Though they enjoyed making the ukelele and the truss bridge and learned from their projects, I was somehow bothered by their set up.
Before they left for school last Thursday (day of submission), I told them something I hope they consider valuable.
To reduce the stress in life, you don’t need to save everyone and take charge of everything. It may be easier to say yes than no because we don’t want to let anyone down. But it isn’t healthy to always be the hero and suffer from being the martyr.
Then I elaborated to my boys that they need not always take the bait of answering everything. Because there will probably someone else to take the responsibility. Plus, the project was supposedly a group effort, thus each member should be involved.
I figured from the looks of my children that I wasn’t making sense. So I explained further.
Not catching the ball doesn’t mean we just don’t care. It only shows we know our limit. It means we take responsibility for our part in the process. If we catch all the balls thrown at us, we may go berserk. We also let ourselves be a victim of the situation. Sometimes, we become so overwhelmed by all the balls thrown our way that we no longer know how to manage life. To manage life then, we need to know what ball to catch and what we need to avoid.
Their school bus arrived just in time for me to finish my lecture. I just hope my boys got the message clearly.
Anyway, this mother is just so proud of her children. They know they needed to submit that project so they took charge. But more than that, they displayed that they can be real valuable team members. And I am seeing that this characteristic is something that would bring them success and fortune. But then again, I just hope they manage to catch only the ball they can handle.
So true. We as mom especially try to keep many balls in the air at the same time. We need to prioritize and say no sometimes. Although– I can see both of your kids decided they wouldn’t settle for an incomplete, soy should be very proud of them while you teach them to these skills.
Very good advice and well explained to your children. It’s okay to take a step back in life sometimes and let someone else take charge. Kudos to you for explaining this to your kids.
This is a great thing to teach your kids! Having boys myself, you couldn’t have explained it better – it really is a great life lesson.
Great advice!! It can be so hard to say no, but sometimes you just have to!
This is great advce. I think a lot of people will take advantage of their helpful spirits in the future. It’s great to teach them this advice now.
This is such a great post, perhaps something every Mum should read as I am sure sometime it can feel so overwhelming.
Ya know. It doesn’t get any easier in college. I was always the one stepping up to take charge of group projects. My grades were important. Unfortunately, that meant lugging the weight of the whole team. It’s a hard lesson to learn to step back and say “No.” And let someone else have a turn at taking the wheel, but it’s an important lesson to learn.
Good advice! It is ok to say no and that is an important lesson to learn.
wow, so much wisdom and truth!! Every mom needs to read this!!
We sometimes focus way too much on trying to do too much at one time. It is so true that we don’t always need to catch the ball when it is thrown at us.
This is great advice. I get easily stressed with the kiddos, I have to remember I can’t do it all.
I agree! Sometimes we need to catch the ball because we have to. But we should also consider that we need support to be able to carry and shoot it to lessen the stress and burden.
I think theres a lot of pressure on moms to be perfect but its totally okay to remember that you’re human and its okay not to be perfect.