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Born and raised in Chicago Illinois Jerzy began his radio career being on-air in a top three market at the age of 21 making him one of the stations youngest on-air personalities. His early accomplishments didnt come overnight nor do they complete even a tenth of his to-do list. Yet they say a lot about who he is where hes been and where hes going. His passion for music began before the days of CDs (and gasp- iPods); back when Jerzy would hold the mic of a Casio recorder up to a boom box to tape-record dj mixes. After years of going to concerts listening to hip-hop browsing record shops for vinyl and mobile DJing his innate desire to be in music consumed him. Jerzy joined the Chicago nightlife scene back when he was still considered to be jail bait sneaking into clubs hosting and promoting for various parties. Jerzy signed on as the baby of a promotions crew and quickly learned how to balance the demands of his freshman year in college with the chaos of touring clubs and campuses around the Midwest. While promoting Jerzy was introduced to key players at one of Chicagos top radio stations B96. With his foot inthe door he began interning during his sophomore year which then led to a consecutive internship for the launch of the Stylz and Roman night show. The Cinderella story continued that same year after months of demo shopping when Jerzy was given the opportunity to fill in for his first on-air shift on radiolet alone on B96. Currently Jerzy is on-air every weeknight from 7pm-12am and Saturdays from 6pm-10pm His love for music doesnt stop there; you can also find him DJing at some of Chicagos hottest clubs throughout the week.
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Tao Las Vegas is a multi-faceted and multi-story "Asian City" housing a restaurant, banquet facilities, lounge and nightclub, and beach located in The Venetian Resort, Hotel & Casino. Upon entry, guests are transported from the City of Sin to the Pacific Rim with Tao's lush velvets and silks, waterfalls and century-old woods and stones. An extensive collection of Buddha statues watches over ever y corner of Tao, including a unique reclining Buddha and Tao's signature 20-foot Buddha that "floats" peacefully above an infinity pool complete with Japanese koi. The dinner menu incorporates culinary components from China, Japan and Thailand. Signature dishes include offerings from sea, sky and land including Chilean Sea Bass Satay with Wok Roasted Asparagus, a preparation of Peking Duck that consistently receives accolades and Kobe Beef Shabu Shabu along with a full sushi bar. The nightclub is accented by a moat bar, adorned with breathtaking red chandeliers and a Monk Bar decorated with a wall of almost 300 hand carved monks and candles and nightlife reigns supreme at Tao with enticing options to indulge any mood. A chic lounge downstairs serves as a gathering spot ideal for cocktails and conversation, with DJs spinning eclectic beats nightly. For those craving a high energy, DJ driven atmosphere, the 10,000 square-foot Tao Nightclub is the place to see and be seen, with three full-service bars, two main rooms playing a variety of hip hop, house and rock 'n' roll music, and state-of-the-art audio and lighting systems. For guests seeking ultra-VIP treatment, the nightclub offers eight private sky-boxes, each featuring European bottle service, a mini-bar, an espresso machine and banquettes with secured purse drawers. A voyeuristic design throughout the nightclub allows people to see the entire venue from almost every point in the room, while sexy performance vignettes, including nearly nude bombshells taking rose petal baths, can be seen nightly. The nightclub also boasts a 40-foot outside terrace with awe-inspiring views of the famed Las Vegas Strip. Celebrity-filled events are a constant at Tao, past events have brought out celebrities such as Paris Hilton, Brittany Spears, Madonna, Diddy, Kanye West, Jay-Z, Pharrell Williams, Gwen Stefani, Chase Crawford, Ed Westwick and many more.
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B.F.A. Antioch College
M.F.A. San Francisco Art Institute
Linda Reisman is an independent film producer who has also served as an executive and university professor. Reisman is the Executive Producer of The Danish Girl, directed by Tom Hooper and starring Eddie Redmayne and Alicia Vikander, which was released in the Fall of 2015 to much crtitical acclaim. The Danish Girl received four Academy Award nominations and Alicia Vikander won for Best Supporting Actress. She is currently developing projects with directors such as Debra Granik, Pablo Larrain, Ziad Douieri and the critically acclaimed author Russell Banks.
For several years, Reisman was the Head of Production for Francis Coppola's American Zoetrope and supervised development, production, and completion of Zoetrope's slate. Reisman served as Executive Producer on Jeepers Creepers, No Such Thing, Assassination Tango and Pumpkin for the company.
Reisman also produced Waking the Dead, directed by Keith Gordon from the novel by Scott Spencer which starred Billy Crudup and Jennifer Connelly; and the critically acclaimed Affliction, directed by Paul Schrader and based on the novel by Russell Banks, which starred Academy Award nominee Nick Nolte, Academy Award winner James Coburn, Sissy Spacek, and Willem Dafoe. Other projects she produced include Keith Gordon's Mother Night and Schrader's Light Sleeper, The Comfort of Strangers, and Patty Hearst.
Prior to joining Emerson, Reisman served as Professor of Media Study at SUNY/Buffalo and was the director of a new graduate program in film and performance.
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Most people have plenty of monthly expenses already. They may wonder why they should add another bill to the mix by purchasing life insurance. It's hard for some to justify buying a product they aren't sure they'll ever use when they have so many things they actually need that they cannot yet afford.
The fact is, though, that life insurance is a solid investment against potential financial ruin in the future for your family. If your family relies heavily on your income, what are they going to do when you're suddenly not there to help provide for them? How will they pay for their essential daily needs like housing and groceries if you have not planned a supplemental source of income for them through a life insurance policy?
Not to be overlooked either is the high cost of funeral expenses. Where will your family come up with several thousand dollars to pay for your final expenses if they don't have a life insurance policy to cover them? They may not be able to make the house payment because of paying for a funeral and end up losing the family home. A small monthly life insurance premium now can avoid a disastrous outcome like that in the future.
Once you are convinced that life insurance is a good idea and a necessity in your life, it's time to start determining which kind of policy to purchase. The main thing you need to understand is that there is "term" life insurance and "whole" life insurance. I found great resources on all types of life insurance at GoldSmithInsurance.com. You should check there first to help with determining the type of life insurance that best suits you.
Since your premium goes up the higher your coverage goes, it's important to make an accurate determination of how much life insurance you really need to purchase. Also, realize that a whole life insurance policy will cost more because you can tap into it before you die.
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Residents express concern about Indian Creek Wildfire
SHERIDAN, Mont. - When the fast moving fire broke out Thursday night, local residents said it caught them off guard.
Sheridan resident Ariel Felice-Fuller said, "I was scared for the people near it because I saw it and it was traveling pretty fast and it was pretty big, too."
Locals said the fire is unnerving, but it's something Montanans have to be prepared for, and it brings the town closer together.
Katie Ward explained, "everyone watches out for everyone and it's rare here because we don't have as much forest close to home, so it's very scary for any town this size."
Outside of Sheridan, volunteer firefighters are busy working to keep the blaze in check, while help from other agencies is on the way.
In town, it didn't take long to find people doing their part.
Hanna McParland and Alexis Woirhaye were at the grocery store.
"We're making sandwiches," Woirhaye said, "they're all up in the woods and we're making them sandwiches."
McParland said, "I think it's important because they are just volunteers so we volunteer to help them."
Others are impressed by the dedication of the firefighters.
Carol Delisi said, "we do have really great responders and the fact that most of our firefighters are volunteers is incredible."
Delisi lives on the outskirts of town, closer to the fire, and she said it's unsettling.
"The lightning," she said, "we can't control so it's a little bit scary that we can do everything we can but there is still going to be nature caused fires."
