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Husbands Who Watch Porn (Part 4) – Wives are asking, "What's wrong with me?"
What do Christie Brinkley and Tea Leoni have in common? Both of them are high profile celebrities and have international notoriety for their physical beauty.
Both of them have also been married to alleged porn addicts.
Often the wives of men who regularly look at porn will write to us and ask "What's wrong with me?" This is a cutting question that is difficult to answer in the midst of a highly emotional situation. Often these women are convinced that if they were simply prettier or met a certain physical standard, their husbands wouldn't be drawn to porn. Often women get these impressions directly from their husbands.
But the stories of these celebrities demonstrate otherwise. Peter Cook, Brinkley's ex-husband, spent $3000 on his Internet porn addiction. Recently, actor David Duchovny, Leoni's husband, has checked himself into a rehabilitation clinic for his Internet porn addiction.
Marrying the next top model will not entice a man away from his porn addiction. This is because a fixation on pornography is not merely a fixation on a certain type of physical beauty. To be sure: pornography does condition a man (or woman) to objectify others, to rate them according to the size, shape, and harmony of their body parts. But pornography addiction is a multi-layered problem:
1. A Fixation on Variety and Novelty
The human brain loves novelty. When we experience a new pleasing image or sensation, our bodies release an extra dose of pleasure-producing chemicals. This is a built-in mechanism that encourages us to experience and explore new things. The other side of the coin is that most stimuli become less attractive to us as they become familiar or predictable. We know this from experience in all areas of life.
Pornography is cleverly packaged and presented sexual novelty—especially Internet pornography. Each new picture or video clip promises a new sensation. Each link presents a virtually endless road marked with thousands of women in thousands of pornographic scenarios. People who have gone down the road of Internet porn and found themselves trapped are not just drawn to the images, but they are also drawn to the variety of images.
Think about it this way: Why don't most guys just log on, find one image of a woman they find appealing, and be done with it? Why keep searching and searching? Why spend hours online? Because it's not just about finding something that sexually stimulates: it's about the search; it's about the options. They've just walked into a virtual brothel where they have their pick of the litter. Those addicted to Internet porn can confess to this: when they log on, they aren't looking for sexual release right away. They will prolong the searching as long as they can.
2. A Fixation on Fantasy
The human brain is also wired for relationships. When a mother first holds her newborn baby or when lovers first hold hands, the hormones vasopressin and oxytocin are released. These serve as social bonding hormones.
When a man views pornography these same hormones are released (along with a soup of other pleasure chemicals, such as testosterone, dopamine and serotonin). In other words, the brain is tricked into thinking it is having a sexual encounter and doesn't know the difference. As a result, the man begins to literally "bond" to the pornographic images rather than to another person.
When a man has spent considerable time in the world of Internet pornography, he has essentially trained his body to respond to fantasy images instead of bonding and connecting with real people (such as his wife). It is an easy road to start down. Relationships can be complicated: they involve truly knowing, caring for, and serving another person at the expense of our own desires. Even when a man shares a pleasurable sex-life with his wife, the offer of pornography can still be appealing because it offers a shortcut to sexual release without the hassle of interaction.
Pornography offers a man a world of fantasy rather than interaction, pixels rather than a heart-to-heart connection with another person.
3. A Fixation on Self
Ultimately, any addiction is a fixation on self—something that drives a person to throw away things and relationships that are otherwise important to him in order to have the desired sensation.
For some men pornography is an endless search for ego-fulfillment. Somewhere in their minds they believe the age-old lie that a man is only worth the beautiful women he can win. The pornographic images provide a canvas for him to paint his personal fantasies: he can picture himself as the one enticing these picture-perfect women. Underneath his porn addiction is a deeper addiction: his perceived need to be validated by these women.
For some men pornography is like a medication they take to cope with unresolved emotional pain: Loneliness, failure and fear; and when a man doesn't want to face these emotions with raw honesty, he will seek to drown them in other activities or experiences. More than likely, he isn't even aware of these deep-seeded emotions, but the sexually stimulating rush of watching pornography can provide a powerful escape.
No matter the underlying motive, the draw of pornography is caused by a fixation on self: a perceived need to always "feel good" or comforted, to feel important or attractive, or wanted or rewarded.
Getting to the Root of the Problem
If you are a woman married to a man who compulsively uses pornography, one of the best things you can do for yourself is acknowledge that you are not the root of the problem. One of the best things he can do for himself and for his marriage is to start getting to the REAL the roots of the problem.
In reality, his porn addiction is only a symptom of a much deeper problem. There are no quick fixes. Turning from a long-term addiction will involve (1) realizing and confessing deeper sins, and (2) resolving to root out these issues for the long haul.
38 Responses to Husbands Who Watch Porn (Part 4) – Wives are asking, "What's wrong with me?"
Luke, I am so grateful for you and this blog. Your information is so useful and important. You stand tall!
Wonderful article. I hope that this will help many women understand that they aren't the cause of the problem, and like my pastor once told me, it isn't a rejection of them. It took me a long time to believe that.
I'm happy to see that there is someone out there encouraging people to break free from this addiction and I love the accountability software you offer. (I've not used it, just love the idea of it.) I wish I had known about this site when I was still married. It might have helped me feel less alone in my situation. Thanks for getting the word out there and God bless.
My experience with this issue in my marriage has become numbing and debilitating. I have found myself unable to function normally and just live out my plans when I see that my hubby has been watching porn again.
Feelings of inadequacy have been plaguing me to the point of shopping for lingerie and imagining other women must be involved. Certainly this is commiting adultery in the heart (I know that bible says this somewhere), but I have become so consumed that I started to suspect real life issues.
