conscious effort is required in the beginning until leaving your ego out becomes natural. Especially in a marriage.
In relationships we experience the full spectrum of feelings and emotions that exist such as love, hate, anger, elation, loneliness, frustration, fear, jealousy, lust, infatuation, adorations and others. Some of these feelings and emotions can be destructive and very painful,therefore I agree with you, Raqueal...leaving out your Ego is very essential - "Especially in marriage."