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I was just reading a series of developmental milestone charts with both my 2 month old babe and my four month old kid in mind. We have always used attachment parenting with both kids and I can recall that for DD1 this meant that she was a little slower to meet some milestones (never crawled, doesn't sleep through the night) and faster to meet others. So today I found myself thinking (once again) how these milestones seem to be so culturally specific... and therefore created by the normative parenting behaviors.
I was curious if others who consciously practice attachment parenting have noticed specific patterns of how their kids seem to be different from other kids. What do you think, are kids who are attachment parented different from other kids? How? At what ages did you notice the differences?
For me, both kids had (and have) awesome neck control at a very early age, make eye contact super early, and are quick to follow mom around with their eyes. DD1 is amazingly empathetic and in tune with others but also alarmed by the idea of kids not be actively cared for (will get upset if a kid is crying in public and the parent doesn't respond, for example). I've also noticed that my DD is more content with DH and I and less interested in other kids compared to others her age.
Anyone else?
I'm very curious to read the replies other parents with older children. DH and I are pretty AP, but DS is our first and is only 7 months old, so I can't really draw too many conclusions so far. Although I can say that he learned to crawl at 6 months, wasn't big on extended eye contact until a few months ago, and LOVES watching big kids. So, in that aspect, maybe it's just personality?
I also wonder about this question, because I feel like as parents (whether AP or not) we are often put in positions to have to defend our parenting choices, but I don't want DS to have the pressure of being the perfect kid just to prove that it was "right" for me to choose AP.
Mama Bear , Papa Bear and Baby Bear (8/11)
Mine is 19, and there really has never been much of a difference between her and other kids.
SHe was less socially mature than other kids her age, so I kept her out of school for an extra year...but, that probably is just her... she also grew later and slower than other kids. (plus she was extremely late to get teeth)
Her milestones as a baby and toddler were right on track for normal at that time.
I did daycare her entire life, so she always had someone here to play with...so, I can't say that she never socialized, but she preferred kids a little younger than herself. If she was with kids a year older or even closer to her age, she was the follower in the group.
She's always been more capable than other kids her age. She can handle problems and emergencies better than young people her age....But, I have always expected that of her. I don't solve problems for children.. I might discuss how it could be solved, but i don't solve it.
She's not brave or experimental... she watches others first, then maaaybe she'll join. She didn't make new friends easily. Her cousin could go into McDonalds and come out five minutes later with three new friends....my daughter would just watch, and never try to make friends... in fact if someone tried to be her friend, she would shy away from them until they just left.
I totally agree that a lot is left to individual personality and other factors. But, I'm convinced that HOW I parent matters and my kids would turn out differently if I parented differently. I think we would all agree with that.
One of the specific things I see AP advocates point out is that AP promotes intense empathy. So I'm wondering... are your kids intensely empathetic? AP promotes bed sharing and some people suggest that bed sharing leads to increased night waking. Were your kids late to sleep through the night? I could keep going (but am typing with one hand while nursing and its hard...)
Maybe we can't capture this kind of thing on a thread on a message board but I feel sure that there are differences between AP kids and non-AP kids because those two sets of parents focus on different things and respond in different ways.
I totally agree that a lot is left to individual personality and other factors. But, I'm convinced that HOW I parent matters and my kids would turn out differently if I parented differently. I think we would all agree with that.
One of the specific things I see AP advocates point out is that AP promotes intense empathy. So I'm wondering... are your kids intensely empathetic? AP promotes bed sharing and some people suggest that bed sharing leads to increased night waking. Were your kids late to sleep through the night? I could keep going (but am typing with one hand while nursing and its hard...)
Maybe we can't capture this kind of thing on a thread on a message board but I feel sure that there are differences between AP kids and non-AP kids because those two sets of parents focus on different things and respond in different ways.
I do agree that my kids would be different if they were parented differently but I do think their own personalities and temperaments play a huge role. We are pretty much doing everything exactly the same with #2 that we did with #1 yet my four month old sleeps better at night and for longer stretches than my almost four year old. Go figure. I also don't see the empathy from my oldest that I guess I expected to see with AP. but I realize he has a lot of growing to do still.
Ah! Good point. They (and we all!) are still works in progress.
I do agree that my kids would be different if they were parented differently but I do think their own personalities and temperaments play a huge role. We are pretty much doing everything exactly the same with #2 that we did with #1 yet my four month old sleeps better at night and for longer stretches than my almost four year old. Go figure. I also don't see the empathy from my oldest that I guess I expected to see with AP. but I realize he has a lot of growing to do still.
Hmmm...this is a good question. I am not sure at all about this question. There are so many factors that contribute to how a kid develops, and then even attachment parenting itself is a very broad label, not interpreted by everyone in the same way or necessarily leading to the same parenting behaviors (as I understand it, AP is all about NOT having a formulaic approach to parenting).
So I would say that perhaps you could distinguish an AP-parented baby from a non-AP-parented baby...but even then I think temperament plays a big part. And past the age of about 6 months...I'm not sure if you put me in a room full of kids, I would be able to pick out the AP-parented ones from the ones parented in another style.
My DD is 3 has been early to develop in almost every way. Hit all her physical milestones early, is tall for her age, is socially mature, is extremely verbal. She has been very slow to sleep through the night (it didn't happen at all until she was 27 months old, and didn't happen regularly until she was 30 months). She weaned at 33 months, quite a bit later than I wanted, perhaps a little earlier than she wanted (it was mostly a mutual decision, but I was pushing a bit). Is she more or less empathetic than other kids her age? I have no idea.
I personally think that a lot of parenting styles can be successful, it's more about the fit for the family.
Living in Wisconsin with my partner of 20+ years and our DD(Born 10/09/08 ). Why CI Mama? Because I love contact improvisation!
One of the specific things I see AP advocates point out is that AP promotes intense empathy. So I'm wondering... are your kids intensely empathetic? AP promotes bed sharing and some people suggest that bed sharing leads to increased night waking.
Were your kids late to sleep through the night? I could keep going (but am typing with one hand while nursing and its hard...)
My daughter did not sleep as well when she slept in bed with me. So, we didn't do much bed sharing. It wasn't going to work out for us. She was sick often, so she slept with me while she was sick, but has always slept in her own bed otherwise. She slept through the night from birth. (She sleeps a LOT now as a teenager) As an infant, she'd rather sleep than eat. She was just born to sleep a lot for some reason.
She is very empathetic, but she absolutely went through her selfish phase. I think she learned empathy by having problems with other kids, and having her feelings hurt a few times, because the true empathy didn't come until 5th-6th grade.