There was good news from the fire lines by late Friday morning. Cooler temperatures and humidity helped the firefighters get a handle on the flames.
District Ranger Ken Harris explained, "we thought we were going to have to go with a type-2 team, but with some exceptional work it looks like we're going to hold it here with a smaller team and take care of it with local resources."
Wildfires may make some uneasy, but locals said most people in town know what to do.
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Casey Chesnut has a great blog entry about creating custom speech activities in MSS 2007 and he shows how to do speaker identification. Once I do get some time I want to tryout his code.
He also has a really neat article on Workflow Foundation where he creates a neat little game using Speech Server 2007 and IM. That article has some interesting links but I'll let you find them.
Casey is very talented and the only problem I have with him is that he seems to have more time to play with things like this than I do.
As for me I'm working on an article on the new PromptBuilder class in MSS 2007. Hopefully it will be ready for posting soon but first I have to finish figuring out some of the code as it isn't well documented yet and then get approval from Microsoft to post it.
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San Francisco Public Library now has free conversational language groups.
The Conversational Spanish Language Group is for adults who wish to strengthen their Spanish conversational language skills. We focus on practical, everyday topics. If you are a non-native speaker who wants to practice your spoken Spanish, then this group is the place for you!
The Saturday group is geared towards intermediate-level speakers. For the beginner group information, please click here.
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Nice Studio Next to Main Avenue n°31
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Our nice studio is the ideal accommodation for a pleasant stay. Its high ceilings and its large volumes make it both bright and cozy. It can receive 2 people, has a living-room/kitchen, a bathroom and a loft with bed. It is also very well fitted: security door, double glazed window, well-equipped kitchen (plates, fridge, microwave), washing machine, LCD TV, Wi-Fi, etc.
Forget about your car! The apartment is located few steps away from the main avenue (1 minute), shopping (1 minute), the basilica Notre Dame (3 minutes), the pedestrian zone (13 minutes), the old town (14 minutes), the famous Promenade des Anglais (16 minutes), the beach (16 minutes) and so many other pretty places. Whether you are looking for traditional or modern restaurants, shopping, nightlife, beach, walk on the beach or cultural tours, everything is within walking distance! (see photos and Google map).
You'll find close by many renting car agencies along with several public stations of the city hall for renting bikes and cars (the so-called "vélos et autos bleus"). In addition, because the main avenue is well served, visiting all our magnificent Nice and its beautiful surroundings (the extravagant Monaco, the luxurious Cannes, the authentic Antibes, the charming Grasse, the Italian border etc. ..) by train, car, tram or bus, is nice and easy!
Discover our charming neighborhood and our splendid city under the sun rays that daily offers the French Riviera. We rent several apartments in Nice and are very responsive to our guests questions. It is always a pleasure for us to receive people from all over the world. Whenever possible, we will try our best to adapt ourselves to your requests. Do not hesitate to contact us!
With the hope that our apartment will allow you to make the most of our "bella Nizza", we are looking forward meeting you!
The apartment is located at the third floor of the 2 Rue St Siagre. It is easily accessible by most means of transport.
By plane, take bus 23 (33 min) or 99 (27 min) towards the stop "Gare Sncf".
By train from the central station (Gare Sncf), walk 400 meters (5 min).
By car, take exit "Thiers" from the city's internal fast lane (voie Mathis).
Last but not least, various public parking facilities (and also streets with free parking spots) are close by.
HázirendDeposit: 150 €
Linen, towels, water, electricity and heating included in the price.
Pets are very welcome with prior agreement.
Attractive rates for longer stay available on request.
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We had a real nice time in this studio! It's got everything you might need, including a microwave, pots, pans, dishes, hairdryer....everything clean and in good condition!
The studio is located very central, so you reach the beach in a ten minute walk, stores right around the corner, the promenade only a few minutes away. Also the busstation is very close.
We would definetly come back if we ever come to Nice again!
Good location. If you are looking for very low budget stay this can be it for you. But do not expect any romance, the room is very small, no admosphere and we had a broken bed / couch.
Good shower but unfortunatelly warm water ran out after less then 5 minutes.
We complained and were offered another appartment. We had to pay extra but I think this was a fair deal. The other appartment was FANTASTIC! (5 Rue Francois Aune)
Really good situated appartment, cosy, clean . Salvatore was very kind and helpful!
Very good and very nice with no problems. Everything was as ok but one thing. Internet was very slow and devices were often disconnected from the network, so it was hard to download any maps or check attractions around on-line.
Everything else very good.
Very hospitable owner - Salvatore....
We were very happy with this appartment - exactly what we needed. The location was perfect - a few minutes from the beach and a short walk from the pedestrianised area and then the Old Town. It was perfectly well equipped and we would definitely go there again.
Many thanks
Salvatore has a perfect Little studio, near the train station and the tramway line, that takes you everywhere in the center. Perfect bed, bathroom and kitchen, only thing we missed was a working knife for meat and vegetables - guess there were stolen, so sad. Would definitely like to come back!
Nice apartment in the heart of Nice. In the apartment you have everything you need (dishes, towels, bed lined, microwave, refrigerator, TV).
Salvatore is very friendly and helpful.
Only the mattress was not such comfortable and internet connection is poor.
Very close to Train Station and the main street Avenue. Jean Medecin with lot of shops. It takes only 15 minutes to the sea. Near the apartment there are some good bakeries and groceries (Monoprix, Dia, Lidl).
Many thanks to Salvatore.
Salvatore is a good host. We had some questions before our arrival and he always answers quickly and solves all issues. He also met us at the apparment and showed us everything we needed for the stay even though we arrived late on a saturday evening.
The appartment was clean and had all we needed. The wifi worked well. There were som useful stuff left as toiletpaper, laundry and dishwashing detergents. We didn't cook but I guess the pots and pans were a bit too few for advanced cooking.
The bathroom door is, as someone mentioned earlier, a joke. But it doesn't effect the functionality of the bathroom. Anyone taller than 1.80 should be aware the ceilingin the shower is very low though.
The area is as always close to a central station, a bit busy. Parking works but is not easy, there are plenty of food shops near the appartment and living a stones throw from Jean Medecin and the train stations is of course extremly convenient. The balcony was in the sun almost the whole day and I enjoyed having it especially on such a small appartment.
Then we have the cockroaches. Beeing from the northern part of Europe we're not used to having them around. Maybe it's not a problem to everyone but if it is, this might not be the place for you. We found four in six days, they pop up in all places throughout the appartment.
To summarize I would probably not come back but in my case thats all due to the roaches. If Salvatore has a place without bugs I'd reconsider.
Salvatore was very helpful, reliable and his appartement has all important things (even an iron, hairdryer). The city isn't far away, there are a lot of bus stations, shops, restaurants...This appartement is recommended!
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Contest: Win an ENVY Beats Edition Laptop from Sheena Beaston and HP!
Straight to the point with that post title, eh? Well see... as you may or may not know (but really you should know because this site is the only one you read every day all day ever, right?), we've been in the raddest of cahoots with our buddies over at HP. We've been beasting out on the town and in the confines of our humble abode with the slick-as-all-get-out HP ENVY Beats Edition laptop. And the only way we know how to really say thank you and "see, we told you how rad it is" is by tossing one to a lucky reader. And no, we won't really physically toss it, cause that's a bad idea. But someone WILL in fact win this sweet slice of machinery.
Here's the haps as to how to score the winnings.
To be entered to win this contest, you must leave a comment on this post describing how and why technology and music make your every day life even radder. And you better make it beastly. I mean, REALLY BEASTLY.
