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Claudio Vargas
Tue Dec 11, 2012 12:09 pm Blue Jays signed RHP Claudio Vargas to a minor league contract.
Fantasy Source Spin: The deal includes a spring training invite. Vargas, 34, had a 3.69 ERA in 20 starts this past season with the Brewers' Triple-A affiliate and hasn't pitched in the big leagues since 2010. He'll likely serve as organizational depth with Triple-A Buffalo.
Source: Shi Davidi on Twitter
Wed May 16, 2012 10:38 am Brewers signed RHP Claudio Vargas to a minor league contract.
Fantasy Source Spin: Vargas will report to Triple-A Nashville, where he's expected to be used as a starting pitcher. The 33-year-old announced his retirement last summer, only to sign with Vaqueros Laguna of the Mexican League for the 2012 season. He hasn't pitched in the big leagues since 2010 as a member of the Brewers and is unlikely to make a major impact.
Source: MLB Trade Rumors
Mon Jun 13, 2011 9:14 pm Claudio Vargas has announced his retirement.
Fantasy Source Spin: Vargas signed a minor league deal with the Rockies in January and posted an ugly 11.08 ERA and 19/13 K/BB ratio over his first 26 innings with Triple-A Colorado Springs. The 32-year-old right-hander posted a 4.83 ERA in parts of eight major league seasons between the Nationals, Brewers, Diamondbacks, Mets and Dodgers.
Source: MLB Trade Rumors
Sun Mar 13, 2011 7:43 pm Claudio Vargas could miss the rest of the spring with a hamstring injury sustained Sunday, according to the Denver Post's Troy Renck.
Fantasy Source Spin: Vargas, who was signed to a minor league deal in January, probably wasn't going to make the Rockies as a middle reliever. He'll have to pitch well in Triple-A before he gets another shot.
Source: Troy Renck on Twitter
Tue Jan 11, 2011 12:42 pm Rockies signed RHP Claudio Vargas to a minor league contract.
Fantasy Source Spin: The Dodgers cut ties with Vargas in August of last season after he posted a miserable 5.89 ERA over 10 starts at the Triple-A level. He probably won't land on the Rockies' Opening Day roster, but a better showing in the minor leagues may put him in line for an emergency call-up down the road.
Source: MLBlogs.com
Tue Aug 17, 2010 8:34 pm Dodgers released RHP Claudio Vargas.
Fantasy Source Spin: Vargas was signed to a minor league contract in June after being released by the Brewers. The 32-year-old right-hander posted a 5.89 ERA in 10 starts with Triple-A Albuquerque.
Fri Jun 4, 2010 4:44 pm Brewers released RHP Claudio Vargas.
Fantasy Source Spin: Vargas was designated for assignment last week after compiling a 7.32 ERA in 19 2/3 innings. He should quickly land a minor league deal with one of the teams hard up for relief help.
Sat May 29, 2010 3:14 pm Brewers designated RHP Claudio Vargas for assignment.
Fantasy Source Spin: The Brewers are still looking for something resembling consistency in their bullpen and Vargas wasn't going to give it to them. In 19 2/3 innings, Vargas accumulated an ERA of 7.32 and a WHIP of 1.93. He'll wait and see if anyone claims him, but with plenty of other mediocre relievers out there, he's likely to find work hard to come by. His spot will be taken by Chris Capuano.
Fri Dec 18, 2009 7:05 pm Brewers re-signed RHP Claudio Vargas to a one-year, $900,000 contract.
Fantasy Source Spin: Vargas can also pick up another $400,000 through incentives. The Brewers got the 31-year-old at a major bargain. He posted an impressive 1.74 ERA, 0.97 WHIP and 30/15 K/BB ratio in 41 1/3 innings this past season yet settled for a deal under $1 million in an offseason where guys like LaTroy Hawkins and Brandon Lyon are inking high-paying multi-year contracts.
Mon Dec 14, 2009 4:35 pm Tom Haudricourt of the Milwaukee Journal-Sentinel reports the Brewers have agreed to a deal to re-sign Claudio Vargas.
Fantasy Source Spin: General manager Doug Melvin confirmed the news. Vargas posted an impressive 1.74 ERA, 0.97 WHIP and 30/15 K/BB ratio in 40-plus innings this past season. Terms of the reported deal have not yet been released.
Source: Tom Haudricourt on Twitter
Tue Dec 8, 2009 5:32 pm MLB.com's Adam McCalvy reports the Brewers are close to re-signing Claudio Vargas and will have him serve as a reliever.
Fantasy Source Spin: Vargas posted an impressive 1.74 ERA, 0.97 WHIP and 30/15 K/BB ratio in 40-plus innings this past season. A new deal is in place, according to McCalvy, and is just awaiting approval from Vargas and his agent.
Source: Adam McCalvy on Twitter
Wed Jul 1, 2009 8:11 pm Claudio Vargas (elbow) is expected to be activated from the 60-day disabled list by Friday.
Fantasy Source Spin: The Dodgers made a host of moves after Wednesday's game in preparation for the return of Vargas and Manny Ramirez. Vargas' rehabilitation assignment is up on Friday, so he'll be added to the roster as a long reliever.
Fri Jun 19, 2009 9:30 am Claudio Vargas has tossed six scoreless innings for Triple-A Albuquerque.
Fantasy Source Spin: Vargas, on the 60-day disabled list, is rehabbing right elbow tendinitis. He's eligible to return at any time and may be activated early next week if he continues the flawless pitching.
Source: Los Angeles Times
Mon Mar 30, 2009 7:57 pm Claudio Vargas (elbow) is expected to begin the season on the disabled list.
Fantasy Source Spin: Vargas was probably out of the mix for a rotation spot, but he still could have made the Dodgers as a middle reliever. Maybe there's a little more hope for Josh Lindblom now.
Source: Dodgers.mlb.com
Sat Mar 21, 2009 7:32 am According to the LA Times, Claudio Vargas emerged as the leading candidate for the Dodgers' fifth rotation spot on Friday.
Fantasy Source Spin: "If only by default," reads the paper. Eric Milton hasn't been impressive. Neither have left-handers Eric Stults or Shawn Estes, and Jason Schmidt is predictably having shoulder trouble. Vargas seems to be the only one with a decent spring ERA and might just get the nod. "It's not like we're trying to drag it out," manager Joe Torre said of the decision.
