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Tigers push streak to 11 with win in 14th inning
Fielder delivers go-ahead two-run double in extras against Indians
CLEVELAND -- Miguel Cabrera says it's all about wins, not what the Tigers' stars do. The dejected Indians fans filing out of Progressive Field as midnight approached Wednesday evening might have disagreed.
The Tigers didn't just pull out another win in this divisional clash. Their 6-5 win in 14 innings lasted long enough to break Cleveland's hearts twice. The silence that fell over the crowd as Cabrera's go-ahead homer in the eighth inning ruined Danny Salazar's gem of an outing was the first occasion. The emotion from Prince Fielder after rolling into second base on his go-ahead double in the 14th inning, his first RBI since July 31, was the other.
"It's not about one guy. It's not about what this guy's going to do tonight," Cabrera said. "It's about getting clutch in the right time. Prince did it today. [Alex] Avila did it the other night. Our pitching being extended, starting pitchers, relievers, everybody's coming together right now."
The Indians are the team that finds storybook endings this season, but they can't find the script against the team they're pursuing. The Tigers, winners of 11 in a row overall and 11 of their last 12 against the Indians, are simply overwhelming teams right now. Some days, they do it from the first inning. Some days, they take a little longer.
They've won three 14-inning games on the road this season, but none bigger than this. It might not finish the American League Central race, but with a season-high six-game lead for Detroit and 16-game winner Max Scherzer taking the mound looking for a four-game sweep on Thursday, it puts the Tigers in clear command.
"Good pitching beats good hitting every day," Torii Hunter said. "You look at [Justin] Masterson, you look at [Corey] Kluber, who's filthy, and then you look at the Salazar kid, they have great arms over there, but we just don't give up. We're professional hitters. We know how to play the game the right way. And we know how to come through when we need to."
The Tigers built their longest winning streak since September 2011 on the strength of their starting pitching, 8-0 with a 1.25 ERA over the previous 10 games. Doug Fister showed signs of threatening that roll, but recovered for six innings of two-run ball.
He kept Detroit alive for a late-inning rally, but Fister could not help Tigers hitters against hard-throwing rookie Salazar and his 100 mph fastball in his second Major League start. Salazar's 10 strikeouts over 7 2/3 innings included each of Cabrera's first three at-bats, and the top four hitters in Detroit's lineup the second time through the order.
"That kid was really something special," manager Jim Leyland said.
Salazar used a 99 mph fastball to set up Cabrera to freeze on a changeup his first time up. The next two meetings, Salazar overpowered Cabrera swinging at 99 and 100 mph fastballs.
Cabrera has struck out four times in a game just twice in his career, and never against one pitcher. Still, Salazar's success earned him the chance to face him again once Hunter's two-out single extended the eighth inning for Cabrera with the tying run on.
"That would've been his last hitter," Indians manager Terry Francona said, "but to that point I would've had a hard time justifying having him not pitch. That's how good I thought he was."
Asked if he wanted another shot, Cabrera surprised with his answer.
"I don't want to face him the fourth time," he said. "I was saying to myself, 'It's time to bring in the bullpen.' And when they decide to leave him in there, I say, 'Let's grind out this at-bat, try to make something happen.'"
Salazar's first pitch to Cabrera this time came in at 96 mph. Cabrera sent it out with similar authority, quieting the crowd as the ball soared towards the seats beyond right-center field.
"The young kid got him pretty much all night," Leyland said. "The last time, he just didn't get him."
Cabrera's 33rd home run and 102nd RBI gave the Tigers a 4-3 lead. Two batters into the bottom of the inning, the Indians had the potential tying and go-ahead runs in scoring position after Drew Smyly gave up back-to-back doubles from Michael Brantley and Carlos Santana.
With the Tigers sorely in need of a strikeout or two, Bruce Rondon replaced Smyly and came out firing. Rondon threw eight consecutive pitches at 102 or 103 mph in the inning, striking out Ryan Raburn, but Yan Gomes handled the 103 mph heater well enough to hit a ground ball to short. With the infield at normal depth, fearing a go-ahead single, the groundout brought in Brantley with the tying run.
Between Rondon, Jose Veras and Jeremy Bonderman in his Tigers return, Detroit's bullpen retired 13 consecutive batters before Drew Stubbs' 12th-inning single, and Bonderman erased him on a double play a few pitches later. The Tigers put a runner on in every extra inning, but didn't advance one into scoring position until Austin Jackson legged out a leadoff double in the 14th and took third base on Hunter's fly out to right.
With Cabrera pulled for defensive purposes after his home run, rookie second baseman Hernan Perez awaited. Once Bryan Shaw (2-3) lost Perez to a walk, lefty Marc Rzepczynski had to deal with Fielder, 1-for-5 with a walk and three strikeouts on the night entering the at-bat.
Rzepczynski put Fielder in an 0-2 count, trying to set him up to chase. His 0-2 slider got just enough of the outside corner that Fielder went with it and laced it into left-center with authority.
It was Fielder's first RBI of August, but it was a big one. The clap into the sky at second base showed it.
"Prince competes as hard as anybody," Leyland said. "He wants to win, and he competes his tail off. And that's why he gets hits off left-handed pitchers, because he battles his tail off."
They all do. The Tigers don't always dominate, but on nights like this, they break hearts.


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Can Indonesian PC Buyers Save Intel?
Facing declining demand for PCs in the developed world, Intel is banking on a revenue boost from sales of ultrabooks and cheap PCs in Indonesia. Eric Bellman has the story.
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Cassie sits with her two friends at their favorite coffee shop. She is listening to her friends heatedly discuss their views about the political situation in the U.S.
Cassie sits with her two friends at their favorite coffee shop. She is listening to her friends heatedly discuss their views about the political situation in the U.S.
I have CEN. So do my life long friends. After 15 years of marriage where I could no longer bear the pain of the emotional neglect and abandonment I am near the end of a 2-year seperation and divorce process. Along the way my closest friends with CEN are having relationship troubles with each other. Two feel I don't put them first so they have pulled away, been snarly or made me to be the problem in our 25 to 40 year friendships. Is this somehow connected to my healing from CEN beginning ? This piece has made me feel affirmed that setting my boundaries is like I am a new person and my old friends may be lost because they don't know who I am and there is a level of shaming me for asserting what I need. So, within friendships with people who all have CEN how do these steps play out? Can you keep your friends or is letting those relationships go part of the journey?
Where is number 5?
I have come a long way in overcoming my own emotional neglect.
I have learnt to say 'I need…'
I started t share my feelings saying 'I am sad. I am not blaming you for my feelings, I only want to share how I feel…'
My now ex, accused me of being demanding and burdening others with my feelings. She believes you should not express your 'negative' emotions to others as it is a burden. She thinks crying is a waste of time. I can see that she is suffering badly from CEN.
By doing what I thought was right, I ended up getting hurt and rejected. A repeat of my childhood, but now in adult hood.
Some people DON'T respond well to emotional honesty, and try to control you, to keep from looking at their own pain.
I think one must be careful. I loved this woman, and cared deeply for her. I tried to show her that opening up and being vulnerable would help us to connect. She seemed terrified of 'needing' someone, or depending on someone.
So much heart ache just from being afraid…
I feel all of these things and at 51, I feel like I don't have time to change and have missed the boat on even being worth changing . I rarely contribute to conversations and after a while feel like an idiot then I'm just mortified to the point where I just walk away in social situations…
Joe, if its any comfort, you are not alone. I'm 52 and commented below that these all are true. To me they are. Very interesting questions – do we have the time to change and have we missed the boat on change. As for having the time to change, I'm not sure if you mean in years left to actually make a change that would impact our lives in any meaningful way or actually having the time in a day to invest in changing given the demands of the life of a typical middle-aged person. With work and family (and school for me) and a new puppy that no one but me wants to actually take care of, and with putting everyone's needs above mine, there's simply no time left in the day. As for the deeper question of are there enough years left to make it worthwhile, that's a good question. I wonder. At this age, certain things become entrenched and it takes a lot of effort and a lot of pain – even pain for others to make a change. I really don't know the answers. Eventually though, you see a problem. You read the article so you must recognize a problem and are looking for a solution. Just like I did. The question is can it be fixed at this point. My opinion is that its not too late to try. Whether it works or not is still undetermined for me.
Hey Eric, I can also relate. I'm an only child and then lost my dad when I was thirteen. Mom was very sweet but also didn't know how to show or talk about emotions. Not having any siblings to talk to, I felt very lonely. Depression came to the surface when I got married and pregnant and remains at age sixty seven. Seeing a therapist but feel like I'm getting no where.
So glad that I discovered Dr Janice. Just wish I could spend more time reading all written, but get distracted then walk away.
