“You are too naive to understand if anyone is taking advantage of you, how will you survive without me. You should always tell me if there is any problem, I have gone through such tough times, I know how to handle things.” “I know, they will not allow you to continue your job, and you will lose your independence. That is what being married means for an Indian girl. So, think it through before you take such a huge step in life. I have spent most of my earnings on your education. You just cannot leave your job to live with him abroad. After marriage he might leave you here with his parents and not take you along with him to where he lives.” After hearing all these warnings from my mom, I felt like marriage would be the end of the world for me. Out of fear I cancelled our wedding, just 25 days before the date. However, things didn’t turn out to be quite the nightmare I had imagined them to be and the reality of my life turned out to be better than what my mom had predicted. My man stood by my side and helped me get over this rough phase. Even his family understood my situation and supported me. I went to a therapist and she told me that my mother is suffering from a personality disorder and that the fear of being alone, after my marriage, is making her say all those things. “Since you are the only one in her life, her love for you has turned into an obsession and she saw your fiance as a threat to her,” were the exact words of my therapist.