Well this article has helped me to see that it is possible for him to have a need fulfilled on the computer and not actually need to have a real woman because well real women are complicated. If in fact this is functioning as a short cut around real relationship to intimacy and real affirmation to fantasy–an affair might not do that job at the end of the day when the novelty wears out.
So as sad as I am that my hubby is unaffectionate and not sexually interested, I am also glad to know that the issue is not me. This is pushing my prayer life to new plateaus!!
Ms. K
I find it strange that I get so much attention from complete strangers everyday, but my own husband would rather look at internet porn behind my back.
When I confronted him about it, he got defensive and responded with answers like, "i haven't been to that site in a while", or, "I don't look at what you do". As if that logic makes it all ok. Although I daresay that if I started downloading images of hot hunk men, he might have something to say about it. Ah the male ego.
This issue is so ironic, because I am so open minded and don't have issues watching porn. In fact, I enjoy watching porn.(I am very voyeuristic) I worked in the adult industry and know a thing or two about men. In fact joking that I never wanted to be the wife because of all the baggage it came with. I have come to the realization that no matter what I do for him(erotic photos, fantasy nights, (he slept through the last one that I planned), etc, he will never be truly interested in me. I think I was the chase and prize, which is also very primal. Now he needs to hunt for another.
Now the decision is, do I plan on staying in an empty, dishonest relationship, or end it before 20 years pass me by. I am not sure I am at all willing to play second fiddle to fantasy. Especially when he does not acknowledege that he has an issue.
Side note, before we got married, I took him to weekly pre marital counseling. I found porn in all three of his VCR's and asked if he watched porn, to which he responded "those aren't mine". I should have known back then.
I am grateful for finding this article and am thankful that I am not alone.
Miss Kimmi
I believe you hit it right on the head Miss Kimmi. I can go throughtout a whole day with my husband and half of the time was acutally spent on him hawlk eyeing this guy for staring at me too hard, or his comments about how he always see guys staring at me. I ask him why he thinks these guys are staring at me, and he tells me it's because the exotic look I have about me, the same reason he had to have me.
Ok, now I'm thinking in the back on my head, well you talk all this about how beautiful I am to you, and how you know how much other guys would kill to be with me, but yet you still ( when giving the chance) would look at porn in a flash. I'm 22 and my husband is 26. We have been together for about 5 years and married for almost a year. We even have two beautiful little girls. You know, looking back I never would have thought I would ever be facing this kinda problem especially so early in my marriage. I thought it at least took 10 :) I guess I should have known from the start, things don't ever change. I hate how things are always so good in the beginning, like how no one else in the world matters but you two. Then a year passes and you feel like that dingy teddy bear back from 3rd grade. When I got pregnant with our first daughter, that's when things started changing. You know how women say being pregnant was the best time of their life. Not mine, no sir! I actually got to the point to where I really hated being pregnant, I always felt like a cow. I remember always wanting sex, anytime, anywhere it didn't matter, but he never wanted to. That made me feel worse, like he couldn't stand the sight of me. He always assured me that was never the case, that he always thought I was gorgeous. It wasn't until that one night after getting so mad that he didn't want to get intimate I feel asleep. I woke up around 4 to find an empty bed, confused I walked into the living room only to find my husband on the computer with like 20 different porn pics,videos, whatever up. I was so mad, I felt so betrayed. I always thought why would any man want to watch porn, if their wife or whatever was right in the next room? They always have a different excuse. It has eventually got to the point to where I would go and monitor my husbands activity like he was a child. Come on, I should be doing that to my kids not my husband. He always would tell my that he wouldn't do it again. Well needless to say I finally had enough, this last time he did it I put my foot down, I now lock my computer, and he has to ask me to put my password in before he can even get on. I know this wont help for long, and this isn't the kind of person I am, or want to be. I just wonder why if all these other guys see something in me and my husband sees that they do, why can he? -
I came across my husbands extensive porn stash on an external hard drive this past friday while he was out of town at a conference. I called him and confronted him in tears and so much pain that I just can't describe. He confessed that he has viewing porn for the past year and that he has a problem and needed help. The thing is is that we went down this road 3 years ago and we went to couples counseling and things seemed great. Now we are at square one. It has been a rough road this past year for us and I reached out to him so many times and I batteered myself up beacause Im not pretty enough or I'm fat or whatever I could summon up about myself.. Its gotta be me right? Our sex life disintergrated but I always thought he was stressed becuase I lost my job, our dog died and I didn't get into school. I put myself into such a depression and then I ome to find out that he is coping by watching and downloading porn. I feel such betrayal, hurt, anguish, pain and on and on. Just writing those feelings down has made me cry thAT I can;t see this keyboard. He found this site for me and has begun to look for a counselor. I hope we make it. He has been very forthright and admitted his problem but I have to wonder how long it would have gone on if I hadn't found out about. I am hopeful and I want to be supportive but my pain is so great.
Please let's not allow Satan to do this to us. So here we go, hubby falls to the porn, we fall to rejection and so on. we do not fight flesh and blood. THIS IS A BATTLE. Satan is serious about this, are we? This is nothing about beauty, weight, looks at all. This is about demonic doorways that have been opened in their lives. Am I pretty enough? No! No one will ever fill that job. Simply because Satan does not care about how we look, he wants our souls. Now God has told us that we have the power to tread upon serpents. Let's get to it. Jesus never said it would be easy. Just think about what our fellow saints endured. This is done to distract the church from doing what we've have been told to do. Feed God's sheep, reach the lost. Instead we allow the cares of the world choke the life from us. I say let us stand girls! We are children of a King. Let look to the hills from which comes our help, our help comes from the Lord. Our husbands are just that, our husbands. However God is still God and He is able to keep us. He is able to deliver us. Saul did become Paul, right? Now let us put faith to work and dress daily in the armour of the Lord. I love u and pray for us all.
