in fact , he 'd done everything he could to try to make things easier ; leaving right after the wedding to get her away from edda rather than staying to rest a night after the long trip to d'aumesbery , choosing and packing gowns and such in that small bag for her when she was unable to do it herself , cutting himself to fake the consummation rather than subject her to the humiliation edda had insisted on , carrying her before him on his mount the whole way so that her injuries were exacerbated as little as possible ... `` are ye rough with her in bed ? ''