text: you asked... Q&A: Should I find out gender? I just found out I'm pregnant, and I don't know if I should find out the sex of my baby. Any advice? Want to participate? Log in to share your thoughts Re: I just found out I'm pregnant, and I don't know if I should find out the sex of my baby. Any advice? No one can answer that question but you, so go with your gut! Obviously, the benefit of finding out is that it makes it easier to prep the nursery and purchase layette items. Yes, your family and friends will universally want to know so they can start gifting you with the pinks and blues, but ignore their pleas if you're holding out for the big surprise -- it'll be worth the wait!If you really, truly need to know and can't wait another nanosecond, there's a new product on the market called Itelligender. It is the only urine-based gender test available that can be performed in the privacy of your own home. In as early as ten weeks of pregnancy, you'll know if you're having a John or a Jane! Ellie and Melissa re: Q: Find out gender? I don't want to know the gender of mine, but that has more to do with my belief that there are so few surprises in life, and babies are one of them. I also know that an u/s could ruin the surprise for us. ;) Either way, it's all up to you. DavesPrincess | re: Q: Find out gender? I can't wait to find out the gender, but that's just because I really love shopping for the baby, and I'm not a huge fan of yellow or green. Goalierd | re: Q: Find out gender? I can say if you find out the gender of your baby you will get a load of pink and blue clothes. That is fine, but you need equipment more. In the end its up you, but I agree with davesprincess, you only get so many surprises in life. So we are going to wait for sure! jgamroth | re: Q: Find out gender? I think my husband and I are going to find out but not tell anyone else. All the previous grandkids are girls, and in my family, it has been all girls for two generations. Not sure I would want the attention of having a boy! The way I see it, the only time your pregnancy if private is up to the time you tell everyone! This way, by keeping the gender a secret, my husband and I can share something about the pregnancy just between the two of us. =)There are other alternatives to yellow and green! You can always do browns, cream and white. I am personally going to do everything aqua and chocolate brown - very trendy. dawnzer | re: Q: Find out gender? Iam torn. I want to find out and I dont want to find out. DH wants to wait and I was all for that until people started pressuring me about finding out. I think I truly want to wait. I hope I can wait and be surprised. MrsGMRMartin | re: Q: Find out gender? I think i definatly want to find out. I am so excited to get the room done & get "nested" in before the baby comes. melanie-wood | re: Q: Find out gender? I am going to find out with the first and not the second. Mrs.Nolan | re: Q: Find out gender? i already know what I'm having. at first i wanted to wait and be surprised but that plan failed miserably. I was dying to know at 12 weeks! The nwhen the doc asked if iwanted to know the gender i couldn't say no. Though at this point I'm the only one who knows what I'm having. DH wants to be surprised and it feels kinda cool knowing something about my pregnancy that my family can't go around announcing to the entire world. I really do love my family but they just dont get it sometimes brittmariexo | re: Q: Find out gender? Brittmariexo: you could the babies gender out at week 12? in 14 weeks... i didn't know I could find out so soon! did you do a sonogram or they found out a different way? I had my first sonogram at 8 weeks... but we couldn't tell then | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My theory has always been that finding out the gender allows you to bond with your 'baby girl' or 'baby boy' in a whole different way - it gives your baby a bit more of an identity to connect with, but that is of course just my personal thinking. If you want to make finding out special, you can do what my sister did with both of hers and what I intend to do: have the doctor write it on a piece of paper, rather than tell you, when he or she knows the sex; then, put the folded paper in a box, wrap it up, and go out to dinner with your DH. Then open the box over dessert... it sort of makes finding out more of an event, and less anticlimactic! jill_aitoro7 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? These are my reasons for NOT finding out... 1. This is one of the few surprises you can have in life where you know you WILL evetually find out. 2. I don't want ALL pink or blue stuff. 3. It was my favorite part of my niece and nephew being born when my BIL came out and told us that is was a boy and it was a girl (not twins, he just got lucky to be able to say both at different time). Ultimately, it's your decision though so go with what feels right for you! kanne529 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? ***************** Please people. Finding out the gender before baby is born is STILL a surprise! When I went in for my ultrasound with my second, I was ecstatic and thrilled. Oh, and SURPRISED! So if you are going to find out early, don't let anyone make you feel like you are "ruining" the surprise. Because HELLO....you're not!!! ***************** ashsmash1 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? When i was pregnant with my son i found out what i was having so that i could prepare mentally for a boy or girl and im glad i did because when i had my son i was on the labour ward afterwards and a woman came in with her baby boy,she was convinced it was a girl thro her pregnancy and didnt find out the sex at the scan because she was so convinced she went out and bought pink and red everything including the pram and she ended up with a boy!!!!!!!!! gia90210 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It's a surprise whenever you find out - whether on a sonogram or in the delivery room. I want to find out before delivery so that I can plan accordingly (showers, bedding, etc.). It's your choice. Good luck! Myke20 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I say that is completely up to you. Everyone has their own preference. For instance, I would like to find out so I can plan out the decorations and tell the family & freinds what clothes to get. You can always go gender neutral. My neighbors did that and their nursery turned out beautiful. So it just depends on what you want to do. Some will tell you to do it, some won't. Just go off of what you want. That's the best advice I can give to anyone. ernocs | Q&A: Should I find out gender? of course you should find out...how else are you gonna decorate the nursery?!?! Faancy | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Its completely your decision, my husband and I's preference is to know before hand. And either way, you r still getting a suprise, becuase you have no idea what your carrying! LOL If you want to create a little fun with it, find out the sex with your husband and keep it to yourself til the baby is born. Could be really fun! I might even do it. email@example.com | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I'm not finding out. I have one of each and i figure either way i'm going to be surprised so i'd rather be surprised. Anyway i need something to motivate me in the delivery room, with my daughter it was bc she was my first and for my second it was because i was finally having a boy and this time around i feel that me not knowing what it's going to be will help me push harder... Sakred_1 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? The choice of course is yours...Personally I will not be finding out the sex, because of what a wonderful surprise it is! And there are definitely more colors that just yellow and green;) ClarksAngel | Q&A: Should I find out gender? i want to find out so bad as i don't know the gender of our baby yet.... but i think having it as a secret to everyone except our immediate family sounds fun too! nicole31707 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We are not finding out. I older kids, a girl who is 7 and a boy who is 5. They are so excited, but they are really determined for the baby to be their respective sex. I know it might not happen, but I really don't want one of them sulking because they didn't get their desired brother or sister for the last half of my pregnancy. They'll be so excited to actually HAVE their little sibling that they won't care as much then what the baby is. Also, the nursery is being set up in our daughter's room, so even if we have a boy, we'd still want the decor to go with what she has. So, our solution is various shades of cyan, lime green, and purple. shortyred919 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Personally, I can't wait to find out if we are having a girl or a boy. I guess it depends...we want to know so we can decorate the nursery accordingly, but also because I really like blue or pink, but not so much green or yellow... mandimcdougall | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Either way is fine. We are finding out as soon as we can, but that is us, not you. Make the decision you feel most comfortable with. If you are unsure when the doctor asks, have them put it in a sealed envelope and open if you decide you want to know. My friend ended up opening hers a month before she was due and she was happy she waited as long as she could. Erin925 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We won't find out. I've known since I was little (before I ever even held hands with a boy) that I didn't want to know what any of my kids will be. I love love love surprises! (Although it's also a financial reason--if I know, I will either buy way too many adorable girl outfits or I won't be able to resist the preppy little boy clothes. They're too cute!) But it's also something special for my husband. He will be the one to announce to anyone waiting in the hospital. That's what my parents did as well. My dad was crying so much after my sister was born that the family thought something had happened to my mom or the baby (our brother died two years earlier just 2 days after my mom gave birth). But he just shook his head no and said they were both fine and his second little girl is beautiful. I just love that! Jenni | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I had a baby in August 2008 and my husband and I decided not to find out. We had a lot of ultrasounds because the baby had a fetal gall stone, but never saw the gender. It was wonderful to wait until she came out to find out she was a girl! I plan to do the same for the next one. Oh, and the nursery was yellow, so we figured it could work for boy or girl. For the next one, the planned room is blue, but the baby hardly spends any time in that room in the first few weeks, so a quick paint change shouldn't be too bad! I recommend, don't do it! It makes the pregnancy a lot of fun! lizwhite1023 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I think we'll find out what we're having, but save the names for a surprise. I know it may result in people getting me a lot of one color of stuff but I'm hoping I can pass around through my mom/MIL that I want a mix of stuff to allow for variety. Lizzama | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Oh my gosh wait!! This is my first baby, and my hubby and I both agree, the surprise will be much worth it!! Plus, my sister just had a baby boy, she got so much clothes that she has given her (neautral) niece/nephw over three bags of UNOPENED outfits. the other thing, so got so much clothes, she didn't get alot of the essentials she really needed. I am going to have a small shower with close family before the baby is born, and then a big one after the baby arrives... that way we get the best of both worlds :) Akakori2 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? For our first we didn't find out even though it was so hard. It was the best surprise ever and it was special sharing the moment with my husband and announcing to everyone in the waiting room. I also agree with everyone else with the gifts. We got most of the things we really needed before my daughter arrived and then we had another shower after she was born where she got all the pretty pink outfits. We just found out we're pregnant for the second time and I think we'll keep it surprise again. punkin.pie | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I'm confused too! My husband and I cannot decide if we want to find out or not. His mom totally wants us too and my mom totally doesn't. I just want it to be OUR decicion either way. I'm so torn! We have 6 weeks until the big ultrasound. Wish me luck! :) Hope you figure out what's right for you! losmitty | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We can't wait to find out! It would be agony waiting until delivery! I'm only 6 weeks and my husband can't wait until "bubs first picture". He's getting so excited as it goes on. So definitely we're finding out when we can! sabriena | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I'm not sure if I want to know or not.... Has anyone tried one of those home gender tests? I'm curious how accurate they are. JASwan425 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I think its good to know the babies gender so you can buy things according to the sex and people who buy things will get the right color :P. But if your not wanting to then just go with Yellows and light greens its cute for either sex. Its exciting for me to know and I cant not know so lol. SarahWilson09 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? If you have your heart set on a certain sex, i would find out early. Me and mine have very female concentrated families, so I REALLY have my heart set on a boy. That and the "curse" my mother always put on us when we were growing up: "If you have a girl someday, i hope she is just like you!" I know me... i don't think i want to deal with little me (girls are evil! at least i was/am). Anyway, i think if i waited and it came out a girl i would be afraid of how i would handle it. If i find that info out early i at least have the time to get used to and accept the thought of having a girl. Amy042010 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? With my first we found out and told people that we were having a boy but did not give the name until after he was born. With this one I definitely want to find out if we can. It is just as much of a surprise at 20 weeks (or so) as it is at 40, plus it gives you time to plan for clothes, nursery, etc. If we are having another boy we are all set for clothes, and if we are having a girl I want to know because we can shop for girl clothes and it helps with the registry as well. Plus I think it would be fun to have my son come to the ultrasound and find out with us. : ) MamaBear527 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? With my daughter 9 years ago we did not want to know. My husband had a great time going in and announcing it was a girl. But with this pregnancy we are going to find out. We just don't need that last minute surprise this time since we have already done it once. Of course it is totally a decision between you and your hubby. TatuMommi | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Congratulations on just finding out. What an exciting time. I have always felt (personally) that it's a surprise either way, but I like being prepared for the baby - pink room for a girl, trains for a boy, whatever - so I prefer to be surprised by an ultrasound. On the flip side of that, I have several friends who think I should wait to find out for this baby (I'm about 8 weeks now). The suggestion has come about that during the US in which they can determine sex, we ask the US tech to turn the screen away from us, then write down the sex on a piece of paper and place that inside of an envelope and seal it. The envelope is given to the person who is preparing your baby shower so that they can tell everyone but you and your significant other. This way you can be prepared for baby, but be surprised just a week or two before your due date. I agree that it is a very personal decision, if you want to know or not. Think it through, and remember, sometimes even ultrasounds are wrong about the sex! You never REALLY know until you have the baby anyway! Best of luck! philsrosebud | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I love the surprise!! I have 2 kids and we didn't know the first time, but did the 2nd time. It was so much more fun with the first. And there will be plenty of time to buy "pink" and "blue" after the baby is born. Don't worry. With this one, I want to wait, but my kids (now 5 and 7) will be way too anxious to wait that long! LOL tel4him | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Personally, I think leaving it as a surprise is something really exciting to look forward to during the labor experience. Also, whenever guests at baby showers know the gender, they buy everything either pink or blue and many of my