Having trouble articulating my thoughts too.
Joe, I'm 52. I can relate to what you wrote.
I've got the added challenge of mood disorder/mental illness that goes by the name of bipolar II.
In my experience, change can happen in some surprising ways. Sometimes, by simply becoming aware of a problem, I've had that problem crumble apart very quickly and simply cease to exist. I've had this happen more often now that I'm older. I need RADICAL differences now in my life and I'm unwilling to tolerate those thoughts and ideas that get in the way of a new way of being in the world.
Then there is the hard, slogging along way of change. I've still got those types of problems too, especially when it comes to regulating my emotions and keeping myself out of suicidal ideations. That is a daily fight. I pick up my tools, and go to work. Each and every day.
In between, there are those issues that are just part of a web of social and self difficulties. I read about them, increase my awareness, try to shift my behaviors when I can. I think of it as moving the dial. Sometimes even a few clicks in the right direction can mean that a social interaction goes just that much better, and puts a deposit in my self confident bank. These are the types of problems that I have chosen to identify as skill deficits. And I do strongly believe that acquiring skills of all types is possible and CAN cumulatively make a lasting difference over time.
Joe, I"m also 51 and feel the same way. When I read the opening scenario, I thought, "What is wrong with the way she is thinking? I think that way all the time." Reading the article explained a lot of things I've wondered about all my life. When someone asks me if I"m dating anyone, I think, "Are they being serious or are they making fun of me?" I just recently started therapy for my depression and anxiety and the therapist wants to start discussing ME which is the absolute hardest thing for me to do. But I think it is what I need most at this point. Good luck to you, Joe, and best wishes!
Hi Joe, please don't think that age has anything to do with your growth. I split from my partner of 30 years two and a half years ago. I am now 71 and have done a huge amount of studying this type of work. I feel like a completely different person today and will continue with my learning which I am loving. There's tons of great knowledge on you tube, you just have to look for it. So dont give up, keep going along your track and you will come out the other end. Trust yourself! June
Joe, what if you live another 25+ years? Do you want to live with the pain and fear that you currently have?
I am 75 years old, and just learned about my CEN within the last couple years. Yes, it is hard (read "challenging") to change at this advanced age but neither do I want to live like this anymore. I struggle with believing both that I am able and that it is worth the effort to change, but I realize that the pain of staying like I am is not something I want to continue to feel. I do have to renew that commitment occasionally, but it is worth my effort (and my time and money in therapy!)
A Broken Soul is hard to spot, where the Damage lies so Deep…
And it's hard to see that sadness, because they rarely ever weep…
It does not matter where I go, the Demons always come…
But I know not Why they follow me, for something someone else has done…
Beautiful poem Dave. Thank you for posting
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Dr. Webb: I've read (and re-read!) Running on Empty. It has been beyond helpful for me to understand myself. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I finally took the risk with a woman I thought was a friend, and this was huge for me, to be open and vulnerable and to share my deepest feelings and faults and desires, as you suggest, and the more I did the more she pulled away and now she no longer wants ANYTHING to do with me. She was my only friend (but I guess in hindsight she was a fake friend ). I'm devastated. I'll never trust another person ever again. I'm now more isolated and alone than ever before. Now what? Any suggestions?
Dr. Webb- I can personally relate to all four traits. Reading "Running on Empty" last year was a revelation to me. It was the beginning of my reconciliation of 50+ years of suppressed emotions. I can relate to the four traits listed in this article. For decades I tried to "fix" myself by gobbling up self-help books for a "cure". If I could just learn to be better at social skills and relating to people my awkwardness would resolve it self. Long and short, self help did not address the under lying cause and it all became to much. Years of denying my feelings, myself, my core traits caught up to me. My 29 year marriage began to suffer as i could not relate to the one dearest to me. I yearned to be understood but did not now how to communicate that need. Felt it was to much baggage to lay on my spouse and was concerned about being judged. My childhood never included questions like " How was your day?" or "How are you feeling?" or "Is there anything you would like to talk about?" Very little encouragement and very little physical displays of caring. I was a baby boomer Stepford child. Seen but not heard. I was emotionally inept, with no life tools to find my way out. Going it alone had served me in the past, but not now. This was different. My true nature was begging to come out and reveal itself but I could not, would not, face it or release it. The hardest thing i did in my life was to reach out for professional help. Difficult because I was exhibiting classic behaviors #3 and #4 listed in your article. But, resolved my marriage and family were worth it. Asked my therapist to help move from a mindset of self help to one self acceptance. I am successfully working on learning to properly honor and accept my CEN past, my introversion and HSP personality traits. Also progressing in "feeling my feelings", by acknowledging, labeling and validating.
Thank you for addressing this issue and shining a light on the deep and long term challenges many of us face.
Excellent piece! And I don't mind 4 instead of 5 ..total gems! I wonder how many more people might consider that they were the products of CEN (to a greater or lesser degree) if it were introduced as this piece of writing.
I would like to add that, as a CEN person myself, I started to realise that what my parents were saying to me, in particular my mother, was that I wasn't entitled, entitled to have wishes, hopes, feelings in fact pretty much anything. Even now it's terribly hard to assure myself that I am entitled to have my own opinion, likes and dislikes. I'm 64 (dammit!) and only just starting to see the light and to the younger people I say PLEASE waste no time, go through the healing process and you won't reach this age still with regrets and unfulfilled dreams!
I can relate to the 4 situations and Through therapy I have learnt at my age of 69, that I do matter and have pulled away from my closed family. I have made great friends in the last 4 years. Friends who tell me by their actions that I do matter. We all help each other when times get a little tough and I am so pleased I was able to open up and share my emotions. Your book has helped me to value me. Thank you. My mum died this year and I was able to have a one to one with her in hospital and we talked for the first time about feelings and she actually wanted a physical contact of holding hands, the first physical contact I have ever had from her, it was special.
How much of this can be attributed to the child's predisposition to feeling that they are unloved? I feel in my case that my low self-esteem was inherent in my personality as I cannot remember my folks particularly neglecting me. They were just not demonstrable as was the way in the olden days. I was certain that the nicer things in life were just for others and that was reinforced by social situations in my childhood. Affection was not a thing in our family.
I can relate to this. I am in my eighties. I too do not remember displays of affection growing up but this was not uncommon. But this didn't mean that children weren't loved. A psychologist I saw for grief counseling and for advise on a relationship with one of my adult kids said we are born with a personality predisposition. Such as one might need more attention than another. I am not/was not effusive.That however, doesn't mean I didn't/don't show my love in other ways. My one child, my oldest, moved out before she was 19. We were lucky to see her on holidays. She never just visited or called. She had her friends, traveled some and seemed content. Yet she keeps track of anything I have done for one of her brothers or sisters and sees that as them being cared for more than her. Examples are: allowing her brother to move back home for a few weeks while looking for a new apartment, helping her sister with arrangements for a brother's wedding shower, etc.
I do not know if birth order has anything to do with this; she is the oldest. There were times when I needed her to watch her siblings. She told me she left because she didn't want to do this the rest of her life. Which was confusing because by then I was in a position that I didn't need her to do this anymore. Reading all you write and responses makes me wonder if, in some form, we are all CENs, in some degree. It is good when people can find ways to raise their self esteem, to take charge of their lives.
Hi Judith – it was interesting that you said that 'nicer things were for other people' ..that's exactly how I felt and it took me years to realise that my parents were actually saying to me that I wasn't entitled and that others were. Whatever reason I don't know apart from the fact I was born a girl and not the boy they wanted, in fact my paternal grandmother said to my mother, on news of my birth, "Never mind darling – better luck next time." So yes what you are saying about nice things for others does say C.E.N. loud and clear. What do the experts think?
Another great article with actionable advice. Dr Webb I've read both your CEN books but I don't remember seeing anything about older siblings or childhood friends and how those relationships can contribute to CEN. Like most folks who click with your work, I'm rethinking everything and, at least in my case, it wasn't just my parents. Anyway, not sure if or how you've seen this play out with clients or if you might one day write about this angle. Thx!
CEN is definitely something I've struggled with my entire adult life. I am 51 now and still trying to fit everything together, always making myself last priority, and strive to always do for others. I actually do not know how to make myself a main priority.
So if I have clearly suffered CEN, please explain how it is that I have NONE of these 4 Cognitive Distortions?
Am I simply brilliant, special, or what?
As always, your articles are spot on. Both of my parents were severe alcoholics and not only were my siblings and I neglected, we were abused. While, I have had a very successful and "normal" life, it took me until my early 50's to figure out the damage that was done to me. I will spend the rest of my life learning and healing from the trauma. Knowledge is power and I have found the more I learn on CEN, the more power I have over how I feel.
