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I am really grateful for finding this forum. I can see by other posts that I'm not alone. I do need advice though. My husband's sex drive has been non-existent since we met 9 years ago. I have a very healthy, normal sex drive so as you can imagine this has been a source of frustration and pain for me, but after struggling with this for years I finally accepted the fact that I must live like a nun. The bottom line is I love my husband dearly. Over the past several years however he has been pulling away from me. Recently he told me he needed more time alone. He works crazy 12 hour shifts and is very seldom at home. I'm alone as much as 5 days / nights a week. I go to bed alone. When I awake, he is sleeping. He gets up and gets ready for work and is gone again. It's like being married to a shadow. I am an emotionally-articulate, dynamic, vibrant and passionate woman, whereas my husband is muted, even-keeled and guarded. I think I tire him out. But it's so frustrating being married to someone who doesn't communicate with me unless it's about work or sports. I want real intimacy but I don't know how to bridge the gap between us. Lately I've been all but ignoring him (at his request) and he's more attentive than he's been in years. I hate this though. I feel like I'm playing games. I cry myself to sleep every night. I'm so tired and sad, and I don't know where to turn. Any ideas? |
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- Posted by texaswoman (My Page) on Fri, Oct 24, 08 at 17:13
You don't say how old both of you are, but do you really want to live the rest of your life the way it is now??? Different personalities attract but it sounds like you two are at extremes. Counseling couldn't hurt if he's willing to try that. You should not have to "play games" in your marriage. |
"My husband's sex drive has been non-existent since we met 9 years ago. I have a very healthy, normal sex drive..." Did you write this correctly? Assuming you did, I have no idea why you married him in the first place. However, if you're expecting something different from him at this late date, you're being very unreasonable. Stay or go but don't expect changes. |
I felt the same while I was with my husband. He was busy and when he was not busy then there was always one way communication about his work. In our 15 years of marriage we never had sex more then once a week and lately it was even 2/3 weeks although we both were healthy. Just now I have shifted to another country for my work. He told me that after a weeks separation he needed to have sex badly. I do not know the reason behind. Since past 3 years he has diabetes and he just need to control his weight. He blames me that I did not try my best to suit his needs. I never buy lingerie I admit. I wonder if you try to create romantic atmosphere for him when he is around. |
- Posted by lonely_wife (My Page) on Mon, Dec 29, 08 at 23:08
I can definitely feel your pain. It's really frustrating when you want intimacy and your partner does not respond to it. My husband prefers watching his stupid football games than being intimate with me. I have learned to please myself without him. I know that sounds pathetic but I'd rather resort to that than getting someone in replacement. |
Let me first say I am a very strong willed person that has raised 2 kids alone for 9 years. I am deeply in love with my husband. I told him before we got married that I need intimacy in our relationship to stay and sex. I will not go without either and it is not up for debation. I do not want a roommate I want a partner in my life. I just put it on the line with him either he steps up and keeps it up or I walk and get it else where. I am not saying I could walk easily it would devaste me. But when we are not connecting 2 yrs later I ask him what is up and that it needs to be fixed. I have been single by choice for 10 years and to live with some one with no intimacy I mine as well go back to it. Needless to say its not an issue. I guess my point is you need to talk to your husband. If you say nothing it won't change sometimes men just don't get hints. If these issues are things that you cannot live without you need to think about leaving. Also I believe that if you marry someone you cannot expect them to change because you say I do. In my eyes you have no right to try and change them when they have always been this way and you knew what you were getting yourself into. |
As nearly as I can tell, there is precisely as much masturbation going on within marriages as without. |
my hubby and i also have sex once every 6 months. i confronted him about it and sais we have a unhealthy marriage and he said sex is just a small part of it but it is a huge part for me. i cant remember when last he kissed me passionately. it does get lonely. |
- Posted by readingnut63 (My Page) on Fri, Jan 16, 09 at 10:55
Hello, I'm new to GardenWeb, came here for gardening info and found this forum. To tuliplady, I know exactly how you feel. My husband is 50, I'm 45, married for three years, 2nd for me, 3rd for him. Sex was hot hot hot while we dated. After marriage, it gradually tapered off. Now, we average about one time every three months or so (I think - I used to keep up with it, but no longer), and then I feel like he's doing it just to keep me from complaining. I don't want pity sex, and I dont want it to be always at his whim, as if my desires don't matter whatsoever. I actually no longer address the issue with him. In the past,I've suggested dr. visits for testosterone checks, counseling, etc. He also has some anger issues. He will not go. He does not need Viagra. When he gets going, it's great. He just has very low desire. He would be fine if I never mentioned it. I'm not a nag. Really, I always speak very reasonably about this with him, or at least I did back when I used to bring it up. I am a very low-drama person, he is high-strung and a very high-drama person. If the roles were reversed, he would not put up with that behavior from me. I am not overweight or out of shape, I have guys and women tell me how great I look. I wear makeup and always try to look nice. I'm not trying to brag, I just know that sometimes the first thing people will assume if the husband no longer desires the wife is that she's "let herself go". I too am very lonely and hurt, and while I still love him, his choice to not even try to do something about it hurts very deeply. I have distanced myself the last year or so. To me, that is so sad. I cannot leave him right now due to financial reasons - we both work full time but I am realistic. Life is too short to do without loving and intimacy. I know, it isn't everything, but realistically it is an important part of marriage. Just know that I feel your pain - for anyone, male or female, having to go through this. If you're not going through it, you have no idea how painful the constant rejection can be. |
- Posted by joleander(email@example.com) onWed, Mar 23, 11 at 21:57
I understand how you feel! I am going through the same thing. There is no intimacy or anything. He says that it's all my fault. Recently, he got a job 4 hours away and comes home on weekends. I felt a lot of relief just being with the kids during the week without this dark cloud hovering around. He has been REALLY nice since he is away during the week. I thought he may have seen some of his ways, but men are so overconfident that they couldn't possibly see that they are wrong about anything. Now I don't even want him home on the weekends. It is really hard to take steps to divorce. I do keep remembering this charming caring man that I initially met and married... |
"....men are so overconfident that they couldn't possibly see that they are wrong about anything." Oh, fine. Here we go again. By all means get rid of him if the situation is intolerable to you. And, with that stereotypical attitude, please do not consider re-marriage. At least not to a male. |
- Posted by Charlotte Rose(firstname.lastname@example.com) onSat, Mar 26, 11 at 21:49
