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Skye Ward July 28, 2010 at 9:34 PM #
crunkista, your list is a good one and familiar to me. pls allow me to unscore your suggestion for excercising and going to the gym. i've found the deep breathing, stretching and endornphine release to be profoundly vital to my emotional and psyhcological recovery after a break up. indeed, i've flipped the script and actually LOOK FORWARD to a post breakup workout regime…if nothing else i want to look good should i run into my former beau…more importantly i affirm my self-worth, discipline, will power and self-care when i expend my energy taking care of myself instead of allowing myself to deteriorate.
after a breakup i ask myself what lessons do i need to learn about myself for future relationships. i forgive myself for being less than skillful in the relationship and i offer forgiveness to the one i was attracted to in the first place but somehow lost on out path. FORGIVENESS.
lastly i listen to BLUES MUSIC week-after-week. the one recording that gets me ovah everytime is The Delta Meets Detroit: Aretha's Blues, by Aretha Franklin.
shanti om
Faith Holsaert November 16, 2010 at 6:33 AM #
About non-famous black women, check out HANDS ON THE FREEDOM PLOW, accounts by 52 women who worked with SNCC, Student Nonviolent Coordinating Committee, in the South in the 60;s. A few famous ones here (Bernice Johnson Reagon of Sweet Honey in the Rock, Diane Nash major theoretician of nonviolence and strategist of the Freedom Rides), but mostly the non-famous students including high school students and younger and family women in the community who were the backbone of that movement. Issued this autumn by University of Illinois Press, edited by Holsaert, Noonan, Richardson, Robinson, Young, and Zellner
Angela Rice March 6, 2011 at 12:25 PM #
These videos are awesome. I am 27 years old and these little girls are inspiring to me. I agree that there is too much of this hate, drug, killing, and woman bashing going on in our music today. Keep up the good work! To all the kids in the videos, you did what no adult would have done, you made a stand!!
crunkista, your list is a good one and familiar to me. pls allow me to unscore your suggestion for excercising and going to the gym. i've found the deep breathing, stretching and endornphine release to be profoundly vital to my emotional and psyhcological recovery after a break up. indeed, i've flipped the script and actually LOOK FORWARD to a post breakup workout regime…if nothing else i want to look good should i run into my former beau…more importantly i affirm my self-worth, discipline, will power and self-care when i expend my energy taking care of myself instead of allowing myself to deteriorate.
nemala November 24, 2011 at 9:48 PM #
Not sure this is the right place, but could you do a book list of 2011 anytime really of must read or recommended books for young black women or women of colour?
That touch on different subjects like depression, development, dealing with failure and so on and so forth? Anything really, even pure entertainment.
The sales are coming up and there is no one I rather hear from more.
YOU FORGOT THE MOST IMPORTANT BAND OF THE ATLANTA MUSIC SCENE WHO PAVE THE WAY FOR ALL THE SO-CALLED AFRO-PUNK, FUNK-JAZZ, FUNK-ROCK, (JASON ORRE, ORGANIZE NOISE, DIVINITY, INDIA IRIE, ANTHONY DAVID, APACHE CAFE, JOI, WHILD PEACH, 35HUMAN, EDITH SWISH, ROY AYERS, and many more !) STARS OF ATLANTA THE ONE AND ONLY VOODOO EINSTEIN WITH MS. TARANJI ALVARADO ! NEVER FORGET KNOW THE HISTORY !
mistyorkyd May 31, 2012 at 8:46 AM #
Thank you for today's post, "Evolution of the Down Ass Chick". I really appreciate the spotlight on this nuance of Black Love….I, too, was that 17 yr old.
dk June 13, 2012 at 2:24 AM #
"crunktastic" is 100% my fave intellectual right now..reading the abuse piece n her responses? smh..is dr. cooper or cfc on twitter?
Kelly July 10, 2012 at 2:32 AM #
Hi, my name is Kelly and I'm the Kelly Hannah Peterlinz who held the racially offensive sign at the slutwalk last year. I know this may not matter to you at all at this point, but I want to apologise for everything that happened involving that picture. I first want to say that I regret getting heated and saying things that I now regret and see as immature. I'm not sure if you saw, but the first thing I said on Facebook about it was an apology. I want to say again that I'm so sorry for the hurt, anger, and frustration I caused. Neither Erin or I meant to cause harm and clearly didn't think our decisions through properly. I know it may not seem like it, but I was fourteen when that picture was taken and now I'm fifteen. I don't judge people by things such as their appearance or where they come from. I really do love and care about all people in this world. I know you may not believe me or not want to believe me, but I can't hold that against you. You had and have every right to be upset and I hope you can forgive me as a person because my actions involving that photo don't reflect my true intentions, feelings, or personaltiy.
