Fear: An unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm.
Only reading its definition it already causes a certain bad feeling, isn’t it?
Well, fear is the cause of all our problems and weaknesses, it’s the hardest feeling to overcome.
I read many books about positivity and about how we shouldn’t feel fear and always concentrate on the positive but, what I found is that at the end I got the fear of feeling fear… I was totally scared about thinking about my doubts and worries and this, of course, caused me stressed.
“When fear and doubtful thoughts pop in your head just push it away, listen to music, do something that you like, try anything to avoid these fear thoughts….” they wrote but, this didn’t help me.
It wasn’t me (not) being strong enough. It was just that with me that method of overcoming fear and doubt wasn’t right, for me it wasn’t working.
So we all agree that fear is not good. We all agree that self-doubt is not good, we must learn how to work it out and trust ourselves. But does it really work to hide it?
When fear and doubt arrives I just face them! I meditate and concentrate on what made this feeling emerge, I write about it and analyse my fear, something like the math problems we use to do during school. I question my fears and doubts and analyse them.
What? How? Why? and When?
Now is everything on paper, I can see it there black on white is not a monster, just words on paper they have no power over me.
During this all process my mind is somehow getting lighter and lighter and what seemed to be too much for me suddenly it doesn’t mean anything. They were just useless thoughts.
I analysed them and I can see that they were all conditioned by external events that are not important. They were caused by words or acts of other people that shouldn’t even have such an important place in my life because the people that I want in my life don’t make me feel bad.
Finally, when I see my fears and doubts on paper I can see that I’m stronger!
I thank the Universe for making go through this. I thank the Universe for making me learn from my fears and make me stronger and, now I can meditate or listen to music, now I can leave everything behind and concentrate on my positive thinking, on my visualisation.
Curious is that I never go back to read what I wrote… Is there in the past where it belongs… Maybe if one day I’ll go back to read it I’ll find out that I wrote over and over the same thing… Who knows… What I know is that this makes me feel better, this works for me.
Let us know how you overcome fear and self-doubt?
Some interesting thoughts, makes you think!
Some useful tips. I will try them.