Ditto Ladies! I feel the exact same way. I have been married for almost 11 years and I feel that there is a lack of intimacy. Sometimes, I wonder if I am the problem. Maybe it is how I choose to view the situation which may cast a more negative light than what really exists. Nonetheless, I do feel that I am just the picture on the wall. You know, the picture that has been hanging in the foyer that you stop noticing after the first couple of times of looking at it. It seems that sitting down and having a regular conversation with me is not important. If I go out of town on business, it is not important to try to steal some quiet time for just the two of us. The intimacy seems more mudane versus passionate or genuine. To me, he has always been a great father and a good provider, but I have never really been happy with him as a husband. It is really true that "what he does or don't do while dating is the same behavior that will exist in the marriage." In essence, he was not the most romantic and sexual guy while dating; thus, I can't really expect much more than that during marriage. It sucks! Sometimes, I feel like I really want to find the emotional and sexual void elsewhere; but, I know that it will only create additional problems. Regardless, I am lonely! I am tired of being the one that carries the weight. Marriage is tough! It is work in progress. The question is, how much work are you willing to do and to what end? CR |
Well after reading this I feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel. Same issue as most of you here. I do feel "fooled" My husband and I literally stopped having sex after our honey moon. We had the best sex I have ever experienced in my life which is one of the many reason's I married him. First it was "I just don't feel right doing it while your pregnant." No problem I have heard that woman have experienced this before. Baby comes I'm cleared by the doctor, no sex. I wonder if it's me, maybe because I still have the "I just had a baby" look. I have tried talking,begging, pleading, I have tried sending risky little video's to his phone. Nothing!!!!!! We have been to counceling, our pastor, tried viagra.... Nothing..... He has even admitted that he knows the problem is his after of course he blamed me at first. Says that he want's to fix our sex life and knows that it's important. Yet he does nothing!!!! He's praying about it. Believe me I believe in prayer but I also know that if you don't TRY to make a change it isn't going to happen. I've heard others say that alinon may work. I find it hard to accept that I can either accept this sexless, affectionless life or leave. We have kids!!! What do you do. He's a great dad and a great man but I am tired of feeling like I'm kissing my brother. I'm not a sex hound I believe what I'm really missing is the connection that sex is supposed to provide for a married couple!!!!!! At this point however we barely have a connection at all! Any comments, ideas? |
- Posted by silversword (My Page) on Mon, Mar 28, 11 at 13:25
Bunzel, honestly, have you considered he might be bi-sexual and more on the male side of the coin? His excuse sounds like just that. I think he needs counseling. |
- Posted by woodchuck21 (My Page) on Tue, May 1, 12 at 1:56
I actually can't belive what I am reading. I am coming from the male perspective..I am in the same situation, no intimacy, no sex, etc..I get charity sex once every 2-3 months for about 5 minutes or so then she asks me if I can hurry and finish. I'm not sure what the issue is really. I take care of myself and I am in good shape, I completely evolve my world around her, and yet the mere mention of sex or even flirting with her about it makes her yawn. I'm not sying I'm model material but there are plenty of women who check me out...and the sex was 2-3 times a day every day before we got married. If I go elsewhere for sex I would be considered a cheater and she would divorce me instantly and run my name through the mud with my famiy and the kids, but if I even talk about it she changes the subject or acts like I'm some sort of freak. What gives? I guess I'm just saying that there are us guys lacking intimacy too. I don't understand the men who won't have a "relationship" and make love to their wives...Why can't my wife be like you all? |
Woodchuck I agree, where are all these women coming from? Why can't I find a wife that is desperate for sex? These women are like unicorns, I almost don't believe they exist! I am in the same boat as you. It's been over a month since my wife and I had sex and I don't feel like there's an end in sight. Granted we are going through some things, but I feel like this might be my new reality. Seems like it's one or the other, either the man or wife stops wanting it. What the hell? Are all marriages this way? Does it have to be this way? I'd LOVE to hear from a couple that's been married 25 years and still has passion. I want to believe that exists out there. I'm with you on the charity sex. Maybe that's what my wife is doing for me, but I don't know why she doesn't want it more. I take care of her (if you know what I mean) and I am very attentive. I do things most men probably don't, and I know for a fact her ex (for 9 years) only worried about himself. Anyways, she's kinda always been prudish, but still, it's definitely gotten less of late. I hear you. I flirt with my wife, look at her, stare at her (maybe it's a bit creepy sometimes, but still) and she just blows me off. She hates it. I don't get it. I'm trying to keep it interesting. If I didn't do those things she'd probably start to miss it. Well, most women would, but I honestly don't think she would. |
- Posted by catlettuce (My Page) on Sun, May 6, 12 at 21:53
Hmm, another womans point of view. sex has tapered off dramatically with my husband and myself the past few years. In the past I enjoyed our sex life tremendously, but his uber focus on my breasts even when I've have told him repeatedly that it's becoming a turn off when that's all he sees-along with an increasing lack of intimacy in our general day to day life together has me for the first time in my adult life turned off to sex altogether as well as withdrawing from him on an emotional level. I love this man very much and am extremely attracted to him. I have told him this bothers me so many times and also my breasts get painful at times from a couple of cysts I have so they can be really sensitive-he seems to not understand this? I had an abnormal finding on my mammogram last year and was terrified of what would be if I had to have a mastectomy. I'm not worried he would leave or cheat, but he is so into the boobies I don't think I would ever feel confident in my appearance with him if that happened. So consequently I know I have pulled away from him. But when a woman feels they are just not connecting on an emotional level and her man see's only certain physical attributes but not the rest of her soul the decrease in sexual desire is sure to follow. I'm not saying that's your situation, but I know if I felt like I was respected as much as I'm desired by him well I'd probably be feeling a lot more happy in general and thus a lot more interested in having sex. You can't have the deep sexual connection if the same amount of attention isn't given to intimacy and your whole life together. After awhile you just lose hope that you're partner will get it. Which is sad because in other areas of our marriage we have made great strides and gotten stronger and we are both still very attracted to each other. ~Cat |
- Posted by mrstat2rip (My Page) on Thu, Jul 26, 12 at 0:34
Wow after reading this I don't feel so alone. Just don't understand it though. My husband hadn't.made a move on me but I get tired of beginning or discussing it and he don't see how it hurts just say oh it's all about you but can't give me any good reason he don't want to or our marriage isn't based on sex. He knows my past I was sexually deprived & he said that'd never happen all I have to do is ask. Well that ain't working beginning just makes me feel like it pitty sex. I just want back some of the man I fell in love with. We women put up with a lot more than were ever given credit for. So all lady's in pain from no sexual encounters hang in there your not alone. |
- Posted by harry_w_uk (My Page) on Mon, Oct 8, 12 at 18:25
i so feel for u...send me an e mail to email@example.com...lets see if we can find some areas to discuss |
- Posted by LaraAniston (My Page) on Fri, Oct 12, 12 at 21:59
