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The term abreaction was first thought up by ancient Greek dramatists to describe the purging or cathartic effect that the release of emotion gives. Abreaction is actually a flow of different emotions, and it takes several forms. The overall effect is to release anxiety from the subconscious mind.
What I have found is that some particular emotions are linked together to form four kinds of invariable sequence, which are ways in which the unconscious mind operates. These sequences link together positive emotions with negative ones, or happiness with unhappiness.
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I give the name abreaction to these sequences. The two main ones are the abreaction of guilt and the abreaction of pride. The first sequence links excitement to guilt and resentment, and the second one links sorrow and sadness to bitterness.
abreaction of guilt is the
sequence :
Narcissism leads to jealousy ; then jealousy leads to guilt ; then guilt leads to resentment.
abreaction of pride is the
sequence :
Jealousy leads to narcissism ; then narcissism leads to pride ; then pride leads to bitterness.
abreactions flow in a
dialectical way – thesis, antithesis, and then synthesis.
For example, in the abreaction of guilt :
Initially narcissism and jealousy produce excitement, and then we end up with the guilt and resentment that oppose it. Finally we have the steady state of detachment when the contents of the excitement and the resentment phases no longer interest us.
Social Abreaction is just the extension of the sequences of abreaction to society as a whole, and they produce what I call laws of social change. The morality of an age determines what is good and evil, and these ideas form the content of social abreaction. The intensity of these abreactions depends on the rate of social change : the faster the change the greater are the effects of abreaction.
The first law of social change is the abreaction of guilt : it starts from a catharsis , which often contains left-wing or progressive views, but always ends in a right-wing backlash of resentment. Politically the resentment generates Conservative, even Fascist, attitudes.
The second law of social change is the abreaction of pride : it starts from sorrow and ends in bitterness. This abreaction usually ends in forms of Nazism, such as police death squads, the Stalinist political show-trials of the 1930s, and political or sectarian genocide. Bitterness is always worse than resentment. So Nazism is always worse than Fascism.
For an in-depth analysis, read the articles on Abreaction.
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Antithetical thoughts are thoughts that are opposed to, or the antithesis of, other thoughts which the person prefers or which he /she intends to manifest in action.
If a person is contemplating the good things in life, then antithetical thoughts may arise and evoke ideas about the nastiness of life.
The physical body that is seen with the physical eye is only one part of human structure. The person capable of extra-sensory perception can see other 'bodies' that are associated with the physical one : these are the emotional body and the mental body and the causal body. As a complex they are called the astral bodies of the person ; they are the vehicles for consciousness in higher planes of reality where there is no need to have a physical body
All matter exists in states of vibratory motion or energy. Each body has its own frequency of vibration. The matter of the physical body vibrates at the lowest rate, and the matter of the causal body (the home of the soul) at the highest rate. The other two bodies fit in-between. The vibrations from all the bodies fill the same space, like a radio spectrum.
Extra-sensory perception means nothing more than that the person has developed the ability to respond to these higher frequencies. Like any other ability, it is just a question of training.
For more details, see astral bodies-1, and astral bodies-2, and sources of confusion.
The astral bodies of a person radiate energy which can be observed by extra-sensory perception. This energy field of a person can freely interact with the energy field of another person when they are close enough together, allowing the direct transmission of emotion from each to the other. The most important situation where this occurs, from the psychological perspective, is that between parent and infant – whilst being nursed the infant is constantly absorbing the parent's emotions (both conscious and subconscious ones).
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Energy centres in the astral/etheric body of a person. The kind of energy concerned is psychic energy, or energy that is utilised through will power or emotional moods. The chakras are associated with particular nerve plexuses in the physical body.
The psychological model that I use most of the time is a static one. This has three levels of activity: conscious, subconscious, and unconscious. However, when I need to describe agency I use a dynamic model.
Static model: consciousness is a state of being that has three modes, those of will, mind and feeling. Therefore, for me, consciousness is not the same as mind (and neither is mind identical to the brain). This model is for understanding how the various factors of consciousness relate together, in ways that are independent of agency.
Dynamic model : consciousness is a state of being that can act as a channel for agency. This model is for understanding the purpose of consciousness. Consciousness contains an agent, the ego, that can make choices.
Self-consciousness implies that agency is internal to the state of being, as in people and some of the higher animals. When consciousness has no aspect of self, as in insects and plants, then agency is external and utilises instinct (for example, such agency may be a group mind, and so consciousness would be a group consciousness).
Functional model : consciousness is a state of being that constructs a paradigm of reality from the results of awareness. This model describes what consciousness does. Awareness is that aspect of mind by which the agent develops consciousness.
The mechanism of this construction is thought. Thought is a sequence of awareness states, or thought is the activity of awareness. The content of thought can be images or words. Images are either images of something or an image of nothing (mental silence). Attention or concentration is the means of emphasising some states of awareness rather than other ones.
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I use the term 'dialectical ' in the Hegelian sense. It represents a movement of thought through three stages. First there is the opening idea, the thesis ; then thought switches to the opposite conception, the antithesis. Finally both stages are blended together in the third stage, the synthesis. In moral ideas, if the thesis is a concept of goodness then the antithesis is a concept of badness. If the thesis represents some badness, the antithesis is that of some goodness. The synthesis is the resolution of the conflict.
Sooner or later a person reaches the point in his personal evolution when materialistic values and goals no longer completely satisfy him. He loses attachment to a materialist life when his level of sensitivity has reached the point that he can no longer find harmony in such a life. He can now become receptive to the influence of his soul.
This influence can be labelled an "internal" drive, a drive that arises within his consciousness. This can be contrasted with "external" drives, when the person comes under the spell of external criteria, such as wealth, fame, etc, and becomes egotistically motivated to attain them.
When the person becomes receptive to his soul, then he comes under the influence of one or more of four powerful internal drives: the desires for union, justice, freedom, and truth. His motivation becomes the way that he handles and directs these drives into suitable ideals. See also Motivation and Drives.
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This is the personality ; it is the conscious aspect of the person, and excludes the subconscious and unconscious minds. It is agency, or the agent of consciousness. The ego has to make choices, and these produce effects. So the realm of the ego is the realm of cause and effect. See also Consciousness.
A person can either act on his desires, using his will, or else follow his emotional responses. When he is focusing on his emotions, then his current state of consciousness has two main factors to it : a particular belief about some aspect of life, together with an emotional mood that is generated as the response to that belief. When the belief is not a conscious one, I call it an unconscious idea, whilst the mood is the activity of one or more particular emotions that maintain the physical symptoms. This activity I call the emotional dynamism, or the emotional dynamics, of the person's state of consciousness. The intensity of the state of consciousness depends upon the intensity of the mood.
I put this view another way. Any emotion is always a feeling (either positive or negative) that energises a mental concept associated with it. The mental concept is normally unconscious, so I call it an unconscious idea. Emotional dynamics are the principal unconscious ideas and their associated emotions that drive any particular state of consciousness.
When the mood is active, then the particular belief (whether conscious or unconscious) is active as well. When a different mood becomes active, so the belief changes to a different one, corresponding to the new mood. If the person no longer attaches any importance to a particular belief, then the corresponding emotional mood ceases to have any power over him. The mood loses its intensity.
Empiricism is the attempt to detect the basis of physical existence. In psychology it means the detection and identification of our states of mind, such as emotions, beliefs and desires. To identify our subconscious states of mind requires that we deepen our degree of self-awareness till we can first of all detect them, and then observe their effects on us. By cultivating an intuitive familiarity with them, we can deduce their characteristics and label them. A good way to begin psychological empiricism is to study and practice the Buddhist method of mindfulness. I describe my method of empiricism in the third article on Emotion, Identifying Emotions.
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The process of making value judgements depends upon the psychological mechanisms of projection and introjection. Equanimity is the state of mind attained when the person ceases to make value judgements, and hence ceases to use projection and introjection. However, equanimity is extremely difficult to attain. The most effective way of stopping projection and introjection, at least temporarily, is to step outside of all value systems. The traditional Buddhist method of doing this is to practise mindfulness.
Existentialism takes the person as he is now, ignoring how he came to be. It is the way of exploring the meaning of relationships as the person experiences them now, without regard to past or future. What opportunities do they offer him? What kinds of freedom can he express within them? What forms of equality can be explored? The person explores relationships from a perspective centred on his own individuality. The states of mind that the person prefers to respond to are those of free will and choice.
Psychology takes the person as he has become, since it is his own history that is important for determining how he is now. The history of the person has helped to produce his present reality. And, in general, his relationships make up a large part of his history. Psychology is a way of exploring the value of relationships to the person. He explores relationships from a perspective centred on his social orientation. What needs do they satisfy? The states of mind that have the greatest effects on him are those of determinism and social conditioning.
An existential perspective means how relationships are understood now. A psychological perspective means why such relationships are as they are.
Another way of looking at these differences is to bring in the concept of two identities, by which I mean a person's focus on being either socially-orientated or orientated to being an individual :--
concerned with
values, the values that relationships have for the person.
what he gains and loses from his relationships. These beliefs provide a person with his sense of social identity.
beliefs are concerned with
(and purpose),
the meaning (and
purpose) that relationships have
for the person. He explores why he needs, or does not need, relationships. These beliefs provide a person with his sense of individual identity.
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This has two parts : rationality and intuition. Rationality is left-brain thinking, whilst intuition is right-brain thinking.