I had to teach her (and the daycare kids) to fix what they did wrong. She wasn't made to say "sorry" but, she HAD to find a way to fix it. No excuses allowed, just fix it.
She's always had a great love of animals, and I indulged that a lot. She had every kind of pet that would fit in our house and yard. So, she learned a lot of empathy that way.
One of my daycare boys was raised the complete opposite of my daughter. (He's the same age as my daughter) He was spoiled and ignored at home. He could have whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted as long as he'd go away and leave his parents alone. He was (sadly) left in his crib for a full 8 hours to cry...because it was bed time, and it didn't matter if he wanted to sleep or was sick or anything... bed time was bedtime. Too bad, so sad. .....
Anyway, He's very much like my daughter. He's still a little spoiled and doesn't work for what he wants, they just buy it...but, otherwise, he's very sweet, thoughtful, empathetic, and wonderful with kids...he's much better with little kids than my daughter..she has no patience for kids. (I still do daycare...so, that apple fell far from the tree) He's a young man that I would be very proud to call my own son.
You know, I wish I could say that how my kids are turning out can be directly related to my parenting. Alas, it's not that clear. Raising children is such a complex mix of how you parent, your personality, your child's personality and the overall environment that you live in. You can control how you parent and you have some influence over the environment (but that lessens as they get older). I work hard to have a good relationship with my kids and treat them with respect, but of course I fail more than I'd like (we had a bad evening last night, for example).
My fondest wish is for us to have a good relationship with our kids when they're adults. I think we're doing all the right things, but only time will tell. And then again, my parents weren't very AP in some ways (CIO and spanking are the two biggies), and yet they managed to create a positive, respectful relationship with all of us. It's not a perfect relationship, but it's good. They raised 5 kids who are still talking to them and who like to spend time with them.
I guess I see the value that has carried through from generation to generation that is consistent with AP is the respect for children as people. I know it sounds odd to say that given that my parents did CIO and spanked, but those were the tools they had at the time (I'm "old" -- my sibs are all baby boomers, and I'm just shy). They did the best they could with the tools they had. They treated us like individuals, we were incorporated as contributing members of the household, and they talked to us and included us in their conversations and interests (I learned to play bridge at 12 because that was a big thing with my parents, for example). If that's what I achieve, I'll be happy.
So, while I think my kids are pretty awesome, I can't say it's because we practice AP. I think instead it's more that they're pretty awesome kids and we haven't done too much to screw them up!
I actually just came across this article about a study that found "toddlers with loving mothers had more growth in key brain area." The title uses the term "Loving mothers" and I definitely don't think that AP mothers are more "loving" than non-AP, but the way that the article reads it actually seems like they are talking about using gentle discipline, not just "loving" your kid more.
And the science is clear at the effects of breastfeeding on children's development. Again, you breastfeeding does not = AP necessarily, but it is a piece of the AP puzzle.
Mama Bear , Papa Bear and Baby Bear (8/11)
as pp pointed out - i really think its not so much parenting style but more about respecting your child for who they are.
i interact with dd's 4th grade class mates a lot. i have been with them a lot since first grade.
i cant tell you which child was APed and which wasnt.
but i can definitely tell you which ones were not 'respected' or given the time the child needed.
some of the 'problem' kids have special needs - but the others who are problem kids and DONT have special needs - its because they have a v. unhappy family life or their parents have not connected with them. there are 'happy' kids who are being raised by gparents or have been homeless the past few months. for the homeless apart from late homeworks there has been no separate issues.
with the empathy - i think a lot of parents are forced to be AP coz they have such sensitive kids. at least that's what a lot of parents have told me.
for me i think what matters is 'sustained' parenting. if today i suddenly become the opposite of AP - i think i will have undone all the AP of 9 years that i have done by the time teenage comes along.
my xBIL raised his son AP (the best way a man can be AP) and till he was 14 son and dad were one. his mother was no where on the scene. things changed. in his tweens son went to live with his mother. today as a young adult he hardly has any relationship with his dad. its all very awkward. he is super close with his mom.
You know, I wish I could say that how my kids are turning out can be directly related to my parenting. Alas, it's not that clear. Raising children is such a complex mix of how you parent, your personality, your child's personality and the overall environment that you live in. You can control how you parent and you have some influence over the environment (but that lessens as they get older). I work hard to have a good relationship with my kids and treat them with respect, but of course I fail more than I'd like
So, while I think my kids are pretty awesome, I can't say it's because we practice AP. I think instead it's more that they're pretty awesome kids and we haven't done too much to screw them up!
I absolutely agree with Lynn on this.
I get compliments on DS (9) all the time -- on what a nice, well-behaved, gentle kid he is. I'd love to take credit for that, but I think a lot of it is just who he is as a person.
Of course, I think that how you parent does have an influence! For example, a very good friend of mine is an amazingly mother and also very similar to me in background, parenting approach, and personality. Her boys are "difficult" at best and, in fact, have been known to bully. She's devastated and actively working with them. Did I do something she didn't do to get the "good outcome"? I don't really think so. But, FWIW, I'm sure her boys will turn out ok in the end because she is such a great mom, does work with them and the school, and is setting a good example.
Likewise, my DS is and always was extremely sensitive, highly empathetic, very clumsy and uncoordinated, and is cautious. Had he been born into a family of obsessive athletes who pushed him into sports or had had a super macho dad who wouldn't have been ok with him wanting a wall in his room to be pink when he was 4 or didn't like the fact that he loves knitting (DS goes to a Waldorf school, so this is taught at school) and belittled him for this, he might have ended up much less self-confident and happy than he is now. But he was born who he was and, as Lynn says, I think what we can take credit for is not having screwed him up!
I can't really compare, as we live in a pretty crunchy community. Kids are breastfed for 2 years or more, co-sleeping is normal, NIP, GD, and you see slings everywhere. I've even met a couple of homeschooled children on our street.
I think AP makes self-confident, emotionally intelligent children. Regardless of their physical abilities (crawling, walking) or mental abilities, I see them as being more confident, social and better able to deal with unpleasant situations, like stress. And by social I don't mean having lots of friends, but being comfortable in social situations (even if it means observing for a while before joining in).
Sorry, I don't think it makes a difference as far as producing a superior product.
