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The Art of Meeting, Connecting and Seducing Women In Coffee Shops, Malls, College Campuses, and Anywhere Under the Sun!
2006 All Rights Reserved
IntroductIon A Word on consIstency GettInG the Most FroM thIs MAnuAl WArnInG!
Table of ConTenTs
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Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle 8 WhAt Is dAy GAMe? 8 An eye opener on cold ApproAchInG 9 WelcoMe to WoMen's everydAy reAlIty 10 creAtInG A vIsIon 11 ActInG on your plAn 12 4 steps to IncreAse the eFFectIveness oF GoAl settInG 13 IntroductIon to the 8 essentIAl dAyGAMe FActors 14 Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS FActor 1: Inner strenGth FActor 2: IdentIty FActor 3: lonG terM And short terM vAlue FActor 4: eFFectIve coMMunIcAtIon FActor 5: eMotIonAl connectIon FActor 6: coMFort & trust FActor 7: loGIstIcs FActor 8: InvestMent Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS, rAcking up dAteS, And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndset For MeetInG WoMen Where to Meet WoMen Be In tune WIth the enerGy level crAsh course In stArtInG conversAtIon WIth WoMen BreAKInG doWn the opener deAlInG WIth contInGencIes GIFt shIFt theory the pInG ponG MetAphor
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Go FIrst prIncIple poWer tAlK WhAt to do AFter InItIAtInG the conversAtIon you Must creAte A connectIon hoW to AnsWer lIGht rApport QuestIons BuIldInG suBstAnce: ActIve lIstenInG, FIndInG her core vAlue, And leAdInG WIth your pAssIons leAdInG WIth your pAssIons A couple oF eFFectIve conversAtIonAl tools here's A conversAtIon I hAd In the pAst BuIldInG FAMIlIArIty & suBstAnce the Art oF GettInG phone nuMBers & settInG up dAtes 8 tIps For An unForGettABle FIrst dAte on creAtInG A sexuAl vIBe When & hoW to KIss her FroM coFFee shop, MAll, superMArKet to the BedrooM: the nAturAl proGressIon Words oF WIsdoM WrAppInG It All up
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So I came up with a manual that anyone. would understand. . and trial and error. it can be overwhelming. I knew I had the passion and motivation to get this part of my life handled. It was a long and painful process but. hanging out with guys that were good with women. I've developed a step by step system that will allow anyone. I want to congratulate you. videos. After thousands of interactions and years of going out to the malls. Back then. and college campuses. coffee shops.InTroduCTIon First of all. or workshops that focused on daytime pick-up. I learned from my past failures. Rest assured that your dating life will take on a positive spin after you've absorbed and integrated the information in this e-book. at that time. I had to learn how pick up women from scratch. and perseverance to become successful with women. I know there's a lot of information out there and. In the process. dedication. There were no gurus. I've compressed it all into this book. quite frankly. It didn't stop me though. I learned the natural [**hard?**] way. by choice. can benefit from this manual. I don't want you to take a year to see results. there were no resources on meeting women outside of the "bars and clubs" context. regardless of age and experience. What you're about to read is a product of years of trial and error. streets. I came up with over 2. theories. with the right combination of passion. I want you to succeed now. 2.000 pages? Yes. beaches. I really had no other option. Over the years. and tactics on meeting women during the daytime. Anyone. You've taken the first step toward improving yourself. books. I've piled up all the useful information that I've discovered in my pursuit to perfecting daytime pick ups.000 pages filled with discoveries. Worst of all. even my 8-year-old cousin. I just needed to know how to operate in the field.
There's a catch though… You have to want it. and keep an open mind. You have to desire success and do whatever it takes to become competent in this area of your life. would you be willing to experience a slight inconvenience and break through your comfort levels to achieve the lifestyle of your dreams . You'll need to take sometime to try out the tactics that you learn. There are many ways to achieve your goal. there was always one common denominator. If you don't get this part of your life handled right now. You can have the best techniques. make a stand. they each followed their pre-determined plan. You won't be in college forever. and drive within yourself to see this through. and choose wisely. First of all. the best system. it's all worthless. I've talked to hundreds of people who have successfully transformed their dating lifestyle.only a few months! This is a short-term challenge to you! Ask yourself. I want you to sit back. You must find the determination. this book isn't some magic pill that will solve all your problems overnight. but you will never reach it unless you consistently exert the effort to put one foot in front of the other. Over the past three years. Eventhough they were from different walks of life and trained differently. This manual is my helping hand to all those guys who want to learn how to successfully meet women during the day. It doesn't work that way. Day in day out. Now. without fail. and without excuses. and the best coach out there.or will you continue to be an "average Joe" for 70 more years? Which path will you take? It's time to make a decision. relax. . and you will not be figuring out this part of your life forever . consistently. You're about to begin your journey. then when will you? Treat this like going to college to get a degree. a Word on ConsIsTenCy Do you want to know the secret to seeing results fast? One word: consistency. I promise you won't regret it. So now. passion. but without consistency.
you will need in the future. and integrate the information you learn. Most of them.com Let's Rock n Roll! . the better you become. practice it! Don't go jump right onto another book or program right away without practicing the things you learn here. I will spoon feed you with knowledge on daytime pick-up but that won't be enough. Treat this book as a reference or encyclopedia. GeTTInG The MosT froM ThIs Manual There are two things that are directly correlated to your success. Come back and read the individual section from time to time. You need the right information and the ability to put that information into practice. You can drop me a line at grungey10@captivatetoconnect. I want to know what you think. or just a simple "Hi" note if you will. so be prepared. if you want to become competent. reading.I want you to approach this as you. absorb. Read. Some of them will be helpful to your current situation. Keep practicing. It's a repetitive process that will propel you toward success. I'll constantly be throwing new concepts at you. Read through it once or twice and absorb whatever you can. The more you practice. You need to go out there and practice the things you learn. It's similar to learning a sport. complaints. Don't ever. ever be satisfied with just learning this stuff. would when you're trying to develop a skill. comments. You need to practice several times a week. and using it until you have it all down! Please feel free to e-mail me with your ideas.
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Why? Day Game is the ability to meet any woman. beaches. they are rare. I'm sure you wanted to accomplish something. they roam around malls. shop. and coffee shops every single day. The best thing about it is that YOU could potentially monopolize and have access to ALL these women if you knew how. I've met a couple of men that can pull it off. The question is. and how I've used this information to solidify my game and make myself more successful with women. relax. have fun and a whole list of other reasons. It's not luck. Did you want a girlfriend? Did you want to expand your social circle? Or did you just want to have new dates every single day? If you answered yes to any one of those. I'll discuss some interesting things about the different steps before the approach. I have yet to meet someone who knows exactly what to do and how to do it when he sees a woman that catches his eye. then that's normal. get them on dates. What exactly is your reason for buying this book? Tell me. as most may think. outside of bars and clubs. . "What Did You Do About It? Did you start giving second glances? Scratch your head in awe? Smile at her as she passed by? Or did you just look down as she walked by? If you didn't do anything. supermarkets.Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle In this section. and believe me. Have you ever stopped to wonder how many hot women you see everyday? Women of all types of beauty are not hard to find. it's a skill set. and have the possibility of starting a relationship with them. then day game just might be the answer. build an emotional connection. WhaT Is day GaMe? Have you ever experienced seeing "your type" of girl walk down the street? Most likely you have. Thousands of women go out during the day to run errands.
Several years ago. the one thing that's similar with salespeople and guys that are successful with women. What does sales have to do with being successful with girls? Everything. trying to get people to buy our products. then there would be no need for salespeople. Occasionally. more often than not. I learned that building a relationship before asking for the sale was a must.What if I told you that it's possible to approach these beautiful strangers and have something positive result from almost all of your interactions? Would you think I'm nuts? an eye opener on Cold approaChInG Cold approaching is walking up and talking to a complete stranger. and that's when I learned something… If my initial approach was unique. people would stop by for a minute to check out the things I had to say. It rarely worked because I was already asking for the sale before I even got a chance to get to know the customer. do you want to sign up for our service today?" yada yada yada. and it did make sense. I should know. If you think about it. Remember the time someone tried to start a conversation with you? What happened? . If selling something was possible without building a relationship with the customer. is their ability to communicate with people. let's get back to my story… After failing to produce results in my job. I'd always be shouting "Hey sir. I've had a history of being a salesman. I didn't even know their name. But. I tried and experimented with a lot of different techniques. I've spent a couple of months standing inside a phone booth in the middle of a mall. Now. Communication is key in everything that we do. I'll talk more about this in the upcoming chapters. they'd just continue walking. Heck. then people usually gave me a bit of their time.
There are a lot of whackos out there. They've developed tolerance to men and the ability to be emotionally detached from the interaction. isn't it" Chances are you reply with some sort of answer. It's not their fault and I certainly don't blame them for being rude sometimes. WelCoMe To WoMen's everyday realITy Women get approached or hit on all the time.. Then the conversation comes to an end and you either say "Nice talking to you" or just simply turn around and carry on with your business. How often are you approached by a homeless person asking for money? How do you deal with it? Are you polite or do you brush them off? I'm sure it comes to a point where you just have a set of prepared answers that you say when you get the same question. why did you talk to that person? Was it out of politeness or were you interested in getting to know them as a person? Chances are it was out of politeness. It's probably one of the most crucial moments of the interaction simply because it opens the door for escalating the conversation. Make or Break Moment The first couple of seconds after you meet a person is what I call the make or break moment. depending on your mood. Your goal is to get her into a state of mind where she's susceptible to be led. 0 .You probably heard them open with a familiar line like: "Hey what's going on?" "Nice weather…" "It's a pretty long line.. What does that mean? You've got to approach her in a way that she's not accustomed. Looking back. The first thing you need to do is find a way to bypass her social filters. If you can relate to this scenario then.
Women will usually. Have a pen and paper ready. . you should have one. Don't skip this part. If you have a vision of what you want your life to be then that is your incentive to work harder. there are no second chances if you mess it up. It will be your first road block to success. it doesn't mean you get to go in and do whatever you want. Goal setting is very important for various reasons. If you don't have one. If it's something you really want then you WILL achieve it. That's just setting yourself up for failure. open the door for you a little bit. Just because someone opens the door. You'll find it very useful on your journey. If you want to be successful with women. CreaTInG a vIsIon Do you know where you're heading? If you don't then you might want to start brainstorming. I'm going to go with the assumption that everyone's time is special. there's one thing you need to do first. They have no goals set for themselves. Most of the people you meet out there will have a very short attention span. So I want you to take sometime to answer these questions. It motivates you and keeps you on track. It gives you an overall direction so you know where you're going. That's your window of opportunity. will be focused on perfecting the first few minutes of the interaction. You have to set a goal for yourself. It's always a good feeling knowing you're working toward something that will benefit you in the long run. if you've got your whole presence and communication skills down. A lot of people out there are like chickens running around with their heads cut off. A lot of your time. when you first start out. then by the end of this section. Most women will give you somewhere between three seconds and three minutes to captivate their interest. We all have things to do and people to see. But don't expect them to be all over you after you've initiated the conversation.It's like going to someone's house and pushing the doorbell.
I know it's a good feeling to have so much information that your brain begins to swell. These questions should aid you in coming up with a solid vision of who you want to be and what steps you need to take in order to accomplish that. it's potential power. in 10 years. What's in it for you in the long run? Like. what do you really want to accomplish? You're obviously investing a lot of your time and effort into learning how to be successful with women. where do you see yourself? What kind of person will you be by then? What kind of girl/girls will be with you? What's your lifestyle going to be? What's the difference between who you are now and who you want to be? • How long do you think it will take you to accomplish your overall goal? Have you set daily. aCTInG on your plan Okay you have your plan. . weekly. the next step is to stick to your plan no matter what happens until you start to see results. Once you've figured out what you want. now what?! Anything on paper is just writing unless you put it to work. One piece of advice though: Information isn't power.• Realistically speaking. and monthly goals to ensure that you're constantly improving you skill set? How much time and effort do you need to put into this? What strategies do you have in order to stay consistent and committed to getting this part of your life handled? That's just for starters.
I want to have the ability to date three new girls that I meet in the mall." 2. Or I can look for someone qualified to help me out. I should get my skill set to that level. For example: "I was able to talk to several girls today. every single week" or "I want to have a smoking hot girlfriend that's half my age. Devise a plan on how you're going to accomplish your goal.4 sTeps To InCrease The effeCTIveness of Goal seTTInG Know exactly what you want to accomplish. I'm also going to work on the different aspects of my life so that I become relationship material. then don't continue reading. 1. For example: "In six months. I will surround myself with the kind of women I'd like to date and learn how to be comfortable in their presence. I'm going to look for resources out there that will solve the problem for me." Or "If I want a hot girlfriend I should be more experienced with hot women. I'll try to go on as many dates as I can so I can get experience under my belt. I shouldn't commit the same mistake again. If you haven't done this by now. I'll make sure that they can give me personalized and individualized attention. and has a kick ass personality". I should always be pushing the interaction as far as it can go every time." . I'll be able to hold a conversation with a girl for 30 minutes. and schedule a date with her at the end. After getting advice. Get all the right information that you need in order to get this part of your life handled. It was fun but I just can't seem to get her to open up to me. What steps are needed in order to accomplish your plan? How long is it going to take and what does it require of me? Make sure to always stick to that plan. Put the book down and start working on it. Make sure you use this information as a guideline and makes sure you're on the right track. I'll make sure to implement the things I learned right away. For example: "In order for me to be able to date three new girls a week. After six months. I need to interact with seven new girls three times a week for six months.
find the strong and weak points. This month I got eight numbers but none of them called me back. .. The 8 Essential Day Factors are structured in a way that helps build you up. starting from your core. Review all your results. You should be able to analyze yourself and construct positive criticism. I suggest that you spend some time mastering EACH section of the book. So I need to review all my interactions and see where I'm screwing things up. This is an essential skill to develop. This is the only way to keep progressing.. connect. I got five numbers and out of those numbers. three girls called me back. I've identified a total of 8 Essential Day Game Factors that must be addressed if you want to maximize your success rate! You must first understand all of the factors and how they affect your ability to meet. You see. InTroduCTIon To The 8 essenTIal dayGaMe faCTors I'm about to provide you with the most comprehensive information ever available on how use the 8 Essential Day Game Factors to dramatically increase your success with women. In order to efficiently improve your skills.3. and date the woman of your choice. then slowly focuses on the techniques and tactical part of the interaction. For example: "Last month. The main goal of the upcoming section is to provide you with a comprehensive foundation for daytime pick-up. Here's a QUICK PEEK at what's coming up. then make the necessary adjustments. Did I build enough emotional connection with her? Did I convey my personality well enough? Am I giving up easily without following up? If so how can I improve my skill? I should try calling her more often…" This is a very simple structure you can use in order to assess your progress.
I'll explain to you the importance of long term and short term value and how it affects all your interactions. I'll only be throwing stuff at you that I know you'd need. you'll have a basic understanding of what inner strength is and how you can use it to gain an unfair advantage over other guys. They lose a woman's initial interest due to their lack of communication or ineffective communication. FACTOR : LONG TERM AND SHORT TERM VALUE This chapter is guaranteed to raise a few eyebrows out there. I'll discuss inner strength in depth and take you step by step so that you can develop a solid foundation . I'll teach you the same principles that I only teach in specialized 1 on 1 VIP seminars. . I'll show you exactly how to communicate with women. I'll show you where most guys fail and how you can avoid most of the pitfalls out there. I'm confident that by the end of this book. I'll go over the key concepts of identity building and how to effectively communicate who you are as a person. why they can't keep a woman in their life? It's because they don't develop the ability to convey their identity.FACTOR : INNER STRENGTH We'll start to build you up from the very core of your personality. A lot of guys don't know the proper way of communicating with attractive women. FACTOR : IDENTITY Do you know why most guys fail to keep a woman interested in them? Or even worse. Don't worry. FACTOR : COMMUNICATION Communication skills separate the beginners from the pros.