These two parts work together in conceptual analysis, that is, when we try to analyse something, when we think about concepts and their meanings. Conceptual analysis can be split into three modes:
Logical thinking – uses reason alone.
Dialectical thinking – uses both reason and intuition.
Relativistic thinking – uses both reason and intuition.
There are several forms of determinism : some are rigid (such as the social class that a person is born into), whilst others can be more variable (such as the effects of childhood conditioning). The Indian term 'karma' is ideal as a general-purpose term.
Overall, karma is the effects of a person's behaviours, actions, and thinking. The most important way to understand the concept of karma is that it is the effects of the fixed ideas, beliefs and attitudes that the person carries with him through life (and lifetimes!) : these aspects of character help to generate a person's actions and behaviours.
has two forms, relative
and dialectical
One form relates to the person's behaviour and fixed beliefs (that is, beliefs which have formed his character) ; whatever the person does produces an effect. This form is a relative one, and includes everything that is not caused by abreaction.
The other form relates to the mental processes, particularly to the subconscious mind ; when this is active, the person's mental states oscillate in a dialectical way. Abreaction is the source of this dialectical form of karma.
I use this term partly to denote intellect, and partly to denote the way that it helps to give rise to desires and emotions. It is not the same as consciousness.
This is a technique derived from Buddhist meditation that can be used to neutralise the power of desires and emotions. It is an essential component of the practice of self-awareness. It consists in watching states of mind instead of evaluating them or acting on them. Perception is switched into neutral mode, so that no values are projected or introjected. See equanimity. The cessation of judgement means that any state of mind, including madness, can be entered and experienced, without becoming engulfed by that state of mind.
The standard way of formulating mindfulness in a concise manner is :
the seeing,
only the seen,
in the hearing, only the heard,
in the touching, only the touch,
in the smelling, only the smell,
in the tasting, only the taste.
Hence no evaluation is made of sensory impressions.
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A distinction needs to be made between moral rules that are adhered to because of the person's social conditioning and moral rules that are accepted through free personal choice. I call 'morality' those rules that are a part of a person's social conditioning ; these rules are subject to erosion from stress during periods of social change or in times of sorrow. 'Ethics' is the term that I use for the acceptance of rules through free choice and understanding. Another way to put this difference is:
Morality implies ideas of right and wrong based on social conditioning.
Ethics implies ideas of right and wrong based on critical reflection.
Motivation is the reason for following aims and desires. It is either the desire to experience something or the desire to achieve something, and takes the form of two drives (a drive is the energy component of motivation).
Primary motivation is egotistical and occurs through the desire to satisfy needs. This is the egotistical or 'outer' drive, since it relates to the influences on the ego of external factors ; these are usually materialism and social relationships that involve dependency, status or power.
Secondary motivation comes from the person's ideals of 'the good life'; this is an 'inner' (or soul) drive since it focuses on spiritual influences that usually originate from the soul. Although the soul generates the inner drive, it is the ego that controls the expression of it. This control is exercised through the ego's ideals. Only when the primary motivation is fulfilled will the soul drive become pre-eminent. See also Drives.
There are three kinds of pain : physical, psychological or emotional, and psychic pain. To understand what psychic pain is, I briefly mention the process of bonding. Bonding has three factors, those of imprinting, identification, and transference. See note on Transference.
Psychic pain causes negative imprinting to occur. Ordinary imprinting occurs during childhood and causes a change in the structure of personal identity. However, psychic pain causes imprinting to occur at any age ; it also causes a change in the structure of personal identity. Because the change is negative, the person denies, is wary of, or rejects any kind of close relationship that may cause such pain.
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Projection means that we imagine that our own virtues and vices and attitudes are embodied in other people. We see in other people what is in ourself. This psychological stratagem is particularly noticeable with regard to our vices. We try to escape from our faults by denying them ; we see them only as aspects of other people – it is always other people that are the source of conflict.
is the
complementary process. We emulate the virtues (and vices) in the
people that we admire. We incorporate into ourself the attitudes
of people that are significant to us. Our own idealised image of
ourself can also act as a source for introjection : we can use
such an image as an object from which we can introject virtues
that we need. It is through introjection
that a child absorbs the
values of the parents.
For an in-depth analysis, see article Projection and Introjection.
My use of 'soul ' is equivalent to the term 'higher self '. Soul is the source of spiritual idealisms, and it is 'the silent watcher '. Another common name is 'the witness'. The soul is a 'higher self ' to the ego (this should not be confused with the creation by an ego of an idealised 'self '). The soul acts as a guide to the ego, trying to steer it through the confusion of a human life. The ego reincarnates (though in a complicated manner), but the soul does not.
For me, spirituality does not necessarily equate to religiosity. A religious person can also be spiritual, but a spiritual person does not have to be religious. A religious perspective is a self-sufficient belief system containing all acceptable values and meanings within it. It is a belief system that has boundaries around it, since the world of the subconscious mind is excluded from it. A spiritual perspective can be more open and flexible. I view spirituality as the attempt to live in harmony with life. This view entails the necessity to aim for harmony in all of one's personal relationships and situations.
Emotions are partly derived from ideas or mental concepts that influence us below the level of normal consciousness. The mental concept that is associated with an emotion actually creates the boundaries of that emotion. If the mental concept changes, the emotion does not change ; instead, it fades away and a different emotion arises, one that fits the current mental concept. To work out the underlying concept, the overall theme or motif of the emotion needs to be considered, that is, what the emotion is trying to express.
Emotions are not unique to any particular individual, so the ideas or concepts that underlie them come from the unconscious mind. Since the concepts are unconscious they are extremely difficult to identify. The concept is normally unconscious, so I call it an unconscious concept or an unconscious idea. The first article on Emotion contains a list of some important unconscious ideas and their associated emotions.
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from article "Abreaction"
Up till now the terms 'catharsis' and 'abreaction' have been more or less synonymous. Since I need a new word to label some invariable emotional sequences, I have separated these two terms.
I name the invariable sequences 'abreaction' , and restrict the term 'catharsis' to the stage of excitement that begins just one particular sequence. Catharsis is now simply the first stage in the abreaction of guilt.
from article "Sublimation"
I need to make a distinction in the origin of character traits since they have two different roots. Some traits of responsible behaviour are social ones, and others are purely aspects of individuality. In order to label these roots I use the terms 'morality' and 'virtue'. Traditionally these two terms have been treated as being more or less identical, but now I separate them.
the social traits are
produced by
learning I call them aspects of morality.
Where the individual traits arise as a reaction to social conditioning I call them virtues.
When some deliberate choice is involved in determining one's standards then I use an opposition of 'ethics' against both morality and virtue. Conditioning and learning just affect behaviour. Deliberation brings in motives.
I consider ethics to be the critical and clear-minded analysis of the problems of right and wrong, good and evil.
from article "Morality"
I define virtues. Virtues
are noble attitudes that
spring from the heart.
It is not easy to explain what virtues are. In effect, they are based on feelings and so are non-linguistic. The person may 'explain' his approach to life by saying that he prefers to follow the dictates of his heart.
I define morality. Morality
is a linguistic product
made into a social practice.
A morality in any age is the sum of socially-accepted desires and values in that age. These values are a part of language ; they can be articulated and so can be made the object of rational analysis.
The reason for the difference is that morality centres on language, virtue on consciousness.
When intellectual and critical thought (within the framework of psychological awareness) is applied to morality and virtue, so that they can be analysed and self-deception removed, then morality transforms into a social ethics and virtue becomes an ethics of individuality.
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from article "Nature of Emotion"
use the term 'subconscious
' for what is personal to the individual,
and the term 'unconscious mind ' for what is general to humanity.
is the activity of will
directed into a mental concept.
Emotion is the activity of feeling directed into a mental concept.
An emotion is an unconscious idea powered by either a pleasant or an unpleasant feeling.
Some emotions have an additional complexity : they are compound and consist of two simpler emotions. The factors do not exert their influence simultaneously ; only one is dominant at any particular time. I use the term mode to indicate which factor is being dominant at that time, that is, to indicate the manner in which the compound emotion is being experienced.
A summary of the factors of some important emotions is :
= self-pity + self-hate.
Pride = vanity + hatred of other people.
Narcissism = love + vanity.
Jealousy = love + self-pity.
= fear + vanity.
Paranoia = fear + pride (mode of vanity).
Resentment = guilt + idealism.
Bitterness = pride + idealism
= regret +
guilt (mode of self-pity).
Sadness = regret + jealousy (mode of self-pity).
G.E. Moore summarised a certain perspective in philosophy derived from Immanuel Kant
... just as, by reflection on our perceptual and sensory experience, we become aware of the distinction between truth and falsehood,
so it is by reflection on our experience of feeling and willing that we become aware of ethical distinctions.
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from article "Abreaction"
A psycho-analysis is the method of intentionally removing anxiety from the subconscious mind.
meaning of anxiety is that
it eliminates complacency.
The purpose of anxiety is that it facilitates change.
For the sake of brevity I write of the abreaction of guilt, pride, etc, whereas in fact it is the anxiety attached to these emotions that is abreacted.
from article "Transference"
The three parts of bonding, of the 'transference' situation, are imprinting, identification, and true transference. The emotion is always jealousy.
Imprinting centres primarily on the patterns of femininity in the mother and masculinity in the father.
