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"My husband told me he didn't love me anymore last August. I knew it was because of another woman. It escalated from text messages, chats, and emails between them. It was so out of his character and so I blamed myself. We went to a church counselor and it completely saved our marriage. I have him back after six months of a woman bugging him to death. She's a single mom who has never been married so I can see why she was after my husband. Now we are pregnant by his choice and mine! Things are better now and I want everyone to know,with a willing husband and the right counselor, things can get better. I read the book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. It changed my life and how I act towards my husband. There's hope for people who think life has no hope. I'm a living example!" (Letter edited)
Rod's Comment: Family preservation and restoration are causes for celebration. Congratulations. You helped turn a tough and hurtful situation into one that has made you stronger. While I am not familiar with the Schlessinger book I am pleased it assisted you. I strongly recommend couples also read Harriet Lerner's "Dance of Connection."
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I'm 13, and my boyfriend is 14. Yesterday, my so-called "friend" told me that my boyfriend never liked me, and wants to break up with me. This past weekend, we went on two dates, one with my mom chaperoning, and one without her. Our second date was to see the movie Blades of Glory. We held hands, and he put his arm around my shoulder, and at the end of the date he kissed me. Or I kissed him, but he knew it was coming, because I made sure nobody could see us. We've only been dating for a week and three days, but I think I might like him more than I liked my last boyfriend, who I was with for two months. Anyway, he liked my so-called friend first, and I was very aware of that, but he told me he was over her. She likes to be the center of attention all the time, and she loves it when guys give her attention.This so-called friend is brutally honest all the time, and she knows I hate that, and that I'm very sensitive, but this is the second relationship of mine that somehow she ruined, at least for me. My boyfriend is very nice so far, and affectionate, and it seems like he likes me, but he was very desperate and kind of out of it when he asked me out. Who should I trust? My so-called friend who is manipulative, self-centered and jealous? Or my nice, cute, sweet boyfriend? Which one is lying to me? Is there any hope for this relationship?
Dear Anna:
Be clear and forthright with all your friends – but trust yourself and your mother the most. At 13, and in experiencing early romantic love, your feelings are likely to be very intense. So, while you are annoyed with your girlfriend, I'd suggest you probably need her "brutal honesty" even if you do not like it. She might learn to soften her manner as you learn to stand up to her.
Thanks for writing,
My husband told me last night that he's not in love with me anymore. I am completelly shattered right now. I knew we had problems and we had decided to seek therapy but the last thing I expected was the love bomb. He thinks it can't be fixed and I had to convince him to try therapy. He is willing to try but I can see that he does not have much hope in it. I an so scared it is too late and that by going to therapy I am putting false hope into our mariage. I don't know what to do and feel like my whole world just collapsed on me.
I also thought that my husband and I could make through anything. We married 10 years ago and I had two daughters from a previous marriage. Things were good. We had a son our first year of marriage. Things were good. We had our fights over kids and money but we always could get back to the love. We had a big explosion about a week ago and decided that we would go to counseling. He told me there that he was not in love with me. I am devistated. I am having a hard time just getting through today. I know I have to keep it together for my kids, but I could just crawl in bed and never get out.
Hi Cyndi,
right now, you can't really think about anything and you just want to save what remains between you and him. you are in a state of panick, sorrow, shock and desperate.But if you think a bit- the answer is right in front of you. you can't force someone to love you and if he is not thinking of saving this marriage then he probably don't want to save it.You thought you found stability in his arms and meanwhile , he has been plotting sothing in his head to get awzy and the first occasion he got , he just xploded everything to you. you got two choices. either you let go and if you dont, then you have to change your attitude towards him. don't pressurized him on small issues. make as if this aren't bothering you and that you accept his decision. change you looks. be more joyful. change your hairstyle etc and be attractive. i know its difficult to do all these things specially when you got 3 kids but be courageous!!! good luck
I'm reading your stories here because I see little hope for a marriage of nearly 23 years. I am sorry for anyone at the mercy of someone who loves, then doesn't love, then sometimes loves and toys with a spouse. We've overcome so many difficulties. It is true I was not an easy person to deal with and my husband had difficulties. I had many illnesses and moods. Just as I become better, he wants freedome to go to happy hours, cruise bars, go on trips with an old female friends recently widowed who he brought into his office and who does the same work and travels with him. He insists he's appropriate toward her; but he's not appropriate toward me. He neglects any tender affection. He has withdrawn and does not respond to affection because of my expectations that he stop criticizing me and be less nasty and curt. I am devastated that he refuses to see any positive in 23 years of marriage. Our oldest is in college; we want to use my salary to pay the tuition and help our youngest go to a school also with a high tuition. I tried and worked to improve myself. I am a two year cancer survivor. I went back to school and resumed a career through the genrosity of those that hire locally. I am having surgery on both wrists and can't do all the work I used to do. Or swim, which helps me stay fit. I am very sad and I can't concentrate on studies with him telling me he never loved me, that he doesn't have any feelings for me. I've begun to wish revenge, though I used to say I wouldn't wish migraines on even my enemies. I just had my fiftieth birthday. I'm fairly pretty, but I'm tired of his being nice to everyone except me. I never feel attractive or nice. I am a romantic and I want to celebrate a 25th and 50th anniversary. I want him to appreciate me as hard as I've worked to be a better wife and mother. I am very upset and it's very difficult not to obsess or say que sera sera. He has a good wife and nice family. I'm very upset and see there's no hope since he's always telling me to go away. I can be a fuss budget about picking up the house, but this hurtful behavior is unbearable. I am not a manipulative person. I can't out maneauver hostile and passive agressive tactics. I know people aren't entitled to relationshiups in life. Nevertheless, I can't accept this punitive and cold behavior, though there's plenty of heat and hostility. I've worked as hard as I could to be more pleasing, short of the bar cruising and oogling he does in front of me and then denies.
I appreciate the nonimiyt of writing here and maybe a reader will have a more powerful prayer than I. I have to pull myself together to earn an A in a gradulate class, endure another surgery and incapcitation, curtailing of swimming, hope I can type despite the surgery and dress myself. I know there are people worse off than I. That is no consolation. I can't abide his hard heart.
this is a very saddening post. i feel empathetic to youre situation. i am a husband who deeply loves his wife. who believes in true love. honest communication, and passionate sex. i have been married 15 years to a wonderful woman who unfortunately has also not been an easy person to deal with. she has had her illnesses and moods. naturally because i love her i empathized with her when she would go through medical procedures, or have difficulties with her mother. i comforted her. during those years and times, years she was very critical. nasty to me, and curt. i tried to understand maybe i wasnt being nurturing or loving enough for a man. she is not very confident too, although i constantly buy her nice clothes, take her nice places, and she just doesnt seem to feel as beautiful as her peers. i dont understand that either. but i now after 15 years i wish i too had someone who was compatible with me. liked doing the things i like doing. understood that to me there is nothing or no one more beautiful than her on this earth. a woman who just wants to be loved by a man who wants to be loved by a woman(preferably me). i dont want to be a part of a relationship were there is no mutual selflessness. i too pray. my knees are almost worn out. i would never leave my wife. i have never bought anyone into our lives that she could be jealous of(she makes up enough of those herself). nor will i. hopefully she does not become overcome with guilt and find an excuse to leave me. or become so jealous she continues to shut me out and push me away. i hope none of this is happening wih youre husband. if it is, and if you really do still love him. take it from me you still have a chance. there is not much my wife could do to make me abandon her or our kids. actually there is only one thing i know of that allows any man to divorce a woman. at any rate i hope youre husband loves you as much as i love my wife. because you have written this post. it is obvious you have more than the usual concern for him. i hope you find some comfort in this, because i find comfort in youre post. maybe my wife feels like you do, and i just need to try harder. i will. because it is worth it to me. thank you for youre post.
You sound like the most wonderful man. I hope your wife soon realizes how blessed she is to have you. Perhaps let her read your note. She needs to grow up and get over herself. You, I think, have been perpetuating her behavior. She knows you are ALWAYS going to be there and is really abusing it. She needs a wake up call. You deserve to be appreciated. I hope you both seek counseling, so you both can be happy.
