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Monday, February 8, 2010
A New Chapter
Plus, I started this blog to share the lighter side of life and there's really nothing funny about what's going on right now. I know you guys all have your own drama and your own strife. You don't need to read about mine. I want to provide a little escape from all the ickiness of life and share the funny stuff instead.
Thank you all for all your support and your prayers. They're very much appreciated! I feel like you're all part of my extended family. I never would have thought I'd have thousands of cyber friends I'd never even met, but I do. You are. And I'm very blessed! :)
Posted by Dawn at 11:56 PM
122 comments:
- Michelle said...
Oh, Dawn - *hugs* to you. You're lucky to have so many great friends to help support you. And know that if you ever need anything, a chat, a lunch, or more -- just call.
- February 9, 2010 at 10:05 PM
- DarcsFalcon said...
Dawn, I just wanted to tell you that my thoughts and prayers are with you, Joe, and your kids as you navigate through this difficult water. I send you hugs, and want you to know you're not alone.
- February 9, 2010 at 10:11 PM
I'm so sorry Dawn! I'll be praying for you and your family! Divorce is such a hard thing to go through.
- February 9, 2010 at 10:16 PM
- Hannah said...
Dawn, I don't usually comment, but your blog has brought me a lot of laughter, and I appreciate your writing.
Will definitely be praying for you and your family during this time.
- February 9, 2010 at 10:20 PM
- Gilsner said...
Oh wow, Dawn. I hope you're okay. Divroces, no matter how 'right' it may be, hurt. It's not just the end of a relationship but a change in the way you thought life would play out. It's hard. But rest assured, my friend, that after the hurt and sadness comes the fact that it's a new start with new opportunities and memories. It may not be the way you wanted it to be, but what ever is?
I know you want to keep your blog on the light side, but I think I speak for everyone (because I'm bossy like that) when I say that if you ever need us, we'll be here. We don't expect you to be funny and happy all the time. After all, you're human.
*hugs* to you and your family as you begin this new adventure!
- February 9, 2010 at 10:24 PM
- justjaime31 said...
I'm sorry. I have been through a divorce with 2 kids. It sucks. Thats really the best way to sum it up :-)
Hang in there.
- February 9, 2010 at 10:25 PM
- sharalyns said...
((hugs)) I'm sorry. Praying for your whole family!
- February 9, 2010 at 10:30 PM
- plainprecious said...
I know that the decison to divorce wasnt an easy one. I know first hand because I have been there done that. There comes a time in your life where you have to say what is best for my family. For me it was like a weight was taken off me when I finally said enough is enough. But on the other hand I morourned the loss of family. I knew that it was going to be a big change for my kids. It took awhile for things to feel right. For all of us. The kids took it hard but they came to the realization that mom was happier especially when I met my new husband. Things happen for a reason. I am sure things will fall into place with you and your kids as well. And extended family too. Dont feel bad I went through that stage. Follow your heart. God bless
- February 9, 2010 at 10:36 PM
You are not alone! I wish you the strength to make wise decisions, and a good lawyer. I've been there, done that and consider my divorce the best 200 lbs I ever lost! You seem to be very strong willed, and it is hard, but moreso on your kids as they will not understand. Check to see if the schools have a support program for kids of divorced parents, or find a local Kids Under 21 program. They need to know that there are many others in the same situation.
I will keep you and your prrecious children in my prayers.
- February 9, 2010 at 10:38 PM
- Dawn said...
Thank you. Yes, I got my kids signed up for counseling months ago, actually. Not sure how much it's helping, but I feel better that they have counselors and peers with divorced parents to talk with every week.
- February 9, 2010 at 10:42 PM
- ~M~ said...
I'm so sorry to hear this. You're right, it's best not to knock your (former) spouse to your kids - it makes you the better person.
- February 9, 2010 at 10:44 PM
- Kristine said...
I'm so sorry Dawn! I just wanted to say, kudos to you for not giving the details. Too many are too willing to bring out all that is wrong with the ex-spouse in front of the kids. It hurts everyone and helps no one.
Hugs to you. I wanted so badly to hear that things were getting better. I'm sure you wanted so badly for things to just be better. So sad that they seem to have gotten worse instead.
- February 9, 2010 at 10:45 PM
- Tammy said...
Dawn, I'm very sorry to hear that you're going through this. I know you can't write in your blog to tell us what is happening, but you need to write what is happening in a personal blog or diary. Not only for you to vent or to document whatever crazy things might go on, but because later, when things transition to a new normal, you will be able to look back and see what God has brought you through. And some day, when your kids are adults, you might want to share some things with them if they ask.
God bless you all.
- February 9, 2010 at 10:46 PM
- bearhugg said...
I am sorry to hear that my favorite blogger and super mom is going through some tough times. I admire your fortitude and your unwavering concern for the best interest of your children. We (your loyal readers, fans, and cyber friends) love you Dawn. I hope and pray for a speedy and amicable resolution for you.
- February 9, 2010 at 10:52 PM
- Six-Pack Momma said...
Dawn, Thank you for opening up your home to all of us. I wanted to tell you how much I enjoy your stories and your insight. I really feel like I know you. God bless.
- February 9, 2010 at 10:55 PM
- rthling said...
Oh, my friend, my heart is breaking for you and your family. I know this must be a very difficult time for you all. I have thought of you often and wondered if your marriage would survive. I have also prayed for you periodically.
Thank you for sharing. I know that sounds morbid, but life has its good times and its bad. We wouldn't be very supportive if we only clamored for the good.
I know I am a stranger to you, but I really care about y'all. Keep moving forward, Hon. Stay in church. Dive into God's comforting Word. He will sustain you when others fail.
- February 9, 2010 at 10:55 PM
- NeverEnoughTime said...
praying for you all....
- February 9, 2010 at 11:04 PM
- Deborah said...
Oh, Dawn!!! I am SO sorry to hear that your marriage has died. Yes, it is a death only in some ways harder, because he's still alive but the dream and the relationship aren't. May God's light shine in your heart during your darkest hours, bringing you peace and comfort and, yes, love.
- February 9, 2010 at 11:06 PM
Dawn, I can only imagine what you are feeling right now, but I admire your courage to move forward. Your stories and humor have been such a blessing to me. I am so grateful to have found your blog and I feel privileged to have met you in person.
My prayers are with you and your family as you navigate this new chapter in your life.
- February 9, 2010 at 11:13 PM
- MHW said...
I kinda reckoned that could be a possibility - just wanted to say Good For You for being able to carry on functioning and producing an excellent blog and really, just keeping going fullstop. No mean feat.
And now something my Mum used to always say to me but this time with sincerity and without that awful sinking feeling that went with it... I hope you're proud of yourself!
- February 9, 2010 at 11:13 PM
- Rachel E. said...
Dawn, I am so sorry to hear that you and Joe are getting divorced. I'm sure you've made the best decision for yourself and for the kids, but I just wanted to say I'm really sorry that you find yourself in this situation. My heart goes out to all of you and I am holding you close in prayer.
- February 9, 2010 at 11:24 PM
- Mandy said...
I have never left a comment before, but I have been following you since the "Ebay" story. Good luck to you and your kids. Just remember to keep strong in your faith in God and he will pull you through!
- February 9, 2010 at 11:41 PM
Just in case you've ever had any doubts about your writing...
I'm an atheist, biochemistry student, and a girl with no intentions of ever, EVER having kids, and I think your blog rocks--and no, I didn't want kids before I started reading your blog either! ;)
Anyway, hoping everything is going relatively well for you, the kids, and Joe. *virtual hugs from Canada*
- February 9, 2010 at 11:53 PM
- Crystal said...
Sending you hugs. You and the kids will be in my thoughts and prayers.
- February 9, 2010 at 11:56 PM
- Rebecca said...
Oh, Dawn. I'm so sorry. My parents divorced when I was 16. And while it really sucked for me, in the end, I'm glad they did. I went from living in a house of pain and tension and anger to a house where there was pain, but we could deal with it out in the open, heal it, and move on. In the end, it was healthier for all of us.
- February 10, 2010 at 12:26 AM
- Much More Than Mommy said...
I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this, and I will be one of the many praying for you. And for your kids, and for Joe. I pray that you'll *continue* to be able to see the lighter side in things, even as you go through all these changes.
- February 10, 2010 at 12:36 AM
- SubWife said...
