with saying what gives?
Carolyn Hax: I don't know. What do you think gives?
Meatless, CE: My wife is a nominal Catholic who traditionally does not eat meat on Christmas eve. We're inviting friends to dine with us including one who thinks that salad is what food eats, and won't be happy without something red that used to moo, oink, etc. I suggested something like spaghetti and optional meatballs, but I was wondering if we should just skip the meat and put up with an unhappy guest.
Personally, I have no interest in the meat or the tradition.
Carolyn Hax: It's okay if the only thing that oinks at your dinner is your carnivorous guest. Spinach lasagne, cheese tortellini, stuffed shells, manicotti--I thought all of these had successfully reached the 1950s eater.
Personally, I have no interest in people who bully their hosts.
Vacation with In-Laws: From a mother who has taken my son and his family on some very nice vacations and hopes to do more: My son and I had "the talk" after a couple of trips. They would go with me sometimes, not others, I was not invited to go along on all their trips, to the beach with the kids, for example. "Sometimes our family just wants to spend vacation time alone." Made perfect sense to me, not a problem at all. If this son can't say that or his parents don't understand, THAT is the problem.
Carolyn Hax: Righto. Thanks.
Re: Bethesda, Md.: So what happens when you are married and realize you're being starved of something in your relationship? And you meet the man that gives it to you? And you do act on it?
Banging my head on a brick wall seems like a fine option.
Carolyn Hax: You can ... try to see if your husband can in fact provide it if he's made aware of the need ... try to find another source of it outside the marriage that isn't illicit ... learn to live without it ... separate, if happiness isn't possible without it ... there are a lot of ways you can go, and the right one will depend on you and your husband, your family situation, the size of the need, your attitude, so many things.
Bendy monkey supply: Here
Carolyn Hax: A connection, finally. Thanks.
Wedding Blues: Carolyn -- I am supposed to be planning my wedding and yet I can't get motivated. Even planning a small intimate affair gives me a headache! I really just want to elope, but my loved one insists that his parents be part of the ceremony, which means that my parents ought to be there, which means something in the way of a ceremony needs to happen. Any advice for motivating, when all I want to do is be done with this already, and possibly eat some cake?
Carolyn Hax: Ask your loved one to plan it, since he's the one who wants it.
Virginia: I found out that my sister who is married with four kids is now seeing a psychiatrist which we never knew because she is taking Prozac. On top of that she is also seeing a psychologist which we will knew about. Is this normal having two different "counselors"? There is no mental or physical abuse in the marriage.
Carolyn Hax: But whooeee there's some judging going on, isn't there? Does there need to be physical or mental abuse in the marriage for her counseling to receive your imprimatur?
It is not only "normal," but recommended, that people on such medication also receive talk therapy, and it's common for a psychiatrist to handle the meds while a psychologist or social worker handles the talk.
In other words, be glad anyone who needs care is getting it, particularly someone who is responsible for four other lives.
If I misread your tone, I do apologize.
Would you touch this with a 10 foot pole?: Online only please. Every time I've seen my BIL in the last few months (generally once or twice a month) he's been hungover. He's in his late 20s, he's not a college kid, if that matters. I am not a tee-totaler, and a couple beers wouldn't phase me but regularly drinking till you're ill seems like a drinking problem. And, quite frankly, he's more fun to be with when he's not feeling lousy.
Do I do anything about this, or just mind my own business?
Carolyn Hax: This is a BIL, so someone you're close to--sibling, spouse?--is closer to this person than you are. What does that person say?
I do think someone needs to do something; the question is whether you're the one to do it.
Darn European Monkeys: They only ship to the UK!!! Help!!!
Carolyn Hax: Help!!
Re: Bendy monkeys:
Here you go, bendable monkeys and a LOT more.
Carolyn Hax: Whew. I was all abunch.
Bendy monkeys available in North America: Not as cute as the other ones, but these ones can be shipped to North American addresses.
Carolyn Hax: Okay. monkey thread complete. Thanks.
No meat christmas eve: what about a nice tuna or salmon steak? meaty but not meat...
Carolyn Hax: Well duh. I forgot about that. Thanks.
Speaking of "smitten": I've been enchanted by this woman for years. For a while I thought it was just one of those tormenting yourself by wanting what you can't have kind of things. But everything about her just amazes me and I do things just to be around her. She's been in a long relationship with a wonderful mand and now they are engaged. I thought I'd simply move on once they engagement happened (you just knew it would happen, sadly they are the so very right for each other and so obviously in love), but now I just feel very sad that it really will never happen. How do I cope?
Carolyn Hax: Enchanting and amazing may be rare qualities, but they aren't unique to her. Don't forget that. And if the only way for you to remember that is to stop having reminders of this enchanting, amazing woman in your face all the time, then it's okay to put some distance between you two.
Seattle: Most city hall/courthouse weddings allow a small number of guests-the only planning you'll need to do is make an appointment. (This is what I did). Both sets of parents can be present but there won't be any of that wedding stress. Then you can all go out for a nice dinner afterwords.
Carolyn Hax: Cool. Thanks.
Washington, D.C.: I decided to relocate with or without a job because I am long over due for change. Amazingly, I ended up with an offer after I turned in my notice with my current employer before I moved. Now that things are falling into place I'm really scared about the move. I dont think it's second thoughts -- I just didn't expect these feelings. Are they normal?