Source: Los Angeles Times
Wed Dec 31, 2008 11:03 am The Los Angeles Times reports that the Dodgers have signed Claudio Vargas "to an incentive-laden, one-year deal."
Fantasy Source Spin: According to the newspaper, Vargas will make $400,000 in base salary and can earn an additional $1.4 million in incentives. Vargas went 3-2 with a 4.62 ERA in 37 innings for the Mets before being designated for assignment in July and finishing the season at Triple-A.
Source: Los Angeles Times
Tue Jul 1, 2008 8:28 pm Mets sent RHP Claudio Vargas outright to Triple-A New Orleans.
Fantasy Source Spin: There are several teams that could have used Vargas as a middle reliever and spot starter, but no one opted to grab him. He'll be available to the Mets later on.
Sun May 18, 2008 10:57 am Manager Willie Randolph said Claudio Vargas will start the second game of Tuesday's doubleheader in Atlanta.
Fantasy Source Spin: John Maine will pitch the day game and Mike Pelfrey will get the nod on Wednesday.
Source: New York Daily News
Wed Apr 9, 2008 5:22 pm The New York Post is reporting that the Mets could have Claudio Vargas signed as early on Thursday.
Fantasy Source Spin: It's the smart move with Orlando Hernandez out. Vargas would get a minor league deal and probably make a couple of starts at Triple-A before claiming a rotation spot.
Source: New York Post
Thu Apr 3, 2008 8:22 pm The Mets are showing only limited interest in free agent Claudio Vargas and the Rangers' Robinson Tejeda.
Fantasy Source Spin: After a conversation with Mets GM Omar Minaya on Thursday, Bean Stringfellow, the agent for Vargas, said the Mets were not prepared to offer the right-hander a starting job in the immediate future. "Omar, to his credit, has been very upfront with me and I appreciate the Mets' candor," Stringfellow said. "What I'm hearing from that situation, it just doesn't jibe. I'm trying to get Claudio in the right situation, not a quick situation." Tejeda is another possibility for the Mets, but the Rangers are trying to trade him before they're forced to put him on waivers, and it's doubtful he'd make it to the Mets if he goes on waivers.
Source: Newsday


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pres man wrote:
So since someone started talking about game mechanics, let me ask this. Since armor isn't gender specific (even full plate is individual specific, not gender specific), if a female foe is killed and male character takes her armor and dons it, does it still have the boob window and/or missing midriff or does the fantasy powers make those cover up?
CRB page 150 wrote:
You'll have to have to go visit an armor smith to get the window patched/cut out before you can use it.
pres man wrote:
So since someone started talking about game mechanics, let me ask this. Since armor isn't gender specific (even full plate is individual specific, not gender specific), if a female foe is killed and male character takes her armor and dons it, does it still have the boob window and/or missing midriff or does the fantasy powers make those cover up?
In this example, is the armor +1 enhanced or higher?
So Paizo has dialed back the sexiness of it's female iconics.
These guys have always been about inclusiveness, and that extends to telling woman that they don't have to be a sex fantasy to play the game.
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Greylurker wrote:
This is what happens when you do away with daylight savings.
Wizards can't wink.
Fortunately wizards have learned exceed petty things like limits, but some mental re routing of the mind is required.
Because of this Wizards are no longer able to wink.
And they can't wiggle their ears either.
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Anzyr wrote:
Chocked on a piece of broccoli.
Someone should make a table
Last night I saw the movie The Forgotten.
Cue the conspiracy.
Partway through the movie a thought accord.
DC Animated should do a Question movie. It would be the bomb.
Sissyl wrote:
I see two possibilities. One, the obvious part, is that it's made of pie. I mean, of course. The second alternative is that it's really an armor spike golem, a being completely composed of armor spikes.
But that just leads to the question,What is the Pie that makes up the Paizo Golem made out of?
I have a backlog of novels to read. And this may help me finally finish twilight.
But the main reason I'm trying this is for the treadmill. Ive wanted to give reading a go while running but holding up a book interferes with my stride and I can't focus on the text when it's sitting on the console.
I'm hoping extra large text and autoscroll will counter tbos problems.
Yesterday I came across an article on Spritz and was instantly intrigued.
Spritz forces you to speed read by quickly showing you a text one word at a time.
It isn't available yet, but I did find Rapid Read on the android store.
Does anyone else have experience with these speed reading apps?
Umbriere Moonwhisper wrote:
Do you have access to the Advanced Race Guide?They have rules and point buys for custom races to keep them balanced with the core rules.
Ambrosia Slaad wrote:
Or a button to make soup from?
Charlie Bell wrote:
Eucalyptus are prone to shedding large, heavy branches from the main trunk earning them the name 'Widow Makers'.
The ninja gets Hidden Master at 20th level which is lisyed as a Supernatural Ability (Su)
Core Rulebook, Apendix 1 wrote:
Since they're magical and are blocked by Antimagic fields, they should be detectable by detect magic.
BTW, this should be posted in the rules forum next time
I'm a white, 30 year old straight Australian male. I have had no experience with discrimination and no shortage or role models growing up.
I know there's a great deal of inequality in this world but I don't know what the best way to deal with it is. I studdied electrical engineering, not social science.
I don't know if a black Johnny Storm is a token black guy or not.
By creating new heroes?
Because they way things have been aren't the way things are now.
And the ways things are today won't be the way they are tomorrow.
As for the other two...
Actors are actors. They act.
This is just casting. We have no idea what the people involved are planning. Now is not the time to judge this movie.
Just take a deep breath, and wait for the trailers.
Aranna wrote:
Stay on topic folks.If you want to debate the guilt of Zimmerman or Martin there are more appropriate places for this.
This thread is about nerd rage and opposition to change/evolution


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Pennsylvania counties' child services struggling
Nicole Dailey spent her high school years insecure, estranged from her family and bouncing between foster homes.
Going away to college seemed a remote possibility, at best.
But Dailey is in her sophomore year at Edinboro University because of Allegheny County's Independent Living Initiative. In years past, Daily, 19, would have been too old for foster care and likely without a support network for college. Now, the county and state help pay for her books and housing, as well as for caseworkers to help her learn about finances, find work and cope with nightmares of abuse she suffered as a child.
