Ambition and a competitive spirit are what drive women to do better and achieve more in the workplace. This becomes a problem when that drive spirals out of control creating a full-on death match among coworkers. Here are some ways to transition that thinking from “dog eat dog” to cultivating successive paths to greatness.
You rock it out in your job, right? So, instead of reveling in your coworker’s demise, reach out to her and propose a job shadowing opportunity to show her the ropes. Help foster an environment conducive to learning and sharing ideas. Mentorship can offer many benefits to the mentor and the mentee. It can create more job satisfaction, improved performance and stronger relationships. Make a positive impact by creating more badass lady bosses like you!
When overwhelmed with a new job, some women can get wrapped up in the mindset of having no control over their own success. We think we’re the only ones experiencing challenges in the workplace. The next time you see a coworker on the brink of losing it, jump in and help. Share examples of how you prevailed in your time of despair in a new job. Be a sounding board and let your coworker know there is light at the end of the tunnel. At some point, you can both look back and take pride in how much you’ve progressed.
Making snarky comments to a new employee when she makes a mistake is not cool. Workplace bullying is primarily fueled by jealously and insecurity. Instead of focusing on how she’s dressed and whose eye she’s caught, channel those feelings of resentment into building a stronger team. While all employees are replaceable in some regard, your main goal in job security should not be rooted in your ability to sabotage your coworker’s reputation or employment. Sure, you’re vying for your spot as a leader in a male-dominated workplace, but you have to get a grip on your entitlement.
The only real competition you need to focus on is the woman you were yesterday. It’s not her experience, education, or designer stilettos holding you back. It’s you! The best leaders flourish by building each other up and providing help along the way.