Wow..You are so right we are in a battle. This is just another one of satan's tactics used to distract us and divert our attention from where it is needed most. I so needed to here these words. Thank you. I'm not gonna be caught naked I'm putting my armor on and pulling out my sword.
So, basically (this scenario happened to me unfortunately), the woman loves you and promises to give more intimacy and share with you her heart and body in physical and emotional pleasure, but continues to do the same routine of distance everyday and telling you to leave her alone so I need to release to get that out of the way and then feel bad because it wasn't with her means she isn't the root of the problem and it's all my fault and I have a deep rooted "sin" for needing some form of release when I couldn't get it from someone I love? Wow, women are free of blame yet again, hooray! It must be nice to be able to scapegoat problems on men's needs and wants when women are just as guilty of wanting a muscle bound macho man rather than a portly, hairy "slob" like me. Thank you so much for making me realize that I am always to be at fault.
I'm sorry that happend to you for whatever reason.. we must remember we are in a battle and instead of fighting each other we need to take up our armor and come against the real root of the problem.. The Lord reminded me of this verse; a house divided cannot stand. So lets stop the blame game and be accountable for what we do because in the end thats exactly how it will be..we are the ones who ultimately make the decision to sin or not to sin.
I can see you are bitter. I do not believe a women should deprive her husband of intimacy, and it IS selfish and cruel. But women AND men are are equally accountable for their actions. I believe perhaps you have found a comfort zone in bitterness altogether. Its safe; you're never disappointed, right? Forgive my bluntness, but instead of making excuses, why not seek the insight of God? When you let HIM drive, and guide you, He'll lead you to a women who will appreciate you whether you be a "macho" or a "slob". Don't get wrapped up in bitterness, it will only destroy you. But embrace the love of God, and He will set you free. Some women are just as bad as men, and vice versa. But I do know, that there are women who don't deprive their husbands, and are still trampled on with pornography. I think that's what this topic is mainly about, and I think you are projecting things sideways from some horrible experiences. We all are flawed, but you and I are not incapable of casting our hurts and pains before God, because He cares so much for us. God bless you, I will say a special prayer for you tonight.
You need to get some help and stop posting on this site. You have no idea the pain that women go through over this. I loved having sex with my husband before he made me feel inadequate with porn. Isn't there a men's blog that you could post on? You are not helping anyone. You sound like you hate women. If you are so unhappy then why don't you just leave and stop hurting her?
I think PackOfLlamas just doesn't like women with assburgers. He/she raises a good point as well. Women are just as harsh as men when it comes to "needs and wants." And Jen, just because he/she doesn't agree with the article means he/she needs help. That is ignorant and a classic example of what he/she is referring to when women scapegoat. Shame on you.
Claire Trevor said it best in "How to murder your wife" with Jack Lemmon. "You need to keep men under your thumb. You'll have arguments, a small affair here and there, but at least in the end, you get something out of it!" Stay single, PackOfLlamas. Be "asexual." Women will never accept that men have fantasy and it is their fantasy and no one can take it from them. We are to accept theirs, but they do not have to accept ours. Where is the equality of it all? When did laundry become love? When did cleaning the kitchen and raising the kids become an excuse to loot the wallet or be a b*$ 24/7? There is nothing to be gained with that absurd mentality.
Yikes – this blog is supposed to be about women trying to figure out what's so wrong with them to cause their husbands to retreat to porn… the men responding here clearly don't understand how painful it is for a wife to find that her husband would rather secretly turn on with porn than be with his wife. I've lived this nightmare for over 15 years – at first saying nothing to the things I was finding hidden in his desk, on his computer – I didn't know what to do, so I kept silent and let the pain poison me. I'm all done now – this is the third time in six years I've actually confronted him about this – and the last time. He has downloaded the Covenant Eyes program, I am getting accountability reports, and he is speaking weekly to an accountability partner independently. This is his last chance. We've spent 33 years building an amazing life together – we're best friends – but this, if it continues now, will end our marriage. It's like living with a "girlfriend" (or in his case, a boyfriend) in the bedroom closet. WE have major multiple issues to overcome. He claims that he loves me, but, like most wifes I expect, I really need some kind of proof now. I cannot find any way to accept those words on faith alone anymore. This pain is deep and dibilitating – and dealing with this is a one minute at a time thing. I'm too old for this – and yet, God apparently believes that I can do this – yeah, with HIS help only.
I'm so thankful for this Covenant Eyes program – it has to work, it's our last chance.-
@Linda – Thanks for sharing your testimony here. Unfortunately a lot of guys don't understand how much this issue is hurtful to women. One of our authors, Mark Gaither, wrote a great article about why women rightly see porn use as a serious matter. It's called "Is Porn the Same as Adultery?" I'm glad to hear how much Covenant Eyes is helping to build trust again. Remember, the software is only as good as the person who is holding your husband accountable. I pray your husband's accountability partner can really help him get to the bottom of his secrecy and addiction. Feel free to direct them to this blog for more resources. I recommend they look at / listen to:
1. "Four Tips on Developing an Accountability Relationship"
2. "Fighting Internet Porn Temptations"
3. And if they have time . . . "Soul Talk: Taking Accountability to the Next Level" -
You're right, Linda. We men don't understand the pain it causes you. And you know what? Most of us don't really want to. It's easier to ignore the results of our actions than to say, "I really hurt you. I was wrong." It terrifies us to think that it might hurt you. It terrifies us to think that our actions might scare you off. It terrifies us to think that we might fail you. The proof is in our secrecy. We don't want you to know. Most of us hate it about ourselves; if we could hide it from our selves so that even we didn't know about it, we would.