I do think that it can make a difference to YOU, to make you a better parent (some of us definitely are intuitively impaired in how to do that, such as myself, so AP was very helpful to ME). I am at my kids' school almost every school day, due to the nature of their program I've known a majority of their classmates since they were in 1st grade (my kids are in 3rd and 4th now). I know these families fall all over the spectrum of parenting styles (from authoritarian, to non GD, to whatever goes, to AP, to TCS, ect). The common denominator though is that they all are very involved parents. (It may be hard to believe, but it is possible for non-AP people to be compassionate, involved parents, and for AP checklisters to miss the point.) The kids are who they are largely because of personality, not parenting style. I've seen that in my own three kids, as well as in families with multiple children who parent differently. Even my MZ twins behave and look at the world very differently from each other.
There are many reasons to justify AP to yourself, but not the 'it produces better children' line. Because, in my observation, it doesn't. If that's all that's keeping you going, that's where burnout happens and where the danger is of resenting your kid or being embarassed by them from normal behavior because they're not the product you sacrificed and hoped for. Seen that happen with AP parents too.
Enjoy things with your young kids. If AP keeps YOU sane, that's the important thing. Try not to look down your nose at people who are parenting their baby differently though, because chances are it will come to bite you in the ass when they are older, and you realize that many other paths turned out kids just as good as yours, or you still have to deal with some poor behavior/choices.
I have four children. They've all been parented by AP principles (even though I'd never heard the term until my oldest two were 12 and 2 years old). I actually don't think any of them are really highly empathetic, except maybe dd1. DS1 is a very kind young man, and he does go out of his way not to hurt people (physically or emotionally or any other way), but he's not always very aware of the possiblity of hurting people's feelings. DS2 may be on the autism spectrum (no diagnosis, but I've suspected it for a long time now), and he doesn't seem to have any empathy at all...but he's very generous, in many ways.
Milestones? I don't really remember the details. I do know that ds1, dd1 and dd2 were all very early talkers, and quite early walkers (they were all walking before a year). DS2 was a late talker (very occasional single words at about 18 months, but didn't expand his vocabulary beyond about five words until 27 months) and a relatively late walker - first steps at about 15 months. They're all gifted (in terms of intelligence, ie. the "formal" use of "gifted children"), but dh and I are also both gifted, so I'd tend to expect that. All four of them could support their own necks from birth (all my children were c/s)...so could most of my nieces and nephews, so it seems to be a genetic trait.
I don't know. My kids all have wildly different personalities, and I don't really see any less variation in them than I do in a random sampling of other kids. None of them are mellow, but that's about the only trait they have in common. (My ex was pretty laidback, but dh and I are both quite intense, in different ways, and a mellow child would honestly surprise me. DS1 is laidback in some ways, but he's very energetic and highly extraverted, so he's on the go a lot...not the type to curl up with a book for a quiet evening very often, yk?)
I'm rambling - there's a lot of background chaos around here right now (we're getting ready to go out). Basically, I don't think AP makes any measurable difference. I parent the way I do, because it's what feels right to me. I think there are parenting styles that are out-and-out damaging, but I also think parenting styles that aren't "true" AP can have very similar results. And, short of serious abuse and neglect, I also think a child's innate temperament, personality and genes are going to have a stronger impact on how they end up than whether they coslept or were in a nursery, or whether they were in a stroller or a sling (and dd2 HATES being worn), or whether they were breastfed or formula fed (I'm strongly pro-breastfeeding, but I also suspect there's less difference, in most ways, between a breastfed baby and one who is held and cuddled for formula feedings, than between the latter and a baby who is routinely fed from a propped bottle).
Lisa, lucky mama of Kelly (3/93) , Emma (5/03) , Evan (7/05) , & Jenna (6/09)
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I think AP allows for a better relationship for you and your child generally, and reduces anxiety and gives a good foundation for problem solving later on. I don't think that it affects children in any measureable way either, with milestones and development especially. But, the trust and faith that it builds early on is a stepping stone to dealing with other issues later & I think that's great. I don't think that not doing AP parenting means you won't have that trust, but it's one way to get there.
My boys were are good sleepers, we always co slept and breastfed on demand, and ec'd. Maybe its just genetic, im a good sleeper too. They are both somewhat fearless and independent, which i attribute to ap, but then again, maybe its temperament. The show signs of empathy, but then again sometimes not.
I think if you could generalize, an AP'd child feels better about themselves and has more confidence. Dont expect that to always look good, or to even be apparent at all.
You know, I wish I could say that how my kids are turning out can be directly related to my parenting. Alas, it's not that clear. Raising children is such a complex mix of how you parent, your personality, your child's personality and the overall environment that you live in. You can control how you parent and you have some influence over the environment (but that lessens as they get older)
And the choices they make. Our children ultimately have free will.
My kids are 13 and 15 and very different from each other. They are both amazing in their own ways. I think at this stage, one can usually tell which kids feel loved and supported, but that doesn't always equal APing.
I don't think that a superior product is a reason to parent a specific way, because no matter what you are aiming for, there will be moments when your child acts the exact opposite of that. The reason to treat your child how you treat your child is because that is what feels right to you.
For example, I believe in only GD because I believe it is wrong to use physical pain to force another person to do anything. If someone came up with a study showing some advantage for children who are occasionally spanked, it wouldn't change my view that for me smacking a small child is just wrong. For me, it's wrong.
but everything has pros and cons
I disagree actually. I "AP" because I think it will benefit my relationship with my ds, but not because I think he will turn out 'better'. I think it might help during the teen years if/when he makes mistakes or needs help navigating a particular situation (by way of us having a strong trusting relationship). Not even that is a guarantee though.
OP, it sounds like you're doing great with attachment parenting, it sounds like your kids are doing great - no need to compare yours with others.
Developmentally, sometimes they'll be ahead, sometimes they'll be behind. It's true when they're younger, and will be true when they're older.
Focus on your own relationships, enjoy the moments you spend with them. Teach your kids how to appreciate how precious these moments are - love them so they learn how to love. This will probably matter more than whether or not you're doing AP, or whatever else parenting style.
I absolutely 100% believe that AP-type practices DO make kids "better" in relation to their long term mental health. I am convinced that the epidemic of mental health issues in the US is directly linked to parenting practices. For example, it is not normal to stop parenting at 8pm. It doesn't mean co-sleeping is best for all kids, because of course some children sleep better alone, but not comforting a crying child for extended periods of time, not respecting them as an important member of the family, etc. all increase the likelhood for mental health issues down the road.
As some of the OP's mentioned AP-raised children are more likely to acquire the emotional tools needed to cope with what life is going to throw at them. Depression/panic disorders/bipolar illness most commonly appear in the late teens-early 20s and typically after a particularly stressful event (going to/graduating from college, for example).
