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The NCAA tournament is into the round of 16. The NFL draft is a month away. Opening day is here for the MLB. The NBA is, well, the NBA. Yep, that's all the major ones. With all this going on, there isn't just one thought that fills the brain. And that means there are many small thoughts…trust me on this.
What a great week. The tournament started up, and after a boring first day, got plenty of excitement over the weekend. The live blog was a great success, thanks to all of you. And Easter was a blast…egg hunt in the morning, chocolate all day, and basketball and dinner in the afternoon. Hope everyone else had a good weekend, whether it was Easter, spring break or just watching the tournament. Fun can be found in many forms…trust me on this.
This one goes out to Shaun Alexander…if your employer hires 2 new guys that do your exact job, and you know they don't have the head count to keep you all…and you make 4 times as much as all your co-workers…the phrase "the writing is on the wall" should really take on new meaning for you, trust me on this.
For the ladies out there, if you're in a bar, and a dude walks up to you, and unfurls the pickup line "I invented the phrase 'chickens in reverse'" or "Kiss the Wombat", first move is to pour your drink on him. Next empty that can of mace in his eyes, finally run until you need a satellite image to see the bar you were in. Trust me on this.
Davidson enters the tourney on a 22 game win streak and they only get a 10 seed. Despite the lower seed, they beat Gonzaga, and then pull a huge upset on Georgetown, running the streak to 24. The tournament committee's biggest mistake wasn't leaving Arizona State out; it was giving Davidson this low of seed, trust me on this.
"I didn't know what it did, so I pushed it" is possibly the most dangerous phrase in the English language, trust me on this.
Okay, paper and pencils at the ready, time for a little math problem. You are in a room with 2 buddies. The Sweet 16 games are about to start. On the table are 3 shot glasses, and a 750ml bottle of Jack Daniels. One of your buddies says, "Let's do a shot every time Stephen Curry scores". Will you have enough booze? Answer: No, and if you live through the second half, it will be a miracle, trust me on this.
Every once in a while, Hollywood gets something right…since it appears that they NEED to remake every single old TV show into a movie, Steve Carell is a perfect fit for Maxwell Smart, trust me on this.
Here's a little advice for one Brandon Marshall. If you slip on a McDonalds wrapper in your living room, causing you to put your arm through a TV, and resulting in a 4 month recovery period…tell people you were drunk and got in a fight with your girlfriend, it will be a lot less embarrassing, trust me on this.
Juggling hard-boiled Easter eggs is a great way to entertain the kids. Just make sure all the eggs are ACTUALLY hard-boiled…trust me on this.
All you Mavericks fans out there…if you're hoping that Dirk going down will spur the team to a Rockets like run…the saying goes, "You can hope in one hand and crap in the other, see which one fills up first." I'll put $10 on the crap-hand, trust me on this.
Glanced over at the magical "iGoogle Weather" and freaked out because according to the picture, Friday's forecast is for waterfalls!!! Holy nuts…that doesn't sound good at all. Stock up on supplies, buy a slicker, we've got waterfalls people!!! After frantically calling my wife to check if we had waterfall insurance, it turns out there is no waterfalls in the forecast. The image is ice on a tree, trust me on this.
Somewhere in Chi-town, that's "Chicago" for the uninformed, my buddy Dan is staring at the headline "Favre still hasn't filed retirement paperwork" and is dancing around like a little girl, screaming "I told you so!"…trust me on this.
If your 3-year-old daughter can sing the whole first verse to "All-star" by Smashmouth, you can conclude the following. 1. She's watching too much Shrek and 2. You need to kick you brother in the jimmy for teaching it to her…trust me on this.
Even if you hate the Yankees, there is no disputing that Yankee Stadium is an icon of baseball. The fact that this is the last season of baseball in those hallowed ground is heartbreaking enough, but now the new stadium will carry the name "Steinbrenner Field"? Nope, no it won't...the magic of sports headlines today...glancing at a headline you think the world has ended, and then you read a little deeper, and some lame spring training field is being renamed, trust me on this.
When you yell out, "Hey, where's my 2005 Chicago White Sox highlight DVD?" and your daughter answers with "I put it away for you Daddy"…it's in the Shrek DVD case, trust me on this.
When Memphis loses…yes, I meant to say "when"…the game will take a record 6 hours and 13 minutes to complete. This will of course be due to the other team's strategy of fouling them on EVERY possession. Quite simply, a dead rat could shoot free throws better, trust me on this.
It might be passé, but if you ever have the chance to play a good round of Mad-Libs, make sure to work in the following words: Gangrene….Zima….wombat. Doesn't matter what order, or what the topic is, those words are comedy gold, trust me on this.
In the spirit of Latrell Sprewell, Alex Rodrigez explained his change of agents (getting rid of the money hungry Scott Boras) with "I put my family ahead of the money". Choosing your family AND a 10 year, $275 million contract is a hard choice. You sir are a saint, a god among men, an example for us all! Alex, Latrell just called, he wanted to offer your family a free ride on his yacht during your troubled times, trust me on this.
This just in, Cedric Benson might be replaced as the Bears starting running back! In other news, our reports have confirmed that, yes; bears do crap in the woods. Benson "probably" being replaced isn't news, trust me on this.
You find yourself working in a Little Caesar's pizza. A customer comes in and orders a pizza with "Everything on it, but no meat". If your reaction is anything BUT, "Okay, so Onions, Peppers, Olives, Sausage, Pepperoni, Ham, mushrooms…" well, you haven't worked there long enough, trust me on this.
Well, Pacman Jones explained his strange and self destructive behavior with the quote, "Man, I'm at the end of the cliff, and if I slip off, I fall off". Pacman, let me explain something to you…come closer…okay…too close. Not "stripper close"…there you go. Pacman, first, explaining away the last several years of your life is going to take more than a 3 hour interview with Michael Irvin. And yes, if you "Slip off" you by definition would "fall off" a cliff. You can't "slip off a cliff" without "falling off", trust me on this.
Speaking of Pacman…so we now have Pacman Jones and Atari Bigby…starting for your 2009 Green Bay Packers….Collecovision Johnson! We've only scratched the surface of the video game names, trust me on this.
The NFL is thinking of moving the start time of the Season opener earlier to avoid clashing with the Republican National Convention. Nothing against Republicans, but seriously is there a choice? Watching a bunch of speeches and a forgone conclusion nomination or the start of the NFL season? The convention should consider rescheduling, they don't want to risk alienating the football vote, trust me on this.
You're an NFL GM, your assistant tells you "Mel Kiper Jr is on the phone for you with some draft advice", and you don't break into uncontrollable laughter, fire yourself, don't hesitate, fire yourself, trust me on this.
Over the weekend, my daughter and I settled in to watch basketball together. Got all comfy on the couch, the game was on…and my daughter said, "Okay, now let's watch football". After explaining to her that it's not football season, its basketball season, she said "why can't we watch football?" If there was ever a doubt in my mind, I now have hard proof she's mine, trust me on this.
You're the Coach of a Division I team. The NCAA informs you that your team has been made a #4 seed in the tournament. You're ecstatic…you break out the champagne…you're hugging all the players…the AD is calling ever booster he knows and rubbing it in their face…and then the NCAA says, "And you play your opening games in Tampa". There isn't a quicker way to quiet that room, trust me on this.