You can be funny, witty, silly or serious, but one thing above all else, is to wow me with some piece of information or an anecdote about tech and tunes that knocks and rocks my socks off. Not necessarily saying that dropping the "Dre" name or some "Hey, HP is the ish" type of sentence structure makes you lead the pack in the drive to win, but hey... you never know.
Contest will remain open until 5pm ET on Friday April 8. If you have any questions, hit me here. Winner will be selected at my discretion and notified directly. Bam!
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I am surprised you didn't post the video of Noel popping the gum over at the Animal Kingdom Lodge.
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Sharks! Do they have teeth? Can you swim with them? Are they robots? These were Kody's questions as we approached Typhoon Lagoon. As we entered shark alley I asked Kody if he was sure he wanted to swim with the sharks. He looked at me and said yes, but I said let's look and see what you think. When we entered the viewing ports and he was so excited with what he saw that he started to point out all the sharks, rays, and fish that were swimming in the water, and was so determined to swim with them. I was a little hesitant to let him try because he had never worn a mask and snorkel before, but I put that fear aside and got us a mask and snorkel.
We waited for the safety debrief and tried on his mask and snorkel (let's just say they are not made for 4 year olds)
Inside the park we made our base camp by the kids play area which is just beyond the wave pool. Kody was determined to get in the wave pool so we put on our lotion and got in the water. I had both kids by myself when the first wave sounded. I had each of them by their hands as a 3 foot waved barreled down on us. Both kids were screaming with excitement before the wave hit, but as it pounded us Noel started to cry. This ended her day in the wave pool as Papaw took her to build sandcastles. Kody and I played in the surf some more before we found mama to ride the inner tube rides. We had a blast with the adult versions as little Noel fell in love with the kids version. She rode it over and over and over, just like the energizer bunny.
We were having a great time at the park when Kody slipped on a step busting his shin. We made a quick stop at the first aid station where we were promptly bandaged and sent on our way. Nothing a few water slides couldn't cure
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What do you do when you are standing in a line at Disney World? In our family you play bubble pop. Never heard of that game. For a small fee I can teach you! Its a fairly complicated game that requires sticks of gum and a little bit of courage, because as you blow a bubble with your gum the kids are swinging at full force to pop the bubble. This game became a hit as it was created by Amanda. My favorite part of the game was when the kids would miss the bubble and smack Amanda in the face or nose. This made my day, but you knew I couldn't pass out on the fun. However I wasn't nearly as brave as Amanda and wouldn't stick my face out so Kody and Noel could get a big swing at me. This little game actually made the wait time for the Kilimanjaro safari go by quickly.
As we boarded the jeep, both kids were ready to go on safari. This trip turned out to be one of the best safari rides we've ever had as we had great views of giraffes, baby elephants, and lions. Although these animals were great to see, it was the first time we had ever seen the cheetahs up and moving. One them actually appeared to be on the prowl for an Ostrich that was walking in front of his area. I'm sure he was thinking dinner!
Other key attractions for the kids was Dinoland! Both Noel and Kody love to dig here
We all know that Epcot is known for its countries of the world, but did you know that they are known for hosting some spectacular events
Now if you don't want to just see flowers during the show, each night Epcot has a musical performance in America from various artists. This is not a big deal to me, but for my music loving wife she is always checking out who is performing. This trip had the "Guess Who" , and Alison, Bill, and Becky made sure to check them out. By all reviews, it was an excellent show. Besides you can't beat the price of admission. Free with your ticket to Epcot!
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Light, Camera, Action
After this ride we went to the Star Wars ride. This is a cool ride as it is a simulator with several different scenes that you go through. The last time Kody and I rode this he wasn't to keen on riding it, but he wanted to try again
Our time for Toy Story Mania finally approached and Kody wanted to ride with me while Noel rode with Alison and Papaw Davis. If you have never road this ride you put on your 3D glasses and have a string in your car that you pull to shoot various objects at targets. Its a lot like the game for the WII, but riding in a cart makes it more fun. Kody and I spun and shot and just had a great time, and off in the distance I could see Noel really enjoying it as well. She actually cried when we had to get off the ride. Now a lot of the rides at Hollywood Studios aren't geared towards young kids, but I think in about 3 more years we will be able to sit down and ride some of the bigger rides like Rockin' Roller Coaster and Tower of Terror.
The parks at Disney vary in activities for the kids, but on this trip I rank their favorites as Magic Kingdom, Typhoon Lagoon, Animal Kingdom, Epcot, and Hollywood studios. Epcot could slide in to the top for Noel due to the princess experience, but Kody still likes the rides at Magic Kingdom and he want to make sure we hit them all.


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Yeah I've been following that thread.
Yeah I've been following that thread.
" Save a tree...........Eat A Beaver!"
I seldom talk to liberals.............................. But when I do, I order fries............
also, not only is the barrel incredibly thick, its is pristine condition. No wear or tear...the grooves and lands are sharp and its very shiny in there. . actually the whole kit is...I dont think it was ever used at all...
Thanks for the info
"Government is not the solution to our problem, government is the problem" Ronald Reagan
Damn, wish I hadn't seen this thread. As an old artilleryman I've always wanted my own towed field piece. This may be my chance at a reasonable price. Pirate, are you going to do a tutorial on building these on your web site?
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PIrate is my buddy and wont think im hijacking his thread...
im getting closer:
heres the update....
receiver is welded with denials...
spades adjusted and fit well
entire set up put together will cycle by hand with ease and thats with the feed pawl and all in there....
heres a couple of pix and then im gonna sand blast and finish cleaning it up this week.
other side
with barrel
yes i already took it back apart before i realized there were no pix so i stuck this part back together and shot these at a dead run.
Hate takes LESS energy & thought... Dont be so Lazy.
Building or Bitching? which are you here to do?
YES, i work for TEC Tactical. 02/07 SOT
" Save a tree...........Eat A Beaver!"
I seldom talk to liberals.............................. But when I do, I order fries............


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Parati - Christmas on the coast
Trip Start Sep 07, 2012
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Parati is a beautiful old town that is quite touristy with Brazilians, but has a great vibe and beautiful beaches close by. We rented our first car here on the trip, and survived Christmas away from home. We enjoyed our hotel and the staff was extremely nice, even though the language barrier was hard at times. We found ourselves using Google Translate quite often but it wasn't difficult considering the owners were so nice and thoughtful here
We got in the tiny hire car and just drove. John loved the freedom of being able to go and stop wherever we pleased. We started off by exploring the beaches. We found two separate areas for the next couple of days, and then spent our Christmas eve on a fabulous and very touristy boat cruise which took us to some beautiful spots to snorkel.
We had some great dinners, Thai on our first night and the 24th and Christmas were spent at the same place with great food and live music. We enjoyed walking at night on the cobblestone streets, and for our last day we drove into the jungle to hike to some amazing waterfalls (no camera that day). We loved our time here and can see why so many locals love calling this part of Brazil home.
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Fully furnished 2 bedroom executive apartment in Chatswood. Available short or long term. Open plan living/dining area that leads to large oversize balcony with outdoor setting and spectacular views from the sun rising above Sydney Heads in the East, across the City skyline and setting in the West beyond the Blue Mountains. Stylishly furnished and fully equipped with Flat Screen TV, DVD, reverse cycle air-conditioning, microwave, full size fridge, dishwasher, cutlery, crockery, pots and pans, iron and ironing board, linen and towels.