"I learned a lot of from (my caseworker) because she didn't give up," said Dailey, of Pittsburgh's Manchester neighborhood. "I don't think I would have had the motivation to do all of this without her. You have to have people around you who care, and who are leaders, if you want to become a leader. Now I'm a leader."
The state is offering Allegheny County $2.1 million to expand the Independent Living Initiative next year. But because of tight budgets and shifting money sources, the county might not be able to put up matching money to do that — or to expand other programs for which the state is offering money. County budget officials asked the Department of Human Services to cut almost $6 million next year.
County budget officials are giving the department leeway in figuring out where to cut, and believe it might be able to save enough in administrative costs to leave programs unchanged. If officials can find more money before final financial reports are due to the state at the end of next summer, they could put that toward program expansion, budget officials said.
"It'll be a challenge, but we'll try to minimize changes to (programs for) our children," department Director Marc Cherna said. "The state is putting more demands; there's more of a need for a county match to get these state funds. And the county match only comes from property tax, and property tax is not about to get raised."
Allegheny County isn't alone. Across the state, child service agencies are struggling to navigate a complicated and changing funding system. State and federal governments are cutting back on money offered for flexible use and restricting money to certain programs. Fewer local tax dollars are available to match the money offered.
The state and federal governments plan to funnel $251 million to six Western Pennsylvania counties for child welfare programs next year. Even in counties where the money coming in was stable, officials worry that might dry up because of the economy and the state's financial problems. State Auditor General Jack Wagner has warned that the state could have a $4 billion to $5 billion deficit next year.
"It does impact what you can do with programs. You certainly don't want to expand them. You don't have any money to expand them," said Dayna Revay, administrator of Beaver County Children and Youth Services. "It's concerning. You can't depend on local (government for) dollars; they're struggling as well."
Because of recent staff changes, Westmoreland County doesn't have enough caseworkers to help families of juvenile offenders, said Brandon Yorty, chief fiscal officer at the county Children's Bureau.
It's a compounding problem, because the federal government will pay to help delinquents only if the county sends caseworkers to assist those children and their families. Without hiring workers, the county will have to decline $300,000 to $500,000 of federal money this year, Yorty said.
Butler County had to move $901,000 in state money from its general fund into specific programs, said Ann Brown, finance director for county Human Services. Now, the county no longer can respond to parents who seek help when they report an unruly child, unless they can prove the situation is dangerous, said Charles Johns, assistant director of Children and Youth Services.
"I don't want to say it's bad, but it's definitely an adjustment," Johns said. "We need to be a lot more specific in the services we provide now."
Child advocacy groups at times lobbied the state to restrict funding as a way to ensure that counties reform programs and adopt best practices.
Federal officials mandated that Pennsylvania agencies be more conservative about using money designated for needy families, state Department of Public Welfare officials said.
"If you want money to be spent on certain programs or services, you stipulate that, and then counties decide if they want to allocate their money to those services," Welfare spokesman Michael Race said.
But moving money out of counties' general funds — the most flexible account — could be costlier long term, child advocates say. Counties often rely on general funds to develop programs and run early-intervention programs, said Cathleen Palm, executive director of Protect Our Children Committee, a Harrisburg-based coalition of parents, child service providers and child welfare officials.
It is easier and cheaper in the long run to help a family with an unruly child than to react when a child hurts someone or commits a crime, advocates say. But funding restrictions can make it harder for counties to help with day care, parenting classes, substance abuse treatment and other family services, Beaver County's Revay said.
"Those are the programs that ... we know are most likely to not only help families and kids but save money in the long run, (yet) are still the first programs we cut," Palm said. "(Pennsylvania's) is a generous system, but also counties are forced to do back-end services instead of more effective front-end services."
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my boyfriend goes out of town to deal with difficult things, I miss him: I need to keep these feelings 'normal and healthy' as opposed to 'irrational and demanding'
my boyfriend goes home for 4-5 days every second weekend to visit his father, who is terminally ill. he also occasionally goes away for longer periods of time as well. I of course miss him, a lot, when he is gone, and have spent a good chunk of time dealing with that without saying anything.
When we started dating (6 months ago) I didn't want to communicate things to him like - I miss you, I need you to tell me you miss me, can we speak more when you are gone - because I understand him to be doing things that are a lot more important than saying 'hi' to me. We do speak when is is away though, every day, just only ever at the end of the day when we are both going to bed though. Either way, last weekend I told him the particular sadness I feel when he goes away, which is that it feels like he doesn't miss me when he's gone and really, all I need is for him to send me a quick 'hello' early in the day and, if he misses me, to tell me so. he told me that OF COURSE he misses me when he's gone, it's jsut that he is (as i said), dealing with bigger stuff and doesn't always have time to talk to me (which is true, I've been there, you don't have time to do anything other than help his parents). either way, he's become super wonderful about sending my a quick 'hello' early in the day and tell me he is thinking about me, which does heaps to make me feel better.
problem: I still feel insane. part of it is just the way I am in a newer relationship, part of it is just that of course I just miss my boyfriend when he is gone, but mostly I can tell that at this point, the way I am feeling is mostly just 'manic' and that I truly cannot ask to hear from him anymore (and nor would I want to).
I try to keep busy when he is gone but I miss him so much regardless, and don't want to say that because I don't want to give him any more pressure than he needs to deal with. please help me with any advice about switching constantly from seeing each other almost every day to barely speaking for five days.
(I will also agree with anyone who says 'it's probably good for you to occasionally barely speak for a little while': this is true, and when we come back it is so so good to see him, but I still feel bummed when he's gone and that's about a third of the time)
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Well, what are you doing when he is gone? I don't know much about your life, so I am not sure if it may be good for you to use the time to do bulk cooking/freezing (less cooking = more time together!), or if you are going out and catching up with friends (it's good to keep up with friends, especially during the honeymoon phase of a relationship), or even just volunteering somewhere. If you are just hanging around the house, of course you'll feel a bit bummed, and more likely to dwell on him not being there.
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Can you go with him, if not for the whole time, for a few days?
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You are probably what's called "anxiously attached." This behavior is normal for you because you are highly sensitive to relationships and need lots of reassurance. Our society pathologizes this but if you realize you have it, you can learn to reassure yourself better. I interviewed the author of a book about it (which may be helpful)
It's definitely quite helpful to just realize that it's OK to be this way and to explain to your partner about it. That way, you can both laugh at it a bit and avoid driving each other crazy.