If you're looking for a new catch phrase to throw around the office, start reading spam…at least the subject lines. No where else on Earth will you learn the phrase "Trouser Mouse", trust me on this.
In Seattle it looks like the Sonics are leaving town…well not the Sonics…just the players, coaches, staff, balls, and the NBA. The name and history of the Sonics will stay in Seattle. Well, that solves the problem…the Key Arena will definitely sell out next year to watch a bunch of empty uniforms lie on the court, and ogle the only championship trophy in Seattle history. Hey Stern, the blood is all over you on this one…trust me on this.
When it comes to getting a child ready for school in the morning, once they hit the stage of "I can do it myself", what that really means is that from there on out they'll be leaving the house in some "interesting" outfits, trust me on this.
There are 2 types of #1 overall QBs…the Golden Boy, ala Peyton Manning, Carson Palmer and Eli Manning…the guys we knew would be on top all season long. And the Out-of-nowhere QB, ala Alex Smith, David Carr, and JaMarcus Russell. Take a memo to the Miami Dolphins, Matt Ryan is in the 2nd group, trust me on this.
For me, a bad action movie is a great way to relax. There is something about huge plot holes, unbelievable explosions, terrible one-liners, and predictable finishes that comfort me. If you share this love, then check out Sahara on cable, trust me on this.
Chris Webber is finally hanging them up. He'll be remembered for the Fab Five, the infamous time out, lifting the Kings out of obscurity, and playing until his vertical and mobility was worse than mine. Here's a little advice for all you other NBA players, if I can jump higher and run faster than you, follow Chris out the door, trust me on this.
In my last "Trust me" post, Yao Ming was put on notice with "the Rockets aren't going to be the same without you, trust me on this." Well…um…yeah…that's it, just remember…never trust me if I'm drunk, trust me on this.
If your child insists on you making her Ernie doll talk, using the "Ernie has laryngitis" excuse doesn't work. In toddler land, band-aids cure laryngitis, trust me on this.
So Jose Canseco is writing another "tell all" book. First, does anyone care? Second, who in their right mind will ever be friends with this guy again? "Um, Jose, why are you looking through all my tax docs? And what's with the handy-cam?" Jose, friends don't write tell all books about each other, trust me on this.
When ordering something online…if one place has the item with free shipping, and you find the item on another site for $10 less, but shipping is $15…if the thought crosses your mind that maybe you can find it for $10 cheaper AND free shipping…just buy from the first place, because it's not worth an hour of your life to save $10, trust me on this.
An NFL team had to forfeit a draft pick for cheating. Yep, old news…but get this…it wasn't the Patriots! What? No one wants to hear about a bad team that cheated? So the Niners tampering with Briggs doesn't even rate a headline? Wow, it's good to be terrible and cheat, trust me on this.
You're in a karaoke bar…you're too drunk for "Ring of Fire" and not quite drunk enough to whip out "Tiny Dancer"…go for "Livin' La Vida Loca", trust me on this.
After seeing the teams play a few games, the Final Four looks like this…UNC, UCLA, Texas and…Davidson. Yeah, it's a pipe dream, but dreaming is a good thing, trust me on this.
And another edition of "trust me on this" is in the books. Before anyone gets up in arms about what you have read here today, this blog has never been about telling the future. Nah, that limits what can be said and done. If you want a clear picture of the future, buy a time machine…or build one…whatever…here you'll just have to settle for the future telling power of Guinness, trust me on this.


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I was born in St. Louis, but my parents moved to Cape Girardeau, Missouri when I was two days old and then to Graves County Kentucky when I was 9 months old.(My parents lived and worked at Paradise Friendly Home from 1966-1969) I now live in Dexter, Missouri.
I am the oldest son of the comedian Dennis Crutchfield and Margaret Douthitt (now Gilbert) and have one brother, David, who lives in Lexington,Kentucky where he is employed at Lexmark.
In April of 2000, I became the youngest elected Alderman in Dexter, Missouri and the second youngest Alderman to ever sit on the Council. (the youngest was appointed, not elected) I also became the first Alderman to be of Native American Descent(I'm 1/8 Cherokee) the first to have a wife of Hispanic descent, and the first elected Republican from my Ward. I was reelected on April 2nd, 2002. I lost in 2004, but was elected again in 2006.
I have been interested in cemeteries since I was a kid and it always bothered my parents who called it a "morbid hobby". It has paid off now, since cemeteries have helped my knowledge of History. Now when I visit a city and find out that they have a cemetery (or cemteries) with famous graves, I go out of my way to see them (and get pictures for Find-a-grave if they are not already posted). I am a cashier at the Wal-Mart in Cape Girardeau, Mo.
I am married to the former Tracy Randel (she was adopted when she was nine years old. Her birth father was Puerto Rican and her mother was of German descent), who, sadly, was in an accident in August and has been in a coma since then. I have one step-son, Darrin. No transfer requests please. I've run into too many problems with them.
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Sherrie Magill Vandermark
Paul J.Miller killed in action .vietnam 1968,,Tim check out Paul's gravesite.
Tim Crutchfield,
I am so happy to tell you that you should check out Paul.J.Miller's grave site in Shain Memorial Cemetery,,I think you will enjoy something I have put on the memorial.
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Shirley Wadell
Memorial #126894915 Mary Josephine (Douthitt) Brown
I've linked Mary's parents - Samuel & Mary Douthit - to her Find A Grave posting.
Thanks, Shirley :)
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Ruth Ann Cain
Mark Christian
Thank you for all you do to make this cemetery available. Thank you for the picture of Mark's grave. I am his Mother, Ruth Ann Cain. I was married to Mark's father, Dale Christian at the time of Mark's death. Could this be transferred to me so that I may add family connections and words to the site. Thank you. Ruth Ann Cain
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Patricia Farmer
David Lipscomb 1831-1917
Please add birth and death dates to the memorial
Death certificate has birth January 21, 1831,in Tennessee and death November 11, 1917, in Davidson County Tennessee
It lists his parents adn Granville Lipscomb and Nannie Lipscomb.
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Cathy Stafford
RE: Oma Stafford
Ok Thank you!!!
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Gaye Hill
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Hello Tim,
Thank you for your works on Find A Grave, but please go back and amend this memorial.
Dr. Luke Pryor Blackburn was ***NOT*** yet the governor of KY, but was a candidate, running for office at the time of his work in Hickman, KY.
His heroism during the epidemic assured his election.
"Luke Pryor Blackburn (June 16, 1816 � September 14, 1887) was an American physician, philanthropist, and politician from Kentucky. He was elected the 28th governor of Kentucky, serving from 1879 to 1883."
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Cathy Stafford
Oma Stafford
Hi, I am Oma and Blane's Granddaughter. Could you please transfer her memorial to me? I have added her husband Blane and would like to add a picture to hers. Thank you so much!!! Cathy
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Sonja Turner
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Albert A Dalton...Hi Tim, you took a photograph of his tombstone which includes his picture on the stone... May I have your permission to use those photos on my ancestry.com site? I will give you full credit for the photographs~ Thanking you in advance for the consideration, Sonja Turner
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Hi again, I'm afraid I don't know how to do that.
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Tim, I found this article and thought you would be interested in it.