FACTOR : COMFORT AND TRUST Most guys just don't know how to build comfort and trust with the women they meet. I've compiled the most comprehensive approach to increase control over the interaction and decreasing the number of women flaking on you. FACTOR : LEADING & LOGISTICS If you haven't learned yet. I'll give you a couple of tips on how you can maximize the effectiveness of the interaction by utilizing our logistic planning method. he must first master the art of making her invest in the interaction. Look no further! In this chapter. I'll show you specifically how to get the girl from the mall to your bedroom! FACTOR : INVESTMENT In order for anyone to be successful with women.FACTOR : EMOTIONAL CONNECTION Emotional Connection is what I like to call "The Heart of Day Game". This chapter talks about the things you must do and avoid. In this chapter. This is my favorite part of every interaction and you're about to find out why! I go over specific time-tested tactics that I've used to establish a long lasting emotional bond that gets her to dream about you even after you're gone! This is a very effective tool that increases the chances of you going on a date with her! I'll go over the proper way to build an emotional connection and the opportune moment for you to start engaging her in this type of interaction. let me be the first to tell you… Logistics is one thing that you do not have full control over. I've decided to just go all out and reveal four major investment categories. .
It's the driving force behind all their successes.Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS faCTor 1: Inner sTrenGTh I know that most of you just want to learn what to say. I mean. My friend and I were just chatting about life. I hadn't seen him in years because he was stationed in Iraq. Failure just wasn't an option for me. "the lines". I just accepted it. have one thing in common. I admired this guy for his strength and courage. be negative all the time. I've tried to put my finger on it in the past but it took me quite sometime to figure out what it was. I used to think to myself. It's that bright light at the end of the tunnel. This is the one thing that fuels them day in and day out. I know. what were you thinking of?" He replied: "All those days I spent there just help built me up as a person. I always wondered how he was able to do it." I really thought I would never figure it out. we both have charismatic personalities and great sense of style.. I was the same as you when I first started out. I just knew that I had it in me to succeed beyond a shadow of a doubt. I don't blame you at all. and be the same person I was to begin with? Or should I just barrel through this period with my head held up high. "What does this guy have that I don't. There's something about him that makes him complete as a person. I had two choices: should I go through all of this hardship." . A lot of successful guys. and end up to be a better person? I chose the latter. So to make a long story short I asked him "It takes a lot of guts to do what you did. Most people probably hated being there. How were you able to handle it? Back in those days when you were stationed in Iraq. You want to know what happened several years later? I sat down and told myself "If only I just build up myself first.. I had that choice. cherish every moment of my journey. in other words. I knew there would be a lot of people who'd be negative about the experience. things would have been so much easier for me…" So save yourself a lot of time and read and understand this section first before you go onto the next one. Until this one day came.
Love makes the world go round and money keeps it spinning… For the most part. they set the standard of what is cool. Sad to say. not well built. or not tall. probably since we were little kids. or fame. This is true for both men and women alike. You can get a girl even if you're not rich. we've been programmed like robots to act in a self-sabotaging way toward women. Let's take on the subject of appearance. Examples of such factors are FRIENDS FAMILY SCHOOL SYSTEM SOCIETY MEDIA CULTURE ENVIRONMENT WOOOOWW! That's a lot of factors influencing us. power. These moments don't come to me that often but whenever they do. The ones on the top set the rules so that everyone can follow. Not only that. . Contrary to popular belief. You've Been Programmed to Fail with Women and You Probably Don't Even Know It! We all walk through this world with our beliefs. You can still get laid even if you do not look like the guy from the cover of a fashion magazine. You can make a beautiful girl with an outstanding personality fall for you regardless of your race! All of this may be hard to comprehend but it will make sense to you in a minute. attractive. Let's take a good look at magazines for a second. There are a lot of factors that have molded us to be the person we are today. What we believe in is a product of the things we were exposed to all our lives.I suddenly had one of those "Light bulb popping up in your head" moments. they always hit me hard over the head. we live in a society that's driven by money. Let's start out with media and advertising. and desirable. These beliefs have been integrated into our being. appearance isn't everything.
He's rich. The truth is… YOU DON'T Yeah being rich. tall. The average girl would think "That's the girl that everyone in my school thinks is hot! She's skinny and she wears (Insert brand name of clothing here). and up to date I need to have this. Anyone armed with the techniques and philosophies I'll discuss in this book can attract the kind of woman that's usually reserved for the good looking. where there sculpted bodies are exposed and their stunning facial features modified to intimidate almost anyone.Who do you see on the covers of popular magazines? I'm sure you all know the answer to this one: Celebrities Attractive and fit people Rich people And everything else I forgot to mention Am I the only one that sees what's going on here? Where can you find the hottest men and women? Usually on the front of a magazine. he has this sick ass watch. . I need to buy everything she has and be like her so I can be hot too…" Same thing for a guy "Oh. tall. cool. famous. both the man and woman in this example end up concluding "In order to be desirable. and join this…" And whoever said advertising wasn't effective? What actually happened was that the media brainwashed people into thinking that they need all of this in order to be cool. famous helps but it's not the only way. famous… He even has the fastest car around. Your belief becomes who you are. Your words become your actions. and…" To make the long story short. and rich! IT'S TIME TO RE-PROGRAM YOURSELF TO YOUR ADVANTAGE! Have you ever heard of the saying perception is reality? Your thoughts become your words. that guy has the hottest girl I've ever seen. be this.
back to my story. that would be too idealistic of me. only if you really really believed in it. BELIEVE. and went on a journey to seek the truth. These have been very useful for me and hopefully will be for you. because by reframing some self-sabotaging beliefs. you're not going to be someone you're not. 0 . but the sooner you start believing. I want you to go over this chapter again and again. I'll be discussing 8 Inner Strength Lessons that I've found to be very useful in my journey. I adopted bits and pieces of his philosophy in life. Here's how this works. literally before my very own eyes. For the next 30 days. the faster you'll get to your destination. Don't stop reading until you start practicing and believing the 8 Inner Strength Lessons. What if you can reprogram your entire self. BELIEVE! I've learned a couple of lessons that I will be sharing with you. I will also provide you with exercises so your belief is reinforced with real world results. Change will not occur overnight. becomes who you are? Would you believe me? You better. Alright. You're just going to be a better version of yourself. struggles. so you can move through the world naturally attracting people in your life? Before I hear any objections. Ever since then I began seeing some amazing results from all the interactions. I'm just sharing with you everything that's worked for me and the thousands of guys I've trained after I discovered everything I'm about to share with you. If only I could snap them out of their trance… but then again. you too can be successful with women.What if I told you that everything that you believe in. This is where everyone should start regardless of their goal. It makes me sad to see all the guys out there that are still walking through life brainwashed by society. and relationships that I've had. my whole world changed. You have to live up to your full potential. After I talked to the guy and realized everything I just told you. And that's when it occurred to me that… YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE.
I'm sure there's a time in the past when you were yourself and everyone just loved you. The time when. TRY THIS OUT I want you to start looking back and remember the times where you were indeed valuable to other people. how can you be so sure she thinks that way if you haven't even approached her yet? Okay. people were hanging off every word you said. imagine that you're about to give them a million bucks in the next five minutes. all of a sudden. I want you to believe that your presence alone is valuable to others. Got that memory? How does it make you feel? Have you ever surprised someone with something really special before? What did you feel like before you gave it to them? Felt good didn't it? That's how you should feel before talking to anyone. how does that change the way you act toward them? Try it out. I don't know what to say" speech playing in your head? Let me ask you this. Every situation is different.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : MY PRESENCE ALONE IS VALUABLE TO OTHERS Have you ever had the feeling that you're not worthy to even talk to someone? Have you ever hesitated to approach a woman just because you had that damn "Why should she even talk to me? I'm not her type… and besides. You're doing them a favor by talking to them. Starting now. then it will be valuable to others. Try this out. If you believe that everything you say or do is valuable. . I want you to remember the times when you made several people feel good about themselves. but I've approached girls in the past and they've shot me down more times than I can think of… Just because you had one bad meal in your life doesn't mean you should stop eating right? Every girl is different. The time when you were relaxed and comfortable with yourself. next time before you talk to someone.
Don't look for others to make decisions for you. by the time you got to college. You already have it in you. It's about time to free yourself from the prison that your mind is in. Don't be afraid to state your opinions just because someone else thinks otherwise. And you can get away with it. Well. I want you to live life like you own the world. You can do them yourself. you just probably stood up and went straight for the rest room didn't you? Another example is the very famous Bill Gates. whenever you want. Next time you go out to the malls and you see a bench with an open spot. and never looked back. Once again. Do you think he ever asked permission if he could start up a business and drop out of school as it took off? Nope. Always say what's on your mind. Don't be afraid to spark tension. we've been programmed by society to look up to others for "permission" to do something we want to do. Don't wait for others to tell you what to do. wherever you want. And you have permission to date any girl you want regardless of what anyone says. You do not need permission to dress in a certain way. • Make your own decision and take your own stand. You have permission to be the best that you can be.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : TAKE WHAT'S YOURS! NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR WHO YOU ARE AND THE THINGS YOU DO! YOU ARE YOUR OWN BOSS! There's one thing that you will realize later on… You can do anything you want. Remember the time when you were in grade school? You had to ask permission every single time you went for a trip to the rest room. You have permission to go after the things you want in life. just go ahead and sit down. So what do you want to do? What's stopping you? You are your own boss. Don't ask anyone for permission just do it. You have permission to change your beliefs. Here are some tips you can start integrating in your life: • It's always better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. Everything is yours. You do not need anyone's approval before you do something. executed it. . he just had a plan. if you don't agree with someone simply say "I disagree" and leave it at that. Always voice out your opinions.
You'll notice that people will begin to respect you more because you're upfront. Be proud. When you're at a party and someone asks: "Who wants such and such drinks" Don't hesitate to raise your hand first and say "Over here". If it will compromise you or for some reason you just don't feel comfortable with it then say "no". • I'm not trying to impress you. The next time you're about to line up. Don't be ashamed of your past. and someone gets there the same time you did. don't hesitate to just smile and take the spot first. One motto you can use is "I'm not trying to impress you… And you sure have to do more than that to impress me". Just try saying it. and don't bow down to someone just because you perceive them as being better than you. Wear an outrageous piece of clothing and when someone give you a hard time about it just smile and say "Thank you". or status. If it's reasonable and you're up for it then say "yes". stand tall. You wouldn't want to be known as the "yes" man. . Don't ever change just because someone else wants you to. It's hard to get used to saying "no" but you have to give it a shot. TRY THIS OUT Let's start out with simple exercises. background. This boils down to being who you are despite what other people think. It's not that bad.• Learn how to say "No".
Mark Sanborne So What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? When I was seven years old I wanted to be a rock star. It seemed just like yesterday. the stories you tell. every single person you meet will wonder who you are. I don't really know. It All Started When You Were A Kid "There are two great moments in a person's life: the moment they were born and the moment they realize why they were born. Or maybe it was what everybody wanted at that time. So what exactly is your identity? Continue reading because this whole chapter is dedicated to the subject of identity. all of these play an important role in establishing your identity. I wanted to be that guy that rocked people's world with his guitar. Why did I choose that as a kid? Beats me." . They ask you questions for a purpose. when I'd just jump off the bed with a broomstick trying to mimic Slash from Guns n Roses. . Your job is to convey your identity all throughout an interaction. Maybe because it looked cool on television. I wanted to be that guy in the spotlight that made people jump to the beat of his melody. They are trying to form a picture of who you are as a person. Maybe I wanted to be a rock star because I'd be famous worldwide. The clothes you wear. and the way you present yourself to others.faCTor 2: IdenTITy Do you know what people think of the first time they meet you? Do you know the first thing that pops up in a woman's head the moment you approach her? Do you know what she will think about the minute she gets home after meeting you? "Who in the world is this guy?" So let me throw the question at you… Who Are You? Trust me.
Then out of nowhere someone started playing my song on the radio. the product was already finished. I realize that each and everyone of us had dreams when we were little. Michelangelo. Yes. once said "The Sculpture is already in the stone" and I never forgot that. We become better versions of ourselves. I thought I would never be an artist because of what everybody said to me… "Being a musician won't get you anywhere… It's useless. peers. It just put the pieces of the puzzle together for me. If there's one thing I want you to accomplish after you finish reading this book. I had no other choice but to listen to what everyone said. Here are several ways to discover who you are. Success is in already inside all of us. We were all created unique and special. then this is it. You'll need some time to work on this. when I was a kid. I didn't stray away from it. That's when it struck me. One of my favorite sculptors. I believe that the person we want to be is already inside of us. Not that thinking it's a bad thing. It means that every single time that Michelangelo worked on chipping away pieces of his sculpture. So let me ask you this: What did you want to be when you were seven years old? How to Discover Who You Are I'm not going to keep you waiting any longer. I'm an artist! I'm a musician! I really did achieve what I wanted when I was a kid. Now that I look back. we just need a balance of both. This is a very important section in this book. we tend to stop feeling and just start thinking. and teachers. We were born to experience life and with that experience we grow and we learn. . he was already done before he started. I want you to pull out a piece of paper and jot down some notes.The truth is. I never really thought about it until three weeks ago when I was in a car with a bunch of friends. Becoming a musician was a dream. all he had to do was to chip away all the unnecessary stuff. you're better of just having a 9-5 job where you can make a constant stream of income" Unfortunately. It really came from the heart but at such an early age. I was easily influenced by my parents. As a result of growing up.
. Most men end interactions without really conveying their identity. and write it down. business. Some exercises will take time to finish. Don't force yourself to finish all these exercises in a day. and the things they believe in. I only want you to write down three. Embrace it with both arms. No one can see what you write. health. So how is this useful in social interactions? Simple. • List 25 Things That Make You Happy. Be proud of who you are. and Philosophies in Life. I want you to post it somewhere you can see it everyday. This leaves women with a blank picture on their head of who you are as a person. Read it as often as you want for 30 days straight. When you're finished writing.. What makes you smile? What are the things you look forward to in the day? What's your reward after a long day's work? • Write Down Some of Your Main Theories. indeed. No one will judge what you write. Write it all down. It always feels nice to remind yourself who you are. It will reaffirm in your mind that you. think back. Beliefs. You could probably never stop listing reasons here. What are the things that you value in life? What are the important things? What do you stand by? What do you fight for? • What are Your Three Biggest Accomplishments? By listing them. Sky is the limit folks. It can be related to fitness. relationship. • Make a List of 15 Goals For Next Year. I want you to write down everything. But please try to restrain yourself.• What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? Come on. It can be a big or small goal. • Make a List of Everything You Want to Become. Don't be afraid to let everyone see. dating.. you'll discover what you're passionate about. are talented. the things their passionate about. It's always good to be mysterious but you should also find a way to convey your identity all through out the interaction. and traveling. • What are the Three Things You Like About Yourself.