I'm 24 years old, a (clean for one month) porn addict since I was 13. I've never liked porn. I've always hated it. At first it was a curiosity thing. Then it became a "now that I've looked at this, nobody will ever love me anyway" thing. Shame of my past, fear of my future, discontent of my present- all of these are horribly debilitating for a man. We hide from the reality of pain just like Adam and Eve hid from God in Eden.
Throughout the last decade, I've had months of victory, and months of wretched failure. And I've learned that the most powerful weapon that I can hold as I fight this battle is the simple knowledge that I am responsible for my actions. I don't want to be responsible. We men often shirk the blame–"it wasn't my fault"; "you're not enough for me"; "men have needs"; "you just don't understand what it's like to be a guy." But in reality, I need to know that nobody else is ever to blame for my actions.
So yes, your husband is most certainly responsible for his actions. Also true, the very point of this blog–you are not responsible for his actions. But may I gently remind you of the other side of the coin? Your husband is not responsible for your actions. You are. So please, do not let porn end your marriage. That is your call, not his. Is it sin? Yes. Is it serious? Definitely. Is it painful? No doubt. But you cannot call your husband responsible for your action of divorce. It just doesn't work. He is responsible for porn. But if you decide to divorce him because of his porn, then you are responsible for that action. He is not.
Perhaps if I clarify this issue with four examples. I wrote, above, four lies which men use to justify their porn addictions. May I gently revise them to be spoken from your own perspective? — "It wasn't my fault [that I hated/gave up on/stopped praying for/divorced my husband]"; "You're not [romantic/sensitive] enough [to understand how this bothers me]"; "[women] have needs [and if you don't cut it, I'm out of here]"; "you just don't understand what it's like to be a [girl]." See how parallel the lines are drawn: Do you need to go elsewhere to find what you husband doesn't offer you? This pendulum swings both ways, and it's just as difficult for a woman to accept that she is responsible for herself as it is for a man to accept that he is responsible for himself.
So congratulations that your husband is making an active progress toward remission! That is exciting! May he continue to live worthy of your respect. May you continue to root him on when he succeeds and give him the courage to repent and rise again toward strength when he falls. Be encouraged that the battle is much bigger than just what your husband has to overcome by himself. Inspire him to fight. Let him know that you're ecstatic when he fights victoriously, not just that you're disappointed whenever he's less than heroic. I'm rooting for you both.
Linda proves once again why you should stay single forever, PackOfLlamas. Even if you aren't a porn addict and you happen to have pictures of anything that constitutes pornography women will go through your personal property without asking you therefore feeling that's a justification of trust issues with you while they have the right to go behind your back. And Linda, whether you agree or not, there are two types of guys that look at porn. Those who do it out of routine (who are the real addicts) and those who do it because they are not (or will never if you're not adventurous enough) getting something or even enough from you.. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that PackOfLlamas is the latter. It's a good thing that Linda's response was mature, unlike the hot headed illogical Jen.
@Anonymous – You are right when you say that women have just as much to examine in their hearts as men do, in terms of their needs and wants in marriage. The fact is neither a man nor a woman gets a free pass to sin against against their spouse just because the spouse has sinned against them. And when I say "sin," I'm not just talking about the obvious stuff: sneaking around, deception, looking at porn, cutting off intimacy . . . Husbands and wives also sin against each other when they refuse to delve more deeply into their own hearts to ask themselves what they have contributed to their marital messes.
Pornography places huge walls between husbands and wives. Linda, it is good to hear how your husband is doing the work to regain your trust. Thank you for letting him do that, and thank you for recognizing that it is both of you that must work at intimacy. I am so sorry to hear about how his actions have hurt you.
PackOfLlamas, it is sad when we hear of men who feel cut off sexually from their wives because of bitterness and unforgiveness. A number of men have commented about this on our blog, men who want to move away from lust and fantasy but are thrust into temptation because they feel unable to pursue intimacy at home. You and your wife might benefit from these articles from PureIntimacy: "Coping with Sexual Anorexia," and "The Importance of Counseling."
Nah, anon helped me out more than any paid program or quack bull&*^% could ever provide. I've been single just about a year now and sticking to asexuality. I'm free and I am never ever going back to women ever again. Great to look at, but trouble regardless. Thanks for the help, anon, wherever you are!!!
Thanks for the blog it was very eye opening. My husband is an avid porn watcher on the web. I was feeling like I was the problem, that there was something wrong with me. I love him with all of my heart, I just wish he could see that a marriage needs the intimacy between husband and wife, not man and machine.
I read this, I know the message it is sending. But I can't help my heart from being broken. I've been lied to, deceived by the person whom I am supposed to be able to trust above anybody else under God. I really don't know what to do. I don't know how to trust anymore.
Well, I can't help but feel like it's my fault considering he will not even have sex with me but can watch porn. We have not even been married for a year…Once I was 2 months pregnant, he stopped wanting to have sex and we only have about 3 times since. I can't take it anymore.
OK this site is funny. honestly listen to yourselves you blame porn for the problems in your marriages. i watch porn my wife watches porn we don't care, our sex life is awesome we have sex three to four times a week at least. most of the time multiple times per day. and we have been married for five years together for six. we draw inspiration from porn when my wife met me i had 80 gigs of porn we sat around and watched my favorites and commented on what we saw. what we liked and what we didn't like positions we had tried and positions we would like to try. sex is awesome and variety is awesome. if you keep it spicy and embrace his desires he will feel more comfortable and desire you more. be his fantasy my wife is mine. she's hot hotter than any porn actress i have ever seen she is real not pixels but she is like some thing right off any porn site. she keeps me interested with the variety of her fantasies and asks me to participate in hers and ask her to fulfill mine and that is the secret i think to having a strong sex life. variety and sexual openness is the key porn is a side note or a symptom of boredom. if he doesn't know what to expect he is never bored if it is different he will be satisfied. the concept of taking a grown man and chastising his sexual interest and monitoring and locking up computers like you do for children is only going to make him hide more from you and desire a fantasy porn relationship more.
