“Forgiveness is an act of creation.
You can choose from many ways to do it.
it’s a whole new game if there is another incident.
give many chances, give chances only if.
or half of the offense.
You can devise a blanket of forgiveness.
I have never liked the word “forgiveness”. But then I am not religious. It implies acceptance and absolving the other person.
Since I find the most damage is done to yourself by hanging onto the memory, I prefer “ignore”. That implies the other person isn’t worth wasting your time thinking about.
Jean, you always make me think! I love that! I’m not “religious” either. And I think we are not so dissimilar in our approach.
I view forgiveness as an evolving process. For me at least, I can’t ignore what happened, because that would feel like I was trying to hide it… I don’t necessarily want to forget it, or accept it as right, or absolve the other person (or myself). I do recognize that all of us are human, that I don’t know all there is to know about it, but I’ve reached a point that I no longer want invest myself mentally and emotionally to find all the answers. I’ve learned what I need from it for now. To move forward, I give myself permission to disengage from what happened.
As Ms. Estes says, we craft each forgiveness a little differently.
One of my favorite books of all times. GREAT choice.
Hate to confess, I haven’t read the book yet. I have heard high praise from others. With your recommendation I will have to move it up to the top of my Must Read pile for sure!