Carolyn Hax: New things are scary. That's what excitement is, fear chemicals. Right? Anyway, if you hate it you can move back. "Due for a change" can mean a lot of things--including that you need something new, period, or that you need something new to remind you how good for you the old thing was.
I'm not sure if this will reassure you or scare you more, but since your worst case is more expensive than dire, I'm throwing it out there.
All Over the Map: Carolyn,
My boyfriend is a champion compartmentalizer. I am the exact opposite. When we get into squabbles, he seems to get over them relatively quickly, while I brood on and continue to work through in my head what went wrong and how to fix/avoid it next time. He doesn't understand how I can turn a small squabble into something bigger and more troubling about us in general; I can't understand how he can just turn on and off his feelings and emotions, as if the squabble never happened. Is there any middle ground for us? How do I find it?
Carolyn Hax: Maybe in the longevity of the issues? If you're fighting about the same things over and over again, you're probably smart to be mulling the long-term consequences.
But if you can't get past the smallest thing without 1. arguing about it 2. revisiting the viability of the relationship, then maybe it's time to mull your own need for perfection, or whatever it is you're trying to achieve between you.
If you try to think bigger and you still end up squabbling, then maybe you're just not right for each other.
I keep thinking about the story a reader sent in about her cast iron pan. I'm going to cut too many corners, but ... she was in a relationship with a guy who wouldn't listen when she explained how to care for the pan, and who kept wrecking it, and they kept fighting about it. They break up for other reasons, she gets into a new, much more harmonious relationship, and she can't give half a bleep about who cares how for the pan.
You probably have to have been there.
Re: smitten: Also, echanting and amazing sound pretty idealized. I'm sure this engaged girl is smart and cute and kind to kittens, but I bet she also hogs the covers and hates your taste in music.
Carolyn Hax: But he -digs- that.
I think you're right, by the way--it does sound like he's idealized her. Thanks.
Meat: I've never understood how someone can say that fish isn't meat if the effort is to eat something that didn't once have a pulse. Fish don't often oink or moo, but they are animals. Animal flesh=meat.
I eat 'em all, but if you eat fish you're eating meat.
Carolyn Hax: I think the meatlessness here was an effort to be a good Catholic, in which case the distinction is apt. (I hadn't ever heard of a meat prohibition on Xmas Eve, but what do I know.)
Denver, Colo.: I am also Enchanting and Amazing (IAAEAA).
Carolyn Hax: And Shut In, Apparently (ASIA).
Philadelphia: Merry Christmas Carolyn!
Carolyn Hax: Thanks! And to the collective you, too.
This is it till after the New Year. Bye, have a great time, and thanks for all the great Fridays.
That was me!: With the pan! You made my week by mentioning that old comment I made!
That is still one of the most valuable lessons I've learned. Six years later I'm still happy with the guy who makes me not care about pans.
Carolyn Hax: I hope I did it justice--it really said it all, thank you.
Enchanting and amazing may be rare qualities, but they aren't unique to her.: It can still be hard not to feel as if you've been forced to settle, and difficult to get over the sense of failure.
Carolyn Hax: No no no. 1. You don't commit to anyone who feels less amazing or enchanting; and 2. it will feel more amazing and enchanting when someone right for you loves you back. Pat, sure, and there's no guarantee anyone will even find this, but it won't be because that one "got away." There was no one, just a maybe, an idea.
For the photo-phobic person: Please do cooperate and try to smile. My mother hates to be photographed, and in every picture, she has an angry scowl. That's how we'll remember her after she's gone.
Carolyn Hax: THANK YOU.
Goodbye, Carolyn.
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This event will introduce Cloud Computing's disruptive potential to not only reduce cost and complexity but reinvent the way we do business. Over the course of four days, there will be sessions that define cloud computing and discuss transformative benefits and challenges to consider while sharing specific, proven patterns of success. We will provide proven methods to get started on the Cloud journey from the up-front investments to capacity planning. This event will cover the technology behind private and public clouds whether you choose to build your own, leverage prepackaged solutions or have it delivered as a service.
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Album Rating: 4.0maybe not but there arent any excellent songs either unlike most of their other records but hey i get ya death n roll baby!
Album Rating: 3.0Heck yeah death n roll!
I think R**k the Vote, Go to Hell, and Keep on Rotting in the Free World are all excellent songs.
Album Rating: 5.0Rupturing your gall-blader
Liver bleached and soaked
Lungs now flooded
With bicarbonates and boiling soap
Orifices pumped and plugged
Rectal membrane split
Evaporating your bowels
Anal muscle rips...
some grimey shit here
Album Rating: 4.0best blast beats ever right here
Album Rating: 5.0fuck yeah m/
Album Rating: 2.5Never liked their first two albums. But I don't like grind anyway so
Album Rating: 4.0DUDE
many a things I have heard, many a things...
Album Rating: 5.0i don't know who i am anymore...........
*shoots self*
Album Rating: 4.0jammin morta skulds first album atm god damn wish it had a review so i could cap post hard
Album Rating: 5.0dude there's so many albums like that on here, if i could actually write worth a shit i'd do some reviews to have threads to bump.
Album Rating: 4.0bro you got a higher approval rating than me you obv rock go for it
Album Rating: 3.5rules, but what is this cover? is this the original or something, not used to it
Album Rating: 4.0Get used to it chump.
