People will sometimes do anything just to be in a relationship. They want to find love (and keep it) so badly that they would give up freedom, happiness, and even part of who they are just so they're not on their own. When they find someone, a love calculator is installed into every new relationship and the 'giving' is counted up against the 'taking' and carefully weighed. This is to make sure that the love meter hovers exactly over the middle of half and half (or 50% each). But is this the way relationships are meant to be?
Being in love and in a relationship should not be measured by how many times you've given and how many times he has. There is no such thing as a love meter or a love calculator. Love is not measured by the amount of output. It's measured by commitment, trust and sacrifice.
If you find your relationships are all measured by the invisible love calculator you've installed, it's time to reorganise your life. If you want to find love and are only prepared to set your love meter to giving 50 percent and no more, you're heading for a disastrous ending. Only 100 percent from each person is a good recipe for a successful relationship.
Don't place measures on your love. If you've been doing this, it's time to fall back in love the right way. If you're with someone who's taking without giving, maybe it's time to reconsider your relationship. As long as both parties are committed to loving sacrificially, there will be no more need for that imaginary love meter.
Remember, love is about sacrifice, commitment and trust. Leave the 'eye-for-eye' measuring to the justice system! Find more love relationship help articles on our love quotes page.
Beautifully written, Anne, and this to me should be apply in all relationship, including family and friends!
This is definitely true. You're right Icy. We do this in our other relationships too, and it can be so harmful to the people we love.
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