I am sorry you are going through this. Kudos for not posting the details - it's always better to be a bigger and better person and not put your former spouse down in front of his kids.
You got your kids signed up for counseling. Have you considered counseling for yourself? Please remember to take care of yourself as well.
- February 10, 2010 at 12:43 AM
You know I'm always here for you if you need me! Got a good shoulder to cry on...a good listening ear!
Know that I'm always here praying!
Hebrews 6:17-20 Wherein God, willing more abundantly to shew unto the heirs of promise the immutability of his counsel, confirmed it by an oath: That by two immutable things, in which it was impossible for God to lie, we might have a strong consolation, who have fled for refuge to lay hold upon the hope set before us: Which hope we have as an anchor of the soul, both sure and stedfast, and which entereth into that within the veil; Whither the forerunner is for us entered, even Jesus, made an high priest for ever after the order of Melchisedec.
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- February 10, 2010 at 12:58 AM
- Sandy in Illinois said...
Hugs and prayers.
- February 10, 2010 at 1:03 AM
Want you to know how brave I think you are. You are guaranteed my prayers.
- February 10, 2010 at 1:24 AM
- nutralady2001 said...
Oh Dawn sweetie I'm soooo sorry to hear this. Prayers going up here for you, Joe and the kids xxx
- February 10, 2010 at 2:42 AM
- Elaine said...
Aw Dawn.... I'm soooo sorry to hear that. I hope the divorce will be as painless for the kiddies as possible and I hope that you're doing ok.... *hugs*
- February 10, 2010 at 5:00 AM
Dawn, that's really sad news, but sometimes it's just for the best. Hard to see now, but one day you will look back and be glad the good times happened without it being overshadowed by the rubbish things. My thoughts are with you and the kids right now.
- February 10, 2010 at 5:21 AM
Sorry to hear your going thru this now, it really will get better.
It sounds like your "timeline" is the same as mine,I'm 67 and doing it.Good days outnumber the bad ones.
Having a super support group is wonderful
- February 10, 2010 at 5:53 AM
- Lynn from For Love or Funny said...
I am so sorry to hear your sad news. This must be an extremely stressful time for you. Sending a hug.
- February 10, 2010 at 6:07 AM
- StarGazer722 said...
Hi Dawn. I'm fairly new to your blog but I absolutely love how you write. You brighten my day and I hope things get better for you. Coming from someone that was a child in a divorce- I commend you for trying to keep your children out of it. It can be so hard but it really is the bigger and best thing to do. I wish you all the best.
- February 10, 2010 at 6:08 AM
I am sorry to hear this Dawn! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your children.
Stay strong!
- February 10, 2010 at 6:27 AM
Never left a comment before but I also have followed you from your "EBay" days - always look forward to reading your blog in my lunch hour, so it feels like this is happening to a "friend" if I might put that scenario on it. So sorry to hear the news, but you are a strong and vital lady, and have to do what's best for you as a person, as well as for your family, they might not fully understand that now, but they will. Thinking of you all, and "hugs" from Scotland
- February 10, 2010 at 6:34 AM
- Sam said...
As always, you handled this post with class. I think it's amazing that you even find time to write, let alone wrangle six kids - so I can only imagine what you're dealing with at home. You (and your blog) helped make my first couple years at home a little easier, and a little lighter and I'll always be grateful for that! You guys are in my thoughts and prayers.
- February 10, 2010 at 6:55 AM
- Jennie said...
I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, I know how hard it is for all parties involved. I hope that you are all able to come through this stronger (because the universe only gives you what you can handle).
Your blog is a bright spot in my cyber life, I'm always so happy when I see that there's a new post.
- February 10, 2010 at 7:24 AM
- Sarah said...
I'm so very, very sorry to hear this. I will be praying for your family. I hope you have a good support system and that people at your church will surround you with love (and not judgment like some churches I've known, sadly). Know that you are loved, most importantly by God, as I think you know. I'll be praying custody with the kids doesn't get awfully ugly and as horrible as things are that they will go as smoothly as possible...not trying to minimize what you're going through at all--just am trying to say that I know some divorces are much "uglier" than others and I hope yours is not one of the worst ones. OK, shutting up now so I don't did myself into a deeper hole! Love & prayers from "the Big D"!!!
- February 10, 2010 at 7:50 AM
A simple thank you for caring about your children and shielding them from harmful words about their father. That touched my heart, because my life, starting at age nine, has revolved around the negative, evil, and hateful things my mother speaks towards my father. My parent's divorce was not dreadfully hard to get through. But the hate and negativity my mother raised us with damanged me in a way few will ever understand.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family. My your reactions and actions glorify God in this period of your life.
- February 10, 2010 at 7:59 AM
- Knitty said...
Wishing the best for everyone in your family.
- February 10, 2010 at 8:00 AM
I agree with Rebecca, I come from a split home as well, but I'm so glad they did, they're both happier now and I think it helped me become more secure in both their love as they could then concentrate on us rather than their problems with each other. I'm also in the middle of a divorce right now, so understand how you feel. I respect you for keeping things to yourself so that your kids won't be hurt. All the best and God bless!
- February 10, 2010 at 8:06 AM
Dawn, I want to commend you on your decision not to post about your divorce, despite how therapeutic it would be for you, knowing that there is a possibility your children might read it. I work for a divorce attorney, and have a friend who is going through this. I am amazed everyday at how many adults forget that they need to focus on their children, and what is best for them, instead of focusing on revenge, or hurting the other person, or whatever else.
So, while I'm sorry to hear that you and Joe have decided to divorce, I am glad to know the kids are your focus. I wish you all the strength that you will need to make it over this hurdle in life.
- February 10, 2010 at 8:12 AM
- Michelle Hoad said...
I'll say some prayers for you. I was a single mom with four kids, and even though it was tough at times, it can be done.
- February 10, 2010 at 8:12 AM
Dawn, I'm very sorry to hear of the divorce. Know that alot of people are praying for you and that you will be ok. You're a very strong person.
- February 10, 2010 at 8:18 AM
Dawn I am so sorry. Big hugs and prayers going your way.
- February 10, 2010 at 8:29 AM
I'm so sorry. You and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers since you first shared about your difficulties. I'll continue to pray.
- February 10, 2010 at 8:38 AM
- Bethany said...
I'm sorry to hear that, but I applaud you SO MUCH for not posting and dragging more drama into the kids' lives. I'll be praying for your whole family during this time of transition.
- February 10, 2010 at 9:08 AM
Dear Dawn
First of all I am so sorry for you all. I am not in your situation and do not feel qualified to give advice or anything so I won't! But know that my heart aches for your whole family. You will be in our prayers. Please do not ever think that you always have to be happy on your blog. I don't think that anyone expects that. That said though you ARE hilarious. Thank you so much for the comic relief in my wild days. I will continue praying for you...
- February 10, 2010 at 9:09 AM
- Kara said...
(((hugs))) I'm sorry you are going through this. I hope you and your family will be ok.
- February 10, 2010 at 9:09 AM
Oh Dawn, I'm very sorry. Sending prayers and hugs!
Steph in ND
- February 10, 2010 at 9:14 AM
I am so sorry that you & your family are going through this! I congratulate you for taking the high road by not criticizing Joe where the kids might see it. My parents divorce was not pretty & my dad & his new wife had no problem saying bad things about my mother in front of me. When I got old enough, I refused to see them & to this day (30 years later) I have a very rocky relationship with them.
Take care sweetie, my prayers are with you!
- February 10, 2010 at 9:16 AM
- Kate said...
I'm so sorry, Dawn. But you're strong, you and the kids will make it through. ::hugs::
- February 10, 2010 at 9:23 AM
Dawn, I am sorry that you and your family are going through this. Please know that I will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers. I read your blog all the time and you are an amazing woman and an even more amazing Mom. Take care.
- February 10, 2010 at 9:37 AM
- Rick said...
Oh Wow! I just happened to click over and then get hit with this news. I am very sorry. I will use this as the Lord's directive to pray for you, the children and Joe. We've never met, but the news is truly very sad to me. I'm sending you my my in a blog/internet/ electronic/never met you kind of way.
- February 10, 2010 at 9:45 AM
- Jenny said...