- gs3k
Album Rating: 3.5prove that you're oltnabrick
Album Rating: 4.0yup original cover looks metal as fuck wow this album rules
Album Rating: 4.0That album art looks better and ya, pummels hard.
Album Rating: 5.0Since ppl frequently shorten Gorguts to "guts", can we start calling Carcass, "ass" but in a really endearing way?
Digging: Nocturnal Triumph - Into Light's Graven Wound
Album Rating: 2.5Album artwork here is shite. I thought they had the proper one before?
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KASHIWA, CHIBA PREF. – Kashiwa Reysol may have missed out on Asian Champions League glory this season, but on-loan striker Cleo is confident of redemption in Saturday's Nabisco Cup final against Urawa Reds.
Kashiwa takes on Urawa at National Stadium looking to salvage something from a season that began with hopes of becoming Japan's first continental club champion since 2008, only to fall apart in the semifinals with an 8-1 aggregate defeat to Cleo's Chinese parent club, Guangzhou Evergrande.
But while ACL success may have been Kashiwa's prime objective, the Chiba side has been careful not to put all its eggs in one basket. The Nabisco Cup final offers Cleo the chance to win his first trophy since joining Reysol at the start of the season, and the globe-trotting Brazilian insists last weekend's 2-1 loss to Urawa in the J. League will count for nothing when the teams line up on Saturday.
"We're very motivated," the 28-year-old said at Kashiwa's training ground earlier this week. "I think the confidence in the team for this game is very high. I hope I can be a champion in my first final here. This is the game of the season for us, so it's a good chance to win the title.
"Urawa had two opportunities to score in the first 10 minutes last weekend, and they scored two goals. After that we controlled the game. In my opinion we played better. We need to think about that game and take confidence from it, because I think we are ready to win on Saturday."
But while Kashiwa's cup form speaks for itself, performances in the J. League have fallen short of expectations. The 2011 champions are currently 11th in the table with four games to play, and Cleo admits the demands of the ACL have taken their toll.
"We focused a lot on the Asian Champions League and we lost a lot of points in the J. League," said the 185-cm striker. "When we tried to come back and compete in the J. League it was too late. We have played a lot of games, and the team is feeling that. If we were playing for only one or two titles then we would compete for sure."
Reysol's season also took a bizarre twist in August when manager Nelsinho offered his resignation after a J. League defeat, only to change his mind and return several days later. The incident suggested a club in turmoil, but Cleo insists it had a galvanizing effect instead.
"It was good for us, because it shook us up and changed our thinking," he said. "I think we were too relaxed at the time, and when something like that happens it makes you think again about your season and what you want for the future.
"Nelsinho made his decision. The group is very close to him and we tried to get results and give the best for him, but the results didn't come. Now it's a good chance, not only for us but for Nelsinho too, to get the title and make people forget about that situation."
Cleo's reputation from his time in China, as well as his Champions League pedigree with Serbia's Partizan Belgrade, had Kashiwa fans expecting big things upon his arrival, but the striker himself admits he can improve on his current tally of nine league goals.
As far as Reysol defender Naoya Kondo is concerned, however, his teammate's contribution cannot be measured with just numbers.
"He's tall, he works hard for the team and he's good at linking the play together," said Kondo. "He scores a lot of goals with his head, and for a foreign player he is very diligent at helping out in defense. So if you ask what he contributes to the team, I'd have to say it's a bit of everything."
But while Kashiwa was hoping Cleo's arrival would give it the edge in Asian competition, a comprehensive 4-1 ACL semifinal first-leg home defeat to Guangzhou in September proved otherwise. Reysol took a first-half lead before collapsing after the interval, and Cleo admits the Chinese champions — coached by Italian World Cup-winner Marcello Lippi — are on a different level to the rest of Asia.
"I think we lost in the first game," said Cleo. "In the first half against Guangzhou we played very well and had three or four chances to score. If we had scored again we would have been fighting for the title, for sure.
"I think the team was feeling tired. I don't know what happened in that second half, but we felt it. Guangzhou were at their best in that game, so we need to accept it. I think Guangzhou can be champions now."
Mega-rich Guangzhou now stands on the brink of continental domination after drawing 2-2 away with FC Seoul in last week's final first leg, and Cleo believes Lippi has proved the difference.
"For me, working with him was an amazing experience," he said of his time with Lippi, who will become the first manager to win both the European and Asian Champions Leagues if Guangzhou triumphs in next weekend's final second leg. "He is an amazing coach and a very good man. When he has a conversation with you, he never puts you down. When he talks to you, he gives you the confidence to be better."


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Although Fort Smith's Animal Control Division has seized fewer animals each year since 2011, the overall number of animals admitted to the Sebastian County Humane Society remains high.
Although Fort Smith's Animal Control Division has seized fewer animals each year since 2011, the overall number of animals admitted to the Sebastian County Humane Society remains high.
The Fort Smith Police Department consistently receives 3,500 to 4,000 calls regarding loose animals each year. However, the number of animals picked up and impounded by the department's Animal Control Division has steadily declined, according to a news release from Sgt. Daniel Grubbs.
In 2011, the department seized 3,123 animals that were taken to the Humane Society. The number was reduced to 2,692 in 2012, and 2,623 were seized last year, according to the release.
Although the Humane Society has seen fewer animals from the city, it continues to take animals from Sebastian, Crawford and Franklin counties. In 2012, the Humane Society took in 7,071 animals; in 2013, that number increased to 7,223, said JoAnn Barton, executive director.