Woodchuck and Garek, where do men like you went??? your wives are very lucky to have you! as for my hubby, i can say hes one lucky guy to have a wife like me! for us, sex b4 marriage is super kinky and fun - we are very adventurous, trying new stuffs and positions - and doing it in different places! we would have sex AT LEAST every other day! don't get me wrong, its not only the sex, but we are very intimate and passionate with each other. we are now married over a decade, and the lack of sex - most esp intimacy - started about 6months ago. i suppose it may be caused by some (normal) family problems, but we used to have them, and it doesn't affect our intimacy at all... intimacy seem to suck out from my hubby overnight! i tried all sort of stunts; initiating sex on him, giving oral sex, dirty dancing for him,and even resorting to watching porn together, just to get him going! at times i felt self-pity, even dirty and pathetic. i used to hear my girl-friends moaning about their zero sex life, and thinking i will never be like them - but now tides have turned... similar to the other women in this forum, i had self-doubt, blaming myself most of the time... though i cannot understand why? i can call myself to be physically attractive, i receive constant cat-calls all through my adult life, men in all ages (even women) would stare whenever i walk past them - even the mudane chores like grocery shopping would turn heads; men would constantly flirt with me, and im quite a people person... im also affectionate, have a light personality and quite a charmer... you may think im a bozo, but believe me, i have earned my masters degree as well... i can hold a good conversation, not to mention im also a public speaker... so what gives??? its really frustrating at the same time very confusing... i tried talking to him, but his usual response is (a) hes tired, (b) hes not in the mood, or (c) we just had sex (with a shocked-face) two days ago!!! at times, i longed for sex, when it get to a point of fantasizing doing it with other men...i would dream of hot sex, or would flirt back at other men... but i would feel guilty afterwards... though this just been going on for the past 6months, it felt like ages! Help! |
hi there Im male and married firstly and Ive got to say how odd it is to hear you ladies saying you are alone in a almost sexless marriage. Ive been married for some 16 years and in the last five or six years our sex life has become almost mil ,I aways thought it was the lady who no longer wanted the cuddles and sex like my wife .my wife has said many times sex is not a thing she enjoys anymore it was just a way to make a family and since we have three children sex is a big NO NO . Im thinking of maybe trying to meet some one in the same sort of problem so not only can we become good friends but also there to share what we need together ,,is this a good or bad idea since ive tried almost everything else .. |
It's a terrible idea and will end in tears all around. If sex is the dealbreaker for you you need to let your wife know this, and make a clean break before embarking on another relationship. |
thanks colleenoz thing is we have young kids and i just couldnt break there hearts with the idea of leaving ,,,,so its a sexless life for me the next 8 years in other words i will be too old to want it any more |
Well, I'll tell you now that bringing up kids in a household where one or both parents are unhappy and resentful (as you will become) is more a recipe for disaster IMO than divorce and keeping in touch with your kids (and not being a "Disney Dad). You really need to have serious talk with your wife and lay your cards on the table. Otherwise you will spend the next 8 years miserable and resentful of your wife and eventually your children for being the tie that keeps you in an unhappy relationship. Not fair on anyone. |
Hi colleenoz well thankyou all for your thoughts and it seemed to me to that i should (put my cards on the table) and i had a long talk with my wife ,,,,,New years eve she told me best we go our own ways as from the new year ...Im now to be single in a sexless life ,,,,,guys be careful for what you wish it may be better to be with out the sex than alone nick |
Oh nicky nicky .... stop having a pity party. From the sounds of what your marriage was like, you are better off to be out of it. I've been divorced for 6+ years and have rebounded very well thank you and am happy. I have 50% custody of my two kids, see them nearly every day, get along with my ex wife (now...wasn't easy at first) and have a great GF that I've been with for almost 5 years now. I am way happier living like this than being in a marriage if I was miserable in it. If you are going to have that attitude going into the next phase of your life, you WILL be miserable. Be as involved with your kids as you can, put all the sh*t with your wife behind you to the best of your ability, and get on with your life. You only have one shot at life, don't go thru it all pissed of and miserable. |
What mkroopy said. You're only alone at this instant, who knows what the future will bring? (Though with that attitude ATM single women will not exactly be flocking to you.) Be happy and confident, keep in contact with your children in a meaningful, everyday way, and you may well find this time next year you're with another partner and happier than you ever were. Just be sure you don't hook up with someone who isn't 100% supportive of your relationship with your children. |
- Posted by solotogether (My Page) on Thu, Jan 10, 13 at 21:59
After reading all of the posts listed here, I suddenly feel inclusion. The problem is that I get more of this feeling with complete strangers than I do with my fiance. I know most people would say to leave. I don't want to leave him. I want to work through our differences and problems. He does not seem to be very affectionate with me unless it is on his terms. He first claimed that it was bc of my weight or my smell. He finally admitted 6 months later that it is NOT me and he has a problem in the sex department altogether. I know that I could lose a few pounds...but I am still a beautiful woman. (Inside and out) as far as my smell...I never had any complaints before him. I recently discovered that he was having an affair recently. I am seriously trying to cope. I feel emotionally drained everyday. He seems to be truly sorry yet he still does not show much affection. I don't know what to do. Please advise. |
- Posted by solotogether (My Page) on Thu, Jan 10, 13 at 23:25
After reading all of the posts listed here, I suddenly feel inclusion. The problem is that I get more of this feeling with complete strangers than I do with my fiance. I know most people would say to leave. I don't want to leave him. I want to work through our differences and problems. He does not seem to be very affectionate with me unless it is on his terms. He first claimed that it was bc of my weight or my smell. He finally admitted 6 months later that it is NOT me and he has a problem in the sex department altogether. I know that I could lose a few pounds...but I am still a beautiful woman. (Inside and out) as far as my smell...I never had any complaints before him. I recently discovered that he was having an affair recently. I am seriously trying to cope. I feel emotionally drained everyday. He seems to be truly sorry yet he still does not show much affection. I don't know what to do. Please advise. |
- Posted by solotogether (My Page) on Fri, Jan 11, 13 at 0:06
After reading all of the posts listed here, I suddenly feel inclusion. The problem is that I get more of this feeling with complete strangers than I do with my fiance. I know most people would say to leave. I don't want to leave him. I want to work through our differences and problems. He does not seem to be very affectionate with me unless it is on his terms. He first claimed that it was bc of my weight or my smell. He finally admitted 6 months later that it is NOT me and he has a problem in the sex department altogether. I know that I could lose a few pounds...but I am still a beautiful woman. (Inside and out) as far as my smell...I never had any complaints before him. I recently discovered that he was having an affair recently. I am seriously trying to cope. I feel emotionally drained everyday. He seems to be truly sorry yet he still does not show much affection. I don't know what to do. Please advise. |