I am so sorry this is happening to you and your family. I am going through the same thing at the moment, so know you are not alone. If I can do anything to help, listen or share advice, let me know. Good luck to you,
- February 10, 2010 at 9:52 AM
Dawn, So sorry to hear the big D word, but figured as much after the post with Joe's trip to the emergency room. You don't need a seventh kid. Husbands can and should be adults who just need a little more tending then us. Think I'll text my hubby of 18 years how much I appreciate him. Best wishes and good luck.
- February 10, 2010 at 9:53 AM
- Rick said...
Joe's part in my doodle of you and the family takes on new meaning now.
- February 10, 2010 at 9:56 AM
I'm sorry for this difficult time in your life but you have to do what is right for you and your family. Thank YOU for saying that your kids don't need to read anything negative about their father. I appreciate you allowing them to have their own idea and opinion of who their dad is. I've always had a hard time with friends that say they felt they needed their kids to know their "real" father/mother and would tell them all the truths but they were not anything that their kids needed to know or experienced. Bless you and your family. ALL of them. Thank you for sharing what you do. I LOVE your blog and check it daily! Mel.
- February 10, 2010 at 10:08 AM
- jessica said...
I'm so sorry for you. I have three small kids and am currently going through a divorce also. My whole life was turned upside down and it was awful. It's only been 6 months since we separated, but I'm already feeling so much better. I realize every day how miserable I was and how unhealthy that was for my kids. And although it's harder now in a lot of ways, it's better. Be strong!!
- February 10, 2010 at 10:18 AM
Hi Dawn,
I've never commented before, but I've been reading your blog for about a year now, and I just wanted to say I'm so sorry you are going through this :( My parents split up when I was in high school - my dad was also a high-functioning alcoholic. My mom had been waffling for years on whether to leave him, and finally she reached a breaking point and did. And it was the best possible thing she could have done. She stopped enabling him, and he was finally able to pull himself together. As hard as it is, I have no doubt that you are doing the best thing for your family.
- February 10, 2010 at 10:19 AM
I've always thought you are an awesome mother, just because you can look at the lighter side of things and take the antics of your children and turn it into a learning lessons for other parents everywhere. Now, I have to commend you ever more, because with everything you have going on, you are obviously still focusing on your children. I'm so sorry things couldn't work out for you and Joe. I hope the kids are handling things as well as they possibly can. My prayers and with you and your entire family.
Gayle in NC
- February 10, 2010 at 10:27 AM
- Snow Mommy said...
Hugs and prayers for your family!
- February 10, 2010 at 11:39 AM
- Janet said...
Dawn - you and your family are in my thoughts. Don't forget to find time to talk about your feelings - good and bad - you need to have a place you feel safe expressing yourself.
- February 10, 2010 at 12:06 PM
- Dawn said...
I'm so sorry. I was in your shoes once upon a time, 16 years ago. Had a 1y, 4y and 6yo at the time. It took a long while for me to get over the death of the dreams and hopes I had for our family. I still loved the man I had married, but he changed to someone I didn't know, and he wanted out.
I am praying for ALL of you, for peace and healing. And it IS important not to trash the other parent in front of the kids. I am also a child of divorce. My mom tried to diminish our father, but it backfired. I am a lot like him, so whenever she made a negative comment about some aspect of him, it was like a hit to me also. I have 5 siblings, and none of us would care if we never saw her again. (she's not a nice person in many respects) We are in our 40's-60 now. How sad for our mother.
God be with you.
- February 10, 2010 at 12:42 PM
- Yvonne said...
Your blog is a great place for us to go to laugh, but it's also a place for you to think of all the funnier things happening in your life. Thank God for blogging, right?
And remember....you're up for Hottest Mommy Blogger. You can just strut your stuff through this divorce.
- February 10, 2010 at 12:54 PM
- Jen said...
Good luck to you and your family. Divorce sucks but have faith that you are making the right choices for everyone! Hugs and Love!!!
- February 10, 2010 at 12:59 PM
- Sue said...
Very sorry, Dawn. I separated this fall. It sucks in some ways and is a relief in others. Hang in there.
- February 10, 2010 at 1:02 PM
I know it's been said a million times, but I want you to know you, Joe and the kids are in my thoughts and prayers. I really enjoy reading your blog, and I agree that you are not expected to be funny all the time. I also agree with you in not wanting the kids to read anything negative about their dad. After all he is their dad and that would hurt them to read or hear negative things about him. Kudos to you trying to keep that away from them. Divorce is always hard, no matter who you are or where you come from. I will always enjoy being a part of your "family" even though I don't always comment. Thank you for opening up your life to the "tens" of us out there, it's a hard thing to do. Prayers always. Angie
- February 10, 2010 at 1:04 PM
- Christina said...
I'm a long time lurker and rarely comment but wanted to tell you how strong I think you are and give ((Hugs))
- February 10, 2010 at 1:07 PM
Sorry to hear about your divorce. I pray for your families. Does that mean that you will have to get a job outside of your home?
- February 10, 2010 at 1:41 PM
- tommygirl said...
Dawn, Thank you for sharing a difficult part of your life with us, and doing it with such class and concern for your children. So many parents get caught up in the fighting and loose sight of what is best for their kids. I hope whatever your futute holds that you, Joe and your children will be blessed.
- February 10, 2010 at 1:57 PM
Just read this post, I'm so sorry. I kind of figured when you stopped gripping about him on your blog things had gone seriously wrong. Hang in there, keep blogging, it will help keep you sane!
Thank you for sharing your wonderful family with us, making me smile and laugh out loud with your funny stories in your book and making me feel like a "normal"
Mom of my larger family when everyone else thinks we're crazy!! LOL
I hope the next chapter of your life brings you much more happiness!! :)
- February 10, 2010 at 2:29 PM
- Sunnyworld said...
Dawn, I'm so sorry to hear that you and your family are going through this. No matter how badly it makes you feel, your children must really be feeling awful, too. Once you are married and have children, you are always involved with the "ex;" so I admire you for not airing any of the details on your blog! I pray that you will have the best outcome possible during this time. I know this can't be an easy time for you.
- February 10, 2010 at 2:44 PM
- Hildigunnur said...
aww, hugs!
- February 10, 2010 at 2:51 PM
- Ellobie said...
My mom divorced my dad when I was 2 and it's probably the one thing I'm most grateful to her for. Our family was beyond broke for many years, but she single-handedly raised 3 college-educated, contributing members of society. You can do this!
Oh, and Hi Mom (she's the one who turned me on to your blog!)!
- February 10, 2010 at 3:44 PM
Hi Dawn,
I don't have anything new to say - everyone else who has posted to your blog has said everything so eloquently. I just want you to know that at least one more person is holding you and your family in her thoughts.
Please make sure you take care of yourself along with taking care of everyone else. You have strength, courage and a sense of humor that not many are blessed with.
Sandy in Tucson
- February 10, 2010 at 4:45 PM
- nydancer226 said...
You and the kids are in my thoughts.
- February 10, 2010 at 5:48 PM
You and the kids are in my thoughts and prayers!!! Thanks for thinking of the kids first and "protecting" them from negative comments.
- February 10, 2010 at 6:52 PM
I'm so sorry that you're going through this. My dad is also a recovering alcoholic and like you once said they may not be drinking anymore but their personalities are the same. So after 33 years of marriage my parents are divorcing and it does suck! My prayers are with you and the kids.
- February 10, 2010 at 7:19 PM
- Robin said...
Oh Dawn...as much as you want to share the lighter, funny side of life (and you do a marvelous job of that) I know that right now what you are going thru must be close to Hell on Earth. I am SO sorry!! It brought tears to my eyes just reading those words. Please know I'll be praying for you and the kids as you go through this and praying for Joe too, that he gets the help that he needs and that the whole matter goes as smoothly as it can. I once read a comment made by Valerie Bertinelli regarding divorce. She said that you have to decide that you love your children MORE than you hate your ex. And that's how you deal with things and keep your children from feeling uncomfortable about the fact that their parents are no longer married.
I'm praying for you and your family.
- February 10, 2010 at 7:36 PM
Dawn you are in my prayers. I have just recently seperated from my husband of 20 years with 4 kids. It has been a long time coming and in the long run will be good for everyone. I commend you for not blogging about it and putting your kids needs first. I have followed your blog for over 2 years and love it becau it is not only hysterical, but it is genuine and real. I wish you and your family the best and know that although we may all just be "cyber" friends, we care about you.
- February 10, 2010 at 7:44 PM
- MaBunny said...
Well Dawn, in a nutshell, that SUCKS!
