What is the difference between mental health and mental well-being?
Mental Health: A person’s condition with regard to their psychological and emotional well-being. “all this pressure seems to be affecting his mental health"
Mental Well-being: Mental health or well-being is defined as a state of well-being in which every individual realizes his or her own potential, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to her or his community.
Awareness of mental health issues has never been higher. It seems strange, then, that we rarely think about our own until something goes really ‘wrong’ - when we become depressed, anxious or unable to cope.
However, our mental wellbeing is something that we all need to be aware of. And it is important to remember that small mental health issues can easily become large ones if left ignored. We can think of mental health hygiene as being a lot like dental hygiene: we aim to remove unwanted stuff so we are left with only what is healthy and useful. And, while we may think we’re doing enough – much like looking our after our teeth – the reality is that most of us could be doing a lot more. And it’s not all about how we feel or think: proper ‘mental hygiene’ means knowing, as best we can, how we got to feel or think in this way. It is understanding the source of our feelings and thoughts that is important. When we do this, we can find all the unhelpful bits, the bits that are holding us back or contributing to unhealthy practices, and begin to scrape them away.
Permanence is probably our greatest illusion. Science tells us it is nonsense, and common sense does, too – yet we spend so much emotional and mental effort trying to pretend things do not or will not change, and get upset when we are forced to face the truth. However, the flip side of impermanence is dynamism, growth, exploration and development. Change is simply a fact - so on a daily basis try to identify where you are resisting or lamenting change, and why. Embracing change takes a lot less emotional and mental effort than trying to preserve an illusion.
Another great illusion is our control over outcomes: whether we wish it for our own ends, or to help others, individually we control almost nothing. A huge amount of causes brings about future outcomes - our actions are just a drop in the ocean. Try to recognise when you are growing frustrated because things are not turning out the way you wanted - then experience how liberating it is to accept that the outcome is largely out of your control.
Guard against tolerating other people’s unreasonable behaviour: We all forgive our friends’ outrageous behaviour, behaviour we may condemn in total strangers. Recognising when you are doing this is a useful exercise. It’s not that you should become intolerant of your friends: it is simply important to recognise how your mind works, and how standards of behaviour are actually incredibly flexible.
Having eliminated 'good' and 'bad', accept all of your emotions. Some of them will be unhelpful (anger rarely helps anything) and some will be helpful (compassion springs to mind). But, helpful or unhelpful, they are all yours. Accept them. Nurture the helpful so that they thrive. Remain aware of the unhelpful, and discourage them gently but firmly. Like an ill-tempered dog, they are there, and are fine as long as they are quiet and not roused.