So. TRY THIS OUT This weekend. art. what do you do when you run out of things to say? An effective strategy is to just talk about something you're really passionate about. and anything your heart fancies. Discuss your perspectives on life. Remember. music. You need to provide value. If you run out of things to do. It puts you into a positive light but it's still not enough to get you into any kind of relationship. Bring her into your world. travel. Give her a taste of what it's like to be in your shoes for a minute. I want you to do an activity you enjoy doing but haven't done in a long time. . Invite your friends along and have a blast. try something new. Discovering who you are and the things that make you tick is something you should work on regardless of your goals in life. Do this at least every two weeks. Having this knowledge of yourself is so important especially when you're interacting with people. It provides them with a window to your being and this makes you interesting. talk about the things that are interesting to you. If you're enthusiastic about it then it becomes interesting to her.
We smiled. then I wonder what happens when I'm not even present. Just last week. and all the others I'm about to discuss. I was walking in the mall with two girls. Then I suddenly realized something. If these girls got hit on twice when they were with me. women usually pick the guys that can provide the most value to their life. It's no secret that women get hit on all the time. In this society. Let me start out by giving you a glimpse of what it's like to be an attractive woman. personality. you must first understand them. it was hard to understand him with his accent. So why should she give you the time of day? What is in it for her? I hate to phrase it this way but at the end of the day. I think that's what he said. communication. it boils down to one question Are you an asset or a liability? It sounds so ridiculous but it's true.faCTor 3: lonG TerM and shorT TerM value So. After all he had balls of steel for doing that. Anyway. How Women Decide If You're A Contestant Most women have several choices of men from which to pick. and took off. I hear that you want to the secrets to dating women of particular quality and beauty during the daytime… In order to learn how to communicate with women. appearance. Value is broken down in to the categories: short and long term value . lifestyle. Value is determined by a lot of things such as social status. waved. and a salesman pops up out of nowhere and asks one of the girls I'm with "Would you like to go out on a date with me?". we weren't mean to the poor guy or anything.
So the key is to be unique in that given environment. Almost like a drug. All you need are a few interesting topics in which you're quite familiar. Become unique. You will get far with humor. They'll call you and even pester you to hang out with them. Some ways of doing this are the way you groom and present yourself. If she perceives you as being more valuable than what she's currently doing. • Develop your own signature presence . People tend to gravitate toward people that make them feel good. you've got the ability to hold someone's attention and . You'll notice that women want to be around you more often. excitement. • Always provide positive emotions. in my experience. someone's doing exactly what you're doing. Communication is a tool you can use to your advantage but that's in another chapter. This is done by conveying a rich and textured personality. Intelligence is another tool you can use to captivate a woman's mind.Short Term Value & Ways You Can Build It Up! Short term value is determined by the experience you give women the first time you meet them. It doesn't specifically mean that you have come up with something super original. then you're already ahead of the game. Do you have what it takes to get her to want to slam her book down and just talk to you? It's not impossible. How did it make you feel? See my point. It's addictive. Laugh with them… If you have the skill to make women laugh. • Laugh. The fact that you're educated. Laugh. It happens most of the time. etc. in fact you don't have to be smart at all to pull this off. • Let your inner teacher shine. Your job is to provide positive emotions like fun. happiness. stop. just thinking about that moment…. then BAM. Laughter is a good feeling. You don't have to be as smart as Albert Einstein. you'll instantly be magnetic to women. comfort. It's the moment when we shut the whole world off for a second and connect with ourselves. she's busy reading something. Let's say you see a pretty woman as you walk into a coffee shop. If you can share your ideas with her passionately. Laughter serves two purposes: Builds attraction within a girl and creates an unspoken bond between the both of you. Do you remember the last time you shared a laugh with someone? Now. There's a big chance that somewhere in the world. That's the power of short term value. There's one problem though. then she will go out of her way just to talk to you. You want to be able to laugh together. Once you find a way to provide these emotions. Now let's go into some examples of how you can cultivate short term value.
For example. This is usually learned through your family and the people you're surrounded by. These positive emotions bring value to their lives. the possibilities are endless. Your job as a man is to lead the interaction. They want a man who knows what he wants. I know it's easier said then done. If she says "I'm not sure about this" say "You're gonna love it. when she says "Where are we going?" say "We're going to grab some ice cream. and Enthusiastic.interest. Take her by the hand and make it easy for her. Happy. This can be conveyed with your attitude and the right assertiveness. It's also an advantage if you've done some traveling. Cultured and Worldly. Women are drawn to guys that are happy. Wouldn't you? • Decisive. Don't be afraid to take a stand and follow it up with an action. • Classy. then you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Teach her a couple of things about your culture. teach everyone something. If you step into that role she will allow you to play the role. a few fun games you probably learned as a kid. Always make it a point to be a decision maker. 0 . Never say "I don't know". and enthusiastic. Lead the interaction. If you can be a substitute for a romantic novel then. share your knowledge with the world. as my friend Rish would say. Are your outfits coordinated well? Does your belt match your shoes? Do you understand poetry and the different works of art? Do you know the best restaurants in your city? Do you understand the world of fashion? Do you know a couple of classic movies? If you're equipped with this. language. trust me". Classy defines someone who has high standard of personal behavior. Let's go". a trick. Just remember. If you want her number then just ask for it. "You're so F****** money and you don't even know it man". Always have an opinion. decision. joyful. traditions. If you expect her to lead and even make the first move. and a plan. and a handshake. Joyful. Show 'em what you got! • You are the leader. Instead of saying "Do you want to come?" say "Let's go" instead. Women love romance. Always lead and reassure her that she's safe with you. Women constantly test for this. Lead the conversation. You can go on with this. Don't believe me? Did you know that romance novels account for majority of the sales in bookstores? And that's why women just love a guy that can give them the romantic fantasy. • Romantic. then it will be very hard for women not to notice you.
. Here's a short description I found on the internet. Coming up in the next couple of chapters. a girl decides if she wants to see you again. The only difference is that you're not selling an actual product. • Emotional Connection. Pick up a book every two weeks and read it. Lean more toward the energy that they give off. You have to walk a little bit to get through the door and make sure that you stay in it.LONG TERM VALUE & WAYS YOU CAN BUILD IT UP So you've learned how to demonstrate short term value. And don't forget to make it an interesting book. these are the things that go on behind closed doors. continue the relationship. That's why you want to give her the best option so she can make an educated decision. Now it's time to cultivate your long term value. Make your life an open book. Sounds like a sales pitch right? Right. YOU ARE SELLING YOURSELF! Here are the features that you can add on to increase your long term value • Become a renaissance man. Remember. It's hard to explain over in text. Boredom is the enemy. It's time to rediscover and redefine yourself. From experience. Do something new every single month. dangerous. or go on a date with you when you're not there! These are the times when she probably evaluates you as a package and sees if you're worth it. The most obvious one is the way one talks about life. Stay tuned! • Dare to Dream. A renaissance man is considered a man at the centre of the universe. The whole courting process is very similar to sales. Your long term value is responsible for keeping a girl hooked on you. I can always tell the people who are ambitious from the ones that aren't. I think this is one major factor for women who are looking for a commitment. Do something adventurous. but it's sort of like a gut feeling. Women crave men who are ambitious. Short term value opens the door to her life. There are a lot of ways ambition can be conveyed. Make it a routine to continuously be learning. Ambition is a strong desire to achieve something in life. or exciting and live to talk about it. As hard as it sounds. limitless in his capacities for development. They smell this quality a mile away.
This is conveyed with the way you speak and carry yourself. It's fun. Firm and Strong.• Financially self-sufficient. They also like men that know exactly how to press their buttons and provide satisfaction. say "thank you". . tall. At times be romantic and shower her with attention and the next day treat her like one of your buddies. now how do you respond to it? Do you get all offended and convincing her that you're a cool guy deep down inside? Or do you just accept it with a smile. Sex releases endorphins and it relaxes the body. and handsome". Unpredictability is the spice of life. This can be demonstrated by the way you treat her. It's not good to be too unpredictable either. All I'm trying to say is that women screen the men to see if they are relationship material. This is similar to being confident. Do you listen to her when she opens up to you? Do you act as a protector and make sure she's always taken care of? Do you steer her around corners when you guys are walking around? Do you make her feel comfortable at times when she's not? • Assertive. I hate to admit it but money is a deciding factor in the dating game. How do you move through the world? Are you afraid to take up space in the world? Or are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you let bad criticisms get to you? Or do you accept them confidently? A simple test would be a woman giving you a hard time about something you either wear or do. Do you assert your wishes on others? Do you make sure that you've got everything under control? Do you bargain your way into getting something you really want? Do you take a stand a support it fully? • Sex God. Women like men that can give them a wonderful experience. "I want a guy who is rich. They enjoy sex as much as we do. • Tenderness and Sensitivity. Women are sexual beings just like we are. It is no secret that women love men that are great in bed. I can't count how many times I've heard that phrase from women. and move on to the next topic? • Keep 'em Guessing. I'm not saying that all women are gold diggers. You need to be able to support yourself and show potential for becoming financially stable one day. It's not a prerequisite for her to date you but it plays a huge role if you want to have a smooth long term relationship. They get all excited when you do this. Being predictable takes the excitement out of a relationship or interaction. what do you do for a living?" They're trying to get a glimpse of how much money you earn. • Self-assuredness. Don't you wonder what women are trying to find out when they ask "So. It's good to create a contrast in your personality.
and a couple of helpful tips. it's useless. you can have the best line or script in the world but if you can't present it well. you should have a killer understanding of inner foundation.These are some of the essential components to building long term value. big goal concepts. then take a week to focus on this specific quality. I want you to take a good look at yourself and your life. By now. That's the reason why communicating effectively is a topic I spend several hours teaching at the workshops. if you've been doing everything right. TRY THIS OUT Read through this chapter again. Remember. If you're below 3 in one of the qualities I outlined here. When you're done. You at least need to be between 3-5 in all ranges in order to be successful with women. Now go through each quality I mentioned in this chapter and rate yourself from 1-5 (1 being the lowest and 5 the highest). .
That's the secret to success beyond your wildest dream. he walks toward her and starts talking. he wants her. So what was the component that determined success and failure in each interaction? . Minutes pass by. He started out as a stranger and left like her lover. That's all it is. she deploys her killer line: "Oh. Two minutes later. Hot Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. Mr. She heads over to the table to sit down. he notices something moving from his side. I'm not going to sugar coat it. Whether you're working on presenting an idea to other people. I have to rush back home because I left the light on my boyfriend's room. Deep down. He's smoking hot. In that moment. Ms. Hot Stuff. there's more to it than that. but it's a key ingredient my friend. You must develop strong and effective communication skills in order to get what you want in life. describing a movie you watched to your friends. Average Guy is innocently looking for clothes to buy. Hours pass by. I almost forgot. It was nice meeting you though. Average Guy's hormones go wild. Next thing you know. probably not. Plain or Hot Jane Scenario 1: Ms. you need to be able to communicate effectively. or instructing a cab driver where you want to go. Plain Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. Plain Jane starts to slowly face away from Mr. Average Guy General Scenario: Mr. She's enjoying the moment. Mr. Wow. After three minutes of boring conversation and ineffective communication. He looks over and notices big boobs.faCTor 4: effeCTIve CoMMunICaTIon Your communication skills will either make or break you in your quest for success in all areas of your life. that was fast. tata!" Scenario 2: Ms. I didn't even notice the time. Let me give you an example. Actually. She sees this average looking guy. He starts getting excited or nervous and he knows why.Mr. She's excited but she's not going to give it all away because of that. He seems to carry himself well and has a good sense of style. she got him all excited in less than a second… Contestant # 2. nice hair. a body to die for. and a Mona Lisa smile. Contestant # 1. Hot Stuff makes his way to talk to her. She sees this guy. She stands up and leaves the coffee shop with him.Ms. And then.
I'm in the mood for a caramel macchiato. Does the barista ask you any questions afterward? Good. decaf. For example: "Hmmmmmm. Now the next time you go out. and how you want it • Your message across clearly for anyone to understand • Recognized for your ability to comm-YOU-nicate who you are. You are what you communicate. Just think about it. when you want it. Then hand out your cash or card. it's useless. Remember what she says. you can live the most interesting life in the world. your beliefs. Most guys I've met always ask me for the techniques I use to start conversations with women. • What you want. Presence is Everything I'll share something with you. it's a really cool exercise. You can have 99 good qualities about you but unless you know how to effectively communicate them. with no whip cream.. Just try it out for fun. The Communication Equation Individual + Effective Method of Presentation + Powerful Content of Presentation =Effective Communication TRY THIS OUT Go out to a coffee shop one of these days and order your favorite drink. When you know how to communicate well you can get . to go please. • Women to feel exactly any emotion that you want them to feel allowing you to control and predict the outcome of your interactions. and your values in life. One of the most common question I hear is "What do you say to her to start the conversation?" . No one else will find out all these positive things about you.. • More dates and maintain relationships easily.. make sure your order is so clear that you won't be barraged with questions after your order..Effective communication.
It worked because of the way I presented it. Along the way. • Facial expression. sit. A genuine smile can take you a long way. and how you carry yourself. here are six helpful tips to increase the power of your presence: • Learn how to smile. It makes a big difference. • Communicate with your eyes. I mean a lot. sadness. Facial expressions are used to convey emotions like anger. fear. I found that saying to be true. They categorize you based on how you stand up. Having said that. rather than being all serious and mysterious. Smiling makes women feel comfortable. joy. There have been several studies shown that women prefer men that smile while initiating a conversation. Your facial expressions can communicate messages of their own. How's your vocal projection and delivery. Practice using a variety of facial expressions when you tell people stories. when I say a lot. Have you ever heard the saying "People buy you first before anything else". • Fashion. Holding eye contact builds trust and comfort. disgust. I noticed that some techniques worked better than the others (more about techniques in the last chapter) but there was always one thing common that made my approach work. How stylish are you? What kind of fashion statement are you making? What can people tell about you by the way you dress up? Does your style leave a good or bad impression on others? Do you command attention? • It's not what you say but how you say it. Did you know that there is a way to use eye contact to increase the effectiveness of your communication? It's very important to hold eye contact at certain points in the interaction. . It eases women up at times when they're nervous. It really does. how relaxed you are. Are you comfortable with the way you stand. And believe me. I guess the saying "The eyes are the windows to the soul" does have meaning. Women are masters when it comes to reading body language. and surprise. It's all about how you present yourself. or walk? Are you relaxed and calm during most times? Do you lean back when you talk to her? Do you move unnecessarily during the conversation? Your non-verbal communication is the window to who you are.I've experimented with a lot of conversation starters in public places. This helps to get your message across more effectively. Do you slow down your pace when you're emphasizing a point? Do you use pauses to amp up the tension and intrigue? Do you speak loud and clear for people to hear? Do you speak from your diaphragm or nasal? Do you eat your words? Are you relaxed when you speak? • Body Language.
