I went to a funeral the other day. I appreciated some of the heartfelt words of the priest, as they were appropriate for celebrating the life of the individual.
M.27.1 1 Death is the central dream from which all illusions stem. Is it not madness to think of life as being born, aging, losing vitality, and dying in the end? We have asked this question before, but now we need to consider it more carefully. It is the one fixed, unchangeable belief of the world that all things in it are born only to die. This is regarded as "the way of nature," not to be raised to question, but to be accepted as the "natural" law of life. The cyclical, the changing and unsure; the undependable and the unsteady, waxing and waning in a certain way upon a certain path,-all this is taken as the Will of God. And no one asks if a benign Creator could will this.
Chapter 27 of the Teachers Manual is a good read when the illusion of death is causing suffering.