Dumb man + dumb woman = this problem.
Im going through.the same thing im 22 years old and my husband is 25 i try to please hem in every way and he keeps watching porn in his cellphone this is the forth time Sean January im just so tire of this :( …i love God and i just want to do the right thing for my family bt i dont know how to deal with it…he is emberes of talking to the pastor.
I was completely blindsided a month ago. My husband of 23 years lost his job because of viewing porn at work. He was in a high level position. It was his second offense. He had been given three days off work w/out pay 2 years ago because of it. He lied to me then and said he had some vacation days he needed to take. He's been a Christian since he was 22. He's now 43. He was first introduced to porn as a 9 year old by a neighbor boy. We met in high school. I trusted him so implicitly. I would have defended him to my dying breath. I never in my worst dreams imagined he'd been doing this all our married life- and before. We married in college. While I was at work or class he was renting videos. He stopped for awhile after our children were born. (We have five) But he always went back, then repented, begged God to help him, thought he had it conquered, etc.. He absolutely hated this sin and himself for doing it. But he never told me because of how much he knew it would hurt me and for fear that I would leave him. So it remained hidden and he remained unaccountable to anyone. When he came home from work that day and told me, to say I was devastated is an understatement. I thought I could never trust him again and went through the same feelings most women do. (what's wrong with ME? Am I that unattractive? Why am I not enough? How can he say he loves me? How could he lie to me? How can I measure up to those images, etc.). He got on his knees and begged me to forgive him and not leave him. Before he came home he had called our pastor and asked to see him that day. He told the pastor everything, they prayed and talked about what to do. Our pastor is now his accountability partner and is counseling him. I wanted to run away, but my five precious childre kept me from doing something stupid. They don't deserve to be devastated by this. They are ages 14, 12, 7, 5 and 3. They need a stable home and a Mom and Dad. So, I called my pastors wife. We talked and prayed and she counseled me. I know now that this problem (sin) has nothing to do with me. Satan had a stronghold in his life-and it started way before I was even in the picture.. My husband had to be broken and humbly repent. He says that God has broken and humbled him right down to the dust. He takes complete responsibility for his actions in this. I have seen an amazing change in him in the last month. Time in the Word and prayer first thing every day, attending church every time the doors open, wanting to be completely open about everything w/me. I knew he had a pride issue and this is also what kept him from admitting the sin and asking for help. He thought he could do it on his own. We are and will be dealing with fallout for awhile. He's currently interviewing for jobs and we'll probably be uprooted from a home we love and family to move out of state where a job is. I still have doubts in my heart whether I can trust him. I believe he wants to be free of this and believe God can do this in him. But I get concerned about him letting his guard down as time goes on. Our pastor couldn't meet with him this past week and i'm afraid of this happening too often because of how busy he is. I know my husband must have the accountability. Also he's going out of town for an interview tomorrow. His problems before were viewing junk in hotel rooms when he traveled. Part of me worries about this. I can't be with him every moment. He's lied to me so much-how do I trust him enough to not worry when he's away? Will I always struggle with these doubts?
I have found that God had given me so much grace through this. To see my husband as He does. A sinner who needs grace. (just like me) Ten or fifteen years ago I probably could not have handled it. And of course I do struggle. If he were to go back into it I don't know that I could continue. But I have found that God is sufficient to see me through step by step.BTW, intimacy between us was never the issue either. Except perhaps for brief times when I was nursing babies, ill, exhausted. We always have had a very active/interesting sex life. None of us can look like those images-at least not forever. Maybe I once did, but he still did the porn. He has always called me beautiful and i've always been called attractive by other men. I only say that because I see other young ladies on here doubting themselves because their husband seems to prefer the images to them. My pastor's wife told me I cannot take this personally or compare myself to those images. At first I thought What?!? How do I not take it personally? But I now see it as his sin issue and not a condemnation of me.
I was with my husband for 21 years.When we first got together i was almost 16. He had playboy magizines in the corner of his room. I should have walked away then. But i continued in the relationship. It was years of betrayel. He cheated on me with several women. I just kept on taking him back until this time i realized i could not handle him hurting me anymore. I just recently found out after 21 years that he had an addiction to porn and the addiction with porn has turned into sex with different women. I went to my pastor for help. He was the one who made me realize that he was an addict. I could not believe i did not see it. I guess i did because i asked him if he had a problem with women. His answer was always no. But i would always catch him looking at other womens body and the porn and him sleeping around. It all led up to he had a problem. I was blind for so many years. I guess i did not want to except it. I always blamed myself because he would blame me. I never felt good enough and honestly i thought something was wrong with me and that no other man will ever be happy with me sexually. I have lived this life for 21 years, i dont know if i will ever be able to trust another man. Or will ever heal from this myself. All i can do is seek out help from my pastor and put god first in my life and let him help me get through this. I really loved this man and i have 2 kids with him. A son that is 18 and i have also caught him on porn. So now im facing it with him. I dont want him to have the same problem but i feel im too late, i feel it has already became a part of his life as well. If i had it to do all over again, I would have never stuck around and wasted my life on a man who did not love me enough to seek out help. Knowing how bad he was hurting me everytime. This is too all the women that have been through the same thing. We never deserved it. It was never our fault. We could not change them even though we tried. I am truly sorry that you all had to live the same life i did.
Thank you Luke, I did download the book for my son and i also read it for myself. God is giving me strength each day. I never even knew who i was because i got with my husband at such a young age and for 21 years, i lived a life of miserary. I never had any peace of mind. It was one sin after the other. Lies and dishonesty. It all destroyed me. I became addicted to pain killers. To cover up the pain that i was feeling. God has recently delivered me from them and showed me i no longer need them. God is making constant changes in my life so i can begin to find the real me that was hidden for so many years. I want to thank you for all the ebooks i have down loaded. They have helped me so much. I am so thankful that i found your web site.