I know how you both feel, only I just celebrated my 2nd anniversary a week ago. My problems stemmed from my mother in law, who has always disliked me. She split my husband and I up 6 years ago (when he was just a boyfriend) and it took me two years to to accept him back. We are best friends, soul mates, and love each other dearly. We have two children, a 3 year old and a now 4 month old, and three months ago we got in a simple argument, went to bed angry, and the next morning he drove three hours to his mothers house and went to visit attorneys to get a divorce the next morning. Instead of offering to pay for marriage counseling, his parents paid 5,000 for an attorney and 25,000 cash for a new car for him, all in two days. It saddens me to know that my husband is still a child, and relies on his parents and their opinions so much that he is leaving me, again, because of them. No, we are not perfect and I'm sure I have nagged him to death about minor things, but that's not grounds for a divorce. I didn't even have notice to fix the issues. The first time I heard about the problems was when he walked out the door and left me and the two kids at home. Not to mention I was a stay at home mom that gave up a full scholarship (wanted to be a heart surgeon) to move 4 hours away to be with him and start a family. I just so happen to get a part time job a week before he left me so the minimal money I make can pay my immediate bills. I had to use my 3 year old childs savings to pay my attorney. From that day forward, for the last two and a half months, however, we have been trying to work things out. We have been doing GREAT! He has taken me to dinner, the movies, and we even had a vacation, just us two locally at the beach last weekend. During a romantic evening he told me he loved me again, the first time since this started. We cuddled all night and then he left two days later for work out of town. He's been gone 5 days, and just told me last night that he would rather spend Thanksgiving with his parents then with me and the kids (his parents have no idea we've been working things out the past two months and he is too ashamed to tell them). I naturally got upset and said I was done with us. Then last night he text me and told me he doesn't have any feelings for me in a relationship type way. Will someone please explain to me how he could love me last week and now he has not one feeling towards me? I'm done crying though…Even though he set me back to my high school days financially and in schooling, I will move on and get my life together for these kids. I'm just really sad and disappointed that someones parents could have such an impact on a grown man. I don't know if he is blind to his real feelings or if he lied to me last week when he said he loved me. Either way, I have no choice but to move on. It's true what they say, you can't make someone love you…but then again, would you WANT to be with someone that you had to convince to be with you??? Praying I find a mature man that loves his mother but not more then me! I feel for you all.. tears are a waste of time, and so is a spouse who treats you like dirt.
Hello No Name,
I have been married for 25yrs. and going through kinda the same thing as you. My husband said he loved me but he was not in-love with me, that killed me. We have two Daughters 25 & 22 and he treats them wonderful and he treats me ok, not like he used to I used to fill that I was the only women he would ever love, and when I found out different …that hurt. He just turned 50 and bought a new harley. My friends tell me he's going through a mid life crisiss, but whatever it is I wish he would get over it and be my husband again. I know he'll never be the person he was, because he used to treat me so good and I treated him not so good now that I look back on it. If anyone is going through this please give me some tips on how to get his love back.
I to am dealing with devestation. Yesterday my husband told me that he didn't want to be married anymore and that he loved me but he didn't love me the same as he used to. Also that when my youngest who is 11 turns 18 and the all the kids are grown, he will be leaving. He put a time on our marriage and keeps saying he's staying for the kids. I want him to stay for the kids too but for us as well. I truly love him just as much as I did when we married 17 years ago.
I don't know what to do. I to feel like crawling up into a ball and pulling the covers over my head and never coming out. I can't stop crying and I can't stop think about all the things that he said to me. I love him so much and he has been such a good provider for our family. I just don't know how to change his mind. I can't imagine my life with him not in it.
My husband told me he doesn't feel the same for me no more for about 1 1/2 to 2 years. I feel deviatated and scared for what the future might hold. i just found out I'm pregannt and he wanted me to have an abortion, of course I didn't agree to that and now wants to divorce me. I love him so much, I can't believe it. I've been going to church and trying to stay strong. I just want my marrage back.
I just passed my 2 year anniversary and my husband told me that he "has no feeling for me". Oh..and we have a 6 month old daughter. He has been "friends" with a 22 year old and will not end his relationship with her to save our marriage. I am filing for separation/divorce next Friday, leaving his ass (and CA) and never looking back.
We, as women, all have the strength to pick ourselves up and move on. Life is way too short to have our hearts broken by inconsiderate a-holes who only care about themselves. Yeah I was hurt and I cried my heart out…but I love my daughter and I am willing to do whatever it takes to make sure she grows up with a LOVING family and in a HAPPY home. My happiness and hers is more important than trying to chase him as he chases some slut….screw him. Get what you can and pick up the pieces…it will get better. It always does.
Go girl! I like that. I was just told by my husband that "he doesn't love me & he don't like me" in front of my face very phychotically…
He has been talking on skype to argentina with the lady from his highschool everyday when I am at work for 3-4 hours, so I told him I don't like that.
Last couple days he had slept in billionaire lady's house. They are friend from italian class 3 years ago. He got a tile job from her, but why he had to stay there and open the gate for the worker in the morning??? yesterday I found out when I came back from work he wasn't there… So I called him but he didn't answer then I left a message said," if you stayed over night, can you call me to let me know. Communication is very important!!"
Next morning, he called me and he was fine. When he came back from the place he was really upset and told me that he doesn't love me, and I don't feel you in my skin etc. I'm tired that you upset about everything..etc
I may put him into the corner, but well, if he thinks about me first (maybe second? after him) , he should communicate with me instead of pissed off…. I guess I gotta give up on him …
I don't understand why he can break like that for 8 years of relationship. well, he doesn't love me so I guess it is nothing for him.
Anyway, yeah! my happiness is more important than trying to get back him. I was crying reading all others posts, but thank you. I feel much better, I am not looking for how to fix, I am looking for how to move on from this selfish & so called kind man except me A-hole…
hi, my husband told me a month ago he doesn't love me no more. We have two daughters 2 and 7 and have been married 9 years. It was soo unexpected. But since he told me I have learned he is talking to his ex-fiance who is going through a divorce and they have been talking since July. I have even caught her at his work visiting after he told me he would not talk to her. Then he told her in front of me he was going to try to work on our marriage and they were over. But recently I found out they were still talking and when she was confronted she said he has apologized about telling her that and he wanted to be with her. He denies it,of course. And still says he wants to work on our marriage for the kids. But, I feel like he is still talking to her and he is just playing me for the fool, I am totally devestated and have to look at him knowing what he has done to our family. I would have never thought he was capable of being sooo cold after all the years and good times together. Now I'm not sure what to do…and I am soooo confused and hurt. I have to put on a happy face in front of the kids and I am so scared they will see a change in me …SO What do you do?
Wow.. men are so different then women. Women are typicallly more emotional (sensitive) and that totally works to their advantage. The father of my youngest also just left.. but it was best for the kids as the relationship was rough.
Im reading posts about men who wanted to "stay for the kids" as mine also wanted to.. no way in hell could i do that. I would be so miserable without security. Why would they voice this? If they were truely caring enough to stay for the kids.. why wouldnt they do so and not fill us in on that ugly little detail??? Just act happy as we often do and try to get along, continually trying to make things better hoping that they will.. instead they gotta open their big ignorant mouths and try to kick us while we are down. They hold the power because they dont care if the stay or if they go.
Take the power back. Go back to school, join a community group that interests you, network with other sinlge parents while you plot your new life without him.. get your support system in place then tell him to kiss your ass while you walk out the door!! Dont be afraid, you and the kids do not deserve to live under his conditions like that. There will be plenty of breakdowns along the way (LOL I JUST HAD ONE) but let it happen, its a release, you feel better when its done, and you pull yourself together and feel strong again). Life is TOO short to be staying with someone who is taking advantage of us. Good luck ladies!
My husband of 3 years told me two days before my birthday that he was not in love with me anymore. It has been about a month and he is acting like we are roommates which makes it hard because we both are attending grad school together. I feel that there is hope but I don't see him wanting to go get help. I am so confused and have no way to act. I am moody and get mad at a drop of a hat. But I just feel so stupid because I thought that everything was alright. Now if I touch his hand he asks me 'what am I doing?' What makes it worse is that my parents are coming for the holiday and he is going to act like nothing is wrong.