The good news is that the Humane Society saw a 15 percent decrease in euthanasia from 2011 to 2012, and a 22 percent drop in 2013, according to the release.
The bad news is that the frequency of euthanasia remains high. Although the number has been decreasing, about 1,000 animals are euthanized each year at the Humane Society because they are too sick, injured or aggressive; another 1,000 are euthanized because they don't respond well to treatment, said Barton.
One reason the Humane Society has had fewer cases of euthanasia is because of the fewer number of animals brought in from the city, Barton said.
A few years ago, members of the Police Department decided to be more selective about impounding animals, as a way to save the department money, said Sgt. Greg Copeland, supervisor for the Animal Control Division.
The Police Department operates under a contractual agreement with the Humane Society, which is designated as an intake facility for all animals impounded by Animal Control. The department pays the shelter on a per animal, per day basis by contract, the release states.
Animal Control officers have taken a common-sense type approach to seizing animals. If an animal at large does not have a history of being violent, has not repeatedly gotten loose, and if the owner did not contribute to the animal running loose and the animal can be returned to its owner, it will, Copeland said.
"We've begun doing that," Copeland said. "I think it's contributed to those numbers, and I think it's fostered a better relationship between us and the owners."
Animal Control officers try to be tolerant to a point and talk to the owners, but if an animal continues to be problematic the owner risks having his or her pet impounded and the probability of a citation, Copeland said.
"We don't want to go that route unless we have to," Copeland said. "Most of the time we haven't had repeat offenders."
Another reason the Human Society has seen less frequent euthanasia is because the shelter has been working with several animal rescue organizations, especially the Petsmart Charities Rescue Waggin program, which has sent a number of mixed-breed dogs from Fort Smith to shelters in other states with a higher demand for pets, Barton said.
"We've been working very hard for the last six years, to not only do better vet care but to work closer with rescues," Barton said. "We work with probably 50 rescue organizations where we can send a lot of the full-blood animals, but we only have one that we can actually send our mixed breeds to."
Through the Petsmart program, the Humane Society has sent 103 puppies since November 2013 to shelters in Minnesota, Michigan and Wisconsin, according to the release.
Most animals sent to these shelters are adopted within a week; one animal that was quickly adopted had been at the Humane Society for more than a year. Another three animals were adopted after having been at the shelter for at least nine months, Barton said.
Although fewer animals being brought in by Animal Control and fewer instances of euthanasia have been a welcomed relief, a lack of owner responsibility has contributed to the number of animals being brought to the Humane Society each year, Barton said.
"We're still losing about 2,000 animals a year, and that is strictly to irresponsible pet owners," Barton said.
Owners need to be mindful of identification tags, properly containing their pets, vaccinations and, most importantly, need to spay or neuter their pets, Barton said.
Barton estimated the proportion of spayed or neutered animals brought to the Humane Society at about 0.4 percent of the shelter's animal population. If more people spayed or neutered their pets, the Humane Society likely would not have to seek alternative means to clear space at the shelter, like transporting animals out of state.
"I'd like to see it in my lifetime," Barton said. "I've been fighting this for years and years and years, and it's not happening yet."


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Highly Recommended Little Gem - Our favourite all year around
We stay at the Burley Inn almost every year and love it.
Friendly, jolly and caring staff, excellent food all day, clean, newly refurbished rooms, car parking on site. It's a family friendly pub in a cute little village full of charm, character , interesting little shops, and the odd roaming donkey/pony. The rooms might be small but the atmosphere makes up for that. If you are looking for a comfortable base to explore the New Forest then I would recommend the Burley Inn. The staff work very hard and will do anything to make your stay a comfortable one. It's more like a mini hotel than a loud pub. We cannot fault it in anyway. We always feel at home at the Burley Inn and can't wait for our next visit!!
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very friendly staff and lovely food, accommodation was very clean and comfy
Could do with some attention.
I enjoyed the pub itself as it served some pretty decent ales and felt very lived in - the food was a bit school dinners.
The room I stayed in was pretty rubbish to be honest - so antiquated - and not in a good way, more in a mid to late 70's run down sea side guest house kind of way - but then it was £45 to stay, is that good value. I don't know if any of the other rooms were better, but I would not recommend this place - it really needs to have some work done on it and a chef who can adequately boil potatoes...
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Adequate for one night stay. Clean but very small. The tel reception was very bad. Ver limited TV channel with a very small TV
The breakfast was served too old for business or even for travellers (8:30)
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En suite shower was a little grubby and shower head was not fully operational. Having said this,we would still consider staying at this accomadation again.
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(CBS News) - "I must say that this is probably one the most specific and credible threats I've seen since 9/11," said Rep. Michael McCaul, R-Texas, Sunday on Face the Nation, referring to the terror threats facing U.S. diplomatic posts in the Middle East. The chair of the Homeland Security Committee argued that the decision to close 21 U.S. embassies in the region was a "very smart call, particularly in light of what happened in Benghazi when warnings were not heeded in that case." McCaul's take on the severity of the threat was picked up by The National Review, NPR, and The Los Angeles Times.
Sen. Chuck Schumer, appearing later in the program, said the U.S.'s handling of this weekend's terror plot emphasizes the importance of the National Security Agency's capacity to "listen in and hear what's going on."
"I think what today shows, of course, is that security is very, very important and that the agencies in charge are darn good," he said.
