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Of all the words I could use to describe the man I spent the better part of my twenties with, Spectacular Asshole is my favourite. Not just because it's kinda funny, but because it is really the most fitting description I can use for a man who did just about every egregious thing a man can do to a woman to me. Twice.
Which is not to say that I haven't made my peace with him, I have. Years after our disastrous break-up he and I got together and had a very frank discussion about all the many ways in which he was a fucking prick. And whether his astonishment was feigned or genuine, he apologized, we squashed it, and I moved on with my life, spectacular asshole well behind me.
The thing is, as I got older and my perspective on relationships evolved, my perception of the spectacular asshole also changed. The reluctance to be monogamous that was so offensive to 24-year old Max makes perfect sense to me now. And our opposite schedules – which only allowed us to see each other once every week or two – now seem like a major selling point, rather than the constant source of frustration they were back then.
But beyond the little things, as I get older I realize that this spectacular asshole has been very influential to me in a million positive ways. He schooled me on the phenomenon of frenemies, taught me to appreciate my bare face, and as the man featured in this story and this one, he's responsible for unleashing my inner freak. For which we should all be thankful. In a nutshell, most of what I know about how to treat a man properly and all the ways in which I am not typically woman-stupid can be accredited to the spectacular asshole. Which has allowed me to look back on my time with him less as a tragic waste of time and more as a crash course in dealing with a selfish prick.
Of course, as these stories always go, the spectacular asshole recently made a reappearance in my world. He and I lost touch about four years ago and while I've occasionally looked for him online, I've not seen hide nor hair of him in all that time. Until he called out of nowhere.
When we spoke, it was exactly the way you want a conversation to go with an ex who did you wrong. I was pleasant, even excited to hear from him, but wouldn't allow myself to be led down a path of reminiscing without stopping to remind him that it wasn't all sweetness and light all the time. I had good things to report – I look good, I am good, I'm doing good. And I was genuinely glad to hear the good things he had to report. It was a good, pleasant, perfectly safe catch-up call until these words escaped me unbidden:
When can I see you?
I don't know why I said it or if I meant it, but once it was out there there was no taking it back. And his immediate request that it be as soon as humanly possible calmed me and gassed me up a little bit. We made hasty tentative plans for the weekend and I headed off to my Friday meeting with a smile on my face for the first (and probably only) time.
Each time the spectacular asshole popped into my head I got more and more excited about seeing him. Because – and most women know this – there are few things more life-affirming than the chance to show a man who did you wrong and left you devastated that you are even better without him. So yeah, I was excited. Until I went home and told my sister what had happened and what was going to happen.
Those of you who know les poos in real life know that no one gives a judgmental face quite like my little sister. And the look of shock and horror on her face when I dropped my "exciting" news on her was like nothing I'd ever seen before. And no matter how I explained to her that I was past it, that I'm not the dumb little girl I was with him, that he doesn't have the power to do any damage to me anymore, her position didn't change. You don't go back and hang out with someone who treated you like shit under his shoe like nothing ever happened. You don't put yourself at risk like that and what's more – you don't give him the satisfaction of slithering back years later and getting to hang with you. She told me in no uncertain terms to shut it down.
Coming from anyone else, this unsolicited advice would go in one ear and out the other. But coming from the person who had to mop me up off the floor over and over when the spectacular asshole was doing spectacularly assholey things, I had to consider what she said. And while I really do feel like there's no possibility of being sucked back into the vortex, I also acknowledge that I was a spectacular fool for this man. If he's the asshole who got in his car and drove over me, I'm the fool who laid down in the street and didn't move when I saw the car coming for me. And even back then I knew that I was being stupid, so I can't even blame it on the naivete of youth. Which makes me wonder – can I really stop myself from being fooled by someone I've allowed to fool me countless times in the past? Or is it once a fool always a fool?
Tell me dear readers, what would you do? Have a friendly drink with the spectacular asshole or run for the hills and never look back? Have you ever been in this situation? What did you do? Give me some guidance in the comments.
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I think running implies cowardice, but I agree with your sister. Whether or not you've both matured and evolved as people. It doesn't negate the fact that he treated you like shit, so I don't think he deserves to spend time with you, especially not one on one.
You know I'm a fan of that rear view mirror moment. But not like this. I agree with your sister: do not give him the satisfaction of being invited back into your conscious thoughts.
Ex = X as in unknown.
I knew Max was going to pull me in with whatever blog topic she was going to go with… Give me a moment…
Good Morning,
Hmmmm… If I had to put some money up, over/under see him/not see him… I will go with the former… BEING an MATURE adult & sound decision making are both choices… So hence 55 year old people still be on B*llshit…
I hope you go see him, sleep with him & write about it so I can learn more lessons about why women swoon over SAs… You are a living sacrifice for us Max 🙂
This reminds me of my poor choices in women… I say that, cause I used to go for women who had low self-esteem & already taken… And women with LSE tend to not enjoy men who treat them well, and match up better with SAs…
May 25, 2003 (I was 15, she was 15, she is 3 1/2 months older than me), I met a girl in church named Dee, Dark Skin, Big A*s, Scorpio, Slightly Masculine… She sang on the choir (I still have her voice in my head when she sings "GOD's gonna TROUBLE the wadddd-dddderrr")… lived in the Bronx
The Bronx's seems to have the hottest women in NYC
To this day, I never have penetrated this girl… and back then I never really wanted to sleep with the women I wanted… It was more like GODDESS worship… (projecting perceived qualities in her than I LACK…)
She was dating someone else at the time… and I was a unintentional Spectacular As$hole (cause I always been a Smart Ass)… And she went for that… But the guy she was dating at the time was a better As$hole than I was… So when I asked her to be mine… She declined and got back with O' Boy
So 7 different boyfriends later (not named Adonis), she ends up with my sister's ex-fiance (BTW who just married to someone else at the moment, I'll call him Patrick)… This went on in my senior year in High School… (Sigh…) The worse part about this story is THAT he was LIVING IN MY HOUSE on & off… (He was being a step-dad to another woman's kid) So he would be on the PHONE with HER, when I came home from school… And just basically reminded me that he was f*cking her… I remember there were days when I woke up and I had that feeling that the girl I want is f*cking someone else… That is a really bad FML feeling
(Fast forward, to the PRESENT, she is a single mom,
baby from a man who his currently incarcerated , who is trying to become the next Fantasia… )
Thinking back on that time, I allowed that WHOLE situation to just take me out of my element… But all in all, when I look at this situation… I was feeling deep feelings for someone who was
F*CKING RATCHET never really mine OR feeling me in the first place… So 90% was my fault… But I didn't like the way she or Patrick handled it… (or just basically dated each other at my expense, AT LEAST GET MARRIED and validate your reason for getting together…) Either way, I haven't had the chance to have REVENGE closure…
And until I set that up, I want nothing to do with them… It pointless…
I think you are setting the stage for bad things to happen Max… (But I still root for you…)
As late as I am. I think your experience says so much. Appreciate you sharing.
this is a tough one.
speaking for myself, i probably wouldn't have asked, but would have wanted to take him up on an offer to meet just to prove something to myself and to him.
but going backwards, usually isn't a good idea. and while i know you pride yourself on being the anti-female, you do still have feelings/emotions and your history with this dude is too rife with negative ones.
if you end up being in the same place/event/function though….
My first bf was the leader of spectacular assholes. Won't go into detailed specifics about all the wonderfully assholish things he did to me, but the most spectacular thing he did was that he left me on the streets in the winter time while miscarrying his baby at 2am because he didn't want to pick up the phone. He kept picking up and hanging up. I had to take the bus home from jane & finch hospital down to eglinton & keele in some serious pain and bleeding. The hospital wouldnt admit me because i wasnt bleeding enough. He left me as a devastated, depressed and suicidal alcoholic. My family had to stage an intervention, that's how bad it was. They made me promise not to ever speak to him again. This man had the nerve to call my parents house after I had disappeared from his life, acted like we were buddy buddy and gave my mother a heart attack. I had to tell him that if he saw me
laying dead in the street to pass me by.
My advice…..don't waste another second of your life on the spectacular assholes. Especially because you know better. K.I.M. Assholes thrive on this attention and will catch you when your weak. Why even bother to put yourself in that situation if don't have to? It's not like you have a kid together. Take the positives from what you learned and use it on someone deserving of it. Fuck him ( not literally)
My heart SANK while reading your story BBF. I hope that you have found peace with all that has happened to you and if you haven't yet…I pray you will soon. I am so proud ( as a sister that has been hurt as well) that you cut yourself off completely from that toxic bastard.