I think there are so many factors that affect an older child's behavior and personality, that it is really hard to tell what is personality, what is parenting, etc. Plus, there are many different parenting practices that affect a child..and not just AP.
I've found that a baby/toddler that is breastfed and spends almost all his/her time with his mom and dad is going to have more stranger anxiety than a child that has multiple caregivers or babysitters, irregardless of AP or not.
Other things like diet and educational choice also play a factor. For example. I feel that my kids are less hyper than other kids but their could be many reasons for that..besides parenting...personality and diet. I've taught kids before that were absolutely bouncing off the walls, and when you ask them what they ate for breakfast, they say something like "toast and fruit loops." My kids eat very little sugar on a daily basis and artifical food colors are pretty rare...usually only on a holiday or party..and when they do have it, I definitely notice a behavior difference.
In general, I've noticed that some homeschooling children tend to grow up a little "slower" compared to children that go to school. Not they are less mature, but they spend more time in childhood activities longer than other children. It's not true for everyone across the board, of course, just a general trend.
My kids aren't really old enough to tell if they will have greater emotional health than their peers as they aren't at an age were mental health illnesses typical manifest.
Homeschooling mom to 4
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I've been thinking about this thread and I hope that we haven't completely discouraged the OP.
One of the reasons that I worry about this line of thinking is that I don't like the other side of the coin that this kind of reasoning brings: If the good things (early milestones, greater empathy, early talking) that your child has are due to the fact that you AP, then the bad things must also be due to your parenting. I've seen a lot of parents on MDC over the years beat themselves up because they did all the "right" things and their kids still have problems. Their 2 year olds still hit. Their 4 year olds are still mouthy. Some kids still have motor delays or speech delays or autism or mental health issues. My kids have a tendency toward anxiety. I hope that when they're 25 or 30 they won't go through the same debilitating periods of anxiety that I've experienced. But if they do, is it because I didn't AP "right"? I don't think so. Mental health issues go back generations in my family.
As others have said, I AP and practice GD because it feels right in the moment. I hope that it will pay off in the end, but that's all I can do. I can predict. I don't want to take credit for my children's own development, nor the blame for all their faults. That's putting too much of a burden on me, as a parent.
That being said, I think AP allows you, as a parent, to savor your child's development a little more. But that's a benefit to the parent, not the child.
I think we need to be careful how we frame "mental health issues" because many mental illnesses are related to chemical imbalances in the brain and other physiological events, and while environmental factors may ease certain mental illnesses, they do not prevent them, especially certain depressions, bipolar disorders and schizophrenia. I agree that certain anxiety disorders may have a direct link with environment, but I think the problem we have in our society with the acceptance of mental illness as a serious issue is because we (general we) believe that the person has the power to cure themselves through positive attitude or that their illness is preventable through positive reinforcement, "correct" parenting, etc.
I don't know if AP makes kids different or better. I agree with Lynn above that it feels/felt right when doing it. It made our lives as a family a whole lot happier and more rested (co-sleeping being the biggy for us). DD cousins, however, are just as empathetic and secure as DD, and their parents didn't practice AP. I just think it makes parenting (when children are babies and toddlers) so much easier. Plus it felt right to meet certain needs when they needed to be met.
On of my children has special needs. It is quite common for children with her basic dx to experience extreme anxiety and depression during adolescence. AP didn't spare her from that. At 12, she was diagnosed with clinical depression, and at 13, with a social anxiety disorder. She was carried in a sling. BF. She only had GD. She homeschooled in a relaxed way when she was little. And she still became extremely depressed at 12. My DD has a lot of labels, but that one was the hardest for me, because I bought into the idea that if I did my job right, but child would at least be happy.
If you notice, it's generally moms of younger children who think that APing makes all the difference, and moms of older kids who are less sure.
Some of us have watched our kids have extreme problems, or we've known other children who've been well parented who had problems, or we see kids who've had very mainstream upbringings do great.
APing is wonderful in many ways. It does not come with a money back guarantee. Part of how children turn out is just genetics, or random. Or the impact of events beyond your control.
When you start looking at how children are doing and evaluating it against what you know about the parents, you are just judging. And it's hurtful. It's still hurtful to moms like me, even if you add in a cavet that my DD is doing better than she would have with mainstream parenting. But you are still judging me and my child, and you have no right.
And when you make generalizations, you are judging lots of mothers and their children, and you have no right to do that either.
but everything has pros and cons
I'm so sorry for the confusion, I should clarify.
My statement that "mental health issues and parenting practices are linked" does NOT mean that the way you parent can prevent all forms of mental illness, AT ALL. When I say linked, I mean that in some circumstances, I believe that some forms of mental issues manifest because of early childhood experiences. I have a brother with schizoaffective disorder. He is currently refusing meds and living on the streets while my parents and I try (with no success) to gain guardianship over him. He was always a high needs, sensitive kid who is clearly genetically linked to his disease. No question. However, I can't help but wonder if there is a small chance his disease would not have arisen (or arisen in such severe form) if my parents did not hit him every time he bit another child when he was 1 or keep guard outside his bedroom when he was 2 because he kept "trying to escape". This form of parenting practices continued throughout his childhood, when he desperately needed someone to understand and he sensitive to who he was and as a result he spent most of his time alone reading in his room. His disease didn't manifest until graduating from college, when he was so utterly panicked over what to do next he attempted suicide. Then and only then did the other symptoms of his disease emerge.
I never had any mental health problems growing up, and my 2nd year of college (biology major) I was having trouble keeping up with my work and completely panicked. I wound up with many severe panic attacks every day and had to take a semester off of college. I was told that I had a "chemical imbalance" (and mentioned by previous OP) and spend most of my 20s on prozac and other meds. I used to tell people I was 'sick'. I don't believe that I'm sick anymore. I had two strange parents who I couldn't really talk to about anything, including an overprotective mother who never ever let my brother and I out of her sight until we were dropped at college. I may have a genetic propensity toward panic disorder, but maybe if I didn't have an obsessive need to achieve (from trying to impress my parents) my attitude toward my studied would have been better and I wouldn't have felt so stressed in the first place.
Stress causes chemical changes in the brain. Stress responses/negative patterns of thinking, if they become habitual, are going to alter brain chemistry. I believe this is far more likely to happen with more severity and frequency in non-AP environments.
I have a nearly 5 year old and I don't like the history of mental disease I'm up against when considering her future. Maybe I've adapted some Freudian beliefs (that the personality is formed primarily in response to early childhood experiences) because it helps me feel like I'm doing everything I can to prevent her from following the same road as my brother. So, I may be biased due to my grief.