I always felt less than. I grew up with 4 brothers and was unhappy being a girl. My mom was inconsistent- sometimes loving sometimes angry or self pitying. My dad worked 16-18 hrs a day and was very distant emotionally and physically but I adored him because he was kind and had very liberal views. I was bipolar and suffered years of deep depression and mania in my late 20,s and early 30s. But I excelled in school. After 8 years of college I was Phi Beta Kappa became a therapist at age 50 and a Dr of Psychology at 72. It was after that that I began to feel I belonged. Never thought I was smart or pretty- now I see I was and still am both.Many people with emotional neglect become addicted or try to fill the empty place within which I call "the hole in the soul with drugs alcohol food or people I joined AA at age 60 due to a drinking problem and started to accept myself and now can love myself. AA 's non judgmental and unconditional love helped me more than 30 years of therapy. It was the program that changed my life. I am now a successful therapist and can help with almost any patients issues – alcoholics, children, elderly, drug addicts adolescents and those with bipolar disorders . Please mention the 12 step programs in your future writings.
Those are not distortions – those are all true! Seriously. I'm not joking.
I don't know where to start making the change and worry about it changing or hurting the people I love. I've often wondered if me pleasing everyone else is what pleases me even though I often feel alone and empty.
I so relate to your example of Cassie in the coffee shop. I remember in sixth grade being in the smart group. We were a dozen people in a circle and the teacher was discussing a topic way over my head. Everyone contributed but me. I was crushed.
I ran out of the classroom afterwards sobbing. It hurt so bad, and I didn't realize why. Teacher caught up to me and tried to calm me down and reassure me I was good "in other areas." I never told anyone this until now.
Today I'm in my 50's I'm trying to piece together my CEN and why I am the way I am. Read your first book. Thank you for your life mission.
I can completely relate to these 4 cognitive distortions. I don't tell people that I am upset, hurt, sad, etc. because I feel like I am bothering them. Instead I bottle it up, and then become sarcastic or I blow up and get angry which isn't effective. Changing seems overwhelming because this is all I know. I have read part of the book, but not all of it yet. I just feel like I can't be fixed!!
CEN is true but just because some people truly experience CEN, not everybody who claims they have actually have. Articles like this one are a concern because emotional neglect is not defined completely. A person can claim emotional neglect because they did not get what they selfishly wanted. They tie physical wants to emotional needs. "When I wanted xyz, you denied me and did not address my (whiny) emotional needs for not getting what I wanted."
It appears some counselors either misuse these concepts or maybe exaggerate them so their clients make minor struggles into disastrous memories. They teach their clients to redefine their past. This redefinition creates a "Mom, you need to fix this past." or "Papa, You need to fix this past." "You did not stop my brother from verbally abusing me." Sorry, we could not be at all places at all times.
btw, Children can emotionally neglect their parents. Is there a book about that? The grandkids lose out when that happens.
We are helpless and shut out of the relationship to try to rebuild it because her counselor has not encouraged her to meeting with us in counseling. We have offered to be available to any format she chooses.
As the Physicians' oath says: First, do no harm.
Don't define the issues so the client can then light the fire unless you are going to try to help quench the flames.
Dear Locked out Papa
This comment stands out: 'Children can emotionally neglect their parents'
With all kindness and respect to you in what sounds a tricky scenario, children under the age of 15 don't have any responsibility towards their parents emotional needs. To demand that a child meet the emotional needs of their parent is emotionally abusive and will damage the child.
If you are referring to adult children, then sadly, as much as we would like, adults don't owe anybody any kind of emotional connection, even to their parents. We can ask for connection, but we cannot demand it.
— "You did not stop my brother from verbally abusing me." Sorry, we could not be at all places at all times. —
If this kind of verbal abuse was a one-time thing, then fine. But I can say from personal experience that when it is a solid wall of this kind of torment starting from birth to when one moves out of the house (and in my case completely across the country) to escape it, yes it is the parents' responsibility to put a nonnegotiable stop to that. I can't say which you're describing here, but if it was a constant, everpresent part of her upbringing then yes, putting a stop to it was indeed your job.
Thanks for this. I think I must have it as I've grown up with a lack of self-esteem, which I feel has held me back so much in my life with so many disappointments. Being homosexual, along with possible Asperger's, compounded things. I'm in my early 60s and have been in a string of low-paying jobs and without a life partner due to a fear of commitment, etc. I just feel that there is no hope and just place my faith in God that He will provide until it comes time for Him to call me Home. If one is introverted, it would be hard to find someone to confide in fully as those I know seem to be like me, as in "like attracts like."
I've never heard anyone describe EXACTLY how I've felt in multiple social situations throughout my life as the scenario you used at the beginning of this article! That has happened to me with friends talking about politics. I have also experienced all of the 4 distortions you list in this article. Thank you so much for your work. A few years ago I found meditation to help calm my chattering mind and it changed my life. I have distanced myself from my entire family for the last few years and it has been one of the best decisions I've ever made (also one of the most difficult decisions I've ever made). I finally started looking inward for my happiness as well a few years ago. I'm much better off than I used to be, but there are so many nuances in life I am discovering that being emotionally neglected has effected. I am so grateful to be a talented singer and also discovering my talent as an actor. Expressing myself in these ways at this time in my life when I feel I have nothing to lose is starting to feel SO freeing. I have started to let in people who SEE me and accept me for who I am. I find myself doubting what they see, but I see their authenticity and I am reassured. The more I allow good things to happen for me, the more fulfilled and confident I feel within myself. I have never read your books but have wanted to for so long. Thank you again for your work! It's amazing to be able to read about my own experiences from someone that doesn't even know me but knows what people like me are and have gone through.
I met my ex-husband when I was 17, and we were together for 21 years. I don't really fell that I was neglected as a child, but definitely in our marriage. So much of these discussions seems so relevant to me. I started reading them because I really want to know how to help my daughters to deal with this neglect I felt for so long from their father. Does my situation still fit here, even though I was 17 and it wasn't my parents neglecting me?
I've got all 4 of these, and I've tried working on them periodically through the years, but it's a lot harder than you make it sound. I still get told quite often that I'm not good enough, that I don't measure up to other people, and that everyone else's feelings are more important than mine are.
I tried so hard so many times to give people the benefit of the doubt, but again and again, I find that if I tell anyone what I'm feeling or what I need, or ask for help, that they'll make certain that I regret it. I definitely can't count on anyone. I'd elaborate, but again, someone would make sure I was sufficiently emotionally punished for it if I did.
Hi Lori,
Go for it Lori…don't think that everyone has the answers – I used to give people the benefit of the doubt without good results. There are narcissistic people out there who can take advantage of us sensitive C.E.N. souls. Trust your gut instincts for a while – I think we are all born with a little of that. Maybe it's the remnants of 'fight or flight ' but I'll leave that to the experts. I have only recently started posting on this site and I find that it's positive and not 'weepy waily self-pity party' at all which is great as we all need positivism to get us on track and being what we want to be -authentic people!
This is so powerful and I so wish I had known this so long ago. It's taken me years to find some healing and know that I am worthwhile and I am not stupid just because I was neglected. This article describes me to a tee and I find it so comforting. Thank you.
How does a parent with CEN and a diagnosis of cptsd know how to parent properly? I thought all I had to do to be a good mom was go the opposite of my mom. Wrong. I went so far the other way that I now have a teen with social anxiety 🙁 I tried so hard to be the mom I wished I had and not be the mom I did have, that I lost my own direction if that makes any sense. Both my teen and I are in therapy separately. I never thought being "too nice" could be a problem when raising kids. I was so very wrong. Now I have to deal with the guilt of messing up my own child. It has sent me into a downward spiral. My personal story is too long to get into, but what I suffered as a child was so severe, or rather the effects were, that I ended up with multiple misdiagnosis's and a stay at the psych hosp. Working with a great therapist now, so hopefully will begin feeling "normal" or close to it, if I can even recognize what normal is.
I can relate to all 4! It is no wonder to me why I chose to live my life to protect my own interests at all cost. I learned right in my own home! I hated counting on anyone! Want and need were bad words. Is there any way to reverse this?
Dear Dr. Webb,
I am a 51 year old, clean living, faithful husband to a beautiful women who I have been married to for nearly 18 years. We have a 14 year-old Son (an awesome kid) a nice home in a nice community and we're as normal a family as we can be. I am more in love with my wife now than I ever have been.
We are both home based. I am an entrepreneur / survivor and see has had the same job with the largest publishing company on the planet for 20 years. Her income – steady. My income is good but dynamic and inconsistent.