To ALL spectacular assholes:
Fuck you all day with no vaseline.
Dedication to my ex…..
"My advice…..don't waste another second of your life on the spectacular assholes. Especially because you know better. K.I.M. Assholes thrive on this attention and will catch you when your weak. Why even bother to put yourself in that situation if don't have to? It's not like you have a kid together. Take the positives from what you learned and use it on someone deserving of it. Fuck him ( not literally)"
i feel for you BBF, i'm hoping all your wounds have healed & you move forward with the knowledge but not the scars
I appreciate your honesty sister, but please spare us the details of your personal complications with a pregnancy. We'd all like to think that we are a family here, but none of us here are equipped with the necessary skillset to respond to that type of commentary. You should seek professional help, if you haven't been able to bring yourself above that situation which I suspect you haven't because of the need to share the story here. I was taken back by your story and your comment, but thought that it was not appropriate for this venue. That story is probably best saved for a support group, or alcoholics anonymous meeting. But the comments section of a blog is not a healthy medium.
With Regards,
Dr. J
Please be careful sharing your extremely personal stories on the internet. And also be mindful that the topics of your story may be too much information for others. There is such thing as TMI.
I respectfully disagree. I have never experienced anything that tragic in my life however, I am not the only person that reads this blog. I appreciated her story. BBF has all the right to share her story if it will help someone else. You have no idea Dr. J if a woman out there has read this and gains strength from BBF's plight. This is the real world and real sh*t happens. She obviously wanted to paint the picture of the severity of the spectacular asshole in her life. Often people sharing their story helps them heal. Furthermore, this is NOT your blog and I think it would behoove you to keep your opinionated feelings to yourself.
Aside, please stop calling her BBF. That's an acronym for Big Black Female, or Big & Beautiful Female. It's confusing. I just had a meeting last week where someone wrote, Neyla has STD. Freaking crazy to me, they meant Short Term Disability though.
Wow! Not for nothin but your comment to BBF was one of the most ASSHOLE things I have read in a while. Her story is very REAL and was very touching and to tell her what time and place she should share it was rude. Assholery comes in many degrees and her's was pretty severe and should be seen as a cautionary tale to guard your heart and stay away from S/A not ignorant judgements by ppl who are too insensitive to see the moral HER story. It might've been a little too real for you but moving and helpful to others. I'm just sayin'…
To the both of you,
I was not trying to be an asshole or nothing. What i'm trying to say is it's a freaking blog. We are not doctors. I have had this situation happen to me in real life where someone shared some information that while it may have been a touching story, my point was to say, to be honest, I think that you saying that here is all well and good, but you should probably be speaking to someone who can really help you. We don't need to know your personal business.
If you are gaining strength from a blog about meeting up with a past ex to get you through your personal situation about a miscarriage, then you are looking in the wrong place for support. I think that sometimes we subscribe to blogs and the comments like we are trained professionals in that field. And at those times people can do more harm than they can good. All I was saying was that I appreciate your candor, but sweetheart that's your personal business, don't share all your details with the world.
With all due respect….gtfoh
It's actually been about 12 yrs since this happened and I'm just now actually speak out loud about it. I certainly didn't share my story to gain sympathy or to get advice. I'm simply sharing my story of a REALLY spectacular asshole and the effects of having one in your life.
Have I been affected? Most certainly. Am I scarred? To the core. Am I still standing, hell fucking yes. That year of my life has shaped me into what I am today. I'm only sharing it so that others won't stay with SAs unnecessarily. I guess you're hurt because you are one?
Where and when indecide to share my story is my perogative. This isnt your blog and I don't believe anyone made you the king of what can and cannot be posted on
Max's blog. If there was a problem, Max would've removed it.
Max, what about him is exciting to you? Are you questioning your better judgment because he called again and you seem to now be the one with the ball in your court? I can see how that can be enticing BUT my advice is to drop the ball and walk away. Spectacular assholes never really change…they just become more charming and manipulative in their ways. I have made the mistake of letting SAs back into my life that should have never entered it in the first place. I have cut both of them off now and one lives fairly close to me. I pity them because they lost a good woman to have in their corner
and they are punk ass b*itches and I am content with my decision. RUN for the hills lady!
Btw, I have a theory on SAs. They were usually good men before* some woman broke their heart. Unfortunately, some men don't heal…they hoe (great book breaks this down) and in turn become repetitive heart breakers.
You know what it is? It's not that he's particularly exciting; it's that I want to prove to myself that I wouldn't be as stupid this time around. It's all well and good for me to keep my head in casual entanglements; but can I do it when it's someone I was once really feeling? I don't know…
I get your point, I really do… BUT is it worth learning the hard badly-heart-broken lesson (again) if you get entangled again? If you do meet with him I think Most provided you with a good list of things to do before the encounter. I know you will be smart about this….
Nooooo, Don't do it! He's an "ex" for a reason….ummm, what's the definition of insanity again?
What you should do is going to depend very heavily on exactly how bad an influence on you he was/is, something it's hard for me to go on. I notice from the article above you spend two paragraphs vaguely alluding to damage and disrespect but then go into two paragraphs almost apologising for him, justifying his actions, outlining what you are grateful for, what he gave you…
Really the only danger to you is that you forgive too easily, or choose to conveniently forget the worst. Be careful that you remain honest with yourself and vigilant too.
If, as you suggest the misunderstandings or mismatched goals are no longer an issue then perhaps you would be safer a second time. (make no mistake the potential for a second time will be present in even the most seemingly innocent encounter.) But like you say, that comes back on you. The only safety you're gonna get will be from knowing what you want and what you will and won't accept.
I'm always suspicious when a woman says she ends up with arseholes. What is she doing to create or perpetuate that? Does she actively signal low self-worth to partners? Does she seek people incapable of giving kindness or respect?
Forgive me if I'm wrong but it Sounds to me like you want to see him **just** to show him what he's missing. Like you said, " i look good, I am good , i'm doing good " but becareful we always have a soft spot in our hearts for Assholes ..sad to say, If you know in your heart of hearts … that you will not succumb to this asshole"s "CHARM" AND i use that sucker lightly… then by all means go have drinks , rub it in his face and then WALK AWAY… don't go catch a movie, or accept invitations for drinks at his place or any freakin hotel for that matter. Follow the plan.. but before you make the decision..just make sure that you're totally over him, because to me it sounds a little like you aren't…Oh and i'm a first time commentor and i think your blog is the fucking best thing on the planet!!! followed closely by SBM and Black girls are Easy lol 😉 (Sorry guys gotta stick with my Trini peeps :))
*Does a look-at-all-the-new-commenters jig*
Yay! Welcome! Stay a while 🙂
*hands a cool glass of lemonade and some pound cake*
I just finished this "spectacular asshole" part of my life recently and I'm not looking back. Not even to say hi to his mom (who loved me). The past is the past. If I were to do something like that, my sisters would flip SHIT, while reminding me of the smashing sounds of my cell phone hitting the walls of our rooms. Someone that's done me wrong and I've let back in before in the past can't pass me now without getting the "You can't be fucking serious to think I'd fall for THAT shit again" look.
I say, don't even bother with him. You broke up for a reason. Burn los bridges and keep it pushing. Going back to them will forever remind you of good times more often than bad and you might start making excuses for more fucked up shit they're about to do.
Those four years of no contact should have told you all you needed. Houdini right back out his life & push push push. That's about it. 🙂
Interesting predicament. This can be considered a chance to put your money where your mouth is and see if you've truly evovled from being a [stupid] girl…whether you see him or not, buit of course the more challenging road is if you are to see him. If you pass that test I'm sure the reward will be so much sweeter than if you choose not to see him at all…if you can pass the test.
Like you, I pride myself on not being a stupid woman, so I know this would be a challenge for me, but Im always up for personal challenegs that later bring self discovery and strengthen my disposition. LOL I'm also a little sister that can give a fierce judgemental face, so yeah…just know me and your little sis will be giving you the face if you falter. I hope thats determent enough for ya 🙂
Good Luck!