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Fantastic view, Good bed, a little bit shabby but clean, perfect contact,
We had a great stay at his condo before our cruise. It was just as advertised and anything we needed was only a phone call away.
It was very clean when we arrived and the beds are very comfortable.
The condo is in a great location within walking distance to the CBD and Darling Harbour. We will defiantly be staying here again when we come back to Sydney.
Fabulous apartment, very spacious and clean, with a gorgeous view of the bridge and cityscape, lovely little touches by the host made us feel at home, very secure building and parking made all the difference I will definitely be booking this apartment again in the future
Appartment is very good located and has space enough for 4 to 5 people (one bedroom for adults, the other bedroom rather for 2-3 kids). Great is tennis-court and pool on the rooftop with amazing few.
The price was rather high and for this, in our opinion all details shoud be perfect (like dishwashing machine must work correctly, all lights should work, no broken chairs).
Very nice spacious apartment with a fantastic view of Sydney. Great location. We really enjoyed our stay.
We stayed at the apartment in April 2015 (2 adults and 2 children) and found it to be excellent. Great location (handy to transport and also easy to walk into town and around), great facilities, spacious, very comfortable and very clean and tidy. The one negative was dealing with Peter and his office staff. When asking for clarification or assistance, they were very defensive and their general communication was not great. Once they sort that out, I would have no hesitation in recommending the apartment as a great place to stay.
A perfect apartment with a perfect location.
The location is very good. you can walk to most sightseeging points. But the appartment is very small ald old.
when we arrived the phone lay down on the floor amd the kitchen was dirty. the room is also very dark there is no possibilitiy for sunlight to come in. so you dont est at home because its really not nice. There is no possibilty for wireless. Also the owner wasn't really kind. we ask if you could check out a little bit later or if could
place our
baggage somewere. they just wrote back: "no", like in alot other situation. for that the price is really to hight also the cleaningfee of AUD 130 is way to
much for that little room.
The stay was comfortable & the location was very convenient. Thanks Peter :)
The apartment is in a good position, near the metro station, on bus routes, just a few minutes walk from Circular Quay, Darling Harbour, The Botanic Gardens and Central Station. Comfortable and well equipped though a bit dated. The weather was cold and the heating took a long time to warm the apartment up. The weather also meant we weren't able to take advantage of the large balcony. During our stay the hotel pool area was being refurbished but I'm sure it will be a great asset. There was nowhere to leave luggage after checking out, the hotel staff were friendly but we weren't treated as guests. There is a Thai restaurant on the ground floor which was very good.
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Re: st: create pretty charts
Nick Cox <email@example.com>
Re: st: create pretty charts
Fri, 7 Sep 2012 10:27:07 +0100
That's a good exercise for students, to say what is wrong with those
displays. I refer to
1. State identifiers running alphabetically from CA to WA; that's helpful.
2. Heavy use of red and green for contrasts: haven't Tableau heard
that distinguishing red from green is a common difficulty among
sighted people?
3. The projections into the future of interest levels seem to be based
on fitting quadratics. Interest levels going negative will presumably
underline emphatically what is dropping off sales-wise. Discuss.
4. The moving averages seem unsuited to the data, or vice versa.
Still, I must try to be constructive and positive. No doubt Tableau
nowhere insists on those choices.
I (and other user-programmers interested in graphics) would really
like to be told about new good kinds of graphs that I can program in
Stata (and make the code available).
Otherwise, if there is a wishlist I suspect only StataCorp can deliver.
I guess that Maarten has put his finger on a major point. Graphs that
you can interact with are clearly of interest and -- if they were in
Stata -- many of us would be as happy as a three-year-old to play at
producing and to play with them. But when the play is done, it seems
that almost all researchers using Stata want mostly static graphs for
their theses, dissertations, reports, papers, books and presentations.
A dozen programmer-years developing in the direction of interactive
graphics (wild guess) is a dozen programmer-years not developing new
models, and model-handling facilities, which is what people directly
and indirectly ask for on Statalist week in, week out.
On Fri, Sep 7, 2012 at 9:37 AM, Maarten Buis <firstname.lastname@example.com> wrote:
> On Thu, Sep 6, 2012 at 11:30 PM, Nick Cox wrote:
>> Pablo and Miguel (and anybody else) would be doing a useful service if
>> they could specify exactly what in Tableau is really good and also
>> exceeds what they can do in Stata. That would give programmers if not
>> an agenda, then a cogitanda.
> I googled it, and it seems like a piece of software that allows you to
> program an interactive graph. Some of the example graphs do look
> pretty, but designing such infographics is best left to professionals.
> It reminds me a bit of the time that inkjet printers became available,
> so "normal" people could now freely choose and print any type of font.
> The result was a mass of horrible and completely unreadable documents
> with 16 or more different fonts.
> Even the example graphs provided by the company that makes the piece
> of software, which should showcase the best use of the software are
> not convincing: Most of them are pretty but make the content harder to
> read than necessary, some of them are downright misleading (worst
> example is: <http://www.tableausoftware.com/learn/gallery/product-survey-analysis>),
> and only few are useful (I like a set of linked graphs, such that when
> you select a subset in one graph that same subset is also highlighted
> in the other graphs. I think that is a nice way to get a feel for
> multidimensional problems.).
> So, my impression is that unless you want to start a four year study
> in graphical design, you'd best leave software like that alone (and if
> you do finish such a study you'll probably have learned that there is
> better software for designing such infographics).
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perilled by abusic rhtertoric being directed at him by the GOP.
claimed Governor Brewer's finger pointing and Congressman
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Anna Radford, owner of Radford Communications, strategic communication solutions consultancy on running her business from home in Mt Albert.
What sorts of expenses do you have to factor in when working from home?
Working from home has low overheads and has the added advantage of home
office tax deductions. My main overheads are for IT related expenses,
computer, phone and networking - lunches, coffees, professional events
and professional development. Once one is all set up there are very few
expenses directly related to working from home, per se.
What sort of technical support do you have?
When working from home you quickly learn to become a Jack (or Jill) of all trades.
I'm the IT person, cleaner, procurement manager, accounts department, etc. Some days I even find the time to be a public relations consultant!
How do sick days work?
You get sick; you work. Well, there is the added advantage of being able to work from the sick bed or to have a little lie down if one is feeling unwell or very tired. Seriously though, the lack of sick pay is a concern and I really should get around to arranging some income protection insurance.
What downsides are there to working from home?
The main downside for me is personal and professional isolation; working from home can be very lonely at times. I have put some strategies in place to deal address this, including undertaking occasional contract work that involves me being based in the client's office, renting a desk in someone's office for one day a week, doing lots of networking.
Where do you have client meetings?
I used to do have them at home quite a bit when the kids were very small and I was just starting out in my own business. Clients who were parents themselves, often enjoyed meeting at my place because it got them out of the office. These days I rarely hold meetings at home. Clients are inevitably very busy and they don't want to spend the time travelling to meetings at my place.
How are you affected when it's school holidays?
That can be difficult, particularly when I need to go to meetings. Fortunately my husband is also self-employed (but does not work from home) so when the kids were younger they would sometimes go to his work. My office is downstairs, completely away from the living area, which helps. Now my kids are older (14 and nearly 12), they do their own thing at home while I work on.
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Security: Istanbul is generally quite safe; however, pickpockets target tourist areas and crowded places such as ferry terminals and ticket lines. Keep handbags and camera bags in front of you and wallets secured. Accepting offers of free tea or refreshments in shops and bazaars is normal and even expected, but friendly strangers offering drinks outside these circumstances (especially invitations to bars), can be a ruse to extort cash or "drug-and-mug." Not common, but it does happen.