Last September my equally faithful wife announced to me (out of the blue) "I'm not happy"
and the shockwaves rang through me like non-stop thunder on a rainy day. I did many (not all) of the classic reactions, panic, anger, denial, ignorance, and many more.
After much research and elimination of the usual suspects such as emotional or physical affairs
a hormone issue or something else, I realized that my wife had something (some feelings) that I had noticed before, but only on occasion. In 2007 during a moment of intimacy – she completely shut down… I asked her about it. in that moment… "what's wrong" I said. "I don't know," she said… followed by "I just feel like a stranger right now."
I kept asking for few minutes, in different ways – polite, understanding, tender… to no avail.
It never happened again but this women was always playfully distant. I thought that was one of her good qualities and didn't mind a bit because I'm not needy really. It worked so why fix it?
However, I came across your article recently and was stunned to read the similarities.
It describes her situation almost perfectly – cognitive distortions
In the last four months she has drastically changed, is cold, detached, withdrawn and filed
a divorce petition on December 17th.
I want no sympathy thoughts from anyone by stating that I have not done anything to deserve this. I haven't done anything to deserve this and I'm not taking it too personally because I love my wife and would honor her no matter what. Some great sadness and a little healthy rage comes from the fact that our 14 year old may now have to change his childhood story to "I came from a broken home."
This is unacceptable to me. It's reckless but I cannot get angry because she does not respond to rational thought. It's baffling at BEST. She has seen a therapist but I highly doubt (because of the attributes of the condition) that the therapist has a clue just yet. Wife talks to only one of her five sisters regularly and she is probably not the one I would be taking advice from.
It will take a while for any of this to actually start happening but I do not know what to do now that I have this new information. I gave her the articles to read with a sticky note on them that says "I was thinking of you and thought you might find this article interesting, let me know if you want to talk about it". -ME
In our next conversation, I would like to ask her this question "Do you see any parallels to our life right now in those two articles I gave you?"
My marriage disintegrating – Husband baffled, hurt, confused, non-reactive and standing strong.
I now wonder what to do. Am I about to be a single dad? has she checked out? for how long? Is this hormones? She is 47 (48 in one month)
I honestly do not know what to do. It appears that the condition makes it even more difficult to actually help her.
That's where I am.
Is there hope?
If it's CEN, your wife has probably been struggling with it for longer than she or anyone else even realized. I can relate to your, or rather your wife's situation more than I would like to admit. My husband and I are about the same age as you and your wife and also have 2 teens. I have often felt like just walking away would be best for everyone, but I found help. It most likely has less to do with you, and more to do with how she's been made to feel because of a past she cant quite process. I too became emotionally and physically distant from a great husband. I recognize in myself what you have described about your wife. A good therapist can do wonders so yes, there's hope but it takes time and the process can be excruciating. I hope the best for you and your family, you sound like a wonderful husband and father.
Thank you so much for your encouragement. It made my day to know that I'm probably not imagining things or crazy. My wife and I had a "kitchen" meeting last Friday night. I lit a candle and attempted to unpack some of her feedback about the article. I did my best to disarm… speaking softly, slowly with the question "does any of this resonate with you?" Immediately she went to that place between contentious and defensive. She singled out "Childhood" and "Neglect" then proceeded to tell me how wrong I was thinking that her childhood was neglected. Did she completely miss the point? Is that part of the condition too?
I was ready to hear so much more…but got that instead. So disappointing.
Now I believe "no expectations" is the best attitude to have.
I thought "This is why we have professional people who help process this stuff"
Then I moved to some of the 6 things. She agreed with them mostly and proceeded to tell me that "just because these things resonate with her and appear to be good examples, doesn't't mean I have this condition"
What do I do with that?
It seems like denial because (maybe) I hit the bullseye?
I am not blameless here either… the last four months have caused some of the worst parts of my personality to materialize. Out of frustration yes but that's not an excuse to be harsh or mean.
I'm concerned that she is now "defining me" based on my reaction/handling of this over the last 4 months.
I have been in weekly attendance at a Christian mens group since Sept 2018. Although some of my actions are angry, (hurtful comments) being in a group of other guys going through similar "junk" holds me accountable keeps me grounded and helps me avoid saying things I will regret.
Being grounded and held accountable is probably the best piece of advice I could give to other Husbands out there in a similar situation.
Standing Strong in My Fidelity
Denial was a HUGE issue for me. When the very air you breathe is toxic as a child, it's very confusing to be told things weren't "normal." In therapy for 6 months now and I have just recently stopped asking my therapist if he's sure I need help. Don't be too hard on yourself regarding your reactions to her. It does take two to tango, but you seem to be doing the best you can. My hope for you both is that she will eventually yield to the possibility that there's more there than she's able to see. You mentioned staying calm…that is my number one request of my husband. I can tell you that if your wife is struggling with CEN, you remaining calm during her storm, while not easy, is so very generous and loving of you. She will eventually be able to see that and appreciate it.
Dear Dr. Jonice
Spot on. I'm a 70 year old retired lawyer, I figured it out along the same lines, I call it "Love Deficiency Disorder" (LDD) but it's exactly the same thing as CEN, a chronic deficit of meaningful emotional attention.
My parents were "good providers," dad was an MD, mom a non-working RN after I was born, both were religion addicts – Godaholics – I call them, religion was more important than the kids, we got food, shelter, clothing, they got us to church and school on time, beyond that we were pretty much on our own, the only thing they seemed to care about was that we were good kids and loved Jesus so we'd get saved and go to heaven, in my entire life I cannot remember my mother or father ever asking me a personal question, a question that showed personal interest.
But, they were pillars of the church and community!
I did your CEN quiz, answered "yes" to every question, yes to your 6 things and yes to your 4 things.
Too late for me to make much change in my life, I've been to 6 therapists, none of whom picked up on anything like CEN, none of whom did me a damn bit of good, all nice people with good intentions, but, not effective at all. Your work is complimentary to WHEN THE BODY SAYS NO by Dr. Gabor Mate', who makes the case that early childhood and prenatal stress and emotional neglect is the best predictor of mental and physical illnesses later in life.
After mom died I cleaned out the house, found a box with some 40 or 50 letters I'd written them in my teens, 20's, 30's, they had never responded to any of them, never mentioned them, some were unopened, never been read, the message I got was that I didn't matter much, and yes that has haunted me for life, and at this point the best therapy I've found is good Scotch.
Along the way I was a drug counselor on the side for about 10 years, and I'd say that every one of the addicts and ex-addicts I talked with was an addict, or had been, because of CEN. I asked one client with a long history of addiction and drug-related convictions, "How many, what percentage, of addicts do you thing were abused children, your opinion?"
He said, "100%."
I include emotional neglect in the category of abuse, passive abuse, failure to give the kids the attention they need to grow and thrive. Like failing to water a plant.
My neglect runs so deep. And in many directions. Never had help. My story is so much. I am 61 and feel so lost.
Then you've come to the right place, everyone has been supportive on here. However – do not expect instant healing, quick solutions or for that matter platitudes – you have 61 years of desert/swamp/empty streets ( however you want to imagine it) to slowly walk through. Take your time, read the articles by Dr Janice, sit back a moment then re-read and see which sections 'speak' to you first. They will be the sections you can investigate first. I imagined myself as a female Sherlock Holmes trying to find the solutions by tracking back along one train of thought at a a time, it's not a subject to take as a complete entity all at once. You wouldn't expect to paddle up the Amazon in an afternoon would you? Good luck with your journey.
Very informing article it has been 3 years since i began to work on myself it has been very hard to come out of mental mess that i have been through but now thanks to Allah iam feeling my feeling even though it isnt fully. Through out this process all my helpers was self development psychotherapists. i have learned a lot of pscho. terms and i have expected my family and my friends to change but that wasnt the case rather i found it the easiest to change myself but it isnt yet until i win.On the top of them you are the one dr. Thank you
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Even if someone says something wrong about me it's just their opinion it's not what we are. Neglect means they feel like that it is not we are. If we start to think like this, we feel happy inside, I think spirituality can help here practicing meditation can bring in some relief in life and everyone can forget and move on with a good inner feeling and a great human being just let go
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Vail Valley Voices: Why open space is crucial
Vail, CO, Colorado
Eagle County's open space program is necessary, even in a community with lots of public land, and to say otherwise is to fail to understand the complexities of our mountain environment.
First of all, public land is not the same as open space. Of the large portions of our community that are public land, only wilderness areas have a level of protection that guaranties permanence.
The rest of national forest land has varying degrees of protection. Some is leased for cattle grazing, some for ski areas, and some sections are even on the table to be sold to the highest bidder.
Right now there may not be many bidders, but with population growth, the day will come when there are.
All of these activities put pressure on the natural environment and threaten to harm it if they are not balanced with conservation and protection in other areas.