Umm been there done that twice and it's over and done as far as I'm concerned and he was a spectacular asshole that still calls….I think he will get it one day that I have moved on
Don't meet up with this guy Max…nothing positive is going to come from this..trust me…come up with an excuse and bail on this meeting right away…if you decide to go…meet for coffee/tea not drinks…no need to add alcohol to this mix. lol.
Bwhahhahahaha… I agree w/ Queen on the alcohol comment.
But seriously Max, I've done it. I actually befriended mine. We're at a different place in our lives now and it works for me. I don't know that it'll work for everyone and every now and again I get the urge to wring his neck… I resist. Lol. However, my heart will never let me forget he was an a$$hole so even if your mind went there, it wouldn't be the same. I don't wanna tell you not to do it b/c it actually worked out for me but I don't wanna tell you to do it… and then it doesn't work out. 0.o Hmmm…
You are the exception…
Yeah, I'm with KB in that it probably seems more interesting since YOU were the one that asked. It kinda gives a hint that it was in your subconscious and that you may still have a weak spot for him. Which is understandable and not anything necessarily wrong with that. Just make sure the older you is able to combat that weak spot. Yeah, I'm finna be a cliched mofo: Go with your gut.
And, hell, considering your request to see him slipped out without you even thinking, it seems as if your gut is saying… go for it. Just go with caution…
Granted I make it my business to actively root for the asshole, but I'd advise you to not meet with him. In all likelihood you aren't going to get some grand honest to God apology where he breaks down apologizing for everything that he had previously done to you. Nor will you see him tear up because you've done better with yourself now. If he's the type of asshole that's worth his salt he will likely either A. not give a shit or B. try to see if he can reel you back in.
Even if he doesn't reel you back in, he probably still won't give a shit because he probably now has multiple women doing the same shit to them as he did you. Whole lot of biwinning on his part.
I love that you said you actively root for the asshole. That is hilarious.
Are you an asshole yourself? Is that why?
I am a nice kind hearted young fellow who enjoys bringing joy and happiness to other people's lives via good deeds, but I'm also pragmatic enough to know that being an asshole yields certain benefits when dealing with the fairer sex. I do put it any effort to be more Clark Gable than say Killa Cam everyday however.
That is why I admire & aspire to be the consummate as$hole
Honestly no one can tell you what to do about ex…..
But just remember … He may have been spectacular once …. But he's still an asshole!
I think you're going to go Max. I say that because I think your curiosity is too great to not. I think you're curios to see if you've really gotten over him. You're curious to see if he's somehow abdicated all of his a**hole ways and thereby become perfect for you. And then I think you might be curious about the sex and whether or not you guys can have some totally n.s.a. sex and just leave it at that.
So while I agree with your sister, and everything you said she said, I feel like I'm already operating from the stand point of this get-together inevitably happening. In that case, here's my semi-solicited advice:
1) Make sure it's in a public place that doesn't feel to intimate. Like a coffee shop or something like that.
2) Make sure you're feeling extra confident. Take an extra long shower, spend some extra time on your hair and wear something that makes you look as good as you can possibly look.
3) I always tell my wife to eat a good breakfast before she goes to the supermarket because, if you're full, you shop with a clearly mind and aren't easily given to impulse. So uh.. yeah… get buns the night before.
4) Underneath your super awesome outfit, wear granny panties, a mismatched bra… or… even better, reschedule the meeting to that the week where it's gonna bee that time of the month. This way… sex is just not an option.
Good luck Max. Whatever you do, remember, we expect a follow up story!
most wins again!!
3) I always tell my wife to eat a good breakfast before she goes to the supermarket because, if you're full, you shop with a clearly mind and aren't easily given to impulse. So uh.. yeah… get buns the night before.
Thank You Most for the Supermarket tip… I should have BEEN known about that… But common sense is not so common
Most you need to write a book and go on Oprah with your wife, I have never read anything that you've written that wasn't fantastic. Someone needs to pay you for your skills.
I forgot to say – great post. This was a really really great read.
max i'm usually all for the "look at me now sucker, you wish you could have this again" moment or moments but something about this doesn't sit right, it could be that you asked to see him which then gives him more power -if you will- in this situation. maybe chat him up again a time for two but don't go and see him, matter-of-fact cancel you plans at the last possible minute or something. the balance in this situation is not right…
but if you do see him, do everything in your power to not end up horizontal including all the things most detailed above as well as do NOT do excessive pre meet up grooming!!! and you know what i mean… i wish you all the best
ITA and with Malik as well.
Seeing the one I'd call an SA on the humble last summer one night, where he spotted me first and just could not let me walk by, he called my name, it stopped me in my tracks cause I knew it was him at the sound of my name on his voice, I turned about reluctantly yet bravely and we locking eyes for what seemed an eternity, while time seemed to stop, and everything else disappeared including his date, I spoke not a word, verbally, and broke eye contact once I saw him start to visually go over my body, and then I turned and walked away, not once looking back. That encounter served no purpose, as FLy as I was looking that night too, but to remind me I am better off without him, don't need the run' ins or heaven forbid to purposely see him.
Yeah, while you may feel gassed up at the opportunity to give him the Destiny's Child "Survivor" treatment, the fact that you asked him to meet up gassed him up as well. No amount of "if you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it" will change that in his mind. I just think that the ultimate insult to a man isn't showing him that you're doing better without him, but letting him find out on his own.
And to be frank, while I understand the temptation to flaunt your success to the person who scorned you is very real and satisfying, I don't think you can say you've moved past that person and what they did to you if you go out of your way to act on that temptation.
If you do go out, I hope you don't regret it.
"Look at me now, look at me now
Oh, I'm getting paper
Look at me now
Oh, look at me now
Yeah, I'm fresher than a motherfucker" – C. Brown
"Do that shit, do that shit, do it." – S. P. Combs
There's about two chicks from my past that were extreme assholes to me. Weird thing about those two relationships is that we are still friends now. And i'm not going to lie to you guys, i've got a little of that "I never forget" Kobe in me. And when the first situation ended, I told myself that 1) I wouldn't care for her anymore because she never cared about me, and 2) by the time college came to an end, she would WISH that she never made that decision to let me go. Fast forward, last night at the bars senior year, her exact words as her man was flirting with some random chick on the other side of the bar, "Sometimes you wish that you could go back and change the decisions that you made when you were younger. I kind of think that things would have been better if I had stayed with the people who really cared about me." My reaction: "Yep, I feel you." [Pounded a Long Island Iced Tea and proceeded to keep dancing to Toxic on the dancefloor.] Fast forward, a couple years after that, she hit me up and wanted to talk, just to shoot the breeze and catch up. I had no reason to do so, but I did it anyway.
Now what I will say is that someone asked me how I can be friends with someone who was an asshole to me, and I told them, you know sometimes we just want to salvage some type of victory in a fucked up situation. And that's very true. For one of those two people, we are allegedly supposed to be friends, so not going would kind of make it seem like I still got feelings for the person. For the other one, I never pass up an opportunity to show her what she's missing. I'm not above making you eat those, "We should just be friends" words for the rest of your life.
Wow. This made a lot of sense…
Amazing that you've dealt first hand with asshole drama, yet most of your posts seem to condone and even encourage the asshole behaviour from your male readers. I am honestly disaapointed with what I've read on your blog.
How does Max condone a**hole behavior? I'm interested in hearing examples of her doing this.
Other thing to remember is that, Max, like everyone else is human. What she attracts, what she is attracted to, and what she's experienced are her own personal stories that she's kind enough to share with us and we're indulgent and voyeuristic enough to read. I realize that in having a blog she opens her self up to the judgment and criticism of others, but sometimes, if you don't have something nice, or encouraging to say, it's better that you say nothing.
Not speaking for Max or anything. Just felt like that was a little harsh since this seems like something Max was really looking for help on and you totally took a sh*t all over her request.
Eat a d*ck Amanda… As$holes run the dating world… It is what it is… And Max is keepin' it a buck to make people's lives better… She is a living sacrifice for us random women
And has more male groupies than she LEADS on
It gets me hot how people want to blame a blogger for a man's poor choices… #C'monSon
I love when people are disappointed in or dislike a blog but then keep coming back and/or leave comments.
RUN!! Don't do it MAX! DON'T! I am all for closure and all but nothing good is gonna come of this NOTHING! What are you really trying to prove? That you're over him and that you're smarter? Why does that point need to be proven? If you KNOW that you are in a better place then you don't need to prove anything to yourself, and if he was that bad to you then who cares what he thinks he should just be a (bad) memory his opinion should'nt matter to you.
