so johns goes out and a woman who looks like she could be johns 's wife or sister brings in a tray with glasses of iced tea on it , and sets it on the coffee table and goes out again , and they sit around on the couches and talk and temple makes a special effort to be cordial and ladylike and she tries not to gulp down her tea like she wants to but rather sip it like mrs. grierson seems to be doing , and she tries to remember to wipe her mouth with the little cloth napkin by her drink rather than with her sleeve , and she sits back and crosses her legs like someone once told her she should rather than sitting forward with her elbows on her knees-which is obviously the better way to sit if you have to defend yourself all of a sudden .