Well, if he will not be affectionate with you yet is having an affair with someone else, I really doubt you will be able to work through your differences without his cooperation, which it doesn't look like you'll get. As much as you love those size eight shoes, if your foot is a size ten you will never wear them unless you cut off some of your foot aka Cinderella's stepsisters. Similarly as much as you love this "fiance" unless you are willing to settle for a lot less than you want (and honestly, why should you?) you will never be happy. There has to be a better fit out there for you. I honestly think that if you cut this one loose you will feel like the man beating his head against a brick wall- it feels so good when you stop. |
It's sad to see how much loneliness and pain people are feeling. All I can say is marriage isn't easy - especially in today's culture. I think one of the hardest things for people to do is to take the risk of communicating - not only in marriage but overall. We're conditioned for compliance and none of us (well most of us) don't like confrontations. But open communication is vital for a good relationship of any kind - how much more for marriage. I'm coming up on 32 years of marriage and we almost never made it past 10. During that time there were several times we almost called it quits. The most important principles for marriage I've learned are what's called the "3 C's" of marriage (to make them easier to remember I guess). I first heard of them from a radio minister named Adrian Rogers about 20 years ago. They stand for: Commitment, Communication, and Compromise. BTW, communication is also extremely important for a good sex life because what is sex? It's the most intimate sharing and vulnerability a couple can experience. What happens in the bedroom is a reflection of what happens out. At least for my wife and I. So - communicate, communicate, communicate. I hope things get better for everyone. |
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Just leave. If you are that unhappy anything would be better than staying. |
Just a theory of mine but it seems when it's the woman whose not interested in sex it usually involves a build up of resentments towards the husband over time, where he's either disappointed or let her down so much (over time) she's filled with contempt toward him and not interested in "being used" for sex. For men it's usually he's avoiding sex over "performance" issues. If a man feels in any way inferior or inadequate, or, if he believes that even his best efforts won't satify his wife's desires his natural tendency is to avoid it rather than consciously deal with the issue that he's feeling inadequate. Men don't like to think they're inadequate, or maybe not up to par compared to other men. Most won't face it. It scares them. They'd rather be in denial (or avoid) rather than think they don't measure up. To me at some levels it's no harder to figure out than that men and women think and communicate differently. A woman wants to know she is loved. A man wants to know he is respected. If what each wants and needs isn't being communicated in a way that they "get it", they're going to feel deprived and unhappy. And that carries over into the bedroom. Plus, men are driven for an orgasm, women want one too but they want to take their time getting there and enjoy the closeness and intimacy. I've even heard women say they don't have to have an orgasm every time to enjoy sex. You won't hear that out of very many men I promise. So a man and woman are already starting out with different "clocks" and different goals. (How long and why). I for one think there are as many out of the bedroom issues for a woman losing interest in sex than in the bedroom. Although that's also true to some degree for men, I believe most men's issues are based on how they evaluate how well they are pleasing their wife in the bedroom. And in most cases I believe failure (even if only perceived rather than actual) equals avoidance. One last thing ... before anyone writes and says it's nothing like I've described in their situation I'm already aware of that. I'm just speaking in generalities based on observation and experience. Plus, there are also situations where it's purely physical. But I doubt that accurately describes most cases. |
My interest in gardening lead me to Gardenweb and I discovered this forum. Tuliplady your story touched my heart as I suffer the same sadness although I am a man. My wife has steadily over the past 30 years gradually lost interest. Se shows no affection at all although I constantly tell her I love her and give her cuddles that are not appreciated. I have always loved the countryside and would love to buy a house and some land. She has always refused to move, giving the excuse that her parents lived near us and she would miss them. Both our parents are now dead and as I inherited my parents estate we are in a position to move house and live a comfortable life. My 55th year is approaching and I love my wife dearly but do not wish to live in misery for the rest of my remaining years on this earth. My son says I should sell up move to the woods and buy a dog for company. I cant leave because I love her but I don't think she has any love for me. Vrs1 Your comments that men are worried about performance are surely not valid for people who have been married for several years. It is not a first date so who are they trying to impress. You say men are driven for orgasm but orgasm is nothing without love and affection. Tulip lady , I think the only way we can achieve true loyalty,love and affection if we wish to stay with our partners is to buy dog for company. |
I live in beautiful Sydney....and started reading this site when looking for an advice on struggling worms in my otherwise healthy compost.....only to find this forum. I read almost all the entries to this post and feel like screaming loud!! I have been suffering in silence for so long, eight years of declining intimacy and affection .. and like Mr Statex in the last post - I now feel like that's it, that's for life, for ever. I tried everything possible to reclaim back the beautiful love and respect and affection and compassion ot the first few months of our relationship - I did talking, spicing, ignoring, improving, fighting, biting nails, avoiding, crying, smiling, softly softly, hysterically... well everything except councelling and psychiatry. I am in my healthy and strong 50's, too soon for me to give up and give in. Any Aussie out there? Anyone for a chat about what to do?? |
Hi Hanka Perhaps if you did a new posting for yourself, it might get a better response. Always good to unload here, lots of good advice is forthcoming. I am intrigued as to the response from your DH about your highlighting this problem over the years ? |
- Posted by fleaflea73 (My Page) on Thu, May 30, 13 at 0:36
I feel your pain! I was in a past marriage for 10 years! Our sex life was also zero towards the end of our relationship? My X told me I need help as I was too needy and that wasn't healthy for a relationship? I couldn't be adventurous either? To be honest I felt like I was abnormal and couldn't be myself with him in the bedroom? He made me feel like I seriously needed counselling! After many hours of fighting the endless battle, we separated! I was gutted! A man I really truly loved and would do anything for! But I wasn't happy and new I would eventually stray with curiosity! I'm now with my new husband who after 10 years is still adventurous and happy to have sex at least 4 times a week! Nothing beats that feeling you get in the bedroom with someone that can keep you feeling good and satisfied! I wish all of you guys and gals the best of luck! |
Hello all. I have been reading these posts and just have to laugh. I am a man married to a woman who has had no sex drive now for over twelve years. it is hard being faithful believe me. I do feel my willpower waning though. Please don't feel insulted or take this the wrong way, but man I almost wish I could meet up with some of you guys. |
- Posted by amyfiddler (My Page) on Tue, Jun 4, 13 at 18:34
Wrong website. See Craigslist. |
@ amyfiddler. I meant that as a joke. I was just venting my frustrations as the women are venting theirs. that is why I said "Please don't feel insulted or take this the wrong way, but man I ALMOST wish I could meet up with some of you guys. |
- Posted by amyfiddler (My Page) on Fri, Jun 7, 13 at 15:42
And lots of people in cyberworld take that as an invitation, surely you are aware of that. And it's not 100% a joke, there's some real pain in your statement. |