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Write. Keep a journal (physical notebook, text file on your computer, whatever), or write at 750words.com (as secure as you want it to be), but just write it out. Whenever you start to feel those manic, panicky, longing feelings, instead of trying not to think about him and how much you miss him, write about it. Even if it's just "I miss Boyfriend" over and over until you get sick of writing, do it. You'll be surprised at how much it helps.
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If it makes you feel better, I too would feel neglected when my husband spent time away from me to be with his terminally ill father. We had just gotten married and I hated being alone in the house without him. Even just coming home from work and not seeing his car in the drive would make my heart sink. I felt awful about it--I loved his dad, too, and didn't resent a second that my husband spent with him, but I still missed him.
You'll get through it. Maybe it will help you to ask him to give you a "job" while he's away so you can feel like you're supporting him. Collect his mail, feed his pets, do his laundry, get groceries so he'll have a full fridge when he gets back. He'll say, "Oh, you don't have to do that," and you'll say, "It's no trouble," even if it is. It'll help you feel useful--a big part of feeling neglected is feeling left out, and it'll be nice for him when he gets home too emotionally exhausted to deal with practical things. It's a way to stay connected.
And then try to stay connected to your life, too. Hang out with your friends, tackle some projects, go see movies he wouldn't be interested in. Take care of yourself. He'll need you when his father passes away, so be strong for him.
I'm sorry you're going through this. It'll get better. Hang in there.
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Instead of relying on him to send you morning "hello" messages, why not send him emails/texts throughout the day? My SO and I live 2 hours apart and we could probably both go a couple of days without contact at all since we're both working etc. & neither one of us have the neediness you describe, but I still send him texts throughout the day --- a photo of some unknown bulb sprouting in my garden on an unseasonably warm late-winter day accompanied by "have a groovy Tuesday!" or "sitting in the waiting room bored and missing you!" or "hope your dad's appt. goes well, thinking of you!" Earlier tonight I texted him with "miss me?" so I can have something nice to read when he replies.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to feel connected with your boyfriend while he's away, and there's nothing wrong with going ahead and making that happen. Contacting him is not the same as clinging to him, and if you feel like you can contact him whenever you like, you might not feel the same desperation that you're feeling when you leave it all up to him.
And definitely get out there and get busy. Do things, touch base with him, do more things, etc.
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I used to be like this and uh... I drove my ex crazy with my needy and got dumped. So be forewarned.
You need to find other things to do when you are lonely. Get hobbies, go places, hang out with your friends, write in a journal, get a stuffed animal or giant pillow, something. You're right that you can't really expect more attention from him at this point, and asking for more would only get irritating. But you need to put more focus on stuff you do rather than the giant hole in your life that is him not being there for you.
I actually disagree with the "contact him as much as you like" advice, mostly because (a) I drove my ex nuts, especially when he had other things to do than deal with me being needy all the effing time, and (b) well, uh, he IS busy. He has enough burdens going on right now without your adding to them. He already has to take care of a parent, which is a really heavy one. It won't help him if he feels obligated to keep answering your texts/e-mails/calls a day because you are feeling really lonely.
It's not that he doesn't love you. You know that, right? Can you trust in that? Can you trust that he still cares even if he doesn't have the time to talk to you as much as you want?
I know this sounds harsh, but I have seriously been there on both sides of Teh Needy Feeling by now and I don't want you to end up the way that I did. Restraint is a good thing, taking care of yourself is a good thing. And journalling. Lots of journalling.
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The normal and healthy thing to do would be to figure out how best to help him deal with the care of a sick parent and the imminent loss of his father. Acknowledge your feelings of sadness, but really: a man is dying. Put that man first. That means make sacrifices. That's what normal, healthy people do: they find meaning and strength through service.
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Regarding that book... "Attached" is seemingly bringing a practical line of explanation for relationships dynamics. Please note that the dynamics between you two is dyadic and it is not necessarily you who is anxious (meaning, those are not "ideal types", your partner can be more avoidant than you anxious; the book omits avoidant-anxious subtype), so the optimal solution comes from both you and him trying to find a secure balance. The
NPR interview
with Levine and Heller coincidentally analyses the situation of one partner going away on a trip.
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I agree with jenfullmoon and BitterOldPunk: make use of this time. If you can't help with the dying father (really? there's nothing mundane over at his place that you can help do to ease things a bit, like laundry, batch cooking, picking up reading or listening material, etc.?), then make this alone time about you. Hang out with your friends. Get started on a project you've been putting off. Volunteer. Keep both your mind and your hands busy, and the time will fly.
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I second the do NOT "contact him as much as you can" sentiment. If you see him most of the time, and you are freaking out about him being gone 4-5 days every two weeks to do something that is important and nessicary to him, your relationship is unhealthy. His taking care of his father IS more important than your relationship. Sorry to say it, but it's true. You have things in your life that are more important than your relationship as well. You should. That's normal. And if you don't, either you'll find some, or the relationship will end, because it's not healthy.
Your boyfriend is dealing with some heavy stuff. You are a capable adult person. You should think... "what can I do to help him with what he needs?" not "how can I get what I need/want?" because the truth is, you don't need him around all the time. Remember you're pretty awesome, and your partner is dating you because he likes you and gets something out of the relationship. What can you give him? If you start thinking about your relationship like that, it will foster a healthy mindset. (please note, I'm not saying you should never evaluate if you're getting what you need from a relationship. you should do that. But that is way hard to do if you are mixing up your actual needs with neurosis and thinking about what you have to give and what you can give reminds you that you are able to have a positive impact on the relationship and the person you love, you're not just a passive agent in this thing.)
