I have a sister that used to be like that when we were kids. Something about school actually DID make her feel sick everyday. She disliked it that much. No joke... the whole family knew it. She would say she was sick, she's start sweating, etc. Almost like having panic attacks. She hated it.
My advice? Homeschool! Why make a kid go to a place so many hours a week when he obviously doesn't like it or want to be there. Something there just doesn't click with him. Look into homeschooling. Find a homeschooling group / organization in your area. He'll be much happier and do better.
If thats your idea of good parenting then good for you. I respect that. However "QUOTE" Why make a kid go to a place so many hours a week when he obviously doesn't like it or want to be there. "QUOTE". Well, because that's life. We all do things that we dont want to do. I go to work when I dont want to, meetings, clean house, cut the lawn etc. I personally dont support home school because a child misses out on social activities and memories that will last forever such as prom, football games and more. THey dont get the socail interaction that is much needed in todays society. Sure, they may go to home school group. That is not the interaction all day every day that they will encounter in the real world. Kids are little people, they need to interact and be involved. Thats society. You cant hold them back or shelter them from things they want to do. You are asking for trouble. This is not a personal atack on you, just my outlook on society and education.
I have four kids and I homeschool the youngest child because she is severely autistic and we felt that the public school was no longer appropriate for her. I was also considering homeschooling my middle daughter as well but we were able to get her into a different middle school.
I do not agree that school provides social interaction. At least not here in Florida. Here the kids are only really allowed to socialize at lunch which is maybe twenty-five minutes from the time the lunch bell rings until they have to be back in class. That is about 125 minutes a week. If a home school group meets for two hours a week that is only five minutes less than what they would get than if they were in school. Lets not forget that at school that twenty- five minutes includes walking to and from the cafeteria, standing in line and then getting (if we were lucky) fifteen full minutes to eat. Maybe it is different in other states , but that is how it is here. My teenage son pretty much confirms it. It was that way when I attended middle and high school back in the eighties.
I have only been homeschooling for a few months but from what I understand many homeschooling families make the effort to ensure that their children have social interaction outside the home and homeschooled kids are allowed to participate in extracurricular activities. Most homeschooling families also take the kids on educational field trips. I, myself have not done that yet, but I sure plan too. My daughter has been doing MUCH better now that she is at home instead of being forced to attend public school. I personally questioned wether or not her school was qualified to handle a child as severely autistic as she is.
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I second asking your child again about any potential problems at school. The teacher may not know. Another thing to consider is, does your son have friends at school? He may not be bullied but not having friends makes going to school pretty difficult. My daughter went through this same thing, albeit she was ten, but the issue was that she had problems with not having friends at school.
If thats the case for you then great! Im talking about being away from home with other people. Making them do things that they dont want to do. Life will not be doing what they want all the time. Its about teaching young.
Is the teacher there during his lunches? There may be something going on before or after school, during lunch, or at recess. Have you tried asking if he would feel better going late, being picked up early, taken out to lunch in the middle of the day, or something? I'm not saying to cater to him, but it really sounds to me like there's something going on.
I had a similar problem.. Social anxiety was my issue - and well, kid's don't help. They're cruel.
I'd suggest checking into things like that, as they can have a pretty negative effect on one's life.