Schumer also weighed in on Russia's decision to grant temporary political asylum to NSA leaker Edward Snowden.
"The relationship between the United States and Russia is more poisonous than at any time since the Cold War because of all of this," he explained. Sen. Schumer advised President Obama to cancel his bilateral meeting with Putin next month.
"I would also urge the President to try to urge our allies, if it were possible, to move the G-20 Summit away from St. Petersburg," he told host Bob Schieffer.
"President Putin's behaving like a schoolyard bully, and in my experience, I've learned, unless you stand up to that bully, they ask for more and more and more."
Sen. Schumer's characterization of the Russian President made headlines Sunday at Reuters, Politico, The Washington Post, Newsmax and Capital New York. You can also read more about our conversation with Sen. Schumer at The Washington Times.
"For once, Bob, I agree with Chuck Schumer on that," said Rep. Paul Ryan, appearing later in the program.
"I think President Putin thinks he can get away with pushing around this administration because the administration has given sort of appeasement feelings that they can do this," explained Ryan.
Turning to issues in the House of Representatives, Ryan explained that there are more "more effective ways" to repeal Obamacare than a government shutdown.
"I think there's going to be a better strategy to actually achieve our goal of ultimately delaying and ultimately replacing Obamacare," he told host Bob Schieffer.
You can read more about what Rep. Ryan had to say on President Obama's signature healthcare law at Reuters, Politico, United Press International, Newsmax and Mediaite.
Ryan also reiterated that House wouldn't adopt the immigration bill passed in the Senate last month.
"What we're going to do is take a step-by-step approach to get immigration right -- not a big, massive bill, but separate bills so people know what's in these bills." The Washington Post has more on what Ryan's comments mean for the road to an immigration reform bill in the House.


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Depth has wrestlers eager for the season
The 2011-12 wrestling season was a trying one for Chester Granard.
Yet, he managed to qualify for nationals and earn All-America honors.
The Colorado Mesa University junior is ready to live up to his own expectations this season as the fourth-ranked 165-pound wrestler in the National Wrestling Coaches Association Division II rankings.
"I've got a real good feeling about this year," Granard said. "Last year, it was a battle the whole year. I wasn't as successful as I would like. I had some personal issues that may have affected my attitude, but I'm working hard this year."
Teammate Nick Petersen wasn't happy with his seventh-place finish at nationals, even though he earned All-America honors. He's shooting for a national title and is ranked sixth in the NWCA rankings at 184 pounds.
"I'm excited," Petersen said. "We have the potential to do really good this year as long as we all stay healthy. We have higher expectations. We got a glimpse of what we could do last year. Now, we have a year under us."
The returning All-Americans might get some company this season.
"We're looking at five weights in a row with All-Americans," CMU coach Chuck Pipher said. "We feel that strong about 49s, 57s, 65s, 74 and 84s.
"Our roster is just what we needed to get. We have a good first team and a good second team that can back up any of these guys. I wanted a good, solid 45-man roster and keep building."
Pipher has eight returning starters, including six national qualifiers in the past two seasons. Mesa is ranked 20th in the NWCA Division II preseason poll.
"I feel like we should've been here two or three years ago," Pipher said. "I feel like we've got a strong base program. We didn't jump out and go after a lot of junior college kids.
"Our fundraising is good, our support is good, our coaching staff is good. I think our staff is second to none. The support and facilities are in place."
The Mavericks open the season Saturday in the University of Wyoming Open, but Pipher plans to give a majority of returning wrestlers a chance to rest.
The Mavericks host their maroon-and-white scrimmage at 7 p.m. on Nov. 7, followed by a pair of duals beginning at 5 p.m. on Nov. 9 and the Colorado Mesa Open on Nov. 10.
Mesa has five more home duals after the first of the year.
"We've got a great home schedule this year, the most we've ever had," Pipher said. "Our open is taking off. We made a commitment to travel the first few years, and now teams are returning that and coming here."
Freshman Daniel Salazar, a four-time state placer at Palisade, is competing with freshman Jonathon Stelling of Westminster for the 125-pound position that Mesa mostly forfeited last year.
Sophomore Drew Schumann of Montrose likely will wrestle at 141 pounds as national qualifier James Martinez bumps up a weight class to 149 pounds. Trevor Donarski, who wrestled at 149 last year, will redshirt this season.
"Ideally, it would be great to have a three-year guy at each weight, but that doesn't happen," Pipher said.
"You hope to plug in freshmen each year so the strength of your team stays consistent. You hope next year you look at a couple different weights to fill."
Pipher said he has a good, hard-working group of wrestlers who have good technique, are well-conditioned and for the most part give everything they have.
To go with it, he'd like to see from everyone an "I'm going to kick your butt attitude."
"We work on that day in and day out. ... That's the one thing we're missing," Pipher said.


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In "Gouged at the zoo" (Forum, Oct. 2), Bryan Nash is concerned about the cost of refreshments at Hogle Zoo. He mistakenly blames the zoo, and is reconsidering his commitment to having his taxes support it.
The zoo's refreshments and "Beastro" are contracted services. Our Zoo, Arts and Parks tax funds are used to provide the animals with a humane, natural environment, healthy food and medical care.
I remember Princess Alice, the elephant who lived in a windowless building with a cement floor, steel railing for confinement and no protection from the many people who fed her peanuts, harassed her and tried to pet her. On a good day, she was brought outside where, for a fee, children could sit on her.