I am going through the same thing. I am so sorry for you and I hope someone has an answer.
my husband of 12 years told me the day after christmas that he did not love me anymore i caught him texting a co worker 3 months ago when i confronted him he said he would stop come to find out there have a relationship while were married and he been sneakin to her house i cant stop crying i have 3 kids with him and i am so confused
I have been married for 22 years and yesterday my husband told me he is not in love with me. He loves me as the mother of his children but that is it. He promised he would not divorce and put our children through that. I do not want to put our children through that either. I am scarred and how I will now treat him. I no longer understand my role as a wife. Do I continue to wash his clothes? Do I cook for him? Do I sleep in the same bed or take the couch? I do not know what to do. I am devistated.
i made a promise to my boyfriend of 7 months that i would always be there for him when he needed me. when he needed me one day, i could not be there. he said he felt "let down" and very mad and sad about what happened. Now, almost a week later, he still wont let it go. i saw him last night and we had a wonderful night until one minute he suddenly changed; he went from being happy and cuddly and laughing to reserved, mad and ignoring me. i was so confused and it tore me apart. i know i need to fix this and i need to tell him something that will put him at ease again. he has a bit of a temper and whenever we have problems sometimes it lashes out, but he always keeps his promises to me and treated me very well. i know this isn't the end of our relationship but i need some guidance and to what to do to fix this. i need to restore his trust in me and i would like to make him happy again. i talk to him a moderate amount and i feel we have had a healthy relationship with its ups and downs. and in the past, i've always found something to say and i have always found something that cheers him up in a couple minutes. i need help on what to say to him and how to stop this from happening again.
Say something like: "I am sorry I did not meet your expectations but it is unloving of you to hold onto this. Rather, focus on controlling your temper. If you're like this (demanding, moody, attention seeking, immature) when we are dating what are you going to be like if we marry? And, take care of your own happiness. It is a far too big of an assignment to put on me or anyone else."
My husband just break my heart a month to our 4 years of marriage, he told me his love for me is gone & that he had no feeling for me anymore, he just took me like a friend, am in a state of shock! have been crying & begging him to come back & at the same time i found out that he is having an affar but i did know for how long, i think it was nov2007,but he told me the affair is over but he is still in touch with her & he never care to even hav sex with me anymore,am in pains because i still love him & want my marriage back,what should i do?
My boyfriend of 10 years, says he doesn't love me anymore and is tired of pretending. I feel like I just lost my bestfriend, that the great guy I meet died a long time ago, and I have been living with a stranger. I don't understand how a man can go out evernight and drink while he has a beauitful women at home? I know he's not seeing or has a interested in anyone, he claims he just wants to be alone. I know he is getting brian washed by his brother who has had a failed married and is nothing but a loser in life and would hate to see his brother happy. His brother has always put me down, and has gone as far to call me ugly. This is a sad situation because I feel like my boyfriend has had enough and is letting his brother win! I know in my heart my boyfriend is a good guy with good intentions, and is throwing away are relationship to make his brother happy. Any advice would be appreciated!! thank
Last night my boyfriend of 3 years told me he didn't care about our relationship anymore, and that he didn't really care about anything anymore.Then he said that he wasn't as attracted to me anymore as he used to be. He claims that he wants to be alone, and that he doesn't want to find someone else. What is dissapointing is that this guy used to be the "perfect" boyfriend, I am not even exaggerating. Is this depression? He doesn't show any other symptoms. I am just confused and hurt. We decided after a loooong talk, to stay together still. But after reading all these comments I'm afraid that a number of years down the line he will do the same thing. I think it would be better if we broke up, and I think I could find a better man. But I am too afraid to leave because I really love him. It doesn't make sense to me that he could stop caring about our relationship, if you love someone then you want to be with them right?! Like another respondent posted, I too have begun to feel like my boyfriends roommate, and it has sucked all the romance out of our relationship. But he wasn't that romantic to begin with. It's just odd. After reading all these comments I really do think we would all be better off leaving these men or letting them leave. And let them live alone with their insecurities. Honestly when did a good home life, family, wife and mother become too much for a guy to handle? It makes no sense except for that there's something wrong with them.
My husband of 4 months says we fight too much and that he is done trying… I am so hurt, he told me he didn't believe in divorce a year ago… and now he won't even talk about his decision with me… I love him deeply and would do anything… if he would try one more time but every time we talk he just says he doesn't want to be married.
Hi all,
My husband left last week after only 4 months marriage. We had been together for over 1 year and we loved each other to the point that we both considered to be each other's soulmates.
At the beginning of May I found out I was pregnant and since I am 44 and thought I couldn't, I was over the moon!! It was bliss until I miscarried in June. I was devastaded and felt unable to cope and moody. But my then boyfriend was very supportive that I thought I got thru it. In September we got married. Notice that he is 9 years younger and he wanted to change career and was studying to be a personal trainer. During that time I supported him financially. In October we decided to do IVF to get pregnant, I had to take loads for hormones for that, but eventually I got pregnant. At the beginning of December my company informed me that I would be made redundant due to the financial crisis. My husband just got a job in a gym but it took a while for him to be able to start contributing. He has 2 children from a previous marriage for whom he pays child support.
During the hormon therapy my moods were awful and we had many fights and everytime he couldn't 'deal' with me he went to his parents.
On New Year's Eve I miscarried again.
Now, I understand that pressure from working a new job and long hours made him very tired, my moods didin't help, mony pressure etc. but we talked and I said to him that I needed time to process my own emotions and patience on his side.
The last straw happened when he came to me for money to go see his children. I just freaked and shouted that I had enough and wanted a divorce.
We had a massive row, he threw things, name calling and in the end he left and told me he would never come back as I WASN'T the persone he had fallen in love anymore.
I am not justifying my behaviour, but under the circumstances I expected a little more understanding of what had happened in a short period of time and all the stress that we both had to suffer.
He said he couldn't cope with me, that I made his life unbearable and he didn't love me although when he picked up his things he said he cares for me and he wants me to be well and happy.
I am devastated as I believed and still believe in our marriage, that we could have work it out, and all we both needed was time to adjust.
My husband has been acting strange since dec 08. I've been trying to pry from him whatever was bothering him, but we would just get into these talks that led to nothing. He stopped saying 'i love you too' on the phone about a week ago, and it hurt so bad for him not to say it back that i finally told him we need to have a serious talk. he didnt actually tell me that he didnt love me, but i would keep asking if he did or why he didnt and he wouldnt respond. the only thing he told me is that he has bottled up so many emotions/problems over the past year that they just festered inside and he rotted away with them. he wants to get help but we cannot afford it right now. i've always told him to tell me how he feels or if something i am doing is wrong, but he just keeps everything inside. now he is a lifeless shell that goes through the same routine every day. what do i do? i want to tell him i love him but it hurts to hear 'okay' in response.
Britt Im having the exact same problem. I have/had a loving consistant husband. Who without fail for 7-8 years has told me he loves me and thinks im beautiful every day, texting me 10 time a day and calling me. Always by my side- never went out with his mates much, even when I went out with mine he would either come or he would stay home- usually to watch a game on tv or because he's had to get up early to work the next. He was very nurturing and did almost anything for me! I feel like a princess and couldn't believe what a great husband I had!
He's a hard worker and gets up really early and does like 13 hour days and works Mon-Sat and even Sundays some times. I want to believe that maybe he's burnt out and over his head finacially and that is the root of his problem?
Like you, I noticed a change in him from around christmas time 08. He's been going out more with his mates, had problems with work, stressed out, started to withdraw. Its gotten to the point now that he doesnt even kiss me hello or goodbye, doesnt text me anymore. He says he feels caged up atm with everything and he just wants to be alone to reflect. He feels we have grown apart. He is not feeling sexual at all and doesnt want to go there until he has sorted it out in his mind. He swares that he is not having an affair.
We have agreed to go see a councillor. I know what I want sorted out, I'm just not sure that he does! I hope it works out and that this councillor helps.
At this point I am just not understanding the dramatic shift in his feelings, when not long ago he was telling me that he couldnt imagine life without me and if anything happened he wouldnt be able to live with out me?
I've been married for 17 years and I have a similiar story to yours.
We have a daylight basement with bedroom/bathroom and my husband has moved down there at my request. He's been living downstairs since October. He told me he had "a" love for me, but didn't love me like he should. So I grieved, and then told him I couldn't share my bedroom with him anymore. He understood and agreed. Neither one of us wants to divorce. The situation, while sad, is working out just fine. Someone said to me, "How can you begin to heal when you are in the process of being hurt?". It made me think. And I knew that I needed my own space, and my own room where rejection was a constant thing. For now…..it's a solution.