"The History of Dubuque County" http://members.tripod.com/~Doreen_3/DBBIOAB.htm
GEN. GEORGE W. JONES, Dubuque. Many years before the Black Hawk war of 1832, the successful lead miners and Indian traders looked with anxiety to the times when they might take possession of the lead mines which had been opened and worked by Julien Dubuque over forty years before. Among such men was George Wallace Jones; he was born at Vincennes, Ind., on the 12th of April, 1804, and was a son of Hon. John Rice Jones, a native of Merionetshire, Wales; Mr. Jones was educated at the Transylvanina University, in Lexington, Ky., and, on graduating, chose the legal profession, which he studied with a relative, Hon. John Scott, at St. Genevieve, Mo.; he was soon appointed Clerk of Judge Peck's court, in which he discharged his duties with commendation; at this time, failing health requirred a more active life, and, being of very enterprosing spirit, he determined to seek his fortune in the Upper Mississippi lead region; he according removed to the new Territory of Michigan, and made a home at Sinsinawa Mound, only six miles from Dubuque; this was in the early part of 1827. At the close of the Black Hawk war, he was elected Judge of the Court of the Western District of Michigan, now the State of Wisconsin; it may be said to his credit, in the administration of justice, that no appeal was taken from any of is decisions. Upon the organization of Wisconsin Territory, then including Iowa, Minnesota and even the whole region west to the Pacific, in 1836, he was triumphantly elected over two formidable competitors as a delegate to Congress; he then commenced that brilliant political career of civil service and national legislation which continued for more than thirty years, and, when a Government land office was required for Wisconsin and Iowa, he was appointed Surveyor General. This measure had been earnestly advocated by Delegate Jones while in Congress, and it was mainly through his personal influence that the office was located at Dubuque. He accordingly removed to the city and Territory of his adoption, and has remained one of its most distinguished citizens ever since. In the next two years, political partisanship became so strong under a change of Presidential administration, that he was removed from the office, but was re-appointed under the new political policy of President Polk in 1845. He then discharged the duties of Surveyor General until 1848, when he was selected General Assembly as one of the two United States Senators; upon the expiration of his first term as Senator, he was re-elected for another term of six years, terminating in 1859. Under the new administration of President Buchanan, Gen. Jones was appointed Minister to New Canada. He made this official residence in Bogota for three years, and returned during the first year of the rebellion. Under some misapprehension of facts, involving also _________malice, incident to that lamentable period of our history, he was arrested and confined several months at Fort La Fayette, and discharged without specific charges having been made against him; on reaching Dubuque, he was given the honor of a _______reception. For the last fifteen years, Gen. Jones has lived a partially retired life. His present family consists of his wife, whose maiden name was Miss Josephine ___goire, whom he married at St. Genevieve, Mo., in 1829; she was a member of a highly respected French family, a lady of high attainments and distinguished for a ____excellence of womanly and Christian virtues. Of his children there are surviving three sons and two daughters. In every position which in his eventful life he has been called to fill, Gen. Jones has been successful in the highest degree. Few men have more devoted friends; none excel him in unselfish devotion and unswerving ability to the worthy recipients of his confidence and friendship. In public enterprises and benevolent societies, and in all the social and business relations of life, few men of Dubuque or Iowa will leave a brighter record of public service or private character than Gen. George W. Jones.
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It's another month, and (given the monthly release schedule of the app) it's not really a surprise that a new version of gPodder has been released. This is mostly a bugfix release, but brings one very useful feature to gPodder: The ability to hide downloaded podcasts from the Music app. While this is nothing new to command-line fans who edit tracker-miner-fs.cfg by hand, there has not been an end-user friendly way to do it. Now there is: You can just flip a switch in the gPodder Settings and hide the podcasts from the Music app (which does nothing more than adding or removing the gPodder directory to tracker-miner-fs.cfg's IgnoredDirectories list), which is especially useful in a situation where your downloaded podcast accumulate (this happens to me right now – less time to listen to podcasts) and you play your music in "Shuffle all" mode.
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1. Bigalke vs. 10. Dawgee Fresh
2. dwade82697sssc vs. 9. bosoxfan5 07 WORLD CHAMPS
3. Know it all vs. 8. T-fo (NMI) *BS
4. dyhard is Bart Starr vs. 7. LYNCHisOUTtoGETyou* BS MS 2179
5. Cassidy's House vs. 6. (#15) Ed Reed Fan
That is the bracket where everyone starts out. T-Fo and bosox, you are ranked 8 and 9 because you just recently joined. Here are the topics:
Who is better, Phillip Rivers or Eli Manning?
Who was America's favorite quarterback of all time?
Will Shaun Alexander ever find his old self?
What will be the Dolphin's record in 2008?
Who will win the Super Bowl?
Should the Patriots still be marked by "cheaters"?
The Next MJ, LeBron James or Kobe Bryant
Who will develope into a bigger star, Greg Oden or Kevin Durant?
What two teams would make the best Championship Series?
Who is the best center of all time?
Will the Detroit Pistons finish #2 in the whole league?
Will Houston make the 5th seed or higher?
Make an all-cacasian NBA team
Who will be the 2008 division winners?
How good would the Yankees be without A-Rod?
Is A-Rod ($27.5 million) overpaid?
Are the Marlins making a mistake by trading two of their best players for two good prospects?
Will Magglio Ordonez have another .330+, 25+ HR year?
Make an all african-american MLB team.
Who will win the All-Star game? (Must start this by Sunday, 5:00 PM)
What can the NHL do to get more fans?
Who will win the Stanly Cup?
Make an all-american NHL team.
What is the reason for NHL's few fans?
What is more important, a 100+ point scorer or a welll above-average goalie?
Second person picks topics, first person starts. Some members of NTDL had too many forfeited TDs so they can not participate in the playoffs. All I ask is that you start your TD by Tuesday (except the NHL All-Star one).


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The ticking time bomb in bond fundsJanuary 14, 2013: 5:00 AM ET
In an effort to attract investors, bond fund managers are buying debt that's getting riskier by the minute.
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FORTUNE -- Wall Street is in the process of turning one of its most plain vanilla investments - and one that average investors have flocked to in recent years because of its perceived safety - into ticking time bombs. Unfortunately, no one should be all that surprised. Wall Street does this all the time.
The latest victim of Wall Street's reverse alchemy: Bond funds. In the past year or so, managers of these funds have been loading up on debt that on average won't be paid back until at least 2018, and in some cases much, much later.
The largest holding of the Calvert Income bond fund (CFICX), for instance, is debt dated 2047. That investment now makes up nearly 3% of the fund, and is its biggest holding. Also among the fund's top holdings is a railroad bond that doesn't come due until 2055. Mathew Duch, portfolio manager of the Calvert Income bond fund, says both bonds have unusual structures that make them less interest rate sensitive than other long-term bonds. Duch, through a spokesperson, says he "shares the risk concern in owning interest rate sensitive bonds in this environment but does not want to give up yield."
MORE: Wall Street's high-yield gravy train might be running out of steam
This seems to be a particularly perilous time to be buying debt tied to the second half of this century. The yield on the 10-year Treasury bond has risen to a recent 1.9%, from 1.6% a month ago. Many market gurus say that this may finally be the year that interest rates, which have been at historic lows, march up.