Just because something is MORE important than your relationship dosen't mean your relationship is unimportant. It's still important. But the problem here is in your head, not in the relationship. Now, normally I would say you should communicate with your partner. But this isn't a problem that he can help solve. you're irrationally upset about something that you shouldn't be if you had a healthy mindset on relationships. I mean, it's normal to miss some one when they're gone. It's not normal or healthy to pine so much that you can't function. Now, you can say "Hey, I'm dealing with this thing. I know it's irrational and my problem, not yours, but I feel like this and I'm working on it and just thought you should know." You could also ask him if he could use any help with his father... but if you do go to help, remember you aren't there to "be less lonely", you're actually there to help. Dealing with a terminally ill person might be too stressful on you or on your relationship at this point. No shame in that. But only go if you feel you can actually put aside your irrational feelings and help, not if you just want your boyfriend's company. (it's that thinking what you can give vs. focusing on what you want thing I was talking about before)
What has worked for me is writing first of all. Dosen't have to be a special "dear diary" sort of thing. I would just scrawl on whatever paper I had handy when I felt like i was stuck in a negative obsessive thought loop. I'm a fairly logical person and so I used diary keeping to talk myself out of my irrational feelings by writing down my irrational feeling, aknowledging it, and then writing a sentence or two as to why it was an irrational thought and not a logical, clear, reasoning thought. But only do this on paper, not in your head, or you could get yourself in a sticky obsessive thought loop. When you finish the thoughts don't belabor them outside of the paper. They should be trapped in the paper, dumped there to get them out of your head. Like a recycling plant for negative thoughts.
Also, whenever you get an "OMG I miiiiiiiiisssssssssss him!!!!!" thought, instead of trying to think yourself out of it in your mind and rationalize it, just try to clear your mind. Some people find that breathing excercises or meditation work, but nothing works for me as well as a few minuets of a video game. However you do it, attempt to think no concious thoughts for at least a minuet. It's like hitting the "reset" button when a computer gets "stuck", only it's your brain. Mind clearing is different for everyone. Once the thought is cleared, you can move on to something else to occupy yourself, try to keep your brain busy.
Also, I found St Johns Wort helped with my relationship anxiety. I know people have totally different results with that and you have to take it every day for like 2 weeks before it even starts working, but it really helps me without any preceptable side effects. You might also want to add Omega3 and a B complex... both of those are great for helping improve the brain chemistry end of anxiety. (And yes, this IS an anxiety issue, even if it's only centered on relationships and NOTHING ELSE, it's still an anxiety issue.)
I have been in your shoes. My boyfriend and I are very career oriented and live about 1.5 hours apart. We've been dating for a year and a half but we only see eachother one day a week most of the time due to our work schedules. And yeah, I had some anxiety about that for a while. These techniques worked for me and I have much, much less anxiety over our relationship, but it took a good 4 months of me working on my mental state EVERY DAY and relentlessly forcing myself into healthy thought processes to get here. My boyfriend knew what was going on and was supportive, but ultimately it's not his battle to fight because he hadn't done anything to cause this. But him knowing and caring enough to be patient as i work my shit out meant the world to me.
Sorry I come off so harsh. I"m not trying to be mean or cruel, I've just been there and I wish that this was the sort of thing people told me.
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Or rather, I should say "your view and expecations of the relationship are unhealthy" and not the blanket statement "your relationship is unhealthy". It dosen't sound like from what you've said that your interactions with your boyfriend specifically are bad.
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Well, I think that it's normal for many people to feel super intense bonding emotions in the early part of a serious relationship, so I can see why these thoughts might become intrusive.
In early love we often we want to display and demonstrate our love by bringing small, meaningful gifts to the object of our affection, creating a love language, cocooning, establishing small routines and rituals, all in aid of weaving the two lives more closely together. Part of this is related to the New Love chemical rush, but I believe that part of it also is because in that early stage we don't have the one thing that most eloquently reflects true love: deep and abiding history. So we make our love offerings and mirror our partner and make anniversaries of the The First Time We Met, and The First Time We Kissed, and in Magpie fashion we gather these various items, actions and behaviors as building materials for our long-term relationship to construct our still rickety metaphorical "love nest" — but only time will build the foundation.
Your instincts (that don't care much about the finer points of unselfishness and sacrifice) are rebelling at the delays and interruptions of this primal urge, but you must try to think of it as an unusual opportunity, which it actually is. While the normal course would have you simulating a history and signifying devotion with mix-tapes, bouquets of flowers, silly pet names, and minor daily rituals, you have the opportunity
right now
to display the sort of profound love offering that usually only comes much later: You can demonstrate depths of love by being strong and solidly supportive of your partner during this protracted crisis period. You can make this easier for him. You can help him. The ways are many, but chief among them is to not add to his burden.
Do all the things suggested by thinkingwoman, smirkette and others above. Spend time researching care for the terminally ill, effective therapies, and the grieving process; learn all you can so you know what your boyfriend is dealing with, and how you might gracefully ease this incredibly painful time for him. This is the mature expression of true love, and you can embody that instead of uselessly mourning the temporary absence of the minor notes that really only stand in as markers for the serious stuff that usually comes later. This is the serious stuff. This is love.
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Your instincts (that don't care much about the finer points of unselfishness and sacrifice) are rebelling at the delays and interruptions of this primal urge
Quoted for awesome. His situation isn't about you right now, and that's really hard but learning to sit through the anxiety and ride it out without reaching for him to make it go away will help you both grow and mature. You're doing well to recognise the issue, good for you.
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Do you have other friends you can hang out with and socialize with while your bf is out of town? That might help.
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My own father died six months ago, after a year long illness, during which I, at first, visited often, and ultimately chose to move home to spend as much time with him as he had left. I just couldn't bring myself to care about or pay any attention to the day to day existence I'd been leading before his cancer was diagnosed. Very quickly, I started to resent anyone or anything that was trying to keep me tied to my life in Brooklyn, and away from my dad.
If your boyfriend's experiencing things at all like I did, that last thing you want to do, for his sake, and for the sake of your relationship, is ask as any sort of anchor keeping him away from his father and family. Also, most emails and voicemails will go un-replied-to, and the more they build up, the more they make him feel is expected from him, the more he'll cut himself off.
My best advice would be to try a fake-it-'till-you-make-it approach to being the best easygoing, no-maintenance, rock-star girlfriend you could be. When he goes away, tell him that he can call/text/skype you any time he wants, but that you're not expecting to hear from him until he's coming back. Don't make a fuss about how much you're going to miss him in hopes he'll say he misses you, too -- instead, talk about how great it is what he's doing for his family, and how much is mother must appreciate it. When he's away, you don't need to cut off contact with him, just make sure he knows that you're fine with it being one-way. Send him email updates that keep him abreast of what's going on with you and your shared friend, being clear that he doesn't need to write anything back. Seek out words of sympathy and support from his friends to pass along; it's always nice to know that people don't immediately forget about you when you're not around. If you can leave voicemails without ringing his phone, do so - it'll be nice to hear your voice, but again, only if you're clear that you don't need anything from him in return.
