It’s a common misunderstanding, but it’s not about guilt or blame, it’s about escaping the victim trap. Anyone who assumes responsibility or at least assumes partial responsibility is ready to play an active role. Only then is it possible to escape from the paralysis.
It is like it is. Time for a final stroke.
What is there to learn from the situation?
What benefit can you draw from the experience?
How can the negative effects be reduced and limited?
What are the options for prevention?
Who and what can provide support?