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With their song 'Jealous Ova' gaining traction since its video release recently, dancehall artistes Tifa and Dexta Daps have become the target of scammers.
The music video was released about a week ago and already unscrupulous persons have come out of the woodworks trying to profit from their work. Reports are that persons have set up fake Facebook accounts and have been trying to collect money on behalf of both parties.
According to Craig Harrisingh of Daseca Productions, "People have created fake Facebook pages and email accounts presenting themself as Dexta Daps or as his management. They are taking people's money for dub plates and deposits for shows."
He continued, "Dexta Daps does not conduct any business whatsoever via social media. If his business doesn't go through DASECA Productions it's not real. This has been going on for about a month. In the past two weeks or so these people have started to include Tifa in their scamming deal. They are now telling promoters that they can get Dexta Daps and Tifa as a package at a ridiculous price. Daseca Productions is the sole booking agent for Dexta Daps, and Solid Agency handles all of Tifa's bookings."
Both Tifa and Dexta Daps have since made posts on their social media informing the public of the scam.
Meanwhile, Jealous Ova continues to do well having debuted at number 17 on Ernie B's Top 20 reggae chart in the UK which airs on Capital Extra, a mainstream R&B/hip-hop station in the UK.
The Daseca-produced single has been impacting radio over the past few months, and the accompanying music video, which was directed by Short Films Ja and shot on location at Lime Cay, has been getting online views and airplay.
In a release sent to THE STAR, both artistes were pleased with the song's success.
"It's an awesome feeling. I'm happy and elated," said Tifa.
Dexta Daps added, "Jealous Ova is doing amazing right now. It definitely seems to be one of the ladies' favourite. Everywhere I go and perform it, the reception is crazy, not to mention when Tifa and I perform it together as you can see at the Bugle and friends show. The song is doing exceptionally well in the UK. It's on the charts over there and I give thanks for that."
In addition to Jealous Ova, Tifa has other songs in rotation such as One Time, Mi Sumn Good and Sad Bad with Chino McGregor.
Dexta Daps, on the other hand, has been making massive waves with popular songs like Morning Love and 7 Eleven.
Dancehall artiste Spice has taken to Instagram to lash out at the annual Youth View Awards after her song, So Mi Like It, was snubbed at the show.
According to the sometimes controversial dancehall artiste, she deserved to win all her nominations.
"So you expect me to roll over and play dead? You expect after all the hard work I put in, I'm gonna sit back and let you act like I didn't deserve what was due to me? Did you think that me of all persons would be quiet about how, biased this industry is?Well, let me tell you this if you didn't want to hear it, So Mi Like It is one of the biggest dancehall songs last year. Not to mention the most viewed video out of Jamaica last year. So you are trying to tell me the people hated this song so much that no one voted for it?," she directed to Youth View Awards official Instagram page.
She continued her rant stating that fans of Jamaican music were disappointed.
"If you are going to keep such a beautiful ceremony, please make it logical and truthful because the people are not blind and dem a talk bout it. Yes, I won Female Artiste of the Year, thanks, but you didn't have to award me for that title I knew it belonged to me hands down," she said.
Spice also suggested that even her competitors knew that they were outshined in 2014. "Fair is fair … that song should have been awarded, this is not going to discourage me, my strength only pushes me to work harder suh mi can show unno up," she said.
The deejay also pulled a Kanye West stunt advising her peers to stop collecting awards which they know they are not deserving off.
"Some a unno artiste fi stop collect people things too because mi know guilt a nyam out unno belly bottom," she posted.
Spice was unavailable – for a follow up comment. However, reggae/dancehall artise Konshens posted on his Instagram earlier this year that he did not feel like he deserved some of his nominations. Popular selector Tony Matterhorn also posted a video to his Instagram page lashing out against the show.
Kanye West is perhaps one of the few recording artistes to have given away awards which he felt he did not deserve.
So Mi Like It was nominated for Favorite Local Music video and Hottest Summer Song. The Notnice records-produced song has more than 15 million views on YouTube and was remixed by Busta Rhymes.
EVEN from behind bars, Vybz Kartel is hailed by many as dancehall's finest artiste. On Saturday, the incarcerated entertainer validated those plaudits by copping four awards at the Youth View Awards.
His sons, Little Addi and Little Vybz, took home the awards for their father, much to the delight of the audience. The National Indoor Sports Centre erupted when the deejay won his first award for Favourite Male Local Artiste of The Year. The screams were followed by chants of 'Free World Boss', in reference to the artiste. Kartel
also won Favourite Dancehall Artiste of the Year, Favourite Local Chart-topping Song, and Hottest Summer Song.
Kartel was sentenced to 35 years in prison last April for the August 2011 murder of Clive 'Lizard' Williams.
Roots singer Chronixx and deejay Tifa won three and two awards, respectively. Chronixx and Protoje won Favourite Musical Collaboration for the single,
The 'Spurilina' artiste also walked away with awards for Celebrity Role Model and Favourite Cultural Artiste of the Year.
