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"Good stuff... I used russet potatoes because I didn't have any red, but followed the recipe as directed otherwise. I would make this again! Made for NKOTB Tag Game, 1/29/09 - NELady."
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Dec 20, 2010Don't look at MegaMind – Team Unite as your typical Movie tie-in, but more as an alternative to your usual party game and you might really enjoy it.
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The latest term for it is Ethical Will. It means passing on to our grownchildren and their children our values and the wisdom we've garnered over the years--or just a sense of the life we've lived and the lessons we've learned. So helpful to have a term for one of the two main parts of leaving a legacy. One, of course, is leaving to future generations and other loved ones an orderly and fair division of our worldly goods; the other--and it's of equal importance--is sharing a sense of who we are, where we've been and what we value.
When it comes to the Ethical Will, some of us take a traditional route: we sit down and sketch out a memoir or make a list of points we want remembered. But there are lots of tech tools that can help us make it more engaging. One is to create a PowerPoint slide show full of family photos, favorite sayings--yours and your favorite Aunt's--books that have importance to you, poems that bear quoting, audio clips of favorite music, even video clips of TV characters who've said something worth remembering or so amusing it will remind everyone of your delightful persona.
There's personal enrichment in the process of putting your life on paper or video. As Baines put it, "Putting together an ethical will early on helps you live life with more intention."
Besides, who doesn't like to tell their story--and tell it without interruption.
Wednesday is link day.
The post on Susan Adcox's grandparenting blog offers eight practical pointers on buying gifts--holiday, birthday or otherwise--for grandkids. That is, gifts that won't tick off their parents, aka our grown children, when we 're spreading the joy to their kids.
As Susan notes, many of us simply ask the parents for a list of suggestions or buy a gift card to a favorite store, but for those of us who like to shop and to surprise, Susan has some worthwhile do's and don'ts.
Her subtitle reads: "Keep Parents in Mind When Making Choices for Youngest Generation." That covers a lot of the territory. Her list of do's and don'ts gets into particulars. Here are two:
DO check with the parents, especially before buying a "special" gift, such as a first bicycle or American Girl Doll. They may be planning to buy the gift themselves.
DON'T give toys that require a lot of space or particular care. Large toys, for instance, aren't a good choice for families who live in small spaces; toys that require a lot of supervision, such as chemistry sets, aren't optimal for families with crowded schedules.
When our kids were small and living under our roof, gift giving on birthdays or for holidays was relatively simple: If we could afford it, we gave them the toy or toys of their dreams. Once they enter the independence of adulthood, do we still go all out with our gift giving? And should we expect them to shower on us an upgrade on their previous sweet, sentimental gift-giving?
That's a question that was posed to Carolyn Hax vis a vis Christmas gift-giving. A reader who had "always done it up for xmas, with nice gifts and some needed things, like underwear," wanted to know if it was time to stop since her 21-year-old daughter "does not put a lot of thought into gifts. My husband and I got a gift certificate to a hardware store last Christmas. That was it." The reader wonders how to balance the scales. "At some point should we give as we get?"
What does Hax have to say? She doesn't have "any problem with the idea that kids stay kids vs. graduate to equals. It really depends on the individuals, the specific families and the needs or standing of each member."
Personally, when kids are 20-somethings and struggling to find their footing in their careers and building lives that don't have their parents at the core, the last thing I would want them to do--especially if they are financially independent--is to spend their food money on store-bought gifts for their parents.
There is another way, and Hax had a better idea. It had nothing to do with expecting our kids to buy us lavish gifts or for us to continue raining toys down on them: "A parent with some savings can give out Christmas checks to grown children without infantilizing them." (I second the motion: cash is the gift that always fits, is never the wrong color and is always useful.] "At the same time," Hax points out, "children can give back to their parents the kinds of things that younger people tend to have in abundance, like energy and, literally, heavy lifting. As long as you all look out for each other, how you work out the details is up to you."
That's a balance to hold in mind as the holiday season gins up its gift-giving momentum ever earlier. (For more on the annoyance of that, check our Nancy Wolf's blog post on Witty Worried and Wolf.
Child rearing's goal is simple: Our once-dependent infants are weaned and otherwise taught to stand on their own feet. We can pat ourselves on the back if our kids are launched into the world as independent adults. Oh they can still call home to whine if things aren't going well. Parents are a safe place and wise head. So long as they don't look to us to take over and solve their problems, they're independent. Congratulations.
But it's not easy to feel good about it. At least not at first. In his web page on adolescence, psychologist Carl Pickhardt addresses some of the emotional trials parents face as their adolescent kids move into and through what he calls "trailing independence"--an age range he pegs at 18 to 23. Specifically he writes about why we feel sadness when the kids move out and on and operate independently of parents, family, and home. "This is the last letting go in the process of Detachment Parenting of adolescents," he writes, "and it can feel very hard to do – forsaking the old management role, the sense of purpose, the accustomed authority, and the daily association."
He writes that "the last battle between holding on and letting go is not just between parent and adolescent, but agonizingly unfolds within the parents themselves. For a while the empty nest can result in the empty parent."
Pickhardt points to three D's of pain -- why we feel a loss rather than joy when our kids successfully launch.
--First, we're Dethroned. We've lost ruling influence over decisions our kids make.
--Second, we are at more of a Distance. Socially and geographically our kids are moving away as they focus --appropriately-- on building a new life.
--Third, we are Demoted. Our kids are creating a new system of relationships that they give a higher immediate priority than attending to us.
Here's Pickhardt's killer app--as in adaptation--to the three Ds:
"What is extremely important for parents to understand about the dethronement, distance, and demotion ...is that this change does NOT mean they are less loved; they are only less necessary."
"To a degree," he continues, "the return for their self-sacrificial investment in parenting an adolescent to independence is this sweet sadness of success, just as once upon a long time ago the little girl or boy's entry into adolescence caused parents to give up the precious childhood time together they would never have again. The great hardship of Detachment Parenting is enduring loss from letting go."
Or as my friend Dick put it: "My kids are independent. Damn it."
A few years ago--before my Grands had the opportunity to travel or live abroad--I would spend half an hour at the end of a travel-abroad day tapping out an email to them. I wrote about what Paterfamilias and I saw or did in the far-away country--Argentina, Vietnam--we were visiting. The email went to our grown children's accounts but they dutifully read the reports aloud to the kids. It felt good to play a small part in opening up the world to them and for us to think about what we saw and did that would amuse or interest a child. We were pretty pleased with ourselves.
A friend's new book, Dear Class: Traveling Around the World with Mrs. J, has taken sharing to a whole 'nother level.
The book, by Jane Stein, is about the around-the-world trip Jane's mother took in 1963 when she was a recently divorced teacher with a newly empty nest. She made stops in Burma (when it was called that), Turkey, Taiwan, and Japan among other countries. Jane used her mother's travel diaries to craft the material into letters, used side-bars to update the information (China was closed to Jane's mother and all U.S. citizens at the time Mrs. J traveled) and added child-friendly information to create her book. There are tidbits on foods to cook, art projects to make (such as a Rangoli, the colorful geometric designs painted in front of houses in India as a sign of welcome) and details about snake charmers (India) and evil eye beads (Turkey), so called because they looked like eyeballs.