Getting There: Local and international airlines fly to Atatürk International Airport (European side), or Sabiha Gökçen International Airport (Asian side). From airport: Taxis, Havaş shuttle bus, hotel shuttles.
Time: Istanbul is seven hours ahead of U.S. eastern standard time.
Money: The Yeni Türk Lirası (YTL, New Turkish Lira) dropped six zeros in 2005. Prices are sometimes quoted in "millions" out of habit, but million bills are no longer legal tender. Check the Turkish Central Bank for current exchange rates.
Phone Calls: Istanbul has two city codes—212 on the European side and 216 on the Asian side. Dial 0 before local mobile numbers or other area codes. International calls require 00 before the country code.
When to Go: Avoid July-August tourist rushes and heat waves (topping 115°F/45°C). April to mid-June is balmy, with occasional rain. Sunny and mild mid-September through November. Winters are typically rainy or snowy.
Getting Around: Ubiquitous yellow taxicabs cost $1.42 plus $1.00 per half mile. Make sure the meter is running. Rates increase by 50 percent after midnight, indicated by meter flashing "gece" (night) rather than "gündüz" (day). Tipping cab drivers is uncommon. Spotless Metro connects major shopping areas; inclined railway and tramways cover downtown and historic district. Bus services abound; dolmuş (shared vans) pack up to 8 people, stopping anywhere along designated routes. Quickest travel is by water via ferries across the Bosporus, Golden Horn, and Sea of Marmara.
Tips: "Pack for function, but don't forget style," advises Kathy Hamilton, culture reviewer, TimeOut Istanbul. "Blending in among both the modern and traditional crowds will make you more a part of the Istanbul adventure."
Passport/Visa Photocopies: Leave original in a secure place, such as hotel safe. Keep a copy on hand.
Toiletries: Most over-the-counter medicines are inexpensive and available. Pharmacy hours are 9 a.m.-7 p.m. Monday-Saturday with only one 24-hour "nöbetçi eczane" (on duty pharmacy) per neighborhood (location changes weekly). Pocket-pack tissues and wet wipes are invaluable for public toilets.
Sturdy, Fashionable Footwear: Steep hills, cobbled lanes, and uneven pavement make Istanbul an urban adventure. Rubber-soled shoes are a must, and will be more versatile if fashionable. Socks are useful for mosques, where shoe removal is required.
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Lightweight Shawl for Women: Nights become cool and windy once the sun sets. A shawl is also useful for covering your head in mosques; some mosques frequented by tourists no longer require it, but most do.
Forget Traveler's Checks: Finding a place accepting traveler's checks will consume more time than it's worth. Instead get cash from ATM with a credit or debit card. Be sure to notify your bank when you travel overseas to avoid having your account frozen due to "suspicious" activity.
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My Merhaba
Foreign resident's guide to culture, destinations, and bureaucracy. Events calendar, local entertainment listings, shopping directories. www.mymerhaba.com
Turkey Travel Planner
Active bulletin boards reveal up-to-date travel facts, answers to cultural questions. www.turkeytravelplanner.com
Official city portal. Nightlife, conventions, hotels, dining, tours. English-Turkish dictionary. www.english.instanbul.com
Istanbul Hotels
Lodging database searchable by area, includes historical hotels and guesthouses. www.istanbulhotels.com
Ministry of Tourism, Republic of Turkey
City guide with art, culture, literature. Streaming videos of Istanbul's churches, mosques, and palaces. www.turizm.gov.tr
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All About Turkey
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History and images of Byzantine Eastern Orthodox churches in Istanbul. www.ec-patr.org/afieroma/churches/index.php?lang=en
Turkish Jewish Community
Directory of local synagogues open for public visits and services. www.jewish-europe.net/turkey/en/synagogue.htm
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Hurriyet Daily News
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Grandeur of the Seas
Gangways are wide enough to accommodate most wheelchairs and scooters.
There is an accessible route to the tendering platform.
14 accessible staterooms
Accessible staterooms have wider doors, roll-in showers, grab bars, turning spaces, lowered stateroom vanity, lower closet rods, lowered safe, raised toilet, fold-down shower bench, hand-held shower head, lowered sink, open bed frames, amplified telephones and captioned televisions
View accessible stateroom page for specific stateroom details
View deck plans for locations of accessible staterooms
There are accessible public restrooms available
All decks have elevator access
Food & Beverage
All dining and bar venues offer wheelchair seating
Recreational Facilities
Lift at main pool and whirlpool
Forward and rear wheelchair seating in Palladium Theater
Lower playing tables in Casino
Stairs at Solarium pool
Jogging Track
Rock Climbing Wall
Video arcade
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Teen Center
Spa & Fitness Center
Dry treatment room
Fitness equipment
Changing Room
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Lowered counter at Guest Relations
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Assistive listening systems in Palladium Theater
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A person who excessively enjoys to hike. You can often see them mooing at cows, trying to catch a glimpse of a mountain lion, or searching for Geo-caches.
That Astrid lady is such a hikeaholic. She's went hiking 5 times this week already, and plans to go today too.
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Discussion in 'Artwork Zone' started by AceofSpades, Aug 21, 2004.
For all of us that listened on the radio.......THANK YOU!!!!
Thanks, Ace!
you da man!
That was fast. LOL
By the way how do you transfer tv video to your computer?
Thanks ACE nice of you if you got more please post them
that was beautiful
This might end up being the high point of Romo's NFL Career, so live it up Tony. You've earned it.
nice work. What is your set-up to convert TV to computer video so fast?
whoever caught that ball at the 1 yard line, looked like he got injured.
Great game presence for Romo.
I loved that sneak. It makes me smile! Thank you Bill for practicing "situations."
It kinda looked like he scored the first time.
Tivo connected to PC. Then I click capture and then upload to the net.
Thanks man.
Thanks for the video. Just another play that I'm almost positive would never happen under Campo.
kind of a catch-22 with that play. do you use it in the preseason?
Thanks for all the posted vids tonight!
Of course this was the best one
Sweet dude. Thanks!!!!!
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heartbroken_kk posted 5/4/2009 15:41 PM
Oh lucky me, I asked for this thread so now I get to start it.
I am about 4 months out from D-Day and attempting to reconcile with WH, and am feeling increasingly frustrated about what I see as Passive/Aggressive behavior that puts us in a constant state of pushing-pulling-pushing-pushing back.
There is another thread in this forum for Emotionally Unavailable. This doesn't fit my WH very well. He is emotionally foggy for sure, but he does try to be sympathetic towards me and my feelings. More he is not well connected to his own internal state and not good at articulating the full range of emotions he is feeling. It tends to be anger and frustration on the surface, and only with some deep digging does he get down to other feeling states, like feeling blamed, feeling inadequate, sadness, dread, shame.
I have outlined some of our issues in a thread in the Recon forum here: http://survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=292274
Here is one example of how we interact:
I say, "The yard needs to be cleaned up, when can you help with that?"
He says "When do you want me to?"
I say "I want you to find time in your schedule and figure out when works for you"
He says "Why don't you just tell me what you want?"
I say "I don't want to tell you what to do, I want you to take responsibility for scheduling your participation in taking care of our yard"
He says "If I do that you'll just be mad at me for not doing it when you want and how you want."
MC says to WH: it sounds like you are taking an approach that puts you in a parent-child relationship with KK being the parent and you being the child. Do you see how she doesn't want to feel like she is your parent?