It's really funny to watch. Thou shall relax and lean back. Thou shall not shake or move a lot in the presence of an attractive woman. So here's to a good first impression.Body Language Tips for Day Game "Your body language. Men tend to easily get intimidated with women that are way above their league. At low points step away a little bit. The Commandments of Effective Body Language 1. Man gets very jittery. I've discovered that when you assume a relaxed position. right from the bat. Man starts to make unnecessary movement because of the extra energy he feels. 4. That includes doing things like slouching. man tends to change his behaviors and act way cooler then he really is. don't move your hands around too much when you talk. I feel comfortable when my hands are out of my pockets. 2. even if you're nervous. Experiment with it. the way you walk. Next time you're in an interaction. chances are she'll be nervous too. will provide women with enough information to categorize you based on the impression you just gave them" Have you ever thought about the things you convey about yourself based on your body language? Did you know that women can tell if you're confident and cool or nervous and inexperienced just by the observing the way you walk. At high and fun points take a step closer or move your chair closer. 3. If you're nervous all throughout the interaction. then it won't feel like it's a conversation. and leaning against the wall. and slowly get closer at specific points of the interaction. talk and carry yourself? I think that body language is the biggest giveaway when it comes to revealing who you are and how you feel. Try mixing it up. . When woman gets close. I've had success with starting off at about 3-5 feet away. Man starts to smile nervously. If you stay to close to her. At the same time. you slowly start to feel more relaxed. For some reason. Never have your hand inside your front pockets when you initiate a conversation with anyone unless it's below freezing and you don't have any gloves. If you're too far from her. Thou shall not stand or sit too close or too far from her. It usually goes like this: Man sees attractive woman. and the way you move through this world on a daily basis. placing your feet up on chairs. just lean back and try to be as relaxed and comfortable as you can. then she will feel very uncomfortable. Thou shall not have thy hands inside the front pockets.
They took their time almost like they owned time. If you're guilty of this. when I'm calling up a girl for the first time. For some reason. Have you ever been guilty of standing up too straight while you're talking to a woman? Similar to how you would stand and act if you're talking to an authority figure? Most guys take interactions with women too seriously. Your voice tone probably changed. Thou shall walk and move slow. Thou shall keep thy composure at all times. Thou shall mirror her body language. become jittery. 6. They walked. They're not some sort of super human goddesses from outer space you know? They do the same things you do. The exact same thing I did every time I experienced a mild confrontation. Women are human beings too. And the more I started acting that way. I used to lay down flat on the floor and take deep breaths. the more positive responses I got from women. For example. Not good. relax. Thou shall not stand up like a soldier. I modeled this behavior after guys that were naturals when it came to dealing with women. it helped me relax more. I used to be that way every time I thought I got rejected by women. The way you stood up probably changed. I've learned that if you keep your composure and act as if nothing happened then you end up maintaining control of the situation. Mirroring her body language is a technique used to increase rapport and comfort levels. 5. talked. Everything they did was almost too smooth. and eventually make a shameful exit. They just exert more effort and time into looking good. Have you ever been in a situation gone bad? You probably didn't notice at that time but everything about you changed. and moved slow.Do whatever makes you feel better. Everything changed. They stand up so erect that it's almost too funny to watch. It shows people that you were emotionally affected by it. 8. 7. They're shoulders become tense and they act all stiff to the point that they make themselves nervous. . I'd stutter.
Take a deep breath. I talk about my life experiences and my view on things because I just want to share my life with other people.... Feet spread apart. I move through the world with something to offer to everyone. Here's my view of the world: "I am a man... People that just keep asking question after question without really contributing toward the conversation. Hands out of the pockets. I just like to give. Your job is to not be one of those guys.. Be comfortable. Exhale. that's a different story. I am a man and I have something to offer the world…" That's how I view the world. It makes me happy.. I'm the sweetest and coolest person you'll ever meet.. Be comfortable. Those one-way friendships where people just call you when they need something from you. I give without really expecting anything in return... And make sure not to fall asleep.. .. At the same time I know my boundaries and I won't be taken advantage of. People that just ask favors all the time.... Don't be too stiff.... That's the reason why women instantly open up to me when I initiate a conversation with them. It's also the reason why I can give a woman a compliment without seeming like I just want to get in her pants.. But once you betray my trust. I offer positive and fun emotions. My presences makes people feel better. I bring fun and excitement to everyone I meet. Relax. Relax. I've been guilty of this as well.. Slow and confident movements.TRY THIS OUT Lean back.... I'll take care of you and make you feel like you're part of my family. Don't tense your shoulders up. It's sad and I see it happen every day. Give Before You Take A lot of people are used to taking things from the world and from people.... It happens so often that it's become normal... Inhale..... Relax. Be comfortable...
And you'll soon realize that it opens women up to your ideas and messages as well. then do you know what makes you stick in her mind? Endlessly? 0 . TRY THIS OUT Effective communication will open doors for you in this life. So if effective communication opens doors for you. I am focused more on giving to people rather than taking anything from them. People sense this quality. It's rare.That's the reason why I am who I am right now. You should learn to cultivate it.
I also happen to be the only guy. That's 14 girls for every 1 guy. I never really had a strong male influence in my life. I'm about to tell you why. I'd like to call this the heart of day game. Women like men that can act like men. Let me explain. Certain profiles are assholes. He rarely has control of the things that are going on in his life. it's done in little quantities but never enough for her. even if you treat me bad". women lose respect for this type of guy. Women are attracted to the two profiles but there's a flaw that exists in both. in the long run. That's off the wall. and I had to work on this aspect later on. He's actually much rarer than a really hot girl that has it all together. Growing up. frat boys. . women crave the feminine side in men. Almost to the point of "I'll do anything for you. gang members. He's more sensitive than most guys and actually shows his sensitive side. In order to be successful with women. This guy is usually submissive in a relationship. How to effectively build an emotional connection. It's hard to find guys that are just right in the middle. The ratio of girls to guys in my family is about 14:1. Guys like these usually worship the women they are with. Now let's talk about the guy with a feminine profile. It rarely happens though. Somewhere along the road. She hopes that one day.faCTor 5: eMoTIonal ConneCTIon Now we're getting to my favorite part of the book. Let me tell you a little bit more about me. At the same time. And that's because they can't live up to their role of being a man. Men are usually too masculine or too feminine. So why are women attracted to guys that act like jerks? Women are attracted because they don't acknowledge her as some sort of higher being than them. you need to cultivate both your masculine and feminine side. If it does. I grew up with four little sisters. Women wish that these guys would just stop for a second and actually take time to show her how much he appreciates her. she'll be able to make him change. This always keeps her on her toes. He is rare in this society. They usually fall under the extremes. A man who is masculine and knows how to communicate with women. bikers.
Someone who treats her like a woman and the same time puts her at her place when there's a need for it. I learned how to build a long lasting emotional connection. I understood what made them feel comfortable. Come on. Women have two sides to them… A logical side and an emotional side Oh I forgot. women dream of guys that have cultivated both masculine and feminine sides to them. I learned how to communicate with them effectively. Ideally. Someone who can make her experience a variety of emotions and at the same time give her a chance to do the same. Someone who has firm beliefs and opinions and at the same time is open minded. But guys like that are just hard to find. Understanding Women In order to become successful with women. And most of all. Why they do the things they do and why they act the way they act. Her logical side makes all the decisions but there's a much stronger side that can completely override it… it's her emotional side. Anyway. I unconsciously learned how to be comfortable around women and vice versa. I was very fortunate to be surrounded by women early on in my life. . If nothing else. Do it. and how their minds works. I became familiar with the way a woman's mind worked. It taught me things that I never knew I knew. the things they want. back to my story.Women look for men that are strong and at the same time gentle. but that's not until later. not just what they said they wanted. If you want proof that the above statement is true then I double dare you to show it to ANY of your female friends. I learned what they really wanted in a guy. it will be another fun experience for you. Someone who takes the bull by the horns and at the same time cares if she's comfortable. they also have a physical side. Looking back. Someone who sees them for who they truly are and at the same time treats them as an equal. you first have to understand how they operate.
and not long after that. They are filled with emotions. And now I'll reveal to you the Equation for Getting Any Woman You Desire! Logical Connection + Emotional Connection + Sexual Connection + Proper place and time = The Perfect Seduction. And it all began when she was a little girl. A place that's been buried deep down inside that's probably never been forgotten.Women want you to believe that her logical side is in control but in reality. That's the same reason I believe that "If you can captivate the mind. date. This just encouraged her to believe that one day. and keep women… And that's the fact that. There's one thing I want you to know before I give you all the techniques and tactics to meet. She's been exposed to movies about love and destiny.. dreams. she was probably exposed to all these romantic Hollywood Disney movies. A guy that will come along and push all her buttons making her cherish . There are tons of emotions that take place prior to it. the heart will follow. Every Woman Has a Fantasy Let's rewind. Drama is also something that certain women might be addicted to. I'm going to give you a sneak peek at a place within women that they don't want you to know. Growing up. the body will too…" Looking back at my experiences. it's the other way around. the perfect guy would come along. Women are emotional creatures. It's a place full of hopes. shhh it's a secret. I'm going to take you through a journey that's about to open your eyes to the world of women. A guy that would sweep her off her feet and appreciate her for who she truly is. and fantasies. They enjoy experiencing emotions and they communicate with it. That's because there's emotion involved in it. That's probably the same reason why make up sex is better than regular sex. this is the natural progression of all my successful interactions.. That's why most women read romance novels and watch soap operas.
And Spiritual Level + Appreciation + Comfort with Presence + Commonality and familiarity + Shared Emotions = Long Lasting Emotional Connection . Some women actually ended up holding on to that dream. That causes them to protect themselves by acting "bitchy". This causes them to toss away that dream. They go after the rich. She learns and begins to grow. This is when they just start to settle for anything else out there. They've probably had a rough past. Some women forget about this side of themselves usually because they get really hurt from a certain experience. it satisfies her. Core. A guy that knows what to do and how to do it. These women constantly wait for their prince charming every single day. These women are what we call the "Hopeless Romantics". just like what happens when kids find out that Santa Claus isn't real. The Hidden Formula For Creating An Emotional Connection Man Opens up + Woman Opens Up + They Connect on Surface. This explains why women may act bitchy at times. Most of them just end up being disappointed. It's because they've been hurt before. and famous.. Maybe it's not exactly what she wanted. Maybe a relationship gone wrong or just a really traumatizing experience. But at that moment. They do it because it works. Deep.the experience even more. Then she grows up and begins to realize that not everything's perfect. This is at the deep core of every woman. Anyways. A guy that will take her on a memorable experience.. or available guys that probably can't give them what they need. Not everything turns out to be the way you expect it to be. and go for more superficial things. hot. Chances are they probably get into relationships hoping that someone can fit that role. Everyone starts out as a hopeless romantic or they develop it later on in life. but it kept her busy during that period of time.
Open up to everyone you meet. It's important to emphasize and describe exactly how you feel. will set up the stage on how it's going to be. pause for a bit. 3. You're setting the standard here. Always be leading. Lead with your personality. That's why it's important to become comfortable with sharing your life experiences with other people. Relate with her. 5. Whether you're telling a story or just explaining your current mood. just keep quiet and listen.Crash Course: 8 Killer Strategies in Order to Build an Emotional Connection 1. Don't interrupt her when she begins to open up. Share a deep experience. Tell her something that nobody knows about you. Once in awhile I like to add "I can't believe I'm telling you this… I don't even tell this to the people I'm close with…" This little piece gets the message across. So the next time a woman starts to open up to you. It's what I call the "Go First Principle". it takes two to tango. By telling her a secret. She'll feel like she knows you better. 2. Everything you do. build an unspoken bond. You must tell her in a way that she can understand. Open up to her. you just build an unspoken bond between the two of you. Of course. . Most men focus on logical stuff. you can almost see it. It's an important skill to be able to describe an emotion so effectively that she begins to feel it. Tell her how you feel. You have to know how to relate with her. she actually gives you the winning cards that you can use on her. 4. How do you expect her to open up to you if you don't do the same? One way to help her open up to you is to do it first. Once you do a good job at describing the emotion. early on in the interaction. this will help a lot in building a connection. Everything she says is gold! Later on. and the things you value in life. once again. 6. It's always better to relate on the deeper topics. beliefs. Just learn how to keep on talking and sharing your experiences. The emotion in this scenario will. and vice versa. As an exercise. Same thing when women ask you questions. Shut up. At the same time. Practice being social. Wait for another 3-5 seconds before you interject. Most guys just relate with her on a superficial level. When she pauses. You automatically become special once she's shared this with you. don't talk. it shows her that you're just a human being. That's right. you also want to encourage her to share a secret with you. Sharing a deep experience will encourage her to do the same. It solidifies whatever connection that's present. Especially if you know exactly how to tell her how you feel. You're vulnerable as well. and then give your answer. don't just open up to her. It makes you look smarter. You can see her face either light up or the other way around. After all. it will give you a better picture of how you can effectively seduce her. It adds depth to your personality. This makes her feel super special.
Now. I'll just casually slip in a story about how I won a dancing contest or something like that. 8. let's say she talks about how much she just loves to dance.. What I've found to be very effective is to hold the "Me too" for 10 minutes or so and later in the conversation. if I'm also into dancing. even let the subject drift off. me too" whenever the opportunity arises. If you're good at connecting with women. I'll start to talk about it indirectly. It comes across as if you're trying too hard to be similar with her. More about this on the last section. or let her discover it on top of my CD player. Pacing and Complimenting.7. Kill the quick me too. Instead of telling her "That's so cool. I'll just let her talk. make a conscious effort to actually implement them the next time you're out. then you're ahead of most guys out there. . TRY THIS OUT Play back the last conversation you had. in your head. I like Pearl Jam too" I'd rather play my Pearl Jam CD when she rides in my car. If not. For example. Another example: Let's say she tells me that her favorite band is Pearl Jam. ask yourself if you were implementing the concepts covered in this section.. I've noticed that most men are eager to say "Yeah. You'll notice a big difference in your interactions. Are you aware of the value of building an emotional connection now? Do you know that there are two things that you need to add to the equation in order to build the ultimate bond? That brings me to my next topic. then later on.
In order for her to go anywhere with you. You can be anyone dangerous and she wouldn't even find out. strangers can be bad. So what factors do you have to address when you're planning to meet women in public places? COMFORT AND TRUST In order for them to call you back. Who says you need to wait a couple of days before you take her out? Taking her on an instant date will dramatically increase the chances of her picking up your calls and going out with you later on. she must be comfortable with you. a loud booming voice.. it's a whole other story. it's a date right on the spot. show up on a date.. With the different crimes out there. Let me share with you a quick story on how I discovered this key element. So when you walk up to women in this setting the first thing they think about is "Is this guy cool enough for me to talk to? There are so many guys. Well. loading up on gas. and some serious entertainment skills. she must at least trust you a little bit. That's why it's so important to take her on an.faCTor 6: CoMforT & TrusT There are a lot of differences between learning how to meet women in bars and club as opposed to public places. In the bars and clubs you have to deal with the music. women just need to be extra careful nowadays. During the day time. And do you remember what your parents told you about strangers? Don't talk to strangers. Whenever someone talks to her she instantly considers them a stranger. She's probably by herself. When you're in a bar or club. the drinks. looking for clothes. or shopping for groceries. why should I talk to him". her peer group and the competition. it's a social context. here are the facts. . INSTANT DATE That's right. So you'll have to equip yourself with a unique style. She's a woman and you're a man. or even answer your call.