Tifa was voted Female Fashion Icon of The Year and Young, Hot and Hype Female of the year.
Also receiving awards were Kranium, Stone Love sound system, Konshens, Ding Dong, Shady Squad, Spice, Mavado, Kalado, Entertainment Report, Kevin Downswell, Alkaline, Rvssian, Bambino, Miss Kitty, and RD Studios.
There were entertaining performances from Tarrus Riley, Ding Dong, Chi Chi Ching, The YVA Nation, Jesse Royal, and Ikaya.
There was mixed reaction to Kranium's performance.
When the singer did his hit song Lifestyle, the audience sang along. However, a section of the crowd got quiet when he performed the explicit Nobody Has to Know, accompanied by raunchy dancers.
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As dancehall artiste Masicka tries to find a stable footing in the music industry after leaving the Konshens-led SubKonshus Music last year, another hurdle has come in his way, as a woman is alleging that he is not taking care of their son.
On February 5, 2014, a Facebook group, 'Masicka Fi Mine Him Son' was created and already has 145 members. The description on the group says, "Encourage unu DJ fi mine him son."
On that same day, someone commented in the group and said, "go to court and tell them you want to take out a summons for him and them will deal with it from there …, but how I don't see any pic with you and him?"
To that the person who created the group responded, "He is never around so you won't see a pic of me and him."
In addition, numerous pictures of the child were posted in the group. The same child can also be seen numerous times on Masicka's Instagram page.
But the woman did not stop there, as she also took her rant to Instagram earlier this week, where she launched an attack on the artiste, but deleted the post some hours later.
In that post, the woman accuses him of being a homosexual, as well as someone who engages in oral sex.
"Himbuss before him. Oh wow! Waste a everything. Si mi and rush mi nuh dawg a dat yuh fi do. Loud and proud …; defend it and mek people dead now," she said, in the Instagram post that was made on Monday.
The WEEKEND STAR tried to get in contact with the woman who made the posts but was unsuccessful.
However, when Masicka was asked to comment on the matter, he said, "no, no time at all. Mi tek mi family thing and mi son personal."
Meanwhile, since the start of the year, Masicka has released songs like General A Road, Just Can't Do It and Waiting.
After igniting a Twitter war with Khloe Kardashian back in the States, Amber Rose took her killer curves to Trinidad and Tobago to party in a bold bikini.
"Back to me killin the gram," she wrote on Instagram Tuesday, sharing a selfie of her sexy snakeskin bikini.
The 31-year-old model didn't let her feud with the Kardashian/Jenner clan get her down as she was seen booty dancing to soca and calypso music at the Trinidadian Carnival in her scantily-clad costume.
This isn't the first sexy star we've seen in one of these eye-catching, barely there carnival getups. Rihanna has attended Crop Over Carnival in her homeland of Barbados several times, which closely mirrors the Trinidad Carnival.
Kwashawna Records, which is owned by Shawn 'Shawn Storm' Campbell, is gearing up for the release of the highly anticipated 'Kuminar' rhythm, which features a heavyweight roster of artistes.
"The previous project, the 'Tanbad riddim', was releasedOctober last year and is still hot in the streets and on the radio. The label's next production is called the 'Kuminarriddim' andit is going to take the place by storm, no pun intended," Troy Blunt, road manager ofKwashawna Records, said.
"The record label is being run by Shawn Storm, and is monitored through his lawyer. The production is being distributed by Johnny Wonder of 21st Hapilos," he added.
The rhythm features Vybz Kartel, Shawn Storm, Stylysh, Gage, A Game, Destiny, Konshens, John D, Destiny, Voicemail, Masicka, Tussan, and Shaq1. The riddim will be officially released on Saturday, but it is already getting a buzz on the radio.
"The Vybz Kartel single was premiered on Suncity Radio 104.9last week by JJ Wizzle, and it loud in the streets. On February 21 when this drop, whether you hate it or not, straight up to Billboard overload top, on the world map," Blunt said.
Shawn Storm, aka Sivva, was convicted last year, alongside Vybz Kartel and two others, of the murder of dancer Clive 'Lizard' Williams.He will have to serve 25 years before he is eligible for parole. At the time of his conviction, he was adamant that he was wrongfully convicted.
"To the fans and fams, I am an innocent man and I am just saying I am good and in great health and spirit. So, from me to the fans and ma fams and my mother, daughter and family, I am confident that, in the long run, I will be vindicated," Campbell stated in a message to his supporters.
Former Miss Jamaica Universe and media personality Yendi Phillipps announced on TVJ's Smile Jamaica yesterday that she will be leaving the morning programme early next month.
Phillipps, who has been co-host of the morning show for a few years, made the announcement following the last segment of the show, called Off the Shelf.
Her last day will be on March 3.
"Don't cry for me Argentina…" she sang, while placing her co-host Neville Bell's head on her shoulder.