I'm very sorry to hear about your impending divorce. I'm not going to pretend I know what you are going through, but please know that you will be in my prayers.
You are also a very smart woman for NOT dissing Joe in your blog for your kids sake. That was a very wise choice on your part. You are a great mom, a great cyber friend and all that jazz!
/hugs to you at this difficult hurdle in your life.
- February 10, 2010 at 8:16 PM
- Megryansmom said...
Hugs Dawn! If you ever want to chat call me. Seriously! I'll meet you at Lou's for pizza or sumtin.
- February 10, 2010 at 8:42 PM
- Bailey's Leaf said...
Sometimes living apart is a better relationship than together. My sister and her ex-husband have a good relationship now that they are divorced. He is an alcoholic who never left his addiction even in light of it affecting his children and marriage.
Feel our internet love. We're here for you!
- February 10, 2010 at 9:07 PM
- Mama On The Move said...
One of these days we will all be reading a story in Guideposts about how you made it through and lived happily ever after!
You should possibly keep a private blog about what you are going through now. It may benefit someone later when you are ready to share it.
Praying for your family....
- February 10, 2010 at 9:33 PM
- Stephanie said...
I am so sorry! I hope that everything works out for the best.
- February 10, 2010 at 9:40 PM
- Donna said...
Dawn.....everyone has said what I wanted to say. But know that you are a terrific person and never blame it on yourself.
And yes, it is best to not put your kids thru more than they are already feeling.
You hang in there !
Your kids will survive this too !
Big Hugs from NE Indiana !
Life does get better.....
- February 10, 2010 at 9:54 PM
- MaNiC MoMMy™ said...
Hey Dawn, way to take the high road with this news. Always a class act girlfriend! You will brave through this like the champion that you are, with grace and humor! xoxo
- February 10, 2010 at 10:01 PM
- Marly said...
Dawn, I'm so sorry you're going through all this. I understand why you can't share everything with us but I'm pretty sure you have some close friends who can be your therapists. I hope you and the kids can get through this and you have my virtual prayers with you.
You've really helped me see a lighter side to my kids and the crazy life of a mom.
- February 10, 2010 at 10:17 PM
I can't say anything more than everyone else has already said. I'm praying for you and the kids and hope you're doing okay.
(((BIG hugs))) from me to you.
Donna in PA :)
- February 10, 2010 at 10:30 PM
I'm really sorry to hear this. x
- February 11, 2010 at 8:04 AM
- Nancy said...
*hugs* Hang in there! And you're smart to keep the kids out of it. I divorced my first husband almost 20 years ago. At that time I had a counselor tell me never to bad-mouth him in front of the kids. She was right--they figured it all out themselves. But I did learn that I should have told them what happened when they were old enough to know. Just the facts, not the opinions. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
- February 11, 2010 at 9:17 AM
- Gloria said...
I know that sometimes there are personal circumstances that make divorce necessary. I feel I know you through the words of your blog, and I believe that this is not a decision that you have made without a great amount of deliberation and thought.
May God bless you and help you through this troubling time. I have a young friend going through a divorce right now and it is not easy, especially when her narcissistic husband-to-be-ex is dragging his feet and making it as miserable as he can for her. I hope that your way will be smooth and that you and Joe can remain friends enough to do good co-parenting.
Take care!
- February 11, 2010 at 10:18 AM
I know that this is a difficult time, but I just wanted to say that I think you alwasy put your children first and commend your decision. Now is not the right time to discuss details, but it might be in the future... perhaps an eventual 3rd book.
I wish your family all the best as you navigate through this.
- February 11, 2010 at 10:29 AM
- rskmom said...
- February 11, 2010 at 11:42 AM
Everything I want to say has been said, but I will reiterate because, I too, commend you for handling this with such class. My mother badmouthed my father after their divorce and it hurt because I am so much like him. Just last year, my mother told me that she had a 'wonderful conversation' with my father. I was floored. After much deliberation, I told her I was beyond shocked due to her badmouthing him for years. She said she was wrong to do that. She was wrong, but realizing that now does not erase the years of stuff I heard. So anyhow, I commend you for not blogging about it and putting your kids first.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers. HUGS.
- February 11, 2010 at 12:02 PM
- SeriousCat said...
Dear Dawn,
Having been in your shoes some 15 years ago, all I can say is that no matter how bad it looks and feels now, it does get better.
Hang in there, I shall keep your family in my thoughts as you navigate this new chapter in your lives.
Denise from Australia.
- February 11, 2010 at 12:51 PM
- Simple Country Girl said...
Just wanted you to know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Divorce is never an easy thing, but you will make it through as strong willed as you are. I went through a divorce 2 years ago from a 10 year marriage and it was one of the best things I have ever done. There are times I miss the "family" part of it, but my ex and I get along now for the kids sake. Time heals all wounds and it will for you too. I love the title "A New Chapter" because that is exactly what it is. I am such a different person than I was 2 years ago, all for the better. Keep your head up and I respect the fact you are keeping details off your blog. Even though it's hard sometimes, we must bite our tongue and not say anything bad about the "ex" for the kids sake. And later on down the road, they will respect you even more for that. You are a strong woman so I know you will be fine. You have been an inspiration to me and so many others. Keep Going Dawn!
- February 11, 2010 at 1:02 PM
Prayers for you, the kids, and Joe. I'm glad you have faith and humor and family. I hope you're not busy being so strong that you can't lean on them! :)
- February 11, 2010 at 2:12 PM
Dawn, I applaud you for handling the entire divorce situation with such grace and dignity. You really are an inspiration to me, and a wonderful example of the joys and trials of being a woman and a mother. Thank you for allowing us to be a part of your life through your writing, it enriches my life and reminds me to laugh even when things are tough. I wish you and your family all the happiness you deserve.
- February 11, 2010 at 3:41 PM
Thinking of you & your family. Going thru a divorce myself right now, so I understand not wanting to share. Stay strong, you'll be happier in the end.
- February 11, 2010 at 7:00 PM
I'm so sorry to hear of your divorce. I know this is a difficult time for you and your family. Several years ago, I too left my husband. He had a mental health issue that he was refusing to get treatment for. By the time he sought treatment I was so sick of dealing with him I left him anyway. After I left him, I watched him deteriorate and get worse--even with treatment. I thought this proved I had good reason to leave him. He was, after all, a mess. I didn't understand his illness and took things he did and said personally. Recently, he unexpectedly passed away at the age of 39. Things had gotten so bad that a few short months ago, I would have told you I didn't care if he died. However, now that it actually happened I feel much different. Now, I am left with many regrets about our marriage and beating myself up for leaving him. Perhaps as time goes on, I won't feel this way anymore but right now I would give anything to go back and redo it all.
I truly hope things work out for the best for you and your family. I believe you are doing the right thing by not talking badly of Joe to the kids. I made the same decision when my husband and I separated, and I am so glad I did.
Take care,
Julie in PA
- February 11, 2010 at 8:47 PM
- JennyF said...
Your sense of humor will help you through the dark days ahead (And there will be some.) Best of luck to you, Joe and the kids through this transition.
- February 11, 2010 at 9:17 PM
Hi Dawn,
Like many others, i've followed your blog but never commented before. I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, but you should feel so proud of how you are dealing with this. I've been seperated from my ex for three years now and was determined that our children (then aged 9 & 6) would continue to have a meaningful relationship with their dad. It hasn't been all smooth sailing but, I can happily say my ex and I are better friends now than we were before we seperated and our children are the one's who benefit from our new "relationship". They know they can call their dad anytimme, he is always welcome in our home and quite often we will have dinner together or celebrate birthdays.
Its never an easy road to travel along, but the benefits for yourself and your children will be so worth it in the long run.
Love and prayers to you and your cherubs
- February 12, 2010 at 1:31 AM
I'm so sorry to hear this. I know you're doing what's best for your family, and I hope you find all of the cyber and in-person support you need. Divorce is an awful but sometimes necessary fact of life. God bless you and your children as you go through this hard time. *7hugs* for you and your kids.
- February 12, 2010 at 10:04 AM
- Amanda said...
So sorry you're going through this :( Prayers for your family.
- February 12, 2010 at 5:04 PM
- Midlife Mama said...