That's bad news for all bond investors. But it could be a potential disaster for anyone invested in a fund that's betting on longer-term debt. Bond prices move in the opposite direction of rates. And the further a bond is from when it's due to be paid back, the more it'll lose when interest rates rise.
Based on that you would expect bond fund managers to be shifting into short-term debt. But that's not what's happening. According to fund tracker Morningstar, the average duration of intermediate bond funds is four and a half years, which is up slightly from two years ago. For long-term bond funds it's nine years, up from just over seven and a half two years ago.
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The general rule of thumb is that for every 1 percentage point increase in rates, a bond will lose the equivalent of its duration in price. So a 5-year bond would lose 5%. For a bond that comes due in 2055, it's more like 40%. But that's just the rule of thumb. The real concern, though, is that when investors in what they thought were risk-free bond funds see 10% losses, or more, they may stampede for the exits, creating even bigger losses.
The main reason bond fund managers are plunging into potentially more dangerous debt is low-interest rates. The longer a bond, the more interest it pays. Many bond funds market themselves on yield.
But some fund managers say their long-term bets may not be as risky as it seems. Charles Burge, who manages the Invesco Corporate Bond fund (ACCBX), which has a current duration of nearly seven and a half years, says the widely held belief that short-term bonds are safer is a fallacy. He said the last time rates rose from 2004 to 2006, short-term bonds fell, but long-term yields, and bond prices stayed put.
"People like to hide in the front side of the curve," says Burge. "But it doesn't always work."
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And that's what appears to be winding up the bond fund time bomb. Companies are borrowing money for longer, to lock in today's low borrowing rates for as long as possible. As a result, the duration of bond fund indexes, which blindly track all the bonds in a particular category, are lengthening as well. The average bond in the widely tracked Barclay's U.S. aggregate index has a life of a little over 5 years.
Still, there are a number of bond funds sold by well-known companies that have gone even further out on the bond time line. The bonds in Oppenheimerfunds' Rochester Municipals fund (RMUNX), which invests in New York muni-bonds and has over $8 billion in assets, average eight years. The Fidelity Corporate Bond fund (FCBFX), which has $800 million in assets, has a current duration of just over seven years. The slightly smaller T. Rowe Price Corporate Income fund (PRPIX) is averaging seven. All of those funds are down this year as rates have started to move up.
"Over the long-haul we have found that going for the bonds with the highest yields has always paid off," Scott Cottier, who manages the Rochester Municipals fund.
And over the past few decades of falling yields that has certainly been the case. The question is whether that has masked a big risk in bond funds, and one that has been growing.
Update: An earlier version of this story said that the Calvert Income's largest holding was a bond that was due in 2045, and that it was adding to that investment. That was based on the latest available data from Morningstar. In fact, the fund no longer owns that investment. Also, the story was updated to include a comment from Calvert. Calvert did not initially return Fortune.com's calls for comment.


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No. But I am arguing that peaceful protest by itself has never and will never accomplish anything meaningful against tyrants, while violent opposition has and can. And the violence, also, need not be explicit and realized - potential violence, as I have said, can suffice.
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Or will do? *cough* Vietnam protestors *cough* *cough* Civil Rights movement *cough* The Occupy Wall Street movement may be poorly conducted, but I wouldn't be that surprised if it manages to pull something together.
From what I recall, the most effective of Gandhi's tactics was getting Indian workers and farmers to go on massive strikes. They beat the system by shutting it down, since it was so dependent on them (at least, in that area). I don't think Americans have the balls to quit their jobs to make a point, though, especially since the price of comfort is oh so high these days.
IMO force is equally ineffective against a larger predominant force as they would've just been squashed just like how the OWS people are being squashed by local authorities. Instead, they gotta internalize the attack, realize the role they play in the system and sabotage it. But I doubt that would be very successful either considering how job-hungry Americans are right now. For every person that quits there will be 10 that apply for work.
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See that's the thing about protest movements; they only work if most people want them to succeed.
How many Americans care about Occupy Wall Street?
Originally Posted by Fenn
More then you would think. Very interesting article in Time this week talking about the "Silent Majority." And it's not like the Occupy event is an American only movement. It's happening all across the West (at least).
A lot of people care about the movement, and would like to leave their jobs to protest, but literally can't do so. And it's not that they don't want more rights, or want things to be fair: it's that realistically they have to put food on the table. They may want the movement to work, but can't be part of it.
I agree that a movement won't work if 10 people leave the job, but are easily replaced. That's obviously true. But I don't agree that those people taking the jobs don't want the movement to work. It's kinda like blaming the Black Migrants for taking jobs and busting up the Irish strike protests (in Chicago, back in the day.) Sure, as a result, the strikes were broken, and it was because the migrants took those jobs: but look at it from their point of view--they had hungry mouths to feed, too, and had little opportunity to make any money. Did they want more rights? Sure they did. But when you're pitted against survival and the alternative, you're going to pick survival more often than not.
I guess I'm just mincing words, trying to say there are lots of Americans who do care, but can't just uproot themselves and make their situation worse for a cause they have no guarantee will succeed. They support it, but they can't be a part of it.
I personally wish the movement would become more focused and precise in what they intend to achieve. They've set some ideas here and there and an overall ideal, but I feel to be successful they need to be more succinct in what they want, and how they think it should be executed. Just sitting around disrupting sidewalks and traffic isn't going to get results. And I heard they "didn't want to get political" (please correct me if I'm wrong, this was word of mouth from someone else) which is silly cause the whole thing is tied in politics and they actually have the Unions on their side. If anyone know more, please inform me. I'm a bit out of the loop, which is shameful.
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Call me cynical, but pushing for a social welfare economy is useless. Ideally, redistributing income will lower the chances of effective investment in capital (stuff you use to make goods) so a capitalist system is innately geared to make the most profits. Yes, you'll have power-hungry money grubbers who hoard all the wealth. That sucks, but getting a clumsy bureaucratic system to siphon money out of all the top corporations will mean worse profits for everyone.
If given the choice, I'd be satisfied if (a) everyone in my college got $50 and a single person got, say, $500,000 instead of a situation where (b) everyone got $5. In other words: getting equal shares of money does not always mean you'll get more money.


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Kids love it! – What a terrific way to spend the day by the river! My kids not only love looking at all the fish inside the acquarium, but they get a kick out of watching the ships go down the river, too. This place is hard to beat and we visit several times a year. We've found out that the neighborhood is full of kid-friendly places, too. There's the new insectarium, the La. Children's Museum, and Chez Clay paint-your-own-pottery studio all within ten blocks of each other. It's hard to keep the kids home, with all this fun close by!
Not exactly a great aquarium. Update this site. – Need to update this site. This site said 3 hrs free parking at the Wall of Whales with ticket stub...we were still charged $5.00 and were under the 3 hrs. This site also gives incorrect admission prices because we arrived at 4 p.m. and for 2 adults / 2 children it was $70.00 including the 3D IMAX. This site says $16 for adults and 9.50 for children...actual cost-$22.50 for adults / $17.50 for children not including IMAX (extra for IMAX). We would've at least expected a partial discount for arriving late, but no. The IMAX Whales & Dolphins 3D movie was interesting but the 3D parts actually left us having to close one eye and with a headache. We will not be returning and if you've been once you definitely do not need to go again. Look to Chattanooga's amazing aquarium or the new one in Atlanta, GA.