I'm so surprised to read that I am not the only person going through this. My husband and I have had sex twice in the last year and it is not for my lack of wanting to. We've only been married for eight years and used to be intimate at least a few times a week. I'm not even sure when it all started to go down hill. I just woke up one day and realized that I was in a sexless marriage and could find no justification for it. Of course I've discussed this with my husband numerous times but we either argue or have sex which I feel he does so he doesn't have to talk about it. He started out blaming me saying it was my fault because I wasn't the same person any more. He said I was negative. I went out of my way to be nice and smile constantly but that wasn't the reason. He would then just say, "things will get better, we just have to give it time." Now he says we're at different points in our lives where he's older and just isn't as interested as he used to be. He's only 35 years old! But I did ask him to see a doctor for blood work and even made the appointment for him. He made absolutely no effort to go and said he didn't feel anything was wrong with him. Then I asked him to go to counseling (both of us) but he thinks we can work it out on our own and won't go. The problem is that nothing is working out. Now, I have not cheated on him but during our last discussion on this subject two weeks ago, and in an effort to help him realize how important and serious this is, I asked him if he thought it was okay for a spouse to cheat when they had done everything in their power fix the problem. Of course he said no but once upon a time defended a friend for cheating on his girl for the same reason. I asked him what he thought a spouse in a situation like that should do then when they have tried everything else. He said to go make a couple of purchases at the Adam and Eve store! I am at my wits end with this and don't know what else to try. I don't want to walk away because we have a young daughter but she is the only reason I stay at this point. I do care about him but I feel like he is being so selfish and maybe doesn't want to work it out. |
Maybe he doesn't, Petunia. Perhaps everything is just the way he wants it. As an aside, I would say that staying together "for the sake of the children" is a mistake if as a result the children are living with an undercurrent of resentment and hostility in the home. Apart from anything else they grow up thinking unhappy relationships are the norm. One poster in an unhappy marriage with a husband resistant to counselling finally told him, "I've made an appointment with a counsellor at ___ on ___day. You can come with me and we can work out how to save our marriage, or I can go alone and work out whether I want to save our marriage." Either way you've officially put your husband on notice that you aren't happy and something has to change (even if it's your own feelings/attitude). At the very least it will help you to clarify your thoughts. |
This was posted a long time ago. I am just curious to know if you are still in this relationship. |
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I am suffering the same fate only in reverse. Perhaps knowing my situation might shed some light on your own. My wife and I met and were intimate regularly until just before we were married. She seemed to not want to be together as much. As a defense mechanism, I shut down my biological urge. For 10 years we were intimate once a month at best. It is fair to say that I was a heavy drinker then and was more interested in martinis than anything else. My mother passed away two years ago and my drinking reached a fever pitch. The day she passed, I decided I would quit. And I did and have been completely sober for two years now. However, at the same time my wife told me that she didn't feel close to me anymore. As much as I needed her, both emotionally and physically, she was not there for me. So it is two years later, I am a sober new person and have not had an intimate relationship with her this whole time. I understand that getting past my idiocy may have taken her a while. But I told her the day we had the discussion that once you put up a block, the other person needs to put up a block. And that once that happens, it is very difficult to recover. So, as it stands, we are roommates who share a five year old daughter. I sleep on the couch. There are moments of interest but they fade rapidly. Neither of us want a divorce. But from my perspective, married life should offer more. |
I am not married, by choice. I have been with a man whom I love very much for 7 years. And like many of you out there, our relationship lacks intimacy. We hadn't gotten off in about 3 years. I tried talking but he brushed me off with something like, "I'm trying, it will be better." But he's not trying and it is not better. I wish he would talk to me what his problem is. Why wouldn't he tell me?? I am 40 and I cannot live like this anymore. It is not just sex. It's the feeling of being wanted. I missed being touched like a woman. So, I cheated on him. I do feel terrible but not as terrible as waking up one day, a few years later, and hating myself for not acting upon it. Life is short and I am determined to savour every bit of it. It is true that I may never find anyone like him, he has a heart of gold, but he is not being fair to me. What would you do? |
I would leave him, not betray him by having an affair. Think of it in reverse. What would you want him to do if you were the one not interested in intimacy? Would you want him to leave you or would you be fine with him having an affair? We're all different, and what I would choose may not be what you'd choose. |
- Posted by Lonelychic (My Page) on Sun, Jan 19, 14 at 21:57
I have been married 13 years. I really love him, but he isn't even trying to be intimate with me. It's not performance anxiety, it's not that I'm not sexy for him, or that he is interested in someone else. I think he knows that I'm not going anywhere, and he feels that he doesn't have to be intimate if he doesn't want to. It wasn't like this in the beginning, he use to be very intimate and the sex was great. I don't want to get a divorce, he is my best friend, and I love him. If I knew that it was some kind of medical or mental reason why he couldn't be intimate with me, I could accept that and I would support him. But it's nothing like that, he just refuses to cuddle or kiss me passionately or hold me like he use to. We still have sex once or twice a week. But it's sex and that's it. I feel as though he is a business partner that uses me for sex, then we go back to the bills and responsibilities. I don't think I can do it, not when it's something so simple. I see other couples hugging and kissing all the time and I wonder why I can't have that in my relationship. Why do I have to wonder what it would feel like for someone to hold me like that, when I am already married. Any advice? |
I found this site when I finally decided to do a search to see if I could find some help for feeling so alone..I'm glad that I found somewhere to vent but I'm also sad that others are having to deal with similar situations. I've been married for almost 17 years and we have not had an intimate relationship for over 10 years. I'm so lonely for even a passionate kiss and I can't even remember how it feels to have a man touch me romantically. The last couple of times we did have sex, he lost his erection during it. He seemed to be interested in finding out what was wrong and went to the doctor for tests and medication. After working on the problem for a few weeks, he just stopped - no more doctor visits and no more sex. I am past initial shock and hurt and now I'm just trying to live with it. I'm 46 and I never thought that I would be facing this stage of my life married but celibate. I knew when we first got together that I was more adventurous and daring in the bedroom - he is a strictly missionary man - and I was okay with it, but I didn't expect the sex to totally disappear. I know there is masturbation to fulfill the need for an orgasm but that doesn't satisfy the desire to feel a man kiss and touch me and physically satisfy my needs. I am trying to hold out for my youngest child to get through school and leave for college before I do anything drastic but there is so much tension between us and I know the kids can feel it...I'm not sure if I'm making it worse by staying. I'm glad I found this forum to be able to get some of this out, even though there is no real answer - it helps to see that I'm not as alone as I thought. |
