these dates shared similar qualities : ( 1 ) they were in their late thirties or early forties , ( 2 ) they were hispanic ( this one should have been first , according to my mothers requirements ) , ( 3 ) they were perpetual bachelors , widowers or divorcees , some with children ( some with children my age ) , ( 4 ) they were mostly affluent with great professions ( they were looking for someone who could take care of me , because i obviously couldnt take care of myself working at a coffee shop when i had a masters degree in marketing ) , and ( 5 ) they all seemed just a bit desperate for love .