and if he was ever tired of her , or grew fretful of her company , it was only that he was glutted with love ; and if he was cross with her , or stern and moody , it was only that he thought he did not love her enough ; and if he snapped at her and they quarrelled , then it was only that they might have the pleasure of making up really , all his ill humour , dissatisfaction and temper were the happy effect of being helplessly in love .