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Security Magazine features my CEO Research
Thanks to the editors at Security Magazine who featured an excerpt from my recent research CEOs' perceptions of security executives. You can find the analysis on page 20 of the May 2011 issue.
Among the findings, I report that CEOs are frustrated by the lack of business acumen of most security and IT directors. Misuse of ROI is one of the most common failings of technology managers. ROI is designed to measure the delta between apparent costs and apparent benefits, but is unsatisfactory at measuring the degree to which a specific investment achieves a specified goal. In other words, you can buy the product with the biggest ROI and still not solve the problem you hoped to solve with it.
If this rings a bell, let me know and I'll direct you to some better methods for measuring the value of a technology investment.
May 25, 2011 at 9:17 am
Cost is what you pay – Value is what you make.


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Washington — The National Retail Federation, in partnership with its member companies, has launched a new initiative to address the challenges and opportunities of mobile retailing.
The Integrated Mobile Initiative is being led by NRF senionr VP communities and executive director of Shop.org Vicki Cantrell, with cooperative support and involvement from an external task force of retail companies and solution providers. Additionally, the IMI aims to further strengthen NRF's message that policies which hinder innovation will inhibit retail companies from catering to consumers all over the world.
"Retailers are inherently driven to stay ahead of the curve when it comes to their customers' demands, and today nothing is more important than mobile technologies that provide seamless cross-platform shopping experiences," Cantrell said. "As mobile rapidly changes both consumers' expectations and the overall shopping experience, the IMI will serve as the go-to source for information for retailers, their business partners, the media and interested parties across the world on the practical aspects of implementation and resources for mobile retailing."
A centerpiece of the IMI is NRFMobile.com, a website that offers users the opportunity to view original NRF research, infographics, policy information and more.
Key elements of the IMI's work include:
- Thought leadership: IMI will bring together retailers and other experts in the field to discuss and advance the future of mobile retailing and serve as the central hub of information on the topic;
- Educational content and events: Through its website, policy initiatives and nationwide events, the IMI will educate retailers and their communities on mobile trends and challenges; and
- Original research: The IMI will produce and release research related to mobile retail trends, including consumer habits, mobile marketing and industry best practices.


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ULM Gets Petty With Peddie – From the Bird's Nest
On May 13, UL Monroe interim baseball coach Bruce Peddie had the interim tag removed from his title, becoming the Warhawks' head coach, replacing Jeff Schexnaider, who was fired near the midway point of the season.
And, there was good reason for the decision to make Peddie the permanent coach. Peddie had taken a moribund team and played .500 ball the rest of the season and the Warhawks qualified for the Sun Belt Tournament. You could have won a lot of money making that prediction back when ULM was 1-5 in league play, and looked bad doing it.
The day the announcement was made, I tweeted it was a good move by the ULM administration, particularly Athletic Director Brian Wickstrom.
It took Wickstrom oh, about thirty seconds to give that a re-tweet.
Once the season ended, it was discovered that Peddie was only being offered a one year deal. Tabby Soignier, the ULM beat writer (and recently promoted to sports editor) discovered Peddie's contract was on the UL Board of Supervisors' agenda for their July meeting, despite being told by Wickstrom the contract wouldn't be drawn up until June or July, according to Soignier's article.
Note to AD. Do not tell fibs to the media. And, don't compound it by suggesting you're being thrown under the bus. It's not the media's job to make you look good.
Soignier's article, which appeared in the June 3 issue of the Monroe News-Star said Wickstrom referred all questions about the contract length to ULM President Dr. Nick Bruno.
Now, anyone who follows college athletics will tell you that a one-year contract is the kiss of death. It's hard to sign kids in the spring signing period to help the 2015 team and will be even harder to sign players in the Fall, 2015 signing period.
Can you see the conversation now?
"Son, if you go ahead and sign with us, you can make an immediate contribution to this team."
"Coach, I like you. I want to play for you. But are you going to be my coach?"
"I don't know, son. Maybe. Maybe not."
Soignier contacted the ULM president. who was quoted in the article as saying:
"I don't buy (other schools) using it against you (in recruiting)," Bruno said. "The kids dealing with coach Peddie who are here and the opportunity to talk to coaches who have talked to him, so far they are working hard to be successful for him also."
Schools don't use it against you in recruiting? Really?
Methinks Dr. Bruno needs to spend more time finding out that one year contracts are recruiting killers and less time fighting about the athletic branding of a certain state institution.
All of the other coaches of major sports (football, men's and women's basketball) at ULM have multi year contracts. (The same is true of the coaches at UL.) Bruno says the reason Peddie was only offered a one year deal is because he was already at ULM and didn't have to uproot his family (whom of course, he uprooted in order to take the assistant's job.) and didn't have to deal with APR issues like some of the other coaches at the school.
And, that makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.
Bruno also said Peddie would have a chance to prove himself. Wait a second. Wasn't that the reason he got the job? Did he not turn around a terrible baseball team? Evidently someone decided that wasn't proof enough.
For Peddie, it's just another challenge. And, believe it or not, he's in a better position than he was the last time.
Tom Walter resigned at the University of New Orleans to take the head coaching job at Wake Forest after the 2009 season. Peddie was promoted to head coach. Now, UNO had been facing severe financial issues ever since Hurricane Katrina. A proposed student fee for athletics was voted down. But Peddie took over the Privateers, believing things would work out.