friends have complained about that and wished that they either didnt find out or at least didnt tell people before the shower. I wont be finding out, but of course, if you want to know there is nothing wrong with that too! Sweettos | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My "practical" answer is wait. The surprise is great either way, but if you DON'T know, you don't spend 20-some weeks buying every adorable girl thing or boy thing that you see. You'll save a lot of money. Your friends/fam will buy you plenty of the clothes you need when baby comes! smjones16 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband wants to fine out. He feels that no matter when you find out at 20 weeks or when the baby is born, its still a surprise! kshields104 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My first and second children were a suprise, the third we found out. I will say that it was so much more fun to be suprised!!! It makes those last weeks of pregnancy and the delivery so exciting. Our babies slept in a white bassinette for the first month anyway, so I picked out bedding, etc and had it ordered as soon as I got home from the hospital. No big deal, most of the other things are gender neutral anyway. And we got so many baby outfits as gifts after the birth I had no problem with clothes. Amypremier | Q&A: Should I find out gender? i definitely don't want to find out, but my husband does! i am going to try to talk him out of it. i hvae 6 neice and nephews and the first was a surprise. i remember the waiting room was full of family and friends dying to know the sex of the baby. i want to have that surprise for mine too! alliemich34 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Everyone should do what is best for them, of course. We're going to wait to find out the sex until the birth, if only so we can get gender-neutral clothing and toys that we can use for the second baby! But I don't understand the people who say they want to know the sex so they know what colors they should choose for clothing or the nursery! As if a baby girl couldn't wear sky blue! Can't we wait just a few months more before forcing gender stereotypes upon an infant? annabananna1 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It will be a surprise anytime you find out - whether its now or at birth, so I don't buy into the surprise thing. It's easier to shop when you know the gender, and easier to decorate, and easier for people buying gifts for you. queentbone | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I always said I would wait to find out but now that I'm actually pregnant, I can't wait to find out just because I want to set up the room and prepare for the baby with certain colors... I am so torn right now! My boyfriend and I want to wait, but EVERYONE else wants us to find out!! epowell8 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I found out the gender with all of my kids and I will with this one too. It made it so much easier, not only for me and my husband but, for my friends that planned the showers. I also liked having a couple names picked out so as soon as I saw my baby I new what to expect. StaceyL7 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It's up to you. I didn't find out with my first and it was exciting not knowing. The one true suprise in life. My mom was a little ticked off because she wanted to buy gender specific items. She got over it. jd10rn | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My hubby and I decided right from the get go that we would find out the sex. Neither of us like green or yellow and I know we couldn't hold out that long. Plus, the family would be after us day after day (especially his Mom!) to tell her so she can start buying items! Of course everyone knows I love purple so it would be more purple then pink for a girl and for a boy I think blue is great, or even chocolate. I so can't wait to find out!! snickybugg | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I have a boy and a girl and I found out th fore sex with both of them, but now that I have all the "stuff" for both I'm going to try to wait for this one. My only issue is the name. I hate calling the baby "it". I'm only5 weeks so we'll see, My tune could totally change by 20 weeks. I have no patience. firstname.lastname@example.com | Q&A: Should I find out gender? As someone else said, for folks who aren't fans of yellow and green, there are browns, creams, and white.... and, because I work in a gift shop, I can tell you there are also some grays and other lovely neutrals like mauve or pale taupe or sage green (as opposed to pastels) that are popular in baby gifts and decor. I was also wondering how accurate the gender tests are. gwennykate | Q&A: Should I find out gender? With DD we found out, b/c we wanted to be able to plan a bit better and we were so excited we couldn't wait. We ended up buying stuff (as far as big ticket items go) that was fairly neutral anyway b/c we knew we wanted more than one, and wanted to make them reusable. That being said, w/ #2 we are not going to find out- We want a surprise this time, and we know the only things we might need to buy are clothes and things b/c the crib, stroller, bouncer etc, aren't too gender specific. elk571 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband and I plan to find out our baby's gender! We also plan to keep it a secret from everyone else. Its still a surprise no matter when you find out the gender. This way, we can plan the nursery without getting all gender specific items at the baby shower. rachel32682 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We didn't want to find out the sex, but now that we're pregnant and shopping for baby, most things are so gender specific. We may end up finding out to make it easier. But we still aren't sure either way now. DanceDeva4 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husbands aunt told me something someone told her and it really made me think differently. I always wanted to know, but now I dont. She said that aside from having so little true surprises in life, you are the only one that truely gets to feel everything going on. Your husband/boyfriend etc. doesn't really get to feel like he is a part of it and there's not much for him to "do" (aside from all the dirty work) it's the least i can do to give him that surprise AngelinaToad | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It's up to each individual if they want to find out. I found out with our first one, after consulting with my husband of course and we'll find out the sex of this baby as well. Husband sold ALL our baby stuff this past summer so we'll have a lot of replacing to do. RNCCRN9706 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We didn't find out with our daughter and we aren't going to find out this time either. It keeps things exciting not knowing, and it felt great for my husband to tell me what the baby was when it was born. That was his moment during the delivery and it was special. I vote wait until delivery to find out! jansmith | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Our parents didn't have the luxury of finding out our genders, and our generations turned out pretty well for the most part. Agreed? We have become a generation of planners. It is wonderful. However, other than planning color schemes, wouldn't one be planning for safety standards on gear/ vehicles, education, residential location, etc? Regardless of the gender of the baby, are we not still planning for their future? It is a known fact that in a year's time babies quickly grow out of clothes; even clothing never taken out of packages or tags still attached. By the time the baby is a year, rest assured that the colors of your choosing will match that of your LO. Here's another random thought... Regarding the Chinese Gender predictor, realizing that most state that they have some percent of accuracy, and that the chart is for "entertainment" purposes. If the Chinese culture has had the opportunity to select the gender of their child, then why would they choose to conceive a girl if they are simply going to give it up for adoption? There are so many Chinese girls up for adoption. So, if the final outcome of your child's gender differs from that of the U/S or a gender predictor, will you love your child any less? Most likely not. Kismet02 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Has anyone used the itelligender? Was it accurate for you? landa427 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I have 3 kids and am on the 4th. I had to know with the other 3 but I am thinking that I dont want to know. For once I want to be surprised about what we had. we have 2 boys and girl so I just figured why find out when at this point we dont care what gender and really are comfortable with putting a girl in boys clothes for a while. sound bad I know but you do what you feel you want to do. find out if that is your desire or keep it a surprise if that is what you wish. It is your choice and yours alone(well with DH too) karenCB | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I think waiting to be surprised definitely hypes you up a little more with anticipation, but for practicality it's much better to find out. one of my friends had a baby shower not knowing what she was going to have, and literally EVERYTHING was for a boy, and she had a girl instead. kg_08 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I couldn't wait. To me it is a surprise either way if you find out at 20 weeks or you find out in the delivery room. I was tired of calling my baby "it" and wanted to decorate the nursery. Plus, it really is hard to tell a newborn's sex and I didn't want my baby in green and yellow with everyone asking me "Is it a boy or a girl?" 8.1.09 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I'm 10 weeks so far, and this is also my first child! We are not finding out the sex of our child. We decided that it would add the excitment of our birth experiance, and allow us to have fun picking out 2 names!!! It's also fun for having our family and friends try to guess what we'll have! I know it sometimes may feel like it would be hard to "prepare" for the child if you didn't know, but there are so many things out there for a nursery, clothes, toys that aren't gender specific. It will also be fun to pick out and get all the gender items after the baby is born! In the end the decision is going to be up to you and what you think is going to work the best for you life and situations!! Good luck and many blessings!!! smileygurl | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Most people today find out the gender of their baby.. We did not. It was fun and exciting for everyone.. it also helps to lessen the anxiety of going through Labor.. We probably will not find out the gender of our next baby either.. plus then everything people get you for your baby shower can be used for your next baby... boy Or girl! Jmw315 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Hey, I didnt want to find out the sex of my baby as well, but my husband does. In my view, once one knows, it ruins it all, because she/he will buy everything according to the color and so it kinda gives it a hint for the other one. I dont want to know, I hope the baby turns, so it could be a surprise just like I've always wanted it. Surprises are fun and yet you can still buy the things needed, just remember to use yellow, green, white, beige.. It's still cute. fernandezg | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Im the type who loves to plan and organize EVERYTHING !! So I will be finding out the sex. With my first one, I found it so much easier to prepare. I think you will have the same excitement the day the baby is born whether you know the sex or not. If you're unsure whether or not you want to find out the sex, then ask the sono tech to write down the sex on a piece of paper and place it in a sealed envelope and then you have the choice to find out whenever you want. Kdevoe916 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We are now pregnant with our third child. My husband wanted to find out with both children. I won the battle with our son, and we didn't find out. It was really special, and my husband was the one to announce the sex in the delivery room. With our daughter, we found out. As my husband argued that we did it my way, and he just wanted to try his way. It certainly was still special, but both of us felt that there was just something better about the not knowing. Now that we are on #3 (and the last baby) neither one of us want to find out the sex. As for my family, they were actually disappointed that we found out with our daughter, and are looking forward to the new adventure! Whatever you decide, it will still be special. Mass_wife_and_mom | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am dying to find out the gender of my baby, and I'm only 5 weeks at the moment...I know, extremely early. My husband wants it to be a surprise.....but for me, whether you wait for the baby to be born or if you find out in the womb, it's a surprise either way. I also just like being prepared. I am so excited. livingj156 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I've always thought I would want to know, but I know a girl who had three "girl" ultrasounds... then they did a last minute one to check on something and surprise! it was a boy! I'm worried that even if you "know" you never really know! kacy.elyzabeth | Q&A: Should I find out gender? No, there are so few fun suprises in life! All that really matter is that your baby is born healthy. Majesstical29 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I myself just can't go months without knowing what I am having. It's a surprise for the most part when you find out that you are pregnant, and it's a surprise most of the time the day the baby finally does arrive. I'm all about pre-decorating and shopping so i like to know what I am shopping for. I cannot stand tons of greens and yellow. AshesBabies2 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We will be finding out, but every mom should do what is write for her. I can see the draw of having that exciting " it's a ___" moment at time of delivery. FYI you don't have to have a gender neutral nursery if you don't find out the gender while pregnant. I have a friend who picked out boy and girl bedding fabric. They had the ultrasound tech mail the gender to the seamstress and had finished product sent to a friends house. You could do something like this with store bought bedding to. Of course in that scenario you would have to let a friend or family member (good at keeping a secret) into the know before you. CarrieBeth80 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? thats on you my personal opinion i have a gut feeling that im gonna have a boy and i could very well be wrong but im gonna find out because ill need to know what to get for my birthdayparty slash babyshower homegurl_fo_life_26101 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I had a baby last July, my husband and I old schooled it and did not find out the gender. EVERYONE thought we were crazy, but it was the one last thing in life that could truly remain a mystery. On our daughters birth day, it was a shock and blessing. It is really a personal choice, but I know for us it was fun and unique compared to everyone else. Not only were people excited to hear the baby had arrived, but we got to tell them the sex finally. Patriot09 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I don't want to know because I hate baby pink and baby blue, which is what everybody buys (no matter what you register for) for either a boy or girl. Not knowing will force people to choose other colors. Plus, it's a fun surprise! lrhampton | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It's way more fun shopping for baby if you know what it is. But, at the same time, there's a lot of excitement in finding out when you meet your child. I already have 1 of each, so I'm going to try to hold out til the end for #3. meeshybee | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Before I met my DH I wanted a surprise and not find out the gender. Now that I am preggers I can not wait to find out the gender. It makes shopping and planning ALOT easier. TracyCherry24 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I think it is up to the individual person, but I am def. not finding out the sex. I know it will be hard, especially when I see all this pink and blue stuff! It does make it easier to buy things. However, I have talked to several people about this and they say the surprise is sooo much better than the convenience. One woman I talked to wasn't going to find out, and they ended up giving in and did. She still wishes to this day she would have never found out and experienced the surprise factor! :-) Gonna try my hardest to not find out!!! Ardmhs83 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? This is my first child and my husband's third. He really wants a boy (other two are girls), but it kind of makes it