Then she pulls off her killer line "Hey. Let's go to Starbucks and get something to drink. To cut the long story short. to get our blood to circulate throughout our bodies…" Then while we were walking. I still couldn't believe it though. "Hey. Three minutes passed by. and a cute semi angelic/naughty face. "Hey. we ended up talking about her place. Are you ready for this? While I was chatting with my buddies. Looking back at that interaction. only if you promise to keep it to yourself. She was in a business outfit and had some shopping bags with her. I keep kicking myself in the foot. . Anyways. let's sit over there". I remember my goal for that day. she was the one who took the bull by the horns. I was doing pretty well.A few years ago. is history… If we ever meet one of these days. I'll probably tell you what happened. She kept on leading me and I followed. I slowly stopped her from walking and we ended up chatting for a bit. but now that I look back. considering it was my first time trying to meet girl at malls. And the rest I would say. My heart skipped a beat for a second. I ended up kissing her. In that moment. I'm really thirsty. Fifteen minutes passed by and she said. Little did I know. come with me". I looked her up and down. after a bit of conversation she said. She was about three inches taller than me. Apparently. shortly after getting inside her car. It was on. And then all of a sudden. she lived like five minutes away from the mall by the ocean." Another 20 minutes passed by and she said "Let's go for a walk. I noticed this tall brunette girl. In my mind. I would have been very happy if I got to hold a conversation for three minutes. I was completely clueless at that time. I hit the five minute mark. had a slim figure. It was to start a conversation and stay in for three minutes. this was the day that changed my life. I left my cigarettes in the car. I complied. I went out with my buddies to go learn how to meet women in malls. my legs are tired. she starts fixing her bra in front of me as I was talking.
that's how her mind processes it. With a little bit of tweaking I've used something similar and have experienced unbelievable results with it. you significantly increases the chances of her calling you back and going out with you. It creates a shift in the atmosphere. • Decreases the chances of flaking later on. Most guys just go for her number. That means. I stole my whole script from her. let's go". That bond is unique for every girl. At least. Your primary goal when you start talking to a woman. Them".Of course. TRY THIS OUT The next time you're in a conversation for more than 10 minutes. you're a STRANGER in her eyes. you officially are operating on a different level. Forget the concept of getting her number for now. • Shift from "You vs. . is to create an "Our World" vibe. You're not like that. It gives you more time. It's really powerful. Helps you reach your goals faster. When you first meet her. It keeps you moving forward. regardless of any technique you use. You'll play on a different level. she puts herself in a position where something bad can happen to her. You're still a complete stranger. you can tag along. • You keep the interaction moving forward. It helps you get through conversational stalls. • Gives you more time to get to know her better. When you're at a high point in the interaction (Example: she's laughing or there's a good vibe) just say: "I'm really thirsty. • It separates you from all the other guys. If you play your cards right. Let me give you the benefits of going on an instant date • You get to hit two birds with one stone. It's like going out on your first date right there and then. They say things like "We should hang out sometime" and "Yeah. When she takes the chance and goes to coffee with you. I'm going to grab a drink real quick and since you're fun. take her on an instant date. When you go on an instant date you become a potential partner. • Chance for you to show that she's safe with you. More time means getting to know her better and vice versa. When you get her on an instant date. At least try to. you should give me your number". having a shared bond between the two of you. Me" to "Us vs. So it's your opportunity to prove to her that you can be trusted and that she's safe with you. • Helps you get through conversational barriers. Somehow it creates a new environment for the both of you therefore making it easier to talk about other things.
0 .Ok. Probably you've passed the test with flying colors and you even have a lot of inside jokes and secrets. What's the next move? You're supposed to be in tune with the environment because it will help you figure out the best logistical approach you can use to escalate the interaction further. so let's say you've done a great job at interacting with her.
a guitar. You can also string along and take her on multiple instant dates. Know exactly what to do before you even go out. Always have a pen and paper with you. a beach. A nice little fold up sleeping bag that fits two people in it will do. 5. just in case. 3. a blanket. Is your place classy or trashy? Does your place convey what you're passion about? What does it say about you? Do you have clean sheets or dirty ones? Do you have dirty clothes all over the floor? Does your place smell good? 6. Remember. Not just give her number or take her number because it limits what you can do. Know your location well. when I discovered that. Enough said. You'll never know where you'd end up going. And this is true especially for the beginners. That's an advanced topic though. you want to exchange contact information with her. Don't ever sabotage your success by not being prepared. Your place will say a lot about you.faCTor 7: loGIsTICs Do you know where you're going? A lot of guys don't go out prepared. and me. here are 0 Golden Tips To Help You Master Your Logistics 1. 4. Have a pen and paper with you. Make sure you have a clean place. . Pick five places in your mall that you will take her on an instant date. How will you take her on an instant date? What will you say to get her number? How do you get her back to your car? How do you get her back to your place? 2. It was the painful truth. With that in mind. The BEST experience in my life involved a girl. Women will judge you based on how clean your place is and how creative you are with it. What if I told you that… She would have gone home with you only if you were prepared?! Won't that piss you off? Sure did piss me off. Bring protection. Have a plan before you go out. Have some pillows and blankets at the back of your car.
When you say "Let's go" start to walk in the direction you want to go. The point is. I need to do my shopping" say "That's cool. I'm in a hurry. Get to know her and spend a little more time with her then try again. After we get some ice cream for five minutes. don't wait for her to ask. It's better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. stay an extra minute or two. Don't ask just lead. It's what separates the guys that are successful with women. Stay in there. it might only take three minutes… who knows. This will all make sense to you sooner or later in your journey. When she says "Uhmmm. you might say something to turn me off and I'd be running for my life" or something to that effect. Always be leading. Assume first. Be prepared for contingencies. then give it a shot! 9. Almost as if she's expected to follow you. 8. Again. it all boils down to being prepared. with the guys that aren't. Tell her where you want to go. always be prepared for contingencies. 10. If you're dropping her off at her house. Next time you feel like walking a way. It's your job to lead the interaction. Don't give up at the first sign of resistance. Don't be fazed by it and don't walk away. Talk a little more. Instead of saying "Can we…" say "Let's go…" This little trick might make all the difference in your interactions. This last piece of the puzzle is probably the most significant topic in this whole book. Women will sometimes refuse to do what you want them to do. stop for a second. you can go on with your shopping… and besides. Always assume that she's up for it.7. .
She gets more and more invested in you every time she opens up. . sex opens up all the lines of communication. How much time does she spend with you? Do you see each other often? Do you spend some time talking with her on the phone? Does she spend a lot of time winning you over because you have standards? The more time a woman spends with you (Talking on the phone. dreams. Once you're passed that level. Use it wisely. This stuff is very powerful. It makes things so much easier for the both of you. etc. values. Time Investment. it becomes a lot easier. so use this stuff carefully. The more they invest in you. In my experience. the higher the chance of you getting what you want out of it. hopes. I don't advocate playing with women's feelings. You'll start to realize that you can actually just relax and appreciate her company. Emotional Investment.) the more she gets invested in you. Talk about her passions. Another way to get her invested in you is to be physical with her.faCTor 8: InvesTMenT Do you know how to make someone want something? How do you make someone value something? Simple. Here's a list of the different types of investment a woman makes and how to get the most out of each and every one. Physical Investment. Do you remember the last time you worked hard for something? How did it feel in the end? How satisfied were you when you accomplished it? This is the same emotion that women feel if they've worked hard for you. The best way to persuade a woman to do something is to make her want to do it. Social Investment. Have you met her friends? Do they like and approve of you? Has she met your friends? Do you go out to social activities often? Do you have any mutual friends? They key to getting her to invest in you more. and get her to be part of yours too. It's smooth sailing from there. future and share your view in life as well. This goes back to building a solid emotional connection. make them work for it. Sex is the biggest investment. hanging out. is to be a part of her life.
I'll be sharing with you the proper mindset that you should have before you go out there. Everyone else will see that I am talking to her and they will think that I'm a loser. And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndseT for MeeTInG WoMen I just got off the phone with a student I had last weekend. she's way out of my league. You heard me right. She'll ignore me. Here's what he told me: "Right now. After the weekend. I don't want to talk to her." Here's the truth… Practicing techniques. Yes you would get results instantly! But that's not the real challenge. Since then I've been more relaxed and comfortable meeting women. and all the tactics to meet women is easy. Before the workshop. I enjoy talking to people. I don't get as nervous as I used to be. Here are the things that you should not think about: "Wow she's so hot. and think I'm weird. that's your own self.Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS. And besides I'd have to try hard to entertain her . I have nothing special about me. Come on. I felt like I wasn't worthy to talk to them. You're your own worst enemy. My whole view changed and I think that it had to do with the way I viewed things. laugh at me. She's not even going to give me the time of day. lines. And most of the time. I used to think that women wouldn't want to talk to me. regardless of where I am. Mental barriers are very strong and. something clicked inside of me. it's what makes or breaks you. in my experience. The hardest part is going against everything that is preventing you from achieving success. I'm not even qualified to talk to her. Yes. rAcking up dAteS.
The one ticket that will probably get you set for life. I take pride in being me. I live life to the fullest without apologizing for anything I do. Here's more. I am a man of purpose. I make them happy. Here's how you should think and feel about meeting women… Ok. It's a like a foreign concept for them. where do I want to meet women? . I live my life for me…" Where To MeeT WoMen There are dozens of places during the day time to meet women. So how does this apply to approaching women? Here's how you should think… "I am a man of purpose. I am who I am. I seriously doubt it. you just have a couple of minutes to convince them to even hear you out. If she rejects me. imagine that you possess a winning combination to a lottery ticket.and be really slick and smooth. Your job is to give the ticket away to anyone… But here's the catch. then she doesn't know what she's missing. My own values and passions define me. I don't seek approval from anyone. I just can't be myself and get her to like me. that person doesn't know what a lottery ticket is. Looking at things in a positive perspective will get you far. It's impossible…" I've heard that objection more times than I can count. You can see them crossing the street. or playing in the sand. either way I'll still be happy. I am doing them a favor. Women are fortunate that I give them the chance to get to know me. The first step to being successful with women is to look at things in a positive way. You will never run out of women to approach. you can take me or leave me. I'm everything and more that a woman can ever ask for. They're completely clueless. Any woman will be fortunate to get to know me. shopping for clothes. I walk through this world as if I own it. People's reactions toward me don't define me. Every time I talk to women. Now you've got to ask yourself. The best part about it is that women are everywhere.
college campuses. let's talk a bit about specialization… If you want girls that are into health and fitness then go to the nearest gym. imitate them or slightly be more animated/energized then they are. you need to figure out what type of women you want to meet. bookstores. General places to meet women are malls. take advantage of that. If you're approaching a woman on the street then you can get away with speaking a little bit louder. If you want smart girls then hit up the library. When you're approaching a woman in a library. beaches. coffee shops. and match it. Did you know that the ratio of women to men in yoga classes is like 15:1? Well. and pretty much everywhere. you must be aware and in tune with its energy level. If you want spiritual girls. TRY THIS OUT Go to five places this week (coffee shops. supermarket. Now.) and observe how people communicate. So the key is to be aware of the social energy in the place that you're in. streets. So to avoid unnecessary complications. be In Tune WITh The enerGy level In order to be successful in approaching in various public places. etc. just be in tune with the social energy level of the location. Violating energy levels puts social pressure on the woman you're talking too.In order to figure that out. then that's a different story. . How loud do they speak? Do they command respect in an interaction or not? When you discover this. then join a yoga class. And she might not be used to handling it. parks.
Let me give you some examples. and I slowly make my way towards her. she will stop. no matter where I was. Tension begins to fill up my body. my heart pumps faster. But here's the question. If she's walking to her car. This is a very important step in my overall structure and let me tell you why. After a little bit of tweaking. I needed something that I could use anytime. It's basic law of physics: An object in motion will stay in motion unless an outside force causes it to stop. Here's how it works. I found the perfect opener for daytime approaches. say something situational. There are no possible excuses in my mind. ask their opinion.Crash Course In sTarTInG ConversaTIon WITh WoMen Let me make something clear… There are dozens of ways to initiate a conversation with women. What's the fastest and most efficient way of initiating conversation with women? I was looking for something that cut right through the bullshit. If you pull this off correctly. If there's no chair beside her. The first thing I do is get her full and undivided attention. I run after her and tell her to stop. Whenever I see a girl I'm attracted to. I would slowly walk in her pathway so she would be forced to come to a complete stop. I make sure to grab one and place it right next to her. and then deliver my conversational opener. They all work… I've tried them all. I act like she dropped something on the ground. I want to meet her and I will meet her. If she's sitting down I make sure to sit down as well. I suddenly feel the ball of energy inside of me. You can tell jokes. If she's walking the opposite direction. So after I get her attention. Confidence begins to radiate through every part of my body. and so forth…. I say something like: . If you don't command her full attention then she won't process your verbal communication effectively. make myself comfortable.
I found that being upfront. Women love guys that know what's going on without a woman having to tell him. and sincere is the way women like to be approached (CAVEAT: If you do it right). Tell her you like her because you want her to know. Tell me about yourself" She smiles. she gives you a silent nod. When I say things like "I know this is totally random…I'm a complete stranger" it actually serves several purposes. Now let me break down the opener and explain to you why and how it works. I use this to overcome any objection that might pop up into her head. you instantly demonstrate that you're honest and sincere. and I relax from that point forward I get to know her more for who she is."Hey… (pause) I begin to smile as my eyes are locked on her eyes. Step : Tell Her the Reason Why You Are Attracted to Her Honesty is the best policy. we shake hands. only build your credibility in her eyes. Every time you say something that she agrees with. Not because you want her to feel obliged to be nice to you. It makes her more comfortable. It's like an unspoken bond. honest. . Sets up the proper foundation for the interaction right from the beginning. I continue with "I'm a complete stranger and I know this is really random but… I was just passing by… and I saw you standing there… I just wanted to tell you that you are… Really… Really… Beautiful. It shows her that you're sensitive to her needs and that you understand her concerns. The only reason why other men can't pull this off is because they're not coming from a place of power. By addressing potential objections you demonstrate social awareness. Gives her a chance to agree with you. It conveys that you're intuitive and socially intelligent by nature. breaKInG doWn The opener Step : Pace her ongoing reality Pacing is an essential skill that you should master. When you use this approach. Saying things that she can affirm as true.
you can say "I like that. Step : Give Her a Chance to Talk About Herself You want to get her involved in the interaction as soon as possible. • Gets her to subconsciously accept you as a potential partner. this approach can be very deadly. • Gives you a chance to introduce yourself. After she says anything that might impress you. This approach is so powerful that it creates attraction within seconds. It makes it official that you two are in a social interaction. I'm (insert your name here)". Even boring rapport questions will work after the opener. As soon as she starts answering your question. what's your story?" "Who are you?" "Where are you from?" Letting her talk about herself gives her the chance to impress you. Creates the feeling of attraction.You tell people what you think about them. Gets right to the point. everything you say will be in the "I'm getting to know you before we date" context. This is done by saying stuff like "Tell me about yourself?" "I just wanted to know if there's more to you than meets the eye. she slowly becomes committed to the interaction. It skips through most of the games and takes you were you want to be… and that's building an emotional connection. Shaking her hand is very important. This is a very powerful frame from which to come. That's because she's processing the whole interaction differently. It also… • Gets her committed to the interaction. Since you created so much attraction. . everything you say begins to be categorized in "The Potential Partner" context. When combined with the proper non-verbal communication and delivery. After the opener.
dealInG WITh ConTInGenCIes One of three things will happen. Talk Girl: Talks and walks away Guy: (smiles) Oh come on now. First Scenario: She loves it. what do you do for fun? * As you can see. Guy: Awesome. Third Scenario: She gives you an objection. I have a boyfriend. depending on how well you execute your opener. Here are some examples of how you can handle certain situations. She wants to get to know you. The Boyfriend Objection Guy: Opener Girl: I'm sorry. She smiles. Runaway girl. 0 . Runaway girl (I sing playfully) Anyways. I absolutely love the third scenario because it's challenging for me. and of course she wants to be perceived as classy so she will stay for a bit. She becomes extremely flattered. Go on now. Second Scenario: She kind of likes it. then just walk away. I tell her she's way too classy to walk away. you're way too classy to be walking away when someone is talking to you. She's just being polite and sticks around for a bit to see what you have to say. I also tell her to walk away which is reverse psychology and then I act like it never happened by asking her a question. So what do you like to do for fun? *I'm not even acknowledging her objection. I set up an expectation for her. She's not really enthusiastic about it. which re-engages her back in the conversation. or doesn't give you the time of day. I also get to express my personality and my positive traits. But if I'm making you uncomfortable in anyway. Talk. Indifference by far is the most powerful way to overcome this objection. tries to walk away. She Walks Away While You're Talking To Her Guy: Talk.