WH says, "um, what?" "No, I just feel like I'm getting trapped into a situation where I can't please her because I won't be meeting her expectations, because SHE WON"T TELL ME WHAT THEY ARE"
I'm hoping to learn more about my role in this. I know I can't change him, I can only change myself. I am trying to learn more about the co-dependent behaviors I must be doing that feed into his P/A behaviors. I don't see them. I appear to be unaware of my role in this, even in looking back at some interaction between us I have a hard time seeing what I'm doing.
Hoping for some feedback from others who have worked through this, or who are working on it now. If you engage in PA or CD behaviors, how do you know you are doing that? How do you see yourself? How do you see your partner and your partner's role?
OntheRocks posted 5/5/2009 08:50 AM
I recently discovered a webpage that outlines the "boomerang" relationship that is the result of living with a passive-aggressive man, and how it affects the spouse, profoundly!!
Everyone can be PA at times, but my WH has taken it to a new level.
The article is pretty long, but there are a few passages that really hit home for me:
The man with passive aggressive behavior needs someone to be the object of his hidden hostility. He needs an adversary whose expectations and demands he can resist as he plays out the dance he learned from his parents. He chooses a woman who will agree to be on the receiving end of his disowned anger. He resists her in small ways setting up a pattern of frustration so that she gets to express the anger that he cannot.
Somehow, somewhere down the line in our "budding relationship" I agreed to be his adversary. I can recognize it now, but then, I had no idea what I was doing that would make him resist me so much.
The man who copes with conflict by not being there has strong conflict over dependency. He desperately wants attention but fears being swallowed up by the partner. He can't be alone and live without a woman in his life, but can't be with a partner emotionally. He's caught in a Catch 22 -- wanting affection but avoiding it because he fears it as his destruction. He resents feeling dependent on the woman so must keep her off guard. He makes his partner FEEL LIKE A NOTHING through his neglect or irritability but he keeps her around because he needs her. His script is Be here for me, but don't come too close and don't burden me with your needs or expectations.'
It's the slow and painful eating away of my self-esteem that he fed on, over and over and over.
The man with passive aggressive actions is a master in getting his partner to DOUBT HERSELF and FEEL GUILTY for questioning or confronting him.
The woman living with a passive aggressive man goes back and forth between three roles - - the Rescuer, the Victim or the Manager. Living with the passive aggressive man pushes the woman into frustration and anger as a major dynamic in day-to-day conflict. When she cannot get her needs met, she becomes: the Blamer, the Bitch, and the Rager, which then makes the man feel very insecure in the relationship.
I slowly, but surely became all of these things, over time. And he used my anger against me, which in turn made me feel more and more guilty as time went by.
It was a trap that I had no way of getting out of. Even when I would change my "fighting style" or try to not fight and "discuss" instead, I was always met with more PA behavior.
It's a vicious circle that's very hard to break, especially if the PA man doesn't want to break it, and why would he???? He gets to avoid any and all responsibility for the problems in the relationship. It's a terrible way to live, though.
The passive aggressive man lives an internal loneliness.
Her self-esteem erodes as her frustration and anger turn to rage as she feels guilty about the intensity and destructiveness of her aggression.
Reading this information has been very freeing for me.
I no longer feel that I am to blame for who he is.
He tried to blame me for ruining his life and sucking the spirit out of him, but he was sucking me dry, day after day after day.
I hope this helps anyone dealing with a PA man.
I have loads more info if anyone would like me to share.
neverendingstory posted 5/5/2009 12:25 PM
Ohhh, good topic. I (BW) came from a family that were overtly agressive and husband came from a family who "never fought" and everyone was polite and VERY passive agressive. The problem is that passive-agressive is SO sneaky so I think it fits right in there with the secrecy of an affair. Actually I think a lot of affairs are actually acts of passive-agression.
It's hard to fight and fix these issues without a good look at the FOO and the family system. I know my husband learned to be this way from his family and didn't even see or understand that he didn't HAVE to be that way. He did have to be that way to survive in his family when he was young. Problem is, he never questioned it...just assumed that was the way it was and was 'normal'.
Now, when I came along, I actually treated him as an individual person who had a right to his own thoughts and feelings and expected him to be an adult and be responsible for them. He, on the other hand, took my healthy assertiveness as demands and then "got back at me" by not saying how he felt about something and secretly resenting me and judging me. Man, it's a bitch to try to deal with passive-agression. Like walking in traffic blindfolded. You may hear noise but you never know when and what hit you.
Anyway, we went to counseling and when someone(2 different counselors) other than me told my husband that his family was not acting in a healthy way and neither was he, he finally opened his eyes to an alternative. In doing this, he got a real shock because he had to change his judgment and perception of what his family actually is all about. It's funny now, he sees them being that way with him very clearly whereas before he would defend them because that was part of the dysfunctional system rules.
After all, in a family of passive-agressives, how can there be real love since everyone is so busy defending and protecting their own butts while sticking the knife in someone else's back to further their own 'safety' all with a smile on their face and sometimes being totally oblivious to the fact that they are actually hurting someone else. I think real empathy for someone other than themselves is pretty non-existant.
As for how we deal with it...he has to be aware it's happening and then chose a different behavior or thought. It's becoming easier since he has seen his family in their true colors. It's been a matter of thinking things through instead of just reacting emotionally. Such as, if I say something that he reacts to, he asks himself why he feels that way and where that feeling is coming from. Many times he will trace the feeling back to something in his past and the way he felt in his family.
I have to be careful not to mother or enable or be guilted. After so many years, for me, I would see a victim look on his face and want to reassure him or make it easy for him. Now I see that as a manipulation and just have to stand my ground and ask if that is what he is doing because it seems like it to me. That at least gets it on the table.
Well, I could go on and on because this has been one of THE main issues in creating problems in our relationship.
heartbroken_kk posted 5/5/2009 20:25 PM
Thanks for chiming in on this thread. I have always had a very direct "tell you what I think" way of communicating. My challenge in this M has been that WH is so stubborn and resistant to direction or input, and yet he wants it, asks for it, so I give it. And then I am disappointed time and time again when he argues with me, drags his feet, fails to start, fails to finish, or does something different than I thought he had agreed to.
It is so maddening. He is the master button pusher, and I fall for it very single time. He knows exactly what to say and how to say it to get me to lash out, and get angry at him for his behavior, and then he acts all innocent and wounded. He's mister cool-calm-and-collected and I'm the angry bitch. Give me a break!
We are starting to talk about his sense of "being punished" for whatever. He told me I make him late in the morning, drag my feet, and I do it because I'm mad about something he did and I'm doing it to punish him. It is the most absurd thing I've ever heard but he is adamant that those are his thoughts and feelings. He really believes it.
In fact it is clear to me that the opposite it true: he sets me up to be late, by asking me to do the things he doesn't have time for (he expects that I will do what he wants) and then gets mad at me because I haven't finished my things, all the while conveniently forgetting that I've been doing his stuff instead of mine. If he hadn't burdened me with his crap he would be late and I'd be on time, but it's so clever, so sneaky, I don't know I got roped into it and I don't see how he blames me for it so he doesn't have to take responsibility for it.