I've been with my partner for 8 yrs. he's 4yrs younger and this was an issue to me before I committed to this relationship. I've been very vocal yet submissive in all aspects. i enjoy exchanging ideas not knowing he found it as argumentative and confrontational. Now he is very resentful and unhappy. I reassure him with my love everyday; and him the opposite. I have to reassure myself and this is difficult when we are no longer intimate for the past 4yrs. we've been so engrossed at work and lost everything that we regarded to as quality time. As a way of self-fulfillment, I gained a lot and now feel so ugly. I enrolled in a gym, eat healthy, reach out to him whenever possible, and serve him as I always did.
I am willing to change to be able to fix us but he remains cold, indifferent, judgmental, and verbally hurtful. I take responsibility for this change in him bec of what he endured in our initial years together unknowing that I suppressed his emotions and thoughts by raising mine. Everyday is a personal conflict and I am not always strong to have the right perspective.
I love him.
He told me to keep our promise to each other… never to let go, but he is taking every opportunity to prove me wrong, selfish, pretentious, a control freak, etc.. Every time I try to start a conversation, he winces and often times say "it's not important to me" and so I automatically take the queue to shut up. I cannot show him my love and end up holding back on him at times bec I was accused of being selfish. He said I do these things to keep him happy so that he will STAY with me. I have never heard this in my entire life and I am lost. We make the life of our partner good bec we love them and it becomes our happiness to see them happy. I never saw it in this light of being selfish.
Can we still be saved or is it time to throw in the towel? Bible says to voice out your thoughts and emotions but support on his decision. Is this still normal?
I'm turning 30 this year and my husband will turn 34. After 4 years of marriage, my husband told me he sometimes wished he was free. Free to do what he wanted, free to go where he wanted. We have a 3 year old son. My husband says he loves our son so very much. That everything he does is for our son. That his whole life is for our son. There was no more 'me' in there. Only last year, he had included me in those statements. He says he cares about me but the love has faded.
He won't divorce me, because of our son. I was devastated. I'm only turning 30 this year and feel like my whole world has come crashing down. I lost my father when I was 27 and now I've lost my husband.
We've decided to keep living together. I know it's for the wrong reasons. But what else can I do. I've accepted that my marriage is over but I really don't know what to do right now.
All I can do is keep praying to God to give me the strength to overcome the future.
My husband of 5 years told me he doesn't love me, he want to be just friends, we have a 1 year old kid. He is still living with me and ask me to have sex but at the end no hugs or kisses on the mouth, he said he got tired of me being so needy. Why is he still willing to have sex?. I told him I will go away in two weeks go back to my country and he ask me to stay more weeks cause he want his kid so much and he wants to figure it out how we are going to raise him. He seems very confident and treats me in a polite way, last night I hug him. He said that we had too much disagreements and that he is tired of fighthing for getting a good marriage with me and that he just realized that does not love me anymore and do not want to do any effort to get it right this time, however still want sex.. Please advise.
i have been with my husband for 13 years and we have been marry for five years and he just told me he dont think he is in love with me anymore my heart just hurt so bad i i dont no what to do please help me


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HP Software's community for IT leaders // April 2014Rate your security, but don't aim too high
A new report offers a new scale for measuring security maturity—and finds that it's not necessarily best to be the best.
The bottom line
What: A new report finds global IT security lacking, and offers a guide to improvement.
Why: While most SOCs are not yet mature enough, it's possible to "try too hard" and become rigid.
More: Download HP's free report, "2014 State of Security Operations."
With today's cybercriminals more successful than ever, and the cost to defend against cyber crime growing higher, enterprises are increasingly investing in a formal security operations center (SOC). But a new HP Enterprise Security study finds that while few organizations today have reached optimal maturity, it's also possible to go too far.
"Our adversaries aren't following tight controls for attacks and malware, and neither should we," says Jesse Emerson, director of HP security intelligence and operations consulting. "The right place for an enterprise is the level where enough operational components are consistent so you can drive a predictable operation, but not to a point of rigidity where the operation can't flex and respond to dynamic threats and adversaries."
HP Enterprise Security's "State of Security Operations" report is drawn from more than 90 assessments of 69 security operations organizations worldwide, performed over five years. It details a number of key learnings (further summarized in a pair of posts on this HP Enterprise Security blog). It also articulates a new scale for measuring security maturity, and warns about the need to balance maturity with flexibility.
Regrettably, an over-mature SOC is a problem that most companies would be lucky to have. Some stats:
- 24 percent of assessed security operations centers do not meet the minimum requirements to provide consistent security monitoring.
- Only 30 percent of assessed organizations are meeting business goals and compliance requirements.
"Very few organizations are overachieving in terms of maturity," Emerson says.
A few holes in your SOC
To measure the maturity of an SOC, the report unveils the Security Operations Maturity Model and Methodology (SOMM). Companies with no security operations capability are rated a 0, while a score of 5 is given for a capability that is tightly controlled, continually measured, and ever-evolving.
Level 5, however, is not the goal.
"If you're trying to maintain a level higher than a level 3, there's a huge investment and overhead associated with that," Emerson says. By level 5, analyst procedures are often overly detailed, including exhaustive screen shots and flow charts—details that limit the quality and speed of response. "The benefits of your SOC are overshadowed by cost."
Higher levels of maturity can make sense for specific business profiles. Level 4 is optimal for managed security service providers (MSSPs), for whom the benefits of consistency and repeatability can outweigh the cost of decreased responsiveness. And level 5, says Emerson, "is only appropriate when you have zero tolerance for deviations and a fixed scope of defense of a tightly controlled environment."
Best practices for standout SOCs
Companies with optimized SOCs are learning more than just restraint. They are discovering new best practices that leverage the flexibility and dynamism of optimal—not maximal—maturity. These smart tactics tend to align with the four primary criteria of SOC maturity: people, processes, technology, and business alignment. Some highlights include:
- Relationships and communication matter. Seeking round-the-clock diligence, many security organizations follow the sun with geographically distributed teams—which are significantly less effective than single-location teams. Emerson notes that differences in team culture and geographical culture can lead to different priorities and an unhealthy tension. Sometimes data privacy and data export regulations preclude a single-location SOC, but when possible, a 24x7 team in one location with plenty of shift overlap delivers the best overall result.
- Adopt a SIEM. Data silos are common in enterprise security. A security information and event management (SIEM) system provides a single pane of glass across a wide spectrum of disparate security data and provides analytical efficiencies that are a necessity with today's data volume.
- Learn to prioritize. It's no longer feasible to approach your security strategy as if you can prevent every exploit and attack. The reality is that you'll be breached far more often than you'd like. Instead, security needs to engage with the business to prioritize information assets and focus spending to protect high-value targets.
Don't take the "quick" route to maturity
While the entire point of security maturity is to prevent a breach, the report found that getting breached is the fastest way to bring focus to your security maturity. It's a unique opportunity to fail forward. Post-breach SOCs are usually built up quickly to limit future impact of a breach and demonstrate due diligence in the wake of a loss.
However, with the State of Security Operations report in hand, and a fresh focus on the maturity of your security strategy, you can make immediate improvements to your security operations center before a successful attack occurs.
Learn more about the state of SOC maturity in organizations worldwide and core best practices in the "2014 State of Security Operations" report.
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Don't believe anything you saw or heard about Punxsutawney Phil seeing his shadow yesterday, and all this six more weeks of winter stuff.
I have inside information he was an imposter.
The real PP peeked his head from his burrow and said, "What shadow? Phew, it's spring already, or is it?"
He's confused, and I hear under mild sedation.
No getting around it; so far this winter is a washout.
You remember winter, don't you?
It's the coldest season of the year, located between autumn and spring, from an old Germanic word that means "time of water."
Old Man Winter, no doubt pining away for the good old days, when it hit North America in 1607 causing Lake Superior to be covered in ice until June.
Instead of temperatures this week like this:
Washington, DC: 72 degrees, where the average is 44.
New York City: 63 degrees, where the average is 39.
Chicago, buried under about 2 feet of snow a year ago, is having its warmest winter in 80 years.