- Posted by Fuzzytomcat (firstname.lastname@example.com) on Mon, May 19, 14 at 19:13
I face the same things many of you ladies are going through. no intimacy facebook games are more important to her then me. my wife is dead from the neck down! I have talked and talked and emailed her when she didn't want to talk. she won't kiss or hug I can be gone for two weeks and come home and she won't even give me kiss or hug. Sex what Sex I have to make an appointment for that. I've had enough! nothing is going to change so it's time to move on. One tall guy in the cariboo area of British Columbia up for grabs. |
Hi all, I'm 34 yrs male & married for the last 8 yrs now. I'm glad to have found this blog. I too face a similar problem where initial years of marriage me & my wife had a rocking sex life. She was very active & made luv to me almost daily. But it lasted only for a year, after that most times it had been a pity sex that too only once a month or once in 3 mnths. Its very confusing why she refuses to have sex. I gave up & don't feel wanted anymore. I have tried talkin to her but she doesn't open up. I know relationships are not only about sex but it forms an integral part of a marriage. She doesn't even like when I hug her or kiss her. She just pushes me away everytime i get close to her. Mostly on weekends, we both sit together have a few drinks, cook some good meal & have some good chat, watch movies together but just a thought of gettin close to her, I know i'm goin to b ignored. I don't think she is sufferin from any medical problems but even if she is i'm willing to help her get over it but she doesn't discuss anything. Very recently around 3 a.m early morning I confronted her coz she was wit a neighbour outside d house. Though nothin was happening, she said she wasn't feeling sleepy enough & she ought of sharing a smoke wit him. As soon as i happened to open d door, this man disappeared from my sight without even sayin a word. I don't know if she's havin an affair with him. Wat could b wrong wit me? I have gud physical attributes. There are so many women at my work place showin signs of interest in me but I don't feel like strayin not because i'm in a commited relationship but i'm also survived wit a 4.5yr old daughter. I love my fmly very much & can't think of anything else. Its not an escapr route of sorts but I'm thinkin of becoming more spiritual than before jus to channelise my thoughts. My entire life has been a waste & I feel my daughter is the only saving grace. I feel frustrated, heart broken & hurt. Is there anything that anybody would want to suggest me??? |
- Posted by lonelyhusband1 (My Page) on Sat, Jan 3, 15 at 20:03
Hi all, It's amazing the number of men and women that are facing similar situations. I have been married for almost 15 years and struggling with the lack of sex and connection between my wife and I. It seems we would be better off saying we are roommates then husband and wife, but from the outside we are the marriage that every couple strives to be. Successful in business, great kids, active in the community, etc. My wife is a great mother, but our connection is severely lacking, where I have questioned if we are only together for the kids sake. I have voiced my concerns on the lack of sex in our marriage and she has attributed it to the lack of intimacy. Maybe I am slightly confused on intimacy. My wife states I never communicate. I informed her that when I communicate my feelings or have a meaningful discussion it quickly turns into an argument, so to prevent a situation from escalating I start being guarded and selective in how I respond to questions. When I attempt to talk it turns into an argument, when we go out for lunch or dinner there is always something wrong, with the food, environment or something. I am a very touchy person so I like physical interaction. When I give a massage, it's a problem you are not doing right, when I attempt to give a hug, it's not reciprocated, when I attempt to give a sensual kiss, head is turned to give a kiss on the cheek. I told her we haven't had a sensual kiss probably since we have been married. Her response was "well, there are underlying issues" It is very frustrating and dishearting to constantly get rejected from your significant other. We have had some issues in the past with facebook where I have caught her having some inappropriate communications. I informed her based on the communication that I saw if you were doing the same thing that you were communicating to this other man in our marriage we wouldn't have any problems. It has been about 2 years since the aforementioned incident but we still seem to have the same issues. I have tried to condense this as much as possible, but from a husbands standpoint I don't know what to do anymore. It gets frustrating having sex once every other month and then when we do have sex there is no connection or it's been done as courtesy. Appearance from either one of us is not an issue so if the marriage was dissolved today we could both finds partners without an issue. Right now I am confused and truly don't have a clue what to do or how to resolve. Any assistance this form can provide would be greatly appreciated. |
**Her response was "well, there are underlying issues."** This is what the two of you need to discuss with a good Marriage and Family Counselor to have any hope of saving your marriage. |
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He works as a law clerk for Presiding Judge T. Kenneth Griffis of Ridgeland.
Miller previously worked for several non-profit organizations. He served as program coordinator for the Mississippi Delta Initiative, and as state director for outreach for the Black Alliance for Educational Options.
He was a founding board member of the Delta Fresh Foods Network and co-founder of the Trinity Development Foundation.
Miller, a native of Winstonville, earned an A.B. degree in government from Harvard College and a law degree, cum laude, from the University of Mississippi School of Law.

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The six-week program focuses on reading, discussion and storytelling and will be led by a discussion leader and storyteller who conduct weekly sessions for families with low-literacy skills.
Whitney Cummins, Arts Education coordinator at the BPAC, and Jonnie Shumpert, Pearman principal, have spent months preparing the dynamic literacy platform.
"Family Reading Bonds combines the art of storytelling, the elements of literature and the importance of family reading time to produce a well-rounded literacy program for parents and their children," said Cummins "By incorporating elements of literature and the arts, local families will strengthen their bond and develop a lasting appreciation of literary arts and family reading time."
"Storytelling is definitely an art form and that's why the BPAC got involved," added Cummins. "We really love that this combines art with literacy."
With award-winning children's books, the program introduces fairy tales and folk tales from around the world, stories about problems children encounter and tales from history told for children.
The selected books have been grouped into six different themes: fairness, courage, coping, greed, determination and dreams.
The course is designed to reinforce the role of family as a major social unit, train parents and children to bond around the act of reading, teach children the joy of reading and encourage parents to enter or continue their own educational programs.
Shumpert said it would hopefully motivate the students to read at home, not only individually, but also with their parents.
"Families that read together learn together," said Shumpert. "When parents get involved it promotes success for their children at school.
"Literacy is the foundation of all learning and children have such an innate love of stories."
Upon completion, the children and parents will receive a certificate and a set of gift books to begin or expand their home libraries.
Family Reading Bonds will be held at Pearman every Thursday from 6-7:30 p.m., beginning tonight and culminating on April 25.
Nearly 20 families have already enrolled and Cummins said the program would cap off at 25 families.