In the balance of power I agree that you have shifted it in his favor just by asking to see him. You could've/should've waited for HIM to make the request (S/A are predictable and he would've definitely asked you) so that you could've shut him down and THAT would've been your way of "proving' your growth to yourself and him.
It was best said before can't remember by who but I co-sign that the best revenge is for him to "see on his own" how much better you've become w/out him. Than you "showing & telling" him yourself.
Though no experience should be left w/out learning the lesson it was meant to teach; so yup, its great that he was able to teach you some things and unleash your freak. Be grateful but move on and FAR AWAY from the ASSHOLE! By re-inviting him into your life if only briefly you will just bring in the assholery that you've got rid of.
BTW, if you DO proceed w/ meeting him do all of the things "Mostinteresting" said to do lol especially the granny panties and the unmatching bra!
You know what I find really interesting about the comments today? The number of women who think I should have waited for him to say he wanted to see me and/or think I was wrong for saying it first. If someone would care to elaborate on what difference it makes I'd love to hear it.
I think it makes it worse A LITTLE… that you went first… HOWEVER…
HE HAS ALL THE LEVERAGE… All he's needs is your cooperation… That is the KEY… There is no real LOSS for him in this situation…
See I guess my thing is that there is no leverage in this situation. If I was trying to get with him or vice versa I'd definitely be concerned about who was putting what out first. But in the case of people wanting to see each other out of curiosity, or for old time's sake or whatever I don't see any need to have the upper hand. But maybe I'm missing something.
We definitely need an update to this situation… I am ALREADY excited for the sequel
This also leads me to a bigger question, if you wanted to be vindictive & stick it to this man… and #WIN, what would be suitable revenge from you to him… or just how would you come out on top (for a woman)…?
I would never do that. Not my style at all.
oh dear. hell is freezing.
i agree with adonis.
you mentioning it first leads him to believe that you still have an interest in going there. if he had mentioned it first, it would have maybe alleviated your need to know if you still cross his mind (#nobrianmcknight)
::Completely pointless comment::
I prefer Jill Scott… http://youtu.be/qlo8TJYZHqM
Oh girl, this song…*mind wanders*
A fool is a fool as long as the fool wants to be a fool. The moment a fool wises up…
I smile whenever even IMPLICATIONS are given that the only a$$holes in the world are men… I've met some EXEMPLARY a$$holes with vaginas… (smile) And people wonder why I'm the happy-go-lucky dude I am…
I feel you homie, but women scream the loudest when scorned, and they are the physically weaker
(and more manipulating sex)
"…women scream the loudest when scorned…" (smile) I'm working on changing that–the scars a man wears should not silence him NOR should the world. "…and they are the physically weaker…" (blink) What does THAT have to do with ANYTHING?!
"…and they are the physically weaker…" (blink) What does THAT have to do with ANYTHING?!
Because from a subconscious standpoint being that she is weaker in that respect fuels the whole "she's a victim" theory and "he deserved it somehow" theory… Instead of seeing a situation objectively…
(smile) And, being such that I am looking at the situation objectively is why I posed the question in the first place… The "woman is always the victim" propaganda doesn't faze me. (smile) Experiences have taught me better…
I don't know enough about dude to give you any meaningful counsel, but I do know that spectacular a$$holes are only really a good thing if you're looking to toss a salad…
Having said that, I don't know if there's any real harm in seeing him if you are honest and clear with yourself about your feelings for him and set boundaries appropriately. I think Most's advice is on point.
you're gonna go.
i don't think it's necessarily a good idea, but if anyone understands doing things out of curiosity even when you know you probably shouldn't, it's me. i don't think anything good will come out of it tho. and i don't think your excitement comes solely from wanting to show him how good you are now. one drink can lead to dinner next week, which can lead to lets do something on friday, which can lead to weekly hanging, which can lead to old feelings slowly coming back, which can lead to, omg…how did i get here again, which can lead to probably good sex and before you know it, you're in the vortex again.
i have a hard time in general understanding why people give the people who've hurt them, caused strife, disrespected them a third chance (second chance is understandable but any more than that is not). i'm not even talking about a relationship/sexual sense…i mean a chance at entering your life, period. i believe in moving forward and i do believe in exes being friends but when someone disrespects you and hurts you, repeatedly, i think that's when they lose their privileges to be a part of your life. if you guys have both gotten to the good places you're at without each other, be happy for each other but leave it at that.
But yeah, your level of curiosity, like Most mentioned, is gonna be the reason you
probably but hopefully don't go. If you do go and it turns out bad, lessons are always fun, right? :/
"…lessons are always fun, right?" Laughing demonically in a distorted version of Mark Hamill's version of the Joker… (face suddenly blanks)
Max this was an outstanding post…and much advice has been given, good advice I'd say…but you know you…so do what's best for Max. I couldn't meet him, but we are much different creatures…with support and forethought, you will come out on top sooner or later. There is no answer sheet in life.
I will ask this: What do you hope to accomplish in seeing him?
I believe that we've all been here, or will have been here -> "I was a spectacular fool for this man." And as life is to be lived, mistakes are to be learned from.
Wow…66 comments already? Let me start from the top.
Not much to add. You're definitely gonna hook up with him. (I'll do same if I was you) Who asked first doesn't matter. There's no right or wrong..just do what you want. You're smarter now. Even if you start catching feelings again, now, you'll know when to up and leave. You won't be brooding like you used ti.
Hey Max,
Sorry I'm late but I wouldn't do it. SA's are that for a reason. I dated one once and he broke my heart into a million pieces. Of course he called me about six month's later and said "I just need to talk to a friend." I said, "I'm not your friend, so call someone else". I finally spoke to him in FB for the first time in over 20 years. Yeah, it took me that long to get over it and he still said "I'm so sorry for how I treated you." I told him that I was over it.
He told me that he was having a mid life crisis, driving a red sports convertible and dating women half his age. I said "That's about right." There was nothing else to be said.
I think you should see him, I'm sure you're at a point in your life where you can ricochet anything he fires at you, but you have to test yourself. It's like Luke Skywalker, he was afraid to go into that cave on Dagobah, Yoda told his ass he was ready. He went in, came out a better person… yes i've watched star wars way too many times.
Sidenote I had your blog up this morning when I first started reading it, I walk in and my girl is reading it like "who's this". I was very upset that she flat out refuses to read my blog but inhaled yours passionately. You win.
I say go ahead. You pointed out already that you made peace with him in the past, so there will be no necessary conversation revolving around apologies and "woulda, coulda, shoulda's". Most gave good advice so go on and follow that. For a society that thrives on giving people 2nd chances, loves hearing stories of how people have changed for the better and believe in the principle that one must face their fears and learn to forgive in order to overcome, I find alot of the comments fairly surprising. As long as the meet up adds value to your life then do your thing.
As far as people worrying about him casting his evil spell upon you again I would just remember the very popular saying, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me"
"If he's the asshole who got in his car and drove over me, I'm the fool who laid down in the street and didn't move when I saw the car coming for me"
I think I am just pulling out of a similar situation, its just really hard to completely not give a fuck about someone or what they think when your life used to revolve around them. I know that you want to prove to him that you are better without him but the fact that you still care what he thinks says a lot, it says you still care. While I am a HUGE hypocrite for saying this, I really think that you should just steer clear until he doesn't excite you at all, until you really don't care what he thinks either way.
What if he IS doing better than you?…
My advice. I've dated a spectacular asshole for the better part of my twenties too. Oh…he was spectacular in the asshole ways. Despite how strong I am now and what I've learnt and gained from that experience, I can't forget the hurt and pain that I had to go through to move on from that.
If you're able to be friends with your EX then kudos to you. But I think it really depends on your relationship and how it ended. This "SA" you speak of, you mentioned he did you wrong not once, but twice. That's all you need to think of. What will you gain from this meetup? He's an EX for a reason. Leave it. Don't have drinks with him. Don't let him back in.
i have been that guy…some might say i still am. but those some still LOVE me…yet still hate the fact that they do. spectacular in the sense that i am the lingering, memorable thrill of a red pill…easy to swallow, hard to digest–impossible to divest. asshole in the sense that…well–an asshole sense (sometimes in a good way–sometimes in the worst way). but while i'm sympathetic to the characterization, the spectacular asshole isn't the subject of importance here…it's YOU.
these words are a byproduct of your feelings…you'd been lookin' for him–your search was cosmically answered. you want to see him…and so you should. if you felt differently about him, yourself or the state of your relationship…this post wouldn't exist. you're entitled to your feelings…and to the follow through. denying yourself will leave you with unnecessary wonder. action almost always bears less regret than inaction…so be cautious, but not fearful.
it's a beautiful thing that you can look back and "see" the same things differently…AND admit it–that would be a great theme to develop.