He found out otherwise in November. Scholarship offers were withdrawn across the board as UNO decided it would drop to Division III, a non-scholarship division. With the rug already pulled out from under him, Peddie took the Privateers into a lame duck season in the Sun Belt Conference and went 13-39. Following that season, all players were free to transfer to other schools. (You may remember Mike Petello and Joe Zimmerman, who transferred into the Ragin' Cajuns program.)
In 2011, playing as a Division I independent, and with all but a few players opting out, UNO went 4-50. By this time, the administration had decided that UNO would be in Division II.
In 2012 UNO played a half D-1 and half D-2 schedule, with a scheduling agreement with the Gulf South Conference, the league that had accepted them for membership. They went 17-27.
UNO then decided they were going to stay in Division I after all and they were accepted into the Southland Conference. They would have to play one more year as a D-1 independent. So, UNO played a D-1 schedule with D-II and D-III talent.
They went 7-44. Peddie's team was only in a conference for his first year and that was a lame duck season. Before he could coach a game in the Southland Conference, he was fired.
So Peddie will enter 2015 with a team that just lost eleven seniors. He has the players that Schexnaider signed last fall, and those he was able to ink this spring, despite not being given a vote of confidence by his employers.
Peddie is firmly behind the eight ball. But he will put his head down and go to work.
After all,this isn't the first time Bruce Peddie has been set up to fail.


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BROOKSVILLE — After a tough schedule to start the season, Springstead was actually looking forward to squaring off with rival Central on Friday night.
That anticipation showed as the Eagles' bats came alive in a 9-7 victory over the Bears.
Springstead (2-3) crossed the plate only nine times, but it took stellar defensive play from Central shortstop McKenzie Burns to stop the bleeding on multiple occasions. While the Eagles had 16 base hits off Central pitching, Burns started double plays three times.
"It was a weird game. Anytime you get 16 hits, you should score 20 or 21 runs," Springstead coach Craig Swartout said. "They did a heck of a job defensively, especially their shortstop."
Springstead pitcher Alexis Adams (complete game, five strikeouts, two walks, five earned runs) was also one of the stars for the Eagles at the plate. She finished 3-for-4 with two doubles and two RBIs.
One of the club's seniors, Jamie Lee Basinger, started at shortstop, but she was pulled early after being hobbled with a right knee injury. Swartout considers her day-to-day.
Springstead centerfielder Brittany Martinez, who shifted to short to replace Basinger, was another standout with the bat. She capped off the night by going 3-for-4 with two RBIs and a run scored.
Swartout expects the win over Central (3-2) will be only the beginning of the tide turning for his club now that the offense is producing.
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The Knesset will meet in special session tomorrow to discuss the Jackson Amendment which is now before the U.S. Senate, and Jewish emigration from the Soviet Union.
The matter was placed on the agenda at the request of Likud, the new non-Labor alignment. The Israeli government has taken no official position on the Jackson Amendment on grounds that it is an internal matter of the U.S. But the Knesset may make some move in favor of the measure although the Labor Alignment has supported the government policy of non-interference.
Gahal, the largest faction in the Likud coalition, has been active in demanding that Israel indicate to the U.S. that it favors adoption of the Jackson Amendment. Gahal leader Menachem Beigin has repeatedly accused the government of not doing enough for Soviet Jews. The Knesset turned down his demand for support of the Jackson Amendment before it adjourned for summer recess.


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A two-year-old Rutherford County boy was airlifted to Vanderbilt University Medical Center Wednesday after a near drowning.
It happened in the 2800 block of Roy Arnold Road in Murfreesboro.
Authorities said the child had been swimming in his family's four-foot above ground pool earlier in the day before going inside.
The boy was later discovered face down in the pool. Family members immediately began performing CPR.
"He had not been in the water long," Sgt. Chris Kauffman said. "He screamed and cried."
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DORTMUND, GERMANY – Japan striker Shinji Okazaki struck his 12th and 13th goals of the season on Saturday but Borussia Dortmund beat Mainz 4-2 in the Bundesliga to secure its place in the group stages of next season's UEFA Champions League.
Okazaki canceled out Milos Jojic's opener for Dortmund when he let fly with a shot from 20 meters that ricocheted off Mats Hummels in the 14th minute.
Robert Lewandowski then put Dortmund ahead once again, only for Okazaki to pounce on Nuri Sahin's misplaced back pass and equalize for the second time in the match in the 54th.
Okazaki's 13th goal saw him tie the single-season goals record by a Japanese player in Europe's top leagues. Manchester United's Shinji Kagawa scored 13 when he played for Dortmund in the 2011-2012 campaign.
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The believability quotient for Alex Rodriguez is approximately that of Charles Ponzi, Lance Armstrong and Pinocchio, if not lower. Remember, this is the man-child who admitted four years ago to using performance-enhancing drugs earlier in the decade, calling himself "young and stupid" and vowing to "regain the trust of the American public." So now, after the other 12 players nailed in this year's Biogenesis scandal have fessed up to PED involvement and served their suspensions, A-Rod wants us to believe he's the unlucky 13th who has been wronged by Major League Baseball?
Really? And he's also having dinner and playing high-stakes poker with Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy and the Little Mermaid?