"I know that she would be making the announcement, but I did not watch Smile this (yesterday) morning," said the station's general manager Claire Grant.
It is unclear who will replace Phillipps or what her next move will be. However, rumours have swirled that she has a stint in Canada lined up.
Following the former beauty queen's announcement, persons took to social media to express sadness at the news.
"What is this I am hearing, Yendi leaving Smile Jamaica, nooo way Am gonna miss u a lot," said Twitter user Cheryl Johnson.
"OMG, why, why plz don't go. What am I going to do without you in di mornings, mi stop watch TV now," tweeted another user, Monifa Moni. Yet another user, Shelley Anne, tweeted, "nooooooooo, you can't leave, where are you going".
Phillipps continues to be a role model to a number of young females. In 2011, she established a foundation to help the fight against cervical cancer.
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The occurrence of zircons with U-Pb ages of ∼3.8 Ga and Hf model ages of ∼4.0 Ga in South China suggests the existence of the Hadean crustal remnants in South China. Furthermore, a detrital zircon with a U-Pb age as old as 4.1 Ga has been found in Tibet. This is the oldest zircon so far reported in China. These results imply that continental crust was more widespread than previously thought in the late Hadean, but its majority was efficiently reworked into Archean continental crust. On the basis of available zircon U-Pb age and Hf isotope data, it appears that the growth of continental crust in South China started since the early Archean, but a stable cratonic block through reworking did not occur until the Paleoproterozoic. Thus the operation of some form of plate tectonics may occur in China continents since Eoarchean. The initial destruction of the South China craton was caused by intensive magmatic activity in association with the assembly and breakup of the supercontinent Rodinia during the Neoproterozoic. However, most of the Archean and Paleoproterozoic crustal materials in South China do not occur as surface rocks, but exist as sporadic crustal remnants. Nevertheless, the occurrence of Neoproterozoic magmatism is still a signature to distinguish South China from North China.
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- Title
- Formation and evolution of Precambrian continental crust in South China
- Journal
Chinese Science Bulletin
Volume 52, Issue 1 , pp 1-12
- Cover Date
- 2007-01-01
- 10.1007/s11434-007-0015-5
- Print ISSN
- 1001-6538
- Online ISSN
- 1861-9541
- Publisher
- Science in China Press
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- Topics
- Keywords
- Archean
- Paleoproterozoic
- continental crust
- growth
- reworking
- South China
- Industry Sectors
- Authors
- YongFei Zheng (1)
- ShaoBing Zhang (1)
- Author Affiliations
- 1. Key Laboratory of Crust-Mantle Materials and Environments, Chinese Academy of Sciences, School of Earth and Space Sciences, University of Science and Technology of China, Hefei, 230026, China


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Looking for a rich, creamy tiramissou gelato? Why would you not start your search at Concord Hospital! Hope they treat brain freezes!
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It can be tough to eat healthy around the holidays. The Snob has been on a health kick over the last few months, however – push-ups perched over a pie plate, treadmill with leftover turkey sandwich just out of reach, pudding squats, candy cane crunches and the like. Now that it's the new year, we had to choose a healthy option for our next Snobportunity. Then it dawned on us: Where could be healthier than Concord Hospital? They must have a cafeteria in there somewhere, right? We grabbed our dining companion (gotta have a co-pay) and drove down to find out for ourselves.
We took the elevator up from the lobby to the third floor, took a right and headed down a hallway before spilling out into the cafeteria. Right away, we were impressed. Not only were there several promising-looking entree items, a sandwich station and a salad bar, but down at the end was the creme de la creme: a gelato bar with a half-dozen or so flavors! A unique item for a cafeteria, to say the least.
We trayed up and hopped into line. The cafeteria was bustling, but not crowded; it was only a minute or so before we were presented with our food options. We opted to try out the entree station and save the salads, sandwiches and other ancillary items for another day.
The Snob opted for the hand-carved roast beef ($5.25) with a trio of vegetable sides: peas, carrots and mashed potatoes (90 cents apiece). The roast beef was just a hair under medium rare – in other words just the way we like it. It was fall-apart tender and doused with a smooth brown gravy. Plated with buttery mashed potatoes and boiled carrots and peas, it was quite a hearty meal, perfect for the depths of winter. What a warmer-upper!
The Snob's dining companion opted for the roasted vegetable lasagna ($3.95). Not only was it a heaping helping for the price, but it was chock-full of veggies! We are not exaggerating when we say that we have never had a lasagna quite so crammed with fresh vegetables. There were sliced red and green peppers festooned about on top, carrots, corn, squash and more mixed into the different layers. Of course, it was surrounded by plenty of melty mozzarella, though not so much that it became a cheese lasagna – this thing was veggie all the way!
Uncharacteristically enough for the Snob, we were so sated by our meal that we simply couldn't have another bite. Not one to be dissuaded by the limitations of the human body, the Snob returned some days later to try out the tantalizing gelato bar.