Basically, be a source of solace and cheer, someone who makes things easier, and never piles on any more problems or expectations. Know that this will run contrary to the way you actually feel at times, and understand it's the best mitzvah you can do for him at this point. I think you might find that all of the effort you put into being wonderful, carefree and easygoing could lead to actually feeling that way in real life. At the very least, by making it clear just how little consideration you need from him right now will keep you from feeling stung by unmet expectations.
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My boyfriend's gone away on a training course for a few weeks, will be back for only a short visit before heading out again on another 3 week course. When I asked what I can do for him while he's away, he asked me to write him letters.
It has been very helpful in dealing with my missing him. Writing about "us", "my feelings for him", "what I adore about him" etc. has me focusing on the things I really cherish about our relationship, a sort of self-medicating for getting that reassurance I need. And I make the effort to write it well, because I want to send him something that he can re-read whenever he's feeling lonely and overwhelmed and missing me too.
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Whether you are a beginner or have been studying Spanish for years, being surrounded by the language every day will help you take your Spanish to a new level!
Make a real contribution in a place that needs you! Be an international volunteer in Argentina!
Mente Argentina offers tailor-made volunteer programs in Buenos Aires, Argentina's beautiful capital city.
Mente Argentina has partnered with several volunteer organizations & NGOs in Argentina that are in need of international volunteers who are passionate, hardworking, and ready to make a difference. You will see things from a new perspective as you engage with the people and the language, actively absorbing Argentinean culture.
The Mente Argentina Volunteer Program fee covers all our services including creating unique volunteer positions in Buenos Aires, first class accommodation in the best neighborhoods in Buenos Aires (Palermo, Barrio Norte, Recoleta), a wide range of cultural immersion activities, and personal advice and support services throughout your entire stay.
The Mente Argentina Volunteer Program also includes an optional introductory Spanish course during your first weeks in Argentina (Monday to Friday from 9am to 1pm). This is an opportunity to refresh your memory and learn common Argentine expressions as well as specific vocabulary that you will need for your interactions as a volunteer.
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Mente Argentina's volunteers have the opportunity to choose to work in a variety of different fields, including educating children from under-privileged backgrounds, HIV/AIDS counseling, and medical/health volunteering. Through our program, volunteers will have a chance to form a deep connection to the people of Buenos Aires and contribute to the improvement of life in Argentina!
Bringing good people and good causes together is what we do in our Volunteer Program.
If you choose to volunteer in Buenos Aires, you will have the chance to spend time with people you might not otherwise meet, and get have a hands-on experience with local culture. Not only will your time with us enrich your life, but your work on our volunteer programs will contribute to our ongoing effort to bridge the cultural, social, and economic gap which currently exists in Argentina.
We believe international volunteering promotes cross-cultural learning that helps create global awareness and understanding between cultures, which provides the platform for positive change.
Mente Argentina knows that there are many people out there with a lot to give, but often little time. We have designed our Volunteer Program in Buenos Aires with the idea that each person's efforts can really make a difference in the lives of many Argentineans even in a short time frame.
Our goal is to make your volunteer experience in Argentina run as smoothly as possible. Mente Argentina has a team of experienced travel advisors who will consider your interests, budget, language level, goals, and travel plans to select a Volunteer Program that is just right for you.
We are here to make sure your volunteer experience is fun, organized, and productive:
Combine your Volunteer Program with Spanish Lessons! (optional)
Even though it´s not essential that you take a Spanish course in order to volunteer in Argentina, at least a very basic level of Spanish is required.
Mente Argentina offers you the possibility to combine your program with Spanish lessons. In this way, you will be able to learn or improve your Spanish while enjoying a unique experience in Buenos Aires.
Lessons take 4 hours and are delivered from Monday to Friday at the MA Spanish School in reduced groups of up to 8 students. These group classes will be combined with individual lessons so that you can reinforce your weaknesses and we can answer your inquiries in a one on one meeting.
Spanish School's teachers are highly qualified and have a vast experience in teaching Spanish as a second language. Therefore, the classes will be interactive and above all enjoyable!
The classes can be attended both in the morning and the afternoon, so they will not overlap with the activities of your program..
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Superstorm Sandy and Con Edison's power shutdown: lessons from Johnson Gallagher
By Joseph D Jean and Amanda H Freyre
In the wake of Superstorm Sandy, property insurers have repeatedly denied coverage for business owners in lower Manhattan — arguing that ConEd intentionally cut off power to its networks and that flooding damaged ConEd's facilities. A recent Southern District of New York decision — Johnson Gallagher Magliery LLC v Charter Oak Fire Ins Co, No. 13 CIV. 866, 2014 WL 1041831, at *1 (SDNY 18 March 2014) — considered coverage for a policyholder's losses caused by ConEd's Bowling Green Network outage. The court partially denied the insurer's summary judgment motion because the insurer did not demonstrate that the service interruption during ConEd's post-restoration period was excluded by the policy.
Johnson Gallagher is an important decision because it is the first to examine the circumstances of the Bowling Green Network shutdown and the implications that sequence of events may have on insurance coverage for policyholder business interruption losses arising from that network. The court considered: (1) the pre-emptive shutdown just prior to the storm; (2) the period of restoration resulting from physical damage to electrical systems caused by the storm; and (3) the delays in reopening the plaintiff's building as a result of New York City building authority orders and the testing of systems by the building owners. Based on a very limited record, the SDNY concluded there was no coverage for the pre-emptive shutdown period due to lack of physical damage and that a broadly worded flood exclusion precluded coverage for the restoration period following Sandy's damage to the Bowling Green Network's electrical systems. But, importantly, the SDNY held that the water exclusion did not preclude coverage for the losses suffered during ConEd's post-restoration period, because the loss during that period was not caused by water damage or the pre-emptive shutdown. Also significant is that the court did not consider damage to other ConEd networks (for example the widely reported fires and explosions at ConEd's 13th Street facility) or whether other aspects of the policy such as sewer back-up coverage might apply. Presentation and consideration of these facts, as well as the particular circumstances of each policyholder's loss, could expand the possibility of insurance coverage for Sandy-related losses…
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The relationship between de jure and de facto judicial independence is much debated in the literature. Some studies find no relationship between the formal rules governing the structure of the judiciary and its de facto independence. Other studies find a significant correlation between de jure and de facto judicial independence, with one study even touting de jure judicial independence as the most powerful predictor of de facto judicial independence. This paper sets out to explain these divergent findings by reassessing the relationship between de jure and de facto judicial independence using data on de jure judicial independence from the Comparative Constitutions Project and a new measure of de facto judicial independence from Linzer and Staton. The resulting analysis addresses many of the empirical problems in the existing literature, providing a robust test of the effect of de jure judicial independence on de facto judicial independence. Our findings indicate that rules governing the selection and removal of judges are the only de jure protections that actually enhance judicial independence in practice. This effect is strongest in authoritarian regimes and in contexts with checks on executive authority.