Interested Pearman families are encouraged to sign up for the remaining spots as soon as possible.
Robert Neill will serve as storyteller and Emily Jones will serve as discussion leader.
Nutritious snacks, community infomercials and door prizes will be provided at every session.
Childcare will be available for younger children.
"We're really excited to see how this plays out," said Cummins. "We think the entire family will benefit from the experience."
For more information about Family Reading Bonds, contact Cummins at 662-846-4844.


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We played last night, first time with both Dunwich and Kingsport add-ons. The Ancient One was Yibb-Tstll (sp?) and all I can say is he was TOUGH! The fact that you couldn't have more than 5 Clue Tokens was challenging enough, but due to an errant Rift opening up, he woke up pretty soon. His skill modifier is -X, where X is the number of Clue Tokens left on the board. We weren't sure if that meant just the Arkham board, or also the Kingsport and Dunwich boards. To give us something of a fighting chance, we decided just the Arkham boards (there were only 2 Clue tokens there, but 4 in Dunwich and 1 in Kingsport, at a minus SEVEN, that effectively took two of the four players out of the fight, so we said let's just do -2 and have something of a fight).
However, even at only -2, because he was "double the needed successes to remove a Doom Token", he was impossible to kill. We needed EIGHT success (times 11) to kill him. Two characters died after the first round, the other two were able to knock off two Doom tokens. The third player survived and was even Blessed, but didn't help since the next roudn he died. The exact same thing happened to the fourth player, survived and was Blessed, but the blessing didn't help and he only lasted one more round.
Anyways, just so's ya know, Yibb is one tough cookie. Don't let him wake up
P.S. Combining the two add-ons wasn't as bad as we thought, mainly because the Mythos deck is sooooo diluted now, the Dunwich Horror never got close to waking up (though Monster Surges sucked for that reason). Kingsport Horror though was VERY nicely done, since the "danger" there is not dependant on Kingsport Horror Mythos Cards (unlike Dunwich), so we had to early on send an Investigator up there to keep the rifts in check.


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Family Programs
Winterthur offers a variety of fun programs for children of all ages. Come explore with us!
New! Election Day Collection Day, November 4!
Looking for something to do with the kids on Election Day if they're off from school? Winterthur and the Delaware Museum of Natural History (DMNH) are hosting "Election Day Collection Day," a drop-in program from 10 am–3 pm. Kids can participate in activities and crafts designed to teach about building, using, maintaining, conserving, and sharing collections. Kids can even bring something of their own, and the conservators will teach them how to take care of it! Admission to both museums is free for Winterthur and DMNH Members, and you can start at either museum! Nonmembers must pay general admission price.
Tummy Time
First Friday of every month, March through October; 10:30 am–12:00 pm
This drop-in program for infants and their caregivers provides an opportunity for babies to explore new things and for grown-ups to meet new people. Pick up a basket filled with items that will introduce your baby to different textures, sounds, and patterns, then spread your blanket on the floor of the galleries and enjoy learning together. Afterwards, grab a quick lunch at the Visitor Center or take a relaxing walk in the garden. Free for babies and their caregivers. Children 2 and older; $5.
Squeaky Wheels
First Wednesday of every month, March through October; 10:30–11:30 am
Parents and their toddlers in strollers are invited to join us for fun and informative walks through the garden and galleries. Spend time with yourchild and make friends with new families while you learn a little about the amazing collections that make Winterthur special. Members and children under 2, free. $5 per child, one adult per child admitted free.
WOW! Wee Ones at Winterthur
First Thursday of each month, March–October, 10:30–11:30 am
Meet in Galleries Reception Atrium.
This early childhood series intended for children ages 3-5 incorporates active learning through music, movement, and the exploration of objects in a warm and welcoming setting. Themes relate to the museum and garden. Members and children under 2, free. $5 per child, one adult per child admitted free.
2014 Schedule:
March 6: The Magic Bed by John Burningham
April 3: Have You Seen My New Blue Socks by Eve Bunting
May 1: Tea Rex by Molly Idle
June 5: The Empty Pot by Demi
July 3: Pancakes by Eric Carle
August 7: A Lion in the Meadow by Margaret Mahy
September 4: Firetruck by Peter Sis
October 2: Let it Fall by Maryann Cocca-Leffler and We're Going on a Leaf Hunt by Steve Metzger
Hands on History Cart
Saturdays, March 1, 2014–January 4, 2015, 1:00–3:00 pm
Do you have what it takes to make it as a house servant? Stop by and prove your mettle at shoe-shining, corset-lacing, table-setting, and a variety of other activities. Members free. Included with admission.
Historic Automobile Displays
Saturdays in May, 10:00 am–4:00 pm; weather permitting
See sleek and shiny cars of long ago. Each Saturday will feature a different thematic display of cars from the country-estate era. Pick up an activity sheet from the Visitor Center to guide your exploration and bring your diecast matchbox cars to "drive" along our shaded lanes.
Kids Grow: Children's Vegetable Garden Program (Members only)
Saturdays, June 7–August 2, 2014
Introduce your children, ages 6–11, to the wonder of growing their own plants in this 9-week course. Members only; free. Call 302.888.4779 by May 1 to register. Space is limited.
Enchanted Summer Day!
Saturday, June 14, 2014; 11:00 am–3:00 pm
Put on your elf ears or fairy wings and come celebrate the beginning of summer with music, storytelling, crafts, and more in our award-winning children's garden, Enchanted Woods! Included in admission. Members and children under two, free.
"Grow Your Own Fossil"
July 18, 3:30–4:30 pm
Brown Horticulture Learning Center
This family-fun program guides you through planting of a "living fossil," a tree that was growing during prehistoric times, followed by a short walk to see a mature prehistoric tree. Work clothes and shoes appropriate for a short hike recommended. $15 per child. 10-family limit. Reservations required. Call 800.448.3883 for reservations.
Time Travelers' Book Club (New!)
June 25, July 23, August 20; 1:00–3:00 pm
This book club will make history come to life for kids ages 10-12. Come discuss a different book each month, explore the museum's collection, and try hands-on activities that will illuminate your understanding of the past. Register for one or for the entire series. Members, $5 per child; $10 per non-member child.
June 25: Johnny Tremain by Esther Forbes - CANCELLED
July 23: Seaman: The Dog Who Explored the West with Lewis and Clark by Gail Karwoski
August 20: Chasing the Night Bird by Krista Russell
Terrific Tuesdays
Every Tuesday in July and August; 10:00 am–3:00 pm (drop-in program)
Kids ages 3-10 are invited to try fun activities related to the wide world of Winterthur. In July we will investigate how craftsmen made objects now in our collection and how museum conservators continue to care for them. Terrific Tuesdays in August will feature various activities in Enchanted Woods. Members free. $5 per child, one adult per child is free.