We got a tiramissou gelato. It was custardy and creamy, topped with chunks of cocoa-coated savoiardi. We could really taste the boozey undertones (we weren't complaining, either!). We suggest getting one of the smaller sizes if you go; the small one we had was still so rich and creamy that we could barely finish it.
If you find yourself at Concord Hospital – feel better! We wish you a speedy recovery. While you're there, though, you should really give the cafeteria a shot. There's nothing like some comfort food to start the healing process.
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(989 Posts)Hi all, took the liberty of starting a new thread. Keep on posting!
Was just going to start one, thanks!
OPO - your post was very sensible and helped me to see things as they really are. Indeed my friend and her father were just doing the polite thing. It was her wedding day, she wouldn't have been thinking about my issues or hurting me! My grandmother was in the wrong, no one else. I wouldn't have mentioned it to my friend. I suppose I am sorry I missed her day as well. That my toxic parents got to see it and I didn't. That part of the reason I didn't go, is because I didn't want to see them and get stressed so late on in the pregnancy. I feel like they still have such a grip on my life.
Your example about your MIL is exactly the same kind of thing. I suppose we want people on our side, to see what we see. I do believe this is partly why abuse (especially emotional and mental abuse) goes unnoticed in our society. People don't want to rock the boat or to cause a fuss. I have one friend who will openly say what horrible people my parents are. In fact she once turned round and said quite bluntly 'did you have a happy childhood?'. It was the first time anyone had asked me and it really triggered me. It was shortly after that I ended up in counselling.
Everyone else will listen and sympathise yes. But they will still be openly nice to my parents' faces. However would I be strong enough to openly express disgust at someone elses parents? I don't know tbh
Rose- it sounds like your grandmother was 'trying' to push your buttons. My mother does this. Its feasible she has over accentuated what actually happened.
So I agree with OPO. She's as cunning as a fox your gran. Sounds just like the kind of thing my mother would do as well. She knows full well what she is doing IMHO.
It's really hard I know but dont let her stress you or disrupt your friendships.
OPO, I can see why you found your MIL saying that to your sister hurtful. It is like she is inferring that she doesn't believe you about the bad things your parents have done. Does she know much about it?
I sometimes feel exasperated that my PILs say to me in an accusing manner "How are your parents" and "When did you last see your parents". They seem to think it is bad that I don't know how they are and if I haven't seen them for a long time. They say these things even though they know some of what my parents are like.
They know what my brother was convicted for and that he has ended up in prison ultimately because of his childhood issues. They know that I have been on ADs and have had lots of therapy for my childhood issues. They know that my parents behave a bit unnaturally in their unemotional, unexpressive way (from the times they have met them) and must be able to imagine how cold that would feel for a child growing up with them. DH told them something about what my mum's dad did to me and that my mum would not do anything about it. I'm not sure if they know what my brother was like with me or anything else.
Maybe they just don't know enough of it to make them think that I don't have a duty to visit them often and care a lot about how they are. Maybe your MIL doesn't know enough, I don't know. I do get the feeling my ILs have an inbuilt view that parents are to be respected and cared about and looked after by their children and that their children should feel grateful for the good things they have done (but those things don't make the bad things feel any better!). Another thing my ILs do is to point out my parents' good points. I think this is a general view of society and your MIL probably has it too. Can't they see that not all parents are worthy of these things? Not all parents do the right thing. I think this must seem unimaginable to them.
Rose, my first thought was the same as Smithfield, that your GM was saying it on purpose to wind you up. It is like she was saying "you think I am bad but you are the one who is wrong because your friend doesn't think I am bad, she proved she thinks I am good by letting me come in to her wedding". Don't let her wind you up and doubt yourself like she is trying to. She can't accept that she did wrong so she is being defensive. I also agree with what you said about people not wanting a confrontation though so your friend would have just done what was easiest at the time and felt least embarrassing/uncomfortable even if she does think badly of your GM.
...I've said this before but just in case it is useful to anyone who has doubts about their feelings when they remember their parents' good points/good things they have done:
If a burglar breaks into your home and steals something from you, but while he/she is there he/she does the washing up, this does not make what he/she did less wrong!
Has anybody read the other thread today. someone posted something and it has made me feel a bit odd, a bit upset actually.
Im wondering if it affected anyone else the same way?
Im being oversensitive i guess.
AN- meant to say I found your posts really interesting. Your therapist sounds so switched on.
How do you feel about it today? Do you feel any different?
Smithfield, I hope you are ok? If it was something I said that upset you I'm really sorry.
Thank you for commenting on my post. I do feel kind of 'soothed' when I think of the session yesterday and soothed is the only word I can think of for it. It feels quite alien to me really.
I feel like I am on the brink of understanding DD better as well.
I will read the last posts of the other thread now and see if I can find the bit that could have affected you. Do you feel able to tell us? I know you are worried about appearing oversensitive. Most of us know what that feels like.