Identification reveals aspects of character (' what I am ' ).
Transference reveals aspects of identity (' who I am ' ).
Transference itself can be split up into two broad factors, one focusing on sexuality and the other focusing on authority. Each parent is a source of both factors.
Sexual transference is the pattern of the parent's sexual attitudes that is admired in other people.
Authority transference is the admiration of the pattern of authority and morality that is exerted by the parent.
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from article "Projection and Introjection"
Projection and
Transference and egoism are content.
Projection and introjection are the means of handling values.
When two or more people are close enough together so that their auras touch and blend (a distance of about five to six feet or less), emotions can freely pass from one person to the other (this phenomenon in the therapy situation is called the 'counter-transference' ).
Equanimity means the cessation of making value judgements, and hence the cessation of the mechanisms of projection and introjection.
is the ground of the social use of
projection and introjection.
However, for the individual centred within their egoism, the ground of projection and introjection is vanity alone.
are two factors
that need
to be separated :
that which concerns the control of the will, and that which concerns how the will is used.
from article "Power"
The loop of projection and introjection has two parts : the use of the will and the control of the will. The first part leads to the desire to control one's environment and relationships, and the second part to self-control.
Desire for power = jealousy (in self-pity mode) + pride (in vanity mode).
Will to power = envy + narcissism (in mode of vanity).
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from article "Social Approval & Inferiority Complex & Power"
'Social approval' means the need of a person to become socially integrated in an harmonious way. The infant needs love from the parents. If this is not forthcoming, or if it is not sufficient in quantity, then the infant is not confirmed in its social persona and its ego will become fragile and unstable. The less the love that the child received, the greater is its need (when it has become an adult) for the confirmation of its self by other people.
'Inferiority complex' arises when a person finds themself in a situation where their abilities and attitudes are denigrated or rejected by other people. He /she then strives to develop themself according to their own standards and values. He /she strives to develop themself so as to provide their own justification of themself, to provide their own sense of satisfaction in their own worth as a person. It is a need to validate one's self by oneself ; it is the need for individual accomplishment.
propels a
towards individuality.
Jealousy keeps a person socially defined.
The whole concept of power revolves around the jealousy - narcissism binary.
from article "Confusion"
Anxiety is the sense of uneasiness that is experienced in the individual's social and political relationships with other people, or in the relationship with one's own soul.
When a new process, a new practice, a new quest is instituted in society or in the individual, it is begun at the level of feeling and emotion. It reaches its culmination, perhaps even its perfection, when it achieves the level of insight and intellectual understanding.
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from article "Two Modes of Sexuality"
I split sexuality into two
factors, calling
them sexual
desire and sexual
Sexual attraction arises when the person is sexually stimulated through the vanity mode of narcissism.
Sexual desire arises when the person is sexually stimulated through the self-pity mode of jealousy.
from article "Bonding"
The experience of infancy trauma can lead to the generation of hatred in the infant. It experiences self-hate, which is then turned into guilt. The final result is jealousy and sexual transference. This sequence is the Oedipus complex, as it relates to the child-mother relationship. The complete sequence is :
Self-hate leads to guilt, which then leads to identification, which then leads to jealousy.
The factors of identification are :
= will + sexual imprinting.
= will + jealousy (mode of love).
from article "Partnerships"
For an harmonious
the man sees in the woman what is repressed in him, and the woman
sees in the man what is repressed in her.
An harmonious relationship means that the woman's femininity reflects the man's own femininity, and the man's masculinity reflects the woman's own masculinity.
from article "Sexuality and Ethics"
In my usage of terms, a
person = ego + karma.
This is a dynamic model of consciousness that I sometimes use based on a binary view of reality. Ego is the existential state of consciousness ; karma is the psychological state (the person's past history).
I use the term 'conscience' to indicate moral values and virtues that have been acquired involuntarily, either by social abreaction, or by a reaction against it.
In my understanding, the origins of morality and of ethics are different. Morality and virtue arise from social abreaction, and an holistic ethics from the sublimation of sexual anxiety.
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3 :
Primary Loop of Projection and Introjection
4 :
Secondary Loop of Projection and Introjection
For Attitude diagrams, go to List of Additional Articles page.
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from article "Nature of Emotion"
Table 1. Compound Emotions
A summary of the factors of some important emotions is :
= self-pity
+ self-hate.
Pride = vanity + hatred of other people.
Narcissism = love + vanity.
Jealousy = love + self-pity.
= fear + vanity.
Paranoia = fear + pride (mode of vanity).
Resentment = guilt + idealism.
Bitterness = pride + idealism
= regret +
guilt (mode of self-pity).
Sadness = regret + jealousy (mode of self-pity).
from article "Nature of Emotion"
Table 2. Unconscious Ideas
motif of
and pride
is punishment
/ humiliation
Guilt is self-punishment
self-pity mode implies life is punishment.
self-hate mode implies I deserve punishment.
is punishment /humiliation of other people.
vanity mode implies you are inferior to me.
hate mode implies I despise you /I will punish you.
of jealousy
and narcissism is
Jealousy is social responsibility.
self-pity mode implies I need a reward (from other people).
love mode implies I reward other people.
vanity mode implies I will do it my way.
love mode implies I do not depend on anyone.
motif of self-pity
and vanity is
Self-pity implies I need help.
Vanity implies I do not need any help.
of anger
and fear is
Anger implies I need to dominate other people
Fear implies the world is dominating me.
motif of love
and hate is
Love implies I am the same as everyone else.
Hate implies I am different from everyone else.
motif of resentment
bitterness is disgust
Resentment implies people are repulsive.
Bitterness implies life is repulsive.
motif of paranoia
is the
betrayal of trust
Paranoia implies I trust no one.
motif of anxiety
is a sense of oppression by one's conscience or by other
fear mode implies do as you are told /control yourself.
vanity mode implies I am uneasy in the presence of other people.
motif of manic
depression is victimisation
depression mode implies I am a victim.
mania mode implies I help victims.
motif of guilt-based
depression is self-denigration
Depression implies I am a sinner.
motif of depression
based on self-pity is equity
or fairness
Depression implies there is no equity, no fairness in life.
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from article "Acquiring Attitudes"
Table 3. Identity, Character and Passion
the set
consisting of ' I
' + beliefs, ideals and needs, moods, goals, and behaviour,
attitudes focused on sexuality and authority.
Identity = ' who I am'.
is the set consisting
of ' I ' + will, standards,
and traits, together with attitudes focused on
temperament and
personal stature.
Character = ' what I am'.
is the set consisting
of ' I ' + primary and
secondary motivations.
Passion = the drives of the person.
from article "Structure of Sexual Response"
Table 4. Direction of Love Flow
When I am experiencing
jealous love the masculine in me is dominating the feminine in a
The flow of love is from man to woman.
Man: jealousy (love) woman: jealousy (self-pity).
I am experiencing
narcissistic love the feminine in me is responding to the
feminine in a woman.
The flow of love is from man to woman.
Man: Narcissism (love) woman: narcissism (vanity).
With a woman of strong will
the masculine in me responds to the masculine in the woman.
The flow of love is from woman to man.
Man: narcissism (vanity) woman: narcissism (love).
When a woman satisfies my
need for social approval, the masculine in me is dominated by the
feminine in the woman.
The flow of love is from woman to man.
Man: jealousy (self-pity) woman: jealousy (love).
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Looking Ahead: PreNAB Editors' Lounge 2013
Editors' Lounge brings us a Pre-NAB discussion panel on the hot topic of "the current state of editing and post-production." Moderated by Debra Kaufman and featuring Terence Curren, Michael Kammes, Dan Lebental and Mark Raudonis, these professionals look ahead at what's in store for the coming year. Hit the jump to watch the video series: More »
Getting Started with Color Correction: Using Waveforms and Scopes with Colorist Steve Hullfish
The colorist's job has gotten a whole lot easier since chemical baths stepped out of the picture in many cases. Non-destructive color timing is the future in which we now live — that said, the principles at work in creating properly balanced imagery is as important as ever. Each camera we may be shooting on has its own unique implications in chromatic reproduction, and the ability to delicately correct a given color mixture (regardless of its source) is key. Ironically, or not, tools such as waveform monitors and vectorscopes — staples of the bygone analog video world — are as relevant today as ever in filmmaking, if not more so. A recent presentation by noted color correction author Steve Hullfish demonstrates precisely this point, as well as the basics in using your scopes to full advantage. More »
Off to Vegas, Baby, Vegas and a Pre-NAB Panel on the Future of Editing
Thanks to your suggestions, I just finished packing the new and diminutive Canon XA10 camcorder (on loan from B&H) to take to NAB. I don't know how many interviews I'll be posting from Las Vegas or how quickly I'll get them online, but I'll be approaching the show with a relaxed demeanor given there are plenty of other great video/DSLR sites that will be covering the show top-to-bottom and I'm perfectly happy to share their coverage. If you're going to be at NAB, please come up and say hi — I'd love to actually meet folks face to face (I look like this). On to the real news: every year Editors Lounge holds a pre-NAB roundtable wherein post-production pros discuss the latest trends in hardware and software. Here's the very informative session in full: More »

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Like so many of you here, I'm a life long, die hard Ram's fan, so that makes this story that much better. It's a great story even if you are not a Rams fan.