Amazing experience – I was taken here by my parents on a schoolday in the fall so it wasn't very crowded. As I understand it, it gets insane in the summer and on weekends. I'm not sure if I'd want to go then. I remember walking through the giant tube with the massive tank of every kind of fish imaginable. The sting ray exhibit alone was worth going for.
Creatures that hail from the Caribbean to the mighty Mississippi go about their daily business all for your amusement. – Overview
Visitors get up close to thousands of creatures from the depths of North and South American waters. A tunnel made of see-through acrylic delivers patrons into the aquatic action of the Caribbean Reef exhibit. Jumbo stingrays skim overhead and sharks lurk just beyond the walls in a surreal reversal of a goldfish bowl.
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The Mississippi Gallery includes white alligators and sea turtles, and a Gulf of Mexico showcase--replete with requisite oil rig--features more pals of "Jaws" and various species of fish. The Aquarium of the Americas also houses jellyfish and penguins, plus plenty of land-dwelling birds and reptiles. Don't miss the playful sea otters; you won't find them anywhere else near here. Awash in "infotainment," there are hourly stage shows and a unique petting zoo of deep-sea creatures.
Don't visit on a rainy saturday – My family made the mistake of going on a rainy Saturday. The place was so overcrowded you could not see the exhibits let alone read about them. There were crying kids everywhere. Parents with strollers blocking the view. It was a terrible experience. I have been to several aquariums and this one is probably good if I could have seen the exhibits. If I return it will be during a school day and hopefully not so crowded. I Think the managers should come up with some form of crowd control.
fantastic – I live in Oregon...the free willy state...this aquarium puts the Oregon Coast Aquarium to shame. It is absolutely fabulous. I couldn't pick the best part...all of it was amazing. The white alligator, shark and sting ray tank, the amazon river....those fish are amazingly ginormous!
This place is a must see for everyone...even for those of us who live by an aquarium.
Walk or ride the street car trolly thing...enjoy the beautiful Mis'sippi river.
unbeleivable – What a geat place. You can go back many times and still not see it all. I never was really into fish until going to the Aquarium. Now I am hooked.
Gotta see this! – Really a neat way to spend an afternoon. My daughter and I enjoyed it very much.
Alright – The aquarium was fine. You get to see huge sting rays, plenty of sharks, and a white alligator. There are some pretty interesting things to do like touch a shark and starfish. However there is one major fault, its really small and you can see the whole aquarium in less then one hour. Honestly, unless you are going as a family it is not worth the money or time.
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"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
MC and Tryin- I just do not agree with the idea of not helping the other BS out by giving her copies of her own husband's communication with his affair partner!
I actually side with Tryin and MC in letting this issue end. MC told the other BS, I think he needs to be careful of being further dragged in the issues of the other M and focus on his own. If both his MC and IC agree it just makes it that much more difficult to push on an issue that has less to do with your own M and more about someone elses.
What does concern me is how your WW got her way on this. I think you need to make it clear that her storming out of the house to sleep elsewhere rather than work on conflict together is not going to help the M. If you disagree on something that is fine, talk it out and come to a collective decision. Her leaving the house just to get her way is not working on the M. Her also making a bigger deal out of a smaller issue in my opinion and calling it a deal breaker is also something to be looked at. Deal breakers are reserved for much bigger issues rather than simply handing over a copy of a phone bill - things like having another A - those are the deal breakers your WW should be focused on in my opinion.
I'm just confused as to how they had the LTAs and now they are the ones dictating the rules for reconciliation.
I can understand that MCs W does not want written documents in the hands of another M. MC made me think about that. Myself, would have just sent the bills on over and let whatever happened happen. What are the consequences of that?
I suppose OM could get so pissed he wants to whip MC ass.
Maybe MCs W would be that distraught she would have followed up with D papers.
Maybe OMs W would fall over the edge and harm herself
or even MCs W.
Maybe MC and his W gets legally drawn in and involved in their OMs M.
I dont know, may some other things.
I am pretty sure the degree at which our spouses feel must be taken into consideration.
I know there are different ways people R. I was never a dictator in our R. The only ultimatum I gave my W was that if she contacted OM, I was done. I never gave her any ultimatum she must share everything about her A. Many of my questions went unanswered and today I just dont care. I never gave my W any ultimatum to fix herself nor ever insist she go to IC. I invited her to Retrouvaille and she went on her own. I never asked her to give me her passwords to her email nor did she ever offer them. She did show me remorse, on her own.
-real, genuine remorse from the WS
- a willingness to come clean about everything and be transparent in terms of passwords, cell phone records, credit card bills, etc.
- the WS should show a willingness to make amends to you and to anyone that they have hurt through their actions during the affair
- the WS needs to show a willingness to work on the marriage and do anything and everything that they need to help save the marriage!
If our spouses want to cheat, they want to cheat. Not really anything we can do about it. All I can do is try and be the most attractive man I can be. If I cannot be attractive enough to the point where my W does not value me enough to risk losing me, then such is life. She is going to lose me. If she cannot be attractive to me after I communicate what does attract me, she is going to lose me.
We can be the most attractive person on the earth and still get cheated on. Why? Because some people are so greedy and selfish they can never be satisfied
it is always more, more and more. Some people have no idea how to communicate effectively nor have no idea how to even be in a relationship. Its just the way many people are taught when they grow up. Perhaps brain chemistry.
I see MC going about his R in the best way possible. His W is in IC and MC. He is willing to take responsibility for his own role he played in his M. He is considering his Ws feelings by not embarrassing her more than she is already embarrassed. He is thinking about protected her fears. That is forgiving. He can compromise. I can look at MC as a very good quality man in many ways and I think he get it completely.
MCJack calling his WW promiscuous does not make him someone who is not a quality husband! He is reacting to his WW's LTA!
It is no different for those of us who enter trauma. We must control our emotions. We must be wise. The 180 is wise because if you really look at those bullets, they are all about controlling ourselves. After you enter this trauma, that 180 protects us.
SI forget how raw and how traumatized and shocked the BS is right after d day.
We can all say things to comfort that person. We do it by sharing our own feelings we had at the time as it relates to there feelings. We compare feelings to let them know they are not alone in what happened. So many say, It is not your fault. And yes, that is true. We only control our own choices. But, there are always reasons people cheat.
The key in a happy life is to examine our own behaviors. To bury our heads and think there is never a cause and effect in every relationship is doing you a disservice. If you can somehow let yourself go, look at all the responsibilities and lay them at our own feet, want to change, you can empower yourself greatly. You are going to end up is a far better position. I can assure you, most people looking for something outside the marriage is doing this because they are not getting it inside the marriage.
I will use myself as an example.
I had very poor boundaries and my lack of the proper attention. When my wife started her relationship with her OM, she started to stay late a work. Me, I worked a lot too. I was away a lot. However, I was working. So I took my own self and related it to my wife working hard. But there was a difference. I was working with other men, not woman. Even though me, myself, I would look at woman as sexy creatures, and me being a man, I can acknowledge and be attracted to them, I never allowed myself to get in situations that would give me an opportunity to break my fidelity vow, I still had these feelings.
