What’s the Best Way to Ask For a Second Chance?
You were busy, so you blew her off—is there any way to make amends? Maybe. Here’s how to handle it.
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1. You blew her off. You can’t just waltz back into her life out of the blue with no acknowledgement that you were the one to stop contacting her. If you do, you send the message that you either think she’s stupid or has no standards. As awkward as it may feel to talk openly about what happened, it’s the elephant in the room. It needs to be addressed.
2. Why you did it. The why matters because it explains to her that she wasn’t the problem—your life circumstances were. Even if you blew her off because an ex came back into your life, you’re still better off explaining your behavior. Us women folk are not unreasonable people—we get that dating is confusing and sometimes people make mistakes.
3. Why you’re contacting her now. This should also answer the question: why should she trust you? When someone comes back for seconds, it reeks of loneliness. So be clear with her (and yourself!) that the reason you’re reaching out isn’t because you’ve hit a dry spell and are dipping into the reserves.
4. You get her hesitation. This is the tail between your legs part. You can’t act like you’re entitled to a second chance; you have to give her the control to grant you one.
Now, who wouldn’t give that guy a second chance?