Also, one more point; this book also affirmed my current thinking on this topic. http://www.amazon.com/The-Price-Privilege-Generation-Disconnected/dp/0060595841 "Numerous studies show that privileged adolescents are experiencing epidemic rates of depression, anxiety disorders, and substance abuse -- rates that are higher than those of any other socioeconomic group of young people in this country."
Again, I'm sorry if I offended anyone. I think AP parenting is our best defense against mental disease, and if my DD or future DC wind up with some issues at least I can feel I did everything I could to prevent it.
I'm still not buying it. Is the complete control that your parents attempted to exercise over you and your brother healthy? Of course not.
However, when I see people as parents, I think most of us fall along a spectrum of mainstream to AP. Most "mainstream" parents that I know are good loving parents - they may use different discipline tactics than I do (most do NOT spank - neither do I), but they lovingly take care of their children. Did they babywear? Maybe or maybe not. Did they do BLW? Who knows, but probably not. Do they Gd? mostly. Even though we parent differently (and who parents exactly the same as I do? No one - we're all different and we all do things slightly differently. We all have very unique relationships with our children), mostly we are all loving parents who are attentive to our child's needs. There are definitely extremes on both ends, but thats not the majority. The majority fall on a spectrum.
I'm not the "perfect" AP parent, and I'm willing to bet that most people here aren't either. We're human, and we all make mistakes. I don't think its a good idea to go through your parenting journey thinking that you're going to do things just right so that your children don't end up like you and your brother - they might anyway! And then you'll have to come to terms with it, which will be easier if you don't put all your eggs in the AP basket thinking that they will turn out perfectly.
I'll admit, I judge parents. Most believe too strongly in genetics and don't think about what the heck they are doing. Parenting is 1000x harder than I ever thought it would be and there is a HUGE lack of effort by many parents. Include the breakdown of the community in this country (not living near relatives, don't know your neighbors) kids are going to have more problems than ever IMO. I do understand your perspective though.
I'll admit, I judge parents. Most believe too strongly in genetics and don't think about what the heck they are doing. Parenting is 1000x harder than I ever thought it would be and there is a HUGE lack of effort by many parents. Include the breakdown of the community in this country (not living near relatives, don't know your neighbors) kids are going to have more problems than ever IMO. I do understand your perspective though.
Thats fine, but when your kids have any issues whatsoever, I hope you blame it on yourself. Since, you know, you're blaming parents for all their kids issues.
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The east mountain area of central New Mexico includes the eastern one-third of Bernalillo County and portions of Sandoval, Santa Fe, and Torrance Counties. The area covers about 320 square miles.
The Madera Limestone, the principal aquifer in the east mountain area, is the sole source of water for domestic, municipal, industrial, and agricultural uses for many residents. Some water is imported from wells near Edgewood by the Entranosa Water Cooperative, which serves a population of approximately 3,300. The remaining population is served by small water systems that derive supplies locally or by individually owned domestic wells.
The population of the east mountain area has increased dramatically over the past 20 years. In 1970, the population of the east mountain area was about 4,000. Demographic projections suggest that approximately 1,000 people per year are moving into the area, and with a growth rate of 3.0 percent the population will be 16,700 in 2000. Consequently, ground-water withdrawals have increased substantially over the past 20 years, and will continue to increase.
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(CNSNews.com) – On a visit to Iran that will heighten concerns in the U.S. about his nation's policy shift, Turkish President Abdullah Gul is strengthening political and economic ties with Iran, winning praise from his Iranian counterpart for defending Iran's rights "in all international forums."
Gul's three-day visit comes as Western governments condemn the Iranian government's continuing suppression of opposition supporters and the United Nations' nuclear watchdog confirms ongoing uranium enrichment in defiance of Security Council resolutions.
In both of those areas, the Islamist-leaning Justice and Development Party (AKP) government of Gul and Prime Minister Recep Tayyip Erdogan has refused to side against Tehran at the U.N.
Gul met with President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad on Monday as security forces clashed with opposition supporters who defied a ban to hold demonstrations against the government and in support of the recent uprisings in
In an unconfirmed report, an Iranian human rights group said at least one protestor was killed and several injured when security forces opened fire on one group in the capital, and that some arrests were made. Opposition leaders earlier were placed under house arrest.
Foreign media have been banned from covering the protests, and
State Department spokesman Philip Crowley expressed concern about the reported death, saying the
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Sean Brown shares "The Gospel," the first track off his upcoming EP, "The Ground Up."
On November 23, HNHH will premiere the new EP from Alumni spitter Sean Brown, The Ground Up. There will be 8 new tracks on the project, all produced by Brown himself. Today, Brown has shared the first track off the EP, "The Gospel," and it's some uplifting material perfect for the beginning of the week.
"The Gospel" features a feel-good instrumental, as Brown lays down a beautiful soul sample and shows off his scratching skills in the process. Brown relays personal lyrics about his tiresome grind and how he manages to wade through all the nonsense and appreciate each new day.
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Arfa - Youngest MCAD
Till now I was quite proud that I got MCAD and even posted my certificate. But I felt very bad about it when I found that a girl named Arfa Karim Randhawa in Pakisthan has finished her MCAD at the age of 9. Ya even I didn't believe it at first (I read it twice before believing). Here is the link.
She made an impression through a combination of charm, flattery and boldness uncommon for someone her age. For example, during Arfa's meeting with Gates, she presented him with a poem she wrote that celebrated his life story. But she also questioned him about what she perceived to be the relatively small proportion of women on the campus."It should be balanced -- an equal amount of men and an equal amount of women," she explained afterward.
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Later in the afternoon, she sat outside with S. "Soma" Somasegar, a Microsoft corporate vice president, and described her vision for a self-navigating car. He listened to her ideas and told her about some of Microsoft's existing software for cars.
To be sure, despite her question to Gates about employing people her age, Microsoft wasn't about to offer a job to someone so young. But Somasegar talked about the possibility of an internship in a few years.
"The thing that's exciting to me is her passion for technology at this age," said Somasegar, who decided to invite Arfa to
after reading a story about her in MicroNews, an internal company newsletter. Redmond
I think it is a big success for Microsoft and also a real booster for both Microsoft and also the developers who use Microsoft technologies.
It looks strange how Robert Scoble missed it. Come on Scoble stop comparing Technorati and Bloglines and blog about this too. She promises to be a better evangelist than you for Microsoft ;)
Update: Some one in the comments said that this is news is a fraud. Here is the official news from Microsoft site itself.