I failed myself not understanding that my W was in a position working very closely with a normal man having those same thoughts about my W. So, my value was
everyone is like me. Even though I know I flirted on rare occasion, and even had it within myself to place my own self in an opportunity, I did flirt. The opportunity never came about because of my job, me, my situation. I never ever worked closely with other woman during all those years I was married. My W was in a far different work environment. I never really understood the dynamics of sex, attractions and relationships. I did not know the boundaries I needed to protect. My parents never taught me this.
So when my W started to stay late working, having drinks with co-workers, lunches with her boss, all the phone calls after hours, etc, Even thought I had this feeling, this gut feeling, I did not know how to follow it. At the beginning she never hid too much of what was going on. I once tried to protect my boundary.
I can remember my wife coming home late.. maybe 9 pm. I told her that I did not think that was appropriate. She shot back with this theme.. You have a life, I dont. You get to see all these great cities, places, meet all these neat people, I dont. I am going to have my life too.
What she did was to put me in my place which was you keep living your life and I am going to live my life. I did not know how to protect what I knew in my heart maybe was not the right thing to do. I failed to love myself. Love always protects. I backed off. I backed off because I was not good at conflict. I was afraid of conflict. I was so afraid of conflict that I allowed inappropriate behavior by my wife to continue.
I had the cell phone bills. I would look at them talking 15-20 minutes after her work on her ride back to the house. And me? I would be gone for 2 days and might have a 5 minute conversation at best. My gut was telling me that something was just not right but my mind also was saying it was work.
I did nothing because after a couple of tries to protect a boundary I would get a response that would put me back in my place. After all I should believe everything people tell me right?
And me, I was not kissing my wife every day. I was not giving her words to build her up. I was not just taking the time each evening to just talk about her day, us, our future, etc. I was not always there for her when she needed me in illness. I can list more things if you want.
I come here not to offend others, but to help them understand how to be a better person. Was I a bad person? No. Was I quality? Not really. Did I deserve what I got? No. Was I naive? Yes. Did I understand what it takes to be in a healthy M? No.
Now lets look at the new me.
A quality man understand the dynamics between all men and woman and never fears protecting his boundaries.
Today, I know that woman can be attracted to ugly men, pretty men and visa versa. Attractions are not about physical beauty. I know men want sex and I know woman want attention. I know women who are not keenly aware can be snake charmed. I know when I am not fully paying attention my woman can be snake charmed. I know I will fight for my woman to behave transparent. I know a boundary I see my woman talking too much to another man, alone with my woman often, things can and do happen. Attractions happen.
I am not afraid to protect my own boundary. If my W is going to lunch with a man, staying late at work with another man, defending her work as if it is work, nothing else, tough. This is about me. Either you are going to respect me, or you are not going to be in my world. Another man can accept his woman doing all that, not me.
Imagine had I then started communicating to my wife in a far more effective way rather than having no spine to protect myself.
W, You have a life, I dont blah blah blah
Me, Honey, I know what men want. You can stay late and have your life, whatever that is but what you are doing is not appropriate.
Me, I dont feel good about you socializing with those people
Me, I feel like you are too close to your boss, you had better wake up and know I am not going to sit around while you develop a close personal relationship with a man like him.
My wife once told me her boss was in an affair when she started work at her firm. .
Me, You are in dangerous waters and you had better think real hard about spending so much time developing a special relationship.
Me, I dont feel safe right now, I am not going to be in any M where I dont feel safe. So you had better be behaving like someone transparent..
My W would have then reacted to me. Which way? Maybe lied to me about being with her GF. Maybe not.
Me, Ok then you invite me every time to come with you
Me, Who are these women? Why am I never invited?
See, in my LTA situation, I allowed my wife to get off way too easy. I allowed my W to have cocktails way too easy in places she had no business being while in a M relationship. I allowed my W to live a married but singles life many ways.
Me, Honey, you can go to dinner with your boss all you want, but I dont think I dont know what he is thinking.
Some people will say I was Jealous. OK, I am good with that, so what. I protect my own safe feelings. I would not be jealous if my W acting transparent. She does not have to go to dinner with her boss. I once gave my Ok for just her and her boss to a Pacer game. Was I nuts? Yes. Honey, YOU dont behave in a way to even make me jealous. If I treated my wife a far different way early on in our M, my wife I am pretty sure she would have given more thought to the emotional connection before she got too deep. My pressure would have been far more effective to the point she would give her own behaviors additional thoughts. It would have been easier for her to protect what little boundary she had for herself. I failed because I owed my W the pressure she deserved.
W, you have dinner with your woman customers
Me, I dont and I expect the same from you.
W, You just dont tell me
Me, you believe what you want, I dont
My compromise.. to be more open with my W. I call her and let her know every time the people I will be entertaining. I call her again when I get to my hotel. She can know exactly my hotel when she wants. I am completely open.
Me, You make me feel safe honey, that is your responsibility
And the lies.. We cannot control the lies others tell us. It happens. I some people are so devious they can trick us. But did I really marry that kind of person? Did I really pick that kind of person? Not really. Once you go down the path of secrecy, I saw it over and over again, the lie creates more gut feelings
and I ignored my own inner feelings. Had I paid close attention to my own feelings, those that carry over into sex, how I was being treated, the attention to me, more and more signs of disconnect as time went on and protected each and every boundary, NO I would not have ended up being a victim of a LTA. The realness would have come to light. If I would have addressed all those feeling with pressure, conflict too, our M issues would have been exposed.
A quality man fill every need of his woman.
And imagine at the time the real needs missing in my wife was attention.. I was living my full life with all the attention I desired. Was I not listening? If I been filling the attention she needed while this all affair stuff started, I know my W would not have made her choice. I know with the combination.. me filling all her needs and me placing a whole bunch of pressure on bad behaviors and protecting my boundaries with vigor and determination, she would not have cheated. The way I treated my wife closed her off, it was not safe for her to be open. Not safe for her to tell me what she was missing. I never made it easy for her.
I know this about me. When I accomplish something, it gives me great inner strength. And it was about me. It was a great discovery to the secret of the best possible M. I accept personal responsibility for my choices and actions. I lay blame at my own feet where it belongs. I look at only me and I let my W look at her. What could I have done differently? How can I be different today? To share my own discovery is wrong?
[This message edited by trynhard at 1:33 PM, February 28th (Thursday)]
I am pretty sure the degree at which our spouses feel must be taken into consideration.
I hesitate to respond here because I am worried that if Tryn keeps up with these big posts he is going to get carpal tunnel syndrome.
Considering FWW's feelings and needs was a problem I had to resolve, but it took work on me and her to get there.
First I had to come out of the shock and numbness. Then the TT had to stop so my rage could diminish, the next step was learning to be authentic in what I felt and what I communicated to FWW. After a M of trying to figure out what I should do to make FWW happy, and failing miserably at that, I had to practice at understanding what I wanted and how I authentically felt about an issue. During this period of practice, there was some over-correcting swinging of the pendulum. I had to detach from worrying about what FWW wanted or her feelings would be in order to ensure I was being authentic. I also felt it was important to give FWW the opportunity to experience the real me, not a me trying to accommodate her at the expense of my authentic feelings.