Dear Class is an adventure story (I'm reader-testing it on my Grands), and I wondered what it was like for Jane to pass her mother's travel legacy on to her grown children. Here's what she said in answer to that question:
After my mother died--at 90--I found the travel diaries in a box in her closet. At first I thought I would save the box for my grandchildren and let them deal with it--even though I didn't have grandchildren at the time. But when I started to read them, I could hear her speaking. I decided to re-craft the logs into letters that captured her voice. Working on it re-acquainted me with her in a funny way. How adventurous she was. In Turkey she stepped into what she thought was a shared taxi only to find it was a car filled with soccer players heading home from a practice; they cheerfully dropped her off at her hotel. In Taiwan she walked around the streets of Tapei at night. The streets were so gaily lit and crowded that she said she felt like she was at a giant party.
My children were out of college and married when my mother died, so they remember her well. They loved the letters. When I told them that a book agent had suggested I re-set the story in the present time, not in the 1960s when my mother went around the world on her own, they wanted to keep it set in the original time just as I did. They felt a certain proprietariness. The book became a special bond between us.
I would love to have had my mother see the book. I can hear her say, "You're writing a book about me?" It was a lot of fun to reconnect with her and go on this adventure with her.
Years ago, when one of my children got engaged, the phone rang the next morning. "Am I calling too early?" It was my child's future mother-in-law--a woman I didn't know who lived in a city far from ours. She was full of excitement about the happiness she foresaw for her child and mine. She wasn't quite right (that marriage didn't work out) but I still remember how wondrous her enthusiasm was and how happy it made me feel that she was so thrilled to have my child become part of her family.
I thought of that moment when a friend told me her story. When her 20-something son, who lives in the Midwest, got engaged, she and her husband found out just minutes before their son's boyhood friends did. Within an hour, those friends "showed up at our doorstep with champagne for us," my friend Betsy says. And a suggestion. They wanted to have a party for the "old gang" and the parents of that gang--to celebrate the engagement and the inter-family friendships that had lasted for all those growing-up years. Betsy agreed. The party would be at her house but it would be casual and 'the boys" would take charge of emailing invitations.
The engagement glow had barely worn off when Betsy got hit with this question: What about inviting the bride-to-be's parents? Betsy didn't know them, and they lived in another city hundreds of miles away. "It was hard for me to get my head around this," Betsy says. "Can't I have an informal party in my own house with my old friends?"
Evidently not. "I got off on the wrong foot with her parents," Betsy says. Since then, Betsy has immersed herself in the reading of many books about parental etiquette for weddings and engagements. What she learned from "the books" was that "I should have reached out to them. I should have sent her parents flowers."
As to the wedding itself, her parents are doing a lot of the planning but they have not asked Betsy for advice. "I call and check in about the color of dress to wear, that kind of stuff. It' tricky when dealing with your son's in-laws-to-be. You don't want to compete with them. You don't want to do the wrong thing." But it's so easy to, well, stick your foot in the wedding cake.
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They worry about their financial future. Their average age is 30, but saving for retirement also looms large among their fiscal worries. And who do our Millennial-aged grown children trust to provide them with information about these financial issues? Us. Thus spake a recent Fidelity Investments' Millennial Money Study.
While they say--72% of them anyway--that they have no problem broaching financial issues with us, most of them --67%--have not had detailed conversations with us about such important issues as estate planning, health and eldercare, and covering living expenses in retirement. As to what we might be leaving them when we pass on, 41% say they have not had any conversations at all with us about our will and estate planning.
The survey is a follow-up to Fidelity's 2014 Intra-Family Generational Finance study, which was an online poll of U.S. parents and their adult children that looked at the levels of agreement between families on key financial topics. To be part of the survey, parents had to be at least 55 years of age, have an adult child older than 30 and have investable assets of at least $100,000. Children qualified if they were at least 30 years of age, had at least $10,000 in savings. The newer survey asks many of the same financial questions to and about Millennials. The Millennials in this study average 30 years of age. Just under half of them are married, have children as well as a 401 (k) style savings plan. As to their parents, one-third of us are retired.
Some of the financial findings from the survey:
They may trust us but 27% tell us nothing when it comes to money.
The top three financial issues Millennials say they are tryingn to deal with include: accumulate more savings for retirement (52%), pay off credit card debt (41%), and pay off student loans (28%).
Two-thirds think it is more acceptable now for children to move back home after college, and 32% say they are more financially dependent on their parents than their parents were at the same age.
Nearly one-half of Millennials have received some kind of financial assistance from their parents at some point since leaving home. Topping the assistance list are cell phone bills, car insurance and groceries.
You can see the survey in all its detail here: The Fidelity Investments Millennial Money Study: Facts ...
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Try giving your post-grad daughter or your 15-year-old grandson a Roth IRA for their birthday, and you may find the 'thank you's' perfunctory at best. But a starter retirement plan like a Roth IRA--you open it for them and give it a funding boost--is a gift that keeps giving. If they follow through on it, it could be the road to making them a millionaire.
At least that's what the projections are from the likes of Vanguard, the investment company, if they keep up the contributions. Vanguard sees the Roth IRA as the road to riches, millionaire style, if the plan is started early. Vanguard projections estimate that a 20-year-old investor who begins saving $200 per month in a Roth IRA, invested in a portfolio of 80% stocks and 20% bonds, would have about a 55% chance to accumulate over $1 million by age 65. On the other hand, if a 30-year-old investor follows the same program, the likelihood of being a millionaire drops to 14%. Why this works is the miracle of compounding--the process where investments make returns, and those returns make returns. The rule of 72 clicks in--that's where you take the rate of return you're making (such as an interest rate) and divide it into 72; that tells you how many years it will take for your money to double.
The nifty thing about Roth IRA is that, should there be a financial emergency, the contributions to it (but not the earnings) can be withdrawn for any reason. (That would, of course, impact the millionaire scenario.)In the meantime, the account is generating earnings that can continue to compound.
The Vanguard graph below shows how the wealth curve bends upward as time goes on (using the $200 a month from age 20 as an example) —especially as you get to 40 years and beyond. In this example, it takes 35 years for the median investor to get to half a million dollars. Then just 10 years for the next half-million. Then just 8 years to tack on another million.
Median projected value for an IRA with a $200 monthly contribution*
"I'm an adorer." This is my daughter's college roommate speaking--several years removed from her college days. We are having coffee together--she has come east for a conference and had some spare time. After running down the ages and genders of her three children, Paterfamilias asks her what kind of parent she is. With a half-guilty, semi-embarrassed smile, she gives the "adorer" answer.
I know exactly what she's saying. I was too, I tell her. I thought my daughter [her roommate] was the jewel in the family crown and that our son was the most amusing person to ever walk, well, if not the earth, at least our small part of it. A friend--and I use that word advisedly--once told me that she and her family used to laugh (and not in a good way) about how I would gaze at my son when he talked and laugh so over-enthusiastically (in her opinion) at all his jokes. Oh well. maybe she didn't find her kids as delightful as I found mine. Clearly, she wasn't an adorer.