BTW Scoble I am still waiting for your answer. Take some time to comment on this apart from comparing different blog searching engines. ;)Technorati Tags: Certification | MCAD | Scoble | WorldRecord


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We did it! The Indiegogo Campaign for The Shopkeeper: A Documentary about Mark Hallman and the Congress House is a success!
However, in the flurry of the final days I failed to achieve my goal of posting a little something about a few of the artists who have recorded at the Congress House. So without further ado, here are the final five of the CH All Stars!
Randy Weeks
Originally hailing from Minnesota, singer/songwriter/guitarist Randy Weeks was a founding member of the Los Angeles-based country-rock band the Lonesome Strangers, who recorded his song "Ton of Shame" on their 1986 album, Lonesome Pine. The group's self-titled 1989 album featured his song "Daddy's Gone Gray," and both his "Fine Way to Treat Me" and "Ton of Shame" were on 1997's Lonesome Strangers album Land of Opportunity. (All three songs were co-written by Jeff Rymes, co-leader of the band.) Weeks appeared as a vocalist on Dwight Yoakam's albums Buenas Noches from a Lonely Room (1988) and Under the Covers (1997). He sang and played several instruments on the 1989 self-titled album by Chris Gaffney & the Cold Hard Facts, which featured his song "I Was Just Feeling Good." He has appeared on albums by Pete Anderson, Rick Shea, Ramsay Midwood, Anny Celsi, Dee Lannon, and Tony Gilkyson. His recording of his song "Countryside with You" was featured on the soundtrack of the film Shallow Hal in 2001. His most successful song is "Can't Let Go," which has been recorded by the Burden Brothers, Larry Cordle & Lonesome Standard Time, Mason Daring, Hometown News, and Lucinda Williams, and was featured on the soundtrack of the 1998 film Jack Frost, in Williams' version. Weeks' debut solo album, Madeline, was released by HighTone Records on March 13, 2000. He self-released Sold Out at the Cinema on June 6, 2004, and followed it with Sugarfinger on August 22, 2006. Relocating to Austin, TX, from his longtime base in Los Angeles, he signed to Certifiable Records, which released his fourth album, Going My Way, on February 24, 2009.
Kelly Willis
Although the work of new traditionalist singer/songwriter Kelly Willis earned widespread critical acclaim, she found little in the way of comparable commercial success; her sound, a smart hybrid of country and rock, simply assimilated both musical styles too well to gain acceptance in either camp. Born in Oklahoma and raised in the Washington, D.C., area, she began performing in her boyfriend (and future husband) Mas Palermo's band at the age of 16. Her powerhouse vocals were so popular with club audiences that soon the group was renamed Kelly & the Fireballs in her honor. After Willis graduated high school, the band moved to Austin, Texas, only to break up six months later.
As a result, Willis began learning to play guitar while drummer Palermo honed his songwriting chops. The duo started a new band, Radio Ranch, with guitarist David Murray, steel player Michael Hardwick, and bassist Michael Foreman. One of Radio Ranch's performances so impressed singer Nanci Griffith that she began lobbying her label, MCA, to sign to group, leading to Willis' 1990 debut, Well-Travelled Love. In an attempt to capitalize on Willis' stunning looks, she was marketed as a girl-next-door type, and despite the presence of the full band, only her name appeared on the album jacket. Despite the glowing reviews, the LP fared poorly, and so, for her 1991 sophomore effort, Bang Bang, she was depicted as a coquettish pinup. Again, however, the good publicity the record received did not translate to radio airplay, let alone chart sales.
For her third album, comprised largely of her own songs, Willis joined forces with pop producer Don Was; the self-titled 1993 effort suffered the same fate as its predecessors, however, and she was dropped by MCA shortly after its release. Following a few years of relative inactivity, she resurfaced in 1995, duetting with Son Volt's Jay Farrar on the Red Hot & Bothered compilation, and after issuing a 1996 independent label EP, Fading Fast, announced plans for a 1997 LP on A&M. In late 1996, she married fellow Austin musician Bruce Robison.
As the '90s drew to a close, Willis inked a deal with Rykodisc. Her fourth album, What I Deserve, appeared in 1999 and it was a breakthrough hit for Willis. Time Magazine hailed the album as "the smartest, most consistently worthwhile country CD" to have been released that year. Three years later, Willis returned to the scene with Easy, which included collaborative efforts with Vince Gill, Union Station's Dan Tyminski, and Nickel Creek's Chris Thile. Willis tossed her hat into the crowded yuletide scene in 2006 with the amiable Happy Holidays, followed by her seventh album, the Chuck Prophet-produced Translated from Love in 2007. In 2008, Willis announced she was taking some time off from the road. She made only sporadic appearances, usually as a guest with Robinson, but otherwise kept a low profile. She finally emerged from her long silence with Cheater's Game, a collaborative album with her husband produced by Brad Jones. The set featured songs by Dave Alvin, Robert Earl Keen, Hayes Carll, and others; it was released in in time for Valentine's Day in 2013. Critical and popular reception of the recording proved so promising, the two decided to collaborate on another duets collection with the same producer. Our Year was released in the spring of 2014.
Wiretree is an indie rock band from Austin, Texas led by Kevin Peroni. Initially a solo project based on homemade recordings, Peroni released Bouldin in 2007, and later recruited other band members to solidify the project. Four albums later, the band has been featured on "Satellite Sets" (an Austin City Limits live taping), toured Europe and played numerous music festivals including SXSW and China's biggest music festival, the Strawberry Music Festival.
Wishing Chair
Since 1995, multi-instrumentalist Miriam Davidson and songwriter Kiya Heartwood (Stealin Horses) have made an art of inspiring performances and award winning songs. A Wishing Chair concert is a passionate mix of intelligent lyrics, spell-binding storytelling and breathtaking harmony over a full folk and roll sound. Heartwood's percussive guitar work and wide open vocals compliments Davidson's tasteful use of a myriad of instruments: piano, accordion, banjo, hand drums and bouzouki.
They perform in venues ranging from The Bluebird Cafe in Nashville to Old Town School of Folk Music in Chicago, Uncle Calvin's in Dallas and Club Passim in Cambridge,The Ark in Ann Arbor and at festivals including the National Women's Music Festival, the Kerrville Folk Festival, the Clearwater Folk Festival, the South Florida Folk Festival and the Philadelphia Folk Festival. Their eighth and latest CD, "Stand Up 8" has just been released. Wishing Chair's music has received many honors including, Best New Folk CD of 2006 from JPFolks for Underdog. Their seventh CD, Folk and Roll, was nominated for a 2009 Best Contemporary Folk CD award.
