As the saying goes - there is good news and bad news.
The bad news is...you and your husband will ALWAYS be different. It will never change.
It is very seldom that I see a couple sharing the same call. Usually one will be prophetic and the other have a teaching or pastoral orientation.
Every vision you had before this marriage must die completely. You are not the same person any more and God has a new mandate for you guys as a couple now. Folks often make the mistake of thinking that because they have a vision from God, that they will have it forever. Have you ever heard of Death of a Vision? This is where you are right now. Let it go! God is bringing it to death. This is a very good sign actually. It means He has something new for you and also a promotion.
Stop hanging onto your old vision. Let it go and join your husband in his. The sooner you do this the better. THEN God can begin shaping you and your husband together and giving you both a new mandate. You will receive it TOGETHER. Even though within that mandate, you will operate quite differently. I am afraid that you will only find your place in this when you let go of your road.
I know that this might be confusing, but trust me, you want to make this move. Only then will you experience the fire and the resurrection you are asking the Lord for. You are very blessed to have a husband who is so zealous for the Lord. Every single day I am in touch with women who have the same fire as you, but a husband that has no interest in God at all.
So hang onto your man! Pay the price and let go of your individuality and what you think belongs to you. Only then will you see the Lord make something very beautiful out of the two of you, as you truly become one.