My point is that even if my delight in my children went overboard, it didn't hurt them then --and it doesn't hurt them now. I am still an adorer--of them and now of my grandchildren as well. (To my credit, if I am over the top on this, let the record show that I don't force tales of adorableness on friends.) Not that I don't have reality-check moments about my children, but I like to think that a parent who thinks her kids are the greatest may be blind but is also offering her kids a solid base to grow on. They can graduate from my home to a life lived independent of me and know that someone out there--someone who knows their messy habits and teeny tiny temper tantrums--thinks they are wonderful.
So adore on, I tell my daughter's roommate. There's nothing to feel embarrassed about.
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Our son has packed up his family of five and moved them to London for three months. They are living in a sweet little house in a leafy neighborhood. They can walk to several parks. They've played Scrabble at a nearby pub, climbed Primose Hill and visited Bath--spending some time at Farleigh Hungerford Castle. The two eldest kids have kicked the soccer ball in North London near Wembly and are trying out for youth football teams there.
We don't know this because our son, daughter-in-law or any of the kids have emailed, texted, Skyped or cell-phoned to tell us so. In fact, there's been very little personal interchange. We know what we know from the Facebook posts, photos and lengthy caption descriptions--down to their visit to Bath and their delight in a tour of the 4th century Roman baths --that are on our son's Facebook page and on a Shutterfly account he set up.
Even though it's informative, the means of communication feels impersonal . We don't know what the 6-year-old thought about the walking tour of Medieval London or how the 11- and 13-year-olds assess the football/soccer played by Londoners their age. Or how the home-schooling is going. We know what they're doing, and we can see by the sweaters they're wearing that it's a lot chillier in London than it is here, but that's it.
It isn't the same as keeping in touch by Skype or Google Chat--something we did regularly with our daughter and her family when they lived in Berlin for a year. Clearly, three months is not a year, so there isn't the same need. Still, we wouldn't mind the chance to sit in their kitchen--virtually, as we did in our daughter's Berlin apartment--and chat about this and that.
We shouldn't complain. We're part of a general (albeit select) audience. This is how information is shared in the digital age.
We're not alone in our social media half-life. In answer to reader-parents who wanted to know what to do about the online means their son uses to inform them (and everyone else) about his activities, Philip Galanes, the New York Time's Social Qs columnist, suggested this: "Find a way to stop feeling slighted by your son's use of social media. It is not about you....Think of your son as a newfangled memorist. That's what his blog and social media posts are aiming for. And read them. What better way to show him that you're interested in his life."
We're heeding that advice and staying au courant. We're also solving our personal communication issue the old-fashioned way. We're cashing in our frequent flyer miles for a week-long visit across the pond. Nothing social media about that.
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The way around the issue is to have grown children sign a HIPAA authorization form. It allows health care providers to disclose a person's health information to anyone specified in the form. Your child can also stipulate that certain information is out of bounds. So they can still keep you from learning about medical issues that touch on sex, drugs and other personal stuff. But you'll be in a position to be there for them in a real emergency.
I have just come from having dinner with a woman involved in an academic program for health technicians. She has just finished telling me how stunned she is when parents drop by to complain about or protest the grade or other assessment their grown child has received. My dinner companion is a woman who also makes some hiring decisions and recommendations for them. When presented with a helicoptering incident, she says she makes a mental black mark that here is a student who may lack the independence to function in the workplace.
She isn't saying the helicoptering behavior is pervasive--just that she sees an increasing amount of it. Having heard of even worse interventions--parents sitting in the waiting room while a child is interviewed for a job; going into the interview with their child--I am not all that surprised.
I was more surprised when I awoke the next morning to a story on a Washington Post blog that questioned whether the hyped stories about overprotective helicoptering parents match the reality. There followed a blog post by Alfie Kohn (www.alfiekohn.org), whose most recent book is The Myth of the Spoiled Child: Challenging the Conventional Wisdom About Children and Parenting.
Wherever you fall in the debate over overly protective parents, here are some excerpts from Kohn's post--with links to his research--that apply to the parenting of grown children.
On intervening during the college years:
--"Yes, most parents are in touch with their college-age children on a regular basis. But communicating isn't the same thing as intervening on a child's behalf, and the latter seems to be fairly rare. The National Survey of Student Engagement (NSSE), which reached out to more than 9,000 students at 24 colleges and universities, found that only 13 percent of college freshmen and 8 percent of seniors said a parent had frequently intervened to help them solve problems."
On intervening in the workplace:
--"Michigan State University researchers found that 77 percent of the 725 employers they surveyed 'hardly ever witnessed a parent while hiring a college senior.' "
On intervening in a grown child's life outside of college and the workplace
--"The only study on the topic I could find, published in 2012, reported that just one in five or six parents seemed to be intensely involved in their children's lives."
The effects of helicopter parenting [HP] on adult children
--"Three small studies have raised concerns about the more extreme versions of HP, connecting it to anxiety or a lower sense of well-being. ... the items on these questionnaires were mostly tapping how controlling the parents were. If the problem is control rather than indulgence, that forces us to rethink the "coddled kids" narrative offered by many critics of HP."
--"It's not clear that HP caused the problems with which it was associated. The researchers in one study acknowledged that unhappy students "may view their parents as more intrusive." Those in another admitted that "when parents perceive their child as depressed, they may be more likely to 'hover.'" In other words, pre-existing unhappiness may have drawn the parents in, or it may have led the students to interpret their parents' actions as excessive.
--Other research makes the "case in favor of parents' being actively connected and involved with their young-adult children. The NSSE survey didn't find a lot of HP going on, but students who did have such parents reported 'higher levels of [academic] engagement and more frequent use of deep learning activities.' In fact, children of helicopter parents were more satisfied with every aspect of their college experience."
--"Support (not limited to money) from one's parents may be helpful, if not critical, when students graduate with a crushing load of debt."
-- "Most developmental psychologists have concluded that the quality of relationships, including those with one's parents, continues to matter even past childhood. Good parenting is less about pushing one's offspring to be independent at a certain age than being responsive to what a particular child needs.
--"Independence is closely connected to an individualistic worldview that is far from universal. Some cultures are more likely to emphasize the value of interdependence. And the cultural bias that seems to fuel condemnations of HP has a very real impact on students' well-being. A fascinating series of studies published in 2012 by a multi-university research team revealed that "predominantly middle-class cultural norms of independence" are particularly ill-suited for young adults who are the first in their families to attend college."
"No one says Thank You." That is my friend Lily's complaint as the first few weeks of a six-week visit--by her daughter and her family--unfurl. Her daughter, who lives half a world away in Jakarta, was here on an extended business trip, 7-year-old son in tow. While Lily's daughter went to work, Lily entertained her grandson. Two weeks later, her son-in-law arrived with the 5-year-old granddaughter. While he took care of errands and family business, Lily took care of both grand kids, stocked the fridge, made the meals, kept the house in order, invited her other daughter and her family over for get-togethers--and put her own life and activities on hold.
