The hard truth is that most things in your life - good and bad - are your fault. The sooner you realize that, the better things will be. Hereâ€™s how to cultivate an active mindset and take control of your life.
What happens when someone repeatedly says it - whatever "it" may be - is not their fault?
"It's not my fault I was late for the meeting. Traffic was bad."
"It's not my fault I lost money. I got the stock tip from a friend."
"It's not my fault I donâ€™t have the skills for the job and was laid off. They should have trained me."
I don't want to get into edge cases. But most of the time these kinds of things are your fault. And if you donâ€™t see that, youâ€™re going to continue to find yourself in these situations over and over again.
You should have planned for traffic. You made a terrible investment and you have no idea what youâ€™re doing. Stop waiting for people to teach you the skills you need to earn a living and go learn them.
When the passive mindset takes over, you say another phrase that drives me batty: "I can't." Actually, yes you can, youâ€™re just not willing to pay the price. Youâ€™re not willing to do the work or spend the time. Youâ€™re not willing to do something hard. You're not willing to sacrifice what's needed.
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