I say go for it! You only live once. Embrace this opportunity but have no expectations. What is the worst that can happen, you have already walked,crawled or been mopped up from the floor due to the emotional trauma this spectacular asshole has caused you. So look at the bright side to what seemed to be unbearable at the time has only made you tougher, your heart has been callused from it. You will never be hurt like that again, at least not from him. So if that makes any sense at all thats my advice to you girlfriend but this is coming from someone stuck in a relationship with a spectacular asshole as we speak and the sick part is i am addicted to the disfunction meaning i choose to stay in this misery when i have other brighter, and beneficial opportunities.


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My daughter will turn 3 later this month.
It seems momentous, this birthday, more so than the last, and I'm wondering why. What makes 3 special, different?
Maybe it's because she's old enough now to feel and fully understand the joy of having a day dedicated to her. She can tell you when her birthday is (May 26) and which friends she wants to invite to the party.
Maybe it's because she's old enough to fully participate in all the hoopla: the Peter Rabbit cake, the ice cream, the presents. She'll dress up, dig in to the food and tear into the wrapping and leave the carnage -- wadded napkins full of cupcake crumbs, juice-stained socks, gift bows and tape and tags -- for her parents to clean up.
Maybe it's because Nora seemed so little just a year ago, and has grown so much in so many ways since.
It's that last one that gets me in the gut.
It's that last one that has me thinking not just of firsts -- her first step, her first word ("kitty"), the first time she rode a tricycle -- but of lasts. The last time she drank out of a bottle. The last time she needed her binky. The last time she slept in her crib.
You prepare for the firsts, wait for them with video camera at the ready. But the lasts creep up. They surprise you. They remind you how fast time marches and how quickly the days turn into weeks and the weeks into months.
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The sister of the dirty sanchez. During sex, when the male licks or kisses the butt of the female, then comes up to kiss her on the mouth. Usually not appreciated.
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Laying on your back while recieving a BJ right before busting a nut, lift your legs up, lock your feet, and push your feet in. This forces the girls head down, making her deep throat. Then bust in the back of her throat. Don't let go until she swallows everything.
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When one individual has sex on consecutive nights with two different girls who are best friends.
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2 (a) What is Normative Political Theory? Give different strands of normative political theory.
Ans: NPT is concerned with articulating norms rather than describing facts with theoretical tests rather than empirical studies.
· NPT is sometimes viewed as a branch of moral philosophy concerned with foundational or moral questions that affect fundamental life.
· NPT follows certain methods to conduct its investigations like:
Ø It is concerned with the internal constituency of moral arguments.
Ø It draws on other social sciences to check the correctness of empirical arguments.
Ø Normative theorists measures the conclusions of their arguments against their own moral institutions.
Different strands of NPT are:
1. Utilitarianism – Butham's felicific calculate is applied to laws and stats. Greatest happiness of greatest number. In reality, utilitarian logic is combined with another logic (individuals are treated as means).
2. Liberalism – Kantian theory states that individual should be treated as ends. Rights of individuals are more imported than the goods of the society.
3. Communitarianism - Liberal individual self cannot be separated from the community. The liberal self is an unencumbered self whereas communitarians believe that individual is a situated self. Values are contextually determined by the social obligations and shared values that owe to each other and the society.
2 (b) How the nation of freedom has been conceptualized in political theory?
Ans: Different schools of thought conceptualize different nations of freedom.
Ø For positive liberals, freedom comes out of the conditions which help in attaining one's self realization.
Ø For negative liberals, freedom is the absence of external interference.
Ø For Marxists, freedom is in the stage of communism where everyone's needs are fulfilled.
Ø For Locke, liberty lies in the rights which are amicable to any individual.
Ø For feminists, freedom lies in emancipation from patriarchal society, having equal rights like men, equal for work.
Ø The concept of freedom thus has been conceptualized in different ways in political theory.
3 (a) What is the fundamental difference between dharma and religion? Describe the role of Dharma in social, political and personal life as per ancient Hindu texts.
Ans: Dharma – essentially means righteousness. It is also interpreted as duty. It means that what are is expected to do in a particular situation.
Ø Dharma is often mistaken as religion but the two are not the same. Dharma is a customary law, religion is textual. Dharma is related to duty, religion to rituals.
Ø Dharma pervades the whole religious – ancient literature of Hindus. It is the core principle of Gita. At a social level, Dharma governs the dealing of one community with another. The notion of Dharma of a Bhahmin/Vaishya/Shudra/Kshatriya govern that mutual relationships.
Ø At the political level, it is the supreme value to which the king had adhere. Kautilya placed king above Brahmins but not above Dharma.
Ø The notion of Rajdharma is central to Indian Political Thought. IT is the chief ideal of Gandhian conception of Ramrajya.
Ø In personal life, Dharma is one of the four desirable aims of life. At personal level, it governs the relationship between say a father and his son, where notions of 'dharma of a son' are involved.
Ø Dharma is thus are ideal that permeates the whole of Hindu philosophy.
(b) Do you think that human rights need to be culturally specific in order to be effective? Discuss the issue of universality of human rights and cultural relations in political theory.
Ans: There exists a debate between the liberal and multiculturalists regarding there being a notions of human rights.
Ø Multiculturalists like will Kymlicke and Bhikhu Parekh argue that each society has developed through its own process of development and values different sets of ideals. They resist any imposition of liberal conception of human rights and charge them with 'ethnocentrism' .
Ø Liberals say all human beings possess some basic minimum sets of rights which are 'inalienable'.
Ø The debate has acquired new salience with immigrants asserting themselves in the West. West's attempts at promoting its values abroad, often they wrong dubious means such as 'humanitarian intervention', 'right to responsibility'. Nevertheless, there is no denying of the fact that certain minimum rights should be enjoyed by all human beings.
(c) What is fascism? Analyse the causes for rise and fall of fascism.
Ans: Fascism is not treated as a political ideology in a proper sense. It is rather manipulation of ideas, there distortion with the singular aim of coming to power. In a fascist regime, state and leader are supreme. Individual is subservient to the notion. The fascist leaders adopt titles which place them above any notion of constitutional leadership.
Fascism is based on the concept of superman/great man. Fascism has been analysed by Hannah Arendt who is her book said, Fascism, like communism, is sustained through violence and ideology.
Rise of Fascism
Ø Ideology adopted by middle class
Ø The Great Depression of 1930s brought about economic crisis, loss of jobs etc. The urge for a charismatic leadership arose who could solve all their ills.
Ø Humiliation inflicted on Germany after First World War through terms and conditions of Treaty of Versailles.
Fall of Fascism
Ø World War II brought down fall of both fascist variants.
Ø Rise in general prosperity after World War II
Ø Institutional building, Universal Human rights, consciousness, international law, spread of democracy etc.
4 (a) Discuss Mill's view on liberty. Why Mills is called a prophet of empty liberty?
Ans: Mill – foremost thinker of liberty in Western Liberal traditions.
Ø Mill gives an instrumental view on liberty. Man expresses his personality through his speech, expression, through his speech, expression associations and actions, he thus needs to be given a freedom in all these respects.
Ø Mill is a transitional liberal who makes a transition from negative freedom to positive freedom. His views on liberty leads him to view democracy as best system of government which on the one hand leads to all world development of the individual and on other hand State will be benefited by using the abilities of best man.
Ø Barker criticizes Mill as the prophet of empty liberty. According to Backer Mill's view on liberty is a negative conception of liberty, which can only be realized as absence of restraints. Barker, on the other hand called for active involvement of State in reducing the social and economic inequalities which restrict the liberty of an individual.
(b) Explain the relationship between political science and history. What are the limitations of historical approach to the study of political science?
Ans: Political science attempts to study new allocation of resources occurs in a society. David Easton, pioneer of behavioral approach wrote that it is the study of "authoritative allocation of values of a society".
Ø In order to understand present socio-political systems, our needs to enquire into systems previously existing.