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James Melton & Tom Ginsburg, "Does De Jure Judicial Independence Really Matter? A Reevaluation of Explanations for Judicial Independence" (Institute for Law and Economics Working Paper No. 612, 2012).


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Eastleigh's central role is what lured me: Reason (From Braintree and Witham Times)
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Eastleigh's central role is what lured me: Reason
1:53pm Wednesday 30th May 2012 in Local Sport
Jai Reason insists the main reason he has left Braintree to join Eastleigh in the division below the Blue Square Bet Premier is to play in his preferred central midfield role.
The 22-year-old agreed a two-year-deal with the Blue Square Bet South side yesterday.
He said he decided his future was no longer at Cressing Road because he'd become frustrated at playing on the left wing.
"It was a tough decision because I did not want to leave Braintree," he said.
"But I did not want to play out of position anymore.
"I want to move back into central midfield and Braintree could not offer me that, but I will be playing there for Eastleigh."
Reason joined Braintree from Crawley Town in September 2010 and helped them win the Conference South title and promotion to the Conference National.
And the former Ipswich academy player, who's also had spells at Thurrock and Cambridge United, laughed off suggestions the move to the Spitfires was a move backwards in his career.
"I think this is a step forwards if anything," he said.
"The facilities are great here and the club has great backing from the chairman and a very good manager.
"The fans here are great and there is so much potential here. It reminds me of what it was like at Crawley."
Reason also denied the move had been motivated by money. He said: "It's not financially motivated at all. I mean we're in the non-league. The deal I have here is not much different from what I had at Braintree.
"I have my own coaching centre which does just fine, so I did not need to move for money.
"What I want to do is get back in the Football League and to be playing full-time football and I am confident I can do those things with Eastleigh."
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Fantastic Fest 09: Romero Discusses the Future of the Dead
Fantastic Fest's Saturday night screening of the American premiere of George A. Romero's Survival of the Dead (review here) saw a packed house abuzz with anticipation about what the godfather of the zombie subgenre had come up with this time. As a bonus, we also received a little bit of information about what he might be coming up with next.
Prior to the movie being shown, Romero greeted the crowd (who returned the favor with rousing applause and a standing ovation) and participated in a Q&A. As you'd expect considering most of us hadn't seen Survival yet, the topics were general in nature rather than specific about the film, which resulted in a few choice bits of information floating out.
In the midst of a couple of questions about all the remakes of and sequels to his earlier work -- either by himself or others -- 1981's Knightriders came up. George said that it's one he's "intrigued" to consider revisiting, and inquiries have been made as to who exactly owns the rights. As any Romero-phile knows, rights issues have plagued him during his entire career, something he said he doesn't have to worry about anymore because every one of his projects is being handled by one entity - Artfire Films.
As far as what the future holds, it all depends on how well Survival of the Dead does financially. Despite its mixed reviews, Diary did well enough in foreign and DVD sales to bring about Survival, and if Survival does the same, then we can look forward to at least two more offshoots from some of the characters who were first introduced in Diary of the Dead. He also has some new rules to the mythos he'd like to incorporate.
The ins and outs of exactly what type of release Survival will be getting are still being worked out while George and crew take it on the road via the festival circuit. If you're planning to be in Spain October 1st-12th, you can catch it at the Sitges Film Fest. But if, like most of us, you're stuck in the good old US of a A, then try to content yourself with watching the following behind-the-scenes sneak peek one more time.
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Rookie LB Sio Moore spoke to the media after the first practice of his second mini-camp as a pro.
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I was involved in some conversations recently on how the VAAI UNMAP command behaved, and what were the characteristics which affected its performance. For those of you who do not know, UNMAP is our mechanism for reclaiming dead or stranded space from thinly provisioned VMFS volumes. Prior to this capability, the ESXi host had no way of informing the storage array that the space that was being previously consumed by a particular VM or file is no longer in use. This meant that the array thought that more space was being consumed than was actually the case. UNMAP, part of the vSphere APIs for Array Integration, enables administrators to overcome tho challenge by telling the array that these blocks on a thin provisioned volume are no longer in use and that they can be reclaimed.
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Where to look when troubleshooting VDPA backup issues
I had the pleasure (?) recently of troubleshooting some backup issues on my vSphere Data Protection Advanced (VDPA) setup. To be honest, I had not spent a great deal of time on this product recently, other than a few simple backup and restores. However, in my new role I now have a number of other projects which requires me to understand this product's functionality a bit more. When things were not going right for me though, I spent a lot of time searching for some log files which might give me some clue as to the nature of my problem. After some assistance from some of the GSS guys based in Cork, we narrowed it down.
For me, the install and configure part went fine. I could also create backups with relative ease. The issue related to running the backups in certain environments, which were failing. So how then could I determine why this was happening?
A list of ESXCLI storage commands you can't live without
There are many occasions where the information displayed in the vSphere client is not sufficient to display all relevant information about a particular storage device, or indeed to troubleshoot problems related to a storage device. The purpose of this post is to explain some of the most often used ESXCLI commands that I use when trying to determine storage device information, and to troubleshoot a particular device.
vSphere 5.5 Storage Enhancements Part 8 – DSNRO Changes
This is a topic which has been discussed time and time again. It relates to an advanced storage parameter called Disk.SchedNumReqOutstanding, or DSNRO for short. There are a number of postings out there on the topic, without me getting into the details once again. If you wish to learn more about what this parameter does for you, I recommend reading this post on DSNRO from my good pal Duncan Epping. Suffice to say that this parameter is related to virtual machine I/O fairness. In this post, I'll talk about changes to DSNRO in vSphere 5.5.
vSphere 5.5 Storage Enhancements Part 2: VMFS Heap
There have been some notable discussions about VMFS heap size and heap consumption over the past year or so. An issue with previous versions of VMFS heap meant that there were concerns when accessing above 30TB of open files from a single ESXi host. VMware released a number of patches to temporarily work around the issue. ESXi 5.0p5 & 5.1U1 introduced a larger heap size to deal with this. However, I'm glad to say that a permanent solution has been included in vSphere 5.5 in the form of dedicated slab for VMFS pointers and a new eviction process. I will discuss the details of this fix here.