Truck & Tractor Day!
Saturday, October 4
10:00 am–4:00 pm
Bring the kids for a fun-filled day of trucks, tractors, ice cream, hayrides, and arts and crafts!
Pages of Time: Mother & Daughter Book & Craft Club
First Thursday of each month, November through May; 6:00–8:00 pm
Is your daughter in 4th–6th grade? Does she love to read, make crafts, and learn about people who lived long ago? Join us as we discuss historical fiction books, try tasty snacks, and make crafts related to the book for each month. $25 per Member adult/child pair; $35 per nonmember pair for complete 7-month series. The next session begins November 6, 2014. Registration required by October 24. Call 800.448.3883 to register. Enrollment is limited.
November 6, 2014 A Journey to the New World: The Diary of Remember Patience Whipple
December 4, 2014 The Witch of Blackbird Pond
January 8, 2015 Betsy Zane: The Rose of Fort Henry
February 5, 2015 Seaman: The Dog Who Explored the West with Lewis and Clark
March 5, 2015 The Smuggler's Treasure
April 2, 2015 The Voyage of Patience Goodspeed
May 7, 2015 Rachel's Journal
Once Upon a Family Tour
Available March through October at 12:30 pm and additional times during summer months
Learn about the lifestyle of the du Pont family while exploring rooms in their house and (weather permitting) garden spaces where they played, worked, and entertained. Designed especially for families with children ages 4–11. 45 min.; 10 person limit. Included with admission, by request.
Be Tween! (New Tour!)
Second Sunday of every month, May through October at 11:00 am and 1:00 pm
Are you interested in beauty, technology, arts and crafts, or interior design? If so, this is the tour for you! Tweens, their friends, and the women in their lives are invited to join us for a 1-hour tour that explores and invites discussion about a different theme each month. 5 person limit. Included with admission, by request. To reserve in advance, please call 800.448.3883.
The Touch-it Room
Travel back in time to this delightful kid-oriented space where everything is touchable! Host an imaginary tea party, cook at the open hearth, or shop at the general store. Seasonal hours. Included with admission.
Preschool Packs
Available daily
Pick up a Preschool Pack from the Galleries Reception Desk the next time you and your family visit the Galleries. Each of the four packs includes stories, puzzles, and games on a different theme. Discover and learn with hands-on activities that bring the museum's objects to life! Included with admission.
Enchanted Woods Backpacks
Available daily
Filled with scavenger hunts, journals, magnifying glasses, and more, these backpacks offer great ways to explore Enchanted Woods. Borrow one from the Galleries Reception Desk before you head outside, or, during the summer months, pick up one from a volunteer stationed in Enchanted Woods. Included with admission.


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Tuesday, 10 July 2012
Eclipse Brewery token
We found out last year that the Eclipse Brewery stood around the junction of Fernally Street and Mottram Road . I haven't seen the tokens before though.
Does anyone have any knowledge of these?
11 comments:
- Tom said...
Same here Nancy.. never seen one of these.... I might put this on my watch list.
- Tuesday, 10 July, 2012
when I worked there in the sixty's after school and holidays we used to sell these to customers on the pop round for there christmas beer and spirits, wine orders just like a christmas club,just before christmas we used to go down the cellar side of the bankfield pub and clean dust the bottles ready for delivery sometimes we had to sample them ha ha barry
- Tuesday, 10 July, 2012
- Hydonian said...
Thanks for your information,Barry.
That's a great idea when you think about it ! - Tuesday, 10 July, 2012
The address of Eclipse Brewery is given as Mottram Road. Tel Hyde 3570.
- Tuesday, 10 July, 2012
- Jean said...
It was Andrew and Atkinsons that was at the side of The Bankfield, Eclipse Brewery stood on Mottram Road.
- Tuesday, 10 July, 2012
- the tufty club said...
£42 this just went for on ebay. Wish I had a bucket full of them
- Thursday, 12 July, 2012
- Hydonian said...
Blimey !!
1 shilling = £42
Great exchange rate ! - Thursday, 12 July, 2012
- Tom said...
I watched this myself Nancy as a matter of interest... last time I looked it was up to £17.. To go for £42 shows how rare this must have been... I'll certainly keep my eyes open for any.
- Thursday, 12 July, 2012
- ceecee said...
i see this token is back on sale on ebay on a buy it now price of £42 or make an offer so either it wasn't paid for or the seller had 2 of them as they are both being sold from the same location. makes me wonder what i could get for my town hall opening medal & my george v jubilee medal
- Monday, 16 July, 2012
- Tom said...
It makes you think.. who ever the winning bidder was last time had a good feed back and bought and sold coins, tokens and medals.. I suppose if you found a few of these tokens and you had an idea they were rare it would be a good way to test the water to see how much they are worth... then slip the others on after..
The medals you have Ceecee have been on Ebay in the past... 'I think' but I can't recall how much..
If I was going to sell such a thing now I would included a short history of the town hall and a picture of two, to go with them.. it might add far more to the overall value.
I have seen a few of these medals and know they are out there... but these tokens I'd not seen or heard of before and it could be these would be worth more than the medals. - Monday, 16 July, 2012
Andrew and Atkinsons, George Woods and Eclipse brewery were the same company that started life in Bradford Manchester. Just around where the City ground is now.
Eclipse in Hyde was run by Eric Thomson and his two brothers Jack and Richard. Richard was in charge of brewing the stone jars.
Eric's son Chris is still around the area somewhere. Many happy years spent as a delivery driver. I could have obtained a bucket load of those tokens. HD - Friday, 08 March, 2013


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3. In a saucepan, combine the cream, vanilla bean seeds, and corn syrup, and bring the mixture to a boil. Remove the mixture from the heat.
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6. Once the mixture cools to 100.4 degrees F, mix in the room-temperature butter, stirring until thoroughly mixed.
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9. Chop the coating chocolate into small chunks. Gradually warm the chocolate in the microwave at 50 percent power until it is about 60 percent melted (about 2 minutes). Stir the chocolate until the pieces have melted. The chocolate is ready when it has reached 86-90 degrees F.
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12. Using your left hand, drop each ganache ball first into the bowl of melted chocolate. Then, shake off excess chocolate and drop into the bowl of cocoa powder. Use your clean right hand to cover the truffle with cocoa powder and place on a parchment-lined baking sheet. (Ideally, two people would do this, one person coating in chocolate, and the next person rolling in cocoa powder and placing the truffles on the sheet tray)
13. Repeat with each ganache ball, transferring the truffles onto the prepared baking sheet.
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