Six weeks is a long visit--and exhausting for everyone, visitor and host alike. Midway through the visit, a small irritant led to a venting of frustrations. Lily's daughter let her mother know all the things that were bothering her about the visit and the relationship between Lily and the other grandchildren. For her part, Lily let her daughter know how under-appreciated she felt. That ticked her daughter off even more. She told her mother that the visit was of great inconvenience to her husband. He had to use up vacation time from his job in order to bring Lily's granddaughter here for a visit with Lily. Now he wouldn't be able to take time off during the Christmas holidays for a family vacation.
What do you do when your grown child not only doesn't thank you for taking care of her and her family--at some cost to you (Lily was unable to keep up with many of her out-of-the-home responsibilities and activities) --but adds a guilt trip?
Sometimes it's hard to tell whether the outburst is about the visit or a rehashing of sibling rivalry ["You favor my sister's children over mine!"], the dislocation of being away from home [favorite foods or toys are unavailable] or the airing of real grievances. Longer visits present more time, opportunity and memory jolts to bring up unpleasant or unresolved family disputes.
Lily chose to put out the fire. She apologized to her son-in-law for the inconvenience and thanked him for the trade-off he had to make. By the time he left for a two week visit with his parents on the West Coast--taking his two children with him (Lily, it seems, was not the only one to blame for loss of vacation over grandchild visitation), Lily found her relationship with her daughter had greatly improved. The last two weeks of the visit fell into a pleasant rhythm. With the son-in-law and grandchildren away, Lily was able to get back to most of her activities while her daughter commuted to work. That didn't mean Lily wasn't relieved and happy to see her daughter's family board the plane back to Jakarta.
The good news? Lily says friends no longer complain to her about their exhaustion after a three-day family visit. She survived a six week stint.
Think our millennial kids can manage without our help? Think again. While most of us grew up in families where we fended for ourselves after we graduated from college--paid our rent, bought our food and clothes--times have changed. Not just here. In the U.K. as well. There, a survey finds that the bank of mum and dad has expanded its base to include the repository of Nan and Grandad as well.
Here in the U.S., a recent survey at VibrantNation.com found that 84 percent of those polled said they cover more costs and expenses for their grown kids than their parents did for them. Half report they spend more than $5,000 a year on their adult children's expenses. In this connected and digitized world, they are contributing toward more than the rent or the groceries.
Here's what we boomer moms and dads report we are paying for (for our college and post-college kids):59 percent are paying for the adult child's cell phone (a percentage that doesn't decline as the child reaches age 30).
In the U.K., a survey looked at help young adults were getting on education costs. A Saga Savings poll found that more than a third of Britain's estimated 11.8 million grandparents have funded, or are planning to help fund, their grandchildren's studies--to the tune, on average, of nearly £4,000 [around $6,600].
That's a good deal more than grandparents said they were saving and contributing to university costs five years' ago. Then the total pledged was a £1,000 [$1,660]. Tuition there is roughly one-half to one-third of here.
On vacation this summer, we are invited by Uber son and family to join them at their condo for dinner. They've spent their day doing things they love to do--skipping rocks down at the creek, picking wild berries from bushes and swimming in the pool. Paterfamilias and I, ensconsed in a nearby hotel, had walked a hiking trail and been to town to check out the crafts scene.
This particular evening, my daughter-in-law and my grandson had just gotten back from a 3-hour mountain bike ride on trails in the foothills of the mountain. It had been a challenging, adrenalin-rush ride; they were both exhilarated by the adventure.
It was all we talked about at dinner: the rocks, tree roots, sudden twists in the trail, sharp uphills, scraped elbows. Tales of other rides by other mountain-biking members of the family were relived and remembered--including some parental falls and pratfalls into or on top of bushes.
Paterfamilias and I don't mountain-bike ride. We are road bicyclists. We tried to connect our experiences with theirs (the closeness of a fast-moving truck versus the challenge of knee-high tree roots) but that flopped. So did our attempts after a while to change the subject.
That's when one of the realities of parenting adult children hit home: We are no longer in charge. Not even close. Of course, when our kids were young and growing up in our house or going on vacation with us, we ran the dinner-table conversation. Now when we're on their turf, our grown kids own the flow of conversation, and we don't necessarily know what it is or how it works. It isn't as though we're cut out of the conversation. We're welcome to join in, but it's sometimes hard to figure out how. PF and I often remind each other, 'We're no longer center stage; we're bit players now in our children's lives.' It's one thing to say it. It's another to feel it at the dinner table.
On her blog, psychotherapist Kathy McCoy talks about re-framing the feelings of being on the side lines: Instead of feeling we are a bit player, we could see ourselves as having a front row seat. McCoy likes to quote her Aunt Molly on the changing family dynamic as we age: "We're welcome at the party, but the party isn't for us."
Nor is leading the dinner conversation. If the table talk isn't to our liking or interest, tough luck. Feign interest. Try to connect. Listen for nuggets of insight. It's their turn.
To be fair, the table talk isn't always devoted to mountain biking or its equivalent. One of Uber son's delights is in presenting complex math questions that take a healthy dose of logic to solve. The conversations that revolve around solving the questions are profound. I'm often stumped by them (lazy mind refusing to go to work) but I relish hearing how the two older Grands (5th and 7th graders) work their way toward an answer.
The conversation on this particular vacation evening finally broadened out, thanks to our youngest Grand who does not yet ride a pedaling bike, no less forge through mountain trails. As we finished our chicken and corn and brought the farm-market peach pie to the table, she piped up: "Can't we talk about something else, like skiing?"
We weren't the only ones having trouble connecting.
When I was young and someone's grandchild, savings bonds were a gift I got to commemorate birthdays, graduations and other major events. The bonds weren't large in terms of denomination but the US. Treasury bills were loaded with meaning for my immigrant forbears. For me, the heavy-ish feel of the paper and official look of the bonds made them special and made me feel very grown up.
Paterfamilias and I have strayed from that tradition for our Grands--we're more into loading up 529s--but lots of people like the physicality of a savings bond and the meaning a US Treasury bond implies. With the U.S. Treasury going digital, though, it is getting more complicated to tuck a savings bond into a "Happy Birthday" card and send it off to a grandchild.
Two years ago, the federal government pretty much eliminated paper savings bonds. Before, if we had wanted to give a savings bond as a gift for a Grand's birthday, we would have done it the old-fashioned way: made our way to our bank and filled out a form to buy the bonds, which would then be mailed to us. We could then slip them into a card or package and give our gift. But now, it's all digital. We and the Grand we're gifting must each set up special online accounts--and we'll need our Grand's Social Security number in the bargain.
So it's easier in a way--no more trip to the bank. But more complicated,especially for those not comfortable doing financial transactions via the Internet.
The Treasury Department considers digital bonds more secure: With no paper to keep track of, there's no risk of losing them and having to have them reissued.
Demand for savings bonds had declined even before the switch away from paper, partly because of low interest rates for the past few years. But should those rates rise, be prepared to operate digitally if you want to give your Grand a safe and sound investment in the future of the country. Once the online accounts have been set up--yours and theirs (which, if they are under 18 years of age, a parent or guardian must establish in his or her own name and set up a linked account for a minor)--you buy the bond online and transfer it to them online. You can then print out a paper gift certificate as something tangible to tuck into a birthday or graduation card. But the hefty feel of that T-gift paper: Gone for good.
