Zig Ziglar is one of my favorite motivational speakers, and what he has to say about forgiveness is worth listening to. Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting. You don't forget. You can't forget - the brain doesn't work that way. You probably shouldn't forget, even if you could. What you do is turn loose of the feelings of anger, vengeance, self-pity and other negative emotions that you still carry, based on what was done to you in the past.