Smithfield, has something that has been said made you think about how you feel about being a working mother? I know people can have quite different views on it. I feel that my ILs think I am lazy because I DON'T go out to work, I 'only' look after the children.
Smithfield - The one where someone suggested threads such as these can make you focus too much on bad things you had forgotten or forgiven. That they can make your childhood issues bigger than they are. That upset me too but I choose to ignore it. It is one person's opinion.
IMHO it really belittled the original posters difficulties. I have found that on other threads about toxic parents there is always someone who takes the 'forgive and forget and move on' line. That is why I am so glad I found this thread. I feel my issues are taken seriously and I take other posters' issues seriously.
When I told my GM that I had received counselling she suggested something similar. That it makes people worse. Rubbish! I am getting my feelings out in the open and growing as a person. She repressed all her feelings all her life and refused counselling for the traumas she suffered. Look where it has got her
Just seen that thread Rose, only glanced at it.
I used to have that point of view that if we can understand why our parents etc were the way they were and feel sympathy for the things they went through that made them the way they are that we could stop feeling angry and just let it all go.
...But the feelings came back. So it didn't totally work on me did it! I started being triggered more and more. Stressful times can do this I think (eg my bro going to prison and talking to me about things that happened in our childhoods in an effort to understand how he had got to that point). Also having children makes feelings resurface. So maybe the 'understand and forgive' approach doesn't totally work.
I started with my current therapist because the anger I thought I had dealt with was leaking out onto my DD and DH. I decided to do something about that and in no way do I feel ashamed for going to a therapist for this reason.
I haven't seen the other thread people have mentioned. But I do think, AN, that you may be right about MIL, ie they don't know the full details about my parents and how they treated me, and I do suspect they are of the 'honour thy parents no matter what they did to you' school of thought. Afaic, they are ignorant and ill-educated on this complex issue and their opinion therefore is worthless. I do think my PIL probably do think along the same lines as your PIL, AN. (Hopefully now I will not be seeing my PIL for many months so I am just going to put them out of my mind for now.)
Re forgiving, I am not against forgiving per se. But I do think the wrongdoer has to earn his/her forgiveness. He/she has to fully acknowledge what they have done, apologise sincerely and take steps to restore trust and repair the damaged relationship. Only then would I feel I could forgive for eg. my parents. I don't feel I should forgive them simply because.......it's been years since the worst abuse was being meted out to me, or because my parents are now quite old.....these to me are not valid reasons to forgive. An acknowledgment and apology must precede being forgiven.
gosh - yes the thread that rose is talking about- sorry was in between things asnd posted quickly.
Should have explained a bit more.
I cant imagine anyone upsetting me on here!
And I agree with what you say rose too. On the contrary I feel this is the 'only' place I have ever felt free to say what I truly think and get validation for those feelings.
OPO - exactly right! If my parents could apologise for the hurt they have caused me and try to make amends, I do have forgiveness in my heart. But they still insist it is in my head and try to prove to me that they are good people, that everyone else thinks so (as seen by example I gave of my GM 'stalking' at my friends wedding).
I just wanted to ask how angry you all feel about hurtful things that have been said and done to you?
I was swimming today and thinking a lot as I did my lengths about horrible old shit and my mother's most recent twisty and dishonest email to me, and it occurred to me that I'm almost too keen on feeling angry - too reliant on my anger to give me a sense of purpose and energy.
I think I've gone beyond useful anger and into enjoying the powerful feeling it gives me, and I think that's bad.
Not sure where to go from here though. How do you be just angry enough without overdoing it?!
RCB- I think actually that's quite a positive way of handling anger. You are channelling it in a positive way.
at the same time you are aware of where the anger stems from.
Its more a problem when its turned back on yourselves or those that dont deserve it because you feel angry but not sure why.
I really like the fact that we can tell the truth here - that nobody says "I'm sure it wasn't really that bad" or "but they're famleeeeee" . Fuckers.
Skihorse- Couldnt have said it better myself
I feel different today. In fact, I have felt differently over the last few days. It's as though something inside me has shifted.
I seem to have lost any anger I had been feeling toward DH.
We're not at the end of the tunnel yet because I think there has been some serious damage to our relationship over the years as a result of my 'abuse' towards him.
Yes, I am ashamed to admit that 'is' exactly what it is. I have vented and projected my anger on to him. I have even manipulated him and emotionally blackmailed him.
I feel shocked and saddened that this is how I have behaved. I dont want to blame it on my upbringing because that would make me as bad as my mother. But I feel able to take responsibility for my actions and if I accept responsibility accordingly I can only learn and grow from this insight I have had into my own behaviour.
I read somewhere recently that anger is often only displayed by someone who either has a position of power for eg parent to child OR at least has an equal position.
I think perhaps my low self esteem and issues with myself made me behave as though I had to be the one in control and have all the power in the relationship in order to feel safe.