I am 27. We were married young…I always had suspicions..but I ignored them. I became so angry & bitter, there were times I would lose it over the smallest things. I wasn't sure if there was another woman or what the problem was. I worked & put him through college..I'd decided to let him work & put me through then I was going to leave him. He came clean in 2011. Sought help. Installed covenant eyes, blah blah blah. My prob always was you had the "option" on your phone whether or not to use covenant eyes or just sneak on safari, then delete again. He was "clean" for 2 whole yrs. We got pregnant. When our child was 2mo old, prob started again. On his phone like I feared. During this time, I have become an extremely sexual person. I never wanted me to be a problem. It got to the point where we were doing it once a month…maybe… I was the one that started seeking "self-pleasing" ways & got very close w/ a man. I never was unfaithful or crossed any lines but flirtation. No phone sex or photos…although it was getting difficult. I cried out to God to help me stop. I wanted my husband. Not this other man. We took a trip just us….never even had "relations" the other guy txt me asking if I was having fun. My heart sunk. I promised myself to cut all communication w/ him. Tried even harder with my husband. He wanted to talk one afternoon. He said he wanted me to trust him. He wanted us to have a good marriage. I told him I wanted him. I told him I was tired of rejection. I told him my relationship w/ our male friend had gotten out of hand. I asked if he was into porn again. He denied it.
You see, he'd become so disconnected, not just sexually–but he would rush through dinner & get up leaving me w/ our baby to watch sports. He never wanted any interaction w/ our son. My baby's face would fall every time my husband walked out of a room w/o acknowledging him. He was lost in selfishness. Most nights I put our baby to bed & went to sleep him still up on his phone.
I learned a way to see deleted history in an iPhone. My husband came to me & said he had learned how to go around covenant eyes & wanted me to put a restriction code on his phone he wouldn't know. I asked why he needed that if he hadn't been looking at porn. ((I knew he had been. Women know in their guts)) he again denied it. When he handed me his phone to set the code, I pulled up all his deleted porn sites. He told me they were from 2yrs ago. The problem was, however, he'd only had that phone for a yr. when I pointed this out, he broke down. He said he hadn't looked at it in a month (which I too had felt something change in our marriage–for one, we'd made love twice already & it was like, the 10th) he said that's why he wanted me to shut down his path to safari. I did as he asked. We're starting a 6wk program w/ our pastor. We're going to start seeing a professional counselor. I have hope. It's my only option. Hope. My son will be 1yr next month. My family has a long line of divorces….I never wanted him to suffer that. I wanted him to have loving parents & a security they wouldn't leave each other or neglect him. I am only staying w/ my husband for his sake. God is helping me forgive. What's amazing is my body hasn't shut down sexually…quite the contrary. It's been daily–but I think I'm trying to fast forward to normalcy. I want to be wanted by him so badly. Like the other girls…I get plenty of male attention. I know the feeling of "I'm just a trophy" you don't really want me, but you like showing me off. I've felt that. I've read Pornography has the same affect on the brain as cocaine. I understand it takes work to quit. Once you've stopped for two yrs, starting up is unacceptable. Ignoring your child is unacceptable. I am in it for the long haul….but I'm afraid I can't take all this again. Who knows. The Bible says God will never put too much on us that we cannot bear. I'm leaning & trusting on that. No, in ways I wasn't w/o blame either…reaching out for male validation other than my husband. I've come clean. Read txt, so on. He has full disclosure of all my social media accounts. We are none of us w/o blame. I want a happy whole marriage, if for no one else, for my baby boy.
God bless you all. Everyday is a decision & often a struggle. I pray strength & peace for all who pass through here seeking answers & help.


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The Ballardsville Fire Department is set to build a second station in southern Oldham County after getting approval from the Oldham County Planning and Zoning Commission.
The commission unanimously approved the second station, which will be built at 2414 W. Highway 22 in Crestwood. It will also have a public entrance to the station from Montford Circle.
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Foster parents Debbie and Roger Lance currently have 17 kids in their lives. Between the 10 biological children from previous marriages, the three adopted children and the four they are currently fostering, the Lance household in Centerfield is always busy.
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Now she'll get to pursue her passion on the next level. Richardson signed a letter intent to row next season for the University of Louisville Wednesday at a ceremony in North's library.
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As Congress enjoys a Thanksgiving break, U.S. Congressman Thomas Massie spent part of his time in the western half of his district this week on a two-day listening tour.
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Connor Shaw finished 2011 with an absolute bang. In his last three starts, he threw for 657 yards, eight touchdowns and only one interceptions. He also rushed for 239 yards with three touchdowns.
He had excellent stats throughout the course of the season to be sure. He had 1,448 yards passing with 14 touchdowns and only six interceptions. He also rushed for more than 500 yards and eight touchdowns. That's excellence.
However, what happens if he maintains the pace he had at the end of the year? Two of those three starts were against big-time schools. He torched Clemson and Nebraska. The third was against a decent Citadel team (which ironically gave him his only interception).
If you stretch his three-game pace over the course of an entire season, you would have something that looks like this: 2,628 yards, 32 touchdowns, four interceptions, 956 yards, 12 touchdowns.
Those aren't only All-SEC and All-American numbers, that's Heisman-type numbers.
Will that happen? Who knows. Connor Shaw has the ability and the work ethic to get there. When you compare his current body of work, it wouldn't be surprising for him to compete for an All-SEC spot behind Tyler Wilson and Aaron Murray. He is that good.