Ø Hegel and Marx, have used history both as an empirical and ideological tool. Eg. Marx used history as the movement of matter which will lead to communist society in future.
Ø History and political science share, an intimate relationship, but however, there are certain limitations of historical approach to study of political science.
Ø Behaviouralists criticize historical approach as giving descriptive analysis.
Ø History may be a guide but cannot be used to predict the future.
Ø Karl Popper charged Marx with Historicism of using history for political purpose. Marx took what he needed to justify his ideas and overlooked other ideas.
(c) Distinguish power from authority. How power is related to authority and legitimacy?
Ans: Power is often thought to be as coercive and the idea of "power over" an individual.
Ø Marx state as an instrument in the hands of propertied class. Liberal scholars to counter the Marxist view, gave the concept of authority to explain the nature of power possessed by liberal state.
Ø Authority – right to exercise power, state – rightful owner of power because it had authority.
Ø Weber gave 3 kinds of authority – traditional, charismatic, legalization
Ø Legitimacy is consent – generated
Ø Gramsci – State possess manufactured consent.
6 (a) Political and ideological impact of Russian Revolution on INM
Ans: The Russian Revolution led to the overthrown of Czar in Russia and established a State led by Communist Party in 1917 in Russia.
Ø MN Roy, the founding father of Communism in India was inspired by the Bolshevik Revolution and attended the second Communist International where debates were on about the role of national bourgeoisie in colonial states.
Ø Also deeply influenced the mainstream national movement led by INC. It was realized that national movement could no longer stand separate from popular demands. INC thus recapture the demands of the masses.
Ø Also inspired Indian capitalism to take part in politics actively.
Ø Also influenced revolutionary movement in India. Bhagat Singh sought to create egalitarian society.
(b) Various elements of Swaraj in Gandhi's philosophy
Ans: Swaraj for Gandhi meant self rule. It was power over one's self.
For achieving Swaraj, Gandhi believed in exercising ethical means.
Ø Gandhi sought to build the self-rule from below. He talked about village republics, cottage industries, were price in his vision of Swaraj.
Ø Swaraj has 2 connotations:
i) For individual – means restrain on demand, greed etc.
ii) For society – means self-rule. A rule not fanatic state but rule by people themselves.
Ø His idea of Swaraj was thus compatible with his other ideas on Ahimsa (non-violence), Satyagrah (constant search for truth) and Sarvedya (Gandhian socialism).
(c) Nature of participation and role of women in freedom movement of India
Ans: Women participated in all aspects – revolutionary terrorism, non cooperation, satyagraha, leadership roles with Annie Besant Sarojini Naidu, both becoming presidents of INC.
Swadeshi Movement – 1905 – First mass movement in the announcement of Partition of Bengal that women came out in the open they were picketing liquor shops and persuading people not to but foreign cloth. Later in the champion and Kheda Satyagraha, women participated actively in non-cooperation.
In 1942 with most congress leadership behind the bars, Usha Mehta ran the congress radio secretly.
Annie Besant started the Home Rule Movement in 1918 to demand for dominion states.
7 (a) Planning Commission
Ø Non-statutory, non constitutional body for planning of India
Ø Planning Commission have since its inception created programmes like IRDP for rural development.
Ø For women, Planning Commission have brought changes in policy of otherwise patriarchal society of India, it stated gender budgeting.
Ø Also created policies to provide extra funding for state level tribal sub plan, also plans for children, disabled, rural, urban development etc.
Economic Development
Ø Created a base of strong public sector enterprises. Also post 1991, bringing private sector in growth of India.
Ø Many skill developmental programmes are creating productive labour in India.
Ø Recently, its role been criticized for top-down approach of Planning. This led to exclusion of many.
(b) Relevance of Gandhism
Ø Satyagraha – beyond mere 'passive struggle. It is speaking truth. Instead of person, his acts are targeted.
Ø Ahimsa – Non-violence towards human beings, animals, nature etc.
Gandhism in relevant today:
Ø Peace - persistent need of human civilization.
Ø Sanitation – still need of time.
Ø Providing Urban amenities in Rural India – Gandhism emphasized on rural cottage industry and self – reliance as a way to development.
Ø Sarva Dharma Sambhava – equality of all religions to bring substantial equality in India. Secularism - still relevant.
5 (a) Nehru's legacy on Constitution of India
Ø Nehru was modernist in his approach and was influenced by the development of west.
Ø Later, he was also inspired by USSR & its achievements.
Ø Hence, Nehru tried to maintain equilibrium between Liberty and Equality.
Ø Fabian/Laskian Socialism
Ø Secularism, modern state, Nature of Indian Federation, objective resolution of Preamble.
Ø Preventive detention which is highly criticized is also Nehurvian legacy.
5 (b) Two nation theory
Ø Jinnah challenged Indian National Congress idea of India as the inclusive nation by giving "two nation theory".
Ø Hindu & Muslims are two compartmentalized communities forming two separate nations.
Ø Ambedkar also supported Jinnah two nation theory. He held that nationalism is based on the idea of fraternity which is missing in Hindu community.
Ø After independence, India adopted secularism. Kashmir is integration with India and other Muslims living in India challenge the two nation theory.
5 (c) Article 32
Ø B.R.Ambedkar called it soul of part-III
Ø It is Article 32 which provides teeth to FRs to bite
Ø One can directly approach to Supreme Court if any of his FRs is violated.
Ø Supreme Court has right to issue writs namely Habeas Corpus, Mandanus, Prohibition, Ceteorari and Quo Warranto.
Ø Under Article 32, Supreme Court is the guardian of FRs of citizens.
Ø Under Article 32,Supreme Court has determined appropriate procedures like - PIL, Epistolary jurisdiction, doctrine of Laches & doctrine of res-juridcata.
5 (d) Article 262
Ø Article 262 calls upon Parliament to make laws to provide for settlement of inter-state disputes on use, distribution and control of water or river valley project. The Parliament has powers to set up tribunals with the exclusive jurisdiction.
Ø However, these the arbitral awards by these tribunals have never been binding and appeals are allowed in Supreme Court.
Ø River Boards have never come into existence ever after River Boards Act.
Ø Tribunals have taken longer timer to give awards and the given awards are often in dispute.
Ø Supreme Court has intervened like Yamuna River water dispute between Punjab, Haryana and Delhi.
Ø Recently, award on Mullaperiyar dam.
5 (e) Role of CAG
Ø Rajendra Prasad, "Govt handles huge sum of public money. Hence, CAG should be able to fulfill its functions without fear".
Ø Ambedkar considered the office more important than of judiciary.
Ø Puts limitations on abuse of power, checks unauthorized and unconstitutional acts of government.
Ø Ensures good practices in administration
Ø It is a friend, philosopher and guide of Public's Accounts Committee.
Ø It has to ensure that tax payer's money is used economically, efficiently and effectively.
Ø Right from Nehruvian era there has been controversy over role of CAG. Govt. expected CAG to simply focus on Public Accounts and not to tell how Govt. can be better conducted.
Ø UPA-II govt. also claimed CAG for overreach and policy paralysis.
Ø Public Accounts Committee held that "role of CAG is not simply to satisfy that expenditure as per prescribed rules, CAG has to ensure wisdom, faithfulness and efficiency.
1 (a) The end of law is not to abolish or restrain but to presence and enlarge freedom
Ø Hobbes talks about Leviathan – the sovereign and individuals have no rights against the State. The commands of sovereign are the laws. Hobbes believed that man are guided by passions more than reasons.
Ø Whereas Locke, produced a balanced picture on human nature. Reason guides a man . Reason in man tells him to respect the right of others. Man understands that his freedom ends where someone else's freedom begins. Hence he advocates for minimal State. He clarifies that he is not abolishing the State but limiting it for enlarging the sphere of freedom of a mass. State can intervene if actions of one man encroach on the freedom of other man.
1. (b) Kautilya's theory of State
Ø Semi contractual State
Ø Welfare State
Ø Purpose is 'Yogshem'.
Ø Saptanga theory of State with king at the centre
Ø Strong king can convert the weak elements of sovereignty into elements of strength.
Ø Other elements of sovereignty like Bal,Amatya, Durga, Janpada, Kosha, Mitra are also important as he believes 'Single wheel cannot ride the Chariot'.
Ø Kautilya viewed State in a holistic manner and applied systematic approach.