Of course that is the opposite to how my relationship was with my parents. In that relationship I was the one being manipulated, controlled and abused.
I dont think it is this realisation of my behaviour that has released my anger though. This is the bit that confuses me. I just notice all of sudden I dont feel angry toward him at all.
The other odd thing is I have always felt empathy for my parents. Especially my father. I have for many years understood or attempted to understand exactly why they are the way they are. I absorbed all the sorrow and grief of their own wretched upbrinings. The poverty, the lack of love, the lack of empathy for their own childhood selves.
I think this blocked my anger considerably and maybe this is why it was constantly dispalced onto DH. This morning I thought about my mother, yet I didnt feel sadness at all. I didnt feel sorry for her at all. I just felt angry. Not an over powering anger but an anger that just felt justified and resolute.
I think this is a good thing. I also feel the same way currently about my dad. I no longer feel the sorrow or sympathy when I think of him. Or the guilt and anxiety at causing any more pain to him by reducing contact.
I used to feel I wanted to protect him, look after him. I would tell myself somehow if I loved him enough to make up for all his childhood angst I could fix him. I cant. And whats more I dont want to.
I want to work, instead, on fixing myself and on fixing my marriage.
Im sure this is another layer peeling away. It feels good. I feel lighter and a feeling of relief.
What's more its affected other relationships. Not just between me and DH This morning MIL, for example, got in a huff but I felt completely detatched. I refused to let myself absorb her bad feelings, this is what I have felt for many years. That if someone was upset it must be my fault and so I absorb the bad feeling like a sponge.
This is a leftover belief from my old family that I am responsible for other peoples moods. I realise on a deeper level now that I cant control other peoples feelings. Their feelings and reactions are their responsibility not mine.
In turn my reactions and moods are my responsibility...it will take some time but I can harness my emotions. Not suppress them but be in command of them. Use them as a barometer but not allow them to overwhelm me the way they have done in the past.
I totally agree with what the others have said about what went on at that wedding. Just how sad and desperate is it to go hanging about outside a wedding you haven't been invited to Very annoying for your friend, I should imagine. And it proves that you were right in not going for the reasons you didn't. You wouldn't have wanted to "bump into" your gran, randomly walking past...
I haven't read the thread you are talking about, but I can guess. The way I see it is that if that person truly has reached a point of forgiving her parents AFTER doing all the work we are doing here, then she would be much more sensitive person, knowing that there is a thread here on mumsnet where women are bleeding their hearts out to try to overcome depression, anxiety and other issues linked to their childhood.
What I believe is more likely is that this person hasn't done ANY of the work on herself that needs to be done to reach a point where she can forgive her parents. I went through my entire childhood and early twenties "forgiving" my parents, being the better person and basically just patting myself on the back for being such a nice guy. But of course, we know that the moment you have a child, if you go down that superficial road of forgiving your parents you are basically letting them off the hook and you re-enact their behaviour with your own child. NOT forgiving your parents is the first step on the road to making damn sure that you won't behave as they did.
I am also where you are regarding your dad. I have always felt enormous empathy and sympathy towards him. But it has been shocking an revealing to accept that he doesn't feel this towards me. He has let me down badly a lot, and he would do so again, to save his own skin. He would always put himself and his needs above me. So although I still feel the empathy for him, I don't feel guilty that I have to protect myself from him. Only he can save himself. And I can use the energy I have wasted on him on saving myself!
Smithfield, what a great post. You have said what I feel. Especially about feeling that if someone was upset that it must be my fault. I think I still do that now to an extent...old habits die hard I guess.
I think I have also been abusing my DH. I have been projecting my anger at my parents onto him and he has been inadvertently triggering me and I have got disproportionatly angry at him before realising i have been triggered. But I think he has been doing the same with me a bit as well. He has been bullying and threatening sometimes and using his position of relative power to control me and get what he wants from me. He has also exploited my need to be loved and also used that to try and control and manipulate me.
I have a feeling that to a certain extent this sort of thing goes on in a lot of relationships but without people realising how their subconscious and repressed feelings are driving their behaviour and reactions.
Smithfield, i also agree with what you said about you being responsible for your reactions and moods. I realise that I am triggered a lot of the time but only when it is too late and i have got overly angry in the present when it is actually my old repressed anger at past events that is being vented. I am also very sensetive again in the present day about certain things again relating to events from the past when i repressed my feelings.
Eg. I have posted on here about feeling upset that my middle sister told me about her pregnancy quite late on and weeks after she told our youngest sister. I spoke to youngest sister about this on the phone just now and all she did was defend middle sister. She also said some nasty things along the lines of me being overly sensetive and being wrong to want DH to speak to MIL about her bullying. It is obvious to me now that she is completely devoid of feeling any empathy for me. She thinks I am in the wrong, I am oversensetive and I should just accept being excluded from the little twosome her and middle sister have had going on for years. It is clear whenever I try and say something about being excluded I am told I am being overly sensetive and I shouldn't get upset over such things. There is no empathy or understanding for my feelings and I really feel I am reaching the point where i just want to cut my sisters out of my life.
