Undeniably it works. Unquestionably it is unsatisfying.
I’ve noticed that when I listen to people, and let them do all the talking, they invariably “flatter” me by telling me what a great conversationalist I am.
If i want to disagree with someone, sometmes i hold back and ask the person “what makes you feel that way?” This is so i can get to know the person’s background and why he/she feels that way. In turn, you get to experience what it feels like to be living in that person’s world.