all new and exciting for him not knowing and of course all of this is new and exciting to me so we (well mostly I) chose not to find out the sex of our baby, and since I intend to have one more later gender neutral things will serve us better for longer. sugarbean98 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? totally up to you and the father of your baby. i know that we are finding out in March and we're so excited to find out the gender and then start planning accordingly! :) Nordstrom21 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We will be finding out the gender, too. We are SUCH planners! I have had friends told "for sure" or "we think" it's a boy or girl. If it doesn't seem clear, we'll plan for a neutral room. Don't forget that babies don't have to have pastel everything. Think REAL green, not pistachio green, or a real purple instead of lavender...just some ideas. CrazyToast | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I found out I'm expecting a girl and it was so much fun going shopping and knowing what to plan for. There is no right or wrong answer to your question. Deep down do what you want to do. I'm the kind of person who likes to plan for everything. For example, I told my husband I wanted my baby due in June so we tried for a baby in September and it happened! This is going to be my 1st baby and I'd rather be able to have a closet full of pink stuff versus yellow and greens! melissas21 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am Jus DYIN to find out.... Im just 6 weeks along... But I am hopin its twins too... :) Lol!!!! Cant wait... But its mainly coz I love shoppin and a BIG no-no to greens or yellows... Baby Blues and Baby Pinks :) anitajohn | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We couldn't wait to find out the first time around. We both really wanted a little boy and at my 18 week apointment we found out it was a boy! BUT, I left the apt feeling kind of disapointed, like the only thing left to look forward to was the birth. It's hard to explain exactly but we're expecting #2 and we are going to wait til birth-day to find out this time. If we have another boy great and if its a girl she can wear blue for a few days before we get out shopping! LOL SallyDunsworth | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It isn't the gender you will find out, it's the SEX of the baby. Gender is a social label such as feminine or masculine, and SEX is the actual genetic sexual make up of the child (penis or vagina). Remember just because you have a vagina, doesn't mean you are necessarily going to be feminine. babymamadub | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband and I had a huge debate about this. We came to a compromise based on the advice of a mother of 2...she said let the first one be a surprise and find out the gender for anyone after that. The first one, it is fun to be surprised and you are not loaded down with pink or blue. Then for every child after, you find out the gender so you know whether you can use hand-me-downs from baby one or if you have to buy all new colors! erhcmh0509 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I did not want to know, but I recently had 2 baby showers that wanted to "wait and see" and it is really hard to shop uni-sex. I'm also thinking If I did have a girl I would want more pink things I may have to buy later and same for blue with boys. So now I'm going to find out. kerry22 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am debating if I should or not find out. As much as I would love it to be a surprise I am also a conttrol freak and would love to have the nursery ready when the baby arrives. Pinks and Purples or Blues and Greens are my choices so I am sure I will end up knowing and keep it a surprise from everyone else but my husband, of course. PerfectPear2007 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I didn't find out the gender of my first baby. It makes the birth much more exciting! And don't let people convince you that you need to find out just because it will help with getting prepared. There are so many nuetral colored sets out there you won't have a problem! Chevy412 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We were surprised with our first and it was the best decision we ever made!!!! Everything I got was neutral so either way we're good for this one! jakobsmom08 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? If you feel inclined to wait it out for a surprise, don't let anyone pressure you otherwise! It is your baby and YOUR surprise! I find that it is much more economical to wait because you get everything gender neutral so it can be used for other babies in the future. Also, more shower gifts are useful instead of just having mountains of clothes and stuffed animals. acrlyhed | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My sister-in-law waited, as will we. It worked out nicely for her, as shower guests were less obsessed with pink or blue clothing, and concentrated more on the necessities. DMBastian | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I don't think we'll find out. I don't want a bunch of pink or blue, or clothes when we really need essentials. I think if we find out, our family and friends will get too hung up on those things. Plus, infants hang out in blankies, onies, and footie jammies the first couple months anyways... it's not like we'll be in dire need of clothes. If people want to give us gender-specific items, they can wait until the delivery. Our baby's room is easily gender neutral with old-style pictures of babies and children hanging up on the walls. It will be easy to finish off that room beautifully without having to typify it as "boy" or "girl". I do agree though, it's a surprise no matter if you find out at an ultrasound or at delivery. meggowiggle | Q&A: Should I find out gender? i wanted to wait til the birth but as soon as i found out i was pregnant i couldnt wait to know! and as for telling family.. i dont think they would let me hide it.. i could always say i am waiting tho! but yes i agree with the others. when you find out in a sono its gonna be a surprise either then or at the birth cause i know im ten weeks and i cant wait to find out waiting ten weeks is already long enough and id go nuts if i had to wait months and months! andreaostrosky | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Before I got pregnant I really didn't want to know, but now I really think I do. However, after reading this board I'm undecided once again. My DH really wants to know, so maybe we can compromise by having the US tech write it on a piece of paper so that DH and I can reveal the news somewhere alone and special. I would then like to keep it a surprise from everyone else. This way I won't get too much at the shower that is gender specific and hopefully people will focus more on necessities rather than boy/girl outfits. However, I can still plan a little on my own for nursery things. bomilli | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Well, I have the same issue. I kind of want to be surprised at birth and I feel like it will make the moment extra special when the doctor says, "It's a GIRL/BOY!" But at the same time, I am so excited to find out, and I want to plan the clothes. So I think when the time comes I'm going to have the nurse write down the sex on a piece of paper and I can fold it up and bring it home so that I can look at it when I'm ready, if ever. blueberry2010 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? If you want to be gender specific about your decorating then it's really helps. I will forwarn you though, unless you get a 3D/4D ultrasound it's not always accurate. I had 5 ultrasounds in 30 weeks and every time they said "it's a girl." So we bought a ton of girl stuff, and then found out at my 3D ultrasound that he was a boy... kinda a waste of money. So if you decide you really HAVE to know, I'd suggest one of the 3D/4D ones... just in case... silvamommy | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I definitely want to find out the gender of the baby so I can start preparing, but my husband comes from a family where they like it to be a suprise. I know its up to me and him to decide and not our families, but he doesn't want to know and I do. Im not sure what we should do. siesta303 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? my man and i are going to find out, but we're not going to tell anybody. davesprincess is very right about the surprises! but i just cant wait that long : ] it would drive me nuts!!! i found out with my first i was having a girl, and through out the whole pregnancy and up until i got pregnant again, i would tell myself im not going to find out with the second. BUUUUT now that the second is on its way...i just cant wait till i find out what im having : ] londieMOMMY | Q&A: Should I find out gender? For me its more of a financal thing. Yard sales here I come!! PregoTara | Q&A: Should I find out gender? So few surprises in life - this is one I do not want to miss - I am holding out...even though I would love to know - ha ha. globalgirl75 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We decided to find out but we didn't tell anyone else with our first and I think we will do the same this time. For us, we knew the day our baby was born would be special and exciting no matter what. Everyone else knew that we knew, so while it drove them crazy and they were pestering us, it reduced other intrusive questions, and for them, it really was a fun surprise in the end. acribitz | Q&A: Should I find out gender? with my first pregnancy i had no clue what i was having until my daughter was born she was a amazing surprise, i had the baby shower after she was born and it all worked out... the only thing is, is if you are planning to have a nursery you have to use neutral colors that would work for either a boy or a girl same with clothes . i want to know what im having this time. but if you are able to wait it is very special jennicole1087 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband and I have decided not to find out if there is only one. I have been on Femara which increased risk for twins somewhat. If we are told there is two then we most likely will find out just to make it a little easier on us. It's hard though. It is one of the only true surprises you will have in life if you don't find out. Good Luck! jerilynnhealy | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am not too far along yet, but I am DYING to know if it's a boy or a girl as soon as they can tell me!! I am also the world's most impatient person!! MrsRobUSMC | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We are 29 weeks along with our 1st baby. My husband wants to be surprised and I'm dying to find out next week at our 3rd triimester 3D/4D ultrasound. Not because of clothing or nursery colors but because I want to bond with my baby before the delivery. My husband says he doesn't care if we find out now because he's curious and we've waited this long! I don't want any regrets if we decide to find out. I'm so torn!!!! noninave | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I don't think finding out makes it less of a suprise. I want to know, but my husband doesn't. So I decided to wait because there's no way I could keep it to myself if only I knew! Plus I think it's a nice way to let him feel like he's involved and gets to make some of the pregnancy decisions. JimDrea | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I think that not knowing would make the delivery more exciting! denisita0524 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I so do NOT want to know. I like yellow and green better then pink and blue, and since I know I'm having a baby I want a surprize! BrideBritt88 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We didn't find out with our first...Our main reason was because there are so few surprises in life that we wanted to enjoy this one :) Also, when you don't know the gender of the baby, people will tend to get you the bigger things you need for the baby, or gift cards to buy those things. And the things you get will be gender neutral, so you won't have to worry about getting a pink carseat this time and then needing a blue one next time. :) We're having our second baby in November, and we're going to find out with this one...My husband is the one pushing to find out. If it were someone else pushing me then I'd say no, but he is the daddy :) This way we will also have the best of both worlds. We'll know what it's like to find out and what it's like to wait! mae2oo4 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am going to have the dr. put the results in an envelope and bring it to a bakery .. Have a party with love ones and when i cut the cake it will be pink or blue and everyone finds out together... My girlfriend did it and was a blast... This is my first baby and I cant wait to do it!! congrats and have fun with it!!!:):):):) taryndaigle1 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Before getting pregnant I was absolutely sure I didn't want to find out, but now that I am I can't wait to know what I'm having! So my hubby and I talked it over and decided to find out but just keep it between the two of us. Like someone else said, I think it'll be something special for the two of us to share throughout the pregnancy, plus it'll be really fun knowing the gender when nobody else does! Heidi815 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am glad to know that I am not the only one who wants a surprise!! Our baby is due right before Christmas & I see this as the most amazing Christmas present EVER!! Why ruin it? My friends and family are freaking out!! They will all just have to get over it!! This is the one thing that can truely be MY decision!! :) MrsDubya1 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am also due right before Christmas and never thought of not knowing the sex until delivery as a little Christmas surprise. As I'm only 6 weeks right now, we are waiting until our first U/S to tell our extended family and friends, however my MIL is already pressuring me with "who can I tell?" "when can I tell?". I think I want my hubby and I to find out and then not let anyone else know, then everyone can be surprised at Christmas. japeltier | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband and I always said we wanted to be surprised but when we found out that we were having triplets we decided that it would be good for us to find out.After 10 fertility treatments we were happy for a surprise but now we think our triplets were the surprise. we 8weeks today our due date is 12-19-10 we are hoping to make into mind november.I would have loved the surprise but it is not practical for us now bellabug11 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It depends on how badly you want the gender to be a surprise or not. If you are really excited about hearing the doctor say "it's a boy!" or "It's a girl!" when you deliver, then I would suggest not finding out the gender. But, if you would like to use gender specific colors for the nursery or baby's things, then it would be a lot easier to do that if you find out the gender. I personally, don't want to know the gender of my baby, but my fiance wants to know. I'm just worried he's going to spoil it for me. georgia_aust | Q&A: Should I find out gender? You should definitely find out the gender. It will help you pick out all the baby clothes and other gender related things! And you will get sent better gifts :D goodquestionskippy | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It's a surprise whether you find out now our when the baby is born. it's not like you're choosing the sex. mum2bex | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We are now pregnant with our 3rd. We didn't find out with the first 2 and completely enjoyed the true surprise when the doctor pulled them out. It really comes down to how you and your spouse feel, whether you can wait it out. Another option is to have them write it down and seal it in an envelope, than if you decide later you want to know you can. Hope that helps. snugglebugs2 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I disagree with everyone who says it "WAY" oreasier to shop when you know the sex...Lots of things are gender neutral or you want them to be gender neutral if you intend on having more children. We are thinking about doing a jungle theme in the room...if the baby is a girl then we will add tropical flowers/ butterflies to the murals...if it is a boy we will add more "boyish" animals like snakes and reptiles to the murals. I also do not believe that a baby must always be clothed it its respective color...which is good because I detest baby blue and am not a huge fan of baby pink either. dragonfly0705 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It will be easier preparing for the arrival of the baby and receiving gifts etc if you know ahead of time. goodquestionskippy | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I want to know but my husband