54 Seconds
54 Seconds were an American rock band from Austin, Texas. Consisting of Spencer Gibb on vocals and guitar, J. J. Johnson on drums and vocals, Stewart Cochran on piano, synthesizer, keyboard and vocals and Glenn McGregor on bass. The band's first name was Jez Spencer but later changed to 54 Seconds.
Spencer Gibb, who formed the band is the eldest son of Robin Gibb, best known as a member of the Bee Gees. His mother is Molly Hullis worked as the personal assistant to Beatles' manager Brian Epstein until his death. The group's story originally begins with a dream, a dream that Spencer had in Miami, Florida, urging him to move to Texas as he explains: "If there's anything I can say about living in Miami and doing drugs, it's that I learned to play guitar". Spencer formed a band called Jez Spencer the original line-up was Gibb, Johnson, Stewart Cochran, Johnny Goudie and Einar. Johnson suggested Cochran, who he had seen play with Abra Moore and David Garza. Gibb e-mailed Cochran, who at the time was touring Europe with Jimmy LaFave. When Cochran got back to Texas, he hooked up with Johnson and Gibb at the Austin Rehearsal Complex (ARC), and after hearing some demos, decided that he was in for the long haul. Later, Johnny Goudie left early to formed his band Goudie. After eight months, Einar also left the group as he also participated on the band Goudie. The remaining members played with a numerous of bassists including George Reiff. For the next few months, Jez Spencer played shows, until Reiff left. "A perfect pop song chorus comes in at around 54 seconds," he said. Gibb thought he was crazy and told Wadlow, "We'll name our band 54 Seconds and you can go [censored]".
The quartet have become a popular band in the Austin area and they play every week at the Speakeasy at 412 Congress Avenue. Their debut album E.P. was released. They call their style, Alternative rock and pop, psychedelic and they were influenced by The Beatles, Led Zeppelin, Pink Floyd, Joni Mitchell, Stevie Wonder and Prince.
"You've got three camps when it comes to being famous," he explains. "One, people who don't know or care at all. Two, people that do know and expect you to sound like your father and are disappointed when you don't. Three, people who don't want you to sound like your father but look for the similarities. 'Aha! I heard vibrato!'"
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And of course I was there, announcing the launch of our new joint ICIS-MRC pricing reports on polyethylene and PVC (see press release for all the details.)
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Shakira Proclaims: I'm Having a Boy!
Posted Tuesday October 2, 2012 1:37 PM GMT
Last month she shared the joyous news that she has a bun in the oven, and now Shakira has revealed that it's a boy.
The "Hips Don't Lie" singer and her Spanish soccer stud Gerard Pique are over the moon about their soon-to-be-born son, and can't wait to become parents.
Shakira shared, "It's gonna be a boy. This guy [Piqué] is the best thing that ever happened to me in my whole life. And now we're having a baby."
She added, "When the baby is born, I'll take him with me on charity trips. He shall learn that he is able to change the world."
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Drawing Down the Moon, or DDTM as it is fondly called, is hundreds of pages worth of phenomenal social reporting. Margot Adler spent years traveling the US interviewing people in various organizations and leaderless groups who are now considered our Elders. She herself became an elder in her own right. [Read more…]
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Corvallis OR (SPX) Aug 31, 2010
Much of the world's electronic waste is being shipped to China for recycling and the cottage industry that has sprung up there to recover usable materials from computers, cell phones, televisions and other goods may be creating significant health and environmental hazards.
Scientists from China and the United States have identified numerous toxic elements in the emissions from an e-waste recycling workshop in southern China, which uses low-tech methods to separate reusable electronic components from the circuit boards. It is not an isolated case, the scientists point out; such methods are used all over China.
Results of their study have been published in the journal Atmospheric Environment.
"The most immediate problem is the health of the workers and the people who live in the city," said Bernd R.T. Simoneit, a professor emeritus at Oregon State University and one of the authors of the study.
"But this may also be contributing to global contamination. For example, previous studies have found carcinogens in wind-carried dust from Asia."
Simoneit is a widely published scientist who has been involved in numerous studies identifying chemical "signatures" for emissions, including coal smoke, biomass burning, petroleum-based fuels and even the burning of municipal refuse. By using mass spectrometers and other sophisticated instrumentation, the researchers can pinpoint the contributions of specific emissions to the atmosphere.
Their work in China was conducted in Shantou City, a town of 150,000 people located in southern China's Guangdong Province. They collected samples during four working days, when workers were removing the electronic components by heating the circuit boards over grills on stoves burning coal briquettes.
The workshop had 24 stoves along three walls, and an estimated five tons of circuit boards stacked along the fourth wall for processing. Workers would use the grills to melt the solder, and then remove reusable portions of the circuitry.
The research team included five Chinese scientists and Simoneit, who has dual appointments in OSU's College of Oceanic and Atmospheric Sciences and the Department of Chemistry.
The researchers found that through this "roasting process," numerous organic chemicals, heavy metals, flame retardants and persistent organic pollutants (or POPs) were emitted into the air via the smoke. The chemical signature created by this process of roasting or toasting circuit boards "is unmistakable."
"The next step is to see to what extent this is harming the environment and creating a health hazard for both the workers, and people living in the path of the emissions - either through inhalation, or exposure to the skin," Simoneit said.
"Some of these chemical compounds may be carcinogens; others may be just as harmful because they can act as 'environmental disruptors' and may affect body processes from reproduction to endocrine function."
The Chinese authors of the study are affiliated with the Chinese Academy of Sciences and include lead author Xinhui Bi, with ZhenZhen Wang, Xinming Wang, Guoying Sheng and Jiamo Fu.
Simoneit also is working with scientists in India to identify chemical signatures from the burning of wire and other materials, which is done to recycle copper and other minerals. And he is working in Saudi Arabia on a different problem - helping develop "green chemistry" methods for recycling that country's massive urban waste to create methane.
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As he arrived at the packed Ottawa theatre, Sir Robert Borden had good reason to expect a rough welcome. Three thousand farmers, many of whom hadn't slept for lack of beds, were milling around outside. Inside, their comrades were waiting to lambaste the prime minister.
It was May, 1918, and Borden had just broken his Union government's promise to exempt active farmers from military service. He had been urging them to plant more crops and buy more equipment for the war effort, and now he wanted to draft their sons and workers, right at the start of the seeding period.
"The attitude of the meeting was extremely aggressive," Borden wrote in his memoirs. For about two hours, every speaker, including Quebec's minister of agriculture, attacked the government's conflicting demands.