I don't know if many members of TST know a lot about Mike Karney other than he is an extremely talented fullback. I'll give a bit more background on the bruising fullback. Mike grew up in a subarb of Seattle, WA. For the past 2 years he has put on a youth football camp in his hometown. It is for kids aging 8-16.
My wife has an aunt who is best friends with Mike Karney's mother in law. One day while speaking with Mike's mother in law, my wife's aunt mentioned that she has some great nephews residing in Corvallis, OR that are huge football fans, and participate in youth football. So without hesitation Mike was contacted by his mother in law and we found out shortly thereafter that our Nephew's could attend his football camp free of charge! While our Nephews are not under privilidged, they do not get a lot of great opportunities, especially one like this. Our Nephew's parents were too busy to drive the kids from Corvallis to Kent, WA. So my wife and her mom took the kids to Seattle(I was stuck at home working, damn it!!). It was an amazing camp, my wife and mother in law were very impressed with how the camp was ran, and the dedication Mike has to kids. Mike was all about the kids according to the report I got. There were plenty of other current and former NFL players that attended the camp to help Mike out, including former Ram Ernie Conwell. All the players gave out autographs individually to all the attending kids. I was very impressed, but that was just the beginning.
My wife and I were married a year a go on June 29th. Without my knowledge until the day of our anniversary, my wife was also able to meet Mike and she had nothing but the best things to say about him. Mike let her(and only her, only kids, players and coaches were allowed on the field) on the field so he could meet her. He took a picture with my wife and autographed another one so she could give it to me for our anniversary gift! My wife said he is extremely nice, and down to earth. My wife is somebody who likes sports, but is totally repulsed by a professional athlete just because of the kind of money they make and how they can be perceived as whiners. She couldn't have said nicer things about Mike and I can't say how impressed I am with him for being so nice to my wife and doing what he did for our anniversary. My wife was also able to hang with Mike's wife and mother in law after camp, and she said they couldn't have been nicer as well.
Mike also has started a foundation for helping underprivlidged youth in his hometown. I didn't write this fan post to solicate donations, but if the fine folks of TST don't mind I would like to post a link to his website where you can donate. I won't post the link until I get the ok to do so. I wrote this fanpost to tell a great story about a great guy. My wife and I plan on donating and we are by no means a wealthy couple. We were both so impressed by Mike and his dedication to kids, we want to be able to help in someway. So I hope you enjoyed this story, I'll see if I can upload some pictures later on as well. Thanks for reading.


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Flynn outlines MPD procedure changes following Derek Williams' death
MILWAUKEE- Milwaukee Police Chief Edward Flynn is outlining changes in the police department following the death of a suspect in police custody last year.
"The cost of error clearly is too high," said Flynn to the Milwaukee Fire and Police Commission when addressing the Derek Williams case Thursday night. Williams died in police custody, and the case has a community calling for change.
The Milwaukee Police Department now requires an officer to call for medical help as soon as a suspect asks for it, no questions asked.
"We'll probably have a fair number of ambulances being summoned to the backseat of police cars, but it's worth it because quite literally if it saves a life we have to make that investment," says Flynn.
There's also a critical incident review board that looks at what may have gone wrong in a case and what needs to be done to fix it. Training has changed to include the possibility of respiratory distress or a pre-existing condition -- both of which Williams had.
"They could have been having all kinds of medical conditions, I'm not sure if you can train for all of those. It would just appear to be somewhat obvious if someone is complaining they can't breathe, that emergency medical help would be requested immediately," argues Jonathan Safran, a lawyer who is representing Williams' children.
The chief says there's no changing what happened in the Williams case, but hopes these new measures could change what happens next time.
"We're constantly going to have to adjust and evaluate our training and our protocols and our procedures because we are a critical incident organization, we respond to crises."
The chief also asked the Fire and Police Commission to consider moving the Internal Affairs Division to his office. They decided to take that matter up at a later date.
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These fun card holders seem to disappear off the shelf; of the 24 in this batch I have 3 left and the oil isn't even dry on them yet : ) The first one is Walnut with morado and maple banding, then the floral engraving is for a boutique here in town, and is made of mahogany with maple and costello banding. and the last two are mahogany and maple. the maple has morado and costello for accents. these holders are finished with danish oil, buffed out on the wheel using tripoli. The neat thing about these holders is that they can be folded open to display your cards on your desk; or closed you can carry in your shirt or pants pocket or for the ladies, they fit nicely in your purse. I have a feeling, these won't be the last ones I build this summer. thanks for looking.
-- Dave, Kansas City
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#1 posted 817 days ago
VERY nice: beautiful woods,great graftsmanship, and flawless finish.
-- " I'll try to be nicer, if you'll try to be smarter" gfadvm
#2 posted 817 days ago
Those are really nice. Like to see how you put them together
-- Gary, DeKalb Texas only 4 miles from the mill
#3 posted 817 days ago
Great project, beautiful design and very nicely executed.
P.S. Just checked out your website—wonderful products and incredible prices. I'm ordering one of these tomorrow.
-- John C. -- "Firearms are second only to the Constitution in importance; they are the peoples' liberty's teeth." George Washington
#4 posted 817 days ago
Amazing execution.. Beautiful finish.
#5 posted 816 days ago
They look great. How about blogging the steps to make them?
#6 posted 816 days ago
Beautiful boxes. Easy to see how they sell so well.
-- It always looks better when it's finished!
#7 posted 816 days ago
Is this basically a scrowl saw or band saw box? If not, how was it constructed?
-- Just a man with his chisel.........
#8 posted 816 days ago
I have a 61 slide adobe "slideshow" outlining the process, but don't know how to get it on the site, I think it would be interesting to post it, so if anyone can help me, I'll post it.
-- Dave, Kansas City
#9 posted 816 days ago
I know I can email the adobe file, as I did email it to a fellow woodworker in Minnesota, so I guess if anyone wants a copy, just send me your email address and I will forward it to you.
-- Dave, Kansas City
#10 posted 816 days ago
These cases are great. I'll be emailing you shortly!!
-- Dan, Virginia Beach
#11 posted 816 days ago
Beautiful to say the least Dave! Very nicely done, perfect wood combinations and great craftsmanship!
-- Gene, Majestic Eagle Woodworks, http://majesticeagleww.etsy.com/, http://www.flickr.com/photos/majesticeagle/
#12 posted 816 days ago
Love these, just emailed you for the slideshow.
-- Jeff W., Boston, MA area, http://aspiringwoodworker.com
#13 posted 816 days ago
You should be able to upload the files to Google Docs and point people to that link.
-- Eric, Seattle Washington - Sawdust Maker
#14 posted 816 days ago
Looks like you are going to be answering lots of Email. Wish I had seen this a week ago as I was just in Lee's Summit. Would of loved to have seen your shop and talked to you about your boxes. Aka, GPOPS, Don Ripperger
#15 posted 816 days ago
I am on that email bandwagon Dave. These are incredible. I look forward to seeing your process in making these.
-- JoeyG ~~~ http://www.facebook.com/JHGWoodWorks
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As you would expect, with such a poor start to the season, we all have an opinion as to where it is all going wrong for Sunderland and what should be done to improve results. Just browsing social media and message boards the morning after the West Brom debacle shows just how much we all care about what is going on at our beloved club.
For what it's worth, the last thing I want is for Di Canio to get the sack. It's still far too early in the season for that level of panic, and change now would only create more chaos at the club. However, I do think he needs to get his act together soon, before we are cut adrift at the bottom.
I can't help thinking that we are paying for a lack of pre-season games at the moment. Results of pre-season friendlies are meaningless but Di Canio's own comment that "the team aren't gelling" shows just why they are needed. Three, four or five changes every match isn't going to help. Some of the changes may have been enforced but the constant changes to the central midfield are worrying. We've all by now realised that he doesn't rate Cabral, he looks almost as far from the first team as Bardsley, but his seeming rotation of Larsson, Gardner and Vaughan is baffling. Don't get me wrong, I don't rate any of them, but Di Canio falls in and out of love with them at the drop of a hat. For instance, he has called Larsson one of the best players in the league in the past. Despite that comment he wasn't even in the squad for the vital game at the Hawthorns. A similar thing could be said about Vaughan. He was flavour of the month not so long ago and he was nowhere to be seen at West Brom either.
A settled central midfield is vital if we are to turn things around anytime soon. Hopefully the return of Lee Cattermole can only help that happen. If Di Canio is going to persist with 4-4-2 then surely Ki and Cattermole are the pairing he is looking to. All other midfielders at the club look inferior to those two.
Speaking of 4-4-2, that's my next gripe. I have nothing against that formation, I just wish we didn't have to stick so rigidly with it. We have the players to do something different and have had long before Di Canio came to the club. Back in January O'Neill switched to 4-3-3 for the game at Wigan, and the first half was arguably the best half of football that we played all season. He played Fletcher up front with Johnson and Sessegnon either side of him. Sessegnon and Johnson seemed to thrive in that formation and I always thought it was the formation set up to get the best out of Sessegnon. Maybe O'Neill used it that day to trouble Wigan's three at the back, but it worked so well I could never understand why he went straight back to 4-4-1-1 and never tried it again. I've even questioned whether it happened by accident. It looks like Di Canio will always stick with 4-4-2 and I accept that most coaches have a certain way they like to play. The top coaches, however, can adapt to different situations.
