After advocating for themselves all day in the world, they sometimes expect and want the men in their lives to be taking care of them and showering them with care and affection.
Dating world is not an easy world to live in, especially when people barely know what they want, or are aware of the things they seek in a partner. Before getting involved with anyone, we battle against our own inhibitions, doubts, mood swings, and contradictory opinions, and knowing the fact that such combats are the hardest to win, dating anyone that way becomes problematic. Today, women have achieved a place in this world where it has taken them a long time to reach.
Women are now strong, independent and need no man to help her out with anything at all. They know what it takes to survive in this world, and they have all the sources and resources achieved by their own hard work and dedication to work things out.hey might not even need a man to help her emotionally or console her during her bad days, as most women are sorted with their feelings and know how to handle themselves. But, does having someone to support and share emotional warmth with hurt that much?
Women who are strong and independent too need someone to look after them. No, not because they get tired, but because they want to feel appreciated sometimes. They don't seek such kind of empathy from the world, but they expect it from the men in their lives. After advocating for themselves all day in the world, they sometimes expect and want the men in their lives to be giving. There are socio-political, emotional and cultural reasons for strong women to seek giving and caretaking behavior from men in relationships.
A place where women have struggled for safety, a place where there is only 20% of women around the world holding powerful political positions, a place where women are paid about 80 cents to the working man's dollar, where they have to fight the sexist jokes, meaningless gestures and where they have to fight for the equality in a male dominant and patriarchal society— having to hold on to someone who respects and empowers these women is what they sometimes expect from their partners.
To this, a man might say. "Well, wouldn't you want true equality in your relationship if you want it everywhere else?" To this, a strong, independent woman might reply, "When I get paid as much as you for doing the same damn job, and when I don't have to fight an uphill battle to make a name for myself in a male dominant world, then we can sure talk about true equality."
Another important way of understanding why strong women seek more consideration and warmth from the men in their lives is the fact that they want to feel safe. Yes, they do. Unfortunately, another main issue that unfortunately highlights the inherent inequality in this world is a woman's safety. 95% of domestic violence victims are women and globally, one out of three women have been sexually assaulted in their lifetime. It is an issue that cannot be overlooked, and because of which they want to and deserve to feel safe especially in the presence of men.
Bold, strong and independent women have lived all her life on their terms and conditions, without having a man to take care of them in any manner. They do not seek validations or want permissions to do things they want to from anyone else. But, the men in their lives, should be able to understand their strengths abilities, and they should be able to make them feel cared for in the ways that are genuine.