Getting started with vscsiStats
I have had a few occasions recently to start using vscsiStats. For those of you who may be unfamiliar, this is a great tool for virtual machine disk I/O workload characterization. Have you ever wondered about the most common I/O size generated by the Guest OS? What about the latency of those I/Os? What about checking to see the I/O generated by a Guest OS when it is in a so-called 'idle' state? vscsiStats can help with all of these queries, as well as providing some excellent troubleshooting options. The tool has been around since the ESX 3.5 days. This blog will take you through some of the steps in getting started with vscsiStats. Continue reading
Automating the IOPS setting in the Round Robin PSP
A number of you have reached out about how to change some of the settings around path policies, in particular how to set the default number of iops in the Round Robin path selection policy (PSP) to 1. While many of you have written scripts to do this, when you reboot the ESXi host, the defaults of the PSP are re-applied and then you have to run the scipts again to reapply the changes. Here I will show you how to modify the defaults so that when you unclaim/reclaim the devices, or indeed reboot the host, the desired settings come into effect immediately.


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I went to dinner at L'autre Pied last night and found the overall experience disappointing. The food was surprisingly tasteless and we ordered the foie gras, duck and lamb which are staple French dishes that any French restaurant should be able to prepare well, let alone a restaurant with a Michelin star. The wine was also average for the price and we were disappointed the sommelier had even suggested it. I am not sure if maybe it was a bad night for the kitchen, but I am shocked that this restaurant has been able to maintain its status. I would not recommend eating there or spending money at this establishment.


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MindTree Selects RDMe 10.1 for Their Prominent Backup ApplicationSubmitted by pvjohnson on Fri, 02/03/2012 - 11:09
SEATTLE, WA — January 31, 2012 – Raima, which offers state-of-the-art database technologies, announced that MindTree® has selected RDM Embedded 10.1 as the database they have embedded within their prominent backup application.
The application must deliver continuous data protection to desktops and laptops. With this requirement MindTree needed a proven reliable and high availability database to manage the high volume of messaging between devices. Raima's RDM Embedded 10.1 fills this need and contributes significantly to the application's requirement of continuous data protection.
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Android application developers of intelligent devices, embedded systems and mobile devices are now able to share and communicate data stored in ITTIA DB SQL with a back-end Microsoft(R) SQL Server with just a few mouse clicks. This feature is made possible by ITTIA DB Sync, and allows developers not only to distribute mobile and embedded data between Android devices and Microsoft(R) SQL Server, but also to benefit from the replication environment necessary for improvement of data availability, reliability, modularity, mobility and interoperability.
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Whether an application developed on Android is meant for use in tablets, embedded systems or mobile devices, many seek data synchronization capabilities with back-end enterprise databases. In particular, many companies are looking for ways to leverage tablet computers for greater workforce mobility while maintaining a secure, reliable connection to the corporate data center. Developers can avoid this limitation by synchronizing the back-end database, whether Oracle, MySQL, MS SQL Server, or something else, with an ITTIA DB SQL database for Android device applications.
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For 10 years before creating "Assassins," Stephen Sondheim was haunted by the image of a fairground shooting gallery, where lost souls take aim at the prize target: a U.S. president.
I have no doubt that 10 years from now, what I'll remember most from the Milwaukee Repertory Theater's just-opened production of "Assassins" is the Rep's harrowing realization of Sondheim's vision, courtesy of another great scenic design from Todd Edward Ivins.
On a turntable that dominates the Rep's Powerhouse stage, stairs in a rickety wooden structure rise to a platform: stage, scaffold and launchpad for the assassins' roller-coaster ride to hell - itself dramatized by Jeff Nellis' red, fog-inflected lighting and Jonathan Gillard Daly's satanic performance as carnival barker.
Flanking portraits of targeted presidents blink like Hollywood squares when shots are fired. Strewn remnants of broken idols - ghosts from carnivals past - grin madly at the audience.
It's vintage Americana from a bygone county fair, and it underscores these assassins' painted dreams of fame and success, in a country where we're regularly told that we're entitled to both because we're all gifted.
Sondheim's revue features nine of the men and women whose engorged but frustrated sense of entitlement - afoot in an angry land with too many guns - led to violence.
Under director Mark Clements, these killers often resemble circus freaks, delivering darkly funny and cartoonishly broad portraits that emphasize the disconnect between their inflated sense of themselves and the losers they were and are.
But while some black humor is very much at home in this piece, one can have too much of a good thing. The Rep production risks widening the distance between the audience and the likes of failed Nixon assassin Samuel Byck (Lee E. Ernst), failed Ford assassin Sara Jane Moore (Caroline O'Connor) and Garfield assassin Charles Guiteau (Mark Price).
Yes, they're all crackpots. But Sondheim's point is that their delusions are also a gimcrack version of our own. Letting us laugh too much - or pointing guns at the audience too often, as this production does - lets us off the hook, allowing us to feel superior to what we watch instead of forcing us to peer into this funhouse mirror and glimpse a distorted image of ourselves.
Creating more textured characters, Sarah Litzinger (as failed Ford assassin Lynette "Squeaky' Fromme) and Adam Monley (as Lincoln assassin John Wilkes Booth) go furthest in making us squirm. Ditto the magnificently staged "Another National Anthem," in which the assassins angrily demand that attention be paid (additional musical staging by Michael Pink).
On opening night, a glitch forced a clearly distracted audience to pay far too much attention to a rat-a-tat sound resembling a spastic typewriter - a weird echo of every assassin's ham-handed attempt to become author of the main story on stage.
"Assassins" continues through Oct. 7 at the Powerhouse Theater, 108 E. Wells St. For tickets, visit milwaukeerep.com or call (414) 224-9490.