It’s April! And that means that our countdown to summer and getting ready for kindergarten in the fall has begun! This month we will be focusing on social emotional skills, a set of abilities that are super important for kindergarten.
We hear lots about how children need to be prepared academically for kindergarten, like knowing their letters and numbers. But recent research about the things that help kids to be successful in school shows that academics aren’t the whole story. Social emotional skills are also important to helping kids succeed in school (and life).
These are just some of the social emotional skills that are important for school readiness. Helping your kids to practice social emotional skills may seem like a big ask. But if you think about it, every time that your child plays with another child peacefully, she is practicing a bunch of those skills, like sharing, cooperation, recognizing another person’s feelings, and intention attribution. And when you work with your child to calm down when he has been hurt or upset, or ask him to use his inside voice if he is getting excited and yelling in the house, you are helping him to practice emotion regulation.
Talk about how other people are feeling. You can do this while you read books (“How do think the little girl in that picture is feeling?”), while you are watching movies (“He looks mad. I can tell because he is scrinching up his eyebrows.”), or even during real life situations (“Your little sister is crying; how do you thinks she feels right now?”).
Reinforce your child’s social emotional skills. We have a saying here at KITS “What you pay attention to, you see more of.” So if your child shares well with his brother, notice it and reinforce it. You can do that just by saying “You shared with your brother when you gave him half your cracker. That was a really friendly thing to do. I bet that makes him really happy.” Or even give your child a thumbs up and a smile. If you want your child to keep showing those great social emotional skills, you have to encourage him or her.
All this month, we will be posting information about social emotional skills and how to help your child learn them. We will post activities and other ways to practice them, too. If you come up with fun activities, we would love to hear about them in the comments!