Awww I'm so sorry. I am about to pull the plug on my own marriage, as well. Been there, done that before too. It's easier the second...er...third time. Yikes. Anyway, had you thought about starting a second blog that your kids don't know about, to vent and to start a support system for divorced moms such as yourself? I know, right -- in your "spare" time you could do a 2nd blog. Yeah right! LOL! But just a thought. Oh and also? A second thought? If you do blog about your divorce, either here or on another blog, you might want to wait until the legal part is done. You don't want him using the information from your blog to hurt you in the divorce. Know what I mean?
I'm just sayin'.
- February 12, 2010 at 5:09 PM
I had the pleasure of seeing Nicole Johnson last night, a wonderful evening with 800 girlfriends.
One thing she said. "God may not be able to get you out of it ( what ever you are going thru) but He will be with you while you go thru it"
Prayer for you and your family.
- February 12, 2010 at 6:53 PM
- Jennifer in Wisconsin said...
"Promise me you'll always remember... You're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.". Christopher Robin to Winnie the Pooh. I have this saying hanging in my kids room and hope you can post it somewhere to remind yourself in those tough times ahead. Good speed
- February 13, 2010 at 10:19 AM
Hi Dawn, I am so sorry you have to go through this. I wanted to suggest a book you might like to read. It's called Crazy Time by: Abigal Trafford. I have been told it is a must read. Look it up online and read some of it and also the reviews. Thinking of you in Michigan, Kristine
- February 14, 2010 at 10:54 AM
- Julia in Sweden said...
I sort of guessed that since he hasn't been mentioned in the blog lately and you seem to be even more busy than usual.
I don't know what to say. My heart goes out to you and your children. It is never an easy thing to make such a life-altering decision, but I truly believe it's for the best.
A lot of people often stay together for the children, but I have to say that's a mistake. You want to teach your children to pursuit happiness, but if they see that their parents are unhappy, what are they to believe? My parents should have split up years ago, but stayed together because of my sister and me, but we always knew that they were unhappy together and so it made us unhappy too.
You are in my heart and my thoughts.
Take care of yourself!
- February 14, 2010 at 5:31 PM
- maggiebsmocks said...
((hugs)) to you and the children. And Joe too. I am sure this does not come easily for any of you. Life goes on. I pray for healing and strength for you.
- February 15, 2010 at 3:41 PM
Oh, wow, I am so shocked. I just did not see that coming. I mean, I have been reading your blog for a while, so I knew some of the problems you've had with your husband, but I didn't know it was that bad. I am so sorry to hear that! I will be praying for you and your family, especially for the kids not to be affected negatively by this. Hang in there!
- February 15, 2010 at 4:33 PM
- Jennifer Foster said...
Thank you for sharing this. Love ya Dawn!
- February 15, 2010 at 8:10 PM
I am so sorry to hear that you are divorcing. I am sure it isn't easy for any of you. I am praying for you, Joe, the kids and your entire family.
- February 15, 2010 at 10:09 PM
I really am so sorry to hear about you and Joe! You are a wonderful person and have put up with alot. Being a teacher I can really say that sometimes as long as friendly as possible divorce really is the best answer.
I know you believe in God and I am sure he will see you through this time!
Good luck Dawn all your readers are here for you
- February 16, 2010 at 11:10 AM
You all are in my prayers during this difficult time. Hope it goes as smoothly and amicably as it can...
- February 20, 2010 at 11:32 PM
Dawn, I have been away from your blog for a while and just saw the news about you and Joe. I am so deeply sorry for all of you, but want you to know you are all in my prayers. It's all been said- I know this had to be very difficult decision. I wish you all strength to get through this and continue to thrive and find your new normal. Be good to you! Wishing you peace.
- February 28, 2010 at 8:46 AM
- BiblioMom said...
I just found your blog this weekend while playing my silly little google game with myself. The one where I google something random and see what blog I land on. It's great fun. What I wanted to say is that I respect you so much. I'm a single divorced mother of two and former blogger and think that the little you write here for your kids to find the better. Good luck!
- March 8, 2010 at 2:55 PM


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A lot of times there are some stupid, good, boring, crazy "get to know me quizzes' on Facebook. Some of them ask you crazy things about yourself that no else knows and/or might find interesting. Well, on one of these random quizzes I told my friends that one of the crazy things I do is eat peanuts everyday. I don't think it's crazy, but it is strange. I mean, think about it, everyday I eat a handful or more of salty peanuts. Plus, I eat a lot of walnuts, pecans, sunflower seeds and almonds. Never thought about it till I answered that quiz. Even hubby says when we are grocery shopping he is amazed at the the amount of nuts I buy, in bulk, at the store.
Those macadamia nuts are one of my favorites. So buttery, so crisp and so addicting. Why do they have to be so fattening you know? It's bad enough they are so expensive, but why all the calories from something so natural? Speaking of fattening---
These caramel bars are very rich and decadent, so make sure to cut them into candy/bite-sized pieces,. With all the caramel in there they are chew-worthy; you'll be chewing for a while. If you love those sea salt caramels, then you will love these.
salty peanut caramel bars
print recipe
2 cups all-purpose flour
3/4 cup firmly packed light brown sugar
1 egg, beaten
½ ts sea salt
3/4 cup cold butter, divided
3/4 cup chopped peanuts (I left them whole & used dry roasted)
caramel middle:
30 caramels, unwrapped (or I made my own:make your own caramel)
1 (14 oz) can sweetened condensed milk
½ ts sea salt
Preheat oven to 350ºF.
Grease a 13 x 9 inch pan, then line it with parchment paper, both side; two pieces overlapping each other (this will help you get bars out; there is caramel in here, so it will be sticky).
In large bowl, combine flour, brown sugar, salt and egg; cut in 1/2 cup butter until crumbly. Stir in nuts.
Reserving 2 cups crumb mixture, press remainder firmly on bottom of baking pan.
Bake 15 minutes.
In heavy saucepan, over low heat, melt caramels with condensed milk, the other ½ ts of salt, and remaining 1/4 cup butter.
Pour over prepared crust. Top with reserved crumb mixture.
Bake 20 minutes or until bubbly. You need to cool this completely (about 2 hours) before cutting it. It is hard to cut so use a sharp knife. Wetting the knife helps too. Store loosely covered at room temperature.
Makes about 2 dozen + bars.
salty peanut caramel bars
55 comments:
I never take those Facebook quizzes, haha :-DReplyDelete
Be still my heart.ReplyDelete
Those look AMAZING, Dawn. I love salty/sweet chewy things that take forever to finish. Mmmmmmmmmmmmm... You are so bringing these when we finally meet. (Along with the burger, brownies and toffee, of course.)
But, really, I think your cookbook needs to be a salty/sweet themed one. That is your magic touch!
if I didnt know better I would think this was some kind of bait set out to trap me....these look great!ReplyDelete
oooo these look dangerousReplyDelete
Kelly Turner
- Anonymous2/11/09, 10:50 AM
I would love to have one for my morning snack - they look wonderful!ReplyDelete
Dawn you are nuts! These bars look killer. Leave it to you to try and kill me! With me trying to be all healthy. I am book marking these for sure!ReplyDelete
I love the combination of salty and sweet, especially with a chewy center and crumbly top. I am officially craving these now!ReplyDelete
I am loving your newest creation! I love how creative you are in the kitchen!ReplyDelete
- Anonymous2/11/09, 11:31 AM
New nickname for you - Nutty Dawn (lol) I was just thinking about having some pistachios myself before reading your post. I wish I could have one of your caramel bars though!ReplyDelete
Dawn, you never cease to amaze me. I didn't know anyone loved salty and sweet as much as I do until I found your blog. These look out of this world!ReplyDelete
I don't think it's a crazy thing. I have to eat peanut butter everyday. Love your bars.ReplyDelete
Oh these look scary good. I love salty and sweet together. :)ReplyDelete
Awesome! Salty caramel RULES! I will be making these. :)ReplyDelete
These look incredible! That first picture is amazing! I must have one of these. Thanks for sharing!!!ReplyDelete
If I leave you my address will you send me 2 dozen of those?! ;)ReplyDelete
Woman, wanna kill me here? I'm also a nuts for nuts! I like to buy them in the shells and entertein my self unshelling and eating them. But sweet and salty is the way to go. We would be so happy if we were neighbours!ReplyDelete
Holy cow, girl. These look amazing! I'm tempted to run out to the store right now.ReplyDelete
I like nuts a lot too. We're kinda like squirrels. The macadamia nuts are $5 at Wal Mart. That kills me!
oh my god. i need some now, really. this is my kind of snack...salty & sweet and nutty. yummmmmmm!ReplyDelete
Those look heavenly...the look like they have incredible texture. I love the salty/sweet combination.ReplyDelete
Oh my gosh, those look divine!!!ReplyDelete
I eat a lot of friggin nuts, too, hahaha! These look amazing, Dawn, as usual!ReplyDelete
ps-something for you on my blog. :)
Ooooh!! I just discovered these garlic roasted peanuts in the shell at the farmers market. They are soo good. I am sure you would find a good way to put them to use! These bars look amazing.ReplyDelete
These look amazingly good, I can see how the salt would be a great complement to the caramel and nuts.ReplyDelete
I agree with one of the earlier comments, those are dangerous! I would lie, cheat and steal for one of those! YUMMMMMMMM!ReplyDelete
mmmmm. you had me at "salt" and "caramel".ReplyDelete
I think I'm in love...ReplyDelete
Sounds like an amazing combination -- I'm going to have to bookmark this one!