Ø This is organic theory of State
1 (c) Pluralist theory of democracy
Ø Modification of elitist theory
Ø Suggest masses have enough scope to impact the decisions in political system. Hence, democracies recognize Fundamental Right to from Associations.
Ø For pluralists reality of democracy is polyarchy.
Ø Mc Pherson criticizes for udnremining the normative aspect of democracy. He does not find much difference between elitist theory and pluralist theory.
1 (d) Relationship between liberty and equality
Ø Related to modern times.
Ø There are two perspectives –
i) Liberty and equality are antithetical
Lord Acto & Alex de Tocqueville
ii) Complementary
Ø Laski, Rawls,T.H.Green
Ø Classical Liberals give primary to liberty but they consider equality before law. Attempts of social and economic equality is viewed as incompatible.
Ø Socialists give primary to equality in social and economic sphere. For them liberty is freedom from necessities.
Ø Social liberals consider them to be compatible as also support positive discrimination. They gave concept of positive liberty.
1 (e) Marx's theory of alienation
Ø Marx gave this theory in "Economic & Philosophic Manuscript".
Ø Alienation is Marx's understanding of freedom and criticism of liberal societies.
Ø In capitalist societies man is not liberated but alienated. For Marx, freedom is freedom from necessities. In capitalism, market takes away all the freedom. Market determines what to produce and how to produce.
Ø For Marx, man is social and created and it is impossible to realize both in capitalism. Alienation is faced by both capitalists and workers but workers face alienation more. Workers face alienation from the product of his Labour, his society, and finally from himself.
Ø Solution is only in communism and method is only revolution.
2 (c) Examine the issue of multiculturalism in the context of universal citizenship.
Ø Against traditional concepts of citizenship which ignores the cultural and social differences.
Ø Will Kymlicka in his book 'Multicultural Citizenship' has openly advocated for granting special rights to minorities like Special Representation Rights – Reservation in Assemblies, Self Governance Rights – 6th Schedule in Indian Constitution and Special Cultural Protection.
Ø Feminists also support the theory but in universal context.
Ø Susan Moller Okin in her book 'Multiculturalism that for women' has suggested to have some minimum universal norms because most of the societies have such cultural traditions which are exploitative for women.
Ø Bhikhu Parekh in his book 'Rethinking Multiculturalism' suggests to retain liberal values of human dignity along with the toleration for different cultural traditions.
Ø Hence universal citizenship implies the concept of treating all citizens equally irrespective of caste, gender, on the basis of universal Adult Franchiese.
7 (b) Is political development a cause or consequence of economic development? Give arguments in support of your answer.
Ø Lucian Pye has given the concept of political development which helps understanding the nature of State in 3rd World countries and in measurement of political development.
Ø Both are cause and both are consequences.
Ø For Marx, economy drives policy.
Ø There are regions with economically strong but politically weak. Thailand being a 'tiger economy' has been facing political turmoil since a decade.
Ø Areas like Middle East, full of resources are facing both political crisis & developmental deficit.
Ø In Indian context, policy has driven Economy. Indian economy has State Economy till 1990s. Because of political developments, dalits have got voice, economy has risen.
8 (a) Is there a national policy for empowerment of Women? If yes, what are the salient features of this policy?
Please refer National Policy for Empowerment of Women 2011 in Ministry of Women and Child Development.
8 (b) State reorganization as an exercise needs to pursue from a holistic perspective. Suggest a new analytical framework for state reorganization in India.
Ø India's internal territorial map is yet not fixed. There are numerous demands of states like Gorkhaland, Bodoland, Vidarbha etc.
Ø Reasons for demand of new States are –
i) Identity
ii) Development
iii) Good governance
iv) Weakening of democracy in the country
v) Increasing aspiration of people for political participation
vi) Some scholars have linked the demand of new states to 'caste ' politics as after 1st SRC – new States have created 'dominant caste' in every state.
8 (c) Discuss the changes in Indian party system since 1990s.
Ø To be discussed in three phases
Ø Phase I (till 1999) – The onset of coalition politics & minority govt. but polarized conditions. Highly fragmented party system, unstable coalitions
Ø Phase II (1999-2014) – considered as phase of stable coalitions giving appearance of maturity of coalition politics. Both conditions under NDA and UPA-I showed healthy coalitions. UPA-II govt. again put number of questions on coalition politics.
Ø Phase – III (2014 elections) – The present govt. is also a coalition govt. but single party has alone got the clear majority since 1989. There are talks of end of coalition politics but this is premature to say as per the scholars researching on electoral behaviour.
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As a new grandmother this Mother's Day I am thinking of my own, both gone from this world almost 50 years, yet reminding me how they showed up, and helping me in the role.
In 1964, a week after my Grandma Davidoff died from surgery complications, my Grandma Cohen, about to pay a shiva call, got hit by a car crossing the street and died immediately. I did not find the words, as I had for Grandma D, to write a poem.
Intensely social and conventional, Grandma C judged my quirky, misunderstood mother who struggled to fit in. Grandma C would come to our house for Friday dinner wearing a dark dress and long face, tighten her lips when we kissed her, and check in with Mom in the kitchen where a disagreement might ensue. At the table, she bragged about my country club uncle and the life he afforded his family, disapproving of my father's preference for literature to making money, showing little curiosity about me.
On Sunday visits to Grandma D's, I got hugs when Dad and I walked in. Then she put freshly baked kichel (sugar cookies) on a plate on the kitchen table. "Just for Nancy," she would say, her eyes gleaming. Dad walked around, shoving one after another into his mouth. "No one bakes like you, Ma."
At age 7, on a car trip to Florida, I listened to her stories of two Russian sisters, Mashington and Tashington, in the back seat with my head on her lap. After four days, she told my parents, "I never knew how smart Nancy was." I reminded her I hardly spoke. "That's why," Grandma D said.
She did not drive. Once or twice a week after school, even as a teenager, I visited her while my mother did errands. We watched "Our Five Daughters," our favorite soap opera. I hated when Mom picked me up. Later I called Grandma to continue our soap discussion, but really because she made me feel loved.
Every member of her clan felt that way. Anyone who did not think we were the smartest, most special people on earth would get a look from Grandma. Yet when my Aunt Dora, her younger daughter, came running to her with a suitcase and complaints about her husband, Grandma told her, "I bet he has something to say, too."
The mutual respect and adoration between Grandma D and her brood comforted me. The tension between my mother and Grandma C hurt. I believe Grandma C suffered from depression and, feeling guilty she had passed it down to Mom, could not embrace her or her children. I understand now, too, that praise and affection did not come naturally to her.
She showed up when it mattered – to take me to the movies on Saturday; to take me clothes shopping when my mother was hospitalized; and to help me bury my turtle. When Myrtle died, I insisted on having a funeral. My mother, already sick, would not participate. I needed a substitute mom. "She'll wear her dark dress and long face," I said, asking Dad to call her. Sure enough, a half hour later, she appeared in our back yard wearing both. My father dug a hole in which I placed Myrtle in her bowl. Then my sister, Dad, Grandma C and I put dirt, daffodils and dandelions on my little turtle's grave.
Should my grandson have and lose a pet for which he wants a funeral, I will be a respectful mourner and stand beside him. In the meantime, I will shower him with pride and praise and kisses and hugs, reminding him with a gleam in my eyes that he is the best. The brightest. Special.


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GENESEE TOWNSHIP, Michigan — By a 2-to-1 margin — that will not be recounted — the Board of Canvassers decided today to recount Nov. 8 ballots cast in the failed Genesee Township recall vote.
"I'm going to vote yes. It's against my better judgment, but I'm going to vote yes," said Voorheis. "The public has this perception that elections are crooked and that's why we're here (to clear it up)."
Genesee Township businessman and recall supporter Tom Joubran filed a petition earlier this month for the recount, alleging programming errors of voting machines, mishandling of voting machine computer chips, human error, as well as tampering, fraud or mistake.
The recount will take place Dec. 8, but a location for the recall has not yet been decided. Member Alex Isaac cast the lone no vote against the recount, while one other member was absent during the meeting.
"I sincerely believe from my experience that no change will occur if we do a recount by hand of machine," said Isaac, whom addressed Joubran directly prior to his vote.
"I hope after all this is done specifically you have to move on," he said. "You have to be in peace."
Joubran, who at moments during the meeting verbally sparred with Genesee Township Supervisor Steve Fuhr and Clerk Wayne Bates, said "If they win the election, congratulations."