After I got to acceptance about her A, grounded in my new perspective about me and the M, then is when I was able to accommodate her needs and know what I was doing and why.
the degree at which our spouses feel
To this day, I will not be responsible for divining her feelings. I will offer her a drink if she looks hot. I will listen when she wants to talk, I will offer a shoulder when she appears upset, but FWW has to tell me if she has a need or want. Once she expresses a need or want, then I will consider it.
For instance, FWW does not like that I read and post on SI. She does not like that some people I have met on SI are also on my Facebook or LinkedIn. Participating on SI, albeit to a continually reducing degree is important to me, so I do it. I do not hide it, nor do I make a big deal of it in front of her.
I tried to go back to 2010 to find the firsts posts Tryn gave to me to help me to move on, but apparently, SImplicity does not include ICR in the old post recall. While looking for the old posts, I went through my old Journal entries and found one from a little over 6 months past dday. FWW had read my posts on SI and wrote this to me:
I knew it would not take very long to go back to this, at least during the highs, it is pleasant. Whether you and your SI buddies think this or not, I am a person of worth, I have and deserve to have feelings, I need forgiveness and to forgive, and with or without your approval or feelings towards me, I am valuable and valued by others, I have chosen bad things but I am not a horrible bad person, nor will I ever say that I am again. I have self worth and you will not take that from me. You are either with me or against me, you cant have both anymore. You either want me or you dont. I want you. When you are ready to want me and ready to work through everything that has contributed to making the massive wreck that is our marriage, let me know.
At this point she was still TT-ing me, I would not get disclosure for another 2 weeks. She was not sure she wanted to be Md to me, that would not come for another 5 months. If I considered her feelings at this point, we would have not been authentic. She would not have been working on her issues, and I would have been accommodating her misperceptions.
[This message edited by atsenaotie at 2:08 PM, February 28th (Thursday)]
Oh, honey! You are not responsible for your W's A! What you were or were not doing, were or were not saying... those are not reasons that she cheated. She is the reason she cheated. Now, when you champion being a quality man or woman, I'm all for it. I'll stand up and cheer! But the highest quality man married to a cheating woman is going to get cheated on. I fear you're giving "live a quality life and be a quality person" power it cannot have: the power to control others.
Be a quality man. Be a quality woman. Stand up for yourself. Do the best you can for you and be proud of yourself. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.
But be careful not to imply that quality men will not get cuckolded by cheating women, or vice versa. It has happened to the best of us.
A quality man fill every need of his woman.
^^^ Impossible for any human to achieve and unhealthy to attempt. A quality woman knows that a man cannot meet all her needs!
[This message edited by ImNellNow at 2:15 PM, February 28th (Thursday)]
I was responsible for my own behaviors. My W was responsible for her A.
Oh I could lay all the blame on her believe me. But to think I had no role.. Not true.
You got wise right? You changed right? After all the pressure you placed on your H, he still never came around seeing the beauty in those lovely PJ.. he wanted a thong. Hes an idiot.
My wife is no idiot. She wanted to R. But my R would have never been successful had I not changed. You get that huh?
I would say a man needs are far easier fill than those of a woman OK.. I get it.. how about this?
You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessing! To the best of your own ablity.
Once you find happiness.. you must never be lax in maintaining it.
[This message edited by trynhard at 2:29 PM, February 28th (Thursday)]
Oh but MC wife did share her feelings when she did not want him to send the phone records...
One thing I am still for.. If your spouse does not change and be quality, you must have the courage to let them go. It becomes there choice, not yours. You just file the papers.
Thanks to everyone for expanding the discussion on some of the things I have been dealing with.
My WW's reaction to the promiscuity comment and her emotional reaction to the bills issue are connected, I believe.
It is more complciated than I can really explain here. The promiscuity slam was not in relation to the A, but in relation to her first year of residency, when she was the intern chosen out the class to be hazed, bullied, and beaten down. It was an annual tradition at that program. Also it was when she met OM. It was a low blow by me to say that as it opened the can of worms of that most traumatic and horrific time of her life.
I think she does not want me to send the bills as she is afraid (even if it is just paranoid) that once the other parties have this information is will then become currency amongst the group of people that were in that program. Plus her shame too.
I did not beat myself up over the comment. I just made a simple and sincere apology. It was just my hurt talking, from issues of years ago.
I did a lot of things in my M where I did not take consideration of my wife's feelings. She has been transparent to me, first priority or R. I need to consider her, first priority for M. The other BS, while I want to help, can not be the top priority and I need to have some buy in from WW since we are in R and building M. So I am still working on it.
[This message edited by MC_Jack at 3:23 PM, February 28th (Thursday)]
I think she does not want me to send the bills as she is afraid (even if it is just paranoid) that once the other parties have this information is will then become currency amongst the group of people that were in that program. Plus her shame too.
Maybe. You know your W, her history. Maybe.
A WS betrayed their BS; hurt their BS. And almost always they understand and even acknowledge that fact. Im my case, my W did (does) not accept that she also harmed the BS of her AP.
On DDay2 and shortly afterwards, I stated my intention to notify her AP BS. W argued against. AP's issue. AP had a rough upbring (danger!), AP's issue - his betryal, it would come back against her (danger?).
And our MC (each of our IC as well) advised against it. MC had know of trouble caused in other'similar situration. And my State is a right to carry state (danger!).
My tendency is to protect my W and I did not tell her AP BS. The reasons given are mostly crap but we live in a strange world.
- childhood friend murders mistress who had become pregnant
- mistress tries to kill W of her AP partner
Both were recent and close to home at the time of DDay 2 so anything can happen.
Yet, I believe that WS just don't care about the destruction they have caused and that really is another tragedy.
The BS is responsible for the WS cheating because they didn't do what was needed to make the WS happy in the M and to discourage the WS from cheating.
A WS needs to be retrained to be a good spouse.
It is up to the BS to fix the problems in the M. To be a quality spouse....so everything will be fine again.
"I guess I'd bee suspicious of the OMBW's reasons for wanting those bills..."
This place is not safe for me any more. It upsets me too much.
My FWH needs to be honest, transparent, loving, and loyal. That's all I ask. That's what I always gave him and that's all I have ever asked for. I have no intention of taking responsibility for his LTAs. I am not going to train him like a child or a dog to respond appropriately in a given situation, or to be the leader in our M. I am not going to teach him how to con me by saying and doing the "right" things so I will think everything is just fine. I tried hard to make our M work for 28 years in spite of him being an arsehole. It is his job to change. Not mine. I was not a perfect wife but the best I could be and he cheated anyway. I don't know what more I could have done or could do now.
Sorry LTA tribe. I can't be silent any more.
I don't know this place now. I've had enough. I'm out. I'm also pissed off!
My husband's LTAs were not my fault and it is his job to fix the devastation he caused. If he doesn't love me enough or have the balls to do what it takes he can f..k off!
[This message edited by Laura28 at 5:00 AM, March 1st (Friday)]
Ego is about our own realities. If you read about Sigmund Freud you may find discover that our identification stops us from doing certain things our instincts wants us to do. Its chaos.
Ego will eliminate our grief. Yes, I know to keep my ego. The choices other make I cannot control. It was not my fault.