I hope at some point Di Canio has the courage to try 4-3-3. Although Sessegnon has departed we now have Giaccherini. I was as excited as anyone when we signed him but I just don't see him fitting into a 4-4-2. He doesn't look anything like a left winger to me but I am happy to be proved wrong. I would love to see him get the chance to play as part of a front three but I won't hold my breath. If we are to keep going with 4-4-2 then Mavrias looks the better bet to play on the wing for me. It would also be nice to see the wide men swap occasionally, just to try something else. Everybody looks like they have to stick so rigidly to there positions, the opposition never have to worry about us doing something out of the ordinary.
The cup game at home to Peterbrough on Tuesday night looks much more vital than it did when the draw was made. If Di Canio isn't feeling the pressure now he will if we lose that one. I really hope he turns it around, whatever formation or tactics he uses. As long as Sunderland start winning some time soon, I don't care how he does it.


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Pitt Law Works: Volume 5 Issue 6 - October 23, 2009
Over 50 Federal agencies will be represented, for candidates interested in Federal Careers.* In addition to the career fair, agencies will present information sessions and interviews. Employers will also provide insider tips for tailoring resumes, applications, interviewing etc. to securing jobs with the Federal Government. Details are at www.heinz.cmu.edu/FCD. Please register for this free event by visiting the website!
- Department of Energy - National Energy Technology Laboratory
- Department of Veterans Affairs - Pittsburgh Regional Office
- Dept. of Veterans Affairs, Office of Information and Technology
- Mine Safety and Health Administration (MSHA)
- Securities and Exchange Commission
- TIGTA - Office Audit
- Social Security Administration
- U.S. Department of State
- Allegheny County
- U.S. Department of State-Bureau of Diplomatic Security
- Office of Surface Mining
- Commonwealth of Pennsylvania - State Civil Service Commission
- United States Penitentiary - Lewisburg Pennsylvania
- Internal Revenue Service
- USDA National Agricultural Statistics Service
- Federal Reserve Bank of Cleveland
- Allegheny County Department of Human Services
- US Department of Justice, Federal Bureau of Prisons, Loretto, PA
- National Labor Relations Board
- General Services Administration
- MITRE Corporation
- Office of the Inspector General, U. S. Office of Personnel Management
- NASA Glenn Research Center
- Federal Air Marshal Service
- US Intelligence Community
- Federal Air Marshal Service (FAMS)
- National Drug Intelligence Center
- Drug Enforcement Administration
- US Office of Personnel Management - CHCMS Boyers Site
- Social Security Administration, Office of the Inspector General
- National Institutes of Health
- Department of Labor - Office of Labor Management Standards
- Office of Inspector General, National Science Foundation
- United States Department of Housing and Urban Development
- Central Intelligence Agency
- Department of Justice-Environment and Natural Resources Division
- US Environmental Protection Agency
- Peace Corps
- FCI Cumberland/Morgantown
Why: As in past years, not all employers will be lawyers. However, all employers will be able to provide advice on hiring trends in regions across the country and with the agencies they represent. They also are able to put you in touch with attorney-practitioners who work at their agencies. Perhaps most importantly, they can help you navigate the often daunting hiring process.
When: Wednesday, November 18th 10-3
Where: Carnegie Mellon University Center, Weigand Gymnasium
How: Contact www.heinz.cmu.edu/FCD to register (preferred); but students can just show up on the day of the event. (Dress is business casual. To make the most of this opportunity, do some research before the event and come prepared with questions for the employers.)
How many times have you considered your qualifications ideal for an open position only to never hear from the employer about the résumé and cover letter you submitted? Here are some common pitfalls to avoid:
1. You only focus on the Reed Smiths of the world. Firms that are highly recognizable can be exciting places to work. But so are many organizations you've never heard of. Organizations that are household names often receive thousands of résumés for each opening; consider exploring opportunities with small and midsize organizations. They make up the vast majority of legal practice in the U.S. and sometimes have trouble locating qualified candidates. If Reed Smith is your dream employer, don't give up the good fight, but be open to other opportunities.
2. You don't follow directions. Each organization has a different application procedure it asks applicants to follow. Make sure you understand what the prospective employer seeks by carefully reading the job listing. Then, follow the directions to the letter. If you don't, your application may never reach the hiring manager.
3. You need to revamp your résumé. Sending out hundreds of identical cover letters/résumés isn't likely to capture prospective employers' attention. Employers want to know why you're a good match for their specific needs. So research positions and customize your materials: explain why you're interested in a particular position and how you could contribute to the organization.
4. Your cover letter isn't enticing. Think of your cover letter as an appetizer that convinces the employer that the main course (your résumé) is worth sampling. The best cover letters take select details from the résumé and expand upon them, explaining in depth how your talents and experience can benefit the prospective employer.
5. You don't reference keywords. More often than not, keywords come directly from the job description. Terms such as "commercial litigation," "demonstrated commitment to public service" and "strong organizational and personal skills" are examples. As much as possible, ensure your résumé and cover letter contain keywords.
6. Your application materials aren't perfect. Submitting an application that contains typos and grammatical goofs is the quickest way to foil your chances of securing an interview, because these mistakes show a lack of attention to detail and professionalism. Make sure to carefully proofread your résumé and ask a friend to do the same.
7. You don't know who to send your résumé to. Employers pay special attention to applications that are addressed directly to them. If the job posting doesn't include the hiring manager's name, call the organization and politely ask for the name (and spelling) of the person to whom application materials should be sent.
8. You don't have an 'in' with the company. Using the name of a common contact to make the connection between you and the hiring manager is by far the best way to ensure your cover letter and résumé get optimal attention. So, keep in touch with your professional network; you never know who has a contact at the organization you hope to work for.
9. You don't follow up. Job seekers should contact a hiring manager within two weeks of sending a résumé and cover letter. Often a brief phone call or e-mail reasserting your interest in the position and strong qualifications is enough.
10. You're not as qualified as you think. Before submitting your résumé, take a close look at the job description and compare your skills and experience with those required for the position. If a job calls for five years of experience, and you have only two, you might not be as qualified as other applicants. While sometimes it's possible to make up for skills gaps if you excel in other areas, employers frequently have specific criteria in mind, and they use it to determine whom they call for interviews.
By avoiding common pitfalls, you can improve your chances of landing a job interview. Often something small -- fixing a typo, for example -- makes all the difference.
Employers received hundreds of résumés for each posting and dozens of unsolicited résumés. Surprisingly, that pile of paper on an employer's desk becomes part of a game - a waiting game. Employers want to know if you really want to work for them, or if they are just one of the many organizations on your hit list. So, they figure, if you really want to work for them, you'll do more than send them a résumé - you'll pick up the phone and call.
◊ Does calling to follow up work?
Yes. If you mail your résumé to 20 companies, you might land one job interview. If you follow-up with a phone call, you could land a bunch.
◊ Will employers talk to me?
Sure they will. But before you grab the phone and start calling everyone on your list - plan what you're going to say to him or her.
◊ What should I say?
Study the calling script that follows. Then, practice out loud, on the phone, with a friend or CSO counselor. When you feel confident about your telephone skills, grab the phone and give the employer a call.
◊ What if I get nervous?
If you get nervous, STOP. Take a breath. Turn back to the script and get back on track.
◊ What if I bomb?
Don't get discouraged if you bomb, most people do. All you need is a little more practice. The more calls you make, the more confident you'll feel. So save your favorite companies for when you feel pretty confident.
◊ When should I call?
Try when you know the employer will be there (i.e. not at 2AM or 6AM or 10PM). If an employer isn't available when you call, ask if there's a better time to try.
1. Call the manager and introduce yourself:
Good morning, Ms. Newman? Hi, my name is Gracie Goodwin.
2. Get down to business:
Ms. Newman, earlier this week I sent you a letter with a copy of my résumé. I wanted to follow-up and see if you received it.
3. Prepare for the unexpected:
Oh, I'm sorry to hear that you never received it. I was hoping to schedule an appointment to learn about the career opportunities as a summer clerk/associate in XYZ firm ...
4. Ask for the interview:
...Would it be possible for you to spare a few minutes later this week to explore those opportunities with me?
5. Prepare for the "put-off":
Oh, I do understand. A lot of non-profits are not in a position to hire this far in advance.
6. Sell Yourself:
... Would you take a few minutes to meet with me and see where I might fit in once you are looking to grow?
... Would you take a few minutes to discuss with me steps I might take/classes I should take/externships I should do/people I should meet in order to gain more experience in this field? (This is a great way to parlay a "rejection" into an informational interview.)
7. Wrap it up and confirm the date:
Excellent. That's Tuesday afternoon at 2:30. Thanks so much Ms. Newman. I appreciate your taking time to talk with me - and for fitting me into your busy schedule.
The Career Services Office will be holding mandatory Career Services group Orientation Sessions and individual career consultations at the beginning of November for all first-year students to introduce you to the services and resources offered by our office. Before you can take advantage of career counseling sessions, mock interviews, and resume preparation, you must attend a group orientation session and schedule an initial individual consultation.
Beginning Wednesday, October 21st, you may come to the Career Services Office (Room 235) and schedule your initial consultation. These will be scheduled to begin after your group orientation session. Students who have a primary interest in public interest work or government employment may request (on a space available basis) to have their initial consultation with Mary Thinium, our Director of Career Services and Public Interest Initiatives. Once having participated in the group orientation session (see dates and times below) and having completed your initial consultation, you are welcome to use all of our services and resources.