Oh my oh my...all the things I love stacked one on top of the other....stop me before I faint. These look AMAZINGLY good, Dawn....and I agree-Walmart does have great prices on nuts! :)ReplyDelete
this is just fantastic!!! what a treat... :)ReplyDelete
Great original recipe, Dawn! It's like a nutty (Dawn-ized? Lol) version of Millionaire's Shortbread!ReplyDelete
wow do these look amazing. i'm on a caramel kick right now, and i need these bars now. oh man, they look so so so good.ReplyDelete
Believe it or not, I just started eating nuts about a year and a half ago! Good thing I started so I can enjoy these bars.ReplyDelete
Hey Dawn!ReplyDelete
Interesting story you left as a comment. I often wonder why some things happpen to some people and not to others. I haven't blatently seeing anything...felt and heard but that's about it.
I love that you love me baking! I think it's your blog that inspires me to do so! :)
Wow you on a roll. These look awesome Dawn!ReplyDelete
drool. oh, and drool. these are picture-perfect and completely awesome. you're doing good work in the expanding of my waistline. :)ReplyDelete
I'm glad I found someone who appreciates nuts as much as I do. Yes, macadamia's are the bomb! I love visiting your blog and learning from your creativity. These bars are amazing. Walgrees also has great prices on cashews and macadamiasReplyDelete
Woman, these look CRAZY good - just gorgeously de-lish.ReplyDelete
I love salty and sweet together so this is awesome!ReplyDelete
I am totally addicted to facebook quizzes, as you well know. ;)
I'm with VeggieGirl- I want these! Yum yum! Nuts are good fats so I think its great you eat them every day! I have trouble controlling myself around nuts so I try to keep them out of the house hahaReplyDelete
I have yet to get into the whole Facebook thing. I am so out of it, huh? These look so tooth-achingly delicious that I couldn't just stop at one.ReplyDelete
I'm in love, really and truly, I am.ReplyDelete
I can't get onto my facebook account anymore. Maybe a good thing since I spend so much of my free time looking around here :)
Damn you..how do you come up w/ all of this yummy stuff!ReplyDelete
- Anonymous2/13/09, 3:48 PM
Hi Dawn! How are you? I am an almond girl. I have 10 a day. Like you, I just love nuts. Also, seeds. Your caramel bars look heavenly. The photos are great.ReplyDelete
all the best,
Maryann xox
You. Are. The. Master!!! I think I heard angels singing when I saw this! My hubby is a HUGE snacker of nuts, and he would go crazy over these ... if I would share them! hehe Outstanding recipe, Dawn!ReplyDelete
OH my goodness! I love salty and sweet.ReplyDelete
Happy Valentine's Day!!! :)ReplyDelete
Awesome, just simply awesome bars!!!ReplyDelete
These are very dangerous, perhaps halving the recipe would deter temptation and eating them in one sitting.ReplyDelete
This looks wonderful!!! OMG i love this Dawn!!ReplyDelete
Those look so good! Just look at that thick layer of caramel!ReplyDelete
Wow, these look amazing! Love your blog, so glad I found it!ReplyDelete
Adding caramels to my grocery list.ReplyDelete
umm these look amazing.ReplyDelete
and yes there are way to many notes I'm being tagged in on facebook. It needs to stop.
Hi, we've never really met. I've lurked here and commented a few times. I'm Ingrid and I'm a nut lover/eater too, like every morning and maybe, sometimes, often throughout the day if I'm hungry. LOL! I prefer almonds in the morning but if I'm out I'll eat peanuts. I would eat some of my others but I try to save them for my baked goodies. :-) Have you tried Planters Kettle peanuts? Holy cow good!ReplyDelete
Your bars look so good with that yummy THICK layer of caramel!
Nice to meet you!
I hope you can help! I made these last night. I did the caramel from scratch last night (1c sugar) and when I poured it into the sw cond milk it crackled into a hard crack! I ended up heating those cracked parts again to soften but they never liquidized. It turned out ok, I haven't found any bars with brittle in them but did I do something wrong? Thanks!ReplyDelete
has anyone tried these with chocolate chips plz lemme kno!ReplyDelete

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With Bilbray absent, Scott Peters, the Democratic contender, got the last word on Medicare, immigration reform and other issues that have dominated a last-minute advertising blitz in one of the most closely watched congressional races in the country.
"Nice getting all the time to myself," said Peters, who touted his recent endorsement of former Pres. Bill Clinton, gave his stump speech and fielded questions from an audience of about four dozen during his unexpected solo act.
Members of the Town Council's board of directors expressed bewilderment at Bilbray's nonattendance. President Dave Martin said Bilbray had confirmed his RSVP and, right up to the time of the meeting, gave no indication he was running late or needed to cancel.
The Town Council had touted the forum three times on its Facebook page in the days leading up to it. Two days prior, the group also issued a "civic alert" in an online newsletter to promote the event.
According to the newsletter, each candidate was to receive five minutes for an opening statement, followed by questions from the public.
"This is the best way to get quality time with the two potential people who will be representing you and all Obeceans!" the newsletter stated.
Bilbray has been silent about his absence. Early this week, there was no response to two voicemails left at his campaign headquarters, nor to separate emails sent to Bilbray and to his campaign manager. No mention of the forum or reason for being absent appears on Bilbray's website, his Facebook page nor his two Twitter accounts.
"He (Bilbray) had the opportunity to address us. So, tough," Martin said at the end of the forum. "It's his loss."
Bilbray, who currently represents the 50th Congressional District, now has to vie for the approval of voters in Ocean Beach and throughout the Peninsula because of redistricting that now puts him in the 52nd District. Before maps were redrawn, virtually everything south of I-8 and west of Pacific Highway belonged in District 53, where Democrat Susan Davis is the incumbent.
"If you're hiding sir, please come out," said a board member as the forum was set to begin, nearly one hour after the meeting began at 7 p.m. It soon became apparent that Peters would be the only speaker, and he took full advantage.
In response to a question about an opposition ad knocking Peters for his stance on Medicare reform, Peters said, "I want to cut costs to save the program. Mr. Bilbray has voted to cut benefits and end the program."
Peters said he supports negotiating the price of prescription drugs, ending fraud and overbilling, taking advantage of electronic recordkeeping and other new technologies, and promoting preventative care as cost-cutting measures.
"It's taking (Medicare) from a sick-care system that rewards procedures and visits to a healthcare system that incentives prevention," Peters said.
In response to an attack ad for the pension scandal when Peters served as a member of the San Diego City Council, Peters offered a different account.
"The city had three decades of pension underfunding. When I came on, unfortunately, I voted to continue that practice for another year, which was a mistake," he said. "The more important thing is, we set about to solve the problem. We hired two outside experts to tell us what to do and we followed their advice. We ended pension underfunding. We made it illegal."
He said Mayor Jerry Sanders praised Peters as a "partner in meaningful pension reform" for helping to bring about a new pension system and added San Diego's reforms are seen as a model for other cities.
"No one's called Congress a model for anything," said Peters. "My opponent's trying to get you to look at San Diego in 2002 so you won't look at Washington in 2012, where they borrow 30 cents for every dollar that they spend, and they're still pointing fingers and haven't even got started."
On immigration, Peters said he supports the Dream Act, while Bilbray has "gone with the Tea Party" and "taken a hard-line stance against any kind of immigration reform."
Peters also expressed support for better border-crossing infrastructure, development of alternative fuels, fighting climate change and continued tuition support for students.