doesn't and this will be his first child so we will wait and see what our bundle of joy is at birth. dawnandmike2009 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We have decided to not find out the gender before the baby is born - one of life's last surprises is what my husband said, and he finally won me over that, yes, it would be exciting as the baby's born to find out then! tinajones424 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I think that finding out the gender as soon as you can is an awesome thing! I just feel like we get to know our baby sooner and more personally if we know what it is. mrsnevens | Q&A: Should I find out gender? my first pregnancy was a surprise and we didn't find out until she was born because she just wouldn't open her legs to let us see but this time around i want to know. its all really up to you if you want to find out either way babies are always a happy surprise. snowwhite428 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? my husband and i decided that if we have a boy and then a girl that if we got pregnant a third time that it would be a surprise baby... for us knowing is just a better idea, i want my boy to be a boy and my girl to be a girl, dont want those unisex colors that could look more boyish or girlish blah blah, so we think for us it is just smarter to know... but like everyone else says...it is up to you and how you feel about it... JennXMVC | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It's a very personal decision. My husband has a big family with 10 granddaughters and 2 grandsons, so there was a lot of pressure for us to have a boy. We partly wanted to find out the sex so that nobody would be set up for disappointment. We found out we were having a girl and I was relieved because the pressure was off for me to have that boy. We may let this 2nd one be a surprise. My tip would be that if you find out the sex, keep the name a secret and announce it when your child is born. It was so much fun announcing her name, and no matter how much we got pestered and asked, we never once caved in and gave it away. So we still had that surprise to share. Wife4ayear | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I found out the sex of my baby the first time around. This time I want to hold out and figured I would do the nursery in orange colors....orange and sage. That could go either way for the baby.... spursgirl10 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I want to know the sex of my baby and I can barely wait. I like to have things planned a head of time. Also, I have found its really hard to find themes that I like that are gender netural. I want my whole baby's room sent up and set for him/her when he/she comes home. My friend is having a baby and wants to find out when she gives birth. It was really hard for me to buy her a nice baby shower gift. But, bottom line the choice is up to you. motox477 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We decided to have a suprise with our first because we are so excited and now get to pick out two names! My sister just had her 4th child and didn't find out because she already had 3 boys and was praying for a little girl. She had her baby girl, Hannah Marie, and couldn't be happier! LovelyLucy6 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I think you should find out the gender! I know we can't wait to find out! You can start gettting everything ready! For the baby shower you can make sure you get the correct colors and clothes for your child! Keep your self busy while your nesting! =) PalasikFam | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I cant wait to find out the gender of my baby and I know my family cant wait either so many debates of what it is haha but I want to know just because I stress over what to name the baby, how to decorate their room what to put in the registry, baby shower etc and I think that knowing the gender will make all of these additional "worries" easier to handle/deal with ildali | Q&A: Should I find out gender? im in the same boat i kinda want to know the daddy wants to. but with the help of my dad ive decided not to as why not enjoy the suprize on dellevery day jussie21 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We didn't want to find out the gender of our first baby, but after complications were found during the ultrasound we got the full results and found out we were having a little girl .......... or so we thought! When we had our baby, we discovered that our little girl was no little girl! This time around we won't be finding out :) annyj18 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? my husband and I didnt find out with our first, and it was a wonderfull surprise since we made sure my husband would be the one to tell me. When he leaned down and whispered we have a son. Was a fabulous moment. Now that Im pregnant again we are going to find out, but for your first I think not finding out is a geat idea. DLSnyder365 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am 7 weeks and cannot wait to find out what we're having. So exciting!! lisaheath83 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We found out what we were having with our first baby, because i really wanted (needed to know). This time around we're not going to find out. I'm glad we found out with our first, and i wish we were doing the same with this one, but i let the decision up to my hubby because he wanted the first to be a surprise--so i told him we could wait on the next one. WendyJR | Q&A: Should I find out gender? i didn't find out with my first child, and it was the best surprise of my life! i believe my fiancé and i have come to the same decision for this baby too. although feeling the pressure from family and friends to find out the gender is hard, but stick to what YOU want :) abcstuarts | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband and I are definitely going to find our for our baby. I think it will help me bond to the baby (we both hate using "it" to refer to him or her), and help me be better able to prepare. Also, it's STILL GOING TO BE A SURPRISE! I will be just as surprised when I find out in September as I would be when the baby is born in Feb I will just feel more prepared. kristintho | Q&A: Should I find out gender? The decision is up to you but, with my first child which was a surprise in itself. We decided that at my one and only ultrasound that if we found out the sex of the baby or didn't find out the sex of the baby we would be satisified either way. Well we never found out the sex of our daughter until the day I had her and let me tell as much as the suspense drove us crazy in the end it was the best surprise I EVER got! Even though it makes it 10X easier to prepare if you find out the sex it's really not hard to prepare if you don't know. Everything I got prior to my daughters arrival in the end worked out for her. The emotion that came when I finally saw the gender of my baby after I had her was unexplainable.. .. Like it was said once before you only get so many surprises in life why not wait in the end your going to love your baby no matter what the gender is so why not give a surprsie you yourself and wait to find out the gender kristenm88 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? For me, waiting to find out got me through my pregnancy and was such a push incentive:) Everyone around you is so excited just trying to fiqure it out for 40 weeks! I just think not finding out the gender is something everyone should experience in their lifetime. I loved it so much I didn't find out the second time either. Now I'm pregnant with my 3rd and feel like I should take my own advice and experience what finding out is like. Trust me, the room is not that important if your finding out solely to decorate! You can do it after the baby gets here! They need very little when they are first born! flyroxie1 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We are going to find out. Got IntelliGender and going to do it Thursday am but told hubby that we will NOT tell anyone until an actual confirmed ultrasound and hopefully Intelligender is correct! As long as the baby is healthy, I'm okay either way, I know hubby wants a boy.. KK1974 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? i would but it does all depend on what you want to do LizzMarsh13 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? i FOUND OUT WITH MY FIRST TWO A BOY AND A GIRL AND THIS TIME WE ARE NOT FINDING OUT i AM JUST AS EXCITED TO WAIT, EVERYONE HAS SAID IT IS THE BEST SUPRIZE OF YOUR LIFE. RAEF2005 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? i so cant weight to find out the gender of my baby once my doctors asks once im saying tell me lol haylee101 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I totally dont see the point of not finding out - either way, its goign to be a "surprise", one's just going to come a few months later! And if you wait til it's born, well, there's all that work you have to do that has to be put off til baby is born - and now you have to do it with a newborn around. kippersophie | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I too am recently pregnant and am holding out to the end. I agree with everyone else, it is really up to you. The only thing that I will miss out on is gender based clothes but people love buying clothes for little ones all the time. We are not going to do the nursery any specific color (we like the grays and browns) so that too is not an issue. Whatever you decide have fun with it and congrats. jmvogele | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It's your baby. Find out fif yu want and if you don't be prepared for a lot of clothes in white, yellow and green *yuck* I personally want to know so I can get gender specific things. MrsAltman | Q&A: Should I find out gender? i just called my husband to get the intelligender box from the store on his way home. I'm going to take the test first thing in the morning. I will give an update of results. I'm 10 1/2 weeks prego... This is going to be interesting... prego1977 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I'm def going to find out in order to prepare the nursury for the baby. I would like coral and white for a girl and oatmeal with hints of light shades of green/blue for a boy! I also like to shop so knowing helps....My husband and I also cannot wait for surprises! lol prego1977 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I, personally, want to be surprised, but my husband doesn't. So our compromise is that it will be a surprise to me, and he can find out and tell who ever is interested as long as they agree to keep it from me. Chances are, though, with this approach, I will find out at the shower. I am ok with that though! dominiquedesilva | Q&A: Should I find out gender? i personally feel that it is up to you and your significant other. with my first pregnancy, i decided to find out what the sex of my baby was. it was not only exciting to find out, but shopping was a lot more fun too! in my personal opinion, i didn't wanna be stuck getting "gender neutral" things. i wanted to buy pink for a girl, and blue for a boy. i am now 13 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby, and i am definitely going to find out what the sex is for this one too!!!!!! charmbracelet84 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? This is baby #4 for us and I found out with the first 3. This is going to be the last one so we are not going to find out. i look forward to the surprise at their arrival! baileystl28 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Of course it's absolutely a personal decision. I've always thought of it this way, it will be a surprise no matter when you find out, right? It just depends on how long you can hold out for that surprise! :) bfrogjules | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We found out the gender of our first baby. However, though I told the family what it was going to be, I didn't tell them the name until we had her. That way we had something to announce when she was born. It's totally up to you and your hubby. I couldn't stand the suspense and it did make it easier to shop. As far as other people buying things for you, register at a local store for your baby shower and put the needs before he wants. I.E.: Diapers in all sizes, Gas drops, Safety kits, etc. If you want #2, get the bedding set, car seat and stroller that is Gender neutral. It will save you tons of $ on the big stuff for round 2 and if it's a girl, you can always tie pink ribbons on stuff. missjessy24 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We found out for our first 2, but now that we have one of each i'd like it to be a surprise this time.... but my DH really wants to know. I do like the part that we can start calling the new one by name and feel more like they are already a full fledged member of the family. im 10 weeks now, so its still 10 weeks til we could find out, im hoping we can agree before then, either way. I just kind of want to have at least one the "old-fashioned way"! christina1776 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband and I found out we were having a girl and we named her and spoke to her by name when she was in my belly. It gave her an identity and we were able to make a beautiful room for her before she even arrived. We are now pregnant with the second and I will absolutely find out so that the baby can have an identity, it's nice to rub my stomach and know that my little girl Peyton is in there. justene1 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It is whatever you feel is best! Me personally, would freak out not knowing, because if I am not prepared for something I will feel discombobulated! But if you want the biggest suprise of your life, wait... More power to you if you have that kind of patience, I know I don't! :) marydiggins5689 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I'm not sure if I want to know or not.... Has anyone tried one of those home gender tests? I'm curious how accurate they are. JASwan425 | September 02 , 2009 8:06 AM A lady I work with said that in the past year 4 people she knows took it and it ended up being correct! The problem I have with it is, what if it is wrong!! How horrible would that be finally buying things for your precious one, and you go to the doc and its the opposite of what you thought! If you want to take that chance, then go for it. I personally am going to wait just 1 1/2 more months to find out the more accurate way! :) marydiggins5689 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband and I just decided that we're going to wait until the baby is born to know the sex. This is our first and we would be extremely happy having a boy or a girl. We've already decided on names for both a girl and boy. I'm not worried about baby clothes....we'll return things if we have to. I email@example.com | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I always thought I wanted it to be a surprise, but now that the time is approaching, DH & I have decided to find out. It will be so much more personal that way!! Instead of the baby's room, it will be Billy's Room, or Baby Boy's Room, etc. I think picking out/receiving supplies and clothes for the baby will be so much more fun with that specific person, instead of a gender-neutral fetus. We are excited to find out!!! ea_kieffer | Q&A: Should I find out gender? With my first one we didn't find out and it was soooo much fun. My husband (and everyone else) hated not knowing but when it came down to the delivery he was glad we didn't find out. It made all 18 hours of labor very exciting! DonnieS | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I think finding out so you know what to buy or people know what to buy for you is silly. But I'm in the minority on that one. I don't know if I'll find out yet. I always thought I'd wait but I've enjoyed every surprise along the way and finding out during the pregnancy will be another fun surprise. There will be plenty of surprises when the baby is born. But I'm still not sure - we'll just have to wait and see what happens. caitlinc7 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My father, my uncle, my aunt, my grandpa, my sister-in-law, my cousin, and my brother are all doctors. And it seems like the ONLY thing that they ALL remember from med school is how to read an ultrasound. So, in my case, it's either don't get an ultrasound or find out the sex as soon as possible or one of them will inevitable spoil it. My dad has spoiled so many of his employees, friends, etc because he sees the ultrasound and says, "oh yay! a boy!" He definitely doesn't mean any harm, he just doesn't ask if they were waiting to find out, and they don't think to tell him before showing him the picture! LydiaLouWho | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I really want to wait this time (baby #6). I found out with all of my other kids and I am basically starting over as I have NO baby items in the house. We have decided on a very cute and nuetral based Nursery