Mandatory Group Orientation Sessions:
- Section B Monday November 2nd 12:00-12:50pm Room 113
- Section C Monday November 2nd 4:00-4:50pm Room 109
- Section A Tuesday, November 3rd 1:00-1:50pm Room 109
In conjunction with our office, the library will be holding Westlaw and Lexis Career training sessions (job searching) in early November. These sessions are required, and attendance will be taken. Additional information on the times and dates will be announced.
Thursday, October 29th 4:00-5:30pm ALCOA ROOM
Do you have visions of opening up your own firm one day? Perhaps you are thinking about partnering with some friends to start up a practice. Whether going solo is of interest to you today or 10 years down the road, this is a great program to explore solo and small firm practice. This program will include attorneys who decided to go solo right out of law school and those who made the decision to do so at various points in their careers. The panelists will share their thoughts on what you need to think about before going solo, tips on starting up a practice and how they are managing to be successful in solo/small firm practice today. Additionally, Paula Hopkins, Chair of the ACBA's Sole and Small Firm Practitioner's Section will talk about her experiences and how this practice section can be of help to you. If you would like to attend please RSVP to Pam Day at firstname.lastname@example.com ASAP but no later than Wednesday, October 21st. Please note that the first 20 registrants will receive a free copy of the book, Solo by Choice: How to Be the Lawyer You Always Wanted to Be.
Please note that this program will serve as a kick-off to the Allegheny County Bar Association's upcoming Program on "How to Start and Manage a Sole Practice or Small Firm in Today's Economy." The ACBA program will take place on Thursday, November 5th from : 1:00pm to 4:15pm with a Networking Party: 4:15pm to 6:00pm. (Students are encouraged to attend this ACBA program and reception. For more information and to register for the ACBA program go to www.acba.org).
STRATEGIES FOR COMING OUT ON TOP OF THE ECONOMY- November 4, 2009
STUDENT REGISTRATION UPDATE: $15 for Symposium - Special Deal worked out for U of Pitt Law Students Courtesy of The Flagship Group, Dean Crossley and Professors Smetanka and Miller (Max). Not available through auto pay on Flagship Group website (auto-pay is only for full payment - not special deal) - however, special tuition can be easily completed by:
(1) Stopping by the Career Services Office Room 235 and Registering (name and email) along with check ($15.00 made payable to The Flagship Group, Inc.) or Cash
(2) Filling out the attached form with credit card info and faxing (202-204-5198) or scanning and emailing it back to firstname.lastname@example.com. If you have any questions, please contact 202-302-6364 or firstname.lastname@example.com
If you would like to travel with a group of students to the program please email email@example.com and if there is sufficient interest we will set time/place to meet. Please note that you must still register for the program as set forth above.
This program will provide an opportunity for students to network with attorneys and gain a better understanding of what is going on in the market. The program has been put together for the Pittsburgh business and legal community on the state of the current economy by Heather McAllister, a 2001 graduate of our law school. She recently left her law firm position in Washington, DC, to establish The Flagship Group, Inc. Dean Mary Crossley and Max Miller, Director of Pitt Law's Innovation Practice Institute are on one of the panels.
November 4, 2009 - The Rivers Club
Oxford Centre, Fourth Floor, 301 Grant Street, Pittsburgh
$15 student rate
3:00-6:00 p.m. 6:00-7:00 p.m. (Reception and Networking)
Hosted by: ALCA, a Division of The Flagship Group, Inc.
Featuring: What to Expect Moving Forward, Detailed Approaches and Thoughts on this Economy by Firm and Business Leaders, State of the Market Analysis and Strategies and Skills for Moving Forward in this Economy.
Join Us For:
- Expert Insight and Strategy
- What's to Come in 2010
- HOT Legal Issues and Discussion
- New Necessary Skills and Information
The Working Mothers Committee of the Women in the Law Division is hosting a brown bag series for practicing and non-practicing attorneys/moms working in suburban Pittsburgh. If you live or work outside of downtown and are looking to meet or reconnect with other attorneys and mothers, this series is for you! The first session is November 9, 2009 at noon at the Starbucks in Green Tree. Please RSVP and direct inquiries to Marguerite Link at firstname.lastname@example.com.
The ACBA Health Law Section CLE "Prospects for Enactment of Federal Health Reform Legislation" on Friday, November 13, 2009 at the ACBA Conference Center on the 9th floor of the City-County Building.
Cliff Shannon, Chief Communications Officer of the Jewish Healthcare Foundation, Pittsburgh Regional Health Initiative, Health Careers Futures will present. The program will review the major (and frequently competing) healthcare reform ideas under consideration by Congress, both for increasing access to affordable coverage and for "bending the curve" on runaway healthcare costs. The program will also posit likely outlines of compromise legislation, effects on major stakeholders, and prospects for signing into law this year. Lunch will be served at 11:30 a.m. and the program will run from 12:00 p.m. to 1:00 p.m. You may register online at www.acba.org. Cost: $20
ACBA SPONSORED CLEs
- "Capturing and Securing Your Client's Privileged Electronic Data." 12:00 p.m. to 1:00 p.m. Cost: $15. When: Tuesday, November 3, 2009.
- "Policies and Procedures for Transportation Impact Studies: What Real Estate Attorneys Should Know About PennDot's New Policy." 12:00 p.m. to 2:00 p.m. Cost: $40. When: Thursday, November 12, 2009.
All programs will be held at: ACBA Conference Center Auditorium, 9th floor, City-County Building, 414 Grant Street, Pittsburgh, Pa. 15219. To register, please mail registration form with payment to the ACBA CLE department at 400 Koppers Building, 436 Seventh Avenue, Pittsburgh, Pa. 15219. Credit card registration is also available at www.acba.org. The last day to pre-register is November 3, 2009 at 10:00 a.m. Anyone wanting to register after this date and time MUST attend the program as a WALK-IN registrant.
PBI SPONSORED CLEs
To register for the following PBI CLE classes, please contact PBI customer service at 1-800-932-4637 or visit the PBI website.
- "Morning Session: Accounting For Lawyers" from 8:30 a.m. to 11:45 a.m., October 26, PBI Professional Development Conference Center, Heinz 57 Center, 339 Sixth Ave., 7th Fl
- "Afternoon Session: An Attorney's Guide to Understanding and Using Life Insurance" from 1:00 p.m. to 4:15 p.m. October 26, PBI Professional Development Conference Center, Heinz 57 Center, 339 Sixth Ave., 7th Fl.
- "RESPA: A Primer" from 9:00 a.m. to 1:15 p.m.; October 27, PBI Professional Development Conference Center, Heinz 57 Center, 339 Sixth Ave., 7th Fl.
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Glad it was otherwise a good one though. :hugs:
Definitely make sure you do what they say and get some rest. :)
I'm sure something food wise will click for you when you're ready. Honestly it took years of trying before I finally found something that worked.
Even if it was only short term. :rolleyes:
Now I'm fighting like crazy to figure out another way to get the rest off. :mad:
I went to class tonight....we did a really easy session because I ache a lot from all the sitting in the car, etc. and the other lady has knee problems. She is having knee surgery on the 22nd and will be off for about 6 weeks so if he can't find someone to join in her place there won't be class again till she heals...I had trouble tonight doing all the exercises even though it was simple but I still got a good workout. He said he'll kill us on Wed. since we weren't up to it today! LOL!
Ya know, I love eating low carb/primal so I don't know what my problem is....it's like when we get somewhere that I'm not in charge of food I just eat what's there. I don't overeat but I know I should not have the stuff that's being served. I ate grains and sugar over the weekend....I seem to have a lot of trouble being prepared for weekends like this. I need to work better on that!
Preparation is definitely essential.
I make compromises when I have to but for me that means eating Paleo-ish baked goodies sometimes, or buying a beef stick at the store even though it's highly processed.
I figure it's better than completely jumping off the wagon to get run over. :D
One night when the kiddos needed to eat and we weren't anywhere near home they got wings and I grabbed a couple sausage dogs without buns.
No where NEAR primal but at least it was low carb. I try not to do this very often though. :o
so far today:
black coffee
left over carrot cake muffin
Although I can eat these baked goods and maintain really well and feel awesome.... I need to lose so they have to leave for a while. I'll still make them for the family but I need to stop "sampling". :p
left over spaghetti squash and some protein(not sure what yet)
handful mac nuts only if needed
kids get their one pasta night tonight so hubby and I will have fish
Kids have been getting further and further away from the SAD(standard American diet) and I'm thrilled about that. DD is realizing that her tummy isn't as bloated and her skin looks 100x's better when she eats better. But they still like the occasional treat and as long as they don't develop allergies I'll allow occasionally.... until I can offer alternatives they like anyway. :laugh:
This weekend I'll try out a new doughnut recipe to see if I can FINALLY get rid of the junk ones they get every weekend. That will leave the mac and cheese Tueday as the only thing we haven't found an alternative for. :cool:
yoga(not sure which type today, still sore from surf yoga yesterday)
KBs heavy session
Dawn, I'm usually pretty good at being prepared other than when staying at my son's house because I knew there wouldn't be room in the fridge for extra food...we had a cooler along, too, and still didn't have enough room....this past weekend was a bit unusual because of the birthday party and extra people so I'm hoping to do better next time...
Great that you're getting the kids away from the SAD! Hope your donuts work out!
Off to Mom's now.....