He's also a unique talent. His running ability is like that of a running backs. His mind is an asset as well. He compares very favorably to current Heisman holder Robert Griffin III. He's a high-character, highly talented and dedicated quarterback.
He eats film for breakfast, lunch and dinner. He is easily coached. He has natural leadership ability. He's pretty much the ideal college quarterback.
It wouldn't be a surprise to anyone who watched him play towards the end of his first year as a starter for him to put up 3,000 yards passing and 1,000 yards rushing.
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Wenatchee Wild assistant coach Chris Clark earned the ejection of the year on Saturday night during his team's 2-1 loss in an NAHL game against the Kenai River Bears. It's rare for a hockey coach to be tossed from a game to begin with, let alone going out the way Clark went out.
According to the Wenatchee World, head coach Bliss Littler had already been ejected before Clark went on his unique tirade. Armed with sunglasses and a hockey stick that he pretended was a white cane a visually impaired or blind person would use, Clark walked onto the ice and mocked the referees.
Prior to the ejection, the Wild had allowed the River Bears to break a 1-1 tie while shorthanded after their bench received a misconduct penalty that gave Kenai a powerplay. Clark apparently disagreed with the crucial call, which came with 11 minutes remaining in the game.
"I don't know what he (the referee) could have heard from center ice with 3,500 (fans) screaming," the associate head coach said.
Here's my question — has Clark been arming himself with sunglasses on the bench and waiting for an opportunity to break out this act? Who brings sunglasses onto the bench during a hockey game? If he planned it out, more power to him. We've shown you some crazy ejections across sports before, but the blind man routine during a hockey game is something I don't ever remember seeing. A+ for creativity.
LOL, that is awesome. Maybe not very PC, but still funny. Every sports team has been the victim of a bad call, he is just expressing his frustration and thoughts for the ref. Way to go coach.
That's great! As the saying goes: "He's blind, he's deaf, we need a new ref"
Hey, what if a blind person saw that???? lighten up point taken
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My husband thinks he's died and gone to Heaven when I fix this! It goes great with just about any meat you choose to fix. I never use the same cheeses, I go to the deli counter and ask them if they have ANY "cheese ENDS", they sell them for 50 cents a lb... This scrumptous dish usually cost me about $2.50....for 10 servings!! Thanks S.Michael for a great recipe..
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Absolutely wonderful. I only made one change and that's using all fat free evaporated milk. The combination of these cheeses was just wonderful. My boys ate it all and the little I had was just......WONDERFUL. This is going to be my new macaroni and cheese recipe. NOTE: I did add a little hot sauce, onion/garlic powder and dijon mustard but I add that to every macaroni and cheese recipe I make as it's a family favorite.
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I am a mom of three with another baby on the way. I tried to breastfeed my second child but I had alot of problems. My nipples were cracked and bleeding before I even left the hospital. The nurses and consultants said that the baby was latching on correctly, and that it was because the baby had a very strong suckle. I used breast shells to ease the pain between feedings, I soaked my breasts in warm water before feedings to help with letdown, I massaged them, I tried nursing the baby in different positions -- nothing seemed to work.
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I think it is wonderful that you are planning to nurse your second baby in spite of the problems you had nursing with nursing your second baby. Of course I encourage you to try again! The incidence of mothers who can't physically produce an adequate supply of milk is very small, and it is highly unlikely that you would be unable to successfully nurse your next baby. Chances are that you didn't have a successful breastfeeding experience due to any physical problems with you or your baby, but instead due to the fact that you didn't receive the support you needed from the very beginning to prevent or correct the problems you were having.
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I don't know what kind of support/advice you had before, but if you gave up on nursing due to severe nursing soreness, then something was terribly wrong. Breastfeeding is not supposed to hurt! Most mothers do experience some tenderness in the early days, but the severe pain and nipple damage you described has some medical explanation and treatment, whether the cause is improper suck, yeast infection on the nipples, tongue tie, etc. A good lactation consultant will be able to work with you to discover the cause of the problem and make recommendations to correct it.
Your previous breastfeeding problem may have been caused by a yeast infection. If you had a c-section with your second baby, then you were automatically given antibiotics, and they can trigger an overgrowth of yeast. Yeast can cause excruciatingly sore nipples, and the pain doesn't go away no matter what positions you use or how much lanolin you apply. For more information, see the article "Information Sheet and Care Plan for Yeast Infections".
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There are some other articles on my website that might have some helpful information for you: "Establishing Your Supply: Starting Off Right" and "Sore Nipples".I hope that everything goes smoothly for you this time around.
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All the previous matches are just preparations and to get more understanding of LD's games. In fact this is what LCW did in the 2/3 of this year, he tried to face LD as often as possible, got beaten and at the same time more understanding of LD. LCW is preparing for the WC. Unfortunately he fell before facing LD in the WC...
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12-11-2006, 03:47 PM #19Originally Posted by ye333
TH done his homework and preparation for this final AE match. Is this smart?? yes and no. LD won all other previous matchs against TH in 2006 and came to play as tho it's like other previous meets and came second. Does this means he's dumb and lack talent? It come down to how u value each event.
Analogy: better to capture 2 rooks or 1 queen? It depends
If u have short memory, u celebrate the most recent outcome coz that's what TH fans are relishing now since it will be a long dry spell until TH win another title.Last edited by cooler; 12-11-2006 at 03:50 PM.
good read...
I was afraid of another bashing thread, but ncie to read...
though you make it sound like the services dominated the match, but that's probably my misinterpretation...
Though if I look, I also see a personal taste: if LD serves at TH's body TH líkes to hit it forehand...whil LD choose backhand.
If it really was LD's weakness he'd have chosen to use his forehand..on som eoccasions.
But it does happen a lot, and isn't accidiental..great observation! I'd never have seen that...