In Bismarck, ND, 5.9 inches of snow have fallen this winter — the average is 29 inches.
Daffodils are already in bloom in NW Mississippi.
The National Climatic Data Center says 19 percent of the USA had snow on the ground this Wednesday.
As opposed to a year ago when 52 percent of the country was snow-covered.
Meteorologists, who have been known to be wrong before, say it's all about the jet stream cutting off the cold air for much of the winter, sending it north of the USA.
All of which is causing ski resorts to artificially produce their own snow, ice fishing derbies to be canceled and other such calamities.
So...how are you coping with this unexpected weather?
Artificial snow, artificial eggs, artificial butter, artificial . . .
I've gotten a jump on my garden. Next to my computer I have flats of seedling vegetables already sprouting, and I've turned, composted, and mulched most of my yard for a big garden this year.
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, I want my winter, I want my melancholy, I want my gray days of snuggled in bed reading....................I alas don't want two springs..........................I love Phil..........may his shadow prove true!
Morning RY, LOT, & SAJ........................have a loverly day!
I wish Phil had a brother & if HE saw his shadow then Donald Trump would not show up on tv for 6 years........................what a trip to creepytown he is................................
It's really cold here, a belated visit from winter. The mountains have snow on them, which somehow makes them look larger. The days have been crisp and dry and sunny. We don't have groundhogs. SAJ, me too with the sprouting seedlings. The weather has been so odd that I have a solitary pink rose in full flower.
Shorts, Flops, and Endless Summer T's. Politics. Weather. Religion Next? Let's give 'em something to talk about. Going to visit a friend at a Bluegrass Festival. There's that Blue Moon of Kentucky awaiting. After my show closes I'm gonna take me a cruise and hope that is doesn't snow in the Turks and Caicos and my boat doesn't turn over. You gotta admit Groundhog Day is some kind of weird....but none less than getting shot in the ass with an arrow by a flying red dude who inspires you to fall in love & buy candy, flowers and cards. Actually surprised Hallmark hasn't cashed in on GH day. And you don't trust the Government and Big Biz...gullible earthlings...
Thus far I have managed to procrastinate about changing the belts on my snowblower. I am not great at doing mechanic's chores, and there is no snow in the forecast. The one down side to all this is that we have not had the cold weather needed to kill of a bunch of the insects. I have read that if you have temperatures in the 20's for two weeks solid, a bunch of the mosquitos and other beasties die off. If not, then there is a surplus of the winged pests the next summer. We will be in Santa Barbara on February 10-13 for our grandson's fifth birthday. When we have had bad winters, it has been a nice respite, with its Mediterranean climate. It will still be nice. Oddly enough, here in the D.C. area, we have had enough rain to almost keep up with the average precipitation, so we are not having a winter drought despite the lack of snow. Oh well. Bundle up, villagers, and don't forget your sunscreen.
It's been cold here and even had a little snow, enough that I had to pay to get my driveway cleared (my driveway could be a whole topic on its own -- we <not so fondly> refer to it as Mt. Cohen). Every now and again it gets warm in winter, or relatively warm, and I'm so grateful it does......and yet, I do know, that my heating bill was still $598 and we keep the temp at 69 degrees, and I do know that my skin has that crummyl scaly wintery dried out thing going on and so I do know that it's winter.
Denver didn't get the warm winter memo. Groundhog confirmed. Newt takes class in telephone etiquette.
I am sitting here in the bright sunlight just loving it. I am neither a cold weather person or a hot weather person. I would prefer not to have to buy socks and it hasn't happened yet. Just as some people are always freezing I am always kicking off the covers. Maybe its all those years in 120degree kitchens. I keep my thermostat at 58 or so and I am loving saving money SO far this winter. However thhis is New England and the one thing you can count on is that you can't count on the weather. My birthday is in May and I remember sitting in despair in a tent set for a catering job the following night, watching the snow come down. So if next week I am telling you my own driveway plowing story it wouldn't surprise me!
One thing I have missed is that last winter with tons of snow everywhere, I put food for the birds directly on the snowtopped deck. I would have scores of birds and squirrels and even a rat one time all eating together and it was fantastic to watch.
LYNN is it true the Cherry Blossoms have gotten confused and come out?
"Groundhog Day"
Great movie. If you haven't seen it at least once, it is time that you do something about that gaping hole in the fabric of your cultural literacy.
No snow on the rooftops… very unusual.
I have to go pick up two guest grand dogs that will be here for the weekend while their family is in MissIve country for a college sporting event.
They're okay little dogs but they take up too much couch and one of them needs his butt wiped before coming back in from the yard.
Which, for some reason, reminds me of having to memorize the surnames of twenty-odd college classmates and doing it by assigning helpful nicknames.
One guy, "Pin" Chaloffe, wasn't grateful when it got around and stuck.
bebe ~
You're right, we're being cheated out of winter and we will never get it back.
ChefDeb ~
Until you mentioned it, it had not dawned on me that though we live near the water, the only rat I have ever seen was hanging limply in the talons of the Great Horned Owl.
Lots of mice, voles and chippies though.
You know Stoney, this particular rat was quite the character. Quite big bold and chubby. Now mind you, I did not want him to be a rat. First I thought he was a genetic freak mouse. Then I decided he was a vole and was satisfied with that, but reality can bite. And one day when friends and I were watching the wildlife feeding show, up comes Mr. Tatooey and consensus was that I am an idiot and he was indeed a Rat. Even down at the harbor where I had a restaurant I never saw a rat! Skunks aplenty however.
Okay, granted, off-subject, but who was it that started the "John Jacob Jingleheimer" thing? I can't get it out of my head! ! !
Back on winter subject: and my bones ache -- it's winter and I feel it, no matter what the rat said. (And we know, who can trust rats?)
morning Andy,bebe,stoney and all.
ChefDeb, I remember the winter our daughter
turned 1 year old. We had a big snow fall (for us any way) and the snow lay a
foot deep with drifts up to 5 feet. We threw our bird feed out of a window onto
the deep snow. She stood with her little nose pressed to the glass and watched
the birds and squirrels for hours.
Thank you -- at least now I know who to blame! I even sang it to my husband -- who's kind of used to these strange things from me, but it did get a look, you know that look. Hopefully I can keep it to myself when the kids are over or I'll be signing on from the home.
Dinkelheimer he was at Boy Scout camp in 1951. I was a classical musician then too, and I couldn't get it out of my head for forty days and forty nights. How my parents must have suffered! The winters were colder then, too.
Puxsutawney Phil, saw his shadow and the citizens of Pennsylvania, mostly the elderly, women and children, the poorest citizens of are commonwealth, are going to have to starve through the not just 6 more weeks of Winter, but the Spring, Summer and Fall...and winter..of next year..and following years.....and so on the Republican body of representatives reinstated the asset test, not the mean test...that is a federal policy, the asset test is not even a necessity..no real reason to even adminster this test...for saving money; see how dumb,,,,Dumbo the Elephant..just trying to be gotcha moment....they have to hire more buearcratic people to go and check the value of everyone's cars..if the car is< less than $4,800 then they qualify for food stamps; if not, they do not qualify...so car ownership of single parent mom...is not even a dream....to be gifted....so there are being a penny wise and a pound foolish! The cost to adminster the asset test, is likely to cost more than there are opportunities to save money...Pennsylvania is under someone else's jurisdiction just becasue we are the commonwealth...i know this to be sure....were the "TEST" them out State..*******************************it is ashamed how we humans in the government policy makers are so jealous and money greedy******my friend Marnita said "they just wont give the poor person a chance...*********she had passed away, I knew her since Nursery School she said the same about Obama....,she fought hard..to help people*******************The state, of Indiana, is now to join 26 other states as a Right to Work state. so if you are told to quit or given a pink slip even though you file with EEOC, you will not be reinstated..it is..."I am the employer and, even though I am state funded, if I do not want you to work, you have no say, at all, You're Fired..move on...."this is right to work ....so do not feel ever that you have job security...it is weeded the workers...to keep pay as low and extreme LEAN & MEAN and that is all so, a reminder that be on your best...topnotch competition....so pensions are only a memory...survival of the fittest...? this is just an opinion...My next opionion from now on will be just more DELIGHTFUL! Peace Out!