They are not going to change, and every contact with them results in me being hurt and upset in some way with my sisters being supposedly unaware of the fact that I am being hurt and when i have pointed it out to them they become defensive and the fake niceness evaporates. We have a completely fake relationship and I don't know why I am nbothering.........I suppose it is for the sake of the DC's but I don't know if that reason enough anymore.
My youngest sister said she and middle sister are in touch on a daily basis and help each other out and i was thinking "What about me?". I told youngest sister she hardly bothers phoning me and keeping in touch which she denied. I have tried keeping them at arm's length but it just doesn't work for me. I think it has to be all or nothing. ie there is no contact at all or the relationship is one where they understand my feelings and care if I'm hurt. But the bottom line is that they don't care if I'm hurt which they have shown quite clearly wrt our parents. They don't seem to care at all about how much our parents have hurt me, they only seem to care about how much i am supposedly hurting our parents by cutting them out. Why am in continuing to put myself up for being hurt and disregarded over and over again by my sisters? If I am going to be excluded anyway I may as well exclude myself and cut them out of my life, it will be painful but hopefully it will be a one off feeling of pain rather than the constant ongoing cuts and digs that seem to go hand in hand with any sort of contact with either of them. I need to look after myself and I am not doing that by continuing to put myself in a position where they can hurt me, even if they are doing it unconsiously and without realising it.
One thing I have noticed with the toxic people in my life is how they push you and are nasty to you, but then when they can sense they may have gone too far and that you may perhaps just walk away meaning they cannot bully you anymore, they suddenly reel you back in by being nice to you, just enough so you get close enough and let your guard down enough so they can dig the knife in again. I have noticed it with DH a little, especially over the issue with his mother, I know my father did it, he alternated between being nice and nasty, although in his case he could have just been nasty and i wouldn't have gone anywhere as where can a 10 year old go if she has nowhere else but 'home' where she is 'welcome'?
Ultimately all these people are bullies. They are exploiting their power and your weakness to vent their repressed negative feelings onto. They are too scared and afraid to vent their anger onto the person who actually deserves it as that person is relatively more powerful than them and they are to a degree dependent on that person to meet many of their needs. So it is always a weaker person who will be the target for a bully who is a coward really as he/she is too scared to stand up to the person who they are actually afraid of and who has been hurting them.
I was bullied by my middle sister and whilst my youngest sister joined in a little she was not the initiater. I was 'marked' as the target by my dad who bullied me. My mother was supposed to protect me from these people but she did nothing as she was scared that she would then become the target instead of me. My little sister witnessed all of this so now, as adults, she is unable to 'process' my standing up for myself and refusing to just accept the treatment that has been dished out to me for as long as she can remember. From her pov, it is me who is being oversensetive and unreasonable, I should just continue to accept being treated shabbily as that is and always has been my 'role' and i should not try and step out of it. Even though our parents are no longer part of the equation I can see that as far as my sisters are concerned, I am still in the role of scapegoat/troublemaker/bolshy/confrontational one and that is where they want me to stay. However much I try and break out of that role in my relationship with them they will always try and keep me in my place.
I can see now I made the mistake of thinking that having cut our parents out of my life, there would be a change of dynamic between me and my sisters and I would not still be cast in my old role within the family, but in actual fact, even without my parents, my sisters are still making me play the role I always played. Only I am not willing to play that role anymore and my sisters are clearly unable to 'process' or accept my new role which is one I have chosen for myself rather tthan having it imposed on me.
The only way that they will be able to accept my new role is if they realise what roles they are playing and gain some insight and self awareness. But there is no incentive for them to do that as they are not really suffering in any way as far as i can tell within the existing arrangement/dynamic that exists between them and my parents. I don't believe they are truly happy and truly love our parents, but ultimately my sisters were never abused like I was by our dad and our mother did not abandon and neglect them like she did me. So I can see how they are able to continue in the way they are doing, still seeing our parents and maintaining the illusion of a family, because for them the illusion is not so far from reality that it causes huge internal tension like it did for me. For me the internal tension reach breaking point and that is when i snapped and cut off my parents, but i can see for my sisters that the internal tension whilst it does exist, is simply not bad enough for them to reach breaking point like me. They can live with it; I could not.
So no matter what i do now, there will always be a divide between me and my sisters that nothing can ever close. It is only if we had had far more similarity in our childhood experiences of our parents that we could possibly hope to be close today in the way i would like us to be. But i can see now that that is completely impossible as we cannot change our pasts. And the only thing for me to do is to accept this sad fact.