Bates had no problem with the recount, but he was concerned about the potential cost involved following an estimated $15,000 to $18,000 spent for the recall.
"We're not scared of anything," he said. "We just want to make sure it's not going to cost us a ton of money."
Doreen Fulcher, the county's elections supervisor, said three of the 12 twelve precincts will undergo a hand recount by volunteers from townships across the county who are available lowering the cost to around $300 to $400 for the township.
If no discrepancies are found, the remaining ballots will be run through a tabulation machine provided by Genesee Township and used during the recent election.


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College of Charleston just got a little bit deeper in the paint.
The Cougars received two verbal commitments Monday from forwards Glen Pierre Jr. and Donovan Gilmore.
Pierre will play for the Cougars next season, while Gilmore, just a junior in high school, will be a part of the Cougars' 2014 signing class.
Pierre, a 6-11 forward/center out of Oldsmar Christian High School near Tampa, Fla., had signed with Georgia Southern back in November, but was released from his national letter of intent when Eagles coach C.Y. Young was fired in April.
Former College of Charleston assistant coach Mark Byington took over for Young earlier this month. Pierre picked the Cougars over Marshall, St. Louis, Charlotte and James Madison. Pierre is expected to sign with the Cougars on Wednesday.
Pierre joins guard Johnathan Burroughs-Cook, of Memphis, point guard Joe Chealey, from Apopka, Fla., and forward Terrance O'Donohue, of Norcross, Ga., in the Cougars' 2013 recruiting class.
"When I went to Charleston, it felt like home to me," Pierre said in a telephone interview on Monday. "I got along really with coach (Doug) Wojcik and all the players. I really felt comfortable there. I wanted to go to a place where I could contribute. Some of the bigger schools were calling, but they all talked about redshirting me my freshman season."
Pierre averaged eight points, six rebounds and three blocked shots last season as a senior.
"Glen has a huge upside," said Oldsmar head coach Jordan Fair. "He's a long, athletic post player that can rebound and block shots. He's going to have to get into the weight room and get stronger, but his potential is off the charts. We had five players off this team sign with Division I schools, and Glen was easily our most improved player from the beginning of the season."
Meanwhile, Gilmore, a 6-7 forward, is just a junior in high school, but committed to the Cougars after an official visit this past weekend.
Gilmore, who picked the Cougars over Old Dominion and Appalachian State, is expected to enroll in the fall of 2014.
"There were a lot of schools that were not happy that Donovan committed," said Wesleyan coach Keith Gatlin, who played at the University of Maryland. "He had some big schools looking at him like Tennessee, Mississippi State and N.C. State, but Donovan is a very loyal guy. Loyalty is huge for him, and coach Wojcik was on him from the beginning. I think they got a steal in Donovan."
Gilmore averaged 8.5 points and eight rebounds as a junior at Wesleyan Christian Academy in High Point, N.C.
"He's going to be a huge matchup problem for teams in CAA," said ESPN basketball recruiting analyst Dave Telep. "He's an energy that can run the floor and get to the rim. If he can develop an intermediate game, he'll be very tough to stop."


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Is the Alternative Vote worth voting for?
A debate on the AV referendum
The UK faces its first national referendum for over 30 years and has an unprecedented opportunity to change the voting system and reshape the future political landscape. The referendum also raises profound questions about electoral reform in the UK. This debate will provide an opportunity to discuss the arguments underpinning electoral reform and the AV system and to hear speakers from both sides of the argument, as well as insights from an expert panel.
Speaking in favour of a 'yes' vote:
* Billy Bragg (singer and political campaigner)
* Peter Facey (Chair, Unlock Democracy)
Speaking in favour of a 'no' vote:
* Jane Kennedy (National Organiser of Labour) No to AV
* Charlotte Vere (Finance Director / National Organiser) 'No to AV'
Expert panel:
* Professor Justin Fisher (Magna Carta Institute, Brunel University)
* Peter Kellner (YouGov)
* Dr Alan Renwick (University of Reading)
* Professor Tony Wright (UCL Constitution Unit and Department of Politics, Birkbeck College)
* Chaired by Professor Robert Hazell (UCL Constitution Unit)
This event has been recorded and is available as a podcast at the following URL:


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Anybody interested in trying out Windows 7 for free has just one day left in which to get their hands on the Release Candidate.
The full version of Windows 7 will be released on 22 October this year, with Microsoft claiming it will contain a number of refinements based on user feedback.
"Just a reminder that you have until this Thursday, August 20th 2009 to download the Windows 7 Release Candidate," notes Stephen Rose on the Windows Team blog. "After that date, you will still be able to register your product and get registration keys but, the media will no longer be available for download."
Once users have downloaded the free software they'll be able to use it until next June, when it's set to expire. However, it will become basically unusable long before them with Microsoft revealing it will begin shutting down every two hours once 1 March rolls around.
"Windows will notify you two weeks before the bi-hourly shutdowns start," Microsoft warns on its download site. "To avoid interruption, youll need to install a non-expired version of Windows before March 1, 2010. Youll also need to install the programs and data that you want to use."


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Super Mario 3D Land
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Mario doing what he does best!By Andre Briggs Score:
Aug 04, 2012 7:56PM PST
Super Mario 3D land combines elements of Mario galaxy with 2D Mario games to bring a fun experience. Some might call this game a Galaxy clone but i disagree greatly the gameplay is very similar but the plane of view and lack of intergalactic worlds changes too much to call it a clone. SM3DL starts out easy enough but gets harder as you progress through the worlds it's enough to bring you back to play over and over trying to collect the hidden star medals and complete levels that get challenging. Best of all anyone can learn to play the game as it should be with any Mario title. I personally give this game a B because its very solid,it controls well and it brings new stuff to a great formula that doesn't seem tired out or boring to play yet and because of that i still get excited when a new Mario is announced!
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Car bumpers are designed to limit the extent of damage to the car in the case of low-velocity collisions. Consider a 1420 kg passenger car impacting a concrete barrier while traveling at a speed of 5.0 km/h. Model the car as a particle and consider two bumper models: (1) a simple linear spring with constant k and (2) a linear spring of constant k in parallel with a shock absorbing unit generating a nearly constant force FS = 2000 N over 10 cm.
Figure P4.25
If the bumper is of type (2), find the value of k necessary to stop the car when the bumper is compressed 10 cm.


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Thousands of votes are still being counted in Indiana, where Hillary Clinton has taken a slight lead.
Indiana returns from 92 percent of the precincts showed Clinton with 51 percent of the vote to 49 percent for Obama. Click here for LIVE returns.
Indiana's Lake County is a key county there that could decide the Democratic race there. The county is counting more than 11,000 absentee ballots.
Those results are not expected until midnight EDT at the earliest.
Despite trialing in the delegate count, Clinton told supporters Tuesday night that she's going "full speed" forward in her campaign for Democratic nomination.
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One company, Anser Innovation aims to make the time that pets and their humans spend apart a little easier. Their flagship product, PetChatz, allows people to chat with their pets – and even give them a treat – remotely by way of a smartphone, tablet or a computer.
PetChatz is a WiFi-enabled, wall-mounted unit that has two-way video system and the ability to dispense a treat onto the floor (there's a food hopper on board) with one click. The system is remotely controlled through the PetChatz Web site.
The product is also equipped with sound and motion detection, so users can be alerted when their pet is near the device.
"We developed PetChatz because as pet parents we know we can't always be there for our dogs and cats," said Lisa Lavin, founder and CEO of the company.
"No matter where you go, from work to travel, you can interact with your pet. They see you, hear you and feel your love with the tasty treats and soothing scents you provide with just a few clicks."
'Soothing scents?', you ask?
The unit can also be stocked with scent pads that you can tailor to include your pet's favorite scents.
"The fan blows the scent out, and it's an associative response, so that your pet learns when they smell that scent, they know that this is the fun experience," notes Lavin.
PetChatz is priced at $349.00 and is currently available for pre-order on the company website.
Though the product is no substitute for hands-on interaction when it comes to a pet's needs, it can certainly put a few human minds at ease on those long work days or when traveling.
The video below illustrates how the system works.
Lorrie Shaw is a freelance writer, a regular contributor for The Ann Arbor News and owner of Professional Pet Sitting. Shoot her an email, contact her at 734-904-7279 or follow her adventures on Twitter.