I have never really thought about this, but reading it, I realised that there was a point (5 years ago or so) where I stopped questioning my worth and just accepted it.
It’s amazing how long it took for me to realize I was making the decision every day that I didn’t matter. And if you listen to that voice instead of your better angels, you begin to believe it. It’s just like the drinking voice though. Once you recognize it, you no longer think of the voice as “you.” And you no longer believe what that voice tells you.
It’s true that you have to be selfish and put you first to have half a chance of giving up drinking. Friends especially drinking buddies come a distant second!
I think as women it is especially difficult to put ourselves first. I too am trying to embark on a similar journey. Wishing you the best.
You are so right, Aurora! We get the message at a young age that we should put ourselves second, that it’s somehow noble to stifle our own voice. It’s so freeing to question that belief and then move past it.
Thank you so much.. That is such a lovely complement, because seeing everyone around me being able to control their drinking and I cannot, makes me feel so immature and childish. But I have accepted that alcohol is not for me at all.