There's nothing more discouraging than to be vacationing with or visiting a grown child and his or her family only to find everyone glued to a smart phone, tablet, laptop, netbook or gameboy. There's hardly any acknowledgement that you've arrived, and if there is, it's to let you know they are in mid-game or mid-text or mid-thumb activity.
My theory on vacation is that it's their vacation, too, and if that's what gives them pleasure and relaxation, live and let live. But as an everyday diet, it's hard to accept the way the iWorld is full of exclusionary devices that inhibit socializing.It's a national phenomenon: Children between the ages of 8 and 10 average eight hours a day in front of a screen; teens clock in at around 11 hours. I don't even want to know the numbers for the 2- to 6-year old set.
In our family, we are fairly fortunate. Our grown kids aren't addicted to devices themselves and they have set limits on screen time for their children--that includes TV among the screens. The limits apply on vacations as well. What's the point in being in Vermont where the sun shines on the mountain brooks and trees shade the hiking trails if you're not out there to experience it?
But when parents don't set limits--or the limits are so loose they may as well not be there--can the grandparents step in? On her Web site on grandparenting, Susan Adcox addressed the grandparenting role in screen time, suggesting ways for us to set limits even if the parents don't.
She says it "quite acceptable" for grandparents to have rules about the use of electronic devices in their homes. Among the steps she says grandparents could consider when grandkids are coming to your house for a visit:
--Prepare your house. Turn off the TV, shut down the computers and tablets and put the phone on vibrate. "Then don't cheat. Children are smart. If you say you're checking email and you're really checking your Facebook, they'll figure it out."
--Ban media at mealtimes and bedtime. "If you're lucky enough to have spare bedrooms or a playroom for the grandkids, keep them media-free as much as is practical."
--Have lots of alternative things to do: games and activities such as exploring nature or cooking together.
She also has some strategic "don'ts":
--Don't ban electronics altogether. "It's a battle that you're likely to lose." Besides, at times electronic devices are valuable to have around--such as when you're driving them somewhere or you need a few quiet moments to yourself.
--Don't nag your teen grandchildren about their electronic habits. "It's counter-productive to make remarks such as, "Don't you ever get tired of staring at that phone?" (Clearly, the answer is no.)"
Cell phones are ubiquitous in our lives--so much so that it's hard to remember when they weren't. When it comes to our grown children, they keep us in closer touch with the blips and bumps in their everyday lives, even when they live far away. Instead of talking to them on a land line at their apartment once or twice a week, we're apt to chat them up once or twice a day wherever they may be.
But cell phones may have ramifications for us when our grown children take up with a significant other--when they move in together, get engaged, marry. Both will have cell phones and that, in effect, may limit who you talk to and how you develop a relationship with the new son- or daughter-in-law.
A friend remembers back to the day when her in-laws or parents used to call. She and her husband would both get on the phone and talk to them. That put her in touch with her mother- and father-in-law when they were on the phone. Her husband connected to her parents when they called. Sometimes his parents would call and she would pick up the phone. Or vice versa. Now, her son, who just got married, has his cell phone; so does his spouse. They don't have a land line. When my friend calls her son, she gets her son--and never her daughter-in-law.
Skype can put the two of them together, but even the Skype calls come up on only one of their laptops or smart phones--and they may not be at home or even within shouting distance of each other. And then there's called ID. If we call out child's new bride or groom and they don't pick up our call, is their phone on mute or are they tuning us out? Or would they prefer a text to a call?
Adjusting our traditional lives to the disruptions of technology is not easy.
A PEW study reports that 91 percent of American adults own cell phones and use them for much more than phone calls. In PEW's most recent nationally representative survey, researchers checked in on some of the most popular activities people perform on their cell phones. It makes it clear that smart phones aren't going away and that we need to figure out how to use them to stay in touch with new members to our family.
Here are PEW's findings:
A while ago, I wrote about a personal embarrassment in child rearing. My son--to my daughter-in-laws dismay--has grown up to be a laundry slob. Not only doesn't he do his own laundry, he doesn't even manage to hit the laundry basket when he casts off his worn-all-day socks, tee shirts and other close-to-the-body apparel. She has called him on it--he being the author of a book that deals with managing behavior techniques--and, using his managerial terminology, challenged him to do better. When she and I had a phone chat about his unacceptable laundry behavior, I had to admit to my son's wife that I was to blame--I had never come down hard on laundry or clean-up-your-room chores. There seemed more important issues to deal with.
Now, it seems. I have met my polar opposite. Writing to Carolyn Hax, the mother of an otherwise exemplary 20-year old complained bitterly about her son's dirty sock habit--he left them anywhere and everywhere in the house and refused to do his share of an assortment of housekeeping chores. She wanted to know if she should evict him [he was home from college for the summer] over the issue.
OMG. I read her tale of woe and felt even guiltier for my indulgent ways. What legacy had i left my daughter-in-law? I had not cracked down; had not evicted anyone and here my daughter-in-law was reaping my poor parenting.
Carolyn Hax, the arbiter of what's best and worst in an approach to a problem, came down somewhere between the two extremes--tho closer to the letter writer's viewpoint. She suggested explaining to her son why the son's habit was so irritating (i.e., his failure to do his chores and his leaving of a mess meant other family members had to do more work and that wasn't fair) and to give him an ultimatum: turn things around or out you go.
When did things come to this? Fortunately, my DIL, annoyed tho she is about her husband's dirty laundry behavior, still sees the light side of it: an annoyance rather than a family crisis. She has not piled all his dirty laundry on the couch and told him to sleep there.
Some of us--I'm one of them--live far from our grown children. Visits to and with them entail an overnight stay of a day or two or more. Sounds like a grand get-away but it's rife with pitfalls: overstaying a visit, over helping, under helping, invading their privacy. The list goes on.
Susan Adcox, who writes the grandparenting page for About.com, recently featured 10 tips on being a long-distance grandparent visitor. Some of what applies to being a good Grandparent guest, applies to being an inobtrusive parental visitor when we're on our grown child's turf--whether or not small children are involved.
Some of her pointed houseguest hints:
Get pre-approval of dates you plan to visit and length of the visit.
Let them know, before you arrive, if you plan to see friends, attend a business meeting or do something on your own. Not that you need their approval but to be sure your plans don't conflict with plans they may have made for your visit.
Provide your own transportation if possible. As Susan puts it, "Parents with children and careers will appreciate not having to pick you up and chauffeur you around." A benefit for you: If you rent a car, you'll be able to get away--for a coffee, for a drive, for some needed quiet time.In our family, Paterfamilias cherishes a morning run for a cup of coffee at a nearby Starbucks--by himself or, by inivation only, with one grandchild.
Check with your kids about staying in their home. Their apartment or house may be too small or cramped for overnight visitors. If you can afford it, a hotel room may be easier on everyone's nerves.
Be sure to give them some privacy. Find a secluded spot in the house or by take a walk so that you're not privy to everything that's going on in the house or their lives all the time.