Kelly July 10, 2012 at 2:38 AM #
I'm sorry, but I wanted to add that I didn't see us as white and black, male and female feminists. I saw us all as people who wanted to end the fear a woman feels when she walks down a street alone at night or when she wants to go out and have fun but feels the need to hold back so she won't be attacked. I never meant for anything but unity and strength to be felt.
Prefer Been Called---Sistah July 30, 2012 at 8:15 PM #
My Sister's we should not be surprised when "White America" not supporting us as they so their own…That's why as African Americans let's support "our" as well as they do…Gabby Douglas is awesome and she deserves all the praise, yet she has been raised to know and understand that if she doesn't encourage herself then she has already failed…bottom line…So personally she is standing strong and not letting "White America" get on her nerves…I Love it and appulad her for it…Stay strong Gabby Douglas…for your not only encouraging yourself but some other young African American as well…
Iris July 31, 2012 at 1:39 PM #
Hey there!
I'm using a quote from your blog in make/shift magazine and would like to know if there's a particular author to quote from the "When the Church Fails Its Women: 7 Truths We Need to Tell About Creflo Dollar, Black Daughters and Violence" post. Sorry if this isn't the best place to ask, but I couldn't find another place on the website to ask.
Thank you!
Mannie Hansen September 11, 2012 at 3:10 AM #
Your article has been plagiarised in Kenya. http://www.the-star.co.ke/lifestyle/mutoko-monday-/92550-letter-to-my-20-something-self
Sirein October 6, 2012 at 10:56 AM #
Dear CFC. First let me say thank you for all of the insightful, heartwarming, solidarity creating blogs. I found out about this website from a friend several weeks ago at a time when I was in desperate need of hearing other black women. Tell stories, give advice, rant, joke, create, etc, etc. I feel like I have been living in a desert and have just come across my very first oasis. When I read a blog and hear about women experienceing the same microaggressions and macro aggressions (economic, political, etc) that I am going through, it completely validates my life and encourages me to stop seeing my experiences as wholly my own fault!! I mean to just be able to do that has purged out of my system a tsunami of guilt and humiliation, and I am grateful. And on that note, I experienced something today, which frankly, I didn't know who else to say it to or where else to talk about it except here. The police has been notified, but I want to pour out my emotions here. And it's about the fact that as a woman, you constantly have to be aware and actively working on your safety because otherwise bad shit could happen to you. And as much as my colleague and I, who was walking down the street with me early on, thought we were good about that, it did not stop the following from happening: we were walking on a street in broad daylight, in the middle of this big intersection, with a whole bunch of people walking around. The pavement was narrow so I was walking slightly ahead of my friend. And then, I hear a commotion and turn around, and out of no where, this young man had walked up to my friend, and all I see is that he had his hands around her neck. I had no idea what he was doing and what was going on. I just started screaming. And he snatches the gold chain she had been wearing and runs down the street and around the corner, disappearing from our sight. The whole thing happened in less than 5 seconds…what the fuck?! an hour later, after telling the police, we were sitting down, just having a drink and trying to calm down. And my colleague and I started telling each other stories of other times when our (and our other female friends') safety was threatened and we were confronted by robberies, attacks, attempted violence and so on. And even when the perpetrators fail to harm us in a serious way, the experience always leaves you at least shaken up. I mean it's scary to think that just walking down the street can result in something bad happening. And as a woman you ALWAYS have to be completely aware of your surroundings and your personal safety. I mean, I am one of those people who always thinks that I'm super woman and can no body hurt me, no not really, cuz I can take care of myself. But then something like this happens, and it's like back to square one. That was one hell of a day. ONE HELL OF A DAY!! Anyway, I just wanted to share with ya'll what happened, because that was pretty scary. Thanks for giving me the space to do that.
Calinda Lee November 1, 2012 at 7:14 PM #
I look forward to digging deeper, mining your posts, exploring your wise words and generously shared musings. Today, I just want to offer my congratulations as I lift my chin a bit higher and feel renewed in the belief that this work, and struggle are, indeed, worthwhile. Having attended your panel this afternoon, I'm ready to put my back into it and feel the peace of knowing that there are beautiful, brilliant young womyn talking –and walking–as scholars/activists/sisters/Creators.