That’s about all I got out of cultural anthropology from my freshman year of college, but I think it was worth my parents’ ,000. It could be an optic nerve or a sinus, but I’m thinking that it’s some sort of intelligence or mischief or both. (She dumped me a month after that, but that’s not the point of the story).
Except Nancy pouring her heart out as a 45-year-old divorcee in Seattle sounds just like April pouring her heart out as a 35-year-old single girl in New York.
The lists of adjectives, the lists of hobbies, the lists of bands and countries and books and TV shows, the clichés, the personal philosophy about life and love and honesty and trust. It’s perfectly articulate, perfectly earnest, and perfectly generic because most woman arrive at the same conclusions. And then we wonder why the level of discourse in online flirtation is so abysmal.
And if you are really serious about maintaining creative control, I offer all my profile writing secrets to you in my audio series, Finding the One Online ( and even give you a 35-page workbook to practice until you get it right.
At the end of the day, both men and women can coast by on their looks, and never feel compelled to have to improve their profiles.
All of this advice has been collected through my own personal experience of being a woman looking for a relationship online, and by talking with other women like me. I’d love to hear from readers what others in the comments whether they have made the same observations that I have.♦◊♦Your Profile Let’s start with the fact that your profile looks more like a laundry list than an essay.
You’ve listed facts and given me nothing emotional or even personal to hang my hat on.
If you’re attractive, you will always get attention.
But unless you bring your A-game in your essays, you’re probably not going to get the intelligent, witty responses that you crave.
So when every woman’s profile sounds the same, what do men have to write to? It’s because we – men and women alike – haven’t truly figured out what makes us unique.
And unique profiles not only get more responses, but they get higher quality responses in return.
Paint a picture of who you are with your friends and family. It shows a lack of respect and I don’t want that lack of respect applied to me.