Come on. If you're not going to be real. GIfT shIfT Theory In order for this approach to work. Talk. people are real. Girl: I'm Michelle. then it will not work for you. I want you to remember this section and read it over and over again. Grungey10: I understand. I'm Oliver. Have you ever talked to someone before and felt like they just wanted something from you? Was it a gut feeling? How often were you right? I bet you were pretty accurate at it. When you experience that situation. I don't know where you're from but where I'm from. look around you. I'm almost sure. Guy: Why are you acting like this? Why can't you just be yourself. Now I want to share with you the Gift Shift theory. I'm not one of those guys so don't treat me like one of them. I know you're a cool person deep down inside. you must come across from a place of power and positivism. If you approach with the "I just want to get into your pants" mentality. I'm just going to walk away (I act as if I'm about to leave). You will get rejected by women left and right. Talk Girl: Says something rude like "Why are you talking to me". So let's give this a shot one more time. The way you think and feel affects the way you interact with people. This is just a protection shield. This stuff is very powerful. doesn't look at you. In order for this approach to work you need to switch the way you see things. Sorry I was being rude. I was just having a bad day. or something to that effect. Guy: No worries. Then you will begin to wonder what you're doing wrong. So what do you do for fun? * See how I called her out on how she was behaving? It demonstrates that I am a man who demands respect in an interaction. . There are a lot of creepy guys out there that try to get something from you all the time.She's Rude Or Doesn't Acknowledge Your Presence Guy: Talk. I know this is not who you really are.
Your job is to provide women with positive emotions. Yes. There's a catch though. I get results because I have something positive to offer. How would you act if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that if only women knew you. I want you to do this. That means you have to barrel through her persona. I feel happy knowing that I'm about to make this person's day. I feel happy.It's simple. you are. Your job is to give them an unforgettable experience. Whenever I talk to people. Am I conveying who I am in an interesting way? Is she getting to know me or am I just talking out of my ass? TRY THIS OUT Next time you go out to meet women. You can do it too. She will only find out that it's you after she's gotten to know you. She's seen you in movies. they would fall for you? Ask yourself that question over and over again. Your job is to take them on an emotional journey with you. Knowing this information how does this change the way you'll view your future interactions? Remember. I've worked on myself to the point where I just am naturally attractive and interesting to women. it sounds sappy but it's amazingly effective. you are a gift. You are a gift. I know. away from the world they are in right now. Take five minutes and imagine that you're someone she's been waiting for all her life. You're the guy she talks about with her best friends. . you're giving that gift to her. I know. She's been dreaming about you. You have the upper hand and not the other way around. She's read about you in books.
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In my opinion, conversations with women are very similar to playing ping pong or table tennis. The ball just keeps going back and forth across the table. One person hits the ball then the other person hits it back. It's an ongoing cycle. That's how conversations should be. Sadly, this isn't always the case. Someone usually carries the conversational burden more than the other person does. Eventually the conversational ratio should be as close to 50/50, girl talks as much as guy does, but it takes skill to be able to do that. You need to be interesting and interested. I'll say it two more times because it's very important. You need to be interesting and interested. You need to be interesting and interested. Making sense so far? Were you ever in a conversation with someone who talked way too much? It's like you were watching television because you couldn't contribute to the conversation at all. On the flipside, were you ever in a conversation with someone who just kept asking question after question without really contributing anything at all? Well you need the balance of both. You need to lead the interaction and at the same time, get women to follow your lead. You need to help them invest in the interaction. Not everyone's socially savvy. Sometimes, you need to make it easy for them to contribute to the interaction. This book help you cultivate the skills you need to be both interesting and interested.
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"You must become the change you wish to see"- Gandhi In other words, if you think change is needed in a situation, think about changing yourself first before changing everything around you. I want you to look back on all the conversations you had with women that you liked. Here are some questions for you. Were you… Both comfortable, relaxed and at ease? Exchanging fun stories from your lives? Sharing secrets and vulnerabilities with each other? Speaking formally or like friends do? Able to build familiarity and substance in the interaction? Here's my main point. If you want her to do something, you should do it first. If you want her to start opening up to you, you must open up to her first. It's your job as a man to lead the interaction. You should lead and expect her to follow. TRY THIS OUT Next time you're in a conversation instead of asking a question, make a statement. Instead of saying "Where are you from?" tell them a story about where you're from. Instead of saying "How are you" say "I'm feeling so happy today, you have no idea why". See how people respond to you.
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What you say and how you say it is critical when you're interacting with someone. A couple of years ago, I remember watching a comedy show. This guy walked on the stage and started making jokes. There was forced laughter here and there but that's about it. I ended up just looking at my watch impatiently thinking to myself "What time is this show going to end?!" Couple of months later, I watched another comedy show. A couple of minutes into the show, my stomach started to hurt from laughing, tears started falling from my eyes, he got me. I don't remember laughing so hard in my entire life. The jokes weren't extremely funny, it was his personality. This is true for everyone out there. Whether you're a comedian, a salesman, a student, or a friend, people will respond to you based on how you present yourself. Here are some tips to empower yourself. • Avoid hesitation when you talk. Be firm with what you want. For example, instead of saying "Uhm, I was thinking if, uhm, we could go out sometime" say something like "Hey, I'm going shopping this Thursday, It's going to be a blast, you should tag along". Don't flinch. Don't be nervous. Say it like you would if you're talking to your 11 year old cousin or something. • Power of ambiguity. Keeping a woman on her toes keeps things challenging in an interaction. Every other guy jumps at the opportunity to hang out with her again. Instead of giving all your cards away try using words like "maybe. We'll see, I'll get back to you on that one". An example would be "Hey, you seem fun, if we're both available this weekend, then maybe we'll hang out". • Avoid over politeness. Being overly polite communicates subordinate status. When you're communicating with women, you shouldn't treat them as if they're a goddess from Venus. If you treat them like royalty, they will act like royalty. Treat them like you would treat your buddy. Don't be overly polite.
I want to find out what makes her special. Well. What was familiar was generally safe and approachable. I want mutual appreciation. Then I try to build familiarity by connecting on a lot of different topics. What is my goal? I want to convey who I am as a person. I make her feel special for the person that she is. I genuinely appreciate her and I am very successful at it because I believe that all women have something beautiful inside of them. I want to know what makes her tick. Let me go over my structure on connection building.WhaT To do afTer InITIaTInG The ConversaTIon A lot of guys don't know what to do after they've initiated the conversation. I relate to her on the surface then I go a little deep and find out the things that make her tick. my next goal is to get to know her on multiple levels. Evolution has hardwired into us the tendency to bond with those who are familiar and wary of those who are unfamiliar. After I've captivated a woman with my presence. So I start out by getting to know her on the surface level.Psychology 101 . I want her to remember me when she wakes up the next day. My goal is to build familiarity and substance all throughout the interaction. Then we discuss each other's passions in life and connect on a deeper level. you MusT CreaTe a ConneCTIon "It all started with our ancestors. it's a combination of two things CAPTIVATE & CONNECT Captivate her with your personality by building a connection. I just want to touch base and build both familiarity and substance with her. I do it multiple times. When I do. over and over again. What was unfamiliar was more often dangerous and threatening. I don't need to know her whole life story. I want to make a mega solid impression so that she won't stop rambling about me with her best friend the moment our conversation ends. to make it really simple. I relate to it and appreciate her for it." .
She's trying to figure out if you have more going for you than your initial impression. No matter what system you use. then you create an emotional connection. He's cool and interesting. she's trying to figure out who you are as a person. This is what separates you from every other guy that's tried to meet her. When she asks you a question. Imagine how you would feel in this kind of scenario: A girl has been talking to a cool guy for quite awhile. your main goal is to get to the point in the interaction where you both can just be yourselves. There's a time when you should answer it. You need to be in that place where both your guards are down and you can just connect on all levels. Building an emotional connection is the heart of daytime pick-up. you can build a connection with anyone you meet. It's my favorite part of the interaction. There's a time to be cocky and funny and avoid a question that's thrown your way but should you keep on avoiding it? No. That's the secret to a successful daytime interaction. If you allow this process to happen. The problem is most people don't know how to convey who they are. It's where the magic happens. and let her open herself up to you as well. She's hooked She becomes so interested that she starts to ask you questions to find out who you are.I don't care what anyone else out there thinks but if you can open your mouth and talk. She wants to find out if you're real and if you have any depth to you. Here's a system you can use to build an emotional connection: Step 1: Build Familiarity Step 2: Build Substance Step 3: Appreciate Her as a person Step 4: Incorporate A Romantic Spin hoW To ansWer lIGhT rapporT QuesTIons A lot of people I've met still don't know how to convey their personality in their day to day interactions with people. So let's break down what usually happens .
I've read ton of stories as a kid (insert something cocky or avoid the question asked) Conclusion: She wanted to get to know you better. Ideal Scenario: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: So where you from? Guy: Oh… You wouldn't want to know… It's extremely cold there… Girl: Where? Guy: I live in the North Pole… It's so fun swimming with the penguins everyday… It makes me so happy Girl: Ugh… shut up!!! No really where you from? Guy: I actually moved here from LA two months ago.Scenario 1: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: so what's your story? Guy: whoa! We're getting a little ahead of ourselves here. When she gets home. She ends up giving up and going home knowing nothing about you.45 minutes later -----------Girl: so what's your story? Guy: Oh. give it a few days and that attraction will probably fade away. Things are so different back where I'm from. Real and long lasting attraction comes from building commonalities. ( I talk about LA for a . being vulnerable with each other. Why? It's because you've only created short term attraction. She was ready to build an emotional connection but you threw the opportunity away. and building a strong emotional connection. She may have been attracted to you at first but it won't last for a very long time. we'll get to that in a minute… anyway…. ---------. appreciating and relating with life experiences. Everything is fast paced back in LA.
) What do you do? What are you really passionate about? What makes you tick? How did it start out? What happened then? What's so special about what you do and how does it make you feel? Have you ever met someone that just talked about the same thing over and over again? It gets very boring after awhile. how you ever met someone cool that could just talk about anything under the sun? . It actually gives me time to think about everything going on in life and see the bigger picture. • It gives her a window of opportunity to see how you view the world and the type of person you are. I was on my way to a ranch and it was really interesting.) Where are you from? When you get this question. So remember: Never ever give boring answers to simple questions such as Where are you from? What do you do? What's going on? Tips on how to do that 1. ask yourself What makes my place different from where I am right now? What's so unique about my place? What are the fun things to do there? What do I love most about my place? How does it make me feel? What would you recommend for her to do in your city? 2.while then compare it to Tucson) Things are very simple out here. Like the other day. We were driving through empty green fields and… (insert semi deep and meaningful story here) Conclusion: • You stand out from all the other guys because you differentiate yourself from them. You actually demonstrate a lot of personality by being comfortable sharing your thoughts with her • You lead the conversation. • She knows right off the bat that you're a good communicator. It makes her comfortable and easier to open herself up to you. Now. • It sets the stage for building an emotional connection. You're not answering her question in a boring way.
You need to connect on multiple topics. 2. Once you've mastered this. 5. Come on. Animals Grey Tusk Ivory Africa Jungle Lion King 8. Give me 10 things that come to your mind with each word above. 7. 13. she'd have one about her spider. Cartoons Movies Big Zoo Water That's all Alright. 6. she'd have one too. you have around 130 words. she'd have one too.Like if you had a story about your grandfather. A sentence has how many words? Do you see where I'm going here? If you master the art of conversational vibes. 9. then you'll never run out of things to say again! 0 . If you did the exercise. Now that's 130 things you could potentially talk about. Here's the beauty of it. elephant is just one word. 11. let's go one step further. you'll never run out of things to say ever again. If you had a story about guns. 4. 12. 10. give me 10 things that you can associate with the world elephant? Take your time. let me teach you a helpful exercise here. Now. It's called the association game. this is what familiarity is all about. Alright. 3. do the exercise. Don't tell me you don't have any experience with at least one of the topics I listed above. Ok. Done? Here's are the things that came to me when I heard the word elephant: 1. it's included here for a reason. If you had a story about your pet hamster. Think some more. what's the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word elephant? Actually.
You see. learning how to build familiarity is an essential skill to have. Building substance takes the interaction to a whole other level. and riff on it. Building substance solidifies the connection between you. Let's get you acquainted with building substance. and leadInG WITh your passIons You now know how to build familiarity. Use it.TRY THIS OUT Next time you're in a conversation with a woman.Fitness -Animals buIldInG subsTanCe: aCTIve lIsTenInG. Another skill you should focus on is active listening. are gold.Hobbies . pick a word out. Most of the things women tell you. Take advantage of it. This tool is very powerful. fIndInG her Core value. Women will feel like they have a lot of things in common with you. think back to the previous topic. Do this until your jaw is numb from speaking too much. . It also makes you stand out since it's something that only close friends do. just pick out one word and riff on it for a minute or two. Here are some topics you can explore to build familiarity: -Goals and aspirations -Passions -Ideal vacation -Relationships -Friends -Youth and childhood -Love -Art and Photography -Traveling -Favorite films and music -Concerts and theatres -Family . once you've barreled through their persona. Next time there's an awkward pause in the conversation.
in your own words. you should relate to them. . It will improve your conversation skills tenfold. your job is to find out what makes her tick. Just learn how to listen to her completely without butting in. . Finding Her Core Value And Building A Quick Connection A lot of guys try to connect with women on the surface area. Doing this will strengthen your understanding of the situation • Summarize what she tells you. Doing this affirms your understanding and builds dialogue. Always ask her what she means. to whoever you're talking to what they have said to you. and that's her core value. as well as the foundation of effective communication. in your own words.Expresses understanding of her feelings A couple of basic pointers for active listening: • Rephrase and feedback. me too. You have something in common with her. and how it makes her feel.Active listening is a habit. You need to find out what is the underlying motivator that drives her to do the things she loves to do.Ensures understanding of the subject matter. Don't answer right away. pause for three seconds before answering something. For example a guy asks: "Who's your favorite artist? Oh Mariah Carey. you should be able to repeat back. • Ask questions. Active listening intentionally focuses on who you are listening to. feed it back to her. But what if you guys don't like the same artist? Does that mean both of you have nothing in common? No. we're so similar". Once again this shows her that you understand her and that you're paying attention to her. Don't always be eager to fill in the silence when there's an awkward pause. Once you find these underlying motivators.Demonstrates interest in her as a person. Here are the benefits of active listening: . You should rephrase what she just told you and. You see. • Shut up and listen to her. As an active listener. That's great if you guys like the same artist. .
to see where your boundaries are. This encourages her to do it more often. You learned that you shouldn't touch it again. So how do we use this to our advantage? It's actually very simple. early in the interaction. let me give you an example of social learning theory and conditioning at work. not complying with your request. They will test you to see how you will respond. This applies to women and dating as well. On the other hand. opening up to you. and you probably learned something afterward. If you don't set your standards early on they will step all over you.Relate to those underlying motivators. you just instinctively jerked your hand back. Later on. Social Learning Theory And The Power Of Conditioning Social learning theory states that we learn social behavior by observing and imitating others and by being rewarded or punished. You should punish her for disrespecting you. . they'll be conditioned to do things that would lead to them being rewarded. Whatever it was. whenever they do something wrong. For example: You should reward her for giving you a compliment. they get punished. Was there ever a time you got burned by something? Maybe you touched a hot stove or candle. Whenever they do something right they get rewarded. After you relate with her you should appreciate her for who she is. Another example would be a parent disciplining their kids. I want you to rewind and remember your childhood. You should take time to think about what behaviors you will reward And which ones you'll punish. you need to reward her for opening up to you. and being rude to you. Women gravitate toward positive emotions and move away from the negative ones. But before I explain it. Yes. Women will test you. and laughing at your jokes. It's more powerful than relating to her on the surface level.