I feel silly because i feel like i keep going over this again and again every few months and every time i come to the same conclusion and every time i feel i have finally come to accept that there will never be a close relationship with my sisters, but very time it seems i have been deluding myself because i have not really and truly been able to accept that we were treated so differently and that even now as adults, many years later, our relationships are still exactly as they were when i was a child. My sisters in their cosy, close little twosome and me on the outside, looking in, feeling hurt and lonely at being excluded. The slight difference between now and then is that as a child I never said anything about how i felt, but now I am speaking out but my words seem to be falling on deaf ears. My sisters do not want to hear me, they are happy in their little twosome and they do not want to include me. I suppose again wrongly i always thought that once they realised how hurt and left out they were making me feel they would want to include me and not make me feel left out and secondary to them, but it seems they don't care. They don't care if i feel left out and hurt, they are happy the way they are and i should just accept it. They do not feel bad that however inadvertently they have hurt me by excluding me and making me feel left out and different to them, that is how they want it to be so of course they will strongly resist any attempts on my part to break into their little twosome with all their might.
Now that i have worked this out it makes so much sense and i feel so silly for thinking my sisters would want to include me. Of course they don't. They never have and they never will. I should stop trying to always break into their little huddle as i am clearly hitting my head against a brick wall and it will be my head that breaks first rather than their protective wall which i think they have built around themselves as protection from our parents. It just reinforces my constant feeling from childhood of being alone within our family and of having no secure attachment to any member of the family. I think my sisters formed an attachment to each other in the absense of an available parent to whom a secure attachment could be formed. And i can see the attachment is very strong and there is no way i will be allowed in as that would bmean breaking the existing attachment and creating a new one which included me and that is never going to happen as it would be far too scary for my sisters to break the existing attachment between them.
So once again, another loss for me to come to terms with, to cry over and grieve over. At least in the face of our parents' abuse and neglect my sisters could and did cling to each other for safety and reassurance, i was on my own and had only myself to rely on. What a sad place for a little girl to be in. I think about DD and try and imagine her in my shoes but i simply cannot, it's too painful to even contemplate for a few seconds, but for me as a child it was my reality, not just a terrible nightmare from from which i would awake.
Once again I am sorry to ramble on, no doubt incoherently about my own situation, but it really is only by getting it out in writing that i am able to work these things out for myself. There is no need to respond, just the act of writing is so helpful to me.
skihorse, yes I absolutely agree. This thread i think is really the only place where i can say exactly how i really feel about my parents and sisters and even DH without getting shot down in flames which i know would happen on almost any other thread on MN.
Keep posting...it is always better out (and on here) than in! x
My judgement must be quite 'off' because I just heard about a friend's ex DH who has been banged up for slapping her face and trying to escape from a police officer who restrained him and I'm feeling surprised that you can go to prison 'just for that'.
It seems to me that when adults do certain things to other adults it is thought of as a crime but it is thought of as less of a crime if a sibling does it to a sibling. I still feel funny about a thread I read quite a while ago about someone who had been badly bullied by their sibling enough to still affect her now, and someone posted that it was normal behaviour between siblings and happens all the time and the attitude was that she was making a big deal of it.
Some things that happened to me were worse than some things I hear about which people get criminally charged for if they have done it to an adult but am I supposed to think that because I was a child and the perpetrator was an older child, but still a child, that makes it ok? Surely it is harder to cope with if you were only a child?
What my brother did to the women he went to prison for brought into my mind something that happened to me at a party I went to as a teenager. What my brother did to those women was done to me by another older teenager with his friends watching and laughing but although I had bad feelings about it (about myself) I never thought he was bad because he wasn't an adult. I thought it was my fault anyway for being really drunk, unable to look after myself properly and behaving provocatively. When Therapist used the words he would describe it as, I was shocked.
RCB, don't worry about feeling 'too' angry. I don't think there is such a thing. I think your body stores just the right amount of anger that is due in relation to the experiences you have been through. ie you cannot create feelings out of nowhere, if they are there, it is for a very good reason.
Like smithfield said, anger is only harmful if it is directed inwards or outwards but towards the wrong people. As long as you are consciously aware that it is your parents (i assume, sorry am not up to speed with your circumstances) that deserve your anger, it is not wrong. I felt a lot of anger over a long period of time, although not continiously, iykwim, towards all the various toxic hurtful people in my life, people who have hurt me both now and many many years ago.
Feeling your anger does give you a kind of energy and feeling of strength and power, i have felt that too. I think harnessing that strength and power to say the things that should have been said to the people that harmed and hurt you, but where before you were too scared to speak out, is not bad or wrong. Or using that energy to write on here or in a journal to release the feelings is also effective. If you feel you need a physical way of safely venting your anger there are examples in the books i have read of hitting a baseball bat against a sofa or pillow (I have done this myself), going for a run and really stamping your feet into the ground are two i can think of.
One counsellor i know has a room with a baseball bat where people can safely vent their anger and scream and shout which I think is brilliant as i have found it quite hard to find a place where i will not be seen and heard to do these things! Living in a a densely populated urban area is not conducive to safe venting of anger!
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