Anyway, sorry for the rant. I feel so frustrated not only by his behavior but by the way I feed into it without being aware of what is going on underneath.
neverendingstory posted 5/6/2009 00:46 AM
HBKK...I empathize with you about how hard it is to know what to do. Especially being a straight talker myself. Funny how my husband and I are so opposite that way, but I guess opposites attract
The website "Get Your Angries Out" has some helpful information. Sounds like your husband is doing a lot of projection by accusing you of what he is actually doing. I feel like I've had to take a crash course in psychology to deal with it since I am not that way at all and haven't understood why someone would act passive-agressive. I understand a lot more because of a lot of talking and therapy. In fact, for the longest time I didn't even know he was doing that since I took him at face value. I have really resented being made out to be the enemy but I've learned not to react and take it personally. I just think to myself, oh, his childhood is rearing it's ugly head. Then I ask him if what he's saying or doing that seems passive-aggresive is really what he means which gives him time to look at his reaction without me accusing him of anything. I swear, it's been a long road. He used to be extremely reactive to anything I did or said that, to me, was meant with goodwill. He would interpret it wrong based on being defensive and judging me which he projected by accusing me of judging him. It is crazy-making!
We're far enough away from the affair that I have my sense of self back for the most part. When it was still new, I was reacting all over the place. It's like I was becoming what he was! It's so important to take care of yourself and respect yourself especially since an affair is such a hit to your self-esteem. I still have my moments, especially when I'm tired and sometimes I am just tired of it all but he has improved so much I know it will be worth it in the long run.
Thanks to all of you. SI has saved my sanity.
UnbearablySadd posted 5/6/2009 02:19 AM
I recently discovered a webpage that outlines the "boomerang" relationship that is the result of living with a passive-aggressive man, and how it affects the spouse, profoundly!!
Can you share the website, Rocks? Sounds very helpful!
I am married to my second p-a hubby. Great to see what I live with spelled out.
It's a Mind F**** day to day, and easy to not "see it."
heartbroken_kk posted 5/6/2009 16:30 PM
The website on the boomerang relationship is here:
sss456 posted 5/7/2009 01:54 AM
Ah yes, the PA spouse. I ask "do you want pizza of chinese for dinner?", and he says whatever, and then whatever I bring home, he says ' i wanted the other". I should have bought both, and hidden one in the car! That would have burst his bubble! Oh, no, then he'd be annoyed I spent too much!!
down4now posted 5/7/2009 07:01 AM
A friend of ours who is currently studying to be a psychotherapist mentioned passive-aggressive behaviour in passing to my FWH, and then I saw this thread, which jogged my memory, so curious, I looked it up.
WOW - most of this stuff could have been written about my H - it feels like the sort of life I have been living with him all these years has suddenly been laid bare and explained - I almost feel a sense of relief!
The number of times I have been made to feel inadequate, stupid and insignificant. The years I have blamed myself for difficult situations, felt powerless, suffered from low self-esteem, had my opinions rubbished, my feelings invalidated and yet kept in the M because he told me he loved me and did just enough to make me feel it was worth it. Its as if my eyes have been opened.
I printed a load of stuff off for FWH and every few lines he was saying "S**T..!..S**T...!" as realisation dawned.
Thank you ever so much for starting this thread - FWH is finally going to IC on Tuesday and already is watching how he behaves towards me...I feel like we can really try and make this M work better now we know what we are dealing with.
NeedingGodsHelp posted 5/8/2009 03:43 AM
This is where I belong!!! Now, if I only knew how to save my marraige.
How did you get your PA WS's out of their thick fog and willing to go to counseling?
He tried to blame me for ruining his life and sucking the spirit out of him
Sucking the life out of him is actually what I hear. That, and that I am a control freak.
I (BW) came from a family that were overtly agressive and husband came from a family who "never fought" and everyone was polite and VERY passive agressive.
This is exactly us.
I want so much to save our marriage, but I don't see a way to even get him to talk to me. He refuses to talk to me right now. It doesn't matter what I suggest he is against it simply because I suggested it!!
Thank you for starting this thread! I have found a home.
[This message edited by NeedingGodsHelp at 3:43 AM, May 8th (Friday)]
heartbroken_kk posted 5/8/2009 17:58 PM
So one of the things I'm trying to grapple with is that Passive-Aggressive behaviors are a set of habitual ways of interacting with others that on the surface seem benign and "nice", but when repeated with the same person over and over again, in time they are not nice at all. They actually subversively hostile towards the partner and emotionally crippling for the self.
My WH is someone people genuinely like and enjoy being with. He's funny, he's attentive, he's kind. He is very very good at sales; he can find out what motivates someone, find out what their wants and desires are, what their self image is about (fears, ego, etc) is, etc, and then modify his sales approach to find the perfect product to meet their needs and get them to buy. He has very good "other awareness".
His ability to shape-shift and to mold himself into a form that is friendly, cool, smart, or whatever it takes to make the other person comfortable with him is astounding.
Here's the thing. He does this unconsciously and without flinching or feeling that he is not being true to his own self. His true self is malleable for any given interpersonal interaction if he wants, if it serves his purpose.
At work, when he's selling, it is a perfect way of being. People come in, interact with him, feel good about it, and then leave.
At home, when he's interacting with me, it is an unhealthy way of being FOR HIM and for his role in our marriage. These behaviors that are intended to put me at ease, to smooth over rough spots, to reduce tension where there are disagreements, do not allow him to openly discuss and work through our differences. They do not help him fully express his own desires and needs. They do not allow him to own his internal feelings because they are pushed down so that he can focus on whatever negotiation he is doing.
He is outcome oriented.
"Just tell me what you want me to do"
Here, he is focused on the fact that I want him to do yardwork. He says he wants to cooperate and get some yardwork done so that I will "be happy".
In fact, he really doesn't want to do yardwork. He wants to do something else that is a lot more fun (hobby, hang out with friends, etc). He is angry that it cuts into his fun time, and resentful that he is being "cornered" into doing it. He feels guilty that he hasn't done it yet and has to be told. He feels guilty about shirking responsibility because he knows he shouldn't. He wants me to stop complaining about his lack of contribution to the household because it makes him feel bad about himself. He is angry at me for nagging him, and he wants me off his back. He wants to avoid responsibility, and the punishment he believes he deserves for it.
Underneath it all he is actually just turned off by the idea of yardwork. He is ashamed he is not pulling his own weight and feels a bit guilty about it. He also feels unjustly burdened, as if that shame really isn't deserved, and feels chores are a form of punishment when he hasn't done anything wrong. Yet, he is not aware of these feelings about himself, at all. He is aware he is angry at me. He redirects those uncomfortable feelings away from himself and towards me.
"Just tell me what you want me to do" puts the responsibility for the project on me, and sets up a situation where he can be the victim, the punished one, the one who has to do what his wife tells him to do. He can also do the job badly and then when I ask him to do it correctly, get angry at me because "he can't do anything right". He will do 90% of the job, then quit. Then it is up to me to finish the job, and he can sneer at me because "nothing he does is good enough, I can't be happy, I have to go in and change what he did".
"The Honey-Do list of chores" is not a shared responsibility for the household, it is a burden that gets foisted upon him. That is where he is passive. He becomes the one who has things done to him.
By putting himself in the submissive role, he puts me in the dominant role. He puts me in a position where I have to manage him, I "control" him. Then he can lash out at me for being controlling, he can be angry at me for it. So he substitutes anger for a variety of underlying emotional states such as shame and low self image. The anger can be directed at ME, instead of shame being an emotion directed internally.
And when I agree to "Just tell him what to do" I fall into the trap. I set myself up to be his manager, to be his punisher, to be the one who takes his fun away from him.
My own behavior, my willingness to be the dominant decision maker, the assertive instruction giver, the controller, and the follow upper... that is the Co-Dependent behavior I do that allows his Passive-Aggressive behaviors to thrive and become a comfortable, habitual way of being in our Marriage for him.