Borden waited through the harangues, then made a speech in which he refused to make any concessions. The Germans were attacking in France, he said, turning back the British Army and forcing an urgent new Allied recruitment. He predicted that the enemy might even try to invade Canada, and claimed to have support from the United Farmers of Alberta, although the UFA said any grain shortages would be the government's fault.
The significance of Borden's meeting that day reached far beyond the issue of swords versus plowshares. It would prove to be a watershed event in the disillusionment of Canadian farmers in general, and the West in particular, with mainstream federal parties.
Fuelled by resentments that had been simmering for decades, the "food or fight" conflict of the First World War prompted a series of alternative rural and western-based parties to bid for electoral power. Soon after the war ended, provincial United Farmers parties surged into office in Manitoba, Alberta and Ontario, and in 1921 the Progressives became the second-largest party in the federal Parliament, smashing the old two-party system forever.
"The war showed the farmers they were a national force," says Mourad Djebabla, an assistant professor of history at the Royal Military College of Canada. It crystallized their realization that they could bypass the old-line parties and take rural and western concerns directly to Ottawa.
That disgruntled grassroots activism has been a constant in Canadian politics ever since, whether it calls itself Progressive or Reform or Wildrose. Whatever else the First World War meant for us as a nation, it had a profound and lasting effect on our domestic politics – and it all started with an argument about food.
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The war effort drew many parts of Canadian society together, but in the countryside, battling the Hun also meant enduring a crossfire of demands and criticisms that enraged farmers. For them, the war experience was proof that the eastern urban parties would never understand their needs and wants.
Food was Canada's first contribution to the Allied effort: 1.5 million sacks of flour were shipped to Britain soon after war was declared, along with 4 million pounds of Quebec cheese. The federal government immediately launched a series of propaganda campaigns that urged farmers to produce as much as possible for the troops.
But Borden also set escalating recruitment targets, and his minister of militias sent recruiting officers deep into rural areas to enlist farm workers. The farmers' contention that they were doing their duty and obeying the government by working the land did not go down well in Canadian cities.
"All the papers [are] lamenting the fact that the rural districts are not contributing a satisfactory number of recruits to the war," a Globe columnist wrote in January, 1915, before a single Canadian soldier had arrived at the Western Front. It was time to ask, he wrote, whether "patriotism of production [a play on the government's first food campaign slogan] is real or only an excuse!"
It would be hard to exaggerate the social pressure to enlist, especially in the cities. At a patriotic rally in Toronto's Riverdale Park in August 1915, "women paraded through the crowd with a torn pillow, presenting white feathers to men not in uniform," writes Ian Miller in his history of Toronto during the war. But it wasn't just the farmers' courage that was challenged – they were also accused of grubbing for profits while others marched to the front.
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Researchers at the University of Texas Medical Branch in Galveston reviewed Roosevelt's personal letters, medical reports and biographies that described the disease that FDR had in 1921 when he was 39. Armond Goldman, emeritus professor of pediatrics, and colleagues note that some of FDR's symptoms were rare in polio, but fit a diagnosis of Guillain-Barré (GHEE-yan BAH-ray), an autoimmune disease that damages motor and sensory nerves.
Their diagnosis, in the Journal of Medical Biography, published by The Royal Society of Medicine in London, is based on an analysis that examined the frequency of paralytic polio and Guillain-Barré in adults of Roosevelt's age at that time and the likelihood of his symptoms occurring in either of the two diseases.
The paralysis that crept up both sides of FDR's body from legs to chest over a 10- to 13-day period is more typical of Guillain-Barré than polio, in which weakness or paralysis occur in a matter of three to five days and affect one side more than the other. The authors point out that at the time of FDR's infection, polio was rampant, but it rarely struck anyone over age 30. FDR also suffered temporary facial paralysis, bladder and bowel problems and severe sensitivity to touch, none of which were common in polio.
All those symptoms are consistent with Guillain-Barré Syndrome, named for the scientists who described the illness in two French soldiers in 1916.
While he was president, Roosevelt's paralysis was hidden from public view, but his struggle has become an inspiration to others with disabilities. In 1927, Roosevelt established a rehabilitation center in Warm Springs, Ga., to help other victims of polio, and helped launch the March of Dimes, which led to the development of polio vaccines.
FDR spent months at the center in Warm Springs, swimming in the soothing waters with other polio victims to try to restore their paralyzed limbs. The Roosevelt Warm Springs Institute for Rehabilitation still serves thousands of people each year. Institute spokesman Martin Harmon says people with Guillain-Barré are among those who come for therapy.
But Harmon isn't buying the suggestion that Roosevelt didn't have polio. He says Roosevelt was attended by several doctors and went through extensive therapy that would likely have resulted in some improvement if he had had Guillain-Barré. The suggestion that the diagnosis was in error is "extremely far-fetched," he says. "It's like rewriting history."
But, says Goldman, Roosevelt's physicians may not have known about Guillain-Barré, and if they did, the treatments available today were not known at that time. Goldman doubts that a diagnosis of Guillain-Barré would have made any difference to FDR.
The authors acknowledge the impossibility of a certain diagnosis more than 80 years after the fact, and they say Roosevelt's doctors were among the top health experts of their day, so they can't be faulted if they made a mistake.
"Making a diagnosis of the cause of FDR's paralytic illness was far more difficult in 1921 than at the present time," Goldman says. Even today, there are diseases and disorders whose causes are not known, but may be discovered by future generations. "In that respect, we are all prisoners of our times," he says.


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>Take note that when configuring shaping on a bridge=20
>in m0n0wall, you can only shape the inbound traffic on each interface.
It seems on a bridging setup, you can shape incoming and outgoing
traffic but not the conventional way.
Simulating internet and lan on a lab setup, I bridged LAN and OPT
interface. OPT interface connects to
our LAN simulating Internet and OPT is connected to a switch which the
test boxes are connected simulating a local area network.
And the following are the results:
1. To shape incoming traffic, the incoming direction of the the OPT
interface should be use for defining the shaping rules.
2. To shape outgoing traffic, the incoming direction of the the LAN
interface should be use for defining the shaping rules.
[ internet ] ------ [ monowall ] ------ [ LAN ]
lan <bridged> opt
incoming -----> in out out in <------ outgoing
If anyone could verify this, it will be greatly appreciated.


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By creating a new account with an number already associated with another account, it will sometimes remove that number from the old account which will then allow you to re-use that number as a new number for the old account. I highly suggest using the verification via phone call instead of sms.
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