setup. We have also chosen names that could be used for a boy or girl (Tristan or Tristania). So we don't need to find out for names or nursery. DH really wants to find out but I think the fun of him telling people what the sex is when (s)he is born will be great since I got to tell everyone I am pregnant again. Sazhrah | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We both want to know, but I'm not sure if we're going to tell everyone else. teesa23 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I'm still not sure if I want to know...I found out Wednesday that I'm pregnant, and I wanna know, but I don't. I like the element of surprise, but then again I would like to know so I can start buying things. akbrown47 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We definitely want to know. I think finding out makes DH and the rest of the family a part of the pregnancy, and gives an identity to what is otherwise just a little unknown parasite. Regardless of whether it's a boy or girl I would want to go with Orange and Aqua for colors. Pink and blue are so cliche and not really my taste anyway, but there's no reason they can only be for a girl or boy respectively. My SIL didn't find out, and with them, they (and the whole family) were so sure they were having a boy. It was just a "feeling". She even registered for a lot of boy things even though she didn't know for sure, and they had a girl. A girl who received a lot of boy clothes at the BS. robintora | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I have always thought that they baby isnt any less a girl or boy just because you dont find out. It is a suprise in life and it is a supprise weather you choose to find out at 20 weeks or at birth. I knew with my little girl and it was still a suprise when we saw it on the ultra sound. I dont think knowing ruins anything. KendraJoette | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I'm having a really tough time with this, my boyfriend DOES NOT want to know, so my issue is now how do I find out and keep it from him? good luck with this decision it's a doozie taybarney | Q&A: Should I find out gender? In my opinion, you are JUST as surprised at the ultrasound as you are at the birth. With my daughter the suspense was waiting for the 18 week ultrasound and it gave me the excitement about halfway through to feel rejuvenated after a tough first trimester. I was able to shop for a girl and it DOES make a difference. I bought neutral equipment (carseat, stroller, ect) but by knowing her gender I also was able to plan a beautiful bedroom that can grow up with her rather than buying neutral gear and then changing it all when she grew into a toddler. I also buy all her clothes a year ahead by shopping the clearance racks after each season, and her first year was no exception. The main thing is to decide what works best for you! I like to plan and save as much money as possible, as well as needing a boost during pregnancy. I was so anxious to meet my daughter that the birth was NO LESS EXCITING than if I were to find out the gender there. It almost might be less exciting (in my mind) because immediately after birth you're thrown into motherhood and don't have the time to brood over the excitement of the gender! Mommy2Ciara2007 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I have been pregnant two times, and did not find out either time. I am proud to be part of the small percent that allows their babies gender to be a surprize until the big day. People looked at me like I was crazy not to find out. I said well if God wanted me to know he would of put a window their for me to see :-) Trying for a 3rd and we are not finding out this one gender either. Daisharain | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband does not want to know- he is pretty easy going overall but had a strong opinion on this even before we were ttc. As much as I want to know I am waiting for him because I love him! Plus I think gender neutral stuff is better because then you don't have to re-buy everything for baby two (this is our first!). leah0109 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? First, I think its totally your decision and what works for one doesn't work for all!! I personally, don't want to know the sex of the baby before I deliver. As longs as the baby is healthy that's all that I ask. For me, waiting to meet this little soul is enough to look forward to. Green is my favorite color and that's as neutral as they come for decorating. After all, after you stopped believing in Santa Claus the moments of surprise have been few and far in between. Ander0714 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I couldn't imagine decorating the nursery after the baby was born..There's too much going on as it is...Unless your going with a neutral color..but they are so UGLY! :( I would def find out as soon as possible. I mean some of those cute baby shirts won't be around when you have the baby so stock up now! neoangel06 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? that is totaly up to u but if u decided and aren't able to untill the baby's born don't get upset. korbinsmom3 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? When did pink = girl and blue = boy get signed into law? How strict we all have become for deciding what the acceptable colors are for gender. If you want to find out what you're having because you think that's the best decision for you-great! If you want to wait to find out what you're having until the baby is born-great! But to say that you NEED to know so you can decorate the nursery pink or blue is sad. reeckj | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My sister and her husband didn't find out because (to quote her husband) "it's the only thing that will happen just like it does in the movies!" Also, like me, neither of them wanted anything pink and ruffly as they knew they would get if anyone found out it was a girl. It's exciting to prepare a nursery, but there are really so many ways to make it beautiful and functional (more importantly) without making it gender specific. Get creative! I think it's nice to keep your baby away from gender stereotypes as long as possible. Personally I'm waiting to find out for these all these reasons - and I agree with the mom who said the surprise will motivate her in labor :) sunpuddles | Q&A: Should I find out gender? OH lordy...intellegender is NOT 100%, it's not worth the money...it's about 40 bucks and you'll get more accurate results with a 20week ultra sound! Also...You should just know if you really want to know...If you like surprises, then wait til their birth..if you're impatient, like I am...find out at your 20week U/S GL. JustMe081 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? we are going to wait to find out...I do agree that it's already been hard shopping and not knowing...but I want the surprise. A girlfriend I went to school with was told all along that she was having a girl, bought everything for a girl, even had her name on the wall in the nursery...2 days before the baby was born...they found out it was indeed not a girl...what would you do with all that girly stuff?? jaclyncsmith | Q&A: Should I find out gender? If you DON'T want to know be sure and state that clearly at any ultrasound appointment. We didn't want to know with our first - and at 12 weeks the tech goes "I could bet my next paycheck that you are having a boy!".... whoops. She was right though.... we had a boy. They can see it that early if they are using high tech equipment and the tech is very experienced (we were at the perinatologist's office for a level 2 sono). Most of the time you can't see it till about 16 weeks. This time around I don't want to know, but DH does..... we have all the boy things already - and as long as we have bedding and decorations picked out for a girl, it will only take a day to get the nursery ready. Besides, the baby will sleep in our room the first few weeks since I will be nursing. chrisandangi | Q&A: Should I find out gender? i cant wait to find out. i want to have everything ready to the best i can plus even with its still in my belly i would love to be calling the baby by name and not just baby or little bun. i think on my last one though i will leave it a surprise. by that time i should have enough of everything to not have to worry about it. KawaiiThaiMom | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband did not want to know the gender of our first, though I did causing quite the issue as MIL spilled the beans...how typical! This time around after having a girl, I have decided not to find out the gender. It will drive me insane as I am a planner and really dislike suprises. [url=http://www.thebump.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=UBB&utm_campaign=tickers][img]http://global.thebump.com/tickers/ttd4aec.aspx[/img][/url] wsisaacs | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I had the problem of whether or not I wanted to find out the sex of the baby. I would want to find out then I wouldn't...back and forward...back and forward. Finally I decided that for my first child (which this one is) I want to find out, but the next ones we are going to wait to find out. We figured this way the next times around we would at least have one gender already covered so that if it went either way next time it wouldn't matter if we got boys or clothes and items the second time around because we would already have one of the two covered. Anyway, that was my reasoning behind it. becca333 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband and I decided after watching my sisters: One found out she was having a girl and even though they registered for neutral things, they got a TON of pink stuff, especially clothes. That was fine then, but when she had her second baby (a boy), they had almost nothing for him and had to re-buy a lot. Second sister didn't find out, got some blue some pink, lots of neutral. After she had her baby (a girl too!), she still got loads of pink. She had plenty for her second (a boy) when he came though. I love the whole "only real surprise in life" thing, too, but for the first kid at least, we're not finding out partially for the practicality. :-) TsaKlear | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I read a lot of good answers on here and have decided what SO and I are going to do. I am 7 weeks and already can't wait to find out!! However, I don't want to receive all pink or blue anything, so I think we will keep it a secret from family and friends. That way, we can surprise everyone when the little one arrives but still know for our own sanity what we are having! I have already decided on everything for the nursery, and it is all neutral colors, so even if people stop by to see the nursery they won't be able to tell. (I will probably have to keep the closet doors closed though) I also like the idea of having the doctor write it down and reading it with SO later and making it even more special. SavannahWe21 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I'm on the fence about wanting to know. My DH has two sons from a previous marriage so of course I'm rooting for a girl , just to restore balance to the house! :) My mom THOUGHT I WAS GOINT TO BE A BOY RIGHT UNTIL THE MOMENT I WAS BORN! The doc misread the ultrasound! So even if you do find out.... you might still get a suprise ;) MochaMomma84 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? i found out the sex of my first ds and i want to know this one and if it is a girl i wont find out the sex of the third bc then i will have everything for a boy and everything for a girl so i wont have to stress that much on buying joshandjulie08 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? The way I see it, babies are a gift from God, so why spoil the surprise by finding out ahead of time? In my opinion, don't find out. I can't wait until we are surprised in the delivery room, and lucky for us, my mother and sister have tons of clothes and things to lend us in both colors. 870girl | Q&A: Should I find out gender? At first I thought I would want to wait until the baby was born to find out the sex, but the more I thought about it, I decided to find out. My husband really wants to know ahead of time, and while I'd be perfectly content with a green room and neutral decor, car seat, stroller, etc, I still think it will be exciting for us to know and start thinking of our baby as baby girl or baby boy. I think it will help both of us bond with baby even more, especially my husband. . bobkatt1 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It was importent for me to know the gender of my baby, because it felt strange calling the baby "it". When we found out at 20 weeks we were having a boy, and since we already had his name picked out, everyone in the family called him Chase instead of "it" or "the baby". It made it more personal, like I was getting to know my baby already! aradiger | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I'm 8 weeks, and Daddy and I decided very early on that we weren't going to find out. His sister's had all boys (her third's on the way in June), and after seeing all the fuss over her, I'd rather wait. Besides, it's such a beautiful surprise. As long as the baby's healthy, I don't care about the sex anyway. We have several names picked out for either side...and I've got a gut instinct it's multiples (won't find out til 3/30), so we're prepared for a variety of combinations. Plus, I love green and brown so I'm totally prepared for nesting without knowing...and it'll be better when we have more and need to reuse stuff. FrauElyse | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My DH and I don't have much money, so finding out the gender of our second baby is a practical matter for us. If we are going to have another boy, we don't have to switch much, but if we're going to have a girl, we may need to ask people for additional support initially. nora231 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I think whatever you choose is Absolutely Perfect! Trust your instincts and you will be happy and stress free. This is your experience, bump what anyone else thinks! jantrej | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I would love to find out how many of you are going to keep the sex a secret from everyone else actually kept their pregnancy a secret once they found out you were expecting?! As for us, we are not going to find out the sex of our baby and just take 2 outfits and 2 names to the hospital when it is time! (We also haven't told anyone other than the doctor and we are 6 weeks into this process). PierresMommy | Q&A: Should I find out gender? i disagree with the "so few surprises in life" excuse. if you dont want to know thats fine, its your choice, but if you choose to find out you are still surprised when you find out you are just finding out a few weeks earlier. also i think its a way you can "get to know" your baby a little bit, you can pick a name and picture your baby, and even better you can plan ahead and get the room ready. (because let be honest, "gender neutral" = yellow beige and green, which isnt good if your baby is jaundice, it just makes them look more yellow) and ive had friends who waited and bought their babies clothes after the baby is born, dont get me wrong but planning ahead can feel time and get your mind off of waiting and having all tht to do after seems unnecessary work at a time when you are going to be caring for a newborn! myschlove | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We found out with our first one, since there were baby showers involved, but with this one, we're going to keep it a surprise. It's a choice you're going to have to make. Good luck! mommybitbit | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Its up to you! I know there is absolutely no way on Earth that I can wait to find out the gender, lol. I want a little girl so bad! erinandmikewhitt | Q&A: Should I find out gender? me personally, i am too old for surprises...so i want to know. norvelln | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Practically it is nice to know because you can plan a wardrobe and colors for a nursury. On the other hand if you plan to have multiple children choosing a neutral color scheme and wardrobe can be nice for stretching money. My church and family did a baby shower before I had my 1st, didn't know gender so I got a ton of neutral clothes. With my 2nd, we had some medical problems that required lots of ultrasounds and we decided to find out. Either way was fun. clkiwis | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband and I don't want to know the gender. We're going to prepare a gender neutral nursery and we're going to buy clothes for the first 3-6 months only. Clothes tend to be very gendered, we'll get the rest after baby's born. efalcone | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I don't want to know but my husband does. He says we need to know so we can prepare properly. I really want to be surprised so I don't know what to do. elaine15 