Secondly, and this is the heart of the matter, the land that is privately owned in our mountain community is mostly the result of early homesteading claims.
What did homesteaders need? Access to water for their livestock and easy transportation to connect to the rest of the world. The result is most privately held land is in the river corridor or valley floor.
This means that a very specific type of important habitat is almost exclusively owned by private entities and people. Combine this fact with the existing map of public land and you have a recipe for paving the entire river valley. Don't believe me?
Look at Silverthorne, a community less than 45 minutes away by car. How can you make a map of privately owned land without using the Internet? Just look at where buildings are built, and that's the entirety of non-Forest Service land, and it's all along the river corridor where homesteading claims were made. This does real ecological harm to any community.
River corridor land is some of the most important habitat in any ecosystem. By having endless development in a river corridor the toxins of oil, gas and brake dust from cars flow directly into the lifeblood veins of communities. These contaminants kill off bugs and plants, the foundation of the local ecosystems. Wildlife and game species are prevented from accessing the water they need to live and rivers, instead of being a source of nourishment, become a monumental obstacle to migratory patterns.
The irony is the result of all this environmental impact necessitates us spending large sums of public money (taxes) to address environmental problems, and the results are poor when compared to managing land in the first place to avoid them.
Instead of having natural flood and pollution control from wetlands, we need to spend millions of public dollars on flood control infrastructure. Instead of having a healthy river system that naturally replenishes itself, we have to stock rivers with fish with more public dollars.
Instead of being able to enjoy natural landscapes by walking to them, we have to get in the car, burning gas, building ever larger roads and parking lots to accommodate the traffic.
Do we really want Eagle County to become one concrete and housing chute of Vail-EagleVail-Avon-Edwards-Wolcott-Eagle-Gypsum-Dotsero instead of separate, distinct, towns nested in the Colorado Rockies?
If you answer "no," then there are only two options to prevent such an end game.
One, we legislate regulations to restrict urban sprawl and thereby spawn a host of takings lawsuits. Or we use an open space tax to make purchases in our community that allow for comprehensive land use planning and community building while recognizing the value of private ownership.
We need to make sound financial decisions when it comes to public spending, but we also need to acknowledge our deficit spending in the environment.
The environment is not an endless credit card we can continue to draw from without consequence. When we fail to have community buffers or protect wetlands, we are taking out a loan that our children have next to no hope of repaying.
The open space tax, and others like it in our neighboring communities, exist because proponents of the environment and its protection are working to address historical impacts of land ownership that were decided before humans had the science to fully understand the importance of natural, self-sustaining, ecosystems.
The time is now and the issue is urgent to protect the sense of space and the foundation of our economy in Eagle County.
There are already parts of our community that are difficult to distinguish between one another. Eagle River Station just passed this year, and regardless of how you feel about it, you can't deny that there are powerful forces pushing our community to have endless development.
We need a countervailing force to make sure that once we come home from the jobs development creates our homes are healthy, inspiring places to be.
The open space program and the tax that funds it are not a luxury or a misguided priority. It is a critical issue to the healthy future of our community.
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|Following are some of the gardening and eco-events in Eastern Iowa scheduled for July 2009. As always, if you know of other events, add it in a message below, or send an e-mail to: email@example.com
Wed., July 1, 12:15 p.m. – Gardening program at Cedar Rapids Library's Bridge facility at Westdale Mall. What better way to enjoy delicious, healthy food and glorious flowers than to plant your own garden? Master gardener Larry Dawson will discuss maintaining bountiful, beautiful gardens. This Brown Bag Briefing program also includes landscaping, fall tree planting, and audience questions. Bring your sack lunch for this 30-minute program. For further information, visit the Library's website www.crlibrary.org or call 398-5123.
Mon., July 6, 7 p.m. – Ushers Ferry Historic Village, Trees Forever's rescheduled Liberty Tree and Champion Tree Tour. IF THE WEATHER DOES NOT COOPERATE AGAIN- the Rain-date is scheduled for the next evening July 7, 2009 at 7:00 pm at Ushers Ferry Historic Village. Email firstname.lastname@example.com or call (319)373-0650 x 25 with your RSVP.
Wed. July 8, 7 p.m., Indian Creek Nature Center, 6665 Otis Rd. SE, FROM MULTIFLORA ROSE TO BLUESTEM: 30 YEARS OF CHANGE: Members-$3; NONMEMBER- $5;VOLUNTEERS –FREE. Rich Patterson has seen much change in his 30 years at the Nature Center. The landscape has changed greatly–for the better–over those years. Join him on a two-mile walk at a leisurely pace to parts of the Nature Center more ecologically healthy because of the dedicated work of Nature Center staff and volunteers. CALL 362-0664 TO REGISTER.
Wed., July 8, 5:30-8 p.m., Funky Garden Art, Cedar Valley Habitat for Humanity ReStore, 725 N. Center Point Rd., Hiawatha. Make one-of-a-kind garden art out of odds and ends at the ReStore. Fee: $25. Call (319) 294-1500.
Thurs., July 9, 7-9 p.m., Indian Creek Nature Center, BEGINNING BEE CLASS: SESSION I– MEMBER – $55/SERIES; NONMEMBER – $85/SERIES. This eight session series is designed for individuals serious about starting a beekeeping hobby. The series will take the participant through the annual cycle of beekeeping from establishing a hive to harvesting and marketing the honey produced. The class members will be actively involved in learning activities by working with the hives at the Indian Creek Nature Center. Call 362-0664 to register.
Sat., July 11, 10 a.m. to 3 p.m., Friends of Hickory Hill Park will have a garden walk in Iowa City. The walk benefits the group's stewardship fund for maintenance and restoration work. Four gardens will be on the tour, plus tornado recovery areas on Hotz and Rochester avenues. Speakers will be at each site to discuss prairie plantings, Backyard Abundance and organic lawn care. Start at 1167 E. Jefferson Street to purchase tickets and pick up a map. Cost is $10 per person or $8 per person if you bike or walk to 1167 Jefferson St. Families are $15. To volunteer or for more information, phone 319-338-5331. To make a donation: Anyone unable to attend the Garden Walk but wishing to make a contribution should make the check out to LEAF and mail it to: LEAF, P.O. Box 1681, Iowa City, IA 52244-1681.
Sat., July 11, 10 a.m. to 11:30 a.m., Indian Creek Nature Center's NATURAL HISTORY WALKING TOUR OF DOWNTOWN CEDAR RAPIDS. MEMBER -$3; NONMEMBER – $5; CHIDREN:$1. Join Indian Creek Nature Center's naturalist on an urban adventure to investigate the fascinating cultural and natural history of downtown wildlife. Learn about the pre-settlement ecology of the downtown area and how it has changed with urbanization. This 90-minute tour begins at the old Cedar Rapids Public Library parking lot between 5th and 6th Avenues SE on 1st Street. Stroll along the Cedar Lake Trail near the library to discover native plants growing along the Red Cedar River and learn about urban wildlife along streets and buildings as you walk to Greene Square Park and then to return to the library. CALL 362-0664 TO REGISTER.
Sun., July 12, 1-4 p.m., The Fairfax Parks Committee will have a walk, rain or shine, at five Fairfax gardens. Iowa State University Extension master gardeners will be available at the gardens to answer questions. The walk includes the garden of Megan McConnell Hughes, which is featured on the cover of the summer 2009 Country Gardens magazine. Tickets can be purchased at Fairfax State Savings Bank or Guaranty Bank in Fairfax. Tickets can also be purchased the day of the event at the Fairfax North welcome sign at Williams Boulevard and Prairie View Drive. Cost is $5 for adults and $10 for families. Proceeds will be used to buy playground equipment for Hawks Ridge Park.