You can read all of Susan's 10 tips here.
This April we spent part of a week in London with my daughter and her family. She flew over from Berlin, where she was living and working; we crossed the Atlantic. it was Spring break. Our vacation-ette had its high points (we all loved Wicked and the Egyptian exhibit at the British Museum). There were also lows, when all five of us--daughter, son-in-law, Grand and the two of us--were miserable about where we were or why we had decided to be there.
That's how it goes with family vacations: You have your big smiles, belly laughs and joy-filled photo ops. Then you do not.
Next month we are heading to Vermont. This time we will be vacationing with both our children and their families. (That puts us in the 15 percent of vacationing Boomers who say their grown kids will be going with them this summer, according to AARP research surveys.) It will be a reunion of sorts--our daughter back from Berlin after a year of living there; my son and his family seeing their sis and cousins after a year's hiatus. We've done the Vermont-togetherness before, and we have learned--the hard way, naturally--where the little worms lie in our happiness apple. Whether a family is traveling around (as we were in London) our settling into a resort area (as we will be in Vermont), there are ways to avoid some of the miseries that can accompany a multi-generational family vacation.
Here are my top six rules for avoiding meltdown moments:
1. Be prepared: Make a list of things to do, in rainy weather and when it's fair. Sitting around with no plan can bring on the crankies. A friend who rents a house in Italy every summer gives her visiting sons and their families a calendar of events she's planned for their week with her. They don't have to opt in, but the daily list gives everyone a sense of purpose and direction.
2. Be independent. There is such a thing as too much togetherness. It helps to go your separate ways for at least part of a day. The hikers can climb the mountain trail; the swimmers can head for the lake. The Egyptologist can take in the museum; the musicians can go to a concert. Sharing tales of your little adventure when you get back together injects positive energy into family dynamics.
3. Be generous. Pay for as much space as you can afford--whether it's hotel rooms, tents, condos or the number of bedrooms in a rented house. There's nothing more wearing on everyone's nerves than being crowded in on each other. Which leads to rule 4...
4. Be absent. Take time for down time--to rest, to read, to put your feet up. Everyone needs "quiet time"--not just the toddlers. Find a quiet place and park yourself there. It may be especially soothing to remove yourself from the multi-generational family scene in the late afternoon, when a small child's day tends to unravel. You know you're supposed to leave the parenting to the parents; if you're not there, you'll be sure to.
5. Be flexible. Don't nag because yours kids or their kids have their eyes, ears and thumbs busy busy busy with iPads, iPods, iPhones or Gameboys. It's their vacation, too. It may be annoying that they're otherwise preoccupied but you can always take an interest in what they're doing. Fruit Lines, anyone?
6. Be realistic. There's such a thing as being too ambitious--whether it's the number of sights you want to see in a given day, the dinners you want to cook for everyone or the inter-family tennis tournament you want to run. Don't make it complicated. Don't cram everything in. Yes, rule number 1--a list of things to do--is important. But too much is tiring, and tired people are not at their socializing best.
We are in London. It's April. Spring break. We have just taken my daughter (who is living in Berlin with her family) and her daughter (my 11-year-old Grand) to see a matinee of Matilda, the super-popular musical. After the show, it is dinner time. My daughter and Grand are both vegetarians--no meat, no fish, no fowl. Chinese food is a good bet for pleasing everyone's dietary needs and taste buds.
So we are on our way to a highly, highly recommended Chinese restaurant. In London's Chinatown. It is, we have been told, walking distance from the theater. We find Chinatown but are struggling to locate the street we seek. It is drizzling and grey; the streets are overcrowded with fellow tourists. We are wandering around. Our smart phones are of no use. We are asking every person we can reasonably hail about directions to what is apparently a side street off a side alley. At last. There it is. The street we want and the restaurant we're seeking. I am anticipating the comfort of sitting down and sipping a glass of something refreshing. As we approach the restaurant, there is a small shriek from within our foursome. In the plate glass window that fronts the restaurant hang several whole cooked ducks and dead chickens. Strung up by their teeny tiny feet.
My Grand will not enter the restaurant. The sight of the dead ducks and chickens is deeply upsetting for her. We look for another restaurant but it seems like almost all of them have the same hanging duck decor. My Grand now says she will not eat anywhere within sight of these restaurants. We retreat. My daughter is tired. We all are. She suggests that she and her child go back to the hotel to eat while Paterfamilias and I have dinner in Chinatown. "We flew across the Atlantic to be together," PF insists. "We'll find a place to eat." He is wishing, of course, that our daughter would "control" her daughter and insist she go along with his original plan. But it is not as though my Grand doesn't want to eat somewhere because it has pink tablecloths or a clown face in the window. Her animus is rooted in a deeply-felt philosophy about the killing of animals.
Our increasingly drizzle-damp and miserable foursome trudge on. In the distance, I spy a neon sign, "Spaghetti House." Now, no one comes to London to eat in a place called Spaghetti House--at least no one in my family or among my friends. But any port in a storm. We head thither with resolute step. Just before we get there, an expanse of fogged-up plate glass windows reveals a tiny Japanese restaurant. Not a sushi place. Not a Japanese steak house. But a Japanese restaurant--Abeno is the name--that appears to be serving individual, cooked-at-your-table dishes. We enter and inquire about a table for four and the availability of vegetarian dishes. We're good to stay.
We're taken to a table with boxlike benches for seating. As other customers do, we open the benches to put our coats and umbrellas inside, and then sit down on them. Among the specialities of Abeno is Okonomi Yaki, a Japanese pancake-like dish. We can pick our fillings--combinations of vegetables, cheeses, meats and other delicacies. Our waitress advises my daughter and Grand on the best choices for vegetarians (the Okonomi, she reports, has a smidgen of non-veggie broth in it) and cooks each meal separately on the hot grill at our table.
We are riding high. We are in the midst of an unexpected discovery. Everyone is happy. This is an adventure. This is why we travel. We have gone from a woeful group (not why we travel but a part of it) to giddy travelers. We eat well. We return to our hotel sated and excited. L'aventure.
Years ago, when my children were pre-teens and still assumably under my control, we had a chat while driving home from the beach on Mother's Day. I told them they didn't have to concern themselves with Mother's Day. It a day for older moms and grandmothers. My rationale: I didn't see Mother's Day as applying to me, someone who saw her children every day and was a vital part of their everyday existence. As I looked in the rear view mirror, there was a somewhat surprised look on their faces but not much of a concern. Our family had never gone in for big Mother's Day celebrations--gifts, special meals, flowers or cakes. It was a day to call grandmas; to remember to call my mother who lived far away and send her flowers.
I'm the older mother/grammie now. I live far from my grown children; ditto Paterfamilias as father and gramps. We no longer see our children regularly or talk to them every day. One lives in a city 400 miles due North; the other 400 miles Northeast--when she isn't taking a sabbatical year in Berlin (4,000 miles East). They live busy, busy lives--bringing up children, moving ahead in their careers, being attentive spouses. We are no longer a central part of their lives.
