Instead of trying to make Muslimahs consider you, why don't you work on your own self confidence and being an interesting person. That's why you get rejected, not because you're "good"
Stoic has a point. There are a lot of men out there who are good and not shy, or shy and not deeny, and so on. These characteristics are not mutually exclusive.
So, what takes you to the next level that the others don’t have? It’s not butterflies. Maybe it is confidence.
Last edited by Sister_2009; 13-12-18, 08:52 PM.
There's nothing wrong with shyness, as long as you are still able to interact and communicate properly. I don't see why it would be a turn off for women.
‘Imran bin Husain (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, “Shyness does not bring anything except good.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
Last edited by hasan2013; 13-12-18, 08:58 PM.
Hahaha no. I am not looking for marriage. Just giving some armchair advice.
A reserved guy will be hesitant to show his feelings towards his loved one. Not so great later on in the marriage but of course it depends on the sister who marries him and her personality.
Last edited by mpw; 13-12-18, 11:18 PM.
Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong..
Shyness aint' about not being assertive. Shyness is like for me is not exposing awrah, feeling so uncomfortable when wearing trousers when doing sujud that you wear a long coat, shyness is feeling bad because you swore and showing off or not going to a lift because a woman is there, Completely distinct.
Shyness is not a good translation of haya. It's misleading.