Involve me and I will carry them forever. I suck her into my world. and safety. Leading with your passion separates you from every other guy that's tried to hit on her. they don't convey it in a way that's interesting to women. It also builds trust. . Here's my dirty little secret… I talk about the things I'm passionate about. Being passionate about your passions (as funny as it sounds) is even more attractive to women.leadInG WITh your passIons A lot of the so-called "pick-up artist" I've met are curious as to how I can captivate a woman by just being myself. Before I do let me share this quote with you. What is it you would do for free if you never had to make money again? Emotional Connection Accelerator There are a lot of different ways to accelerate the process of building an emotional connection and my favorite one is regression. Show me and I will remember. comfort. Here's what I call the life story tactic. Here's a question to help you figure out what you're really passionate about in life. If ever they do. The word regression means moving backwards. Not a lot of guys talk about the things that make them tick. It's one of the most powerful tools in building an emotional connection. Having passion is very attractive to women. Here's how you do it. I tell her the things I love to do and why I love to them. I won't get into detail on this topic but I'd like to share with you a very effective technique to build an emotional connection." Remember that you always have to involve her in the interaction. "Tell me and I may remember.
mischievous. and future. meeting you" then she will walk away. The key is to exchange stories and go from childhood to future plans. It can be fun. You should always move the conversation forward. . If a girl says "I have to go" and you say "nice. middle. a Couple of effeCTIve ConversaTIonal Tools Here are several topics I'll discuss briefly. Trust me on this one. The end includes your present experience and your future plans. Tools you can use later down the road when you've mastered the basics. and you can call her on it. The more emotions the better. She should know the things you love and your pet peeves as well. she's being rude. The middle includes your high school and college experience. right now. end. This can take somewhere between ten minutes to sometimes even the whole day. you can start by asking her about her childhood or talking about yours. On the other hand if she says "I have to go" and you ignore the thread and talk about something else. or sad. As long as you keep talking she will stand there in front of you. The beginning includes your childhood and middle school experience. She should know what your standards are. I want you to come up with at least two to three stories for each phase of you life. She should know your rules on dating and relationships. This is an advanced technique I use to quickly convey the things I'm passionate about thirty seconds into the conversation. adventurous. • Standard Interleaving. How do you turn this into a system? Alright. If she walks away. • Conversational Plowing. Mix it up. You can do this directly or through storytelling. This technique is very powerful and it solidifies the emotional connection instantly. she will not leave. She should have an idea of who you are and what you're about early in the interaction. Now. • Identity Interleaving.Your life right now is separated into beginning.
Tell her that you're sad you met with no mutual friends to introduce you to each other. and. etc. etc). then go a little deep. • Fractionating. Cold reading helps captivate her and builds familiarity instantly. then make her laugh a little bit. and your non verbal communication to see if you're communicating all the right things like being comfortable in your own skin. • Romantic spin. trustworthy. Telling a story builds comfort and trust because you're opening up to somebody you don't know. Some examples would be taking her on an instant date. This always steers the interaction toward the right path. Why? It's because learning how to express yourself is the first step in getting good at meeting women. ambitious. Try searching that on Google or something. This is a brilliant way to ease into deeper topics. This helps intensify the emotional connection that you've built. When you tell a story you communicate on both levels. adventurous. Next. eye contact. Whatever objections she may have make sure to use them first.g. demands respect. Constantly ask yourself this: What am I trying to communicate? Am I getting my message across? You want to demonstrate good qualities about yourself with the stories you tell people (e. A good resource for cold read is the Forer's effect. On Storytelling Storytelling is very powerful if done right. humorous. or just used to talking people's ears off.• Cold reading. Well if you're one of them then you're on your way to becoming successful. of course. then this time go a little deeper than you were before. and that's why you can't hang out anymore. especially at times when the woman I'm talking to is hard to crack or if I'm in a hurry and I want to build a quick connection. • Preempting objections. It's a tool I use once in awhile. Well some do and they're either super social. Here's an example of fractionating: Talk about something light. . kissing her. romantic. People usually don't just go up to people and start telling stories. talking about fate and destiny. Say this after a high point in the interaction. confident. go light again. protector of the ones you love. They listen to what you say and how you say it. then go deeper. Builds comfort and trust. story tellers. you need to check your body language. vocal tonality and projection. Always include a romantic spin after building an emotional connection.
Probably the most important part of telling a story is your vocal projection and your delivery. sequencing of events. and emotional projection. What's the difference between these two guys? The way they present it and he way they deliver. It can still suck. Every time you're telling a story I want you to ask yourself these questions • Am I passionate about what I'm talking about? • Am I enthusiastic? • Am I paying attention to everyone that's listening? • Am I relaxed and comfortable? • Is my voice loud enough? • Am I talking slow and clear? • Am I projecting the emotion I need to project through my voice? (If you're telling a scary story sound scared. you can give a guy who's good at telling stories a very boring and ridiculously horrible story line and he can turn it in to something very interesting. engaging the senses. the presentation can still bomb. Let's take for example a comedian and an actor. if it's suspense then use a lot of pausing) • Am I pausing at the right times? • Am I using a wide range of facial expressions? .So let's get to the important part How do you make a good story? Here are some terms that are important in storytelling and I'll discuss only a couple of them Opening line. Give him the best script created by the best minds in the world and when performance day comes. character development. On the other hand.
) Describe what you were doing at that time. Now stop laughing at my baby name. I'm Lisa.)* Then ask her* Does that ever happen to you? (throwing the ball back at her) You want to talk about emotions because you want to communicate on her level. here's a ConversaTIon I had In The pasT Grungey10: Hey. 1. it gets bruised easily. the funniest/craziest/most embarrassing/ wildest thing just happened to me yesterday/today/couple minutes ago. and "surprisingly". Grungey10: Exactly.So here's a quick formula for a spontaneous story. Amanda. etc. Bookstore girl: Oliver. I get that every time there's a family get together. as much as possible when you're telling a story.. It's something they can relate too. Nice meeting you. "out of nowhere". 3. smell.. Grungey10: Lisa. interesting name. Did your parents ever tell you about embarrassing stories when you were kid? Bookstore girl: Yeah. hear. 5.) Then slowly insert stuff like "and then I realized". Speaking of names. feel.) OMG.) How did it make you feel? What lessons did you learn? 6. "then out of the blue". "all of a sudden". Men usually communicate with logic while women value emotions more..) The climax of your story. what you could see. 4. who you were with. Well can you believe that my name was supposed to be Amanda? Bookstore girl: Amanda?! (laughs) Grungey10: Yes. You want her to be able to relate to you. I'm Oliver. Bookstore girl: (laughs) . a light bulb just popped up in my head. You want to engage all her senses. (pause) 2.
. Say hello to mommy.. she went to the doctor and she had this machine. Hello. You know what I'm talking about right? Bookstore girl: You mean a sonogram? Grungey10: There you go! Good girl (briefly touches her shoulder)... we don't see anything moving down there... Hello.. this is not a laughing matter. Every time a friend comes over to the house. it's on the tip of my tongue. The moment of truth. the one that detects the gender.. Hello. all right. Badoink!!! A moving "thing" down there?! She was devastated! I never heard the end of it. pink crib. and even a pink welcome banner hanging from the wall saying "Princess Amanda.. she actually decked the whole room out with a "My little princess" theme in mind... my mom always whips out the album with me dressed in a pink room all dressed in pink.. apparently. when my mom was 6 months pregnant.Grungey10: Anyways. thank you very much.. What happened next? Grungey10: All right. which I do not find very funny. I was born and the doctor hands me over to my mom wrapped in a white towel. after the sonogram. welcome to the family!" Bookstore girl: (Eyes get wide) Really?! That's the funniest thing I've ever heard. we're getting there. I remember him teasing me a lot about being a tomboy back in middle school.. . Look at you.. So here it comes. Bookstore girl: (laughs hysterically) Grungey10: No. So the room was all pink! It had pink stuff toys. Bookstore girl: (Continues giggling) <Now I'm going to throw the ball back at her so she can invest more in the interaction> So what were you like as a kid? Was there anything your parents gave you a hard time about? Bookstore girl: Hmmmm.. Bookstore girl: OMG (laughs) Grungey10: I know! Isn't it funny? So what actually ended up happening was... Anyways." Then she slowly unfolds the towel and then all of a sudden. I don't think you understand. it's my beautiful little princess Amanda. just for me. the doctor's like "Ma'am. Grungey10: My mom got so excited that she started decorating one whole room in the house. Not so much my parents but my grandfather and I had a really strong bond when I was growing up... My mom holds me with tears in her eyes saying "Wow. Get this. your first born will be a girl".. uhm.
try pausing for three seconds after she finishes her sentence. < She gave me multiple topics to choose from.> Bookstore girl: (smiles as she recalls) Back then I was a boy hater. for a year. and at the end of the day. I love going to a new place and learn everything about the culture there.> buIldInG faMIlIarITy & subsTanCe Grungey10: If you could live in any city in the world. I was also a very competitive kid. You'll notice that women have a lot more to say when they don't get interrupted. You see.Grungey10: (nods head but keeps quiet) <It's very powerful to pause and not be eager to fill in the silence in a conversation. before responding to her. where would you live? Bookstore girl: I'd live in Africa. I've changed a lot since then. It's fulfilling for me. That was back then.> Grungey10: Boy hater? I better watch out for you now. I went through that whole phase. <I'm going to build more substance now> Grungey10: I find it really interesting that you love helping people out. I can pick any topic and start rolling with it. I can also build more substance by exploring what made her change but I chose to explore the subject of traveling. you see improvements in their lives. < I have a choice. Grungey10: Why would you live in Africa? Is it because you want to help out? Or do you just want to explore the place? Bookstore girl: I guess a little bit of both. If you have sisters then you'd know what I'm talking about. At the same time. As an exercise. Bookstore girl: Oh shut it (hits me in the arm). What do you accomplish when you've made a difference in the world? Let's say you're in Africa and you get to educate the kids there. I could start building more familiarity by talking about my sisters. I've always wanted to make a difference in the world. how does it make you feel? 0 . I might not even be safe here (smiles).
It may take me an hour. You love traveling and you're an artist too?! This is way too perfect. Grungey10. A lot of people might think it's easy for us. I don't think enough people appreciate you for that. You see a lot of people are imprisoned by their day to day activities. and that's usually making a living or going to school.> Bookstore girl: Yeah. Bookstore girl: That's the sweetest thing anyone's ever told me in the longest time (blushes). I guess satisfaction would be a better way to phrase it. Grungey10: Bookstore girl. playback the song I just made. It's something that I got into back when I was still seven. Grungey10: What are you passionate about? Bookstore girl: Well. I get the exact same feeling of satisfaction every time I finish writing a song. < I'm going to start flirting and appreciating her> Grungey10: Wait a minute here. We both put are minds and hearts into our work. It's the best job I've ever had. Grungey10: You know what. songwriting is very much like painting. Bookstore girl.. a day. I better leave before I start to fall in love with you. and feel good about myself. You see. You're kidding right? I just have the biggest thing for artistic people. A lot of people have forgotten the meaning of what it is to be passionate about something. I love painting. It's a stress reliever for me and at the same time I get to express myself through my work. It's something I'm really passionate about. There must be a catch here. do the things they're passionate about in life. This is when the magic begins. You see them working with the "work" . They usually just live their lives with one thing in mind.. In the process they lose in touch with who they are and what they're all about. Artists are very creative. They go to work or school and they change to fit the environment they're in. They see things from a different perspective. At the end of the day. let me tell you something. and for the most part they're real. I just relax on my bed. It's a rare thing. Only a few people actually live their lives to the fullest and at the same time. I solidify the attraction by giving here a sincere compliment. or sometimes weeks to put a song together and it pays off bigtime. I totally understand what you mean. <After creating familiarity and substance. Not a lot of people understand what it takes to do what we do.Bookstore girl: It makes me feel like I'm on top of the world.
It's actually something that I've been working on for awhile now. Don't be afraid to test new things out. Some give their number away to get rid of the guy. When you leave right after you get her phone number. No matter how smooth you pull it off. Some give their number away with no intention of ever answering your call. Women give their phone numbers for a variety of reasons. Numbers mean nothing if you haven't done your job well. Some give their number away because it's fake. Some give their number away because it boosts their ego. I found that timing is very important when it comes to getting a woman's number. I'd highly advise everyone to try it for even a week. it doesn't even guarantee that you'll get to see her again.face on. But before I even get into that. Do not answer". In their minds. <Conversational cycle continues> The arT of GeTTInG phone nuMbers & seTTInG up daTes After hundreds of interactions. • You can return her number to her every time she does something to turn you off. You always want to leave on a positive note. Well I go through my day-to-day activities with the biggest smile on my face because I get to be myself the whole day. I suggest staying for an extra five or ten minutes before you leave. I realized something very important. Coffeeshop girl: I know exactly what you're talking about. One . If I'll see the girl again then I won't even get her number. Getting a number doesn't really guarantee success. Then they go home and hit the sack. I'd like to share with you some of the things I learned. As a matter of fact. This may take somewhere between 10 minutes to two hours. When you get a woman's number. they instantly know what's going on. • Don't leave after you get her number. I'd like to actually get to know the girl first before I even get her number. they still have control of the interaction. It's the same routine over and over again. Some give their number away and save your number as "Weird & Creepy Guy. it makes it seem that was all you were after. I've noticed that most guys make their exit after they get a woman's number. Girls give their numbers to guys for various reasons. Normally. It's the best thing ever.