Help! What is a groundhog? How big are they? What's the story with them and weather forecasting?
Hazel, I don't know if this link will work, but it will show you pictures of groundhogs. They are really cute. I think they are strictly a North Amerian animal. As far as the history of Groundhog day, I don't know, but like Stoney said above, you should rent the movie.
Is Punxsutawney Phil
For real?
Or is he, sob, sob,
Just another snow job?
And out pops Roseanne Barr running for President casting a mere shadow of her former self. (Hope she doesn't sing at the inaugural). You can't invent this stuff. But frankly, she looks better than ever. I think a day to discuss the dozen or so "3rd Parties" might be Arte Johnson Interesting.
I, for one, am enjoying this non-winter. Living in WI, I keep waiting for the "big one" to hit. Every time it gets cold and snows, I think ok, winter is here, but then the next week it warms up again and the snow all melts. If this pattern keeps up through Feb, I think we will have actually dodged winter. We'll get snow in March/April/May, but by then, it won't stay around very long. I like winter, but don't mind the break this year.
I grew up in NJ where the winters were not very fierce. Then I moved to St. Paul, MN where they have real winters. I loved it. Surving 20 below with 100 below windchill invigorated me. I love the way the snow squeaks when it is really cold out. You haven't lived until the first time 0 degrees feels warm. It's crazy--those of you who know what I'm talking about will understand.
I'm sure winter will come back next year. Brrr.
And out pops Roseanne Barr running for President casting a mere shadow of her former self. (Hope she doesn't sing at the inaugural). You can't invent this stuff. But frankly, she looks better than ever. I think a day to discuss the dozen or so "3rd Parties" might be Arte Johnson Interesting.
Last winter here in the Midwest was the prototypical picture postcard winter. It hastened my retirement....who wants to be driving in the snow and ice that we had? This year has brought forth the almost spring that the rest of you are experiencing, but no regrets about not working anymore, that's for sure! We had a snap of very bitter cold accompanied by cutting winds that drove me to my closet to get out my trusty fur hat, fur collar parka and shearling boots.....one gentleman looking at me in the store said (in a broadly fake accent) "You look Russain! You look Russian!" I assured him I was not, then sans his fake Russian accent, he wished me good day. The thing is......I really love the coats and hats and trappings of winter. Hazel--- I hear that winter has really come around and hit you all hard. Stay warm and safe. It's always cozy in the club car!
Park4 & Miss Blue ~
Nice photos.
It would be hard to argue with this show's title:
l marjorie~ Thanks! What sweet little creatures. I'm sure I would not think so if they invaded my vegetable garden. You know (or maybe not) cats will bring a dead mouse into the house and play with it, bat it around the floor, toss it up in the air ...... and it lands somewhere. So I put my boots on this morning and guess what squelchy, crunchy pussy-cat gift greeted my left foot? O yukkk! I still can't work out how big groundhogs are - mouse size? guinea pig size? cat size?
Pardon me, I Berted. Hazel, they are good sized creatures....as big as a VERY large house cat.
Eeeeeeewwwwww! Miss Blue ~ that's big. The way I first read it said "big as a very large house" then I noticed "cat" on the next line. I'm going to have nightmares about furry creatures.
Tommy Typical....3rd Parties..i can agree on.... Sis Cum Ba!!!! My Lord....sis cum ba..presently there are new millionaires and great profitable new industry...old systems need changed..etc.....Keeping people at a continuous Low pay .......for workers implies lack of community prestige and/or unaffordable living cost attainment in a society devoted to economic gain for survival; there are companys'that hire at the lowest possible wages that will support life....but what is worse , companys' have no sympathy, they disenfranchise themselves from their own worker ethics or community they are serving; no encouragement for any one; jobs unattractive with its low pay, hard work, insecurity, and lack of prestige does not work to elevate and improve a positive profitable work ethic and foremost a Productive Economic Environment. Bring Pennsylvania UP in "Pennsylvania "Peps YOU UP" attitude : great place to live work, farm, cultivatie Industry & Technology....attitude....The newest generation is really electric and smart,they will be big earth shaker and I am hoping that, You Can Too, 21st Century campaign empowers the young people..for instance, more entrepeneurs...farmers....environmental scientists...Master Teachers...Ballet Instructors..Engineers....Again, we are the Energy Capital of the World!!!! let's not go backwards....in policy lawmakers decisions...just because of party loyalty...so the idea of bringing back the Asset Test...is something i do not agree with....hope my memory servse me correct on this topic...it is my opinion...on this day..for now...i always like the earth campaign button "share and care.".theme.It was once said," Woman fundraise for a cause, plan ( i added this), idea for seeing a project through to completion( i added this) ; men raise money for a statue w/ a copper plague with their name on it...i know it is partially true...i just wanted to mention this notion....i am not conclusive with this idea..
I walked Taro, today, February 3 2012, noticed the Dandelions bloomed.Heres my poem for today:**********A Honey of a Dandelion Wish******************** Children delight in the signs of Spring************the warm air breezes*********curious eyes find the brightly honey yellow Dandelion**************the warm wind blows********time moves forward***********like magic, the circular yellow flower-heads turn into puffy globes of crystal lace*******************the child's hopeful Dandelion Wish is memorized*********children drawn to the puffy crystal lace floral character in the green grass*******grab a hold at the stem of the puffy flower************quickly, the child's blow at the globe************sends the crystal lace-like fairies into the sky***************the fairies carry the child's wishes*************the warm breezes of the outdoor sky****************carries the hopes of a child to the clouds.*****
Just when you thought it was safe to go back into the water.......
I decided to stay on the pier 'cos it is a Hounds of the Baskerville foggy and moody kinda of day which has many merits but I need a dose of vitamin D so back to Groundhog Day....the movie. My neck of the woods claim to fame is that the Towne Square scenes were filmed in Woodstock IL's very own picturesque Towne Square which is also the home of the Dick Tracy Museum.
Miss Blue, I Marjorie,..... Thanks a bunch for the snow photos. I love the sight of still white snow that isn't waiting for me to shovel it.
Catch'ya on the flip side........
Chef Deb - I have not heard about any cherry trees blooming in the District. We run a bit cooler in Arlington, and our two Yoshino cherry trees are still snug in winter mode. It would not surprise me if the crocuses made an early appearance, however. It is a bit cooler today, in the mid-fifties. Some spots got up to 70° yesterday! It was not a record, but quite something. We do look forward to spring, and hope it lasts a while. We spend more time with windows closed for airconditioning than we do for heating. We pay for our mild winters with our summers. I still think the summer heat is from the hot air on Capitol Hill. Too many wind bags up there (from BOTH parties).
Hazel/Miss Blue--I had the same reaction. I didn't see the word cat right away either. I thought Miss Blue was messing with you and painting a picture of this huge creature burrowing through Pennsylvania. Horrors!
Are groundhogs the same as woodchucks?
Holy Poo! what did Rosanne do to herself - haven't seen anything about her in ages but obviously she has be making some enormous adjustments. I wonder if she adjusted her mouth and what comes out of if. Interesting!!
Lynn - there was some blurb in The Post and on WTOP regarding the possible blossoming of the cherry trees but nothing came of it and it sort of whet PUFF!!
Thinking of Pennsylvania always makes me think of, Eleanor Geisman .......
Sposta be Winter here ....... Eighty-One Degrees outside ....... I had my Winter Clothes Cleaned and Pressed for nothing, my Winter Hats cleaned and Blocked for nothing ...
I supposed I shall have to look upon the futile exercise as having stimulated the Economy
PL-You're welcome. Now that I've figured out how to post pictures, it's kind of fun. We had some good snow last winter. And I agree about the shoveling part.
We had a lot of snow about two weeks ago, with about 3-4 inches still on the ground but the temps the last few days have gotten into the mid 40's. All snow is good in the mountains . It means the ski areas can operate and also the snow pack in the mountains means that the agricultureal community (the biggest employer in the area can have a good season. Where we are there is not very much rain so in the spring and throughout the summer the runoff from melting snow will fill the irrigation ditches and our crops will be ok. Also the rivers will have some very good rafting and tubeing. Need the melting snow in order to keep the hop fields (for beer) and grapes growing.
If you are wondering where winter has been hiding…and be
careful what you wish for or what it is for which you wish...