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We're going to find out. My brother and sister-in-law decided not to find out ahead of time, but they were convinced that they were having a boy. When they had a girl they actually MOURNED for the son that they didn't have. Better to know up front, I say. And you don't have to tell anyone else, if you're afraid of an explosion of pink or blue. LisaA02 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We're not going to find out. My husband really doesn't want to, and my MIL is pissed and really wants to know, so even if I wanted to find out, knowing my MIL is pissed is worth not finding out. ;) And, I really feel like it's a boy. My husband says I have a 50/50 shot of being right. :) RParris2010 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We did NOT find out with our first. I had a feeling the whole time it was a boy and I was right--It was the BEST feeling when he came out and they said It's a boy! We are TTC again and I think this time we will find out. 1. Because I want to know what it's like to know the whole time 2. Need to know if I should keep all the boy clothes or make room for the girl ones :) Like people said--It's completely up to you :) albany20 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? we ARE finding out the baby's sex. Its still just as much a suprise and we plan to share the suprise with our family. They will know when we know as we are having the ultrasound person write it on a piece of paper, which we will open when we have all our family together. I think both knowing and not knowing have valid points and its a personal thing. For us, I like to plan and put a name to my baby before it is born. I just like knowing! and why the heck not! OurJellybean | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I love the idea of being surprised in the delivery room--it's what I did with my first two children. But now that they are old enough to understand the new addition to our family (they're ages 10 and 8) they are DYING to know whether they are getting a baby brother or sister. I think I just might give in! It really depends on your family and situation--you may not be the only person to take into account when making this decision. LynneF26 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? If you want your child to wear tans and greens and yellows, it is definitaly ok to let your childs gender be a surprise, but i kno that i will want a baby shower where people to KNOW to bring in either the pinks or the blues. On the other hand, there is nothing wrong asking for onsies and strollers, and baby bathtubs and little toys that doesnt MATTER the gender. Plus, either way, you are going to need TONS of diapers!! if you want your babys gender to be a surprise, ask everyone for a box of pampers. SUPERSIZE :) kirstenporter | Q&A: Should I find out gender? For our first we did not find out the sex of the baby. It was a blessing. We received items we needed for baby opposed to clothing at our baby showers. Also it was fun to listen to the guesses and predictions based on how I was carring the baby, or just what people thought. Another idea I came up with, was to find out the gender if you want to know, but don't tell anyone right away - reveal the gender at your babyshower(s) to all the guest. Then you get the best of both worlds :-) beyerb | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I have been wondering myself. I want it to be a surprise yes, the whole pregnancy is a beautiful thing and such a joy and to wait until its time will be very exciting. But at the same time I want to be prepared and ready for my baby. I would love to have most things in place before we go to the hospital and have our baby. I asked my husband what he thinks and he says whatever you want lol. Which doesn't help as I hope he would have some opinion towards what we should do. Wait or not wait that is the question! Billandmarylou | Q&A: Should I find out gender? With our first we found out with a 3D ultrasound so I had to wait until 26 weeks but it was so much better than the standard ultrasound you get in the doctors office. Instead of being told what it was we were able to see for ourselves very clearly and then prceeded to watch our little boy move around and suck his thumb for the next 20 minutes. It was such a beautiful moment for my husband and I and we were filled with ecitement for weeks after because we felt like we had already met our little one. (like buying online and then waiting for shipping :-) ) I kept a clear photo of my babe by my bed so I could see his face and call him by name everytime he kicked. I really think the bond grew so much stronger because of it. By the time he arrived I felt like we were old friends which is nice because there can be so many scary things in delivery. I didn't want not knowing my baby to be one of them. I plan to do the same thing this time around although I might go for an earlier 3D this time. I'm just dying to know after trying for 2 years what our future holds. But if you feel pressured or aren't sure I deffinitely wouldn't do it. Stress is never good. sannod | Q&A: Should I find out gender? The only reason I could think of wanting to know the gender of your baby would be so you could stock up appropriately on his or her room furnishings, clothing and things like that. Also maybe so you can start referring to the little bug as "he" or "she", rather than calling "it" things like "it" and "little bug"... does that make sense? Ucci | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband and I have decided to find out the sex of our baby. However, we do not plan on telling anyone else. As mentioned by another comment we want to keep at least one thing about the pregnancy just between us. The only reason we are finding out is because I am so impatient I just can't wait :) We are also planning on a gender neutral nursary theme so people can still get outfits for the baby (my family loves to shop) Kathleen Herren | Q&A: Should I find out gender? This is our first, and both my hubby and I are really estatic. I'm not going to find out. Yes, it would be easier to shop and decorate, but to me the NOT knowing, and just wondering all thru the preg, and also the BIG surprise on my delivery day is worth all the wait. There are really few surprises in life! seah1 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? hmm, one day we want to know and the next we don't! We're so excited to welcome our first child into our lives, but at this point I'm pretty sure that we're not going to intentionally find out the gender. The pregnancy was "unplanned" in that we weren't actually trying, it just happened, so it must be meant to be. With that in mind baby's gender will also be "unplanned" if we don't know the gender we can't plan for a boy or a girl... what's meant to be will be! Either way we can't wait to meet our precious little babyA. Pipsicle | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I've done both: waited and not waited to find out. I always wanted to try the surprise at birth route, but for me personaly I didn't feel like I bonded with baby in my tummy as much not knowing what gender I was trying to bond with. It shouldn't matter, but that's what it was for me. Everyone is different. I wouldn't do it again. The only fun part of the whole thing was over in a couple seconds. Keep in mind that at the ultrasound or in the hospital either way it is going to be a surprise. One surprise is just sooner and gives you time to plan better. kindyra | Q&A: Should I find out gender? we are not finding out. since this will be our only child (at least that is the plan for now) we want to make the most out of this we can. i think you should do what is right for you and your husband. either way the baby will be whatever the baby will be! Mrs. Pestacchi | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I agree with kindyra, for me, it's hard to form a bond not knowing if it's a boy or girl. My husband and I are planning to find out, but want to tell everyone we're waiting. That way it will be a surprise for everyone else. If we do slip up and call it him/her, they won't think anything of it. tiffyjaye | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I used to think I didn't want to find out, but now that I'm pregnant I know I'm going to. I remember when my friend was pregnant she found out and a lot of people would give her a hard time saying, "There are so few surprises in life...". After she delivered, we were talking about it and she said, "The way I see it, I got two surprises. I got the surprise of finding out we were having a boy half way through, which was one of the most exciting days for us, and then I got the surprise of meeting him when he was born. Nothing could take away from that excitement, seeing your baby for the first time, even if I already knew what gender he was going to be." I think that;s a great way to think of it. When it comes down to it, either way you go, finding out or not, it's all about what feels right to you and your husband/partner. No matter what, the day he or she is born is going to be the most exciting! leena05 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am 100% for a surprise. I understand there is a lot of work to get prepared but I think it would be awesome to have the surprise. I would say it depends on your theme if you should find out. Jungle theme (our babies theme) is for both genders. My husband would like to know but I told him as of now lets make it a surprise. jnbwbw888 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It is possible to know what you are going to have. Me and my wife actually were able to plan out when to have a boy after learning about the difference of the male and female sperm survival in the vagina and uterus. This book REALLY made a difference in our life and I LOVE my son LiL G since he is my JR. :) check it out www.GENDERBABYSHOP.com Gabriel H | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I want to know as soon as possible. My sister in law gave me a great idea. We are going to have the doctor write down the gender on a piece of paper and open it up later at a nice dinner out brianandcandy | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Personally with our first child we waited. It was SO exciting. I feel like now there's nothing exciting about a baby being born where you already know the gender, name, and sometimes the birthdate with all the c-sections. Honestly I've noticed that at baby showers where the couple finds out the gender they get a TON of clothes. My sil found out and she didn't get all the big things they needed. I feel like we hardly got any clothes because we didn't know the sex and after my daughter was born...people bought clothes, so we got more :) GOOD LUCK JANETL12 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? A pro to finding out is that everyone can get your baby the gifts he or she will need in appropriate colors :) But a pro to waiting is at the end of your delivery, you will find out what your miracle is, a beautiful boy or beautiful girl! Either way it will be special! Giambs9807 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I went the surprise route and hubby wanted to know, so I covered my ears and eyes during the u/s. Everyone around me knew, but I didn't, and I was ok with that. At my shower, I received a number of adorable yellow, green, red and blue outfits. Ducks, turtles, frogs, etc. My nursery was rainforest themed so it didn't matter the gender. If you did want to go traditional-type of a nursery (pink or blue) then yes, you should find out the gender, but if you find you are leaning more towards: rainforest, pooh, bears, animals, etc then there is no reason to find out, unless you want to. imo hmkahle | Q&A: Should I find out gender? To me, finding out ahead of time is the same surprise as finding out the day of. It's just that you are finding out your "surprise" earlier. :) KimnBen | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am torn on whether I want to or not as well. On one hand, I want to be surprised. On the other, I am a complete fashion freak and want to be able to get all the awesome gender specific items out there. I seriously want amazing dresses for my daughter or adorable little man sweaters and button downs for my son. But the one issue I am freaking about: one of my close friends had a baby several years ago. She found out it was a girl, she was super excited and her whole family gifted her with tons of pink girly stuff, just to find out on delivery day that it was a beautiful little boy. I DO NOT WANT THAT TO HAPPEN! So I thought, well maybe I could make sure all the furniture/car seat/stroller items were gender neutral and then take a leap of faith on the clothing items and if it ends up the opposite sex just go out and get new clothes? That seems pricey. I am still torn! alisds | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband and I waited to find out and it was the most fantastic experience of our lives! We knew how much hair our child had before we knew we had a little girl! It was totally worth the wait, especially when my husband was able to go tell our family the great news in the waiting room! kc9580 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? i have to know because i don't have the cash to splurge last second on baby stuff. also i have 2 boys..the only way id have to spend any extra money is if i have a girl bc i kept EVERYTHING saturdaysuiteheart | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I want to find out. we have all boys in the family and I would love to know what the sex is so i can prepare myself an nursery. Especially myself for all the extra attention if its a girl. We hope its a girl so we can break the chain. lol awood2005 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Im on my second baby and I can't wait to find out the sex. Finding out the sex makes me feel secure in what I buy, how I decorate the nursery and makes me more excited when I see things for the baby. Everything dosn't have to be nutural, I am able to use nutural colors plus blues (for a boy) or pinks purples (for a girl) :) Hope this helps. ki22e22 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? What are all of the abbreviations? Such as DH? heather1052 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? There's a certain enjoyment of waiting until the baby is born to find out, but if you really want to be prepared with boy or girl clothes, etc then it would be good to find out. For me... I was always so impatient and HAD to know. lol I'm pregnant now (only 11 weeks) and in some ways I don't want to find out but I have three boys already and really want a girl so I don't know if I can wait! lol mezmom | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Ultimately, it's up to you and your partner. I just found out I'm pregnant 2 days ago and this is our first baby so we are for sure finding out. I don't think I could want a whole 9 months to find out. Plus it makes shopping a little easier and preparing the nursery much more fun, I think anyway. Whatever you decide to do though, have fun with it! mrspalensky11 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am 12 weeks today and both my husband and I want to find out. I don't care about having gender specific clothes, I just feel that knowing the gender and being able to call my baby by his or her name will help with the bonding process even before birth. But like many others have said, it is a personal decision so have fun with whatever you decide! ladydi82 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My thoughts: well you do know right now so it will a surprise whether you are surprised in a couple weeks or a couple months. We do not get to pick the sex of our babies so it is always a surprise. Plus shopping for yellows and greens is no fun. Blues and Pinks are the way to go! Hope that helps add some insight, but of course it is your decision. jamietdobson | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Inteligender did not work for me and my friend. We had the opposite of what it told us. Please don't waist your money. If you really want to find out, go have a 3D ultrasound. Its an amazing experience. cgonya | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We were surprised with first...and I am so glad we waited. The nursery felt a little plain at first but I am always shopping and finding the unique touches ton keep adding. So few surprises in life. cprn | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I have always planned on waiting to find out. (Even before I was married!) I have been to many baby showers, and when family and friends know what gender the baby is, they seem to only buy clothing, and not really the stuff you need. That said, it will be very hard to wait, because I'm so excited, and I just want to find out!!! We are thinking of waiting until right before we have a baby shower and doing that cake thing... The Dr seals an envelope with the baby's gender inside and give it to your baker for the cake for the baby shower. That