As someone who works in retail and has been blogging and publicly trying new trends for 7 years now one thing that drives me INSANE is when people say, “Oh I could never pull that off!” Why do I hate it so much? Because we can all wear whatever that we want. If it’s not your style, then ok, it’s not your style. If it doesn’t flatter you, ok, it doesn’t flatter you. But I just feel as if we’re putting ourselves down when we say, “I can’t pull that off!” As in you’re not (fill in the blank) enough for that article of clothing.
One thing I’ve really been studying in on lately is my personal curated style. That’s why I shared my Shopaholics Anonymous posts a few months ago. I’m really learning to love my closet, study what I actually wear and buy things with purpose. That allows me to get more out of what I do own and have way less clutter in my closet. Sure there are a lot of things that don’t fit my personal style. A WHOLE LOT of things actually. But that doesn’t mean “I can’t pull them off”. There are plenty of items that with a little work and styling expertise I could totally make my own and pull off! But then those things are forced, probably won’t get a lot of wear in my closet and if I don’t love, I won’t wear, therefore don’t need.
So can we stop with the “I can’t pull that off” phrase and just say it’s not our style? Or the right thing for us? Please?!
I’ve also really been studying mindset and how words and phrases positively and negatively affect our mindset. This is one thing that I feel can negatively affect us and our thoughts on ourselves. For example, if I love pink and wear all things pink all the time, but you have a totally different complexion and pink doesn’t flatter you, you don’t have to make that a negative. There are plenty of colors that don’t look great on me! Instead of saying “I can’t pull pink off” let’s say ah I love pink on you, but it’s totally not my color! I go for more reds! By comparing ourselves to each other you’re putting yourself down because we don’t wear the same colors! How silly is that? By complimenting my color and your color, now we’re getting somewhere!
I’ve always hated when people say “I can’t pull that off” but only when I really started to really dig into the mindset thing did I realize how negative the phrase is! So I’m challenging you, friends! Stop saying it! Choose to look to a positive instead of a negative and if you feel as if an article of clothing isn’t for you just don’t say anything! And better yet if you’re pointing out a friend’s find, just say ah that will look great on you!
I’m fully aware these grandma-esq shorts aren’t for everyone. But I love them and have worn the heck out of them ALL summer and am definitely transitioning them into fall with some cute cropped sweaters. So what if they’re not for everyone and so what if you don’t think you could pull them off! I’m sure you’re rockin’ whatever you’re wearing today!
My goal here is to encourage you to feel YOUR best in your clothes! Let’s do it!