I am going back to my island. jjjs...
Good day, all. Because I love gray drizzly days, when the sky is pearlized, I fear (and believe in) global warming.
As to Punxatawney Phil, I learned recently that several states have their own version: Georgia's is (wouldn't you know) General Beauregard Lee. He didn't see his shadow this morning, by the way.
I envy you snowy folk! I sit here barefooted as a yard dog, in short-sleeved t-shirt and cotton pants.
Off Topic: someone in the Village mentioned recently that she never shows whether she'll be welcomed as a guest, or as herself. I have the same problem, so you're not alone.
Good morning from the West Coast! We're at 60 degrees here today. I wouldn't mind a bit of a cold snap, just to give me a respite from the pollen. But the finches are back in my backyard.
Hazel~ I am so sorry for your poor foot! I'd be bleaching out the boot and the sole of my foot for days. We had a cat in Idaho when I was a girl. He had gotten fairly chubby and lethargic before we moved to South Carolina with him. For the first two months, he ate everything that he could find running around our backyard, in great excitement. Sadly, it took him the full two months before he learned that eating lizards would make him sick, sick, sick. Nothing more horrendous than finding half-digested lizard parts on the Welcome Mat.
And Bebe, I couldn't agree more with your sentiment about Trump. Yikes!
I think we of the Upper Midwest know in our heart-of-hearts, as well as in our bones, that there is for certain at lesst one mongo snow fall with our name on, if not more. Each warm day now probably just narrows the opportunity.
Georgia - " barefoot as a yard dog ".........I like that. When the flakes do fall, I'll send some your way. Keep your boots by the door.
i marjorie, groundhog and woodchuck are the same. Just depends where the animal lives --east or west.
I'm still hoping for one good snow to clean the air and maybe kill off some of those bugs.
Groundhog, woodchuck, whistlepig, land beaver, marmots = all the same critter, it seems. We see them along the sides of the rural roads, and sometimes road kill on the yellow line in the road, here in N. GA. Cute little fellows, but not popular with the farmers, as they dig up hills and burrow holes, as well as eat up alfalfa or other tasty agricultural greenery. Apparently, they grow up to 8-9 pounds and the average one lives about 4 years, but in captivity - away from the predators, wolves, coyotes, bobcats, hawks, snakes - may live 20+.
I was accustomed to seeing one for several years that lived in the edge of a horse's pasture which I passed daily , and he/she was cute sitting up like a little dog begging, but one day last fall, there he was all prone on the white line at the side of the road, a victim of his curiosity, I suppose. Like one of those curious possums or squirrels we see all the time in the road.
Like moles and voles, these cute animals seem to have a lot of enemies.
As to the topic, it is in the 60's here, and was 70 yesterday. Daffodils are up and confused, as are the blooming tulip trees....I fear a freeze will yet darken their optimism.
Agreeing with ChefDeb, I like it mild and comfortable, not too hot, not too cold. A little snow, maybe a few inches that melt in a day or two, without the icy roads is nice for beauty, but last winter was waay overdone. As said, this mild winter will no doubt bring us a storm of gnat and mosquitoes in summer.
I have no confidence in the marmot's predictions about the length of winter, so it is a non-issue to me. Groundhog Day as a movie was entertaining the first time, but not one I'd want to repeat....pun intended.
Groundhog, woodchuck or woodchock in Shawnee are the same animal that are super cute, brown/black furry, pugy, and jiggles when it runs; if you out in the woods....mostly you see a jiggling runnin bit of fur...that a groundhog; I have a woodchuck nest in my backyard.They will dig out and entrance and a exit in the ground, but they will not tunnel like a mole. My dog Taro, chased a goundhog up a tree....there was a stand-off...for a couple of hours..Taro left the scene; could not wait any longer; I read three newspapers a day; my father owned a very established Lumber Company; and our family debated quite often at the dinner table; so if I post, with a passion or give "my view Opinion that is not popular, excuse me i am not running for office; and this is Freeform writing...; or a very opinionated thought concern...Its usually Hot OFF The Press ...mind thinking...******government mind policies, need even more intervention with think tank brain thinking jiggling woodchucks...who really know how to run and ramble...If there isa a Third Party what would their mascot be: a jiggling woodchuck, rolly polly Bear, or a Horse of Course!
Seems Elliott Erwitt ... has a Book out Titled, "DOG DOGS" ... and on the Front Cover of the Book is a Picture of what absolutely must be one of Floyd's very close Relatives ....... I was rather startled, actually .......
Pennsylvania 6-5000 .......
Peter Lake ~
That is interesting about your town square. Have they filled in that pothole next to the curb?
Is Ned Ryerson your insurance agent?
Some favorite lines...
Phil: Well, what if there is no tomorrow? There wasn't one today.
Phil: You wanna throw up here, or you wanna throw up in the car?
Ralph: I think... both
Phil: It's the same thing your whole life: "Clean up your room. Stand up straight. Pick up your feet. Take it like a man. Be nice to your sister. Don't mix beer and wine, ever." Oh yeah: "Don't drive on the railroad track."
Gus: Well, Phil, that's one I happen to agree with.
Ivan ~
This one?
How 'bout a round of Whistle Pig Old Fashioneds ?See you in the Club Car
They're not all the same critter, Moose - but they must be kissin cousins because the resemblance is sure there. One of them has been falling into our window well this warm winter, it is HUGE, I know what it's not, as in rat mouse racoon possum groundhog badger beaver - although it's got teeth...first time in fell in I saw it from the basement window. We went out and stared down at it, and It stared up at us, and being a one time city girl, I said "I think we should call Animal Control." Well, there isn't Animal Control out here in the country, the town cop came though, he looked down at It, and It looked up at all three of Us, and I asked him "What is it?" and he, a native of these parts, said (drum roll)... "Damned if I know." We put a log down into the well and like a good It or Thing, it must have climbed out, because next day it was gone.............Otherwise I'd have to feed it or something, I can't have this furry animal living in my window well and starving to death. ANYHOW, it's fallen in two times since, and we put the log down into the well, and it leaves. So far this month (this being Day 3) It hasn't fallen back in, but I'm betting it will. Whatever It is, It seems to like it down there.
On this Day in 1969 ... Yasser Arabfat was made Head of the P L O .......
In spite of the the useless iota above, I am Wishing Everyone in This Village
a Great Weekend, and Hope That You Too Are Enjoying Unseasonably Pleasant Weathere ... I Wish You Lots of Family, Good Friends, Good Food, Good Wine, and Whatever Makes You Happy !!! Be Safe, Be Well, and Forget about Monday until it gets here .......
To the TRIBE: a GOOD SHABBOS !!!
A Sabbath of Peace, Joy, and Rest Be Yours, With All Grace Attending .......
"Beware of Dogs, Beware of evilworkers, Beware of the Concision ... For We are the Circumcision Who Worship G_D in The Spirit, Rejoicing in Moshiach, Having No Confidence in the Flesh ..."
May Our Rest Be Pleasing Unto Him Who Brought Us Here .......
Blessings Upon You All .......
I do declare, Miss Blue, that is one fine idea to salute the evening hours that way on this drippy, rainy, grey and chilly day! Cheers!
Owner's Manual 93 catalog came in the mail ; I put in an order for the Bib Stripe Blouse, long sleeve, this new catalog is vibrant, electric, and colorful...love the poka-dot dresses...especially the South Beech Dress very cool and colleger feeling! Sunny and bright in southwest Pennsylvania! ; ) ...
Miss Blue, there really is a Whistle Pig Old Fashioned?! (I googled it as I was curious about the name) As you may know, Old Fashioned is the WI state beverage, but they are always made with Brandy. I've been curious about Rye whiskey. It seemed to be the liquor of choice a generation or two ago--they always drink rye in those old black and white movies. I'm pretty sure that when my Mom made a "highball" back in '60's it was with Rye.
Anyway, I'm in!
Thank you Ivan! And blessings back to you and the Krewe many times over!
Highballs! I marjorie, that was my mom and dad's drink in the sixties - ginger ale and rye on ice in tall glass. They had this group of friends they called the 800 (there was ten of them so, ?) and all of them would have highballs, walnut coffee table with three highball glasses sitting on cocktail napkins all in a row. I'd have to come out from my room to check on the 800 to see what they were up to, to take inventory of the hors d'oeuvres - to my adolescent eyes, they were doing nothing, but the level (and frequency) of laughter would rise as the night went on. Must have been the rye, because it sure wasn't the ginger ale.