• The lifeguard station on Abbott Street will be getting a new coat of paint, said Mike Patton, aide to District 2 City Councilman Kevin Faulconer. The $10,000 expenditure has been reallocated from Faulconer's office budget, Patton said. "He made some savings and he's happy to do it," Patton said.
• If you own an electric car and need juice, you've got new options. Recharging stations have been approved at city-owned sites at Robb Field and Liberty Station, said Patton. The number of approved stations, which are installed at no cost to the city by a concessionaire, is well over 100.
• There's still time to enter a float in the 33rd annual OB Holiday Parade
Dec. 1. Applications are due Nov. 15 and can be found on the Town Council website, obtowncouncil.org.
• Some 40 restaurants are on board for the OB Restaurant Walk Nov. 13, said vice president Brennen Bazar. Tickets for $20 are now on sale at the Farmers Market (Wednesdays on Newport Avenue from 4 to 8 p.m.) and the Ocean Beach Mainstreet Association office,
1868 Bacon St., Suite A. Proceeds support the Town Council's annual Food and Toy Drive.


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Stanczyk is trying to digest Debbie G's (from TX and Yahoo Group Polish Geniuses) insight and observations. I will need to analyze her feedback in relationship to the data I have seen (which is just about everything extant). So first, I would like to speak about the LDS microfilm, then I want to speak about Pradziad (Poland's State Archives which contains civil and ecclesiastical data), and finally the Ecclesiastical Archive for the parish of Biechow. I have in my possession a complete list of all microfilm — that would leave only actual physical books in the parish and possibly the civil and ecclesiastical archives. This discussion is just to convince myself (and others) of what exists and to compare the sources available to me and draw up an action plan of what I have yet to view. A further article will compare Debbie's House Number experiences (which I know include many trips to Poland and its parishes and archives — sadly none in my area) with my data from Biechow. Today's posting is a long one, but if you stick with it, you should learn where to find sources of data for your ancestral parish.
LDS Microfilm – Family History Library (Salt Lake City)
URL: Biechow microfilm Family History Library Catalog: http://www.familysearch.org/Eng/Library/FHLC/frameset_fhlc.asp
First off, I need to admit, I still use the original web user interface, so if you do a place name search from their Library Catalog in their new beta-web interface it will look different, but the data will be the same — I have verified that.
The second line is a single microfilm (LDS Mf# 936665) which says it is a microfilm of the original church records from 1674-1847 inclusive, but many gaps exist. The records are all in Latin. Before 1797, the records are what I call Latin Paragraph Form (the earliest are more like Latin sentence or two, than paragraph). From 1797-1847 the data is in the Latin Box Form with standard columns that seem to vary little across all of Poland. Prior to the Latin Box Form, which includes, the column, 'Numerus Domus' (or in some areas an abbreviation of those words), I can state unequivocally, there are NO house numbers recorded. If these really are the actual church records and not a copy then house numbers were not recorded in the Latin paragraph form. After the introduction of the Latin Box Form, the house numbers are used (although not always in the years where they are collected). After reading Debbie G's comments I will go back to the Latin Box Form and confirm the years they have recorded house numbers. I do know that house numbers are also present in the Polish Long Paragraph Form for the early years of Polish records. I will confirm these dates too. I can also state unequivocally, there are NO house numbers recorded in the Russian Long Paragraph Forms.
The top line resolves in the microfilm notes into 8 separate microfilm: 936660-936664 (five film), and 1257788, 1807660, 1807661. These last three are for the years 1875-1884 and as such are in Russian (using the Cyrillic character-set). The first five microfilm are written in Latin until 1797, then in Polish for the years 1797-1847. There are no microfilm for years 1848-1868 which would be in Polish, nor are there any for 1869-1874 which would be in Russian. These eight microfilm are supposed to be copies of the original church records. 1868 is usually a cross-over year, part Polish records and part in Russian.
You can view these nine total microfilm at the Family History Library for free or rent copies and have them sent to your local Family History Center to view. I have done both for all nine microfilm. If you have followed my blog, I have taken pictures of these microfilm records and used them in my family tree and in this blog to good effect. I have analyzed these records and inventoried and built indexes of the details of what is present on each microfilm. So I am more than conversant about these nine microfilm. I can say unabashedly, that I have an expert level knowledge of these nine microfilm and derived my own data in summaries or studies I have undertaken from the detailed records. So it should be understood that I have acquired the ability to read Latin, Polish and Russian. I am self-taught and did so in order to trace my genealogy in the Russian-Poland partition (although, as I have said these villages went from Poland to Austria to France to Russia back to Poland autonomy).
Urząd Stanu Cywilnego (USC) – Civil Registration Office
A real secular civil registry did not exist in Poland until after World War II (1945/1946). Before that vital records were maintained by religious adminstrators. In Catholic churches from the 16th century by Papal edict, but it took many decades and future edicts before Church record keeping became reliable and consistent. Since Poland became partitioned in the late 18th century, there arose three ways of civil registration. So I believe the local USC will only have from 1945-forward. I will refer the reader to a couple of Wikipedia pages that offer the details:
- http://pl.wikipedia.org/wiki/Urz%C4%85d_stanu_cywilnego
- http://pl.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wyznaniowa_ksi%C4%99ga_metrykalna#Historia
Suffice it to say that the religions (protestant churches / synagogues) did not gain individual official recognition as civil registrations until:
In the Austrian partition in 1782, in Prussian partition since 1794, and in the Russian partition in 1825. Napoleon by his civil code established a standard for civil registration and in lieu of any civil office, had the Catholic priest serve in this capacity (1808-1815), such that from 1808-1825 officially in Russian partition, although 1828-1830 may have been when Protestant and Jewish religions were able to finally get control of their own civil registrations and not be recorded in the Catholic Church registers. In my Biechow records, I think I see Jewish records recorded from 1810-1828 in the Catholic register. However, the fact it went past the official 1825 date, is probably more indicative of the rural nature of the region and the scarcity of Jews in some areas. Keep in mind that Napoleon (and his Codex Napoleon) and Russian Czars dictated the civil registration rules in Biechow for most of its records [1808-1918]. During the few years when Biechow was in the Austrian partition (1772-1807) there was probably no change in church registrations, since this era was largely Latin to start and the Austrians maintained the Latin record keeping.
PRADZIAD – Poland's State Archives
URL: http://bit.ly/qe2pn2 [ link to my Biechow] PRADZIAD Database: http://baza.archiwa.gov.pl/sezam/pradziad.php?l=en
Biechów rzymskokatolickie alegata 1875-1886, 1888-1893, 1895, 1897-1898, 1901, 1904-1905
Biechów rzymskokatolickie małżeństwa 1875-1905
Biechów rzymskokatolickie urodzenia 1875-1905
Biechów rzymskokatolickie zgony 1875-1905
The above table shows my Biechow village. The second column is the Polish word for Roman Catholic. The Third word is record type.
małżeństwa = Marriages ; urodzenia = Births (usually also has baptisms) ; zgony = Deaths [your basic vital records]
alegata = addendum [often used to show that someone can be married in the church or has converted religions]
Well pretty much it is just 1875-1905, which is good for my grandparents and their siblings (births and marriages maybe). It also means reading Russian since 1868-1918 the records are kept in Russian. So if I view these in the regional Archive in Kielce, then I could add info to the microfilm I have already viewed, for just the years 1885-1905 inclsuive. That is helpful, because I need my grandmother (Busia) Walerya Leszczynska's birth record from about 1st-November-1886 in Biechow? I also want to search all of the alegata for: Elijasz, Leszczynski, Kedzierski, and Wlecialowski.
Kielce – Ecclesiastical Archive
URL: http://www.kielce.opoka.org.pl/?mod=contents&g=kuria&id=archiwum
The Church too has copies of the parish books/records that it keeps. Biechow is in the Kielce Diocessan Archive in the city of Kielce itself. I once found this image on the Internet on a Polish genealogy forum (now long since gone). Goes to show, you should keep the static web pages you find on your local hard drive.
Most of these are in the LDS microfilm: 936660, 936661, 936662, 936663, 936664, and 936665. Following the record groups are little notes, that I believe represent the fonds within the Church Archive that hold those records. There are a few that are NOT in the LDS microfilm. Likewise there are a few in the LDS microfilm that are not in the Church Archive. SO I will need to look at these microfilm in the Church Archive in Kielce.