And we must protect ourselve into the future. We must follow the 2 second rule while drive down the new paths we travel. We must know the reasons about us, understand it now. We must trust our instincts. We must know when our senses tell us something and we act appropriatly. We should fight our identites and become different people. When we cahnge we have a new identity and it should be better if we learn from others mistakes. We can only control ourselves.
Not easy to understand is it?
Yes Njgal, I am out of grief. Since I am at peace, I know how to get to peace given my own experience. And you too. Perhaps my own emotions are too advanced to be compassionate. Ill give that some thought and I apologize to all I have offended.
I dont need my wife to make me happy. She can cheat, take half, leave.. go do whatever she wants. She can be attracted to only me or not. I will still have my good friends, my kids, my parents, my own life. I choose to fill any need those who care about me and I do it to the best of my ablity knowing it will likely be returned to me. I no longer worry. I dont need all the money I have but I still give it my best to build wealth. I can live a simple life in near poverty and still be happy. Just watching the Indianpolis Colts brings me a smile. Playing with my dog is joy. Fishing in the local ponds. You dont need a spouse. Heck there are penty of people who will attracted to someone who gives, is caring, loving and intimate.
No, I dont lay blame on other for my own behavoirs whether it was known as right or wrong at the time. I lay the blame at my own feet. Sometimes thing happen that I cannot control. They may or may not be the consequence of my own behavoirs. I take personal responsibility for myself, which seem not to be the theme of our socitey today. I have taken this postion most of my own R.
The key to overall happiness? Dont tread on me or you will not be part of my life. Do things that are attractive and it will be returned.
There are things about men that are way different than women. Women mostly argue with emotion. Men dont. I think this might be the case here.
[This message edited by trynhard at 6:47 AM, March 1st (Friday)]
Also it was when she met OM. It was a low blow by me to say that as it opened the can of worms of that most traumatic and horrific time of her life.
This is the type of thing that has to be opened up and dealt with if your WW is going to grow and move forward. She needs to quit rug sweeping it and deal with it in IC.
I think she does not want me to send the bills as she is afraid (even if it is just paranoid) that once the other parties have this information is will then become currency ...
FWW lashed out at me about similar things. When I mentioned details in letter I sent to OM and his BS. She worried how my letter would look blown up on a screen as evidence in court. When I wrote to a website asking that photos of her and OM together at an event be taken down because it was my WW with her AP. She worried what people would say if word got she was having A with OM. She worried what my parents would think of her when I explained why I was behaving so erratically.
She needed to see and feel all of this. There are consequences to actions and she had not considered the consequences of having an A and cheating on her spouse.
I say a R is mutual in every way
- A BS willingness to forgive
- A BS should be willing to also work on the marriage and do anything and everything they need to help save the marriage.
And this is why I believe too many people (including me) jump too soon into R. R cannot begin in an authentic way until the BS is well along in healing. If I had done everything and anything to save the M based on my FWW's perceptions before she owned her issues, we would have been R-ing another inauthentic M.
Why was I not attractive? What was it about me? <snip> But that person knows deep inside they did not do something they should have been doing, What is it?
FWW absolutely laid the reasons for her As at my feet. She and I talked about this, and she explained it in MC sessions. She gave examples, she had a whole list. She said that her forgiving me for ruining the M was equal to me forgiving her for years of A with multiple OM.
The thing is, it was her misperceptions and selfishness that caused her A, not my lack of attractiveness. She blamed me for her unhappiness, her own internal guilt led her to ascribe negative connotations to my behaviors, she only saw things in black or white and so she hated me for not always, always being white. The thing is, there was nothing that I could have done, because I was not the problem. When she said I was not attentive and loving enough, she would later say I was too needy and smothering. When she said I did not like her friends or children and that is why I was uninvolved, she would later say I tried to control her through her friends and children, or that I presenting a false front so that they would like me better. When money was tight, she complained how unfair it was others had more. When I studied to get better paying jobs with more flexibility, took on outside consulting for extra funds, she accused me of ignoring her. The examples go on and on, and FWW now recognizes her misperceptions.
There was no winning because I was not the problem, she was. It was not my behavior; it was her perceptions and the behavior of sick and broken people around her. The only thing I should have been doing that I was not was standing up for myself and divorcing my W.
We all come from different backgrounds, and there may be those who through passive detachment or active insult and injury pushed their WS to look for comfort elsewhere. My FWW was this kind of person. Still, the decision to have an A rather than withdraw, D, volunteer, or immerse in the kids lives is the decision of the WS. I may have been happier in my life than FWW, but I was no happier in the M. I continued to not be happy in the M while she was flirting and enjoying the attentions of OM for years, more than I will ever know.
I am now working to be the best person I can be, and a part of that is to be the best H I can for FWW. Before I could do this, I had to first heal and get to where I felt safe and gained some feeling of control back into my life. FWW then had to convince me it was worth putting in more effort rather than cutting my losses. To put in this effort I had to see what was different. Not that she was acting nice and loving to me, she did this when we were dating.
Do things that are attractive and it will be returned.
This is not true in my M, it is not a quid pro quo.
I try to be the most authentic person that I can be. I try to be honest, and open. If she loves who I am great, if I love who she is authentically great. If the negatives out-weigh the positives (and compromise cannot be forged), then we need to move on.
For me to receive credit for my attractive actions, my W (or whomever) must fist be able to perceive and understand them. If my W (or whomever)has problems with intimacy, empathy, projecting, black and white thinking, narcissim, selfishness, addiction, then my attractive efforts are for naught so far as the relationship goes.
[This message edited by atsenaotie at 6:54 AM, March 1st (Friday)]
And this is why I believe too many people (including me) jump too soon into R.
If it goes well.. good.
If it goes bad.. You eliminate them from your world.
[This message edited by trynhard at 7:07 AM, March 1st (Friday)]
I think you jump in.
I think you look before you leap.
Sure my wife and I are now swimming together in the pool of life. Before I jumped in, I made sure the pool was deep enough, there was water in the pool, and that the water was treatd and conditioned so that it was safe.
Had I jumped back into the pool that was too shallow or without water I would have been injured again. If the water was not treated or the pool lacked the tools to keep the water healthy I would again be harmed eventually. If the water was too hot, too cold, too salty, I would not enjoy my swim. I had to make sure there were ropes marking off the dangerous locations. I had to ensure the water was clear enough (almost transparent) so I could see dangers coming or find my W if she sank or was lost.
Once all of these issues were OK for me, then I am ready to work on my swimming, to perfect my breast-stroking, to assist FWW when she is in need and allow her to do the same for me.
But first, I had to ensure the pool was safe to get back into.
[This message edited by atsenaotie at 7:04 AM, March 1st (Friday)]


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|BMS 596 - Immunology of Infectious Diseases
|(3 cr.) This graduate-level course examines the principal aspects of immune response to all types of infectious agents, with an emphasis on the immune system primarily as a host defense system. Students explore how the dialogue between different types of pathogen and the host immune system works, as well as the cross talk between the different members of the immune response. Infection is an encounter between a microbe and the host. In contrast to topics such as pathogenic microbiology, this course is aimed at the host side of the interaction, both from the innate immune response and the acquired immune response. Autoimmunity, sometimes a side effect of infectious disease, also is discussed. Every Other Year, Fall
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