• Tell her you want her number but don't get it. because not all girls will call you up. It's not going anywhere. would be useful after getting her number. Guess what that does? It drastically decreases the chance of anything happening by 50%! Why. • Pacing to avoid flaking. I'm just going to leave now. It's a really neat way of communicating "I could care less if I get your number or not". Guy ask for girls number. • It's better to exchange numbers. It's a downward spiral that leaves you lower than you were before. If she doesn't want to give you her number than just let it go. Pacing can be used to address future objections. She'll probably flake on you anyway even if she gave you her number. Any line will work if you say it at the right time. how can we continue this conversation?" • Objection blaster. I usually say something like "Wow. Not unless. Some girls just never call guys up. When you give her your number. then guy tried to bargain.little trick you can do is to give her back her number every time she says something you don't like. or after an emotion filled moment. I found that it's very effective to display more interest in her. I so have to hang out with you…" then I just continue talking about something else. I have a boyfriend" I usually just stare at her all confused and say "Yeah… and?". once again. but since there appears to be an issue with it. make you laugh. you like classical art? That's so cool. Some of the lines I've used are "Let's exchange contact information" "Give me your number" "I really had fun talking to you. but unfortunately I have to get going." . If she still gives some excuse I say "Don't get a big head now. At the same time it demonstrates that you have standards. It's better to exchange numbers than to just give her your number. At this point she will either ask for my number or giggle. When you reach that point in the interaction. And some girls will simply just lose your numbers. I've seen it happen hundreds of times. • Simple yet effective lines. You job is to get her to want to give her number to you. At times when she tries to impress you. you leave it all up to her to make the move and give you a call back. Whenever they give me an excuse such as "Sorry. Some girls might like you but forget to call you. • Don't try to bargain if she doesn't give her number. I discovered that pacing would. So it's best always best to exchange number because it gives both of you the chance to call each other up. Some girls will throw your number away. any line will work. you're really skilled at using the phone to your advantage. I just thought you were an interesting person and that you'd make a cool buddy. girl refuses. That's my cue to see where I am in the interaction. at the peak of an interaction.
make sure to end the conversation on a high note" It doesn't get better than this. Stuff like "Ok. Here's a couple "You should wait at least three days before you call her. Have you ever gone cosmic bowling?! It's the most fun thing in the world. "You should call her after a week or two. Listen. When you do answer I expect a really cool joke from you. Just act like it's normal. They all work. trust me. you're not some weird psychotic girl right? Cool. you're pretty cool. I really hate playing phone tag. If you don't have any.• Tell her exactly how it's going to be. They have these huge crystal disco lights. every Wednesday. This technique has worked well for me. my friends and I love to bowl at Golden Pins. You'll come off way cooler. How long should you wait before you call? This sounds familiar doesn't it? There are a lot of different opinions when it comes to the best time to call. I prefer to make plans before leaving the interaction. It's fun". Tell her what time you'll call her and how to respond to you over the phone. It usually goes something like this "You know what. Then make it a point to be the first one to hang up or pretend that someone else is on the other line. but wait a minute. It will really communicate that you have more important things to do. If all else fails. Go call her! And if she doesn't pick up then call up two more times" "You should call her the day after you get her number. you should come join us. My suggestion would be to try everything until you find the one that works best for you. It's good to set up some rules right from the beginning. I'll call you just once… and leave a message once. It's not everyday that I meet someone that I can just be real with. That's it. What more can you ask for? We do this every Wednesday. believe me I've tried. make sure to let her know you'll be calling in the next couple of days" You must be wondering which strategy works best. After you talk to her. It really depends on the situation. and on top of that you get to bowl. • Finalize your plans before you leave. 80's music. then you owe me vanilla flavored ice cream on a cone…" You can go anywhere with this technique. . It will communicate that you have a life and that you are not needy" "You should call her on the same day so that she gets comfortable talking to you.
Aggressive Method Call the numbers up the day you get them You can call the next day and the day after to follow up Call at unpredictable hours of the day Varying time limit on each call Ask her out later on For some reason this method worked best on cold approaches. . What do I mean by solid? I've spent an average of about 45 minutes to 2 hours with them. there's that one girl that never picks up her phone. That includes multiple dates within that day. Let's say I've collected around 12 solid numbers in two weeks. See which ones work best for you. Traditional Method Call her after three days Space your calls out and have at least three to four days in between them Ask her out on the first or second call This method works best on girls within your social circle. Occasionally. I used in the past. and emotional connection that's been built all throughout the interaction. Let me ask you this… What's your strategy? Let me suggest this… Try everything out. There's no rush to call her up soon because you'll see her over and over again. The others eventually responded after my follow up routine. I would say two out of every four girls answered on the first call. in order to find out which strategy worked best.Here is a simple strategy. Give it a shot for two weeks then switch. That's pretty good considering the fact that I've only got so much free time on my hands.
8 TIps for an unforGeTTable fIrsT daTe
The tips I'm about to share with you are priceless. It took me years to figure some of them out. Most guys don't know what to do on a first date. Don't be generic. "Would you like to go to dinner and a movie with me sometime?" I don't want to hear that coming out of your mouth anytime soon. OK? That's what every other guy does! The last thing you want is to be like everyone else. There are lots of other things to do besides that. Save that idea for a later date. Something you're passionate about. Are you passionate about sports? Singing? Shooting guns? Surfing? Art? Rollerblading? Anything at all? Bring her in to your world. Do the things you're passionate about with her, on a first date. The best part about is that you can teach her how to do these things, if she doesn't know how. Accessible- You don't want to take her to the mountains located two hours from you. You want somewhere near and accessible. Fun & Exciting. Some of the best dates I've had were in amusement parks. It's fun. It's exciting. It provides the both of you with the same experience you can bond on. Plus, the emotions you experience will bring the two of you closer to each other. Unpredictable. Don't tell her where you're going. Tell her it's a surprise. Get back to your place early on. Find an excuse to get back to your place early on. Your goal is to make her feel comfortable and to get that step out of the way. I do this by saying "These shoes are killing me, I just need a second…" drive to your house and say "Alright, I'll give you a quick tour, we can only stay for five minutes cause we're running on a schedule". I go in the house, change my shoes, and rush her out of the house after giving her the tour. I don't crowd her space. I don't go for the kiss. I just relax and really just give her a tour of the house. This serves two purposes. Makes her trust me more and gets her comfortable in my house. Go to the supermarket. Take her with you to do groceries. Two techniques you can use. You can pick up a cookbook and have her pick up ingredients with you so she can help you cook. Another thing I like to do is to get some ice cream. Unfortunately I have to get it back to the house before it melts. AHA! Either way, you end up going back to your house or hers.
Ideas For Second Dates Theme parks The beach Picnics Shooting range Cooking classes Sporting events Grocery shopping Flying kites in the park Comedy clubs Dance lessons Art galleries Rollerblading Go cart Wine tasting Wall climbing
on CreaTInG a sexual vIbe
Creating a sexual vibe gets her ready for the kiss. You must learn how to project sexuality. Sexuality can be projected by the way you talk, look at her, touch her, and the way you present yourself. It's mostly non-verbal communication. This is the next level you need to master. Here are some of the ways you can project a sexual vibe. The way you look at her. Look at her in that sexual "You know what's about to happen" kind of way. You can do stuff like staring at her eyes while biting your lower lip then looking back at your eyes. You need to be able to turn on your bedroom eyes and sexual smile in a snap of a finger. The way you talk to her. Slow down. Slow down. Slow down. Lower the volume of your speech. Try speaking like you're saying something really profound. Whisper in her ear at some point in the interaction. The way you touch her. Hold her hand at key points in the interaction. It's important to have some kind of body contact. Begin to face her directly. Place your hand in her inner leg and gently stroke it. Knees or feet touching each other. Stroke her hair while looking at her lips. Incorporating Pausing. Pause in between words to create a sexual and intriguing vibe.
I Can't Believe I'm Sharing This With You I came up with a strategy to project sexuality quickly. As a matter of fact, I only teach this in my Day Game University Boot Camp. So let me ask you just one favor. Please don't teach this method to anyone. Ok, maybe a friend or two, but no more than that. Deal? Good, now that we got that out of the way. Here's what I call the Airplane Method I want you to think about the two hottest women in the world. It can be an actress, model, friend, or make believe women. Don't continue reading unless you have your two hottest women. Now, imagine that you're in a private jet plane. You own the plane. It's yours. You're relaxing and leaning back with your feet stretched comfortably. Your pants are down and one of the hottest girls is sucking your penis while the other one is sucking your balls. Now how do you feel? I really want you to put yourself in this situation so you know what I'm talking about. Now let's say someone calls you over the phone. How will you talk to them? Would it be fast? Or all slow and sexual? Here's how I learned this technique. A couple of years ago, I met my good friend Asian playboy, who specializes in picking up women in bars and clubs. When this guy spoke, he just had this seductive and sexual presence and for the longest time I couldn't figure out how he did it. Until one day, I thought to myself, what could this guy be thinking? I mean he gets laid a lot, and he's good at what he does. What's his secret? Then it suddenly occurred to me. AHA! He must be thinking about being in an airplane with two hot women going down on him. That's probably what it is! There's no other explanation I can think of! Thus, the airplane method was born. Props to Asian playboy. TRY THIS OUT Next time, before you go for the kiss, you should try the airplane method and talk all sexual for 5-10 minutes. This builds the stage up for the kiss.
Mall.3 and if she's still lookg at you. Nobody else. You should kiss her before the day ends. I want you to ccount 1. If she's walking. Nothing else matters. First. Here's a sample progression I've used in the past. There's a window of opportunity that opens up sometime in the interaction. It's something you'll learn to do. and connection as I need before I try to escalate things further. Women are eager for the kiss as much as you are. If she's walking away from me. investment. quite a number of times. • Nothing else exists. • Three second rule. I built as much comfort. if you play your cards right. It's almost too obvious to meet. • Put her hair behind her ears. don't look away. • Explore her eyes. I approach the girl I want right away. In that moment. and you know that it's time. Put her hair behind her ear and lightly stroke the side of her face. while you slowly tilt your head. • You don't need words.2. The best part about this approach is that you don't need words. early on. Start looking deeply at her eyes. Slowly move in for the kill. Do you know that moment when you run out of words to say and your eyes are locked on hers? Next time that happens. After you get into that situation. It's just you and her that exist. you'll start to get a feel of EXACTLY when you should go for it. superMarKeT To The bedrooM: The naTural proGressIon There's a natural progression of how I like to do things.When & hoW To KIss her Kissing on the first day sets the stage. froM Coffee shop. I make sure she hears me running towards . Here are some important pointers that will be helpful for you. I make her stop to talk to me. then that's your cue to go for a kiss. let the whole world just fade away. that it's going to be a sexual relationship. You usually feel butterflies in your stomach.
I knock on the window and start talking to her. and then set up another date with her. I'm going to sit down over there. we go back to my place to prepare dinner. I say "Oh. relax and discuss deep topics is when you're sitting down. I almost forgot." We go some place to eat. and then I stop her and make her turn around to talk to me. So. At other times. and shop for clothes. I just kiss her. like couples do. I know it's going to be hard for you. I'm sorry we met like this. 0 . I ask her to sit down with me. Let's go…" she usually complies. it's grocery day today" and then we head out to the supermarkets. It varies. Someone you can just talk to about anything and everything. but just try hard to resist the urge ok? I'm not that easy" It's a little funny piece that takes the tension out of the scenario. getting ready to leave. After eating I make it a point to do other things. play arcade. After I've established enough investment on her part. You're not going to be one of those awesome girls that I meet and never see again. After I establish some kind of connection. If at anytime you even slightly try to grab my ass… it's over.her. I usually say something like "My legs are dying. After all this. I discovered that if you make fun of uncomfortable situations. I pull out my phone. This usually demonstrates that I'm fearless and exciting. punch the number 9-1-1 in and say "Look at this number. I do stuff like walk around the mall with her. I usually talk about deeper topics when I'm sitting down. I'm dialing this number. We prepare dinner together. Sometimes. You get the point. Sometimes I even take them on an instant movie date where we sneak out in the middle of the movie and go watch another movie. Get to know each other a little bit and begin to open up. I'd prefer to see how far I can take it. We talk more. call it a day. Before entering the door to my house. Tell you what. I will not tolerate disrespect and sexual harassment especially from women. If she's inside her car. The perfect time to lean back. I say something like "I'm really glad I met you. then it becomes comfortable. with no mutual friends to introduce us to each other. Let's go grab something to eat. after we buy groceries. I'm hungry. It's pretty rare to meet someone you can just be real with. All these crazy things you'd do when you were young.
I treat her the same way I would treat my buddy. Then later on in the night. When she reaches her boiling point and all the clothes are off. she usually ends up doing just that. I do this a couple of times till clothes start to come off. and I need to stop before it gets really far". Here's the key piece of the puzzle. I play the frame that "I'm a good boy. I pull away and pretend to sleep. Then I learned that if you just leaned back. I pull of childish behavior like initiating pillow and water fights. At this point.. I act as if everything is normal. At this point my back is turned toward her and I start to do fake snores.From here on I just build as much tension as I can. We eventually start kissing and rolling over the bed. but I'm feeling so good. From this point. I'm off to bed. Just minutes after it gets really hot and heavy. before she even has a chance to do so. . I hate to put you down but. I don't put out that easily. I used to try to seduce her and touch her as much as I could the moment she walked through the door.. and give her space to chase. After that's done. it should be a done deal. see you tomorrow". she's usually not sure whether I like her or not. I just unleash the beast and take full control of the situation. I jump right into my bed and I tell her "Goodnight. All I am is a big piece of tease". At the same time. I always pull away first and give her an excuse why we should stop. For you. she's way too invested and aroused to even pull back. From here we start to cuddle. increase her desire. In that moment. I pump up her emotions by saying things like "I know what you're thinking.
physical. getting her back to your house) Stage 4: Beyond the pick-up." Where are you in your life right now? What are your goals? Long term and short term? Create a plan Don't give up until you see results Who you are is the product of the past.Words of WIsdoM There are four stages you will go through in your journey to get this part of your life handled. you will probably wind up somewhere else. second dates. time. (phone game. Who you will become depends on the things you do today. . social) Stage 3: Learning how to handle logistics (getting her number. and managing relationships) Tips On How to be Happy Be optimistic and outgoing (positivism) Have close friendships and meaningful relationships (Build your social circle) Work or leisure that engage your skills (fun time) Have something to believe in (foundation) Sleep well and exercise (taking care of yourself) Having a high self esteem (healthy relationship with self) " If you don't know where you are going. going on an instant date. You need to become a master of all four stages Stage 1: Becoming Social and Expressing your personality Stage 2: Learning how to make her invest in the interaction (emotional.
you must become congruent with the three main aspects in your life: Be good at what you do Enjoy what it is you do Feel a sense of fulfillment while you do it .Balance Is Key In order to achieve happiness and live up to your full potential.
and it's your shot. I've never met a loser. I want your feedback.. I've only met people who make losing choices" People say: Life's a bitch and then you die. Once again.captivatetoconnect. Bring it on.. It's now up to you to get good. and connecting with women in daytime locations. I want to congratulate you on a very smart purchase. and appreciated the material. two thumbs up to you. stories. To find out more go to www.WrappInG IT all up "I've never met a failure. Now get out and do it! No excuses! If you need the extra push to go from theory to practice..com/bootcamp.. I hope that this has been helpful in giving you a picture of what day game is and how to master it. I've given you all the fundamental tools that you need to get started meeting.com Love & Respect Your Friend Oliver T.html Now I want to hear what you think. Let me know if this material is of any help to you. So if you have any questions. you can always take advantage of my coaching services. The ball is in your court now. then feel free to drop me a line at grungey10@captivatetoconnect. I will be talking about the specifics of each of these fundamental principles. I consider the eight dating factors described on these pages to be fundamental to understanding daytime pick-up.. You have something in common with every successful man has ever walked on this planet and that is choice. . So stay tuned . In the future. or you simply just want drop by and say HI. I've only met people who make failing choices. captivating. For those of you who have read. the good and the bad.. understood. I believe Life is about choices and then you die.
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