Sabbath Blessings for you and yours dear Ivan.
I was unaware that Old Fashioned was the state drink of WI.
It was the favorite drink of my best friend's parents....way back when. Iris ALWAYS used Rye
for them, and the Manhattans.
Puxsutawney, I did, I drove up there.to this well known town the downtown is great...like most quaint towns.....I knew alot of College athletes there...alot of historic victorian houses...the movie was really great...loved the movie...but yea...hometown spirit thing... tear jerks..'n' all...the town, only the city council put alot of the Puxsutawney Phils statues everywhere on the cornors of the town and like the movie...it gives you a Tacky feeling...fun for kids...Disney@Puxsutawney...i went water fossil collecting and walked in their ankle deep stream...in the area walked up and down the neighborhood victorian homes ; trout fishing spots..did find alot exceptional....architecture...*****but again, Pennsylvania is beautiful...and the people are A +hospitality. What's nice about Pennsylvania you live at point A,,,and you can drive 15 minutes or 40 minutes and you in a new town, different forest, farm, artist shop and shops, shops, everyway..a library in every town...and the thrift shops are filled with bargins...so much fun!...Plus, Pennsyvania has more license boaters than Florida...you would not think that but we have alot of seasonal water sports....going to Auction tomorrow...hip hip cheap cheap hooray....
Crown Royal is an excellent rye
whiskey, it will chase away the chill on a cold winter night.
I have heard talk of a Templeton Rye
that is available only in Iowa and a few select stores in Chicago, but I can't
recall where I heard that. Good tune, "Miss Blue", thanks for the
hello. I sometimes wonder if anyone is
out there other than me and a few others. Blogging is not in my portfolio, "Chef Deb" I like to think of myself as a quipster, whilst I am thinking of myself.
The Club Car
is Open.
Miss Blue, having locked Petra in the mail car and requisitioned the Fuchsia Tango Dress) looks
stunning. The hors d'oeuvres, prepared under the expert guidance of ChefDeb, were
an absolute sensation.
Miss blue discretely
gives Floyd the nod.....
Syd--I do believe you might have heard of Templeton's from our own dear 'Jalopkin" who praises it highly from time to time. The Sepia train club car certainly seems lively tonight---keep juggling those ice cubes, Miss Blue.....and whoever is pouring--keep pouring!! Floyd will lick those spilled ice pieces.....ChefDeb...you have absolutely outdone yourself tonight--we were only expecting some mixed nutmeats. What a wonderful start to a weekend...........tally-ho! Cheers!
Miss PARK4, Ginger ale effervesces. It is wonderful for the spirits. I seldom get a chance to use that word and I
do so enjoy saying it. Say it along with
me, won't you? Effervesces. Ef·fer·vesc·es,
yes, that's the ticket.
Carol, I hope that Jalopkin chap is joking when he cautions
us to beware of dogs.
Thank you, Ivan, and to you as well.
PS -- again, off subject, to those of you who mentioned that you were fans, I just started Jo Nesbo's book "The Leopard" -- catches you right away.
I must apologize.
Sooner or later I knew this would happen. I was spending the day on the
previous page, relaxing and recuperating.
I left my computer unattended and what should occur but the dog (the dog
being much more brilliant than I) happens upon my unattended computer and
starts toying with y'all. I fully understand why Ivan would caution us to beware
the dog. They are such tricksters when left to their own devices, that they are;
one can't turn one's back on them for a
I will bid you all a fond good night and those who were not in attendance
over these last few hours are sure to wonder just who in the blue blazes is
this Syd fellow you've been going on about.
MISS BLUE It was only the nectar of your cocktails and the inspiring soundtrack that made my little culinary contributions taste so good...a great ride indeed!
Syd Barrett I thought in my acid washed jeans you ol brick in the wall who maintained you had an irregular head. I bought that ol turnip truck I fell off of & now I wear a seat belt so I drive with that lunatic in my head.
I hope that no one at the Club Car happy hour event noticed my Ascot was a Cub Scout scarf. Coco sez you live but once & you might as well be amusing.
Groundhog Day is a pleasant diversion for elementary school children and weather persons and that's about it although it is probably cheaper that trying to figure out which end of a trip seems shorter.
Georgia ~
Nice to see you… really nice.
Miss Blue ~
You know what I meant.
Andy, the Leopard is very good.... Makes you pay attention,and better yet, want to pay attention.... I'm reading his book The Devil Star now. I think you will like this one too.
I posted this on Yesterday by mistake. When it comes to theSepia's club car, we seem to see EyE to EyE.
February 03, 2012 6:46 PM
Peter Lake said...
Doing the right thing always trumps the best of intentions.....but good intentions are a good start.
Peace out fellow people of the EyE. The lamp is lit in theSepia's club car so it is way past time to stop kicking and dragging that poor dead horse of this week's political hot potato topic around and enjoy a sunny, fresh scented breeze in the air from the mountains, fields, and shores evening and weekend.
Sit back, relax, and enjoy the friendships and comraderie that attracts us to this place.
Even if just for a short while,........ Don't let worry rob you of the good times we have.
Northsider, please save me a seat by the window but not too far from the fire place.
Georgia, " barefoot as a yard dog'... I like that, a lot. What a way with words you have. When our snow arrives, I will surely send a drift or two your way to do with as you may.
STONEY............................so nice that you are dogsitting....................remember, a clean b*tt is a nice b*tt!
MISS BLUE..................top o' the evening to you!
PARK.....................I have never had a highball, but they have always sounded so very glamorous...................surely only beautiful people drank them..................I shall have one before the year is out...................and I shall toast to your parents' memory......................
CHEFD...........................58', you crazy gal......................our classroom was a roastaterium today......................
OT.....................I finished reading Charlotte's Web to the class yesterday & today we watched the movie, the new one ( from 96 I believe) & it is absolutely delightful...................you pretty much just want to kiss Wilbur nonstop....................
PL.................the sepia train sounds so nice tonight..........drifting along, relaxing in comfy velvet softness, w/ delicious drinks & nibbles................mmmmmmmm..................
PAOLOS......................I have a magnifying glass that I keep in a CR flannel bag.................is SYD WILLIE???????????????????????????????? hhhhhmmmmm...............
IVAN.........................blessings back to you. send snowflakes please...................
no, no.....it's "C'MON IN, SYD-OWN, SYD-OWN OVER BY 'DERE, NEXTA DA FIRE PLACE...WHADKIN I GETS YA'S?
Now HERE is a a trivia question: which came first, CR bag, or Dopp kit?
RoadYacht My husband has a number of those purple bags filled with antique coins and all sorts of this and that.
"And the people all said Syd down Syd down you're rocking the boat!""
If you are gonna sport an Errol Flynn moustache ya gotta not scrimp on the spirit gum. After rehearsal Ms Typical has a chocolate bread pudding waiting for me and the moo juice is chilled to ice crystal poifection!!!
wellllllllll, I know I never received an invitation buttttttttt...things like never stopped me anyway, soooooooo, (assuming the bar is open to all and sundry), I'd like a nice Bailey's Irish Creme please from our bartender of note and then me and my groundhog would be just pleased as punch to sit here a while and soak up the ambience and enjoy the camaraderie of all you so knowledgeable and utterly fascinating people. Sainte
Blessings on you and yours Ivan. You left too soon for me to express my felicitations.
Anam Cara--just showing up is invite enough! That's what we all do.........come in, "Syd" a spell and enjoy your Bailey's......yesssss....isn't it cozy? You never know who'll show up or what you might hear.............or even, what you might say! Now, don't you feel better with your feet up and your glass full once again?
...and all newbies get to use the coin operated mirrior free the first time...go on, it is strangely addicting,(that is how the party fund gets its vig)everyone has a side they'd love to see when they look in a mirror, and for just a few little coins, you may just....
Now HERE is an interesting thing to look at....and now that Master locks are again made in the USA, it makes good sense to buy one . http://randommization.com/2012/02/04/this-is-so-wrong-alcohol-bottles-given-toy-company-treatment/#more-28309
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, I want my winter, I want my melancholy, I want my gray days of snuggled in be...
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