Up, Down, Up, Down, Up, Down
This roller coaster ride is getting annoying and I'm getting completely and utterly FED UP!!!! :venting:
I'm considering going back to my original plan that started my loss up in the first place(2yrs ago). I really desperately want to be in Onederland by my b'day and I'm willing to do just about anything. Even the severely restricted cals. :cry:
so far today:
black coffee
banana ( feeling sick :sick:)
not sure... what ever my stomach will handle
that's still on plan :(
some gentle yoga is about all I have planned because of tummy issues
we'll see how the rest of the day goes
Back from my appt., will be getting more therapy (for the other foot this time)....he thinks that once my feet are ok the leg issues will take care of themselves.
I still haven't even looked at the scale...most of the swelling is gone but I know if I see a number that is upsetting the scale will get tossed through a window or something. I told DH that I normally am not a quitter on anything but I'm so close to just giving up on everything right now. I would never go back to bad eating habits but this constant battle of trying to find out what I need to do in order to lose is draining me fast....I just have so many other issues to deal with and weight is taking a back seat for now...
Nope no need to upset yourself by looking at that scale. Just do what you need to do to take care of yourself and let the rest fall into place. :console:
Scale is on a down bounce... but you know how that goes..... :rolleyes:
so far today:
black coffee
1 Samoa fudge baby (just to see if they came out okay... :o )
lunch: fish and veggies
dinner: Paleo chicken nuggets
snack: handful mac nuts only if needed
Surf Yoga
Walking if possible
I slept in the boot...it helped but I slept poorly. I may try to use it when I'm sitting for longer periods of time, too.
No class last night....I was relieved to be honest. The other lady had a shot in her knee and couldn't go so we called it off to rest my foot. Will be back at it on Monday. We may put the class on hold for a couple of months because the other lady is having knee surgery on the 22nd and if he can't find anyone to take her place we'll cancel till she can return. It would be a good rest for my feet but I'll be back to beginner level if I can't do it at home.
At therapy yesterday I was told to do as little weight bearing exercise as possible for now. I can do seated weight stuff and bike so I'm not totally sedentary but I'm thinking even kb work will be somewhat limited. I'm thinking that doing it a couple of times a day for only 15 minutes would be ok....will ask the therapist tomorrow. I'm seeing a different therapist today to evaluate by right foot but will continue treatment with the one I've been seeing.
I forgot to eat dinner last night.....got busy chatting with DS when he got home from work...he had made a salad while we were talking and I was in the middle of an email so I thought I'd make something when I got done...totally forgot....now I'm really hungry!
Hope you get some relief soon Ms.Linda!! :hugs:
Adding in a Caramel Apple Milkshake to snacks for the day.
Recipe looked so good I couldn't resist. :D
Ooh, that sounds good, Dawn....where did you get the recipe?
I just did a basic pedi....used my favorite peppermint foot lotion so my feet feel fantastic right now....I'm sure once I get up and walk I won't think that way! LOL!
Need to go make lunch and head to PT.....
I'll go link you up to it on my FB page. :D
I'm still having a hard time with some of the ingredients in primal/paleo not being "low carb" but I know that they work.....kind of like getting over the low fat thing....
Had my appt. with the PT today. I have more wrong than just the plantar fasciitis....inflammation on the side of my foot that is not related to the plantar fasciitis and that's what's causing most of the pain. Great! He said we'll be working on stretching, strengthening my whole lower body because I keep having problems from over compensating from one thing which aggravates something else....if I don't get everything fixed it will just keep happening!
It is a bit hard to wrap the brain around I'm sure. But the Primal guy considers anything below 150 low carb. And between 50 and 100 to be the weight loss sweet spot.
It's especially interesting when you consider most Americans eat 300 and over on carbs. :faint:
I had this whole huge explanation of where I've been and where I'm at now on LC but you've been at this a while so I'm sure you don't need me to explain anything. :D
I will say this... if you use a combo of moderate carb/low calorie it still puts you in ketosis... under 20 isn't "required" for "most" people. :cool:
It's just hard when you've had that number stuck in your brain for so long to make the adjustment.
For me I was actually told by a doctor when I was a teenager that my body didn't handle carbs and that I should avoid them as much as possible. So, I was stuck on that for a LONGGGGGGG time. And when I was good I could lose weight easily. But when I was "bad" I gained it all back. What he didn't think to tell me was that veggies/fruit were okay and that I just needed to avoid the grains. I think that would have saved me a LOT of the roller coaster crud. I usually fell off plan when I started craving things like fruits and veggies. :annoyed:
so far today:
black coffee
couple homemade shakes
chicken and veggies
handful mac nuts only if necessary
surf yoga
Menu Update:
so far:
breakfast: couple coffees
banana/almond butter pancakes
lunch: chai breakfast shake
snack: hot chocolate (I am freezing today)
dinner: paleo chicken nuggets and veggies
evening snack: chocolate shots
You would think with all that chocolate that I was still on TOM :hyst:
but I'm finished up.
And the scale is continuing back down... :jumpjoy:
So as long as it does that I'm going to eat what sounds good and is on plan. :cool:
With all of that food my cals still only come to around 1300 to 1500 and carbs are only about 100g.
Well, within what works for me.:up:
I am working on getting in the mindset of 50-100 good carbs....it's been challenging but I'm getting there....most every dr. or other professional has told me to be at about 1500 cals....whenever I track it, I seem to automatically hit that most times so I know that's a good number for me....just need to work on it a bit more...
Had my PT this morning....ultrasound and stretching on both feet, massage on my right foot and then giant icepacks on both feet. She showed me some balance stuff to do with my left foot for now....waiting to get my right foot better before strength stuff. She and I had a good talk about carbs, exercise, etc. She has weight issues, too, so she is understanding where I'm coming from....
Off to Mom's house now....
It's always nicer when someone understands where you're coming from. Instead of someone who's always been thin trying to tell you what to do.
I appreciate their input but we come from totally different worlds. :p
Scale is on an up bounce. Was swollen when I woke up so no surprise. :rolleyes:
Hubby and kiddos are in the kitchen working on my Mother's Day stuff a little early since hubby will be working tomorrow. :sad:
Nature of the beast and all that.
so far today:
just coffee while I wait on the breakfast they've been fixing for the last 2hrs. :D
Paleo-ish German Apple Pancake :yummy:
tonight Blackberry Porkchops and salad
not sure about lunch ~~ probably won't be very hungry
mac nuts if needed for snack
just finished Surf Yoga
Planning on TONS of walking today.
It's nice to wake up and see feet and ankles back to normal! Did my PT exercises and I'm heading to the shower....it's been a lazy morning but now I need to get going! Heading to Mom's in a couple of hours and then out tonight to see BIL's band play....can't wait!
Glad you got to see your feet and ankles for a bit. :D Hope you had fun out last night!!
Happy Mother's Day!!!
Doing okay here. Hubby is getting ready to go to work so my day once he's out the door will be fairly normal. Work on housework, school work, hang with the kiddos, etc...
Although I'll be doing work today I won't stress about it. I'll take plenty of breaks and move slowly. That will be my concession to the day. :cool:
Didn't weigh this morning since I had a lot of "on plan treats" yesterday and I am definitely holding fluid. So no point in making myself crazy on a special day. :rolleyes:
so far:
have lots of leftovers both regular and treats
I have stocked up for at least 2wks(possibly 4wks) of simple meals....basically it's back to meat and veggies for the next month.
If I'm careful I can get down at least 10...maybe even 15 or 20lbs... of course that higher number would be mostly fluid. ;)
Hubby will be working away a lot so that means just making enough for 2 adults to eat each day. The kids usually only eat the amount of 1 adult meal between the two of them. So, basically just cooking simple meals for 2 is on the agenda. That makes it easier for me to stick to a stricter plan. I do have extra snacks and things for the kiddos on hand just in case they actually get hungrier. :up:
I always lose a big chunk of weight when the hubby is working a lot. I think it's because I'm not making as much food and I'm also doing the jobs of both Mom and Dad during that time. :stars:
the usual yoga at some point
maybe a walk out with the kiddos later in the day
I'm going to set the Wii back up for the kids and play with them on that too
Maybe some KBs if I feel like throwing them around a bit
Well, glad today is over....had some nice moments and some not so great moments....too much to last but did spend a good chunk of time at Mom's bathing her again....she had some potty problems and Stepfather can't handle cleaning that up.
Got some nice texts and a phone call from DS2 so that was all good!
Food not so great....my choices....I'll deal with it but I took the easy way out at both lunch and dinner...I've been thinking a lot about my foot/knee/hip pain and problems and I think I may have discovered part of the problem....the therapist I saw last year said that my knees leaned in a bit and I needed to work on getting that fixed so the first thing I did was get inserts for my shoes that was supposed to help but I'm thinking I should try wearing the shoes without the inserts for a few days. I think my body is out of whack and that I need to work from the feet up. I'll talk with my current therapist to see what she thinks...
Beth, hope you made it through the day ok....:hugs::hugs:
Dawn, your plan sounds good....I always do better when DH is out of town....he never goes anymore!
Morning Ladies!!
Thinking of you Ms.Beth. Hope you've found us in the new thread. :console:
Linda, sorry you had to go clean up your mom. I know that has to be rough. I remember helping my Mom with my grandfather like that. :console:
I definitely lose better when the hubby isn't here. Last trip I lost about 10lbs and I've kept that off since then.
