Feeling understood is one of the most fundamental human needs. When we don’t feel that our friends and family understand us, we feel isolated and disconnected. Here are some of the benefits of feeling understood, and how to get there if you aren’t.
People who feel isolated and disconnected from others may be suffering from or at risk for depression. Feeling understood helps keep us from that isolation and disconnection. Knowing that others care about what we’re feeling helps us to not feel so alone when we’re going through tough times.
When we feel understood, we’re more likely to open up and be vulnerable with others. We show them our true selves—flaws and all. In turn, they are more likely to be vulnerable and honest with us. This helps us connect with others on a deeper level, improving the quality of our relationships.
When you feel truly understood, it becomes easier to accept yourself just as you are. If others can understand you and accept who you are, you should be able to, as well.
If you want to feel understood, you have to be vulnerable with friends and family. Being open and honest with your loved ones allows them to really know you. You won’t have to pretend to be someone else or mask your feelings and emotions.
It’s not only important for others to understand you. It’s also vital that you understand yourself. You have to know who you are, what you feel and how you fit into the world in order for anyone else to truly understand you.
Talking things out with a counselor can help you feel understood. A licensed professional knows what questions to ask to help you figure out what you need to understand yourself, and can push you into asking others for their help, as well.