Sun., July 12, 10 a.m. to 3 p.m., Project GREEN will have a garden walk in Iowa City. If you want to know how to garden with deer, this is the walk for you. Four large gardens at the edge of woodlands are featured on the walk, including one property that covers nearly four acres. All gardens are located north of Interstate 80, off Dubuque Street. Cost is $5 for adults. Children under 16 are admitted free. Start at any of the following sites for a map, which becomes your ticket for the other gardens: Pat and Stan Podhajsky, 3817 Cedar Drive NE; Maggie VanOel, 8 Oak Park Lane NE; Twila and Dick Hobbs, 9 Oak Park Lane NE; Bill and Michelle Welter, 15 Oak Park Place NE. Wear comfortable walking shoes. The weather may be hot and buggy, so bring along a bottle of water and bug spray. To learn more, see: www.projectgreen.org
Sun., July 12, 11 a.m. to 5 p.m., Eastern Iowa Pond Society's pond tour. Whether you are a serious water gardener, Koi keeper, casual pond owner, want-to-be pond owner, or just plain love flowers and water, you won't want to miss the chance to view the ponds in this year's 13th annual pond tour. As usual, pond owners and club members will be available at each pond to answer questions. Will also have a plant and small art/craft sale at one of the pond locations. This year's tour will feature beautiful ponds in the Cedar Rapids/Solon/Swisher areas. Tickets and maps are $5.00 for adults (kids under 12 are free) and are available at all pond sites with all proceeds going back to the community for area landscape and beautification projects. A good place to start might be 131 Rosedale Rd SE, Cedar Rapids or 3682 Douglas Dr. NE Solon. For more information please call Jackie Allsup 319-934-3665 or visit: www.EIPS.org
Mon., July 13, 7-8:30 p.m. – Wickiup Hill Outdoor Learning Center, 10260 Morris Hills Rd., Toddville. "True Lilies–Queen of the Gardens," illustrated lily presentation by lily expert Wanda Lunn of Cedar Rapids. Lunn is an accredited North American Lily Society Lily Judge and just returned from judging at the NALS National Lily Show in Missouri. She will showcase many different true lily cultivars for sun & shade and give gardening hints for growing them properly. Cost: $2.50. Master Gardeners can count it for instruction hours.
Mon., July 13 – Fri., July 31 – Indian Creek Nature Center, 6665 Otis Rd. SE, OWAA PHOTOGRAPHY EXHIBIT. The Outdoor Writers Association of America Photography Contest winners will be exhibited. The work of noted wildlife photographers features both black-and-white and color photographs. Visit during regular business hours: Monday-Friday 9 AM-4 PM & Saturdays 11 AM-4 PM.
Wed., July 15, 6-9 p.m., Noelridge Park open gardens, corner of Collins Road and Council Street NE. Tour the gardens with Noelridge staff and Friends of Noelridge volunteers. Activities will be available for children.
Thurs., July 16- Sat., July 18 9 a.m.-4 p.m., Prairiewoods, 120 E. Boyson Road, Hiawatha. Solar Energy Workshop. This three-day workshop will provide information and experience in installing solar panels to generate electricity. The workshop includes hands-on exposure to assembling pole-mounted solar racks, installing solar modules and wiring of the entire system including modules, disconnects, inverters and grid tie. Approximately half the class will be in the classroom learning how solar energy works. Classroom instruction includes the basics of photovoltaics, racks, solar modules, inverters, basic electricity, design processes and safety. Instructor is Dennis Pottratz, Iowa's first nationally certified photovoltaic installer (NABCEP). His company, GoSolar, has been in business in Decorah since 1996. He has designed and installed more than 100 working systems. Dennis is a frequent speaker and workshop presenter with I-RENEW. Fee: $250 for the first person from an organization or family; $200 for a second person. Fee includes daily lunch and handouts. Lodging is available at $45 per night. See: www.prairiewoods.org
Fri., July 17 to Sun., July 19, Seed Savers Exchange 29th annual Summer Conference and Campout at Heritage Farm, Decorah. Organic farmer, author, and teacher, Eliot Coleman will be keynote speaker at 7 p.m. July 18. Other featured speakers include Barbara Damrosch, Coleman's wife and co-owner of Four Season Farm in Harborside, Maine, and Mike McGrath, host of the popular nationally syndicated show "You Bet Your Garden" on National Public Radio. Coleman is author of "The New Organic Grower," "Four Season Harvest," and the newly published "Winter Harvest Handbook". The conference will also include several workshops on various aspects of gardening and farming, a panel discussion, field demonstrations, heritage seed swap, lots of good local food, inspiring conversation and even a barn dance. Local vendors will be selling products on Saturday morning. The cost for the weekend conference is $75 for Seed Saver members and $100 for the general public. One-day only registration is also available. Registration details and a list of scheduled events are available at www.seedsavers.org or by calling Seed Savers Exchange at (563) 382-5990.
Sat., July 18, 9 a.m. to 5 p.m., Nature Photography class at Linn County Extension, 3279 7th Avenue, Marion. The class will be taught by Jim Messina, a professional photographer with many years of experience in photography and teaching experience. Topics include exposure, metering techniques, tonality natural lighting, photographic equipment, digital photography and macro photography. Teaching method includes slide presentations using dual projectors emphasizing comparisons with several examples. The examples provide a framework of understanding basic principles and practical solutions in difficult field situations. Extensive handouts are provided for the workshop topics. You can bring your camera. Register by at the Extension office or call 319-377-9839. Cost is $ 35.00. Payment must be made when registering. Registration will close on July 10.
Sat., July 18, 7:30 a.m. to noon, "Green" Day at Cedar Rapids Downtown Farmers Market. Area environmental organizations will have space set up at the farmers market.
Sat., July 18, 9 a.m. to noon, Prairiewoods, Mulch Sheet Beds for Flower and Vegetable Gardens. This workshop will include classroom and hands-on experience building mulch sheet beds for soil used in gardens. Mulch sheet bedding is a permaculture technique used to enrich the soil and decrease weeding. This is a sustainable way to work the soil while retaining water and and to maintain the soil without tilling and the use of chemicals. This workshop will not be held is there is heavy rain. Fee: $10
Sat., July 18, 10 a.m.-4 p.m. – Daylily and true lily open garden at Wanda Lunn's home, 526 Bezdek Dr. NW, in Cedar Rapids. Lunn said this will be the height of daylily blooms & the larger lilliums, as well as many other summer perennials. She will be available to answer questions on cultivation of all these glorious flowers. Lunn says with all the buds, loaded stems & stalks, this promises to be a wonderful summer bloom!
Sat., July 18, 11 a.m. to noon – There's nothing like an Iowa prairie in summer. Wickiup Hill Outdoor Learning Center near Toddville is hosting a Guided Prairie Loop Trail Hike. Participants will learn about the native grasses, wildflowers and prairie wildlife. The prairie loop trail contains an area of sand prairie and a beautiful view of the wetlands below. Meet the naturalist at the kiosk in front of the center. Donations accepted.
Tues., July 21, 1-2 p.m., Wickiup Hill Outdoor Learning Center, 10260 Morris Hills Rd., Toddville. Toad Adobe! (Repeat from June 23.) OK, so not everyone finds toads attractive. However, a single toad can consume about 110 beetles, slugs, moths, armyworms and other bugs in a day! Meet our live toad. Make a house for a local amphibian to hang out in your yard. House is made of a clay pot that will be decorated with paint. For all ages. Young children must be accompanied by an adult. Register by July 18. Cost is $5 per toad house. Call (319)892-6485.
Tues., July 21, 6-7:30 p.m. – The Linn County Conservation Department will hold a public program about turtles at Wickiup Hill Outdoor Learning Center near Toddville. A naturalist will debunk myths about turtles and show a variety of live turtles. Please register by July 20 online at www.lincountyparks.com or register by calling 892-6485. Cost: $2.50/adult, $1/child or $5/family.
Fri., July 24 – Aug. 2, Rummage in the Ramp at Chauncey Swan Ramp, Gilbert and Washington Streets, Iowa City. Ten-day-long garage sale benefitting several area non-profit groups aimed at waste reduction and affordability (most items are priced under $20). Items for donation should be dropped off at the ramp on sale days.
Sat., July 25, 1 p.m., Indian Creek Nature Center, GREEN AND SIMPLE: COOKING WITH A SOLAR OVEN. MEMBER -$5; NONMEMBER -$8. Create a simple solar oven for backyard cooking. Collect heat energy from the sun to cook simple, tasty meals. Take home basic recipes and techniques. Sample solar-baked foods. REGISTER BY 4 PM ON THURSDAY, JULY 23. CALL 362-0664 TO REGISTER.
Sat., July 25 and Sun., July 26, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m., Garden of Zora and Paul Ronan, 5031 North Marion Road, Central City, gardens open for viewing. The garden of Zora and Paul Ronan is located in rural Linn County. The garden covers approximately 1 acre surrounding the house. The remaining 32 acres uses no-till cultivation and wild-life habitat to conserve the soil and prevent erosion. Herbicides are used for weed control but no insecticides are used in crop production. Over the last 10 years the soil has become healthy again. Twelve years ago the soil was lifeless and heavily fortified with chemicals and we were never visited by wildlife. Now, earth worms, birds, critters and varmints both are in abundance. (Some are more welcome than others.) You may find gopher and moles disturbances in the grass, so walk carefully. Directions: From I-380: Exit at Toddville. Travel east on County Home Road to Alburnett Road. Turn north on Alburnett Road. Turn east on Justins Road (gravel). Justins Road dead ends at North Marion. Turn north and the garden is on the right. From: Highway 13: Travel north on Highway 13 to Central City. Turn west on E-16 (Center Point-Central City Road). Turn north on North Marion Road (gravel) and travel 1.6 miles. Garden is on the right. From Marion: Travel north on North Tenth Street. Tenth Street changes name to North Marion and becomes gravel when it crosses County Home Road. Since North Marion is gravel for quite a long way, it is better to travel north on either North Alburnett Road or Highway 13.
