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Talk to someone you trust about this and let them know you would like help with your behaviour. Look at the other sections so that you can understand reasons for your behaviour.
Admit to yourself that you are a bully: The first step in stopping bullying is admitting that what you are doing is hurting another person. When you know that, you can figure out how to stop.
Say sorry to the people you are bullying: It takes a great deal of courage to admit what you are doing is wrong, and apologise sincerely.
Think about what is making you bully someone: Is there something happening in your life which is making you upset, frustrated or angry?
Stop yourself from sending an abusive message: Sending a message, writing a post, a tweet, an email or a text which is designed to hurt someone else is bullying. Even if you’ve written the message out, you can delete it.
Stop yourself from sharing or commenting on an abusive post or message: Even a comment like LOL or a smiley face on an abusive post can make the other person feel much worse, like they’re being ganged up on.
Find a new way to gain people’s respect: Find a way to gain people's genuine respect. This could be as simple as resolving to answer more questions in lessons. You could practise your favourite sport and become fitter or work on a talent, like singing, dance or drawing.
Speak to Childline: You might worry that no-one will help you if you admit to bullying. We won't judge you or put you down - Childline are here to listen to you, no matter what your worry is.