EDIT: lookign at the match: LD's mostly serving straight (a safe bet).
and TH mixes in a cross-serve, msotly on LD's backhand..But he does this just as much in his match against Chen Hong at the WC...Last edited by jerby; 12-11-2006 at 04:14 PM.
12-11-2006, 04:26 PM #21Originally Posted by jerby
LD is usual with his service and can be quite cunning with his serve, he do quick flickserve to catch his opponent off guard.. but I thought TH's services was just as ordinary as well.. as he always tend to serve short mixing it up with wide and T serve...
But whats definatly different with TH's game was he vary all his shots, tricking his opponent quite a number of time.. just finished watching his match against BCL.. its wow... unbelievable
I think Taufik is a smart player: he's not as 'overcoached' as Lin, and knows Lin to play the orthodox game on return of serve... But lin, though an exceptional athlete is not a great returner on the backhand side and that cost him. Ultimately, Lin has such an exceptional level of fitness/ agility it compensates for a lot of weaknesses. Would rate the skills of Taufik as superior (but Lin is stronger). So Taufik is a gambler in this match, and as TH's backhand is so legendary, and Lin doesn't want to play crosscourt, it makes sense to play him there
....backhand vs backhand (left hander vs right hander)
There has to be some minor flaw in a person's game when
leading 20-10 or sth against LCW & 20-18 against Th and still losing.
Th was struggling against LCW in semis,LD is still learning and improving.
TH is older and wiser, that is the magic of the 21 point scoring system,
gives opportunities for players with good strokes and fine touches to win
in some tournaments.
LIN DAN now knows he has someone to contend with : TAUFIK.
Yes, Christmas comes early for Taufik. Even LCW admitted freely that Taufik is the man to beat.
So, can we expect more of the same from the man ? I think Taufik 'chooses' to play his best games when he is ready -- especially the 'big' games, e.g. Olympics, World, etc. Looking at his Asian gold medal match, the guy lifted to a higher level and there is this look in his eyes that he wants to win. He has shown us that if he wanted to win, it will be bloody hard to beat him.
So I think he will continue to do what he has done before : lose a few and call on his 'special reserve' for the big game that he wants to win. In my mind, he has show that he can beat all the players in the current circuit. He is the BEST --- no two ways about it !Last edited by X Ball; 12-11-2006 at 09:45 PM.
12-11-2006, 10:05 PM #26Originally Posted by ye333
According to your logic, TH didn't go all out to try to beat LD in team events. Instead, he kept eyes on LD's move and actions and forget to win the match then 'gave away' the team gold medal to China, just to 'focus' on MS?
May I say he's selfish, which I consider much worse than 'arrogant' if you are correct?
And... I find it interesting to read people's reactions after AG MS.
What if, LD made 1 point progress after 20:17? (dont tell me it's impossible)
What if, the game was brought to the rubber set?
What if, LD won the 3rd set and became the new AG champion? (even TH himself admitted that he had less chance in 3rd set)
Then gentlemen, do we still have so many emphasis on TH's 'experience', 'smart', 'good net touch', 'well prepared', 'mental maturity'... etc. ? Can we see any LD's 'fault', 'nervousness' if he won all 3 encounters?
Come on guys, don't make judgements just by the known results.
TH lost because that's a game. LD lost also because that's a game, but unfortunetly, the final game of MS gold.
12-11-2006, 10:26 PM #28Originally Posted by nanofans
LD was playing quite well in 2nd game, alot of us here acknowledged that..
No doubt he could have grab gold if it went to rubber set.. however that didn't happened really.. so its the similar dilemma he suffered against LCW in MO06... so is it wrong to make a detail analysis of the game base on what we saw?
12-11-2006, 11:01 PM #29Originally Posted by Simp84
What I am talking about is just a general feeling that we can be too happy to have exaggarated the 'bright side of force' by the victory of our favorite players. Or the 'dark side' will overwhelm when they lose.
ok ok maybe taufik was a little lucky to have easy win on the last few points in 2nd set which lin dan gave away with unforce error (but not the winning point) so what?
so what if lin dan win taufik?
in future when u look at OG gold, AG gold or maybe some "BIG" tournament whose name will be there HAHAHA
lin dan might win taufik a few times, or win so many people all the time...
but taufik just need to win at the right place, right time, right style and will be remember forever HAHAHA
12-12-2006, 12:23 AM #31Originally Posted by ChompChomp
TH beat LD in AG MS final, that is to say he's better than LD in that game, and vice vesa. Nothing else.
I can sense the subtle mental advantage of TH over LD, part from the honor he got, and part from the difference of pressure behind. And I recognize his net and backhand skill as the best in the world. What I don't agree is the saying 'if he wants, he gets'. I don't want people to admit that TH didn't beat LD in team events because that's not the right place, right time, and the victory of INA team will not be remembered forever so he 'didnt want'. LOL
If you initiate a poll out of BC or badminton fans, whoever can tell who's TH and who's LD? Do you know who's the gold medal winner of 2004 OG Marathon?
Back to my points, who's better than whom, is it really important? They brought us the pleasure of great games. That's enough.
12-12-2006, 12:34 AM #32Originally Posted by nanofans
To me, I watched because it was Taufik (the underdog) beating LD (the supremist, having almost everything this year) that was important. I would not have watched if it was a match with "BAO vs LD" or "LD vs CJ" in it.
So it is important to know "who's better than whom" (as per your statement above).
12-12-2006, 12:59 AM #33Originally Posted by X Ball
actually it's odd although I support LD I am using TH strategies(net play and kills, backhand drops, doesn't mean I am not capable of jump smash) to defeat a friend who's supporting TH and favors all kinds of smashes... LOL
12-12-2006, 01:06 AM #34Originally Posted by nanofans
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