I thought about this yesterday on Father's Day. Both PF and I agree that the days--Mother's Day, Father's Day--are just another Hallmark moment, that the advertising and brouhaha surrounding the day are more a spur for retail growth than a meaningful holiday. And yet. And yet. Come the Day, we now wait for the call, the sweet chat, the expressed or implied note of appreciation that we are their mother or father, the acknowledgement that we are important enough to them to take a moment out of their hectic lives to connect via cell phone, Skype and email.
There's another emotional part to it. Our best friends died a few years ago--friends with whom we celebrated holidays and special occasions as a family. Now, when their children post a photo of one of their parents on Mother's or Father's Day, it reminds us of how difficult a day it must be for them, of how much we miss our friends and how lucky we--and our children--are to be around to acknowledge yet another Mother's or Father's day.
Mother and Father Days are not like a birthday where you kind of hope your grown children remember which one is yours--and maybe you send a reminder when the other parent's birthday is looming. Given the barrage of ads, it's hard for anyone not to notice That Special Day to Honor Your Parent. So while PF and I have to acknowledge that there are societal pressures that may move our children to give us a call on this particular day, it's still wonderfully comforting and emotionally rewarding when we hear from them--even if it takes an annual Hallmark moment to make sure it happens.
Got a 27-year-old in the family? Wondering how this millennial-in-the-middle compares to his and her peers in terms of work, school and marriage? The Bureau of Labor Statistics has run the numbers and has data for you.
Its long-running survey (thank you, Census Bureau) of a group of Americans born in the early 1980s finds today's 27-year-old to be more educated than adults as a whole. A lot more of them have some college experience, more have earned at least a bachelor's degree, and fewer have dropped out of high school.
Source: Bureau Of Labor Statistics / The Census Bureau chart: Credit: Quoctrung Bui/NPR
Regardless of education, most Americans in this group have lots of work experience. By the time they are 27, they have held about six jobs.
Source: Bureau Of Labor Statistics chart: Credit: Quoctrung Bui/NPR
In terms of hooking up, marriage style, women are more likely than men (by a large margin) to be married at age 27. Generally, people with more education are more likely to be married than those with less.
Source: Bureau Of Labor Statistics chart: credit Quoctrung Bui/NPR
We have just spent a weekend in New York City with our son and his family of five. We have been celebrating a big event in our family and spent Saturday doing some touristy stuff (Empire State Building) and some city-native stuff (Bryant Park to watch the jugglers practice and to play board games [available free of charge]). We had a wonderful celebratory dinner together and now it is Sunday morning. We are heading to New Jersey's Red Bull Arena in Newark. Our son has gotten the seven of us tickets to the U.S. mens team vs Turkey soccer game--a warm up to the World Cup.
It's there that we are witness to a transition in our grandson's life and the life of my son's family. Our tickets are part of a big block of tickets that our grandon's soccer team had access to. We are standing near one of the entry gates to the stadium, waiting for it to open so we can go in--we arrived early to avoid the worst of the crowds. Our grandson spies his teammates arriving en masse right in front of us. He runs over to join them. He is no longer the little boy in the nuclear family [he just turned 13]; now he's one of the "guys." We can see how happy he is to be part of the group, how he is learning how to maneuver within the group, testing his social skills. As the gates open, he moves forward with his team members to enter the stadium. But his dad has his ticket.
He runs back to get a ticket, but our son says no. Actually, we don't hear the conversation but it is clear our son told his son that he should stick with his family to go into the stadium. Our grandson is fighting back tears. He so wants to join his friends. And we, his grandparents, so want him to. We feel for him. We don't know why our son has said no. Maybe he wants to be sure he knows where everyone is once we're inside--the crowd is huge, the seating arrangements unknown. Maybe he tells his son that he can rejoin his friends when he gets in and he has assessed the seating situation. Or maybe, as my daughter-in-law told me earlier, her husband and my son believes his children will always prefer to be with their parents. (She has suggested to him that, come adolescence, he is in for a big surprise.)
As we trudge into the stadium and up the long flight of stairs to our seats, I tell Paterfamilias how I wish our son had let our grandson go into the stadium with his teammates. PF agrees but reminds me of my own words of wisdom: "We can't tell them how to raise their kids."
All's well that ends well. We are seated in a huge block of three rows. No one in the group sits in their assigned seats. The boys, including our grandson, take over one row. Our family--now six of us--grab seats behind them along with other parents and siblings. I watch as our grandson toggles back and forth between friends and family. He goes out to buy a hot dog with his friends. Later, he takes his 6-year-old sister with him to buy a bottle of water. He is working both sides, with grace. We are there to witness his transition from family as the center of his world to friends as the social core of the next phase of his life. We keep mum as we watch his parents--our children--maneuver the minefield.


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I was born 47 years ago in Syracuse New York. I grew up very active in school, sports and other activities. A good student, I loved learning gaining knowledge from books and experientially from my travels. As I grew older I developed strong beliefs and opinions. A good debater, my goal in life was to attend Notre Dame University and become an attorney.
I derailed my pursuits by using alcohol and other drugs and become addicted. My active addiction lasted approximately 18 years destroying many of my dreams and possibilities. At age 22 I achieved sobriety and for the past 24 years, maintained long-term recovery. The first half of my life centered on my active addiction, the second half centers on helping others heal and recover from theirs.
Upon graduation from high school I followed in my father's footsteps. My father, a high-ranking career military officer attended the United States Military Academy and dedicated himself in service to his country in the US Army. I too accepted my call to service and attended the Military Academy only to discover that my call to service was not to military service.
I searched to find my call by working in various fields. I worked with children and youth, sold light bulbs, worked with health care professionals, taught tennis, worked with individuals involved in the criminal justice system, with the brain injury and recovery communities and as a physical therapy aide. In 2005 I founded a non-profit organization, SpiritWorks Foundation, whose mission is to help individuals achieve long-term recovery from addiction. I now work as Executive Director of SpiritWorks and provide recovery support coaching for people whose lives are affected by addiction.
Recently I heard the statement, "what we need is a God idea, not a good idea." That statement allowed me to crystallize my call. With the "God idea" etched in my heart I accepted the call to serve women with substance use disorders focusing on the collateral damage to others, especially the youngest members of our society, the children. I dedicated my life to making a positive difference in the lives of children by empowering the women who care for them to find their voice and speak their truth.
I encountered World Pulse on the recommendation of a former coaching client I read stories of women changing the world and when I read about the Voices of Our Future 2011 decided it was time for me to get involved. With something bold to say, and the capacity and passion to do so clearly, I too set out to change the world. Addiction, a global health crisis affects women and children, cutting across cultures, countries, races, economic levels, ages, and genders. Serving as companion to women who are affected by addiction is a passion and privilege. It is my ultimate call, my "God idea" and now my personal vision.
Hi Jan,
Glad you found your God idea. Just surprised by your story, You were addicted for 18 years and got clear of your addiction at 22years, does that mean you were exposed to alcohol and drugs as early as 4 years old?
A candle looses nothing my lighting another
Hi Jan, Your story is one of
Hi Jan,
Your story is one of the best stories I have ever heard. Your sentence "The first half of my life centered on my active addiction, the second half centers on helping others heal and recover from theirs." sums it all up so eloquently.
