In my last post, I introduced you to my notion of "mindblocks," a portmanteau that plays off of the psychological nature of these issues and the term roadblocks. In this post, I will describe to you the attitude that can help you free yourself from your mindblocks and liberate you to create the life that you want most.
I want to begin this post that has such an irreverent and unprintable title by apologizing for it. I'm not one to use profanity frequently and, in many instances, it can certainly distract from the message you're trying to send or simply sends the wrong message. At the same time, there are times when "Gosh darn it!" or "Drat!" just doesn't do justice to your emotions. In these cases, some well-placed profanity can best express the intensity of what you are feeling and communicate with prism-like clarity what you're trying to say.
If you're uncomfortable with my use of "f&%# it!," whenever you come across it in this post, mentally replace it with something that is a little less abrasive to your sensibilities. Some people I know prefer to substitute it with "screw it" which carries much of the same meaning, but is, nonetheless, more palatable for those with an aversion to coarse language. Plus, its use is acceptable in most crowds. If "screw it" still offends your moral compass, other options, such as "Who cares," "Let it go," or "Whatever," may work for you.
What you choose to call it is less important than the concept that it represents, namely, the idea that you need to let go of excessive concerns that have forced you to live a life that isn't your own and that prevents you from pursuing your life with gusto and without apprehension or hesitancy.
What is the "F&%# It!" Attitude?
Let me begin my explanation of what the "f&%#-it!" attitude is by describing what it is not. This attitude doesn't mean not caring about yourself, other people, your career, or anything else in your life. It doesn't mean not trying your best or giving up. It by no means suggests that you should surrender in any way to the seeming inevitability of your life. And the "f&%#-it!" attitude definitely doesn't mean bailing out on life; quitting your job, selling all of your worldly possessions, and moving to a deserted island.
With the "f&%#-it!" attitude, you give up expectations, both internal and external, self-imposed and outside pressure, and any pre-occupation with "what should be" or "what might happen if.' You are not driven by fear or doubt or any other negative thoughts or emotions that can prevent you from engaging yourself fully and without hesitation in your life. You are able to throw yourself completely and with absolute vigor into everything you do, whether relationships, school, work, sports, whatever, because the only thing that could hold you back--failure!--is no longer an existential threat, but rather one possible outcome that, should it occur, you can live with.
The "f&%#-it!" attitude means that you will embrace every opportunity that life presents to you and, at the end of a day, year, career, or on your death bed, you will have no regrets because you "left it all out there."
With this complete freedom, you can know that you did everything in your power to live the life that you most wanted and that would bring you your greatest meaning, satisfaction, and happiness.
So, next time you're in a situation in which you have doubts, experience worry, or feel fear, tell yourself "f&%#-it!" and jump right in.