I have a similar image for Ksiaznice and Zborowek. My heart is heavy because I have never been able to find a similar document (text or image) for Pacanow. PLEASE can someone in Poland help me? It requires a visit to the Church Archive in Kielce to get this info (possibly a phone will get it). At any rate, if can get Pacanow, please can you email Stanczyk at firstname.lastname@example.com.
So once you find your ancestral parishes, this is what you should do. Build an inventory (a to do list) and a plan to get access to these resources for your family genealogy. Finding your ancestral parish is a process. I need to document my ideas, but that is another posting or two.
Lastly, plan to visit the parish office and the local priest. Be nice (obnoxious Americans please skip this step) and bring a gift of thanks for the priest and his office. When you leave, perhaps you can make a religious offering to the priest for a having a mass for your ancestors. What better way to honor your family and the local parish (or synagogue)! Please make the path easier for the next genealogist by being kind and respectful and generous. There may also be monuments and/or cemeteries in the area or at the church. Do not forget those too.


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Thursday, August 14, 2008
Gettin' Figgy Wit' It
I bought these babies at the farmer's market last Saturday with no clue what to do with them. They were overpriced ($6 for about 12 figs ... a vendor down the way was selling them for $4, but the damage had already been done when I stumbled on those). They were also a little over-ripe. Some were even bursting open.
I ate a few of the not-so-ripe ones raw. They were tasty, but I knew they'd end up rotting in my fridge if I didn't find some way to use them in a recipe. I searched the Internets, and found this great recipe for Caramelized Fig Spread:
The spread contains broiled, caramelized figs and onions, balsamic vinegar, and olive oil. I tried it on an everything bagel with Tofutti cream cheese. Hot damn! This is good stuff! Way better than raw figs.
I'd also picked up a crap ton of tomatoes and a cute little jalapeno pepper at the market. And I bought a lemon and some Granny Smith apples at the Piggly Wiggly.
While the figs were broiling for the fig spread, I used the above ingredients (and some evaporated cane juice) to prepare the Tomato Jam from last month's Vegetarian Times:
This was also great served on bagels with vegan cream cheese. The apples, lemon, and sugar give the jam a sweet preserve-y taste, but the tomatoes and pepper lend a bit of a savory kick. I'd never even heard of tomato jam before, but I think I have a new favorite summer tomato treat.
31 comments:
- ladyliriel said...
Okay, now we're even. I now have "getting jiggy wit' it" in my head. Though for some reason I keep switching an f for the j.
Both of those recipes sound so good!!!!
- August 15, 2008 at 2:15 AM
- Celine said...
figalicious! I'll have some for my morning bagel, if you please.
- August 15, 2008 at 2:24 AM
Figs and tomato jam - how gourmand! The only tomato jam I have ever had comes from Portugal and it is super delish.
- August 15, 2008 at 5:29 AM
- VeggieGirl said...
I looove figs (both fresh and dried) - so luscious!! And WOW does that Caramelized Fig Spread sound good.
- August 15, 2008 at 6:21 AM
- VeganCowGirl said...
That fig spread is beautiful! And so versatile - you could put it on ice cream, in a sandwich, on other fruits. Cheers!!!
And the tomato jam .... I never ever would have thought of that.
You rock, and great great title to your post.
- August 15, 2008 at 8:20 AM
- Jennifer (of Veg*n Cooking) said...
I had never (until now) even seen a fresh fig. I would have never known what to do with them, but that spread sounds great. But that tomato jam, that is really calling my name - seriously. YUM.
- August 15, 2008 at 9:01 AM
Thanks for sharing ideas for some new yummy spreads! I ordered my Veg Times subscription so long ago and I can't wait for it to finally arrive!
- August 15, 2008 at 10:40 AM
- thedalyn said...
Huh. Tomato jam sounds interesting. And, I've been keeping my out for figs at the Farmer's Market, but apparently CO doesn't grow them or something. They've been MIA.
- August 15, 2008 at 11:03 AM
I love love love figs! Fresh, juicy, plump figs are one of my most favourite things in the world (I admit I didn't know this until about 4 years ago...).
- August 15, 2008 at 12:31 PM
- Alice (in Veganland) said...
tomato jam and fig spread in one post! wow! I think I don't like figs, but then again I'm not even sure how the taste, so maybe it's just a bad child memory.
- August 15, 2008 at 1:40 PM
- jessy said...
that. is. awesome. sweet batman, that's awesome! i need to find figs - NOOOOOOOOOOOWWWWWWWWW! and tomato jam? - hot damn!
- August 15, 2008 at 3:06 PM
Daang, that looks mighty fine! I am not sure if I am allergic to figs or not, but I feel compelled to find out so I can try that recipe!!!
- August 15, 2008 at 4:24 PM
- Chelsea said...
The fig spread on the bagel is blowing my mind! There's a fig tree growing outside of my apartment building, and they went and cut most of the branches off before they ripened last summer - how rude! So now I have to pay for them :(
I've never cooked with figs, I always eat them plain too fast!
- August 15, 2008 at 4:27 PM
mmm I love figs! I'll have to try that spread =)
- August 15, 2008 at 5:55 PM
- vegan addict said...
gosh! you really know how to treat a bagel! i want some too, please.
- August 15, 2008 at 6:29 PM
- Tofu Mom (AKA Tofu-n-Sprouts) said...
OK, so now I've gone and commented on some random co-worker's blog (which was actually interesting, BTW) instead of yours. Greaaaaaaaaat.
- August 16, 2008 at 12:09 AM
- Tofu Mom (AKA Tofu-n-Sprouts) said...
\/\/ Not saying your blog is not interesting!! Quite the opposite!!
- August 16, 2008 at 12:10 AM
- Happy Herbivore! said...
your figs are so cute... as are you binanca! getting figgy with it.. adorable!
- August 16, 2008 at 10:27 AM
- Latayy said...
What a lovely mix even if I never tasted figs in my life. I know what they are but they do not see here in a preserved form either. I love the pic with the bagel and the figs.
Good job Bianca
To answer your question about avocado and pears here. If someone says they want a pear here we know they mean avocado because pears (the fruit) are not widely used in our cooking. Yes it is confusing
- August 16, 2008 at 11:50 AM
- Lisa (Show Me Vegan) said...
The fig spread sounds awesome! I haven't purchased figs before either. Sounds like you found a great way to use them.
- August 16, 2008 at 5:20 PM
- Cyn said...
Yay figs! That tomato jam is making me intrigued, too. My boyfriend say your bagel pictures while I was looking at them and was all "What's that? Can you make that?"
- August 16, 2008 at 11:32 PM
- The Voracious Vegan said...
I love figs so you can imagine just how much my stomach is growling right now. Caramelized fig spread.....those words are music to my ears!
- August 17, 2008 at 12:02 AM
- ChocolateCoveredVegan said...
Figs are one of my absolute favorite foods. I just wish fig season weren't so short.
- August 17, 2008 at 1:14 PM
- Urban Vegan said...
I love my figs...in any way, shape or form.
And they're so damn good for you, too.
- August 17, 2008 at 2:07 PM
- Lauren said...
one thing i dont think ive ever had before is fig.. the only time was maybe a fig newton when i was little but thats about it.
now i must try it..it looks so versatile! :)
- August 17, 2008 at 5:25 PM
- Theresa said...
Yum, bagels!
- August 17, 2008 at 10:00 PM
- Amey said...
caramelized figs!
piggly wiggly!
I have a piggly wiggly magnet on my fridge.
- August 18, 2008 at 12:26 AM
- Vegan_Noodle said...
I am pretty inexpereienced with figs as well... but your photos now have me seriously craving a bagel with cream cheese and fig spread...
- August 18, 2008 at 12:12 PM
- Sheridanna said...
Tomato jam?? Wha?? Sounds A-mazing. I love tomato anything. Figs are good too, but tomato jam? crazy!
- August 18, 2008 at 12:25 PM
- Erin said...
I have to boo you for the post title, so "booooooooo". Both the spreads look fab though, I'm of the opinion that anything tastes good on an everything bagel.
- August 18, 2008 at 9:07 PM
- mixtape cupcakes said...
I love the idea of this blog...that we can in fact uphold our cultural traditions without supporting the meat industry. I really respect your interest in making vegan food accessible to people with all sorts of tastes!
- August 18, 2008 at 9:41 PM