Whew! Am I making sense to the rest of you here? Is this sounding like your relationship at all?
[This message edited by heartbroken_kk at 12:34 AM, August 14th (Sunday)]
Oliver posted 5/8/2009 18:22 PM
My H is a former P-A. His A was a totally passive-aggressive act.
Both of us worked extremely hard to get out of the "boomerang" relationship we were in (and yes, that website is fantastic).
THe most important thing I learned about P-A behavior came from H's IC, who told him: "Most p-a people do not know or acknowledge that they are angry when they act in p-a ways. They are so out of touch with their emotions that they do not feel angry. They are only angry subconsciously. That is why it is such a hard pattern to unlearn."
That was a huge lightbulb moment for me (not for him--he was totally out of touch, remember?)
When *I* learned to calmly call him on his p-a behavior, rather than reacting to it, he became more aware of it, and started to deal more with the underlying emotional issues.
I also read a ton of p-a literature.
Here is my reading list:
Living with the P-A Man by Scott Wetzler;
Overcoming P-A by Tim Murphy;
The Angry Marriage by Bonnie Maslin;
The Emotionally Unavailable Man by Patti Henry;
Emotional Unavailability by Bryn Collins;
The Dance of Anger and The Dance of Intimacy (both by Harriet Lerner);
When Your Lover is a Liar by Susan Forward;
Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix
NeedingGodsHelp posted 5/9/2009 02:35 AM
heartbroken_kk -
I could have written your post about my WH. You nailed it righ ton the head.
By putting himself in the submissive role, he puts me in the dominant role. He puts me in a position where I have to manage him, I "control" him. Then he can lash out at me for being controlling, he can be angry at me for it. So he substitutes anger for a variety of underlying emotional states such as shame and low self image. The anger can be directed at ME, instead of shame being an emotion directed internally.
It seems we are married to the same man.
The question now is... how do you snap a P-A man out of his fog? How do you get a P-A man to see that he has a problem and get help?
heartbroken_kk posted 5/9/2009 15:25 PM
I could have written your post about my WH. You nailed it righ ton the head.
By putting himself in the submissive role, he puts me in the dominant role. He puts me in a position where I have to manage him, I "control" him. Then he can lash out at me for being controlling, he can be angry at me for it. So he substitutes anger for a variety of underlying emotional states such as shame and low self image. The anger can be directed at ME, instead of shame being an emotion directed internally.
It seems we are married to the same man.
The question now is... how do you snap a P-A man out of his fog? How do you get a P-A man to see that he has a problem and get help?
I don't really know exactly how to answer your question, but it is comforting to hear I'm not alone and others are struggling with the same things.
I think one clue to how disfunctional it all is, is that you ask "how do you snap a P-A man out of his fog? How do you get a P-A man to see that he has a problem and get help?"
This sounds like you are willing to take charge and be responsible for "fixing" him. Isn't that Co-Dependent behavior on your part???
WH and I are doing weekly MC sessions. Are you in MC too? I can't tell you how comforting it is to be able to bring something up in MC and have a third party take it apart, show the pieces to us, and say "he does this, she does that, he does this, she does that, do you see a pattern? Can you see that XX is going on here?
I know that telling my WH that he is being PA, is A) really difficult to do in the moment because I don't see it happening, only hours later after mulling it over do I see what happened, and B) is completely useless because he is unable to process critical observations of him that come out of my mouth.
I think the challenge for me is to look for signs that I am taking control of something, some interaction, some household decision, some project, some whatever. If I have agreed to take control I have put myself in a dominant role and allowed WH to be passive. This sets him up to be resentful because I am controlling. I need to find a way to re-frame things so that WH is always at least an equal partner in the decision. That his input has helped shape it. That I dig and ask leading questions to help him understand what HE really wants rather than accepting suggestions that are shaped to please ME.
I am so accustomed to being the decision maker. For example, for the 25 days a month when he doesn't work overtime and we eat dinner together, I decide what he is eating for dinner at least 24 of those days. He asks me what we are having for dinner. I mentally run through our list of options, share a couple of those options, he may express interest in one or two of them, and then "we" decide what or where to eat. But pretty much never does he come to me and say "I want to go to XX Restaurant tonight, does that work for you?"
So every day we go through this Passive-Aggressive and Co-Dependent dance with dinner decision making. He only wants to know what I'm feeding him, really. That is the outcome he is interested in: knowing that he will get to eat.
I am trying to learn to say "I don't know, and I don't want to be the one to decide. I would like for you to decide where/what we are eating tonight. Let me know what you come up with and I will be ready."
I have also learned I must be calm when he gets irritated with this approach. By not being the willing decision maker I am "dumping" the burden of the decision on him, and again, he tends to feel resentful and victimized. I also have to be able to accept his decision even if I don't like his choice. I try and be outwardly happy with whatever he chooses so that he doesn't feel like I'm toying with him. If I give up my controlling, Co-Dependent role I have to allow myself to accept being affected by a decision I didn't make.
kluelesskat posted 5/9/2009 16:15 PM
Interesting. I wonder if this behaviour comes from a whole family behaving a certain way b/c they don't want the feathers ruffled of one family member. They think its easier to just let someone behave anyway they want just so no one has to say anything.
heartbroken_kk posted 5/9/2009 18:32 PM
Interesting. I wonder if this behaviour comes from a whole family behaving a certain way b/c they don't want the feathers ruffled of one family member. They think its easier to just let someone behave anyway they want just so no one has to say anything.
Our MC says this is very common behavior in "Adult Children of Alcoholics" - children who grew up in a home that had a raging alcoholic did not feel safe expressing their own emotions and learned to read the emotions of others very well in order to determine "how to act" to avoid being the recipient of an alcoholic's rage. Pushing down one's own emotions while being sensitive to others allowed one to stay sane and safe.
LOL_NOT posted 5/10/2009 13:28 PM
The PA behavior is at the crux of my break up. Thanks to everyone for sharing. Up until recently I have felt isolated. And quite frankly insane.
It is the enormous volume and quantity of daily PA behavior that has left me drained, depressed and overwhelmed. It is amazing to me that one moment my partner appears caring and the next minute denies even saying it.
I could live a whole life time never hearing the following statements again from my PA partner:
"I'll get back to you."
"Whatever you want to do."
"I'm so sorry I didn't do_____"
"That's your time schedule not mine."
LOL_NOT posted 5/10/2009 13:34 PM
are doing weekly MC sessions. Are you in MC too? I can't tell you how comforting it is to be able to bring something up in MC and have a third party take it apart, show the pieces to us, and say "he does this, she does that, he does this, she does that, do you see a pattern?
I'm a newbie. Can you tell me what MC is? Sounds Like I need to attend. I need support dealing with PA behavior. Thanks.
heartbroken_kk posted 5/10/2009 16:36 PM
Hi, LOL_NOT -- welcome to SI the best club you never wanted to join.
MC is Marriage Counselor or Marriage Counseling. IC is Individual Counseling.
On the homepage for SI there is a yellow box on the left. Click there on the link for the healing library, where you can find articles, a list of abbreviations, books, and lots of other resources. I think I probably read most everything there when I first joined.
I would encourage you to post in other forums, the Just Found Out forum has a lot of other folks going through the beginning stages of dealing with the shock of infidelity, separation, lies, etc.
I spend most of my time in the Reconciliation forum because my WH (Wayward Husband) has promised to end all contact with his APs (Affair Partners) and work on restoring our marriage. Not everyone gets to that point, or should. Quite a few people go from the JFO forum to the D forum, and General too.
Take care and good luck.
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