Sat., July 25 and Sun., July 26 – Culver's Garden Center & Greenhouse in Marion is planning a free Do-It-Yourself Weekend, open to the public. During the event, customers will be able to view displays and collect information on a number of home, lawn and garden topics. In addition, kids can enjoy decorating Culver's grounds with sidewalk chalk. Free summertime refreshments will be available. Information about Culver's Garden Center & Greenhouse and Culver's Lawn & Landscaping, Inc. is available online at www.culverslandscape.com or by calling (319) 377-4195.
Sun., July 26, 2-3 p.m. – "Slimy Scaly Guided Hike," The Linn County Conservation Department is hosting an afternoon hike at Wickiup Hill Outdoor Learning Center near Toddville to view reptiles and amphibians basking in wetlands and or on sandy trails. A naturalist will provide participants with a new appreciation of these animals. Meet her at the kiosk in front of the center. This is a free program.


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Yusef Salaam was one of the five teenagers falsely convicted in the brutal rape of a white woman in Central Park in 1989. The convictions were overturned in 2002, when a serial rapist confessed to the crime, but Salaam had already served his full 5½-year term in prison. Recently, I had the opportunity to interview Salaam about his experience and the impact it had on his life.
In person, Salaam carries a dignified, purposeful, and positive aura. He seems to be using his situation as an opportunity to help youth by sharing his message with them.
In the course of our interview, he touched on the point that when he was exonerated, the media coverage was insignificant in comparison to the press coverage leading up to the conviction. But the documentary The Central Park Five, which chronicles the case (see the review here) has given Salaam and the others a chance to finally share their story. Here's more of what he had to say.
YCteen: You were 15 at the time. You had no record and had never been arrested. Did your naïvete about the tactics of law enforcement play a role in your being charged with this crime?
Yusef Salaam: None of us really knew what Miranda was back then. [Miranda rights refer to your right not to incriminate yourself after being arrested, including the right to remain silent and the right to an attorney. An officer must make sure you understand these rights.] You don't feel like you have the right to remain silent—you feel like, "If I don't say nothing, those guys are going to do something bad to me."
I'm not only talking about the five [of us kids] but also our parents. Some of our parents hadn't even known anything about the system. Some of them were seen on videotape seeming like they were agreeing with the process that their sons were going through, these false confessions.
And unfortunately all of us were led to believe that if we just said we did it, we could go home. People who know the law, they know that's crazy. But when you beat people down for 12 hours, 36 hours, don't give them food, drink, you get them in this delirious state.
YCteen: What role did the media play in your conviction?
Salaam: I think it was such an attractive case, the way the media was spinning everything—these people from the darker enclaves are emerging out into society and they're hunting for folks...there was this colorful language that they had to describe us, like a "wolf pack," and it played to the fears that people had.
Many people, even in the black community, bought into the lie because many of them had been hurt by people who looked like them. I think it was easy for people to assume the worst rather than assume the best. No one had ever heard of us before so it was easy for them to say, "This is who these guys are."
The worst part about it is because of the way [the media and law enforcement] went after us, the intensity with which they went after us, this allowed for the real perpetrator to continue to hurt folks, and ultimately one of his victims he murdered.
YCteen: How did prison affect your life?
Salaam: It's one thing to go to jail knowing you've committed a crime. But to be a young person having never done anything wrong and get placed in this system...everything we knew was taken away. We were put in the worst prisons they could possibly find. I went to a maximum security youth facility and people were getting maimed, people were getting hurt, stuff I can't even describe, and that would go on daily.
It takes so much from you, and that is one of the reasons a lot of people come out of prison really scarred. They come out with post-traumatic stress syndrome, some can't even function in society anymore. It's a wonder that we're doing a little bit OK. But the indelible scars that prison left on us are there, all the time.
YCteen: You completed your prison term and were released before you were exonerated. What was it like trying to get your life back on track?
Salaam: Trying to get back into the community is extremely hard. The years they took us out of society were the years we grew and developed and learned how to be adults. And we were put in a place where we had to learn how to survive. Forget learning to be an adult. Forget learning how to balance a checkbook or drive a car, we had to learn how to stay alive the next day. A lot of us came home to that same reality.
You adapt to [the violence of prison], you learn that that's your reality and that's what you do for years upon years. So to come out of that....That post-traumatic stress is there. It's a struggle.
This wasn't just a 5 to 10 year sentence, this was a death sentence. What I mean is, if we survived prison, we weren't supposed to survive on the street after prison. We were supposed to come back through that revolving door because you can't take it [on the outside].
We were also labeled Level 3 sex offenders, and that meant we were going to have to register [with law enforcement] for the rest of our lives. In society, every door would be slammed in our faces.
YCteen: Twelve years after you were convicted, the real perpetrator came forward and confessed, and you were exonerated in 2002. What was that like?
Salaam: Being officially exonerated was exhilarating. But the public didn't start viewing us differently until after this film [The Central Park Five] came out. News of the exonerations was quickly swept under the rug, so some folks who never saw this film [still] think we got free from prison because of some technicality, and that we were really guilty of the crimes.
The great thing this film is doing is causing people's minds and hearts to change. It's the same story that's been [told before]. The difference is, now we're talking about what happened in the process of obtaining those video confessions. We're talking about what happened to us through this whole process. We're talking about trying to get our lives back together. And that is changing a lot.
YCteen: Do you feel bitter about what happened to you?
Salaam: I think all of us got to this point where we accepted what life had given us. We didn't know if we were going to live or die, if we were ever going to be vindicated. I came home to the reality that I was accused of this crime and I could never escape it. Everybody I met I would have to at some point tell them that I was accused of this crime and I didn't do it. Some folks would believe me and some folks wouldn't.
But if you hold bitterness inside it's going to kill you, so better to take that energy and try to do something productive. Some of us got our college degrees in prison; that was a step toward saying at least when we get out of this we might have some type of future.
YCteen: What can young people today learn from what you went through?
Salaam: People always say, "You shouldn't talk to the cops, don't say nothing." But you can't not say nothing, because they have tactics and skills that will cause you to say something. Instead, you should ask for a lawyer. Make that your mantra. They're going to try to make you feel like, "Why do you need a lawyer—did you do something wrong?" But it's your right to have a lawyer.
If you're stopped by the police:
• Stay calm and be cool.
• Don't physically resist.
• Don't run!
• Give your name and address, but you don't have to give any other information.
• Try to remember the badge number, name, and a physical description of the cop(s) who stopped or arrested you.
• When cops stop you, ask bystanders to stand at a discreet distance and observe the police without interfering.
• Once you are told you are under arrest, give your name and address; give your parents and/or employer's name, address, and telephone number. (This information is needed in setting bail.)
• You have the right to remain silent. Besides giving the above information, only say, "I want to talk to a lawyer."
• Don't talk to the police, on videotape, or to a District Attorney about anything that has to do with the crime you are arrested for. Do not sign anything.
• Do not talk to inmates in jail about your case.
• Cops can stop you if you are hanging out during school time or if they suspect that you are a runaway. That means any time they want to.
• Always carry ID, otherwise the cops will use your lack of identification as an excuse to take you in.
• If the police arrest you, they must notify your parents!
• If you are arrested, you have the right to make one call to your family or lawyer.
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HAMPTON BEACH -- Teenagers ordinarily have a reputation for sleeping until noon on a Saturday morning as a way to charge their batteries, but on that day earlier this month, teenagers from Dover High School did a different kind of charging. Twenty five students were found charging over the sands of Hampton Beach toward the Atlantic Ocean. It was Penguin Plunge Day.
The Penguin Plunge is an annual event sponsored by Special Olympics of New Hampshire. The adult portion of the event has been going on for over 13 years. Five years ago, the younger set decided to join up. And join up they did.
The Dover High parking lot at 9:30 Saturday morning had a lot of sleepy faces. As they climbed aboard the mustard colored bus, they were greeted by Athletic Director Peter Wotton. He bid them welcome to this, his fourth year plunging.
"I missed the first one," he said with a smile, "but not since." Wotton could have been excused if he demurred from plunging this year, as last year he stepped in a hole leaving the water and ruptured his Achilles tendon, requiring months of slow, painful recuperation, but would not hear of that.