This would be LOL funny if word of his two lawsuits, one against MLB and the other against a New York Yankees team doctor and a New York hospital, didn't come with the crux of the postseason upon us. It's repulsive enough that Rodriguez would ask for a second chance in 2009, promise he was through with steroids, then have the audacity to use them again. It's even more despicable that he hurls his stinkbomb in October, by design, and tries to ruin everyone's enjoyment of the sport's showcase month.
To accuse A-Rod of trying to hookwink us is to tread too lightly. He is so disturbed, he has managed to detach himself from his magnificent lie and convince himself that he's somehow a victim. In his delusional state, he thinks MLB and commissioner Bud Selig have conspired "to improperly marshal evidence that they hope to use to destroy the reputation and career of Alex Rodriguez." Maybe, if Rodriguez previously hadn't been involved with PEDs and if mountains of evidence hadn't been compiled in the convictions of the other dozen Biogenesis bums, we might be more willing to hear him out.
But he clearly is a desperate soul who insists on being a weasel to the bitter end. Do you recall hIs lame attempt to slap a ball out of a pitcher's glove as he ran to first base? Welcome to the courtroom version. I normally don't go around quoting Selig and his people, knowing they've had their own phony moments. But MLB's statement concerning Rodriguez's legal action was spot-on: He's conveniently forgetting that the primary issue at hand is whether he used PEDs, and if MLB did use morally disreputable tactics to bust him, as he claims, the main headline remains. That is, A-Rod lied and juiced after promising he never ever, ever, ever, ever would again.
Said the statement: "While we vehemently deny the allegations in the complaint, none of those allegations is relevant to the real issue: whether Mr. Rodriguez violated the Joint Drug Prevention and Treatment Program by using and possessing numerous forms of prohibited performance-enhancing substances, including testosterone and human growth hormone, over the course of multiple years and whether he violated the Basic Agreement by attempting to cover-up his violations of the Program by engaging in a course of conduct intended to obstruct and frustrate the Office of the Commissioner's investigation."
Rodriguez and battalion of lawyers and public-relations people, who number in the dozens, aim to drag MLB into court and air Selig's own dirty business into the public domain. Part of the lawsuit claims he is being scapegoated as baseball's big-ticket juicer — Seiig's way of shrouding his own failings as The Steroids Commissioner and waiting 15 years before addressing the PEDs crisis with a hammer, as he did in the Biogenesis scandal. I don't disagree that Selig, as the lawsuit claims, vows to "make an example of Mr. Rodriguez … to gloss over Selig's past inaction and tacit approval of the use of performance enhancing substances in baseball … in an attempt to secure his legacy as the `savior' of America's pastime."
But again, the central question: Did A-Rod lie and juice after promising he never ever, ever, ever, ever would again?
Certainly, it is troubling if Selig and his men used unsavory tactics to reel in Rodriguez. Did MLB slip $5 million to the Biogenesis ring leader, Anthony Bosch, to cooperate in an A-Rod smear? Did Selig's investigators intimidate witnesses and their families — including a tape-recorded threat obtained by ESPN in which Patrick Houlihan, an MLB labor-relations lawyer, warned a potential witness he'd report him to law enforcement if he didn't cooperate? These are thug methods, and, if true, the approach would be as shameful as the years of complicity when MLB and the owners collected riches from PED-ripped sluggers who re-energized the sport's popularity.
Immoral? Yes. And if Selig has left even the smallest of cracks in his foundation of evidence against A-Rod — forcing arbitrator Fredric Horowitz to overturn or adjust MLB's 211-game suspension of Rodriguez — then Selig won't have to wait until December 2014 to retire as commissioner. He'd have to crawl from New York to Wisconsin in disgrace. But be reminded that Alex Rodriguez is a liar from way back.
"The lawsuit appears to be out of the Lance Armstrong playbook and we all know how that worked out for him," Bosch said in a statement per ESPN that also claimed he "hasn't received $5 (from MLB), let alone $5 million."
Trying to determine who is less honorable, Alex Rodriguez or MLB, is to ask the same about RIchard Nixon and Bernie Madoff. They're both evil symbols of a dirty, sleazy period in American sports history. For instance, are we expected to believe that dozens of A-Rod supporters holding a candelight vigil outside MLB's Park Avenue offices actually are doing it of their own volition? With all the aggrieved parties in this world legitimately worthy of a candelight vigil, these folks chose A-Rod and his flimsy cause? My guess is, he and his people are paying them, using an embarrassing public-relations ploy as a backdrop as he stops and talks to the media after his daily work at the hearings.
"We're in a process," Rodriguez told reporters, per ESPN. "The process has to be respected. What I do know is that I'm very happy with the support. I want to give my thanks to all of the Hispanics in the entire world, here in New York City and (who've) been here the entire week. Keep supporting me. Thanks a lot."
Do yourself a favor, America. Keep watching the playoff games. Admire Clayton Kershaw, the best pitcher in the game. See Craig Kimbrel, heir to Mariano Rivera as the most dominant closer. Feel good for the Pittsburgh fans who've suffered so long. Ask what Wil Myers was thinking when he gave up on the fly ball at Fenway, showing how delicate the Tampa Bay Way can be and how easily it can collapse with one fundamental flub-up. Wonder if the Red Sox can keep winning if their beards grow to ZZ Top-length. Consider the antithetical ramifications of a Dodgers-Cardinals series for the National League pennant, and the jumping jacks at the TV networks if Los Angeles, St. Louis, Boston and Detroit are the final four.
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