I am a Filipina who's working here in Malaysia and I met this Pakistani guy on social media (FB). So far our communications is just thru Whatsapp for he has deactivated his fb account on reasons of some intelligence trying to look for lawyers like him. We have been talking about meeting in person and plans to move in either Pakistan or Malaysia once we have settled matters like work, family and most of all religion. But this one thing I am having doubts about his real intentions on me and every time I'm asking him he's angry.. At his age of 35, is it possible that he has a wife already..? I am still trying to fathom that a Pakistani and Muslim man with the highest education in his country can be a bachelor..? I am ready to embrace Islam if this will make us live a happier life.. Please make my heavy heart see the beauty and future of online love affair..
First of all, you shouldn't inbrase Islam just for sake of being with him, this should come from your heart and for your self not for anyone else.
I'm not saying is imposible but it is very unlikely he is still single.
Have you talked to his family?
Tell him you want to settle in Pakistan rather than anywhere else and see how he reacts to that, are you younger or older than him?
There are a lot of great Pakistani men, but the ones I know of who have approached someone over fb or online haven't been so, so please do be careful and if your not sure and your doubting him is for a reason, always listen to your inner self.
Please please be extra careful and vigilant. I have personally been heavily lied to by Pakistani men.
"deactivated his fb account on reasons of some intelligence trying to look for lawyers like him". Sounds fishy to me. Probably hiding from his wife.
There's no way for us to know whether this man is already married. But it'd be very wise of you to do your research on him before you decide to marry him. It is suspicious that he has deleted his Facebook account, but it's not right to assume what his reasons for doing this might be.
Please don't marry him until you have travelled to where he lives (don't go alone!) and seen with your own eyes what his life is all about. Where does he live? Who does he live with? Where is his family? Who are his friends? Where does he work? What does he spend money on? What does he do when he's not at work?
Sis, having a online love affair is not lawful in Islam, i understand that at present your not Muslim yourself, but this man apparently IS, so he knows the rules of his religion, the reality is, if this man is happy to chat to women online and send them text messages etc knowing full well this is not a lawful way of conducting yourself prior to marriage ( according to Islam) he is most likely, actually almost certainly a bad egg, that said most of these these relationships ( online) do not end well anyway, because you are unable to ascertain who the person really is, if he is already losing his temper with you, how do you see that things will get better, that their will be a happily ever after here? Sister, how do you plan on embracing the religion of Islam to make things more 'harmonious' while taking a life companion that already does not practice his religion properly?
Your an intelligent woman, which is why you are second guessing this yourself, why on earth would a man look to meet a woman online from another country, to look for her to convert to Islam to marry, while he is breaking the rules of his religion and when he already comes from a country that is majority Muslim?
I'm sorry if i offend anybody here, but Pakistani men are known for having wives in different countries, how do you expect to be able to verify this his bachelor status, when you do not come from the same country?
Be very careful to not be blinded by his sweet talk. Meeting someone in person is so much different, you can sense what type of person he is if you are smart. Another way to know if this person is not a scam is to get a guardian/ male protector to talk with him or meet. This will tell you if his intentions are true or not. Some guys will want to avoid getting parents involve and manipulate the girl.