I cannot but wish you all the very best of luck!
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Hi Jan,
Thank you for sharing such a personal story with us. You are a great writers with such a captivating story that really does motivate others. It is always amazing to hear of someone using their troubles to help others. Like your first commenter, I was a bit confused by your ages of drug use, just so hard/sad to imagine someone addicted at such a young age. I am very proud of you for finding your calling and going with it. What made you chose World Pulse?
Please keep sharing your voice with the world.
thank you!
Thank you for sharing your story and your experience with us! It seems that you have a lot of courage and persistence, and I am sure that you are inspiring other women to move forward in their lives from difficult pasts.
I wish you luck in all of your pursuits!


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Seaport, prisoners derail Gaza ceasefire talks: Officials
By Hagar al-Dosoki, Friday, August 08, 2014
CAIRO – Israel's rejection of Palestinian demands of creating a seaport and release of prisoners has derailed Egypt-hosted talks aimed at reaching a durable ceasefire in the Gaza Strip, two Egyptian officials said.
"Over the last round of talks, Israel did not hold on to its condition of disarming the resistance as much as it held on to its refusal to build a seaport on the Gaza coast," an Egyptian official told Anadolu Agency on Friday.
He said Israel has also refused to release hundreds of prisoners arrested in the West Bank since June, during search operations for three Israeli settlers, who were later found dead near the southern city of Hebron.
Israel has accused Hamas of abducting the trio.
"Israel has also refused to release the last batch of Palestinian prisoners, who have been detained before the signing of the Oslo Accords and who were scheduled to be released in June," another Egyptian official told AA.
Violence flared up in the Palestinian territories on Friday after the expiry of a three-day ceasefire between Israel and Gaza-based Palestinian factions.
The brief lull was brokered by Egypt following a month of incessant Israeli strikes against the Gaza Strip that left 1894 Palestinians dead and 9817 others injured.
Palestinian factions and Israel held indirect talks in Cairo to extend the ceasefire, but no agreement was reached as Palestinian factions linked the extension to Israel's approval of their demands, including lifting a years-long blockade on the Gaza Strip and building a seaport.
Israeli Foreign Ministry spokeswoman Amira Oron accused Hamas of hindering the talks aimed at reaching a long-term ceasefire in the Gaza Strip.
"The seaport issue is a stumbling block in the talks," Oron told AA.
"We cannot accept it. This is a terrorist group we're dealing with," she said, in reference to the Israeli government's designation of Hamas.
She went on to say that "The prisoners who have been arrested in June are currently being interrogated".
"Moreover, the Palestinian Authority is the only entity eligible to speak for the West Bank prisoners," the spokeswoman said.
The Gaza Strip, home to 1.8 million Palestinians, has been reeling under a crippling Israeli blockade since 2006, badly affecting the livelihood in the seaside enclave.
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At Prodigal Pieces, Larissa scored some weather shipping pallets for free, thanks to Craigslist. She decided to use some of her pallet wood to make some shutters for one of her windows. After dismantling one of the pallets, she cut the boards to the sizes she needed for this project. Each shutter was make of several {…Read More…}
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Here is my Oberon clone from early this week still going strong. The second pic has the all centennial IPA on the left which is two weeks in and a hop slam clone on the right that's on about day 10 of the dry hop. I need to keg that soon.
btw, does anyone have any Sorachi Ace hops in their fridge? Was really thinking of trying out a recipe next week but haven't seen any local and didn't want to make an order just to get 2 oz.
I can trade Amarillo (leaf), Citra (leaf), Centennial (leaf), or Warrior (pellet) if you've got some.
Ill be brewing an all grain ESB in Woodbridge on Saturday. If anyone is interested in joining then just let me know.
I have 2 oz of sorachi, will donate for a six pack of your brew when done. PM me if interested, i will be doing a bunch of yard work today.
Ehedge has an awesome single tier set up for anyone that wants to see a sweet setup.
Waiting for confirmation on the venue. Date coming soon!
"Drive through it Cole. I know you can..I know it in my heart."
If anyone local wants some used polysulfone quick disconnects drop me a PM. Just replaced mine with cam locks. All I ask is a sample of something hoppy :P
Went by Jays yesterday and picked up some things to get me started.


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Smock discusses the "new American family" on NPR
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Raymo, James, Jersey Liang, E. Kobayashi, and T. Fukaya. 2009. "Work, Health, and Family at Older Ages in Japan." Research on Aging, 31(2): 180-206.
The authors investigated ways in which the relationship between health and labor force exit at older ages is moderated by family characteristics. Using two waves of data from a national sample of older Japanese men collected in 1999 and 2002, the authors estimated logistic regression models for labor force exit beyond age 63 as a function of health change, family characteristics, and their interactions. Poor health was strongly associated with labor force exit and evidence showed that moderating influences of family context depend on the level of health. However, the results were only partially consistent with hypotheses that the relationship between health and the likelihood of labor force exit should be stronger for (1) those with good health and family incentives to exit the labor force and (2) those with poor health and family incentives to remain in the labor force.
DOI:10.1177/0164027508328309 (Full Text)
Country of focus: Japan.
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Metallicity in the merger Seyfert galaxy NGC 6240
Article first published online: 20 SEP 2012
DOI: 10.1111/j.1365-2966.2012.21764.x
© 2012 The Author Monthly Notices of the Royal Astronomical Society © 2012 RAS
Monthly Notices of the Royal Astronomical Society
Volume 426, Issue 1, pages 719–731, 11 October 2012
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How to Cite
Contini, M. (2012), Metallicity in the merger Seyfert galaxy NGC 6240. Monthly Notices of the Royal Astronomical Society, 426: 719–731. doi: 10.1111/j.1365-2966.2012.21764.x
Publication History
- Issue published online: 11 SEP 2012
- Article first published online: 20 SEP 2012
- Manuscript Accepted: 20 JUL 2012
- Manuscript Received: 18 JUN 2012
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- radiation mechanisms: general;
- shock waves;
- ISM: abundances;
- galaxies: individual: NGC 6240;
- galaxies: Seyfert
We have calculated the physical conditions throughout the merger Seyfert galaxy NGC 6240 by modelling the observed optical and infrared line ratios. We have found that the optical spectra are emitted by clouds photoionized by the power-law radiation flux from the active galactic nucleus/nuclei (AGN/AGNs), and heated mainly by the shock accompanying the propagation of the clouds outwards. The infrared line ratios are emitted from clouds ejected from a starburst which photoionizes the gas by the blackbody radiation flux corresponding to a stellar colour temperature of about 5 × 104 K. Both the flux from the AGN and the ionization parameters are low. The most characteristic physical parameters are the relatively high shock velocities (≥500 km s−1) and low pre-shock densities (∼40–60 cm−3) of the gas. The C/H, N/H, O/H relative abundances are higher than solar by a factor ≤1.5. We suggest that those relative abundances indicate trapping of H into H2 molecules rather than high metallicities. Adopting an initial grain radius of 1 μm, the dust temperatures calculated in the clouds reached by the power-law radiation and by the blackbody radiation are 81 and 68 K, respectively.