I’ve been with my husband for almost 10 years and have seen his body weight fluctuate through out the years. To bring things into perspective my husband is 6 foot 2 inches. When I first meet my husband we were high school seniors and he was an athlete so he was probably at his most healthiest weight about 185lbs. After high school I noticed he gained about 20 pounds. Which I attributed to him not working out as much and also having a job to supply him with money to buy whatever food he wanted (which generally was not healthy). He continued to gain weight but then began lifting weights so to me he looked fit because his muscles were huge and while his belly didn’t have a six pack, he didn’t have love handles either. He continued this type of fitness and body look for the next few years until we bought our first house and it seemed like it was all downhill from there.
They say that when your happy you gain weight and I hope that was the reason for my husband packing on the pounds. Through out the next several years my husband went from weighing 205lbs to 220lbs to 240lb and now to 265lbs. I love my husband dearly and don’t really care how he looks but his weight concerns me because his entire family from both sides are overweight and have diabetes which I’m trying to make sure my husband does not get.
My husband still exercises almost everyday for about an hour (does cardio with weight lifting) and generally eats healthy about 90% of the time but for some reason he can’t seem to shed a single pound. On top of that he’s stopped drinking entirely and only drinks water And sometimes black coffee.
Also, I’d like to disclose that my husband is in law enforcement and works graveyard. So his biological clock is pretty messed up. Also his job is stressful which I’m sure does not help his cause. But just wanted to see if anyone has any suggestions or been in a similar situation that can offer some advice on how I can help him.
I highly recommend Faster way to Fatloss. There is a men’s program and it worked wonders for me and several of my friends and family. It’s a program that teaches a healthy way to live...not a diet. The focus is mostly on nutrition but also includes a daily workout. I’ve been doing it for a year and a half and I’m now participating in the fit pregnancy program. But keep in mind, it has to be his decision.
Hm, it sounds like he may have a underlying health condition? If he’s working out that much and eats that healthy, he should be losing excess weight. I would honestly give a visit to the doctor to have some blood tests and such done. Of course, tread on the topic lightly if your husband hasn’t already come to you about it being an issue. It could hurt his feelings and make him feel insecure. Obviously, I’m sure you know that, not trying to give unsolicited advice lol. Anyway, I hope you guys figure out what’s going on.
my husband is 6ft 1 and his weight fluctuates between 220-245. He also has a demanding job and eats generally healthy most of the time. He’s definitely not “overweight” by looks but by the WHO he is defined as borderline “obese” he has spoke to his doctor about the guidelines and his physician said that his weight was fine for his body type. You can’t always go by guidelines. I would speak with his primary physician about weight concerns.
If you find the answer PLEASE let me know! My husband is very attractive. 6’ and when we met he was about 215 (fresh out of the military so muscles) since then (6 years) he’s up to 250 and lost his muscles. He on the other hand does not eat healthy or work out. “I rather be fat and happy and eat ice cream then eat a salad and be thin”.
He’s getting too big for my taste. We’ve tried talking, I’ve tried to get him to work out with me, even went to a weight loss clinic and got pills and they worked, until he got tired of being healthy and gained it all back. I love him dearly but he quit caring about how he looks.
Working night shift myself it comes with struggles and we often eat to stay more awake. I’m a nurse so I’m on my feet and not in a car but if I were sitting down and wasn’t able to get up I’d be stuffing my face like crazy.
Everyone’s body is different. So what works for some won’t for others.
He’s probably eating a lot at night. Prior to being pregnant I wouldn’t eat during my night shift and then I’d come home shower eat a small breakfast then sleep until like dinner time and that would be it.
When you work nights and have days off it’s hard for your digestion to digest.
surprisingly the only thing that he has is a fatty liver. He doesn’t have high blood pressure or high cholesterol. He’s relatively healthy but his fatty liver worries me just because that means he definitely needs to lose weight. He’s also had his thyroid checked which I initially thought was the issue. Personally I have felt that his weight spiraled out of control when he began his career in law enforcement. Sitting down for 12-16 hour days with limited movement is something that he wasn’t used to. Prior to him working in law enforcement he had a very active job and was constantly moving around, lifting heavy objects and just walking all day in general. I also think that working graveyard isn’t “healthy” for him. His sleep and eating schedule is out of wack. I don’t think his body knows when it should digest and when it should store energy. But on top of all that getting older has definitely changed his metabolism. So he has a lot fighting against him. I feel like he is on the verge of getting discouraged and just giving up entirely. But I really don’t want him to do that especially because we’re having or first child and I want to make sure he’s healthy and strong.
my DH has gone from 260 down to 225 in less than a month doing the keto diet. He allows himself one cheat meal a week, and still manages to stay in ketosis. He was 3% body fat when we met, and is 6’1”. I was worried, but he had to get miserable enough to do something about it. If I mentioned it, it killed his self esteem and libido...I’ve prayed a lot, but chose being reassuring and supportive. So far, doing great!
my husband did the keto thing in 2013 and lost a lot of body fat. I look back at pictures and can’t even recognize him. He looked so thin! I’m trying to be supportive too and not tell him what he should be doing. I know he’s going to need to do it on his own. But I just wanted to know what I can do in our home to try and motivate him, without actually telling him. So maybe meals to cook on my own to see if he’s willing to try and diet with me. This is my first pregnancy and I’ve been pigging out ever since my morning sickness went away. The problem I’m having is that I’m feeling extremely tired because of the food I’m eating. I also feel like my legs get numb from poor circulation. So I’ve been telling him if he can go on walks with me in the afternoon before he goes to work. It helps us both stay a little bit active too. I’m trying to get him to think about it as a lifestyle change not a diet.
If you haven’t seen it already- I would recommend the documentary by Joe Cross- ‘Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead’. It’s about juicing cleanses and how these individuals were able to drop weight that seemed almost impossible to lose, while also gradually being able to give up medicines and food became their new medicine. This is obviously the extreme and committed version.... but perhaps meal replacements during the night shift is a start?
My husband and I have been married 10 but together much longer. He too was fit when we first met. He put on lbs when he was single and while we dated. His job is very physical. He fluctuates with his weight and sometimes I don't think he notices how much he's gained because of how he carries it. Diabetes also runs in his family among other health problems. Anyways, I too have fluctuated throughout the years. I try to recognize when we've gotten too comfortable and eating too much junk. I will point out to him when I've noticed his sweet tooth is out of control. He likes to stay up late and.binge. I will tell him that we need to stop buying the junk and I will.make healthier meals. It usually takes a few weeks but he eventually notices that he needs to eat better and workout when he's not working so much. I remind him of the health risks in his family. Right now it helps bc he wants me to eat healthy for baby so (we also have kids already) it makes it easier to make changes as a family. I'm typically a shy person so.it's hard to bring things up but pointing out that it's a health concern as well as making it a team effort for everyone's health has been effective for us.
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