way, we won't be over encumbered with baby clothes, and everyone will get to find out at the same time when we cut into that cake and it's either blue or pink! I don't know if we will change our minds or not, but for right now, that is our plan. :) justmissa | Q&A: Should I find out gender? knowing the sex of the baby can make it easier to plan and buy for, but some parents prefer to be surprised. If you decide not to find out, there are plenty of unisex clothes and decor options out there so that you're not completely unprepared. It's really a matter of personal choice. publicprivacy | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Right now I don't plan to find out. I like surprises! This may change later on in my pregnancy. ashley1394 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We found out at 12 weeks, and guess what? It was a surprise. It's just that we got the surprise earlier. So we had our gender surprise moment already, so it won't be a surprise on the day, but I think we'll have enough to be happy about then... HeatherVowles | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I thought I wanted to know, but my husband did not - so we didn't find out. However, I've been going for weekly ultrasounds (I'm 34 weeks) and the tech told me what we are having a girl. I can honestly say I was a little disappointed when I found out without him and wish I would have waited these extra couple weeks. lmh5102 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I'm also having a tough time deciding on this. I actually do want to find out the gender, but my husband wants to be surprised :( mortegawfg85 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Alright so I see a whole lot of really odd reasons for waiting to find out the sex of your baby. Like most of the people here I think it's a personal decision and what ever makes you happy. Worrying about a tech or a doctor miss reading what he/she sees on the monitor isn't a really good reason. Yes it can be read wrong but it rarely happens. Another thing I've never really heard of is when someone knows the sex of their baby they only get gifts of clothes. It's called communication or a gift registry, if you need things such as baby gear then let people know in a very nice way that you could use a play yard or whatever. Another thing to think of is all these people are buying you baby clothes you can use the money that you would have spent on these clothes and buy the bigger ticket items. I personally don't believe that it's the people coming to my baby shower that is responsible for making sure I have a car seat or stroller. I'm pregnant now with my second child, and I opted to find out the sex of my child and plan to this time as well. Personally I think it gives a better bonding experience through out the pregnancy. Not to mention you can be gender specific and refer to the baby as "he" or "she" rather than the horrific in my opinion "it". Not to mention you can also get use to using the baby's name in your everyday life. sar_cuppcake | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I didn't want to find out at first. I liked the idea of my midwife announcing the gender and having it mean something. I'll be excited either way. But, after talking with my husband I changed my mind. I think he needs some time to mentally prepare before the baby is born. Especially since he already has it in his head that it's a boy. I don't want him disappointed if I were to deliver a girl. I think if he were to find out it was a girl beforehand he would have time to adjust and prepare his mind for his little girl. I don't think he would love a girl any less, I just think he would need some time to get used to the idea. We're still going to try to make it special when we find out. We'll have the technician write it down on a piece of paper (as some of you suggested) and go out to eat and find out there. This is the right choice for me, but it may not be for you. Do some talking with your partner or a close friend and think it through. :) awakenedoleander | Q&A: Should I find out gender? So many appreciate it just for beatiful writting. Thank you for one more crucial posting. Just where else can any individual acquire who type of information and facts usual full method of making? Concerning an important web presentation newly arriving month, plus We are searching for this kind of data. warcraft 3 cheats jerryms | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I have no idea xu | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Personally, it is a choice, but I loved finding out the gender on my first for my husband. That was because all of the grandchildren on his side have been female and he kept saying that our son was going to be a girl. We actually had a bet on the outcome, which made the first trimester more enjoyable and something to look forward to. spazmokitten | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My SIL works in the labor department and she says the best births (full of excitement and happiness) are those that do not know the sex. veeinsd | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Personally, I do want to know the gender of my baby. My husband didn't, and his reason was, "It's one of the only true surprises in life." But I just really do. He respects that. However, if you don't feel you want to know until the baby is born, I think that's just fine! Just be sure that any ultrasound technicians clearly know your wishes regarding that so they don't accidentally give you the news of your baby's gender. Also, make sure to inform your family that you're making the gender a surprise, so not to buy gender-specific items for you. CatnipTrinket | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am unsure if I want to find out the sex of my baby too! I feel that it'll be that much more exciting to find out at delivery. My husband wants to know and so does his family. He can find out but as of right now...I don't want to know. But I may change my mind when the time comes that we can find out. BEST OF LUCK rkmartinez | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I don't think I could possibly wait to find out, but I know that's not for everyone. We'll probably tell people what we're having, too, but I'm going to try to keep our colors gender neutral--we want more than one baby, and it would be nice to use the first baby's things for when the second baby comes, regardless of the gender! beccadfoster | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am excited to find out what i'm having! We have two names picked out for a girl and boy already. This is our first baby so for me and hubby it will be a surprise. I think I would not want to know with my next though. dahlia99 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? You don't have to, no matter what your spouse or anyone says,it is you baby(s) so do what you want. sextupletsmom411 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? FYI from a labor and delivery nurse stand point, determining the sex before 16 weeks can be possibly wrong.. sometimes even at 16 weeks it can be off..... The girls can be swollen making then look like a boy or the boy may still be small... I am pregnant with twins at this moment....16 weeks as of tom and we plan on waiting to find out the gender of them at 18 weeks to make sure it is more accurate!! In the end it is you and your husbands decisions on finding out the gender of your child. A lady I work with wanted to find out but her husband didn't so she found out and put it in a envelope and gave her husband the option to look when he wanted to, and he later did. In the end there is no right answer to this questions it is whatever is best for y'all. :)) agreenfield14 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It's definitely a personal choice. For me, I want to know bc I will be so excited to find out so I can really start planning more specifically. But I do know many people who love the idea of a surprise. Good luck to you on whatever you decide! :-) MyBabyLuv31 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I love the suggestion of having MD write the sex down and reading it together later making a special moment. Was anyone successful keeping the secret from your families? EvieMcSwain | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I want to wait to find out, but my fiance wants to find out right away. So we shall see who wins this one :P Cindergurl | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Completely up to you and your signifigant other! I found out with my first which was a HUGE benefit when preparing but I really did miss the suprise at the end of finding out, so we are not finding out this time :) cdullea117 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I really dont think you should... I have 3 kids and we found out with our last and I wish we never did... Also if this is your first child when you have your baby shower all you will get is clothes because its easy for everyone to shop for and you won't get the things you really need and will end up spending a lot of money on the things you don't get... I am haviong my forth now and were not finding out... It's so exciting to have the whole family waiting and wondering what the baby is too! Lmd2413 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I would have lost my mind, honestly! between my schedule & daily mess...it helped to know the gender. She was being a little shy for a LONG time, though. It took us 22 weeks to figure out she was a...she =) If you have the will power...GO FOR IT. Not many people opt for the surprise nowadays. So kudos to you, & good luck! =) Jenso33 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? That is a question only you can answer however we just had our baby 5 months ago and we did not find out until she came out, it was the most exciting moment. I feel like there are very few surprises in life and this was the most wonderful one. The nurses in the delivery room were so happy we didnt know, they worked it out with the doctor that she wouldnt say it out loud and that dad (my hubby) wouldnt say either, they would just lay the baby on my chest for me to see...when i delivered I couldnt see because they laid her on her side and her legs were covering so I had to lift up her leg to see, it was super exciting and so beautiful! I know its a surprise no matter how you find out but I truely believe my moment was much more exciting for us then if we had to find out by u/s. BabyNewbury2012 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We don't want to know. I think it makes a sweet surprise. For me, I know I am pregnant and I get to feel the first kicks and the closeness of carrying the baby for 9 months. But he doesn't get to enjoy this closeness the way the woman does. For this reason I want to wait till the end... We both get to enjoy meeting our baby and finding out all at the same time together. I like the idea of not genderizing the infant before he/she comes into the world. Wish567 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am not finding out, we only have 6 weeks left, and I am so excited to meet my little one... There is something so special about waiting, my husband and I love reading all the old wives tales, and "debating" if we will have a little boy or girl. Its been so fun. Plus I found beautiful nursery set that will work perfect for either gender not to mention other babies that are in our future. grace1404 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I plan on keeping my babys gender from me and my fiance while those who I invite for the baby shower know, so it'll be a surprise :) mandymogusar | Q&A: Should I find out gender? This is something that should be left to the parents. If you like surprises, dont find out. If you're like most people and cant wait, have it checked out. Tell everyone or keep it to yourself. It is your decision. The gender tests are just as accurate as the "coin on a string method." The intelligender tests the PH of your pee. If you drink water only , it will be low and say boy. If you drink soda, coffee, juices ect, it will be high and say girl. A high school friend used it for all 4 pregnancies of hers and it was wrong every time. My SIL used it twice for her first kid . It said girl at week 18. Boy at week 19 and the ultrasound said girl at week 20. Dont bother. The Gendermaker test is more accurate but 2 out of 3 tests will glow purple not blue or pink. If you have $60 to waste, go for it. In my family, we have two of the opposite gender kids. Want a girl . You get 2 boys. Want a boy. Get 2 girls. I'd find out if you have your heart set on one gender. My SIL cried in the parking lot of her second child's 20 wk ultra. She wanted a boy so bad so she could have one of each. It was another girl. DESTINYSARA | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband and I struggled with the answer to this question. We are both planners, but my advice is that if you have the smallest inkling that you will have more children, make sure your gear is gender neutral, and even though you MAY want to find out before the baby is born, still register for gender neutral clothes. We find out the gender in about two weeks, but we are still going to ask for some yellow and green because we know we want more kids, this way, we have clothes for either gender when more Little Ones arrive! Also, my biggest advice is to let your partner make the big announcement as to the gender if you plan on having a family get together to announce. We are announcing at a dinner (it will be a surprise to everyone there!) and he will open the envelope and say what it is. Just think if you were in his shoes -- all the attention is on Mommy and Baby, the husband/partner is just a 3rd wheel that gets left in the corner. Let him have his moment -- this is probably his only one for a while. =( lewilhelm | Q&A: Should I find out gender? This was something that my husband and I really thought a lot about. We did want the surprise of It's a ..... when it was born but also, wanted to know. The reasons we decided to find out was: clothing has been a lot easier to find now, we only have to focus on a girl name now, its like a surprise everyday and the best thing to think about, I had a real issue with only have gender neutral things and people asking me if it was a boy or girl cause you can't tell obviously and dont have the most time to go out shopping for pink or blue things especially if you are recovering from a c-section. I figured even when your baby is born it is still going to be a surprise of what he/she looks like, what traits she has from you and ones from your hubby, and you still have the excitment of getting to look forward to meeting your little one, cause even though you know the sex you don't know everything. There is lots of surprises left! :) BEST LUCK in whatever you choose! There is no right or wrong choice when it comes to this! :) beckyschell | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I also just found out that I'm pregnant and I am really anxious to know the sex. Only you have the answer to this question, when it comes to these kind of things I have a lot of curiosity. So if you're like me I think you should find out the gender. paohh123 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? You've got to trust your heart on this one! There's no right or wrong answer to this question.. it's different for everybody. I've known moms-to-be who swear that they wont be tempted to ask the gender of their baby.. but when it comes down to it, they change their minds and HAVE to know! I've also known the opposite.. mommas who are determined to find out whether they're having a boy or a girl.. but as they sit there listening to the heartbeat, they suddenly decide that maybe it'll be worth the wait to find out. It's a personal decision, and your thoughts on it might change. Don't stress about it. Enjoy. Do what's right for YOU! JennieJuniper | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am pregnant with twins & I am putting my foot down. I am not finding out the genders. I agree that there are few surprises in the world & this is going to be the greatest! Don't find out! MeGaTron2008 | should-i-find-out-gender Where can i find the Itellgender test at? Kinsleysbaby | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It is a personal decision to make and there is no right or wrong answer. In regards to the comments that it is a surprise whether in the Drs. office or at the time of birth, I agree. However, I also think it is the difference between finding the invitation to your surprise birthday party a week before it happens and learning about it as you walk into the room with all the decorations and loved ones. Both are a surprise, but one is likely to be more powerful and intense than the other one. I personally want my surprise to come with the sounds of the first cries and seeing the baby for the first time. That is why we are going to wait. My husband was more on board with finding out, but we made an agreement to wait together for this first one