The vast majority of student plungers were members of the student Athletic Leadership Council which, according to Council President Shannon Goff, "is dedicated to uniting students, staff and community to help spread Green Wave pride."
Apprehension was in the air on the bus as many of the plungers were first-timers. Juniors Gwen Muscato and Mackenzie Katz were bundled up in winter garb and both expressed concern, not so much about the air temperature which at 10 a.m. was 13 degrees, but for the anticipated water temperature of 42 degrees. "I hope it is not too cold," said Muscato, who along with Katz plays soccer and swims for Dover High during the year.
For several of the plungers, Katie Hyson, Savanna Weinstein and Ellie Clifford, by 10 a.m. they were involved in their third activity of the day. "We had basketball practice at 6:30," said Clifford, "and then went to help coach little shots at Woodman Park," explained Hyson, "and here we are getting ready to swim in the ice cold Atlantic," grimaced Weinstein.
As the bus, which was surprisingly quiet for one filled with teens, arrived at a blocked off Atlantic Avenue on Hampton Beach, the kids could see heavily muffled police officers directing traffic. "Gosh, look at them, it is so cold out and we're going swimming," was a comment heard.
Debarking and entering the Hampton Beach Casino, the Dover student-athletes found that they were not alone, as the cavernous hall began filling with over 500 fellow teens from high schools all around the state. Dover's famous band Gazpacho could be seen on stage appropriately playing "Taking Care of Business."
All the plungers exited the building and took their places as part of the parade which was judged by among others the affable Kevin Scarupa, WMUR weatherman.
Seen among those watching the parade was Dover's Superintendent of Schools Jean Briggs- Badger who was joined by her husband and their two grandchildren. "I'm so proud of our kids for taking advantage of this opportunity to participate in the fund-raiser for Special Olympics," said the superintendent as they paraded in front of the judging stand.
The moment of truth arrived and a mass of humanity -- some costumed, some clad only in bikinis -- stood atop the beach as Mark Erickson of WOKQ gave the countdown to zero. They raced into the cold, briny water, some ducking completely, others not more than dipping toes and feet into the water before running out. "I ducked completely," said senior Leah Burke, a second year plunger. "It really wasn't by choice, I was pushed from behind, and down I went," she said with a smil.
After a quick change in gender-appropriate tents, Dover joined over 1,000 students, family and volunteers in filling the Casino, where once again they were serenaded by Gazpacho. All manner of food was supplied, with piping hot beef stew being a favorite.
When asked how his day went, a smiling Wotton said, "It has been a beautiful day, except for about 20 chilly seconds".
Alex Satterfield, a paraprofessional at Dover High School, was a huge hit dressed as Poseidon complete with trident.
Dover High School raised $7,090 coming in just behind Salem High School for the most money raised by a school. "I feel so proud to be a part of this, I think I'm going to cry" said Weinstein.
Dover High swim team member Brian Eldridge found it everything he expected, "except the cold feet," he said.
For the 2013 High School Penguin Plunge, 475 high schoolers raised $135,802. The money will go towards funding the unified sports programs throughout the state.
The unified sports program joins people with and without intellectual disabilities on the same team.
Athletic Director Wotton commented on the Dover effort. "It is fantastic, we take such pride in doing this. Dover is very loving and caring when it comes to dealing with disabilities, this is another testament to that."


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The Master of Arts program offers students in a wide range of disciplines the opportunity to earn a master's degree by writing a thesis and successfully completing a limited number of courses. The number and details of the courses are determined within the first semester of the student's program.
Students may complete their degrees in either a full- or part-time capacity. Full-time students complete a 24-month program while part-time students complete a 48-month program. Part-time students will normally complete all required course work in the first 24 months, with the subsequent months committed to continued research and production of the Thesis.
Although degrees are awarded in specific disciplines, the program is administered centrally by the School of Graduate Studies, rather than by individual departments or Faculties.
Graduate degrees traditionally have been awarded for the successful completion of a satisfactory Thesis. The Thesis route expresses the fundamental tradition of academic scholarship. It also relates to the University's undergraduate programs, because the creation of a Thesis in any discipline calls for a range of skills which are central to the liberal education tradition, including analysis and synthesis of ideas, empirical investigations, the construction and articulation of arguments, and writing skills.
Because of the nature of the M.A. program, the Thesis forms the central requirement of the program. At the master's level, a Thesis involves close collaboration between supervisor and student. Consequently, it is necessary for a candidate to establish contact with potential supervisors prior to application for admission. Candidates seeking potential supervisors should contact either the relevant academic department or the School of Graduate Studies.
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We import new and second hand UK, British, European, and German caravans including Static caravans which are great permanent living.
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Pets are useful!
A female cat in heat is a really annoying creature. Fun to mess with her mind, though. Still, as soon as they're old enough, best to bundle them off and have it done. The health benefits alone are worth the cost. And a lot of organizations will help you with the cost too.
On to other things:
Had Okun to the vet yesterday. Got peed on again. Anyhow, won't know until later today how he's doing, but since 4 units is too much and 3 isn't enough, I think we'll probably be stuck with 3 1/2 units. I'm happy, he is doing so good, it's like having a new cat!


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My wife and I were recently strolling through a small tourist spot when we happened upon one of those vintage machines that guesses your weight, your age and tells your fortune. According to the instructions, all you had to do was stand very still facing the machine and drop a specified coin in the slot.
As luck would have it, I had the required coin in my pocket. So, I stood very still, looked directly into the front of the machine and dropped the requested coin into the slot. The machine made a few whirring noises, launched into a series of pinball machine-like dinging sounds and then spit out a small card with information on both sides.
I began reading the card out loud. It said, "You are handsome, strong, brilliant and charming. Women all love you and men want to be like you." I paused, turned toward my wife, lowered my head a bit, raised my eyebrows and confidently glanced at her over the top of my glasses. As I continued reading the card my wife snatched it from my hand and turned it over and said, "Look, they got your age and weight wrong too!" It was a bubble-bursting moment for me. We both laughed.
OK, my wife occasionally reads this column, so let me quickly state that one of her many, many attractive qualities (way too many to articulate in this short article) is the fact that she possesses a very keen sense of humor. However, let me also point out that as equal partners in a small business that we have been running for well over a decade now, we provide each other with something very valuable – honest feedback and ongoing reality checks.
If you own a small business, or serve as a senior person in a large business, it is a good idea to have someone who helps you stay in touch with reality.
I am currently reading Daniel Pink's new book titled "To Sell Is Human." The book describes how we have moved from a "caveat emptor" (buyer beware) to a "caveat venditor" (seller beware) selling environment. In other words, if you treat customers inappropriately these days, you will likely find your actions well communicated on the various social media platforms. Early in the book Pink states that, "Most of what we think we understand about selling is constructed atop a foundation of assumptions that has crumbled."
Here's what caught my eye that relates to the fortune-telling, reality-check story. Credible research mentioned in Pink's book indicates that those who enjoy even a small injection of power become less likely to understand someone else's point of view. Therefore, an inverse relationship exists between our managerial power and understanding how others perceive our actions. And over the long haul, highly successful business people are typically very good at seeing the world through the eyes of others.
So, if you have a lot of position power, who serves as the ongoing truth-teller in your world?
Chris Crouch is CEO of DME Training and Consulting and author of several books on improving productivity. Contact him through www.dmetraining.com.
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About this download
This program will update VAIO Event Service to version 5.1.3.05260 and will resolve the following symptoms:
- Sometimes after System reboot, Volume Control using Fn+F3/F4 or Remote Control will not work
- Sometimes after System reboot, Num Lk (Number Lock) and Scr Lk (Scroll Lock) pop-up message does not appear after NumLk or ScrLk key is pressed.
- Sometimes after System reboot, Applcation Switch or Application end of Remocon does not work.
- Sometimes after System reboot, Color Mode Setting Function does not work (for all Color Mode Setting Function inplemented models)
- Sometimes after System reboot, Hybrid Graphic Switch function does not work.
Available Downloads:
VAIO Event Service Update version 5.1.3.05260
File name: EP0000600155.exe
File size: 4.58 MB (4793968 bytes)
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- To install VAIO Event Service Update version 5.1.3.05260
File Version
- 5.1.3.05260
File Size
Release Date
- 2010-07-06
System Requirements
- Windows 7 64bit
- Windows 7 32bit
1. Download the file to a temporary or download directory (Please note this directory for reference later).
2. Go to the directory where the file was downloaded and double-click EP0000600155.exe.
3. Follow the instructions displayed in the installation wizard.
4. After installation is completed, please restart the computer
To check if installation is successful:
1. Go to C:\ProgramFiles\Sony\VAIO Event Service\Version.txt
2. Version.txt should indicate 5.1.3.05260