So, I currently lose when he's gone and bounce so much when he's home that I'm basically maintaining. :lol:
I don't like the idea of him being gone but I almost wish he would go on more trips just so I can get into Onederland. :hyst:
so far today:
fasting until I'm ready to break it...
lunch: sausage and eggs
snack: tuna
dinner: something with ground beef and some veggies
I've been to PT and the grocery store....today is the first day of trying no inserts in my shoes....can't tell too much yet....will be doing some cooking today and hopefully class tonight.
Got Mom's clothes washed and will take them back to her house tomorrow. I really need to find some pants that fit her better...because she isn't very active anymore her shape is changing and I'm sure some of the bathroom problems are because she can't get her pants off as easily as she needs to. I am also going to get some depends for her...I've had her using just the pads but to help Stepfather we'll switch.
Not sure on what I'll be eating today...found a few recipes I want to try soon. I think I'll just make something extra easy for lunch today.
Hope the "no inserts" helps, Linda.
Doing okay here I guess.... Just a gloomy rainy day.... Tons to do and absolutely no want to get it done. :D
Up on the scale and honestly not sure why since yesterday was so perfect. I am a little swollen today but still... grrr..... :dunno:
Will drink more water today and hopefully tomorrow will be better...... :aprayer:
so far:
lunch:egg/bacon cups
snack: left over burgers
dinner: fish and veggies
snack: mac nuts only if needed
1hr yoga
if the rain stops we'll do a family walk
Well, after much discussion with Trainer Guy, we decided it's best for my feet if I stop class for a few weeks. I had trouble with the kb warm up....I can't keep my weight on my heels for doing the swings....we did the rest of the class with the TRX straps so I still got a good workout....we did all upper body stuff and I sure feel it today! So I'll contact him the beginning of June to update him on my recovery and to determine when we'll start again. The other lady in the class is having knee surgery next week and probably won't be back till July. So now it will be just PT and indoor bike till I get better....will miss the kb work a lot!
Had a protein shake for breakfast, chicken legs for lunch and a little ribeye for dinner...have to decide on veggies to go with them.
So sorry you had to cancel classes, Linda. Hope the PT helps and you begin your recovery quickly. :console:
I'm on a down bounce for now. I'm so weary from all the up and down and getting no where... I keep saying that I'm ready to give up and yet I keep on keeping on. I guess I just know no other way anymore. :huh:
I also realize if I genuinely "give up" that the scale will immediately pay me back for that and I'll gain everything back plus some.... :weigh:
I'm just so tired of the constant struggle.......
But I'll keep going.....
so far:
have some veggies that need to be eaten soon
dinner: making sausage pizza muffins for the kiddos, not sure if I'm having any... swelling and all that.... :p
playing it by ear today... what ever feels right... :workout:
:hiya::hiya:I hear ya about the constant struggle....I know neither one of us will ever give up no matter how hard it is....we just can't...
Scale was down 2 lbs this morning....nothing to celebrate till I get back to my low of the year but happy that I see a different number.
The no inserts has not been any different than with them....my PT for today was moved to tomorrow. My foot is really hurting today and it's throwing everything out of whack right now....
I've been eating mostly eggs, chicken and beef lately with some sweet potatoes or green beans now and then.
Went to the movies today and was fully prepared to get a small popcorn....there was a line and my sore foot said no way are you standing in line so I skipped it...that was good....
Ended up not feeling very well yesterday and to top it off some air had gotten into the meat container and caused it to go back well before the expiration time.
So, I was having to scrounge to find food for everyone. :stars:
That and some other stress caused me to yet again sit down with a Paleo-ish goodie at the end of the day.
Then I was rewarded with an upswing on the scale this morning. :annoyed:
I'm done... :mad:
I'm going to do some homemade shakes and a lean/green dinner until I can't stand it anymore and need a break.
I just desperately want to say goodbye to these numbers that I keep seeing over and over again. :cry:
At the core of things I'll still be "primal" but I'll be using whey protein so that kind of walks a thin line. :o
I also have been checking my temp the last few mornings and I'm back down to my normal low body temp caused by my thyroid issues... which tells me that I'm literally fighting my thyroid right now. Totally makes since..... frustrating... but at least I know what the issue is... and the only way to lose means super low calories for a while.
Another thin line here... Keeping cals low enough to lose.... but not so low that I cause more damage to my metabolism than good. :rolleyes:
so far today:
breakfast, lunch, snacks: shakes
dinner: I have a squash latke to finish, I'm also making the kids some homemade fish sticks.... I'll cook a couple naked ones for me if I feel that I need them. :D
While I'm Super Dieting :D...
I will keep it to 45 minutes at the most.
So, 20 minutes yoga and 25 minutes KBs or walking every day. :up:
I'm back from PT....she did an extra treatment on my right foot and wants me to stay off of it as much as possible...suggested crutches but the ones we have are for DH's height and even shortened as much as possible they are still too tall for me and I'm not short! So lots of ice, wrap it up, rest and rest and rest.....
I'm thinking of going to shakes for a while, too, Dawn....I will make them with all kinds of healthy stuff...aloe juice, kombacha, coconut milk and a few other supplements as well as the whey protein. I have the stuff to get started....I think I'll shakes for breakfast and dinner so I can have lunch with DH....I usually do best when I eat my main meal at lunch time.
Well, so much for having a shake for dinner.....DS wanted Chinese after I told him I couldn't stay standing long enough to cook tonight. I had been on my feet too much this afternoon....no choice, had to go to Mom's and had to stop at the grocery store. So he went and picked up food....I had a few bites of the fried rice but gave the rest to him. I should have had him pick up extra for his work lunch tomorrow....I'll have to make something for that now...
I'm so frustrated at not being able to work out for a while. I need to get some dumbbells up from the basement and at least try to do some sitting upper body stuff...there just isn't a whole lot I can do till my feet are better....
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5 Budget Friendly Valentine's Day Date Ideas
January 17, 2012 | Posted By: Eliza Morgan | Categorized in: Entertainment
The New Year may have just arrived, but the shelves at major retail stores are already stocked with little red, pink, and white heartsthat's right, Valentine's Day is quickly approaching. But if this holiday makes you a little queasy because you dont have hundreds of dollars to profess your love to your mate, there are still tons of frugal and romantic things you can do to woo. To get a head start and way your options for inexpensive Valentine's Day date ideas this, continue reading below.
1. Home Dinner Date:
Making a delicious and romantic dinner for two at home is a great way to make Valentine's Day special and affordablenot to mention it's an excellent way to avoid all of the restaurant hustle and bustle. The key however is that you want to share the experience and make the meal togetherit's not fair if one does all the cooking while the other just kicks back and relaxes. So plan on making a meal that is actually fun to cook/assemble and can use an extra set of hands think homemade pizzas and sushi rolls. If you'd like to make the experience more memorable (and healthier) you can always take a trip to the nearest farmers market together to pick up some fresh ingredients for your meal the morning of. Complete your meal with some candle light and romantic music.
*If cooking isn't either of your strongest skill, you could always prepare a fondue. Kits for two are relatively cheapdepending if you want a cast iron or ceramic bowland all you have to do is buy the dipping sauces some ingredients to put on the skewers: bread, veggies, fruits, pretzels, marshmallows, or meats and voila!
2. Picnic At The Park:
If the weather permits, take your meal to go and have a picnic at the park. Or you can simply pack up a French baguette, some cheese, strawberries and wine and lay out on a blanket and canoodle with your honey for hours. Exchange love notes. Bring a deck of cards. Or bring a movie to watch on your iPad or tablet.
3. Home Spa Night:Massages can run you $100 an hour at a nice spa, but if you do it at home, close to nothing. All you need to do is purchase some botanical oil, maybe some foot scrub, and take turns giving each other's back-and-foot rubs. Make the atmosphere really tranquil by finding some nature sounds on YouTube and lighting some candles. You can even draw a bath and enjoy a glass of champagne to make it feel extra luxurious and wipe the oils clean. Buy each other soft robes to make it feel like the real thing too if you wish.
4. Ice Skating/Rolling Skating Rink:
It may sound juvenile, but going to the ice skating rink or roller skating rink can actually be a lot of fun and intimateespecially if one of you isnt that great, there will a lot of hand holding. And it's cheap! Don't spend more than $15 for a pair of skates. If you're ice skating, top it off with some hot chocolate. If roller skating, maybe a slice of pizza and some soda.
5. Movie Night:Lastly, you can go to the nearby Redbox and rent some movies for a buck a piece. Try adding some extra special treats like chocolate covered gourmet popcorn or some gourmet hotdogs to make it a home-theater "experience." Or if you would like to enjoy some "newer" movies go visit your nearest dollar theater and enjoy a double feature. If you can afford to spend a little more you could also consider going to the theater to watch a foreign flicknothing is better at setting the mood than watching a film in Italian, Spanish or French.
This is a guest post by Eliza Morgan who is a full time blogger. She specializes in writing about business credit cards. You can reach her at: elizamorgan856 at gmail dot com.
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Building through the draft is Philbins philosophy so it should be no surprise he wants to bring in fresh new players with this years draft. Look for 1st round to be Tannehil or a pass rusher. If Tannehil is gone by the time dolphins are up they can still add Weeden or Cousins in later rounds as well as pick up 2 wide receivers and a tight end to round out the offense.


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