and if I still want to wait for the next ones to come, he can find out if he wants to. Plus, the more gender neutral clothes I get now, the better it will be if the next one that comes along is the opposite gender. And there are more and more creative ways to keep it gender neutral and not only have two options of yellow and green. Good Luck with your decision. KristinaWolfe | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We decided to wait. It is so exciting because I want a boy but I also want a girl. I get so few real surprises, it is nice to have something to look forward to. I imagine holding a little me or a little version of my husband. Can't wait plus I'm not a fan of pink or blue. I love earth tones and natural light colors. nekora | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I know lots of people who waited, but we didn't wait for our first and I'm sure we won't for our second. It would be neat in theory to not know until the baby arrived, but there are lots of practical reasons why it is nice to know ahead of time such as: 1) Decorating the baby's room 2) Buying Clothes 3) Picking a name to have monogrammed or put on clothing, blankets, etc. 4) Some people REALLY want a certain sex and are disappointed when they find out they are having the other sex. I have several friends who were happy that they found out beforehand so they/their husbands, had time to get used to having the sex they were actually having as opposed to the one they had hoped for in their heads. That said, I have several friends who waited until the birth to find out and they were very happy with their choice. To each her own, there is no "right" choice! jes1404 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I think you should! You can be more prepared for when the baby gets here instead of scrambling to find boy things or girl things! Rechelle1990 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband didn't want to know. While I thought a surprise would be fun, I wanted to know just for practical reasons (buying clothes, mostly--all the big stuff we would buy neutral, anyway). Well, we went to my ultrasound at 17 weeks and the ultrasonographer couldn't tell--baby was sitting Indian-style and hands, feet, and umbilical cord were all in the way of a clear view. So, hubby convinced me just to wait and we didn't find out at my 27-week scan, either. I had my family shower a few weeks ago and got a lot of the essentials (this is our first), and will have another shower after baby is here, where I'll probably get mostly clothes. I've basically just been buying neutral stuff up to 3 months. Sometimes I still wish I knew, but it will be so exciting when he/she comes out! I'm 37 weeks now, so not much longer to wait! dvmsara | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We didn't find out with number one and number two. I had zero desire to know. I really felt that there are so few surprises in life (that are good) and I relished in the waiting. It was also super fun to watch my family and friends squirm with anticipation. They couldn't stand it! :) This time, we are thinking about finding out. We have two boys and a small house. We figure why not find out, it could be really fun and we would love to get some of the items we won't need out of the house in case of a girl or know we have tons of clothes and things if it's a boy. Either way you can't go wrong and it is a completely personal decision. I will say that in my experience there was no amount of disappointment when my babies were born, not an instant of it. Even though I really wanted a girl the second time that was all forgotten the moment I saw him. I do worry a bit that I might feel differently to find out either way ahead of time? Maybe that's just me. pbandjsticktogether | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I believe you should go with your gut feeling on this one. If you would like a surprise then wait and be ready with a boys and girls name. And if you aren't too anal about decorating and shopping then you should be good to go. jesiahandurielsmama | Q&A: Should I find out gender? In my personal opinion knowing the birth prior to having the baby was helpful in being prepared. It made shopping easier, versus having to wait at least minute because I didn't know the sex of the baby. In opposing, my cousin did not want to know until she gave birth and she said she loved playing the guessing game and being surprised at the end. I tend to be very organized and a top of things type of person and for me, waiting wouldn't work for me. yalitzaflor | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It's important to know the differences in caring for boy or girl "parts" and I wouldn't want to be studying that info while recovering. It also helps to know so your family can help you shop. Our first was a girl and all the big stuff (stoller, car seats, crib) are gender non-specific, but everyone wanted to buy clothes and toys for her, and it's kinda rude to expect gifts/ have a shower if people don't know what to buy. My friend didn't find out and only put big items on her registy (furniture, etc.) PetuniaFeatherbottom | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We are contemplating not telling the gender for several reasons. This might be my last pregnancy so I sort of want to know what it is like. Also, gender stereotypes start in utero so curious to see how people act when they don't know the sex. amymichelle789 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I admire those who can wait until birth... I'm clearly not one of those. I've been so curious that I just refused to buy anything until my DH let's me know the sex of our baby. I wanted to go on a blood analysis but he won't let me until we reach the 2nd trimester... I think it's just easier to plan everything when one knows the gender. Maresia29 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I decided to wait with my first baby , it was the greatest surprise in the universe and I really enjoyed the fact of having a real old fashioned pregnancy like my parents did. I now am pregnant with my second child and I am going to find out the gender ASAP !!! I want this experience to be new and also different in the way of making this easier on me and all my family and friends ( they were the ones that wanted to know more than me ) ..... I think it was the greatest joy and pleasure part or having a kid , I would do it all over again too but this time is different and I will be finding out the gender asap. JenniferKanoff | Q&A: Should I find out gender? Im going to find out the gender of my baby so that its easier to pick out bedding and such. Also a name so that we aren't savaging at the last second. Plus I don't think I can wait all 40 weeks. klowe29 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband and I just got our BFP and I am 5 weeks along.....we knew even before we got pregnant that we were not going to find out the gender of the baby. We love surprises and we both want to wait until I give birth to find out the sex of the baby. Do what ever you feel is right. :) smayville | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband and I are definitely going to find out, but not share it with anyone else. I have found that everyone else shared and all they got was clothing. While I'm sure my baby will need clothing, they will also need a crib, a stroller, and other items. I don't quite understand the difficulty in choosing nursery items if you don't know the gender. I just want there to be something to announce when the baby comes. It's so much more exciting to make the phone call and be able to say that we have a baby girl or boy, the name, and that the baby is healthy. RebeccaY1 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband says that same things as DavesPrincess--there are few true surprises in life. If people MUST get you presents before the baby is born, ask them to get you any of the myriad nongendered things that babies need...like diapers.... MSVarner | Q&A: Should I find out gender? If you don't already know you want to wait, then you probably want to find out around 20 weeks. For me finding out allowed me to bond with my sons as my sons early. I also hate calling the baby "it." I think it is especially important if you really want specifically a boy or girl. When the baby is born you are so worn out, I would hate to have that magical moment damped by my own physical state or worse disappointment. I have three sons and finding out is especially important to me this time so I either have time to grieve the daughter I will never have or to spread out the purchases of all those pink and purple dresses I am dying to start buying. CandaceMarie321 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I agree that whether you find out via your sonogram or delivery, they're both an awesome surprise. Personally, I don't want to find out the sex though because I want that extra bit of excitement during labor. My husband's sister didn't find out the sex and I thought it was so great when my brother-in-law announced to all of us waiting what the sex was and the name. It made that moment extra special for all of us. I also don't want to get stuck with a ton of pink or blue stuff. Me and my husband want to do a neutral room (tan walls) with a lot of fun color accents- green, orange, aqua blue. I figure if we're doing a neutral room no matter what, might as well wait on finding out the sex. My husband wants to find out the sex though so I'm trying to convince him that we should wait :) azehner | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am not a fan of surprises of any kind, so we will definitely be finding out. Everyone is different though so don't let people pressure you either way! emslade982 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I don't want to know the sex of our baby until he/she is born, but my husband is pretty persistent on wanting to know via U/S. It'll be our very first baby and I don't know what to do. I really want the huge surprise of finding out by holding baby in my arms (persae). What do I do?? Caterpillar2014 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I suggest if you find out the sex of the baby, save the name! My husband and I are going to actually do this. We will find out the sex let people know but the name is Taboo. I am so excited. I have 6 more weeks to find out what I am having!! bjchsc5711 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I would like to find out but my husband has begged me to enjoy the surprise with him. Since I wouldn't be able to keep the secret from him, I decided to let him have his way. I'm adjusting to the idea of being surprised. :) avborges | Q&A: Should I find out gender? That's really up to you. But if you don't want to find out, the best thing to do is buy yellow clothes, and bland Colors of things. Also stuff that would be for male/ or female. Good luck! 😊 babyMel14 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We are waiting for 2 reasons: we want the surprise at the birth(and the opportunity for my husband to hold the baby up and announce the sex). That leads me to number 2. No chance of a mistake about the gender that way. As for the nursery, we are either going with creams and bright colors or something neutral in theme. My hubby likes a Winnie the Pooh theme. I want the bright colors(red, yellow, teal, green) with white and cream. But either way, we aren't worried so much about pink or blue. Don't want to be flooding the child with pink and blue syndrome, anyway. T&Asbaby | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My viewpoint is that if you find out at birth or at your ultrasound it will still be an amazing surprise. You don't know what you are having before your ultrasound, so to me it is still a great surprise and I don't see how finding out ruins "one of life's greatest" surprises. I have my ultrasound on Jan 10th and my husband and I are so excited! MrsPrice519 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? We found out with our first child, did NOT find out with our second child. Now that we pregnant with our third child, we decided we liked the surprise best so we've opted not to find out again. (Also, we have a girl and a boy, so as long as the baby is healthy we're happy.) Some people complained about gifts when we didn't find out, but that's their problem. Now that we're older and more established, I don't have a problem telling people that's what we've decided to do and that's our choice as the parents. Do what YOU want to do that makes you happy, everyone else can bite a pickle. acbarber | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I'm having the same predicament. The closer we get to the 20 weeks the more I want to know. It was going to be revealed to everyone (including me) at the shower which I think is a fun way to do it. The only thing is that it's frustrating when people keep saying "you're having a boy" or "you're having a girl". My only recommendation is do what YOU want and not anyone else. If I was a patient person I would wait until the very end. baly3225 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I have 6 nieces and 3 nephews on my side of the family, and we knew with all of them. It is nice for people to be able to get you specific gifts for the shower and design your nursery. However, I have two nephews on my husbands side and his sister did not find out with either of them (or the one she is preggo with right now). It is the absolute coolest feeling when the baby is born and you get to announce it to everyone. I feel like there are not a whole lot of unknowns in the world anymore and this surprise is one you just can't explain the magnitude of. Personally, my husband and I after experiencing our siblings decisions have decided not to find out. I am an interior designer, so I think I can swing a neutral nursery. As for clothes, we are so fortunate to have so many hand me downs. My sister had twins, one boy one girl not too long ago, so luckily we are pretty much covered on all basis. The decision is ultimately what will make you feel comfortable throughout your pregnancy, but there is my two cents. skite4 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? You can try Pre Gender test from Urobiologics. This test guides you to conceive in a specific menstrual cycle to get a baby of desired gender. Based on discovery of amazing new secrets about women. 100% Natural. Safe, simple urine-based test. SarahThoms | Q&A: Should I find out gender? My husband and I opted to find out. I was honestly rather indifferent... Part of me wanted to wait, but another part of me didn't see the point in keeping the gender a mystery. I will say that once we found out the entire experience became a lot more "real". LindsayJNiles | Q&A: Should I find out gender? It depends on what kind of experience you want and what's most important to you. Waiting to find out isn't the norm anymore, but it's certainly traditional. Would you rather do a gender reveal during your pregnancy with a cute photo or reveal at the shower? There are so many cute ideas on Pinterest for how you could do that, Or would you rather give your SO the opportunity to reveal the gender to you and the family when the baby is born? The traditional "it's a boy" or "it's a girl" announcements that we imagine from movies or our parents generation come with their own drama and joy. It just depends on what you imagine for yourself. There are so few things you get to fully control about pregnancy, labor and delivery (birth plan, yeah! Sure if you're lucky.) This choice is one that you can fully choose, so it's wise too be thoughtful and decide what's important to you. Try and ignore pressure from family and friends and listen to your heart. There isn't a wrong choice. If not knowing gives you anxiety, if you can't wait to deck out your nursery in pink or blue, or you love the fun of gender reveal parties/ pictures that might be an indication you would feel more settled knowing during your pregnancy. If you feel like children are gendered too young, and should have a chance to just be a baby, or if you want the extra incentive and excitement during labor, then waiting might be right for you. daniellelarie | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am experiencing the same experience, I can't decide.. I spend a lot of time in www.babink.com it is a social media for babies, it helps me a lot!! and it is lot of fun.. but becarefull it is addicting lol Jessica1261 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I am experiencing the same experience, I can't decide.. I spend a lot of time in babink,com it is a social media for babies, it helps me a lot!! and it is lot of fun.. but becarefull it is addicting lol Jessica1261 | Q&A: Should I find out gender? I love surprises, so we're not finding out the gender for our second either. Depends how you feel about it. Knowing definitely makes it easier to know what colours to buy, but you can get neutral for now if you choose not to find out. Stretch27 | Want to participate? Log in to share your thoughts